Welcome to The Swinging Single Podcast with host AC Maxwell, where we explore the exciting and adventurous world of swinging. In today's episode, we delve into the topic of creating a yes, no, maybe list with your swinging partner. Join us as we navigate the complexities of open relationships, set boundaries, and explore new experiences together. Tune in for insightful discussions, expert advice, and personal stories to help you and your partner navigate the thrilling journey of swinging.
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Ladies and gentlemen, welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell. Today's show is nothing short of scantilating as we dive into the intriguing world of the swinger lifestyle dynamics.
We're about to embark on an eye-opening and a mind-expanding exploration into a topic that's at the very core of open and honest communication among like-minded individuals the creation of a swingers yes no maybe list as we venture into the captivating topic we'll unravel the intricacies of established establishing boundaries fostering open communication and nurturing adventurous spirits within the realm of swinger relationships whether Whether you're a seasoned swinger or someone who is contemplating taking that exhilarating plunge into the world of consensual non-monogamy, this episode is designed to enlighten, educate, and inspire.
In this exciting and thought-provoking episode, AC Me Maxwell will guide you through the art of crafting a comprehensive yes, no, maybe list that serves as a cornerstone for exploring shared desires, setting boundaries, and uniting the flames of trust and understanding. Through candid conversations, expert insights, and real-life stories, you'll gain viable wisdom and practical advice that will empower you to navigate the observating terrain of swinger dynamics and confidence and respect.
Join us as we embark on a journey of self-discovery, mutual exploration and the meaningful connections that define the swinging lifestyle. AC Maxwell and our esteemed guests who are, will not be here today. We'll dive into the nuances of desire, fantasy and the art of navigating the intricacies of consensual non-monogamy of grace and authenticity.
So grab your favorite beverage, settle into a comfortable spot, and get ready to unlock the secrets of creating swingers, yes, no, maybe, less, that not only reflects your deepest desires, but also fosters a deeper connection with your partner or partners. Get ready to be inspired, informed, and enlightened as the Swinging Single Podcast takes you on a captivating odyssey into a world of open relationships, free-spirited exploration, and the electrifying journey toward a more fulfilling, intimate connections. It's time to dive into the heart of the swingers' lifestyles with A.C.
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By listening to the Swinging Single podcast, you acknowledge that you have read and understand this disclaimer and agree to its terms shave your cock and balls gentlemen the swinging single podcast oh yeah we're at the swinging single podcast we're live from the up that upside down pineapple studios here in great state of texas we're here partying looking having a nice great time here oh yeah so we're going to talk about the yes no maybe list that swingers all swingers should have uh either they're veterans or they're just starting out so before we would like to tell you go to swing and single podcast.com get all things ac get all my new podcasts any specials i might do or anything like that or go to doobie help out guys you know gentle ladies you're at the club it's 2 a.m you need that little extra kick to get that one last nut well take some doobie energy doobie energy drinks is great for that purpose again that cock rock hard and ready to ready to rip another nut and ladies it gets your man going to get your nut of nuts so go to doobie.gg put in swinging single as a promo code and receive some awesome prizes and awesome um uh price all Doobie's energy drinks.
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I'm sure come and hang out out at your club give an honest review and all that great stuff and all that so do you possess a yes no maybe list for swinging activities i know i did i don't really have one anymore but are you familiar with its purposes purpose and why it is important to have one well we'll address these inquiries and guide you through the process of creating a yes no maybe list for swinging activities starting tonight or today whenever you decide to download this awesome podcast remember swingersinglepodcast.com yes no maybe lists are beneficial for both swinger couples and swing single swingers Thank you.
com yes no maybe lists are beneficial for both swinger couples and swing single swingers you know you got to have that thing where you're talking about what should i want to do what i want to get out of this multi-cock festival what i want to get out of this multi-pussy festival and all that do i want to have just inhibited threesomes gang bangs orgies glory whole fun porn theater fun public sex fun who knows what you want that's why you got to come up with this list so begin compelling compiling your yes no maybe list for swinging activities today or tonight you can express your gratitude later and you should send one send it say thank you, Mr nice little swig of coke right there the beverage not the thing firstly let's examine precisely what a yes no list is and all that great stuff and what it entails what are we talking about what the hell are you talking about ac i'm talking about a list that says what i want to do when i'm in the club getting freaky yo get my freak on get my freak on yeah so understanding the concept of a yes no maybe list a yes no maybe list is essentially a straightforward concept it involves compiling a list of things or events or places where you mark the yes box if you are eager to engage in or visit them.
