#85-Inside a swingers hotel takeover: what actually happens (my experience) *VIN 2026*

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Speaker1: Hey guys, it's trying to corn. I am here with my partner, DJ slim. Hello. Hello. So we recently had a very unique experience. Would you say? Yeah, I would say I mean, how many other of these? Well, technically, we've been to two hotel takeovers now. But according to you, that's like a lot. I'm like, that's not that scratching the surface. Okay. And remember, I've been to a hotel takeover in Miami as well. That's true. So I do have more experience. Wow, there's an area where you have more experience. That's fascinating. Wow. That's cool. So it was my first entire hotel takeover so much so that I saw naked people in the elevators, right? Like there was just wall to wall people partying, no chaperones, no, don't do this. It was quite different than the last one we went to, which was a sugar cookie hotel takeover a few months ago. Yeah. Like, I mean, the first thing you notice when you going into the lobby or around the entire hotel. So you can't even peep in. And then you're in that first little, it's like a man trap or a vestibule. Yeah. Before you can even enter the hotel. There's a door there and it's magnetically locked. You have to hit a button. And then basically the person at the desk takes a look. You got to be able to either show some sort of ID or something. The wristband. Yeah. For they buzz you in. So it's secure. You couldn't crash this party. easily. Let's put it that way. Even if you figured it out where it is, which by the way, we're not allowed to reveal and we won't. But the thing is, even if you figured it out, just pay the money and show up. I mean, you deserve to be inside the party for legit reasons. I mean, yeah. So there was a sign on the outside of the hotel that's like close to the public, like, like no public access, big letters. And it was just funny because you're like, yeah, you don't want anyone accidentally walking into that lobby. Hey, mommy. Hey, mommy. Hey, daddy. Right. Right. So it, uh, it was bad enough that, uh, in our hotel. So the party hotel was an entire hotel takeover, but there was so many people attending that other hotels had to take some of the people for overnight, such as us. Right. Yes. So anyways, um, we would like get in our car and like drive over to this party hotel. Some people woke up there. So very different experiences. Yes. Um, so anyways, so it was cold as fuck. So we had winter. We were coming for the day. It was a little inconvenient to be off-site. It's not absolutely terrible, but only the last time I've had to carry my coolers with me was when I was in my teens, okay? Like when I carried them in a backpack around the party. Yeah, I mean, you had to find parking, which was a little bit of a challenge. I mean, once you did that, you had to kind of drudge your way through the snow and the freezing cold, which was not fun. two minutes and you're freezing your balls off so to speak it was like an urgency when you were outside to get inside again yeah no kidding and then like once you get past the once you get past the security protocols then you get into there's like a there's this sort of like uh what they called they called it a lounge so to speak which was basically it looks like they took a uh took like a uh recreation area and they makeshifted into a lounge and then beyond that was the the actual interior part of the hotel which was yeah which opens up in this massive area and so the good news is there was coat racks and we were able to leave our coats now we didn't leave any valuables in our pockets at one point we felt smart and we put our extra coolers in our coat pockets because then at least we weren't carrying it from you know in the party but they were with our coats so yeah hey i mean we wanted a second round it was right there yeah so we we got we got uh savvy with the coat rack but you know it wasn't bad if you don't leave valuables there it's really not a but that's the cost you pay if you don't have a hotel room and so we knew that so at least we planned for that right um and so when we get in we get registered we get a wristband we're part of the group we have you know in and out access for the the duration and so we walk in and i didn't like i didn't know there was like an indoor paradise for all the swingers to play like i just the last hotel takeover people partied in the halls of the hotel the most This was different. Oh, very different. I mean, the interior's got to be, I would say, it was the size of a small sports field. Yeah. I mean, you had a giant pool in there, which I would say was probably about four times the size of Oasis's pool. I had a lot of people in it at one point, too. Yeah, you had two hot tubs right there also on the deck. And then, I mean, you had about, I would say, it was a two-level complex. I mean, you had about 60 interior rooms. looking in on this courtyard. With access. All of them had these sliding doors. Yeah. So if you went to a typical room, I mean, the way the room's configured is, I mean, there's a glass door, which you