Peper zonder de swap
Think the only way to heat things up is to swap partners? Not even close. In this episode, Vic and I break down all the hot, non-monogamy-adjacent fun—voyeurism, exhibitionism, and same-room play—that…
Van Vergeten naar Overboekt in het Levensstijl
We spent our teens in the friend zone—good enough to listen to everyone’s drama, never the ones they wanted. In this episode, Vic and I unpack how that shaped us, how those voices still live in our he…
De waarheid over prestatieversterkers
In this episode, we discuss the realities of performance enhancers in the lifestyle. We address common misconceptions about erectile dysfunction, the impact of environment on performance, and the impo…
Van Grappigheid tot Strafwijk: Regelgeving voor je levensstijl die je niet moet overtreden
In today’s episode, we’re giving you a crash course in lifestyle club and event survival. From awkward ‘cash-for-play’ offers to phones popping up in places they shouldn’t—let’s talk security, safety,…
Sluit je F*ck op!
We love that you’re excited to be at the sex club. We really do. But if you're in the play area talking about your colonoscopy or your kids’ soccer schedule while people are trying to fuck—you’re doin…
Buiten je bereik? Niet in het levensstijl.
Think you’re not hot enough for the lifestyle? Too average? Too old? Not what you think people are looking for? Think again.In this episode, we unpack how swinging isn't about being the hottest person…
Is Vanilla Marriage Verzorger Je Ziel?
It’s not always cheating, abuse, or betrayal that ends relationships. Sometimes it’s boredom, avoidance, and pretending everything's fine.This episode is about the normal-looking relationships falling…
Zijn mensen ingeburgerd voor monogamie of worden ze geconditioneerd?
Are humans really meant to be with one person forever?Or is monogamy just a cultural script we’ve all been handed—whether it fits or not?In this episode, we delve into the biology, traditions, and unc…
We Broke All Our Lifestyle Regels
When we first got into swinging, we had our rules locked in: couples only, same room only, always together.That lasted… maybe two encounters.In this episode, we share how our rules and boundaries evol…
Hoe Swinging ons huwelijk bulletproof maakte
A lot of couples may try swinging once or for a short period of time. So what made us keep going—and keep growing—for 22 years?In this episode, we share the real reasons we stayed in the lifestyle, fr…
Hoe je kan crashen en uitbranden in het levensstijl
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the wrong reasons to get into the lifestyle.We’ll share:Why swinging is not therapyA story about a female half of a couple who got pushed into it before she was r…
Iedereen anders is gewoon een speelgoed - hier is waarom
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the differences between swinging, polyamory, open relationships, and everything in between. We’ll talk about:Why we’re not poly, and never will beThe show Polyf…
Zij hun eerste keer, onze gemeenschappelijke hoogte.
In today’s episode, we’re sharing a real story from a night at our local club.We met a couple who seemed like seasoned pros—but they were holding onto a fantasy that had never actually happened… until…
Vic bijna overgeven. Dave dook recht in. Ons eerste keer.
In this episode, we’re going back to our first time.We’ll tell you:How Vic shocked Dave by signing up for an AFF accountThe couple we met from the next town overWhat really went down that night in our…
Hengelen heeft ons niet gered - het heeft ons bevrijd
In this episode, we’re getting real about how we got into the lifestyle.We weren’t struggling. We weren’t bored.Our sex life was already damn good—maybe too good.We’ll talk about:How curiosity evolved…
Messies, Mentors, en Muthafukkin' OGs
In this episode, we’re kicking things off by sharing why we’re finally stepping up to the mic after 22 years in the lifestyle.We’ll talk about:The couple that mentored us early on and showed us how to…
Welkom bij Comin' Out Swinging!
Comin' Out Swinging isn't just about non-monogamy. It’s a raw, real look at modern relationships. We’re Victoria and Dave Arena: together nearly 30 years, married over 24, and swinging for more than 2…