The BF is ready to go. We know he wants to fuck my wife, and was OK with doing some soft swap at a local bar with us. We think he has done this before. When our friend told him of our hobby, he said he wasn't surprised :) She was/is OK going the party alone with us. But I think that may cause other issues. Although this guy is NOT the jealous type, which is odd for her. She tends to attract the real nut cases.
As to the op, having a new unicorn tag along as a voyeur sounds like a near perfect scenario. You probably already know this, but make sure there is lots of communication before, during, and after.
4Realcouple,
I’d be very careful bringing a new girl friend’s new boyfriend to a full blown swinger party. We did that once. It didn’t end well. The boy friend was all gung ho before the party, but once he saw his new girlfriend getting a lot of attention, and he wasn’t getting the same level of interest, he wigged out.
Besides, a hotel takeover may be a little too overwhelming :) Gotta love ShareNation :)
We have a similar situation. We have a SF that was in between boy friends. She knows of our hobby. We have talked about bringing her to a party. Telling her she can just watch, or participate. Now she kinda has a BF, but still wants to sample our lifestyle. In fact we sent her some pics from this past weekend, and she kind of pouted that we didn't invite her and her man. We told her the next local party, we will invite both of them.
Thanks. We agree to go at the slowest pace. Which could well
mean the Mrs and I play alone. Which would be awesome anyway! If our friend watches, even better. If she pleasures herself while watching, cooler, and if she jumps in, perhaps we’ve found our unicorn.
I just wanted to be sure that I, the blockhead husband, wasn’t thinking with the wrong head and missed some major red flags.
Thanks!
I agree with AandJinNNJ. As long as you all talk and decide up front and then stick to that I don't see an issue. ~N
As long as everyone involved is cool with it we see no issues. Go at the slowest person's pace and you'll be fine.
You might be pleasantly surprised.
Hello- I have what may be an odd situation. We’ve been chatting with a single F for a while, mostly casual sexy back and forth about our experiences and her interest in the lifestyle. We’re planning to meet for drinks only with no expectation or plan for more. During our chats she mentioned an interest in coming along to a party to just check out the scene. Cool, I figure what better way to get a feel and she can leave at any time. We’d have a small group who would all be aware that she’s there to watch, but may, if she is comfortable, join in, but is really there to watch.
Now that has tweaked a little into a possible scenario where she came to watch just the 2 of us, with the same rules. If she decides she wants to join in, she will, we won’t pressure her, and she can leave at any time with no hard feelings.
Does anyone see any problems with this? Both the Mrs. and I are interested and figure it’s a no pressure way for our friend to get a taste... so to speak.
