Welcome to "That Other Lifestyle Podcast," where host Jason leads you through a candid exploration of the lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy. In this episode, dive into the humorous and awkward realities of sex, from unexpected ab cramps during intense sessions to the normality of sweating it out in the heat of passion.
Join Jason on his quest to uncover the shared laughter and surprising camaraderie that come from discussing these intimate and often unspoken topics. Learn about the quirks of human sexuality, the awkwardness of removing lingerie, and the silly struggles with modern technology that everyone can relate to.
This episode invites listeners of all backgrounds to challenge their notions of what is considered "normal" in the world of sex, love, and lifestyle exploration. Embrace your individuality and discover that you are not alone in the peculiarities that accompany intimate interactions.
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Speaker1: morning good afternoon good evening wherever you are i hope you have blue skies welcome to that other lifestyle podcast i am your host jason leave vanilla behind as we talk about ab cramps this podcast is for adults only we'll be diving to adult and sexual topics with plenty of colorful language so it is not safe for work if you're under 18 this is not the place for you This show is all about exploring the lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy, and it's open to everyone, no matter your background, gender identity, expression, or your personal truth. While I do my best to use inclusive language, you might hear terms like husband, wife, or partner for simplicity's sake. This show is for everyone, lifestyle, vanilla, or just the curious. Want to connect? You can send me an email to host at thatotherlifestyle.com, visit my website at thatotherlifestyle.com, and check out my favorite lifestyle product recommendations at binable.com slash thatotherlifestyle. Everyone is welcome here because the lifestyle is about so much more than you think. Ab cramps. Fucking ab cramps. You ever had an ab cramp? It is the worst possible muscle to betray you mid fuckery. It doesn't happen all the time, but when it does, it is during a very spicy, long, very sweaty, Olympic-level session of sex. Then, out of nowhere, boom. One of my abs, always the middle one on the left side, I think, locks the fuck up. I scream. Not a manly grunt and shrug off the pain. No, not a sexy growl of pleasure. This is full-on, pissed-off, jungle cat kind of scream. Like a panther who stubs his toe on a tree limb. Like I got hit by a Mortal Kombat fatality. Just pain, and I drop to the floor and roll around uselessly. I try to contort my body into a position to stretch it out, and let me tell you, there is no position. You ever got a charley horse in your leg? Imagine that, but on your stomach. I'll laugh through the pain, though. All you can do is laugh because this is so fucking ridiculous. I am rolling around naked with a hard-on on the floor, surrounded by naked people asking if I'm okay. Yes, I am okay. I will live and be right back to fucking in just a moment. This past weekend, I finally found a comrade in cramping. I've been on a mission. I've been on a quest. I have made it my personal duty to investigate the phenomenon of ab cramps during sex. And how do I conduct this research? Weirdly, by randomly ambushing my guy friends with deeply uncomfortable, unprompted questions. I wait for the perfect moment, a lull in the conversation, a sip of beer, a vulnerable pause. Then I lean in a little closer. I lower my voice, make very intense eye contact, and I say, hey man, can I ask you something personal? They always hesitate, but curiosity wins out, and they nod, and they always say, of course, you know, you can tell me anything. I take a deep breath. This is kind of embarrassing. I share that with them. Follow up by not sure if this happens to you. Now they're hooked. Their face is softened. This is a safe space, right? And they tell me it's okay, man, you can tell me, and that's when I just drop it. Do you ever get ab cramps during sex? Their brain skips a beat. The confusion is instant and very profound. I can see them buffering like a dial-up modem trying to connect to the internet at 1998. Processing, processing, the wheel is spinning. Usually they recover just enough to shake their heads and just give me a no. So I clarify, but I explain sometimes It's amazing. processing. The wheel is spinning. Usually, they recover just enough to shake their heads and just give me a no. So I clarify, but I explain sometimes mid-thrust, my abs betray me. They cramp up and I scream like a man whose