Like you're a new couple, you want to maybe venture out and have a little spice in your sex life. Maybe you want to do it in public. Maybe you want to do it in a park. Maybe you want to do it in a club. Maybe you want to visit a sex club. Check the yes box. Conversely, you mark the no box for things you wish to avoid. While the maybe box is for items you are uncertain about or hesitant to commit to. Sorry, guys. Yeah, it's one of those things. The maybe box is, well, I'm not experienced yet, but, you know, having a threesome, having a foursome might interest me later on.
Let's see how we do with public sex first and all that stuff. And you have to know, I don't want to have sex with another woman. You don't want to have a sex with another guy. You don't want to swap or anything. You just want to be a voyeur, exhibitionist type of couple. That's good. Single, same thing. You don't know about if you can get split roasted ladies.
You don't know good single same thing you don't know about if you can get split roasted ladies you don't know that yet or you don't know if you can eat a pussy out and stuff like that so those so you're gonna have some no's in there but you know what those no's could later turn on into yeses so like i said if you swing along enough like mr ac over here 26 six years and counting, your no's will sometimes become yes's. So you can customize various types of yes's, no, maybe list, for different purposes, such as travel or activities.
Today, our focus is on discussing the yes, no, maybe list, designed for swingers to create and enjoy. Anders you will enjoy this episode so sit back relax take a sip of wine and enjoy the sound of my sexy voice swinger yes no maybe list can be crafted by both couples and the individuals within the lifestyle for couples the process typically involves creating the list together and then individually marking the boxes based on personal preferences. Now, you could do it together, which I think would be a great thing because that really opens up lines of communication.
Remember, do not get upset if you don't agree on a yes list. There might be some things. Your wife might want to get tag-teamed by two guys. You don't want to see her get tag-teamed by two guys because you don't got a pussy because you bring small dick energy. All right, so don't get mad if she wants that. Just say, and that's where you're going to have to have a nice little talk and chat and all that and say, hey, honey, I want this and all that. So you're going to have to learn how to compromise and all that. But yes,no list.
Now, you could also do something funny like make it a creative game. Do it where you both do an individual list and you come together and you talk about what your yeses are and noes and maybes are.
So this exercise allows partners to identify mutual interests, explore potential boundaries, and gain insight to each other's desires these lists can range from mild to adventurous catering to unique preferences of each person or couple yep sounds like a good time right now that sounds like a good way to do foreplay gentlemen you know we don't like you just want to stick it in smack it up slip it down oh no yes we just want to slip it in this would be a good foreplay on a saturday night you have a bottom line you're out by a fire it's a nice cool saturday night and you just talk about what you want what fantasies you have what are your interests in this sexual revolution that you have so the importance of having a swinger yes no maybe list the benefits of having a swingers yes no maybe list are numerous and varied while the list of advantages can be extensive here are some key reasons why creating such a list is beneficial it facilitates understanding of your partner's preferences and interests minimizing misunderstandings and ensuring mutual enjoyment that could be one that's very important because you know you want to know what your partner is like when i take a girl to a club and we all i mean if you knew or you you're a veteran listening to me uh for a long time for the past year now you would know i prefer you know taking my girl out to have sex with other men while i watch and participate but i always ask a girl girl, like, you know, what type of guys are you into, things like that, because I want to know.
And this way, if you have this yes-no list, you can understand where your wife is coming from or where your husband is coming from, and you know what to look for when you guys are out and about on the town and having this crazy wild sex life.
So this provides a platform to share fantasies and desires with your partner openly like i said you can't get mad when your partner has a fantasy that you may not want to do uh or something like that you know it's it's going to be okay you that's why you got to talk it out maybe no you know what guys your wife might not want to have a threesome with another girl. But guess what? Five years down the road, she might want to be buried knee-deep in pussy and you're there having a great time. So you just don't know what the future is going to hold. All right. Let's see what else.