enter and exit from each room, but also the right beside it is the, there's a giant glass pane that you can look into, or you could shutter it. So, I mean, there was 60 of these types of rooms and everybody had decorated the rooms individually. So there was a lot of personality and there were a lot of freebies going on. And I mean, people were giving out shots, people were giving out free food, little nibble at things to nibble on and so forth. So it was really cool. I mean, you saw a lot of things on those windows. So this is the part that I regret not being able to film because I can't like film someone's like name on a door, you know, you know, even if there's like a gray area there, I still didn't want to do it. But there was such cute shit like people had the most creative ideas to decorate these rooms. Now they did pay extra to have these upgraded courtside courtyard And frankly, I can see why. If you're that kind of vibe, go all in. But some people had the decorations all over the outside. Some of them, I didn't realize how many people actually decorated the inside of their rooms with sex furniture. Well, that or sex art. How many fucking Sibians did you see? A few. More than, I've never seen so many Sibians in one place. Well, I remember there was also the, there was that giant sex art in that one couple's room. Yeah. That was like from Florida, it was like had to be at least what seven by seven and had black light glow so like we went and talked to them and honestly these are conversation starters right like oh nice art let's talk it was brilliant way to like you know get to start talking to someone so we are going door to door we're looking at all these people have lights set up big inflatable balloons people have slot slushy stations that is alcoholic slushies and they're offering everything that for free like have some There was a girl walking around. It was her birthday. She was wearing her birthday sash. She's one of my friends. And she was handing out little strawberry shortcakes. And she was for her own birthday. And I eat it when I got home. And it was great. So we were loving this. Like, I had a bag with me. I'm like, give me that candy. Give me the biscotti. Like, put it in the bag, honey. It was a good vibe. Now, my partner took a lot of shots. And I remember being like, just because they're offering them to you, you don't have to take them. like they were not that strong no no no they were not strong like okay they were like a half shot just the number of jello shots i thought was just like these people must have had so much fun making this stuff for the for the party oh yeah i mean it was it was just you know yeah like as i said they weren't like giant shots where if you took three or four of these you'd be flat on your ass but i mean okay that's fair so they were shooters yeah they were little shooters and it's just i mean yeah i mean the amount of money you would have had to drop just to give out that many shots to that many people. Yeah. And this is Friday night and Saturday night. Well, I think in my humble opinion, Friday night vibe was a little bit better than Saturday night five. In my opinion, I mean, I just felt Friday was just more about getting to know everybody. Yeah. Everybody was very open and open to talking. And there was lots of conversation. I think everybody just wanted to get off on the right foot with the introduction vibe and so forth. So it's funny. I mean, I was new to this. I was new in a way to this, this idea. of this entire hotel takeover. And I saw another one coming up and I was looking at the description and they talk about how the Thursday night is the meet and greet, you know, no pressure, nothing, nothing. The next night is, you know, if you want to, if you find someone in the group you want to get to know. It's literally a structured event. It's not like a free-for-all Friday, a free-for-all Saturday. It's literally like meant to help people get to a place of exciting comfort and party, not right when they get there kind of thing. True, but I think a lot of people want to get, like I said, the energy on the first night was like up to 11. I think a lot of people just want to be out there. And yeah, people were introducing themselves and some people were getting pretty damn friendly. What does that mean? Well, I mean, you saw what you saw when you were walking around. Oh, I was so touched when a fan, there was a male fan and he came and said like, oh, I have to say hello to you while I watch this shit. And he's like, that's my wife. And his wife was like making out with some girl. Yeah. And I remember looking at him and I was like, man, I respect you so much for talking to me right now instead of watching your wife do that. But like, feel free to go back to that. Like, it was hilarious. Yeah, I mean, as I said, everybody's got their own comfort level for all this. It was just so fun. Yeah, it was fun. And as I said, there was a lot of personalities there, a lot of different decorating on all the windows. You can see the reflection, a reflection of their personality in their windows. Yeah. And as well, just even what they were