I went to Naughty in New Orleans

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Speaker1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Wherever you are, I hope you have blue skies. Welcome to that other lifestyle podcast. I'm your host, Jason. Leave Vanilla behind as I talk about getting naughty at Naughty in New Orleans. This podcast is for adults only. We'll be diving into adult and sexual topics with plenty of colorful language, so it is not safe for work. If you are under 18, get the hell out. This is not the place for you. This show is all about exploring the lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy, and if you are under 18, get the hell out. This is not the place for you. This is open to everyone, no matter your background, gender, identity, expression, or your personal truth. While I do my best to use inclusive language, you might hear terms like husband, wife, or partner for simplicity's sake. This show is for everyone, Lifestyle, Vanilla, or Just the Curious. You want to connect, you can send me an email to host at thatotherlifestyle.com or go to my website, thatotherlifestyle.com. Everyone is welcome here because the lifestyle is so much more than you think. Hello, hi, catching up on everything this week. Last week, I did not put out an episode because I, my happy ass, was at Naughty in New Orleans. We got to go with STD Hero, and I wanted to focus all my mental bandwidth on that trip. So apologies, no episode last week, but I'm making it up with this episode this week. I know you want to know about Naughty, and I will share my take on the event. I also wanted to share deeper thoughts about events in general, and how you can find the right event for you. This is not going to be a play-by-play diatribe about what and who and how and all that stuff that we did at Naughty. I had a feminine voice and go, oh my god, we had so much fun and this happened and then this happened and then we did this. That's not my style. Let's get all the hype out of the way. We had fun and I do recommend this event. Every lifestyle event is different. Some events may lean and some things lean into like bar takeovers and that is all they are just by dressing it up with a fancy invite or they cater to different vibes and styles of swinging culture that are out there. And we've gone to a lot of events this year. We've experienced a lot of different kinds of events, and I want to help you figure out where to spend your time and money for the most fun. Every couple out there, y'all are going to enjoy different kinds of events. I have friends who love chilling on their back porch with just a little small group of friends. Other people, they want to be surrounded by 3,000 potential fuck partners. Some people really dig resorts where they can just cut loose and not worry about running into anyone from home. But we need to be realistic. so many weekends in the year for you to plan and do your heat and fun. So knowing what kind of event you're walking into, picking the right kind that you want, that matters a lot. I hear from people that the big events with hundreds or thousands of people are intimidating. Look, don't be. You will not be lining up at the start of the event and shaking hands with all 3,000 people. You will not be interacting with all 3,000 people. Yes, big events can be overwhelming, but if you go into it with a plan, That helps. And you need to understand your social battery limits. Social batteries. Let's go down this thread for a minute. We all have a social battery. Some people may have big batteries that can handle being on for days and days. Others, 10 minutes and they tap out and they're going to retreat to a quiet spot. And then there's those people who are just looking for pets to hang out with at parties. We all have different tolerances for social interaction. My wife, I know, has a much smaller social battery than me. I thrive in large events and big crowds. She does not. She prefers small intimate gatherings where I personally struggle at those. And we're constantly talking and trying to find the balance between us and compromising on our particular choice of outings. We may opt for a big event for me knowing that I need to be cognizant of her limitations in that sort of environment. Or if you go to a house party, she knows my social limits for direct sustained interaction with people. So there's a balance there. Plan out what you want to get out of an event, not just whether or not you're going to attend. Are you looking for a quick hookup? Are you looking to make new friends? Are you looking to cut loose for the weekend? Have a conversation today with your spouse about what you both like and want and don't like. Have a conversation about those social batteries too. Understand what your spouse can handle or want. And this is going to help you narrow down the type of events you want to attend. You hear me run their commercials every week. Oh, and they do have a party coming