It enhances communication within your relationship, particularly regarding sexual aspects and the swinger lifestyle.
a lot of swingers are not very uh you know we we try to be honest as much as possible but sometimes some couples are just not that honest you know you go to a lot of clubs and resorts like me i go to and i see a lot of you know douchebaggery on both the male and female part of a couple you see some of the times you know like i said i had one club i went to and the guy was with the girl beautiful woman he would go in the back of the rooms trying to get his dick sucked by all the couples while she sat out there in front now i thought well maybe this is one of those single guy where he brings a girl in let's get in and all that so he could fuck around no she was sucking his dick out in the you know over on the couch and all that so she was down the fuck so she was dtf So, let's get in and all that so he could fuck around no she was sucking his dick out you know over on the couch and all that so she was down the fuck so she was DTF well that dude you know was getting his dick sucked by some girl in the back he's always looking to where the room is so he could see his girl coming and all that so what once he saw his girl he stopped up and he walked away and acted like nothing was happening that's douchebaggery right there and that's not uh open communication it didn't enhance anything so you know but then you know what they probably just fuck buddies who knows it encourages exploration of a new sexual experience and activities fostering excitement and novelty in your intimate life it compact it combats the monotony in a long-term relationship by introducing fresh ideals and possibilities yes it all gets stale guys seven years you know think about having a big mac every day of your life for seven years then all of a sudden someone puts a filet mignon right in front of your face fuck you're gonna take it and it's exciting just the taste and all that it's all exciting people love it and people go crazy and that's why we have a lot of couples they do swinger burnout because holy shit this is awesome this is a great lifestyle we're fucking we're doing all this crazy ass shit then finally they get burned out because that's all they're doing it's like a fucking drug sometimes all right oh look at two two people from switch twitch are on wow big ratings for my live show you can always see my live show you know on twitter instagram facebook yada all that it encourages discussions about deeper fantasies strengthening the emotional intimacy and trust.
It will deepen your knowledge of your partner's sexual desires and boundaries. Yeah, that's very fucking true. Think about it. You got to really have, talk to your girl. You got to talk to your man, say, this is what I want. This is what I need. And you are a better person for it. You know what your life wants. You know what she needs and all that.
And and there you go you're there to give it to her remember guys you're allowing her to have that pleasure so there shouldn't be any jealousy on your part now there might be a little jealousy because a guy whips out a 10 inch cock or something like that but the jealousy with her should not be should be very minimum because, she, in the end of the day, she's going home with you. She's not going home with that couple or that guy or that single female. She's going to be going home with you.
And she should be very thankful that you allowed her to have those multiple orgasms that, in reality, she would have never had the chance to receive if you haven't approved it. So you really get to know your partner more when you're swinging. This also has...
had the chance to receive if you haven't approved it so you really get to know your partner more when you're swinging this also heightens sexual satisfaction and rinkindles passion between partners yes a lot of couples just go i know couples that just go they never fuck next episode i'll talk about going to miami the past weekend but there was a couple there and a guy told me they don't fuck anybody they just fuck in front of everybody and all that there are couples out there like that where they don't play with no one they just go to the club they tease they fuck each other at the club they tease everybody else and they do it for their sex life and they're talking about hey when they're going home and fucking you see that one couple they were so hot you know that one guy was fucking hot he wanted to fuck you hard and all that stuff and it's a game for them and that's okay go out and have fun it's your sex life it's your uh relationship you go out do what you do you all right it allows for safe and gradual exploration of new sexual territory bisexual side for both the male and female yes we, we still got to talk.
Remember, we got to talk about bi males. There are more bi males. More males are being comfortable saying they're bi. They don't mind sucking dick. They don't mind getting their dick sucked. They don't mind fucking in the asshole of a guy or getting fucked in the ass, you know? You see a lot of them now. And you know what?
It's just going to get bigger people are very accepted when i was in when i first started if you were caught fucking another dude they banned you from that club for life or whatever however long the club was going to be open they would ban you and it was kind of fucked up that's why i always laugh at when couples talk or swingers talk well swinging's all-inclusive no it's not by male bi males, single males are very left out of the swinger lifestyle, and you know, it's true, you don't want to admit it, even though you don't want to admit it, you know it's true, swinging is an exclusive place, couples mostly, single females are always welcome, single males, you're tolerated, bi males, you're not wanted, and it's kind of fucked up.
And I don't like it and all that stuff. But you know what? It is what it is. It clarifies your partner's comfort levels and boundaries, promoting respect and consent in sexual interactions. All right, good. Thank you to all my followers watching my live podcast. Thank you. These are just a few benefits of creating a swinger yes, no, maybe list together. The advantages extend far beyond the points mentioned above. Before delving into the practical steps of creating your list, let's address potential challenges you may encounter during the process and while utilizing lists.
Now what I always find out, what's the problem? Most problem is people are not honest with each other. They hold back. Remember, whatever you say in this process, you should not hold it against your partner. And this is why. If you decide, hey, let's think about swinging, you know, and you come up with a list, you go, what do you want to do? And you get upset because he or she wants to do something that you think is totally outrageous and all that. What do you think is going to happen when next time he or she comes up with something?