doing. Some people were displaying rope plays. Some people were displaying just a very sensuous display, which was maybe what they were all about. One person had a massage table that we're giving out free massages. They even had a sign on the table that's like, come to this room number, ask for these two people for a free massage. And they meant it. I saw people taking advantage of it. I saw mounted magic wands. I saw a piece of equipment designed to mount a magic wand that had restraints, right? And neck restraint, wrist restraints. There was enough Sibians to, you know, there, I'm Remember the room we looked in and the size of the dildos were so fucking huge that I literally said ouch? And like that wouldn't fit in my question. Yeah, no, no, thank you. So like people were proudly displaying their toys in all the rooms. Yeah, it's because it's what they are, what they bring to the table. Yeah, and you can see the people who have high-end invested toys too, like some of those just plain metal ones that are really specifically designed, like are really popular. And so you walk around and you see people, sex-positive energy up front. And the way that people decorated their doors was fascinating. There were people who had pictures of their sex on the door. Not just, hey, this is my headshot. Here's me fucking my husband. And then it was like a way to see if you find attraction with someone. And I'm like, this is fucking genius. Yeah, I mean, especially these are all the ones in the courtyard. I mean, there was the one couple who literally, they took a rear projector, a rear projector, and put it up against the glass. Right. You could see everything up on a sheet and you're just like, I remember you pointed it out and you're just like, oh my gosh. It was like, yep. In my opinion, it's fucking genius. You're like, who's attracted by our sex? Right. Because that's ultimately what you, when you're flirting at a swinger club, you want to make sure you're going to be comfy and sex. Now, if you watch those people fuck, that might excite me. Now, true story sidebar. I actually turned down an opportunity to fuck a couple once because before, right between, I made plans with them I was excited to and then I found some hardcore porn online that they created together with of extreme like Dom submissive with like you know like abuse and stuff like and I and I literally got so scared of sex with them that I canceled the date so that's a sidebar um because not everyone's ready for that or even wants that and even though those people might be diverse and can have more more vanilla sex with somebody else I didn't want to take that risk I didn't want to find out in the moment that i'm going to be slapped around or something you know what i mean like that's not going to fly so um but yeah so seeing someone's sex can be very informative so this was a good vibe okay everybody was in a good mood there's no cell phones anywhere no of course not you're not allowed to pop your damn phone out no no like it was to the point where even though there was like qr codes there was a girl who had a qr code on her door the qr code and i was like i i said to this to a guy that's our friend i was like this is fucking genius somebody is literally able to scan and then get in touch with you. Here's my fucking contact. But then we remembered that there's no phones allowed. So you really can't like whip it out just to take a picture of a barcode. So there was everybody was probably doing very in very much in a concealed fashion like that. That's the requirement. It's that you can absolutely not shoot absolutely anyone in the without their knowledge. And I think so you can do that, right? You can scan a QR code and not break that thing. But it was creative. Now, if you were going If you're going to stay in the courtyard and you didn't decorate your door, you would stand out. You'd be like the house with the lights out on Halloween. If you're going to stay there, you might want to participate. One of my favorite stations was the coffee station. I think Saturday morning when we got there, because I had to do a workshop, there was a guy with a Nespresso machine and fresh milk and cream and sugar. I was so happy. Biscotti. How many did you take? The Biscotti? At least. two. At least two. I think I counted three. Oh, I don't know. But I took a few cookies. They had some nice cookies. They had some, because these were American people. They had some American Milky Way chocolates. Yeah. I remember I noticed that I was like, oh, Milky Way. So that also started a conversation. Yes. Right. Because then we're like, oh, you know, where are you from? And they explained what state they're from. Yeah. I found that there was a nice mix of American and Canadian. There was. Yeah. Like I would say, I'd say. I would say about one, maybe one quarter to one fifth were American. Yeah. Cause even just people we talked to, right. Because we're right on the border. Niagara Falls is right on the border of Buffalo. And so it would be just as easy for them to hop over. So yeah. So the, the rooms were decorated. People were in good energy, good spirits. You