Bi Hmmmm

SuprFunCpl , wait...did you just refer to us as "EX Jersey"? Aint no such thing! We may have given up our address in Edison and given up on the horse shit politics, taxes, 2A abuses....and shoveling all that white crap...but we brought the best of "Joisey" with us to the desert (yeah, they still use that "joke" even in AZ and its still just as unfunny when they pronounce it like that), we never lost that "Jersey attitude", sometimes it works in our favor, other times...not so much, oh well...its their loss!

"As it is written in the Scrolls of Skelos "

DAMMMMMMM Zak got busted by a EX-Jerseyite LOL.. We will be expecting your card in da mail !! And NO we won't Fuhgeddaboudit !!

LOL.....we will post that in another forum....the down fall of society due to lack of human interaction....

Zak, "members need to write better profiles of what they want and who they are looking for also people need to READ the full profile not just a pop up label"
What? Really?! Expecting folks to invest time and effort into reading a profile much less actually composing a decent, interesting, possibly humorous, hopefully accurate and honest profile?
As fellow "Joisey folks", we have to ask, what happened to your sarcastic, insulting and suspicious Jersey attitude? You need to turn in your Garden State man card! LOL
Next you'll be expecting the use of proper English and spelling and use of clear recent photos of people! ;-)

We have said this before in other forums.....members need to write better profiles of what they want and who they are looking for also people need to READ the full profile not just a pop up label.....

Hey, a good comedian knows when to shamelessly steal jokes. In that case, from that cheerful brute Titus Pullo on the TV show Rome.

But a great comedian doesn't admit to joke theft in the first place....

Right there with ya Molly.

For us, it's all about having fun within everyone's comfort level. We want all 4 (or more) to leave with a smile!

He's totally right about the puppet... ;-)

More or less on topic, I don't get and never will get being anything but respectful of the limits of others. Maybe it's because I was kinky long before I discovered swinging, but knowing the limits of my playmates as well as what they do want is crucial and pretty much the first thing I ask about once it's apparent there's some chemistry.

"and teh wimmens get wet as November"...LOL, too too funny, man!

You'd be surprised how effective that thing is. Wiggle the puppet and teh wimmens get wet as November.

shifty eyes

Dog is my co-pilot, but the puppet is my load master.

Sorillo, well stated...wife and I enjoy MFM's, we actually prefer Bi/Bi curious guys as our 3rd, they are not homophobic, more comfortable with incidental contact, and for the most part, are respectful of boundaries, but there are exceptions to every rule no matter their sexual inclination.
As long as our prospective partners understand our limits, we understand theirs and we all respect those rules and limits when "in the moment", its a win, whatever the reason, if someone doesnt enjoy or like the physical connection...it just doesnt happen again.
BTW, since the puppet has your hand up the back end...wouldnt that make him gay or at least bi? LOL

"in the discussion about ground rules the guy says he's not bi, but likes to experiment sometimes when things get going"

Imagine if this was about soft swinging. "I'm a soft swinger, but when things get going I like to experiment with sticking my dick in your wife". Of course, I'm being flip, but it's basically the same thing, except stated rather more crudely.

Mutual respect goes a long ways. I've been lucky enough not to run into this before, even having played with couples where the guy is bi-curious, but we respected each other enough so that he didn't cross my boundaries as a straight guy, and I didn't treat him as a pariah because of his sexual appetites.

We agree 100%. The only phobia you are guilty of is liar-phobia, one that we share.

~S~

We recently had a disappointing episode with a couple, many emails, texts, etc. building to "the phone call" to finalize plans to meet, and in the discussion about ground rules the guy says he's not bi, but likes to experiment sometimes when things get going. It just put me off completely, our profile clearly states preferences, our discussion had been clear that we weren't interested in bi guys whatsoever, and this guy thought that experimenting with other guys is ok if it's just in the heat of the moment. He didn't see an issue.

I made clear that there wouldn't be an issue because there wouldn't be a moment, so they immediately left the conversation & apparently blocked us on sls.

If you experiment with other people of the same sex, whether it's orally, digitally or using inanimate objects, you're not straight, and you would avoid problems if you recognize that & let people know up front. Feel free to label me with some phobe name or whatever you please, but I have a right to choose. A surprise "in the heat of the moment" would not be met with kindly or respectfully.

JustCurious. - thank you for listing honestly.

~rabbit~

FunCouple- imo it makes them at least bi-curious. A truly straight man would not appreciate sucking Or being sucked by another man. Just like no truly straight woman would have any desire to lick my pussy.

Sucking a cock doesn’t make you fully bi but it certainly doesn’t make you straight.

~rabbit~

we changed the profile, we both like some kind of Bi

As for 'Bi'... For some guys, it may turn their stomachs to think about kissing or making out with another guy... and may have ZERO interest with any anal action with another guy. They may not be attracted to them AT ALL... but in the heat of everything, may be tempted to participate in a little oral play. Does that make them truly 'Bi'... or do they just enjoy a little oral action?

If you both like bi play why are you listed as straight?

~rabbit~

we both like it

Wife and I have encountered a variety of "subterfuge" and less than honest statements (or lack of) in profiles throughout our years in the lifestyle, regarding the sexuality of males, females and couples. We have learned to view all profiles and meetings in the lifestyle with suspicious hopefulness, we read/see something we like, assume there are things we dont/wont care for and hope what we find out about the other guy/couple arent insistent on or have covert plans to "spring something" on us in the middle of playing.
A persons interest in something doesnt preclude us from playing with them, but underhanded or secret intent to corner us and push for something we arent interest or comfortable with will prevent us from playing (or bring any play to a screeching halt once it happens). Wife and I have found that at least in our area, our preferred MFM play works better with non pushy, non agenda driven openly bi/bi comfortable guys, the absolutely, totally, 110% str8 guys tend to be controlling, underhanded, crude, rude, insulting narrow minded egotistical non performers.
Basically, we evaluate others based on personality and communication because labels and judgement of said labels doesnt help us....just our POV.

Why not list as straight but then in your profile mention that under certain sercomestances you could be bi oral?

If you enjoy sucking cock, you should list as bi curious and mention in your profile that you are orally bi. If you list as straight, you are being deceptive to the people you meet. We’ve met too many couples where the male lists as straight but then wants to introduce bi play once we meet. Not cool.

~S~

Bi comfortable do what feels good