She's worried about that blowback he or she's going to get because they're worried about what you're going to say so you got to be very calm very relaxed so only do this list when you are relaxed you're stress-free maybe on a vacation where you're not worried about fucking work you're not worried about the kids you're having a great time do it on a vacation go away for a weekend get everything out of your head and come up with this list I'll see you next time.
fucking work you're not worried about the kids you're having a great time do it on the vacation go away for a weekend get everything out of your head and come up with this list because if you're upset about something like you go home you have a shitty day at work your kids are assholes uh the teacher at school says your kids are fucking fucking stupid and you got all this stuff and you're trying to make a list and something might irk you about that list. You might overreact.
So watch how you react to when your partner tells you about a fantasy or a sexual situation they want to experience in the lifestyle. Because later on down the road, that might affect that person saying, hey, I really want to do this because they're scared of what you're going to say. So that one of the, I think that's the biggest challenge I do predict will be for most of you. So the challenges in creating and utilizing a swinger yes, no, maybe list.
When embarking on the creation of a sexually oriented yes, no, maybe list with a partner, it's important to acknowledge that and anticipate potential challenges. By being prepared to address these issues proactively, you can navigate them effectively. Below are some common challenges you might encounter. Number one, vulnerability. Sharing intimate preferences with your partner may leave you feeling exposed and vulnerable, especially in these aspects of your desires, have not been previously disclosed.
Yeah, it's very, even when you're married, it's going to be tough to open up to your partner and say, hey, you know, I want to have a threesome with another female. Well, your wife might think, am I not female enough for you? Say, Dane, a male, you want to have a threesome with a male?
Well i not big enough for you stuff like that guys yeah i would always i always thought what guys would be you know the biggest ones about this but no it's probably the women you know self-consciousness is is very big in the lifestyle we're always self-conscious you know when i first started you know you look at guys dicks and go damn that guy's bigger than me there's no way i could compete with that and you just learn over the time it's the motion of the it's the motion of the ocean that's going to really rock these bitches girl these girls lives and all that so you know you just got to do what you got to do so being vulnerable the vulnerability is very uh scary for a lot of people because you're opening yourself up to a Pandora's box and you might not like what's inside Pandora's box.
You also might have too the difficulty of opening up. Expressing your sexual wants and desires to your partner may prove challenging leading to you know being hesitant or having ambitions and communication. Like I said when this list, when you do this list, do not do it at a bad time in your life. Do it when you're in a great mood, you're having fun. Maybe you have a sip of grandpa's cough syrup a couple of times before you hit up on this list Because, you know, people are going to be scared. You're also going to be three. And this is one of the things chokes on Dick, my friend.
She always has. Three is fear of judgment. The fear of negative reactions from your partner might lead to hesitation in adding certain elements to the list. Out of concern for potential disapproval or discomfort. Like my girlfriend. She, good friend, good person. I'll see you next time.
certain elements to the list out of concern for potential disapproval or discomfort like my girlfriend she good friend good person but she always has fair judgment she loves to fuck and fuck everything but like i said she's fair she's worried about what some fucking lady that she doesn't even know or ladies that she does know will think of her after she met you know she takes 20 dicks at the club but i always tell her go who the fuck are you telling that you went to a fucking sex club who are you telling that you're fucking all these people you know i'm just like i don't understand i like i i go babe i love i love you're a great friend but jesus you you're really too much in your head because you have this fair judgment from other people that have no effect on you at all.
Only person you got to worry about is you and their partners. And are you telling people, are you going to work saying, Hey, yeah, I just got game banged by five guys in Las Vegas or something like that, that you're not telling me. She says, no. So why are you worried about what some lady and another swinger club is? And she's worried like the girls at the club. I'm like, what are you worried about the girls at the club? The girls at the club are there for the same reason. They want pussy and cock themselves. You just want strictly dick. And that's fine. They're not going to be mad at you.
They're not going to be judging you. Well, they probably will be judging you, but we all judge everybody. But, you know, why does their opinion matter when it's your life you got to live? So being scared of judgment is a big one for a lot of people. Number four, embarrassment. The act of sharing your sexual desires with your partner could invoke feelings of embarrassment or self-consciousness. Is my dick not big enough? Is my pussy too loose? Things like that. People are embarrassed. Yeah, I want to get split roasted by two dudes. Yeah. So, and all that.
