Introducing a friend

Thanks for all the great advice I will use this to see her reactions and take it from there if anyone can add to this I thank you in advance

Sharing fantasies is a great way to learn about what turns her on. Just make sure you are prepared for fantasies that don't align with yours and allow her to open up at her own pace. The best way to do that is to not judge her reassure her that nothing she says will shock you.

You may need to prompt her with questions like, "Have you ever fantasized about being with a woman or with more than one guy at once?"

As BT and GGMM cautioned, make it more about how you can help her fulfill her fantasies than about what you want.

~Scamp

Charlie,

I’d listen to GGMM. You really want women to comment here. So, I’ll stop after this post.

I only wanted to share that for me, it started with a woman I met online after my separation. We dated for 6 months, which meant that we had a no-strings, get together when we could, drinks/dinner/live music/play arrangement. One night, we were watching a movie at home and she started searching the cable guide for PPV porn. upon not finding anything worthwhile, our conversation about watching porn morphed into a conversation about watching “live” porn, which eventually lead to our visiting our local club. From there, it was baby steps.

The only other thing I’d add to what GGMM mentioned is that if you make this in any way about your desire to fuck other women, and god forbid, imply that she could be your golden ticket to swinging nirvana, shaking off the SM stigma as a couple, you’ll probably lose her as a friend. It doesn’t sound like that’s what you want to do. So, search your heart and head and choose your words wisely.

That’s all I got...other than a hearty welcome and have fun....Oh, and report back on what happens!

BT

Have you thought about a) telling her about a fantasy that is swinging related, or, b) sharing something about a past experience swinging?

I have hinted around about it I also don't want to surprise her just looking for a good way to present the idea without scaring her

Charlie,

I think it depends upon what interest level she has in being introduced. Does she even know that an introduction might be in the works, or have the two of you been talking about it? Communication is the key element here. Surprises are no-no’s - in my opinion anyway.

There’s no one path, but understanding where this is coming from would help put the question in the right context.

BT

What is the best way to introduce a female friend to the lifestyle?