know, it was a bunch of adults. Like the vibe was like a bunch of adults who have no kids for the weekend. Okay. Some of them don't have kids at home normally, but many do. And they're going to make the most of it. That was the energy I had. I picked up. Yeah. As I said, it was just, it was a big, big meet and greet the first night. The second night was more, um, was more dealing with the shows and everything. Yeah. We'll come back to that though. So the first night, um, we got tours, right? So I was able to take my camera into the play areas because the public play areas did not open until 9 PM both nights. So that was worth noting because if you you did not have a hotel on the mains hotel you had nowhere to fuck so until 9 p.m. so that was something to keep in mind so we got to tour them and so there will be a link in the description of this podcast to watch the video vlog from then Valentine's in Niagara that is uncensored is free on Spotify and I'll put a link so we got to film the rooms now there's a big orgy room with a bunch of big queens beds like literally side by side by side there was another room with three big beds with lots of space in between as well as with some chairs that i was calling cuck chairs as well as audience chairs yep which i liked because as a voyeur you want to have a fucking chair and feel invited to watch the show you know yep and then the third room was sort of a bdsm chamber so it had a few st andrew's crosses some sex furniture in there i think a spank a spanking bench yeah and there were chairs around there. Now, the thing is this, though. I looked at the traffic in comparison and everything. A lot of the parties stayed out in the courtyard. I think if the people who knew what was going on in these rooms, they were using these rooms. But I didn't see the heavy turn. It might have been for later or whatever. But during the times we were there and walking through those areas, I didn't feel the traffic was really high. If anything, I think the BDSM got the most traffic. It's true. And there could be a few reasons for that. One of the reasons is if you're on set, you already have your hotel room. You might just want to go fuck in your private room. But I saw a lot of people fucking in their, in the courtyard rooms, just like with, you could see through their window, them like doggy style fucking. Um, and it was just, it was, you were around sex positive people. You are in the middle of this sex positive party where sex is okay, wherever, basically like you could drop and give a blow job in, in the pool deck and all people are sitting there and it would be completely accepted. Yeah. And cheered for probably. Yeah. Probably. So they're at a popcorn station. That was fun. So we did walk into some of these the playrooms and we did observe. For example, we saw a threesome in a bed that hadn't yet started fooling around. They were in the talking phase. Yeah. And so we didn't like lure around like like forever. We went in and looked and whatever. But you're right. The rooms there was always space for more in the rooms every single time we went in. And so there'd be an entire bed available if you wanted it. Yeah. And so, I don't know what to make of that, but I've also heard, just like us X clubs, that the later it gets in the night, the crazier it gets. And unfortunately, I left, what, like 1 a.m.? I didn't even see what 2 a.m. is like at these clubs. Yeah, but I mean, that's for the people who want to stay up to those hours. I mean, I remember running into a couple that we both know who frequented X club, and they're like, yeah, you're going to have to stay up all night. I don't think I can do that and that's just it like like there are people who did party all fucking night long and good for them but there's people who also like got to bed at a reasonable time so that they could do it again the next day right um because we are in our 30s 40s 50s 60s like this is we're not young chickens anymore um maybe that guy can party all night but I can't I need a solid night's sleep in order for me to not be a cunty bitch the next day you are you become a I get sick to death if I stay up that much. It's like a real like hangover with like lack of sleep. So the truth is just like the sex clubs get crazy 2 a.m 3 a.m whatever it's quite possible that this hotel takeover had a lot of orgies that we missed. It is possible. It is quite possible. So we did see a lot of like some group play but it was a lot of couples. Now keep in mind there's no single men at this event right. Every single man that was there was with a female partner. And even if you went into the rooms, if the female partner took off, you weren't supposed to be there. Yeah. Yeah. They weren't allowed to like leave the guys behind. So it was a very couple vibe. Now I only identified one single woman in the whole event. Now, did I ask everybody if they were a single woman? No, but I only identified one person who was there as a single woman. And so she didn't stand out. She didn't have something on her shirt or her head. a horn that you can wear. Yeah, there weren't lights. There wasn't any spotlight