So it's kind of, you know, you just got to reinforce your partner that is nothing is embarrassing. Nothing is off the table. We got to talk about it all. Number five, unwanted revelations. Learning about your partner's past experience or preferences, particularly those referencing previous sexual partners, might be unsettling and welcoming. Now, I would have this where I would start dating a girl. She knows I'm a swinger and all that shit. I love to swing and all that. You all know that. And they tell me, well, you know, I'm not into swinging. That's okay, fine. I liked a girl.
If I really like a girl i could stop swinging if i fall in love with her i could really stop swinging so you know there's been times where i met with some girls and i was just but not i was monogamous with them for a while well to come find out when you talk about your shit your past experiences they were having threesomes in college with other dudes and other girls and when i confront them about it go say hey so why is it okay for you to fuck some douchebag and fuck your a girl with her have a threesome with a girl and a threesome with another guy but if i ask you to go fuck another guy for me you are all you know you know you're not all for it you're like hell no you are against it you do it for some strength some dude that does it doesn't love you don't care about you but you say you love me and you won't do it for me you know so I was just asked now I already knew the relationship is going to be over because like i said if you're going to do shit in your past and you're going to sit there criticize me for what i do and you did the same shit we're not going to make it we never none of us ever make we didn't make it out of the relationship but i just wanted to know that simple question i just wanted to hear what they would have to say and all that because you know it is kind of heartbreaking when you find out oh she was a freaking college but now she's all you know june cleaver on my ass and you know i don't want june cleaver i want fucking jenna jameson the whore i don't want that you know i want a nice dirty girl and i want a freak in the sheets and a lady in the streets so number six uncertainty and responses you may find yourself unassured of how to address certain items your partner has marked as yes on the list like I said you've got to be very careful when you are making this list that you're not in a bad mood you're in a good place in your life in your relationship because if that person you had the wrong reaction to someone's yes list you could potentially destroy your possibility of swinging and you don't want to do that because you know what I'm going to tell you something outside of the sex the sex is fucking awesome in the swingers lifestyle but just the lifestyle itself going to you know going to a club going to a resort and just being able to be yourself around other people who don't really give a fuck either can you imagine your wife showing off her body at walt disney world and all that the shit that women get especially as we get older 40 year old 40 50 year olds you go to a swingers resort these 40 year old women are fucking they look good they don't look bad now they got mileage on them like all of us will have mileage and or do have mileage they're in the little micro thongs or showing off their titties and all that you can imagine doing that somewhere else where people are not telling you to cover up it's not right you got big bw's walk around with thongs on naked titties out sun's out buns out you want to see that and because people are self-conscious but you go to those places swinger resorts you're having a great time you know that's why you why, you know, I think, you need a lot of couple of people, you need a lot of idiot.
You can be a wise ass. No, they don't care. They don't care. They don't talk about you or what not. But you know what? They're fucking doing the same thing. They can't really talk that much shit in the first place. Because guess what? At night, their wife's getting hammered by a bunch of black dudes. So what? So what? Who cares? Just have fun, guys. Don't worry about other people's opinions of you. Communication. Number seven, communication challenges. Difficulty in understanding or responding to your partner's sexual desires may arise, leading to potential miscommunication or discomfort.
So if you and your partner, if you encounter challenges related to sharing your sexual wants desires or fantasies with your partner it may be beneficial to seek additional guidance like from a professional consider exploring related articles uh searching on related go to google do some shit like that go to reddit reddit's pretty good Our resources to help navigate to overcome these obstacles effectively. Always seek professional help. And if you do, Google therapists that specialize in swingers. Because you'll be surprised.
There are actually therapists out there that do work with swinging couples. you know it could help you who knows i don't know maybe maybe not anyways let's continue on the maybe list so guidelines for developing your swingers lifestyle yes no maybe list to begin crafting your swinger yes no maybe list i recommend. I recommend utilizing a word, you know, maybe like a spreadsheet, Microsoft spreadsheet, something like that. A text editor on your computer or somewhere as you can keep it in written down. No.
Somewhere safe, not out in the open where your kids can click on it and see mom and dad's fuck list but something like that this always allows you for easily to print out copies of the list when needed if you need one alternately you can opt to use a spreadsheet program for organization microsoft excel it's advisable to maintain a simple layout to keep the experience enjoyable and stress-free. Yeah, don't go fucking brainstorm. I don't know. Maybe you want to have a fancy little spreadsheet. Fine, do it. But it doesn't have to be. Just write it down somewhere. It's right on a sheet of paper.
Actually, no.