favorite team just lost a soccer match. Still, they stare, shocked, disturbed. But this weekend, this past weekend, I found one. I found another man, a fellow sufferer. My people exist. I am not alone. I found another guy who gets ab cramps during sex. Yay, me? Now, do I know why this happens? Not a fucking clue. My theory is there's a population of men who are core dominant when they thrust, and others are more glute dominant. And if you're over here flexing your abs 60 to 100 times a minute over and over, yeah, something's going to give. And when it does, it just takes your fucking dignity with it. And I know, I know, drink more water, hydrate, and all that. That's why I keep a stock of sports drinks right next to the bed, chugging electrolytes between sessions. Electrolytes is what plants crave. Hopefully someone out there got that reference. This got me to thinking, as my random awkward encounters usually do. Two thoughts twisted together. What is normal? And sex is weird. That's my conclusion, or rather the rambling points I hope to make today. Look at sex. Think about sex. Not right now. You're probably busy doing vanilla activities like you're pretending to work. Think about it with me. Not in a sexy way, a mechanical way. Two humans, and yeah, I know self-love exists, but it's more fun to think about two naked people. Two fleshy humans with blood-engorged genitals lay down, one of them rhythmically slamming against the other like they're trying to solve a Rubik's Cube with Morse code. There are fluids, there is heavy breathing, then there is climax where your body involuntarily flexes special muscles, the brain gets loaded with feel-good chemicals, and the nerves in your body all fire at once. Fireworks goes off, boom goes the dynamite, bells ring, the sun shines. Orgasm. Humans are designed for sex. The clitoris is the only organ that serves no purpose other than being a feel-good button. That is what I call evolutionary commitment. The penis is weird too. It's a fleshy, vulnerable tube extending out from the body that must be protected at all costs. No bones in it. You can't do anything useful with it. It's not like a cool prehensile tail that you could climb trees with or carry stuff. And I suddenly have a vision of an alternative world out there in the multiverse where dicks are functional little trunks and dick purses are a thing. But nope, here in our plane of existence, dicks just hang there waiting for a rush of blood. And that's just sex with two people. You add in two more people into the mix and it gets double weird. Now there's four naked bodies, either in pairs or combined like a sexy Voltron. Then all four people may lay on that bed naked in a surreal post-sex bliss for an hour and talk in the most raw, honest way possible. Cleaning up after a really good fuckery session, I always mumble, I have a weird life as I try to remember where i threw all the condom wrappers always fun to find condom wrappers like weeks later the little bastards slip under beds and they end up being stuck in the strangest places nowhere else in the world do we do this nowhere else can we sit around naked and chat with people like this all this is super weird not in a. Weird does not mean bad. To balance out the weirdness we have on the other side of the coin, the question, what is normal? What is considered normal to one person might be considered weird to another. And side note, this general conversation is mainly about the act of sex and human interaction to address the physical. If your genitals suddenly switch from normal mode to not normal mode, you should go get tested. If there's burning, itching, leaking, that is not normal in any way. I recommend stdhero.com. Use my promo code TOL10 for 10% off your order. So all that to say, that's why I was happy to find another guy who gets ab cramps. When it happened the first time, I figured, what the shit? I went to the internet, which did not help at all. Apparently, I get appendicitis every time I have sex. I know it's not a major medical issue. It's just a weird thing that happens to me. Asking around let me know that, yeah, I'm normal. I am not unique in my issue. and i want you to take that away from this episode you are normal okay sex is weird you are not weird risque means slightly indecent or liable to shock especially by being sexually suggestive risque lifestyle throws the premier lifestyle parties and takeovers in the southern USA that is slightly indecent, liable to shock, and very sexually suggestive. The hosts provide a safe, fun environment for new couples, experienced couples, and everyone in between. The dance floor is open all night long with awesome DJs who can get everyone dancing.