on her. So, so yeah, I think that if you do go to these events as a single woman, which I know Curly Bixen is going to win, you know, in a couple of weeks, I said, wear a horn, wear a unicorn horn. You can get them at any little shop, you know, like, you know, in the mall, whatever, a little horn that distinguishes you, you will be so popular at these places. And so. Actually, I noticed on day two, they actually had a marketplace. like and it's just it's something I'm happy about and I don't know would we have done it if we were at the the sex place right so um so it was fun yeah so you could buy the things there but it was uh it was a little over stimulating right there's always something to look at there's a lot of noise um it was uh it was a good pace right it was self-paced so if you wanted to leave and go for dinner you would and like then you just come back and socialize when you come back it's not like you know there was activities there was structure especially Saturday right so Saturday well I miss I miss some of the other things on Friday that's that's just my lack of ability to speak to those things but there was absolutely from what I understand a well-received mix and mingle session with a girl who led a riddle icebreaker and so people got one half of a riddle and you're supposed to go and talk to people and find out if they have the other half of your riddle oh okay I heard people say It was really good. It made people feel comfortable talking to these strangers. Right. That's one of the first questions I'd have as somebody going to a place like this. How do you socialize? How do you break in? Right. And so a place like I think that's what the Friday night is for, especially even the Thursday night, because some people who are diehards went the Thursday night, too. But I think if there's those things are important, if you are socially awkward, you should definitely go to the early sessions where it's meet and greet and mingle. That is the time. Well, yeah, I mean, you should be able to do things on your own terms, not because it's forced upon you. What do you mean? This was an opportunity to socialize with people who are, like, awkward. And that's what I'm saying is, whereas you run into it on day one when it's all up at high energy and there's, you know, you're walking around with 60 people's rooms all in your face and the next thing you know, you're getting a shot put in your face or another shot put in your face, that can be a little bit intimidating. Yeah. I guess it can be, can it? Yeah, I'm just saying. Yeah. Everybody's got their own pace. for things. It's so true, yeah. Well, even I didn't take half of the shots. I didn't take any shots. I don't drink a lot of alcohol. Exactly. So, I mean, how would you feel if somebody started throwing, you know, shots in your face and was expecting you to drink them? And knowing you, you would have got flush face. Yeah, but this is a lifestyle of people who respect consent and boundaries. Of course, I understand that. What I'm just saying is, but also people are very just being open and sociable too. And they would respect that. But at the same time, some people would feel a little, you know, oh, maybe I should do this or, I don't feel so great about that. Yeah, it's true because not everyone knows how to say no. Exactly. That's so true, which by the way, I have a video that's called how to say no and mean it. And I'll put a link in the description because not only do I talk about the sex and springer lifestyle, I also give like real life advice, especially that's transferable skills to the sex positive lifestyle about things like how to say no, how to enforce your boundaries and things like that. So there is a skill set. Not everyone has it. And yes, you would get pretty hammered if you did not know how to say no. I agree. Yeah. So yeah, I think Friday night's vibe was my favorite vibe too. But I also know by the time Saturday came and went, it was a lot of like familiarity. It was like not as exciting to be offered a shot or a candy. It's like, it's like, what next? Like, is that the same as yesterday? Like, you know, so I think you're right. Friday night for us was the peak. I think it was because there was novelty behind it. As you said, the second day, we kind of been there, done it. And then I think what happened was basically the seminars kind of took over a good time of the day. And then to the evening, I mean, they had that dance party. They had a burlesque show. They had a what else? What else did they have? Pool dancing. Pool dancing event. A violinist. Yeah. It was and everyone had a good good spot to see because lots of people were watching from the pool. We were watching from the upper deck of the courtyard. So everyone was leaning against the fence and just able to like take in. But yeah, the day was filled with workshops. Now my workshop was at 1130, right? So we got there a bit early. So we set in on the end of another workshop. And then I gave mine. Now, you know, you can hear more about my personal reflections on what it was like to give up a speaking gig at a place like this. And spoiler alert, even