Actually, I would recommend just writing it on a computer or your cell phone in a secret spot where only you and the wife will know about it or your husband knows so start by brainstorming along with you your partner to generate ideals for your list consider having both partners create their individual lists before emerging merging them into a combined version you have the freedom to include both broad and specific entries on your list begin with general items and later specify detailed components for you for the cat for these categories marked as yes by both individuals after compelling your list merge them to create a master list next insert columns alongside each item to indicate preferences such as yes, no, or maybe.
For additional customization, consider incorporating extra columns based on your preferences. Examples may include conditional. Include this column if certain list entries require specific conditions for which from a no to a yes. If conditions are unclear or numerous it may simpler simply be better to mark it as no now fantasy only create a column dedicated to fantasies that arouse you but are currently reserved for imaginary exploration this allows for flexibility to revisit and update entries as desires evolve now listen, listen, I always tell you guys this, and you should listen.
Sometimes the reality of it is not as good as the fantasy. The fantasy is more fun than the reality of doing it. How many times, couples, have you met online? A couple, you talk and talk, and you finally decide to meet up, and the couple ghosts you. I just had that happen this week where, you know, I met a young couple. They were talking all about it. We want to meet twice a week, so you go fuck my wife and all that. And now, past week, I haven't heard anything from them and all that.
They just ghosteded me so like i said they whoever is behind that keyboard typing back at you they might love the react the fantasy of having his those two of them partner swapping with you as the other couple but when it really comes down to it they can't just do it so you know you got to be very careful so sometimes when you want to talk about this when you're making your list make sure you are able to watch your partner with another man or another woman and if you can't maybe it should be kept in the fantasy column uh for everybody's sakes for your relationship's sake and for the club not having any drama's sake so with a foundational understanding of constructing a swinger yes no maybe list you are now equipped to enhance and tailor the content to suit your preferences so inspiration and examples of your swinger yes no list here we call here we go with the good shit here are some suggested uh general items to consider including your list these are some of them what i would have oh i have had engage in a male female male female male threesome so that's two dudes one female also engage in a female male female threesome the opposite two females all right your boy ac has done a fucking buttload ton of male female male threesomes and i have done a ton of gang bangs and all that orgies and all that so you know i'm experienced so i you know you can do that if you want to do a female, male threesome to participate in separate room activities with swap partners.
I talked about swapping versus same room sex in the past episodes. You might want to do that for whatever reasons you have. Three, visit an on-premise swingers club. Those are the best clubs to go to.
You know, I never understood When I started out swinging When I started out swinging, gentlemen Ladies and gentlemen There used to be off-premise clubs Where you could go to a club And nothing would happen there So you just sit around Have your dick in your hand And your fucking hand on your pussy And no one could fucking know anything You had to go find a hotel, pay for a hotel room, the fuck and all that. And that was the shittiest, shittiest places to go to. And I hated them because in Detroit, most of the clubs are like that. A lot of the places are like that.
You get a hotel takeover once in a while, great times. But no, it just sucks. And I love on-premise. On-premise is the only way to go.
So if you're thinking about swinging, make sure you go to on premises clubs how about four take part in an orgy those are very fun be safe five witness others engage in sexual activities i think this is probably one of the biggest ones that a lot of people have because you know i see it a lot at these clubs in houston and dallas and san antonio where people are just standing around and watching other people fuck you know i always thought sex was fun and great and all that so i want to participate in it i don't want to watch it six allow others to observe your intimate moments a lot of people want to be watched especially newbies newbies it's this this might be a good one for you to start off with because you can see what happens.
See if it tickles your fancy. Seven, watch your partner engage in sexual activities with another individual. That's one of the things I love to do. I love watching my partner with other people. I'm not participating.
I get to sit back, relax, and watch and have a good old time and watch her go get her big o so additionally here are specific items that you may want to incorporate one witness my partner engaging in a male female male threesome while engaging self-stimulation that's jacking off i do that all the time when i'm with my girl and we find two guys she can fuck and, you know, I'll be just watching jacking off. Having a great little time in the corner. Two, visit the on-premise swingers clubs and engage in sexual activities with a completely unknown partner.
That's a lot of times that happens in the swingers, especially when you go to Florida and you go to one of the clubs there, a lot of travelers, so you get a lot of of wham bam thank you ma'ams down there and i think that's why the florida clubs are usually the best and vegas clubs three observe from a distance while your partner interacts flirtatiously with other swingers four securely restrain and blindfold your partner on the bed and introduce others to participate in pleasuring them alongside you.
Now, make sure your partner knows that you're going to add more people because when you restrain and you blindfold someone, the senses, all the other senses that remain are heightened.