up. Back to school. Last weekend of August in Baton Rouge, Louisiana, their website is riskalifestyleparties.com. So if you're interested in that, we're going to be there. Come hang out with us. And the parties, you know, for those, they're relatively close to home. We stay at a hotel. I like the community and the vibe, but it's a rave. It has a very strong rave vibe to it. to it, that might not be for everyone. You might want a beach or something relaxing like a resort. That's okay. You don't have to like the same thing as I do, just like you don't have to fuck everyone you meet in the lifestyle. For events, you are committing time and money. Now, my attitude, you can make more money, but you can't get more time. Time is so valuable. And going to the wrong kind of event for you, it's a waste. If you like sex clubs, then why are you going to a beach party? then yeah a rave party might not be the best option there's so many different ways that we party and connect in the lifestyle and i hear people get frustrated with events that they go to they're going to make disparaging comments of that you know oh that party sucked it's like why well i didn't get laid ergo they think it was a bad event that's bullshit okay two people can go to the same party one person has a blast and the other one doesn't for one person the party might meet or exceed their expectations and for the other one the party is a bust that's because We did enjoy our time at Naughty. It's a really cool event that I feel good about recommending. And you're going to hear me try to sell tickets on this show for it so that I can earn a booth in the event next year. Buy tickets from Jason. Not a subliminal message at all. Buy your tickets from me on my website. I need to explain what Naughty in New Orleans is. Naughty in New Orleans. And I realize I'm not saying... There's a lot of different ways to say New Orleans. I'm from Louisiana, so that's how we say it. And there's also New Orleans. Nobody says Nolens. That's not a thing. Naughty in New Orleans is the official name, but henceforth I'm just going to refer to it as Naughty to save on my word count. There are a couple of big swinger lifestyle events that happen in the states every year. There are huge hotel takeovers and they attract thousands of people. The granddaddy of them all is Naughty. It has been running for decades. They have this event down to a science. I know it's been featured in documentaries, maybe a movie out there somewhere. This year, Naughty was a, just happened, 2025, July 2025, just happened. Naughty is a three-hotel takeover in New Orleans, Louisiana that attracts people from all over the world. And shout out to the nice lady. Hey, I met the nice lady I met from Iceland. She jumped into my arms. Y'all, I know I like to give out specifics on stuff, so I'm going to be as specific as I can about everything. The main hotel is a full takeover on the corner of the world-famous Bourbon Street. Bourbon Street, just so you know, is one of those places on this planet that lives up to the fucking reputation. I've heard stories of people going to Disney World, and they're so disappointed they get depressed. Not Bourbon Street at all. It is a mile, maybe two miles, maybe three miles. Every kind of bar you can think of, and liquor, so much liquor. The bricks in this street have tripped up drunks for centuries. There is history here, a smelly history that should only be experienced If you take nothing away from this episode, please, for the love of all that is holy, wear closed-toed shoes on Bourbon Street. Naughty has two other hotels that are about a block away, and thankfully there is a shuttle that runs between them to save you the walk in the 110 degree Fahrenheit days with 90% humidity. I apologize to our listeners in other countries. I don't know what that is in Celsius. It's like balls sweatingly hot. New Orleans is fucking hot. As someone from the American Deep South, yes, New Orleans is It's fucking hot this time of year. Dress accordingly. Yes, you may look very dapper, sir, in a suit and tie, but you're going to sweat through that son of a bitch in about two minutes. Wear shorts and t-shirts. Go casual. I enjoy personally that at Naughty, I could run around shirtless all day, showing off my arms. The appeal of Naughty is both the size and the location and a couple of other things. We'll do this one at a time. The size. The event is big. This event is fucking huge. I have never seen this many heathens in one spot in my life. I don't even know if we have this many heathens collectively in the state that I live. Lots of different types of people too. Naughty is famous for definitely swingers and swinger type people, but it does attract other alternative lifestyles like poly or BDSM or kink or just the curious. So it should not be locked into just a swinger event, putting that in air quotes. Two of the coolest people that we met were a gay couple selling soap. Apparently, I