though I feel like I did a good job on the speaking part, I feel like I kind of like had some embarrassment for like the lack of brand presence. that I that I brought to the event and I can actually you can actually hear about that in Dear Diary episode 40 by the way I've got so many fucking podcasts if people can fuck a lot of people I could have a lot of podcasts and so this is they're all just different outlets right so you're getting like you're a different energetic explanation of the same event from a different perspective so I'm not going to go into that on this one but I gave my workshop and then I relaxed because then I didn't have any more quote-unquote work right And so I loved going to the other workshops. Now we went and listened to Kareem Bedard. Yes. What did you think of her, her course? What was her topic on again? Jealousy and insecurity in E&M. Yes. No, she makes a lot of, she makes a lot of good points. I mean, it's about, it's about basically trying to find your own identity in also while being a couple and knowing that sometimes we get in this habit of putting what's good for the couple ahead of the individual self and in a way a lot of it was talked about how people lose themselves their individuality or their autonomy because they put it all into a relationship but I mean that's very structured in a vanilla lifestyle but it still is there even in you know even in the swear lifestyle I mean we are all human and we all do have some levels of jealousy and feelings about all this stuff but it also felt like a really cool opportunity to live talk with us with a coach right because there's people in the audience that would give an example and then she would talk them through it in front of people and like you know and seeing it resonate on on someone's face when they talked about self-worth and you know they had a rule you know no no fucking the x and then they broke it down like well why what is the feelings that come if he did that and and they got to the bottom of it and it was like it was uh you know ultimately a threat right a primal threat of like my self-worth if if he runs off with his ex and then she basically broke that link to be like well people make their own choices and it doesn't have anything to do with your self-worth and we just saw it happen in front of us where this woman was like yeah i guess so so like the threat like the bomb was diffused in a way um a little bit but i think it goes back to the self-worth yeah to be in the most important things i mean all that is structured by the time you're seven years old. Yeah, that was part of the messaging. So she was good. We also went and listened to Ray Scherr. Scher or even just the fart sounds. I think she called it Brazilian fart. I don't know what that is. I'd have to Google that. But then I'm afraid that puts me in some kind of algorithm. So I'm not going to find out. But yeah, it it was a good session in that way. And then what was the other session was how to take nudes and ludes. Yes. And that was when I was really excited about because not everyone knows how to take a good, sexy photo. And she had a lot of examples of what not to do. And that was really helpful. but she also had good examples too and she talked about you know focal points and you know zooming in and out and using good lighting and she she even got down on the floor with like like a panties and a bra and was posing and showing people this is how you move this leg like this is how you get this like heart shaped on your butt pose and it was really hands-on it was a really good session and i think anyone who who attended that would have taken away at least a tip or two yeah and it's not sexy to take a shot of your with something in the toilet yes exactly listen there um there was also uh how to eat pussy like a champ with luna matadas i was not able to get her on camera this time but i have actually had her on my uh trying unicorn youtube channel before she is a full-time like sex educator she's really i find her charming and uh engaging and in her personality yeah and she's just very frank about what she discusses she points everything out and she's got a nice little uh Yeah, she has an instructional stuffed vagina with a detachable clitoris. So she was able to show to the crowd like where to touch, whatever. So she actually gave us some tips. I'm sure we're going to learn something from that. Especially anybody who is just, you know, trying to up their eating pussy game. They they saw the clitoris is not just this little knob up front. It's like the two sides as well on the inside. And they they up and have sensation too. So yeah, it was, it was a wonderful session and they were kind of back to back to back session. So, you know, you'd either have to be dedicated to doing them or, and some of them overlapped, which is why we couldn't see them all. So it is what it is, but we saw some great ones. And, um, and then there was like, I don't know, there was like a wet t-shirt contest that I totally missed. But then later on the Saturday night, there was a dance party, right? DJ pumping tune, black lights, Yeah, they even had this