香料而不换
Think the only way to heat things up is to swap partners? Not even close. In this episode, Vic and I break down all the hot, non-monogamy-adjacent fun—voyeurism, exhibitionism, and same-room play—that…
从被忽视到被预订满的生活方式
We spent our teens in the friend zone—good enough to listen to everyone’s drama, never the ones they wanted. In this episode, Vic and I unpack how that shaped us, how those voices still live in our he…
关于性能增强剂的真相
In this episode, we discuss the realities of performance enhancers in the lifestyle. We address common misconceptions about erectile dysfunction, the impact of environment on performance, and the impo…
从乐趣到犯罪：你不应该打破的生活方式规则
In today’s episode, we’re giving you a crash course in lifestyle club and event survival. From awkward ‘cash-for-play’ offers to phones popping up in places they shouldn’t—let’s talk security, safety,…
闭嘴！
We love that you’re excited to be at the sex club. We really do. But if you're in the play area talking about your colonoscopy or your kids’ soccer schedule while people are trying to fuck—you’re doin…
出乎你的意料？不在于生活方式。
Think you’re not hot enough for the lifestyle? Too average? Too old? Not what you think people are looking for? Think again.In this episode, we unpack how swinging isn't about being the hottest person…
香草婚姻正在耗尽你的灵魂吗？
It’s not always cheating, abuse, or betrayal that ends relationships. Sometimes it’s boredom, avoidance, and pretending everything's fine.This episode is about the normal-looking relationships falling…
人类是天生的独身主义者还是被条件化的？
Are humans really meant to be with one person forever?Or is monogamy just a cultural script we’ve all been handed—whether it fits or not?In this episode, we delve into the biology, traditions, and unc…
我们打破了所有的生活方式规则
When we first got into swinging, we had our rules locked in: couples only, same room only, always together.That lasted… maybe two encounters.In this episode, we share how our rules and boundaries evol…
荡秋千如何使我们的婚姻坚不可摧
A lot of couples may try swinging once or for a short period of time. So what made us keep going—and keep growing—for 22 years?In this episode, we share the real reasons we stayed in the lifestyle, fr…
如何在生活方式中崩溃并烧毁
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the wrong reasons to get into the lifestyle.We’ll share:Why swinging is not therapyA story about a female half of a couple who got pushed into it before she was r…
其他人都只是玩具——这是为什么
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the differences between swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and everything in between. We’ll talk about:Why we’re not poly, and never will beThe show Polyf…
他们的第一次，我们的共同高点
In today’s episode, we’re sharing a real story from a night at our local club.We met a couple who seemed like seasoned pros—but they were holding onto a fantasy that had never actually happened… until…
维克差点吐了。戴夫直接插进去了。我们的第一次
In this episode, we’re going back to our first time.We’ll tell you:How Vic shocked Dave by signing up for an AFF accountThe couple we met from the next town overWhat really went down that night in our…
荡秋千并没有修复我们——它解放了我们
In this episode, we’re getting real about how we got into the lifestyle.We weren’t struggling. We weren’t bored.Our sex life was already damn good—maybe too good.We’ll talk about:How curiosity evolved…
乱七八糟的人，导师们，以及他妈的原住民
In this episode, we’re kicking things off by sharing why we’re finally stepping up to the mic after 22 years in the lifestyle.We’ll talk about:The couple that mentored us early on and showed us how to…
欢迎来到《Comin' Out Swinging》！
Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy. It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships. We’re Victoria and Dave Arena: together nearly 30 years, married over 24, and swinging for more than 2…