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Sex and sexual connections are a wide range of events, and the spectrum that could be considered in this discussion is big, very big. Wide? I don't know how to properly measure a spectrum. My wife came in while I was writing this episode. We will now share the wisdom of my incredibly beautiful wife right here with no good segue, as she. Everyone is awkward. Even the most extrovert person you know, they feel awkward sometimes. We all wear masks in our interactions with people and it's only when the mask slips that you can know the real person. Everyone questions their normality at some point. Know that everyone is carrying around this concern in their heads all the time. And if everyone is worried about being normal, maybe we should just realize being awkward is normal. Thank you to my beautiful wife. Wondering what am I talking about so far? That's okay, so am I. Let's give you a personal example from Jason's big book of live reality. You ever have sex with another person and you get a little sweaty? Not enough to break a sweat, just damn, tacky. And then your skin sticks to their skins and it makes a noise repeatedly with every motion. This sucking, farting noise from skin sticking to skin. That's the thing I'm talking about. It's weird and it's normal. That means you're having good sex. Some people become self-conscious when their bodies start making this noise. They try to shift positions away from making that noise. Don't embrace it. Yeah, our bodies are tacky and making squishy noises. It's normal. I'm a sweaty person. I fully admit that to all of my listeners around the world. I will break a sweat just looking outside, which I admit when we start in a lifestyle, this caused me a little bit of embarrassment. My wife was used to my liquid affection, but other ladies, not so much. One of our very first encounters, the other wife made a comment that I sweated on her in a slightly disgusted tone. Didn't like that? Nope. Didn't like that at all. All it takes is one person saying one critique to fuck up your head. So for a while there, I was very self-conscious about it until I had another conversation with a different partner. We did the thing with this couple and it was great. I worked up a sweat. I had enthusiasm for what I was doing that night. There was no ramp up. There was no foreplay. I jumped in full barbarian mode because this woman was walking. It still is walking, stunning, beautiful. Tensions have been building for weeks and I unleashed rage and fury that night. I sweat it. I felt self-conscious about it after as my wife and I debriefed. There's a little touch as being self-conscious because I know I sweated on her. We saw this a couple months later and the other wife confided in me that I had helped her unlock a new kink. She learned she finds it very attractive when a man breaks a sweat during sex, like really arousing to her. Talking to other women about this, I found a decent population of women who actually enjoy it. They feel it shows the man is enjoying himself and just giving it all. My takeaway, some people dig it, some people don't. I warn potential partners ahead of time and address any concerns, but this is me. I know me. I know me and my body. If the potential partners have an issue, I'll wear a sweatband. Fuck it. Is it normal to break a sweat during sex? I counter with, is it normal to break a sweat if you're working out? Because I'm bringing that same energy unapologetically to any encounter. Give you another one. Sex position, specifically woman on top. For me, when a woman is on top, I'm going to buck like a fucking bronco. Hips going up and down. I fuck back, I guess you could say. I thought this was normal. I've always done it. My whole life, this was my operating procedure. I have learned it is not normal. It is not a universal guy reaction. Talking to another friend, she told me other men, some other men just don't do that. Some men lay there. Some men just move their hips back and forth. I had no fucking clue. None of these options are wrong. They're just different. Some women like the men to lay there so they can use their hips and do stuff. Others like men to buck back. It's all relative to what the other person enjoys and relative is still normal. But we were vanilla. The only time I saw other men have sex was in porn, which is not realistic at all. Seeing the fucking technique of other men in action in the same room, it's educational. Finding the silver lining here, you can learn new motions and techniques. In the lifestyle, there is an opportunity to debrief with your spouse after an encounter. You can talk about what the other couple did, that you like, that you did not like, thereby giving you feedback on how to pleasure your own spouse better. Your view of normal is ever-evolving in the lifestyle based on being exposed to new sensations. Let's talk about vaginas. Just poor segue right there. Vaginas. I like vaginas. I like all vaginasinas is there one archetype of vagina that could be considered standard one design that is superior to all others one design template that we have all agreed upon is the right kind of vagina fuck no this one irks me on a deeply deeply soulful level i hear from women women who are very comfortable with me that they might be self-conscious about their vaginas, the shape, the shape of it. Maybe the labia minora is too big, or they don't have the Barbie style vagina, you know, where everything's like technically inside. It's all bullshit. Myths perpetuated by porn. I feel a rant coming in. Okay, to my lady listeners, all vaginas are different, just like all peckers are different. There