cool hologram of the brand Taboda events had this giant hologram of like their promotional stuff. Yeah, they just had a bunch of promotional stuff that was done very cleverly. Yeah, they had a lot of like banners around the place too. Yeah, it was a it was quite an experience to have a bunch of swingers out in an open space. I like that way better than partying in narrow hotel hallways. which is what so far the other experience has been you know what that experience has its own positives in its own right i mean that felt like you know it felt like you're at a university dorm party and you know what there's nothing wrong with that i mean the open the open event for this one was very structured and very well put together and allowed you to mix and mingle very freely the other one yeah you did feel like you were clogged up if people were hanging out you might have got ball necked up in a hallway and couldn't move freely around. I felt that with the diversity on the window displays, it got more conversations going. People would stop instead of just constantly moving around or just getting trapped into one area. Yeah. It was, it was, they, they both have their own charm, but this is like, and they use the same hotel every time for the most part. Right. And so like the party is going to be the same next year. Right. So I, I'm definitely getting a ticket for next year. Um, any big takeaways, that you would say, like, you know, I would say bring flip-flops. It's a pool party. There's, like, walking around, you know. I actually didn't think the flip-flops were really that required. I mean. If you use the pool, I think you might need them. Yeah, maybe, maybe. We actually never ended up in the pool, even though we planned to go. Yeah. It's weird. No, you know what? I think we were just more comfortable just sitting back and just observing stuff. Yeah. Than participating as much. Yeah, it's true. And, yeah, I loved, you know, you'd find your friend in the middle of the party and oh my god how's your night going you know and like it was fun and what i liked is that there wasn't super loud music playing so you could talk and hear people yeah that was noticeable that was this was not a club with a dj playing music to your ears vibrate this was a place where you could socialize and mingle yeah i think everything has its right uh place like if you're going to x club then yeah you're expecting dance music or place to dance and party and then if you want to have fun in the back then that's This was sort of like a hybrid of things. You wanted to socialize. There were people playing a lot of loud music. I mean, there was the there was the one room where, yeah, they had really loud, loud, portable speakers and they were blasting their own tunes. That was your friend's room. Yeah. No, I think it was. Well, I'm not going to say their names. No, but no, there were people I knew. And yeah, they they had their own little soundtrack that was going. And then there was the there was the DJ who was hired for the event and he was playing a soundtrack. as well. So it just depends where you were. You heard whatever you wanted to. If you didn't want to be around loud music, you could walk away from that and pick a quieter area to be in. Yeah, I liked that. Even you and I would go into the lounge more than a few times just to sit down and be away from people because we just wanted a break. Yeah, and that's another thing. In a club, you're dancing. You're always up on your feet. Some clubs don't offer seating. This place had lots of places to sit and lounge and relax if you wanted to. So that was good for me. It was good. So even if you didn't stay on site, there was still very nice, accessible, clean bathrooms, change rooms, things like that. So you just brought your stuff with you, leave it in your car or whatever, and then go get it when you need it. But yeah, I think if I would say to come again, bring a reusable cup if you're going to be drinking. Yeah, maybe you bring a Contigo container or what is it, a Yeti container or something. Something that keeps your drink cold or hot or whatever it is you were looking for. Because, yeah, I mean, you could bring your your own alcohol and everything. And bring outfit changes, right? You don't know what you're going to feel like and the vibe is like. Like, I did go, I did bring lingerie with me, but I actually never put it on. Nope. And it's funny because other people were in lingerie and yet I still was like, I was committed to my sex skirts. That's why, because I really wanted to wear those. And they were a great conversation piece. Yeah, they were. Yeah, they drew a lot of attention to you and a lot of people stopped and asked about them. Yeah. Which is always a good thing. It was good. And I loved how many people I met that had seen my content before yeah that was pretty cool it was a number it was more people than I would have imagined hey I was surprised so many people recognized me I know yeah you're the guy that plays a good music at you know the club so yeah yeah so yeah it was really fun that way and then you know when you run into people on the Saturday we had