So it might be a great way, but don't sit and say, hey, babe, I'm going'm gonna tie you up then you let a bunch of dudes inside and to train your girl i don't think that's not cool make sure she knows you got to have consent gentlemen make sure you all have consent ladies you too you need consent too five be securely restrained and blindfolded on the bed while your partner invites others to engage in pleasuring activities with you. All right.
So make sure you have that permission and make sure she knows or he knows that there's going to be others on his dick or others inside her pussy because there is nothing like a boner killer than a pissed off woman in the middle of a gangbang orgy or a swingers club there is no definitive list of right or wrong items to include all right these are just my items that i researched and talked and looked at i read articles about over the years and i put them together allow your creativity to flourish making the process enjoyable as you generate items for the list feel free to be as general and specific as you desired if you don't you don't it don't matter you're going to be okay so guidance for implementing your swinger yes no maybe list excuse me it is now time to dive into the exhilarating yet occasionally daunting task of putting your swinger list slinger yes no maybe list into action remember there are no strict rules on how to proceed feel free to adapt the method outlined below to create your own unique approach so you want to maybe want to start by printing out a couple copies of your list.
Share one with your partner, retain one for yourself, and set the third one, maybe a third copy, to decide for future use. All right? Because you're going to come back, I think, I don't know, three months, six months, a year, maybe those will be a good time to go back and rehash your list. Both partners should carefully review their perspective list, indicating their responses in the yes, no, or maybe columns. If an item is not applicable, simply skip it.
Should an item be specific to a partner or gender and it does not align with your identity, consider your comfort level with your partner engaging in or being involved in that particular activity.
For example, if the item is to participate in a female threesome and you are male, mark yes if you are comfortable with your partners participating in such experience all right once both lists are completed merge them into a consolidated master list you can use m f or b as indicated in the master list m for instances where only the male partner provided a definite response and f F for scenarios where only the female partner answered. And B for a situation where both partners shared the same response. So it's like a game. You know what? This might be a good swinger TV show game.
I should host it. That'd be cool. Remember, it's my fucking ideal, dude. So if I see anyone stealing this ideal, I'm going to sue your ass. I got it on tape. I got it on podcast. Throughout the collection, the coalition process, engage in open discussions about each item. Dive into the reasons behind your yeses, your noes, and maybes, responses to gain insights to each other's sexual preferences and fantasies. That's going to be tough. In cases where either partner responds with maybe, explore the reasons behind the uncertainty.
This can lead to breaking down the item into more specific components to potentially elicit a yes response. And also, it could bring you both closer together because you're probably are probably thinking the same thing but you don't know it if both partners indicate no for a particular item consider transferring it to a separate list for future review remember preferences and desires can evolve over time yes they do and they always do and i always laugh and when guys talk about no man's gonna fuck my girl we're all gonna do it to do it with women.
And lo and behold, before you know it, she's fucking every dude in a club. And he's just sitting there jerking it off and having a good old time himself. Because, you know, it evolves. You change. You know, when you're young, you always want to fucking have that two-girl threesome. But then after a while, you understand that. You know what? The lifestyle is not about me, man. It's about my wife.
And if it wasn't for for my wife i wouldn't be a swinger and i want to get this pussy women are the coupon pussy that's what they are when you take a girl to a club your access to pussy uh grows you don't take a girl to a club and you're by yourself your access to pussy is limited so remember that couples when you want to badly talk about single guys single dudes couples guys you are one stupid decision away from being single and however you treated single men when you were a couple is how you're going to be treated when you are single yourself so excuse me inquiries to facilitate discussions on your swinger yes no maybe list the purpose of a yes no maybe list is to cultivate open dialogue and exploration so here are some inquiries on topics you can use to engage in a meaningful discussion as you navigate your list all right one are there any boundaries or limits associated with your affirmative responses to whatever it is you know and they'll talk say yes there is and they'll give you out their ram off their reasons two what modifications would prompt a shift from your negative response to a maybe or yes how could blank be adjusted to pique your interest all right now do not beg do not act desperate if she says no to another woman it's going to be okay guys i'm telling you one day if you're a couple you want to have a threesome with another female and just your wife it will come up if you're a swinger we all fall into you're all gonna fall into the you know the two female male uh threesome at one point all right it's just a matter of time it could happen early or it could happen late in in your swinging journey all right i had a couple i don't seek it out it just happens because know, guys can't get hard and wives are left there with blue ovaries and they want to fuck, they want to cum.