am considered a soft dog. which was really neat to learn I guess. All right answer our question did we have fun yes would we go again yes I consider it one of the better events that I have been to actually is it right for you though I don't know keep listening so we're going to talk all talk all about what Naughty offers and you can decide plus I'm going to drop random insights and tips along the way you know I will. Back to the story during the day Naughty offers education seminars taught by experienced teachers and practitioners and experts. There was naked yoga in the morning, which was really neat to watch. STD Hero did a session on STI testing. There was tantric massage, communication, a huge range of topics, which is really cool. And then during the day and the afternoon, there are bar takeovers. These are private events just for the naughty crowd held in bars on Bourbon Street. And remember I said there were miles of bars? You're going to be on your feet all damn day long. So make sure you wear comfortable shoes. in your hotel room. Skip being cute. You're dressing to survive. These are bar takeovers. There's multiple a day and you can just totally jump from bar to bar all afternoon. Bar takeovers, I will admit, full honesty here, are not from me. I'm not the biggest fan, but that has more to do with being in bars than anything else. This is just my humble opinion here. Some people really dig them. Some people are ambivalent. I'm in the latter category. We live close enough to New Orleans that if I really want that experience of Bourbon Street. I can have it any fucking weekend I want. I do see the appeal for someone from the other side of the country or other part of the globe with very strict liquor laws. They will freak the hell out because you can drink on the street on Bourbon Street. You can buy a drink and you can walk right out the fucking front door straight down the sidewalk. Tell you a funny story. I grew up in Louisiana where we have very lax liquor laws and I had no idea you could not drink in public. to another state. We went to a bar and I ordered this giant 32-ounce frozen daiquiri at the bar. And I go to leave with the drink. I was not aware that I could not drink outside. The bouncer stopped me. He's like, no, you can't leave with it. And I was like, yes, but I want to leave. And he said, well, you can't leave with that. So then I chugged the 32-ounce frozen daiquiri. It was painful. That spiteful moment cost me so much pain. But I did it. Just to share with you, you know, liquor laws. They're kind of a new thing to me. Anyway, back to what I was talking about. For me, bar meetups are lower on my list of preferred activities. It's loud and I generally, I just know this about me, I generally have a soft voice that does not carry well in loud environments. Nobody can fucking hear me talking, but that's me though. After doing years of all of this, I can make an educated assessment of what I do like and I don't like. And I gotta tell you this, Las Vegas may advertise itself as this adult playground of sophistication and style? New Orleans is not. New Orleans is your cool older brother with a hot rod who lives in the basement and he has a cassette of Leonard Skinner that pulls you out of school on a Tuesday afternoon, gives you a playboy, and takes you down to go shoot guns at the old quarry. New Orleans is the town that will welcome you, your money, your sins, and never be satisfied. So gotta ask, does this appeal to you? I'm biased because I have been there many, many times for many reasons. New Orleans is a true playground of debauchery that will let you indulge whatever alcohol-fuel fantasy you have. is a very welcoming city for alternative lifestyles and swingers and poly and whatever you're into, whatever you call yourself. One thing I do want to share, one note, one item of note, the crime. New Orleans, it does have a reputation of being dangerous or having heavy crime, I guess. And our shuttle driver was talking to some people from another part of the country. He put it best, every large city has crime. To New Orleans' credit, I will say this, and this is me going there many years. Things have changed. Bourbon Street is crawling with cops. They are everywhere. They're in uniform. They're undercover. They're hidden. I can't guarantee everything, but they do at least try to keep the tourist safe. And tourist, that's a key word. Remember that. You're a tourist in this city. You're a tourist in a city that lives off of tourism dollars. So tip, damn it. Tip well. As quoted in my favorite book, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, you never burn the locals. For naughty, you get a lanyard. And this lanyard lets you get into the hotels because naughty locks them bitches down. So no vanilla people can get in. And to the event security credit, I did see vanilla people try to enter the hotels and they got caught quick and turned back because then it had the lanyard. So