Go to Happyhotwife.comIn this episode of The Swinging Single Podcast, host AC Maxwell takes a deep dive into the intriguing world of the hotwife lifestyle. Discover the history behind the term, the modern dynamics of hotwifing, and how the Sexual Revolution helped shape this unique relationship style. We explore the role of the hothusband, motivations for exploring this lifestyle, and the powerful influence of the internet in connecting couples worldwide. Whether you're curious or already part of the scene, learn key insights, tips, and truths about trust, communication, and pleasure. And yes, a friendly reminder to always shave your cock and balls before your next swinging adventure!Tune in for an open, honest conversation about sexual freedom, empowerment, and connection.#SwingingSinglePodcast #Hotwife #Hothusband #SwingersLifestyle #OpenRelationships #SexualFreedom #Swinging #Cuckold #SexualRevolution #Polyamory #AdultLifestyle #SwingersClub #CouplesPlay #RelationshipGoals #LGBTQ #ConsentCulture #LoveWithoutLimits
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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell. For over 20 years, I've been navigating the swinging lifestyle as a single male, experiencing all the excitement, challenges, and everything in between the sheets. This podcast is my honest and unfiltered take on that journey, a fresh set of eyes, diving deep into real stories, lessons learned learned and practical advice for anyone exploring or curious about the lifestyle whether you're a newbie seasoned single or partner join me as i share my experiences bust myths and help you swing your best in this exhilarating world.
Let's get real, keep it respectful, and keep swinging single. AC Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only. The opinions, views, and content expressed or shared on the podcast are solely those of the host, AC Maxwell, and any featured guests or contributors and do not necessarily represent those of the podcast's affiliates sponsors advertisers or partners any information provided is given with the understanding that it does not constitute a contract engagement or formal advice the content of the podcast is protected by copyright and other intellectual property laws.
your stairs a spark i'm gasoline whisper low come like my flame fingertips trace my collarbone we are exploring each other passionately but you're not alone he's in the corner watching us play loves the tussie my inhibitions give way watch me girl and watch me ignite every touch turns me wild tonight pins on my hips lips on my neck you are deeper inside me than he's ever been Deeper, harder, lose control, our little secrets, keeping up slow. Welcome back everyone to another episode of the Swinging Single Podcast. I'm your host, A.C. Maxwell.
And today, we have a fascinating and sometimes misunderstood topic to dive into. The history and dynamics of the hot wife lifestyle. Oh, yeah. But before we go and do that, make sure you go to all things A.C. Maxwell.
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but do a live episode. Give me a call. Swing and Single Podcast at gmail.com and all that great stuff. Also, if you love the music that's playing, go to happyhotwife.com. Check out all her music and all her sexiness and all that. And you will see some great music. And also, maybe, just maybe, if you're a fan, maybe you get the fan fucker. Who knows? Make sure you get tested, though. And make sure, gentlemen, you shave those cock and balls because you know what? She don't like a hairy forest down there.
I don't like a hairy forest down there she wants a cock and balls that take control and make her a happy hot wife all right so as i am doing it all the time we're going to do more stuff on hot wifing yes because you know what i was thinking all this talk about hotwifing and all this new trend and all that bullshit that's going on in the lifestyle, I decided, you know, when the fuck did hotwifing become a thing? And what's the history of it? And all that stuff, you know? You never know. So, you know, I decided to write something, put it down on paper, pen and paper, see, and do some research.
Google is always a great thing, you know?
Just like I tell couples that want to look for other couples and other singles in their area google is your friend all right so whether you're new to the term or have heard it thrown around in swinger circles by the end of this episode you will have a solid understanding of what being a hot wife really means how the dynamic works and why has it gained so much traction in recent decades all right so i haven't heard of a hot wife i started hearing about it i think it was like be right before covid 2020 i think that was the win and definitely heard of after covid after 2020 because you know that's what everyone was talking about hot wife now what might have happened you know i'm just taking a guess because everyone was stuck home and people had to uh you know do this thing called talk to each other uh you know not texting or anybody so they probably got together and said you know what baby i would love to watch you fuck another man and vice versa and stuff like that and guess what the term hot wiping came up i did a show a couple years ago about the 101 swinging terms maybe i'll do that again because you have to do a refresher because i'm here and seeing new shit but anyways so you know i didn't start hearing about until like 2019 2020 right before covid hit and stuff like that and all that stuff and a hot wife you know usually is a woman that plays outside of her marriage with other men.