And I'm there with a hot rock hard cock and I'm there on the bed with both the wives while the husbands sit there and do nothing and just watch. All right? So find out what modifications they can do. Maybe they don want to I heard this one that women that some women would not want to have a threesome with a girl they thought was hotter than them so find an ugly woman the fuck and have a threesome with there's a modification or you know some guys like you know maybe some guys are like I don't know if I want my wife to fuck a big dick. All right? Find a guy with the average or small dick.
And here's your modification. Say it's all workable, guys. You just need me to guide you. If a particular item was skipped, does it evoke feelings of vulnerability, exposure, or embarrassment? What are underlying reasons? Another one. If you answer no to an item but seek a desire to respond affirmatively, what factors can contribute to this factor?
Why you answer no to an item but secret desire to respond affirmatively what factors contribute to this fact why you say no to it but you really want to do it do you want to suck off a bunch of dudes at a glory hole do you just want to fuck women and only women you know it is what it is you got to figure that out why are you inhabited hesitant to do it do you feel a sense of guilt or societal disapproval influence your response gentlemen do you want to suck a dick do you want to top another dude or do you want another dude to top you all right so that's something you got to think about number another one are there any are there any fantasies that were omitted From the list out of reluctance To disclose them to your partner What are the reasons behind this decision Listen If you and your partner are in a good place You should be able to talk about this shit Without having any judgment Because guess what Especially if the girl went to college She probably did so much shit That she can't remember the shit she did Because she was so hammered you know even the even the little church girls were freaky deekies back then or and uh fuck pretty freaky deaky still all right another one if your partner indicated yes while the other said no are there signs of double standards emerging like she wants to have two guys he doesn't want her to have two guys he wants to have two girls though there's a double standard and that's a big one there's a big double standard in the swinging lifestyle there is if a guy's ugly or a couple thinks a guy's not good looking he's a creepy dude he could do do nothing, just look at the girl, you know.
Hell, you know, how many straight men would not look at some girls with her titties hanging out, her ass hanging out, butt-ass naked maybe? Hey, yeah, you know. Us guys, we don't look at that shit.
I'm sorry to say, if you got your titties hanging out, your ass is thong i'm staring at your fucking ass you might not think i'm good looking but i'm not creepy you're dressed like that i want to see you want to be seen because you know what ladies if you don't want to be seeing you would not be having your titties hanging out you would not have your fucking thong showing and shit like that you want to be seen so. So don't sit there and tell us that we're creepy. We're not creepy. You just don't know how to handle this. You don't know how to handle attention. Learn how to handle attention.
You know, the women, you know, there's women out there that don't think any guy's creepy. They just know how to handle the attention and you can't. So the double standard is there. A guy could walk in, do something at a club. It's all race hell. But if a couple does the same as that goddamn thing, guess what? Oh, no one's bitches about it. No one complains about it. Remember, this is a swing and single podcast, so this is through my experience and what I have seen.
I got yelled at for shit I done that a fucking couple does so you know I just have a personal experience where you know fuck it there is a big double standard and if you say there's not a big double standard then you're a fucking liar you're bullshitting for items that both of both of you categorize as maybe explore the reasons behind this uncertainty can it be transformed into a joint affirmative response yes We'll see you next time. For items that both of you categorize as maybe, explore the reasons behind this uncertainty. Can it be transformed into a joint affirmative response? Yes.
The aim of these questions are similar discussions is to initiate conversations and foster growth within your sexual relationships. Be attentive and truly hear each other's perspective. With your list in hand, begin sexual aspects of which to which both of you respond affirmatively additionally periodically release reassess your list to accommodate any changes that may raise over time just as our preferences dislikes and aspirations constantly evolve some expanding while others waning the same holds true for our sexual inclinations.
I suggest revisiting your swinger yes, no, maybe listing of every few months. Simply review your current list. Make adjustments by removing, adding, or modifying items and then proceeding with the same process as you did with your previous list additionally it is beneficial to compare your latest list with previous ones to observe how your sexual preferences have transformed over time and with that ladies and gentlemen that is all i have for today. This is the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host, AC Maxwell. I hope you enjoyed this.
Gentlemen, I hope you shaved your cock and balls for those girls to suck on those balls. And ladies, shave that ass crack because we love eating ass. More and more ass eaters out there. You's one of them i love eating someone's ass especially if it's nice not hairy oh there's some hairy ass women out there anyways make sure you uh shave your cock and balls make sure you go to swinging single podcast.com make sure you go to doobie energy to get your drinks, Swing and Single promo code, get some discounts. With that, keep on swinging, everybody, and have a wonderful night.