I felt really good about that because I don't want vanilla people running around in our spaces gawking at us. Something else is funny is a friend of mine told me there were all these social media clips coming out of New Orleans from the locals telling people, to avoid us with the lanyards because you know what they do. So yeah, the locals know what the fuck is going on and what we are doing, and no one cares. New Orleans will accept you, your tourism dollars, with open arms. I get people who will have hesitation in openly walking around declaring to the world that you're into an alternative lifestyle with your fucking lanyard, but no one cares. No one fucking cares in this town. The locals have seen it all. It is highly unlikely you will run into your neighbor on the streets of New Orleans and get outed unless they are down. here for the same exact reason as you, for Bourbon Street. When you are walking around, I'm going to tell you, you're going to stick out like a sore thumb among the locals, probably because you had that fucking lanyard on. I need to tell you about this. There's a scam that is very popular on Bourbon Street, and three different people tried it on me. The way it goes, a random person is going to intercept you as you're walking along the sidewalk, and they're going to say, hey, I like your shoes. I bet you $10 I can tell you where you got them. Despite being intrigued by the stranger's conflict, and their supposed clairvoyant abilities do not answer. Because if you accept the bet, they will say every time you got your shoes on your feet. Then they're going to try to shake you down for the money you bet. Don't fall for this. As you're walking, you may be approaching either going to say, I know that trick or I'm a local and keep walking. Granted, this is not unusual. Every big city has some variation of this. I just want to tell you the common one. I went on a way far off tangent there. Bar takeover. Still talking about that? If you dig bars, you dig the atmosphere. if you're in the environment, there's plenty here for you. It is all afternoon. Which brings me to a little bit more advice that you need. Pace yourself. If you get up at noon, you spend all day at a bar with shitty air conditioning, then you're going to eat the most unhealthy food on the planet, party all night, your happy ass is going to burn out fast. New Orleans is not known for their heart-healthy food options. The food is amazing. It is so good. It'll fucking kill you. Maybe not right away. Maybe not that extreme. But look, if you're not used to eating this incredibly rich spicy food. It will cause some gastrointestinal distress. Bring your stomach meds. At night, there are parties. And the playroom, playrooms, apologies, with an S open up. Let's delay explaining the playrooms for a minute because I'm a dick. The parties. There were two ballrooms. One plays top 40 hip-hop and the other one played EDM music. And you've been to these kind of parties. It's a dance floor full of people and the DJs were actually really good. Are you ready to party in paradise? 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Can't guarantee you're going to get laid, but you can at least find somebody that you're physically attracted to. To STD Hero's credit, the owner's credit. They showed up. They came with us. They were right there in the deep with us. and being a part of this community. That matters to me. There are companies, not just testing companies, they sell into our community, but they keep a respectable distance. Like they want our money, but they don't want to be associated with our heathen ways. STD Hero is different. They were there with us. They were handing out beads with us and cards. They love the lifestyle events because they recognize how welcoming of a community we are and how much this does defy expectations. Did I mention the playrooms? I want to talk about the dungeon first. There was a BDSM dungeon set up at the other hotel. They turned that hotel's ballroom into a fetish paradise. I have a new appreciation for BDSM. Before I respected it, I knew a little bit about it. This opened up my eyes. This was top notch. And I understand the appeal and maybe I will dip my toes in a little bit. BDSM for me, I see it as a craft and a skill. It's an art form. And what irks the living piss out of me is when a swinger gets a paddle or a fucking heavy flogger and decides that they want to whack every person within six feet because it's funny. It's this performative impact play. No, okay? Do not fucking hit me without consent. Do not hit my wife without consent. Real BDSM practitioners will never strike another person without an in-depth conversation about consent. Just because we are on the dance floor together does not give anyone consent hit another person. BDSM is way more than just hitting people. There's variations to all this. They're soft. They're sensual. There is impact play, but it's so in-depth. The media does a