are similarities, but they all have their own unique, beautiful quirks. Some have big clitorises, some have small clitorises, some have more prominent inner lips, others do not. Guess what? I can tell you after an exhaustive study, they all basically feel the same from the inside, and that the same means wonderful. porn perpetuates this idea of a perfect vagina no visible labia smooth hairless like the barbie doll did you know porn producers will digitally remove the visible labia from women before a film is released yeah porn is perpetuating the stereotype then men fucking men will look at porn and think all women should have a certain type of vagina? These are also the kind of men who are super self-conscious about their perfectly normal-sized dicks. Ladies, as long as everything is good to go medically, your vagina's fine. Any man who is close enough to look at it should be fucking happy to get to see it, possibly touch it. He should cheer and be happy. I know I am. This view about what is considered normal down there is not new. It took me a while because I heard this story a long time ago, and I finally found it after a couple of days. John Ruskin was a Victorian art critic. Never take any life advice from someone who can be described with the adjective Victorian. John Ruskin married his wife Euphemia Gray in 1848. Their marriage was annulled in 1854. The legend goes that John, being accustomed to seeing hairless vaginas and art in statues, because I guess carving a bush would be too difficult, John could not accept the fact that his wife had pubic hair. You know, the perfectly normal fucking amount of hair that all humans have between our legs. That's the legend. Is it true? I don't know. It's a good legend, though. And now history remembers John Ruskin as the guy who got freaked out by the normality of the human body. Pretty sure he fucking deserves it. And I guess I need to talk about dicks. I have seen dicks. I have seen big dicks. I have seen not so big dicks. Some of them have big heads. Some of them don't. Some are circumcised. Some are not. Guess what? They're all dicks. They all do the same dick function. If you were worried, your dick is on the small size, as a friend once told me, and I share her wisdom here, your tongue works. before i move on to other topics i need to put our reass i need to put out some reassurance about menstruation. It happens perfectly fucking normal and natural for a woman to have a monthly cycle. We are adults here and aware of how the female body works, or at least you should. Ladies, please don't feel bad if you have to cancel a date because your cycle shows up. You don't have to apologize. Or maybe you start spotting during a play session. We all, as a community, need to give grace on this one. Please. No woman should feel bad or dirty because her body is doing a natural function. Periods are good because it means you're not pregnant. Ha ha. Silver lining. Like, I don't have a uterus, but I know periods can be brutal and gnarly, and most people do not feel sexy that week. And I'm going to put a random advert drop right here. If you didn't know this, there is a medication that is available that can delay a woman's cycle by up to 10 days. It exists. It is a good solution if you have a vacation coming up or a really intense play date. You can find the link for Hello Wisp in the show notes. Go check them out. Cue dramatic voiceover to get your attention. Are you ready to upgrade your lifestyle? Whether you are looking for the best products, essentials for unforgettable nights, or just want to know what works in the world of ethical non-monogamy and swinging, That Other Lifestyle has got you covered. At Benable.com slash That Other Lifestyle, you will find the must-have items to enhance your lifestyle journey. From sexy and sensual to practical and playful, these are the products personally recommended by this podcast. No more guesswork. 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Clean it up and decide if everyone wants to proceed or stop. There's no right answer to whether to continue. The only wrong answer is if a dude or someone in the group decides to be a little bitch and make a big deal out of it. Another random thought. Lingerie. I propose there is no way to remove lingerie in a sexy manner. It is normal to fight and tug and tug on lacy panties. And lacy panties will always get stuck on your shoes when you go to take them off. And you think, aha, you think there's this movie one time where a lady took off her super complicated strappy lingerie in one move, swipe and gone. You saw that. You remember seeing that. I refute your assertion by saying that shit was choreographed. They practiced that way in advance and tried many times to get it right. Sharing real life experiences with. T-shirts, pants, underwear, yeah, those are all easy to take off. Socks, though, I'm swerving with my topics today. Socks, on or off during sex, I don't know the consensus here. Some ladies say no, a man cannot leave his socks on, others don't care. Dudes, the long tube socks that go up to your knees, hate to tell you this, are not sexy. You may have to wear those if you're in a cold environment. They are not sexy, though. You should probably take them off. The calf socks and maybe the ankle shoe socks, I don't know the technical name for socks, those might be okay. Maybe you have cold feet. I know some women with insanely cold feet that like to shove them onto my shoulders during sex. Think about that position. Yeah, and it's fucking cold. Sometimes socks give you a little extra traction on hardwood floors. All that to say, if your socks go above your calf, take