some friends that came up for just the the day past Saturday so they paid to just come up for the day they didn't even have a hotel room they got into the full party too so it was uh it was nice to see now Now, by the time someone comes on Saturday, it feels like you're coming a little late to the party, even though the party's far from over. True. But maybe that's just how I would interpret it if you didn't know anybody. But if you already know people, it's fine. You're going to mix and mingle easier. But I think especially the Friday night, people are so eager to get her and talk to people and learn who everyone is and whatnot. And me and you, we talk to a lot of people. A lot of people. A lot of couples that we love talking to, the males the females different eight in different age groups and everybody was looking for certain things yeah you know what it wasn't just it wasn't just people who are looking to you know swap or something other people were just there to just voyeur some people were there just just to mingle and there was we found at least four other couples that were not there to play yeah and at least i mean there was the one couple it was their very first event yeah and they had they recognized me from youtube and they're and i was like oh my god you came to a fucking swigger convention as your first event I'm like wow but they were so excited to be into the lifestyle that's the thing that every time I met a new person there was lots of new people to this event they had the excitement in their eyes like it was not they didn't look overwhelmed yeah and you know what that's that's the charm of it all is I mean you have multiple ways you can enjoy the experience it's not it's not just one and then you got to kind of conform to what it is exactly me and you had so much fun we didn't participate in these rooms We just went and watched And that's my vibe, right? And it was fun And I love what I, you know, the voyeur in me got to see a lot But also just to feel part of a part of something And I've got to emphasize this part If you do not know how to break into the springer lifestyle If you think it's like a mountain that's too big to climb Buy yourself a ticket Single men, sorry, you're out of luck here But if you're a couple or a single woman to an organized hotel takeover and you are part of a party and that is your in that is your Willy Wonka golden ticket show up and start making friends so yeah so it was a it was a good good vibe good uh good party uh I did disappear for a few hours with you Saturday um like evening like six to eight yeah because we need a rest yeah we needed to rest before we try to party again all night um and then um so we were able to kind of go at our own pace which I really Yeah. Exactly. And I think that's the key about it all. Yeah. So, yeah, I saw a lot of sex. I saw a lot of happy people. I made a lot of Facebook friends. And I think, you know, the high of that experience I'll have for a while. But, you know, it took me a couple of days of, you know, energy, like depletion to try and get myself back up again because it took a lot out of me. Yeah, it can. And, well, that's what these experiences are. They can be a lot. Yeah. So anyways, this event is called Valentine's in Niagara. It is a VIN for short. It's run by Taboda Events. I'll put a link in the description. If you want to party with them, go party with them. You might even see me there. So I'm also going to put a link in the description for a new playlist on my YouTube channel called Hotel Takeovers for Swinger Hotel Takeovers. And it's got a total of three videos in it so far. But something tells me, it'll have a few more by the year end. So I'll be going to the next event. I will move mountains to make that happen. Next time I will go more prepared. I'll have more of a brand presence and a speech ready, I think. Yeah. Any final words? No, I think it was pretty straightforward what happened. Yeah, it was fun. And this, if you ever, if you have any fun clothing that you never get to wear anywhere with like, you know, like I saw a lot of the shirts that said two seater, you know, that was fun. You wore a nice shirt that had the word fuck all over it. It was pretty sexy. And there was a lot of like I saw this other guy who had sex positions like a polo shirt. Yeah. So it was it was the vibe. So. So there you go. All right, everybody. It's been real. There's going to be an opportunity to see the full vlog, as I said. So just find that in the description. Please don't forget to click the review button. It's like three buttons. If you can go and touch someone's clitoris, you can touch my Spotify clitoris. by hitting the review button and giving me five stars. It does matter. Um, it helps my podcast get recognized. So you can also leave a comment on Spotify as well. And if you're nice, I'll, I'll respond. All right. Thanks everybody. Oh, and I do have some behind the scenes footage on my fan page of some of the content I took in the hotel. I'd be negligent if I didn't tell you that there is more to see. Uh, and that's on my only fans.com slash Toronto unicorn. So until next time, bye guys.