horrible job of portraying this art form. You see people on TV get strung up and then they get whipped for like 30 seconds. Okay, that could happen, but it's the extreme. Just like the lifestyle, BDSM gets an incredibly bad rap in media. And I'll admit, I got educated. I got educated while I was was there. I learned about soft BDSM, which really appeals to me, sensual play, different kind of floggers, the quality, the weight of floggers matter, the different sensations that can be created with a willing, submissive, and an experienced dom. What's nice about these big events with education components is you can learn and get exposed to new sexual experiences or styles or play styles. I appreciate that. Instead of running straight to the playrooms, which I will talk about in a minute, Explore what else a convention might offer, even if you have zero interest in something. Just go check it out. I find a lot of times with these big events, and this is a difficult choice of words here, so let me pick it very carefully. There is a focus on fucking. You show up, you pay the money, you want to get fucked nine ways to Sunday and go home. That is valid. That is a valid way to experience this. For me, I want more. I want more substance in my relationships with people. my experiences. And if you're looking for more, then yeah, Naughty could actually be a really good fit because it does offer a lot. Playrooms. I know that piqued your interest. You want to know about the place that had all of the fucking. I admit, fully admit, I did not see the playrooms in action. It wasn't our vibe. But I did take the tour. It was like a heathen haunted house, a Willy Wonka factory of soft lights and sex toys and prophylactics. For Naughty, and granted, this may change, so don't hold me to this description, and I don't know what previous This is for 2025, specifically when I was there, the year I went. The entire second floor of one of the towers of the hotel was turned into a play floor, not a play room. Each hotel room on the floor was turned into a separate play room. You get off the elevator, and what was really neat is there were signs explaining consent everywhere. Even the staff at the event, who were fantastic, had notes about consent on their shirts. the lobby area, there was a credenza with lube and condoms everywhere. The little group that we were with when we took the tour before everything officially opened, we got lost because it was dark and we got lost. And it just kept going. According to the rules, once the playrooms were open, you had to be naked or wearing a towel to progress down the hall into the area. So pro tip here, bring a big towel from home. Yes, the hotel has towels, but I would feel much better with a beer. Each towel wrapped around myself in one of those little small hotel towels. And don't lose your towel. Always bring a towel. Hopefully somebody gets that reference. And this was different than other playrooms that we have seen. Something really cool was that there was an attendant for every room cleaning up, changing out sheets. So I like that. Some places we've been, it's like the honor system that just feels kind of sketchy. I honestly don't know how many playrooms there were because it just kept going. I will note some highlights. There was a pitch black room. No lights. Zero light in this fucking room. for maybe what was coming in from the hallway? I can see the appeal of anonymous bodies piled up and no clue who is touching what. This is probably not a good fit for anyone who does not at least entertain the possibility of somebody from the same sex accidentally touching you during intercourse. And speaking of that, there was another room entirely developed bisexual play. Every bed had to have some kind of bisexual action going on. There were also standard playrooms, beds lined up with curtains for whatever fuckery was going to happen on them. And standard rules apply. They had the curtain rule. Curtain closed, leave them alone. Shure a curtain, you can watch. No curtain, you can watch and possibly join in. Again, I like having an attendant there to keep the peace and maintain order. I admit, I've tried public play before, like in a playroom, one time. In that moment, I didn't feel like it was my jam, but that may change if we ever try it again. Our time at Naughty, we wanted to party. So that's where we focused our time and attention. But I know for a fact the playrooms were packed. The first night, you could not get to the elevator. There was a line to get on the elevator to go up there. And on the way down, every single elevator car was stuffed with naked, sweaty swingers in various states of disrobe and clinging to towels. I will confidently say, if you were looking for no-strings-attached sex, looking to just get it in, yeah, these playrooms would probably be your jam. By law of numbers and averages, yes, you could find someone on that floor willing to have sex with you. Fuck, that sounds