We think, that like all of life, there exist the outstanding people, and they are few.
We've enjoyed and been blessed to meet great SMs in the lifestyle and have had a lot of fun. We've had to wade through a bunch of frogs to find a few princes. The princes have really been worth it, as they are gentlemanly, erotic, and truly enhance the marital bed.
But it seems the LS has been taken over by a few societal ills, which won't be fixed on sls. The macro issues afoot are:
-Poor manners and even poorer conversation skills: Even older guys with experience seem difficult during conversation. We have tried with guys who meet our physical likes to help them converse. For some it is impossible. Have you ever seen a MILF try to tease out the details of a naturally aspirated Chevy small block rebuild from a guy who cannot form sentences? It's funny if it wasn't such a waste of time. She doesn't even like talking about cars.
-Hookup apps: Apps have ruined the best aspects of the lifestyle, and that is, for us, dating quality people who feel free and loving enough to share with others. For many men, LS ladies or couples are just another hit it and forget it dating app hookup. This behavior leaves most people dry and feeling used. We're not trying to marry you but show some respect! Show some passion! Show some regard for this wonderful woman willing to share herself with you!
-Sad sack men: He's 50. He's divorced once or twice. She took him to the cleaners and he's down on life. He's living in an efficiency apartment and struggles to buy dinner. And yet, he thinks he can bed a hot MILF with the "sad story act." We've been bored to tears on "dates" with guys like this in 2023-24. The image that comes to mind is "Droppy" the comically depressed dog. We're not without compassion. We all have tragedy in our lives, we just choose not to share it on dates with others.
-Overweight, out of shape: If your belly hides the golden horn, we can't play. Sorry.
-Creepers: We've also had the proverbial married and creeping, married and fake hall pass, and no-shows from supposed single guys. This is frustrating beyond words, especially in our area where traffic dictates everything you do. We no longer waste time waiting for guys. On time or we leave. You have 10 minutes max, oh, and we need to talk to your wife to verify.
With all this real negativity above, the men who make in onto the roster are great guys all around: accomplished, mannerly, erotic, and fit. I think we couples and single ladies need to accept that the number of quality players is limited. We really appreciate the guys we have and they know who they are.
Single men...check out the forum on here where ladies and couples tell you exactly the steps to be successful! It just works.
For couples seeking SMs...we think chatting once or twice on sls, then meeting in person to assess them is the only way to do it efficiently.