them off. Clothing. Taking clothes off in a sexy manner. From personal experience, lingerie is fucking complicated to take off in the heat of the moment. Don't get it twisted. Lingerie is amazing. Sexy, lacy, skimpy little outfit, peak fuckability right there. Getting a woman out of a stretchy net, because that's what the fuck it is. It is a stretchy net. In practice, not so easy. It's complicated because you have to respect the garment. Be careful here. Do not pull any part of it too hard or rip it. Woe unto thee, thou who disrespects the lingerie. Taking off lingerie should be a sensual experience. Slow, deliberate, not removed in a rush in a hurry. Ladies, it may cross your mind that you are not very graceful when you remove your lingerie. Here's the secret. No one is. Can you imagine if dudes had to wear lingerie and had tried to get the fuck out of that? Been around the world and I can tell you, no one is graceful. No one is judging you for your ability to take off your clothes. They're happy to be in the room with you and it's all part of the experience. Clothing will fail you, just like technology will always fail you. Technology will always find a way to fuck up your fun and that's kind of normal actually. Sex toys, speakers, and Watchers, sex toys will fail you. Technology will always find a way to fuck up your fun. And that's kind of normal, actually. Sex toys, speakers, and watches. Sex toys will fail you. Friendly reminder here, go charge up your sex toys. You have been forgetting to do it and you will need them very soon, so go charge them when you get home. Sex toys are great. Anything electronic, though, can fail you. Especially, especially when a person is right there on the edge, hanging on the edge of the roller coaster before full-on orgasm. I think sex toys have a sensor in them to know how close you are, and they cut off right at that moment. Speaking of cutting off as well, speakers. Fucking Bluetooth speakers. The damn things can work perfectly for weeks. You could use it every day, 10 hours a day, but when you need it for a sex party, won't connect. Again, technology has decided that moment. They don't want to work anymore. You really don't need background music to your orgy. Then the next day, what the fuck, it works fine. Happened to me. Always have a backup speaker. Finally, watches. Fucking watches. Jason, what is your problem with watches? They've been around for hundreds of years. Yes, though, it has only been the past few years that humans, in our infinite fucking wisdom, have connected watches to our phones, which means you can have a whole conversation through your watch. Other people can hear the noises going on around you through your watch. Let's say sexy time is starting up. Everyone leaves their phones in another room and migrates to a room with a bed. The fuckery starts and then someone's watch buzzes because they're getting a phone call. A phone call from their kid they have to take. A little human that they are legally bound to take care of. Kids have an uncanny, unnatural ability to interrupt the fun at the best or worst possible moment. I don't have kids, but I have it on good authority that kids, they're all issued a Ouija board that guides them to the absolute perfect moment to call. It might be super innocent, like, can I have pizza for dinner? Or it might be something serious, like, hey, my little brother is vomiting. It happens. Is it normal for children to throw off a date or a sexy event or even a conversation? Yep, perfectly normal. Yes, your children have terrible timing. All children have terrible timing. Don't sweat it. Most people in the lifestyle get it. Kids are important. Making sure your kids are okay is more important. Don't get angry. Do not get embarrassed. Shit happens. We create these ideas of what is normal outside the lifestyle and then bring them into the lifestyle with us. There's very little normal about the lifestyle though. I never thought I would be completely comfortable in a room with 10 naked people. I never thought I would do a podcast about fucking people I meet on the internet. Let's dive deep down that rabbit hole. The internet. Online communication. Here's a tip. Everyone sucks at it. Everyone thinks they are the worst text or chat or online persona out there. No one is sure what to say. No one is smooth in text conversations. Texting lacks so many nuances of human communication, like body language and tone and inflection. It is very easy for an innocent statement to be misinterpreted. I can't even say if this is a generational thing. You would assume people under 30 would be better at digital communication because they grew up with it, but nope, they're not. We all suck at it. And then you got nudes. Nudes are amazing. They are fantastic. I don't care if the lighting is bad and you can torture your body into a weird shape to get the exact right angle for that picture. I'm just happy to see nudity. And I promise whoever gets that nude, they're happy to see that nudity too. Don't stress out over your nudes. I promise they are great. Spinning back to what is normal. It is normal in the lifestyle to send other people's nudes. You can't do that in the vanilla world. We in the lifestyle, that's an example that we in the lifestyle create our own definition, a semblance Let's nudes. You can't do that in the vanilla world. We in the lifestyle, that's an example that we in the lifestyle create our own definition, a semblance of normality that can be totally weird to outside observers. Talking about sex and normality, what happens, I'll tell you what happens, is a couple who have been together for years, they settle into a routine