terrible. This is the perfect event for once a year or vacation swingers or lifestyle people. If you were looking for one week in the continental United States that does not require a passport, somewhere to go to have fun, Naughty is a good fit. And who else is Naughty a good fit for? I want to be honest with everyone. I do plan on selling tickets now for this event because I've been, and I can give you an honest and fair assessment of it. I think it's worth the money. It does require planning ahead of time and forethought, figuring out what you want to do here. But I like there's a lot of different options outside of fuckery. If you want a full-fledged, well-rounded, sex-positive convention, because that's what it is. It's a convention. It's kind of like a Comic-Con for heathens. And that's a good comparison to a Comic-Con. So let's go with that. And just to share, before the lifestyle, my wife and I, we were big into Comic-Cons. We collect comic book art and vintage toys. Unfortunately, we don't have many weekends available because the lifestyle sucks away all of our time. So we haven't gone to any lately. But it's a very similar vibe. by that comparison and somebody else may get it. For instance, there are vendor spaces. Nowhere near as robust as an actual Comic-Con or a dedicated trade show like Exotica or AVN. I did meet two super cool dudes who were selling soap and fragrances, and I learned a lot about kink and alternative lifestyles from them, so I appreciate them talking to me. And that, for me, is the appeal of naughty. I can break out of the swinger mold, and there's most definitely a swinger vibe that exists at some events. I enjoy learning about alternative ways to experience sex, and passion. Their seminars and the education sessions were fantastic, which, again, if you're going to go get the fuck out of bed before 2 p.m. and go learn something, Naughty is a four-day event. Maybe seven if you come into town really early. Officially, Wednesday to Saturday. This is a lot. You need to pace yourself. This is even more because it is in New Orleans in the dead-ass middle of summer, as I talked about. If you're not from a hot, humid area, I cannot stress enough how much the atmosphere is going to drain you. It is not unusual for there to be just summer rain every single day. This is normal. And I'm talking about apocalyptic deluges of water falling from the sky for 10 minutes and then stopping and then it gets dry. The humidity consistently in the 80s to 90%. I'm such a nerd for using this valuable time to talk about the fucking weather. The parties that go till 3, 4, 5 in the morning and then the bar parties start back up at noon. You could do this as an endurance run of stupid decisions. Go nonstop, get a little sleep, caffeine is your friend, and push yourself. I don't recommend it. It's funny, my wife and I were in the elevator at our hotel multiple times. We're exhausted because we've been working the booth all day. And people would look at us and everybody would say the same thing. It's a marathon, not a sprint. And I'm looking at them like, yeah, motherfuckers, I know I do a podcast about this. We would go help out for us. We go help out STD Hero in the mornings. We do a bar meetup, catch a cat nap, get dressed up, and then go to the parties. Cat naps are your friends, by the way. You don't actually need a full eight hours. You just need enough sleep to keep going. Another tip to share, and this is credit to my wife and applies to any takeover with multiple hotels. Outfits. Let's set the stage. My wife has a very sexy lingerie set and these banging high heels she wants to wear, and usually as a night progresses on, she'll change from her more thematic costume into a lingerie set and maybe a robe just kind of float around the dance floor. If we're at a single hotel takeover like Risqué, this is not a problem. We can go to the party in our outfits for the theme, take our pictures, And then she can change into the most comfortable shoes imaginable and be fine. We make our appearance, go back to the room, change into another outfit, go back downstairs. This works for single hotel takeovers. Naughty though, naughty is a multi-hotel takeover. And it's understandable, you can't fit everyone into a building, into one building. The hotel we stayed at was two blocks away, which meant we had to go in public in a little bit. There was a shuttle running back and forth between the hotels, and I'm so thankful for that shuttle and the really cool and understanding Shuttle Drivers Still, we had to leave the main hotel, walk down the sidewalk, get onto the shuttle, which means for us, we could not easily change. We'd have to go all the way back. The whole ride between the hotels and changing took about an hour, which pulls you away from the party. You know, it might not be a concern for everybody, but I'm here to party, damn it. I want loud music, and I want to be surrounded by dancing people. It's a consideration I at least want to put into the universe for everyone. Think about how those shoes that look so good and sexy are going to feel after you've been on your feet for two hours. Blisters are not worth the look. For us personally, did we have fun? Yeah. When we go back? Yeah. And we didn't work the whole time. We did meet local couples to our area. This event pulls in people from all over the world, so it was kind of cool. Something across couples that we could hopefully hang out with again, which was really nice. We didn't go all in on the fuckery. I don't have any stories about that. I know it happened. I saw so many Trimex and Gorgeous dicks running around. We went to this event as podcasters. and with STDHero. And my goal was, I want to experience this event first time, kind of detached, just taking it all in. I did have one weird encounter to tell you. We were at the STDHero booth, and I think it was Thursday night. Time was a blur of sunup, sundown, whole fucking week. Thursday night, this guy walks up. He shakes my hand and introduces himself. He says his name is David. He said he's a big fan of the show, and he appreciated the care I put into the episodes. And y'all, my brain fucking shut down. It happens. I can't cover it very well. well either. And my wife knows when it happens. I can't make words. My wife being the most precious, gracious angel she is, she stepped in and helped smooth over the interaction. I'm still not entirely sure if this dude was real. I never saw him again, and I really want to see him again, and just as proof that someone listens to my show. And at this point, I think he was an angel, just showing up to boost my ego. So David, if you were out there, hey, I acknowledge you and that conversation, however one-sided it may have been, it meant the world to me. Do I have any sexy stories from Audi to share with you? Oh, I kissed two ladies. That was the extent of my relations. I'd share that to say, you don't have to do anything sexual at these events. You know that, right? Another critique I hear about large events, and it's a weird one, is there's a subconscious pressure to participate in the shenanigans. Like the playrooms are hypnotic candles of debauchery, and we're all merely lost moths bouncing near the flame. That's not true. You have full body autonomy at this event at any event on a date or with another couple. No one should pressure you into anything that you are not comfortable with. I found the entire naughty crowd as a whole to be very respectful. I was not groped without my consent, which has fucking happened before. Just to tell you, I have this BDSM harness, which is a big metal loop on the chest, and I always worry. It looks really good on me, but I always worry about wearing at these events because I've had bad experiences with it. We were on a cruise last year, and I'm wearing the harness, and this random woman walked up, to the metal ring and she tried to pull me around. No. I gave her the what the fuck do you think you were doing look. Unclip myself, handed the leash back to her and continued to give her the what the fuck do you think you were doing look while she backed away. I promise I am not a jackass or a dick. I promise that. People who have met me will mostly say that I'm not a dick. But I don't like that. That's violating my body autonomy. And, you know, it is literally the argument of strangers are allowed to treat me in a certain way based on the the way I am dressed? No. Fuck that. No. You ask permission. We are better than that. And the crowd at Naughty, though, the crowd was better than that. I cannot speak for every single person's experiences there. I can speak for me and my wife's experiences. And we found the crowd very respectful. People were asking before touching and kissing, so I really, really like that. I always appreciate hearing your feedback and comments on episodes or suggestions for topics, so feel free to reach out to me at host at thatofthelifestyle.com. My website is thatofthelifestyle.com. of the lifestyle. Should you try out Naughty? Yes, if you can. No matter what you are looking for in a lifestyle experience, you're going to find it there. I put it in the same category as doing a resort or a cruise. It's nice to try this at least once and just see what the big deal is. As I said, I'm going to start selling tickets. They're going to be on my website for the 2026 event. Buy tickets from me. Support the show. I want my own fucking booth next year. My disclaimer, I am not a medical professional nor a trained and certified educator of any kind in any way. I am a This podcast is for entertainment purposes only, and please join us for the next episode. Remember, STI testing is important, and it takes a community to make a difference. Go to sddhero.com and use my promo code TOL15 for 15% off your order. Whatever you may do today, I hope you have a fantastic time doing it. Know that you're appreciated and loved. Have a great day.