of normal sex. I say that in air quotes. They know what the other person enjoys, and they do that repeatedly because it works. Maybe your husband enjoys lick, suck, flick, poke, lick, and then you get into the lifestyle and you're exposed to other people and their sexual desires and styles. Opens up a whole new world. You may encounter a man who enjoys sick, flick, suck, flick, poke, lick, suck, while the other guy likes lick, suck, lick, flick, poke. I think I said all that, right? Anyway, that's a talent. Tell your friends about this show and the high-class content I offer like suck, flick, poke, lick, suck. We create our own definitions of what is normal, reinforced by the views of others. In the end, it's still up to us to decide what is normal for us. I thought I was the only person with abcrams till I asking around and I sweat during sex. So now the option is wear a headband or we're all getting fucking wet. Where does this idea of what is normal for sex come from? Those ideas have to originate somewhere. That somewhere is two extremes, I think, and maybe a little line in the middle. I think our sexual styles, wands, patterns are formed around our late teen years and early 20s. I know for most people, your musical taste is locked in around 16, 17, 18. Think about it. Do you still listen to the same genre of music as your teenage self? I do. I still smile when corn comes on the radio, be it sex ed, socialization, relationships. A lot of our sexual ideas are locked in by our late 20s. The other factor is porn for those who watch it, and porn gives a very distorted view of reality. It's made to be consumed and will often go to interesting and great lengths, places, in order to keep you watching. Dudes, I need to do this disclaimer. Dudes, we need to talk about this. Choking. Don't choke people. I know porn makes it seem like women like choking. Don't choke women without asking first. That's just one example of what porn does. Not all women will scream and holler when they orgasm. Some women are really quiet. Some dudes are really fucking loud when they come. These are all distortions that influence what your personal idea of normal is. And the third point somewhere on that spectrum is probably your spouse. Like I mentioned earlier, their sexual preferences are a big consideration that people bring into the lifestyle. They think, well, my husband really likes it when I give his dick a toothy blowjob. Ergo, therefore, ipsofaxo, all men must like that. They do not. You are not weird. There is a misconception that we as individual unique beings see our personal foibles, idiosyncrasies, and experiences as unique and special to us. On one level, yeah, that's true. On the other hand, on the other level, they're not. You are not the first person in human history to experience an ab cramp or sweat during sex or really like armpits or feet. I have an outlook on technology that transfers to this metaphor, analogy, representation of the human condition. Look, if your computer is doing something squarely like it's possessed by a pissed-off Victorian ghost and will only show cat videos no matter what website you go to, you're going to try to fix it. You'll most likely go to a search engine and type in possessed computer and cat videos to see what pops up. You're going to find a guide on how to fix it or a helpful post from someone who had the same issue. The internet gives us a window in the ability to connect with people about the same issue. I say in air quotes, issue. No, you are not alone in this. You were perfectly normal and at least one other person out there experiences the same thing, thereby normalizing it. Speaking of concepts that you were not alone in, got to touch on this. Fetishes and kinks. Everyone has a fetish and kink. Some are more extreme than others. Some are downright tame in comparison. Everyone. You, me, your neighbor, that random guy follow you in traffic right now. We all have desires for certain sexual concepts that we find arousing. There are very few kinks or fetishes that I will look at and say, nope, shouldn't do that. There's a line in my mind of a fetish being too far. Short of that line, sky's the limit. If you enjoy balloons, get to popping. If you enjoy feet, get to sniffing. I'm not here to judge anybody. As long as it is consensual and safe, go for it. You are not the only person on this planet that enjoys your fetish and kink. If it has a name, I promise there's someone out there who is into the same thing you are. You are not alone in your sexual experiences. You are not the first person to experience a sensation, a desire, a want, or a bodily function. Other people have experienced it too and will experience it in the future. I was reminded of all this by asking random men if they have ab cramps during sex. Yeah, I had something outside of the norm happen to me. Turns out I am not alone. You're not alone. You were not weird. You were normal enough to be a part of the lifestyle. I always appreciate hearing your feedback and comments on episodes or suggestions for topics, so feel free to reach out to me at host at thatotherlifestyle.com. My website is thatotherlifestyle.com. Personal disclaimer here, I'm not a medical professional nor a trained and certified educator of any kind in any way. I am a guy with a microphone sharing my personal experiences with you. This podcast is for entertainment purposes only, and please join us for the next episode. Remember, STI testing is important and takes a community to make a difference. Go to stdhero.com and use my promo code TOL10 for 10% off your order. Whatever you do today,
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