Doesn't matter if they're single men or married men. She plays with other men with the consent, knowledge, and commitment to her man. The man knows that she's doing this, and he loves that his wife is being pleased sexually and all that stuff. Because, you know what, between the hot wife and the bull, or whatever the fuck you want to call the single guy or the married man, it's just sex. It's not about love, all right? So how it all works and all that stuff, we'll talk about that and why in the recent decades it's gained traction.
So, of course, as always, if you're playing in the lifestyle, no matter what your role you take, either you're the hot wife, you're the vixen, you're the stag, you're the cuckold, you're the bull, you're the singleixen you're the stag you're the cook hole you're the bull you're the single female unicorn i'll remind you a couple times to shave your cock and balls gentlemen before you jump into the action comfort confidence and hygiene go a long way you know what i'm saying you'll be the same guy i love the guys when they talk about they don't want a hairy pussy, but yet when they pull down their pants and wick out their cock and balls, they got some fucking forest down there.
You know, if you want your woman to be bare, you better be bare too, because guess what? Women don't like that shit. Well, give their pie a couple that do like a nice bushy cock and balls. Well, you know, consider yourself lucky that you have to groom yourself. But you know what I noticed? When you get older, you get gray pubes, so might as well just shake your cock and balls so people don't think you're old. Thank you. Cock and balls, well, you know, consider yourself lucky that you have to groom yourself. But you know what I noticed? When you get older, you get gray pubes.
So, might as well just shake your cock and balls so, you know, people don't think you're old. Because that's when you're really old, when you start getting gray pubes. So, all right, let's get started. What is the hot wife? And we're going to define the concept. At its core, the hot wife is a married woman who has sexual experiences outside of her marriage. Often with full knowledge and emotional support of her husband. Now, so many times I think people get confused with hot wives, especially you newbies out there. Listen, newbies, a hot wife doesn't mean your wife is hot.
We know your wife is hot. All right. There are many, many beautiful wives out there in the swingers lifestyle. That doesn't make them a hot wife.
a hot wife is a married woman who has sexual experiences outside of her marriage often with the full knowledge and emotional support of her husband sometimes people in this life side call the husband a cuckold but increasingly the term hot husband is used to emphasize the positive actor role that many husbands embrace all right so just because you're good-looking ladies don't mean you are a hot wife unless you play with men and all that stuff so you know it is what it is don't blame me that this is your this is the internet's definitions this is not mine all right so you know i had to come up with a definition so now when you go to a hot wife party couples and your newbies because your newbies always fuck up this and the newbies do it all the time especially at colette's and you know they go to hot wife friday and they're looking for other couples but yeah you know the hot wife is really for the woman looking for other men and making getting satisfied other men and all that stuff.
So, you know, you're a hot wife, you're hot, and you're a wife, you're a hot wife. But are you truly a hot wife and all that stuff? So, you know, you've got to be very careful when you talk to people about the lifestyle and all that stuff. And know the terms. Do your research, everybody. Newbies, especially you. Newbies got to do the research.
Unlike some forms of open relationships where both partners might have outside adventures hot wiping tends to be one-sided so yes it tends to be does it always mean that it is one-sided no all right just because you know let's see you are you know in their lifestyle your husband can maybe sometimes play with other women while you're mainly with the men in the lifestyle. So, you know, it is something that you got to think about. All right. So sometimes it's mostly sometimes it's one side and sometimes it's even maybe sometimes it's 50 50.
But, you know, that's up to you and your wife to figure out your dynamic do you want to be able to play with other women once in a while or you exclusively where you watch her fuck other men and other women whatever you dynamic is and you have fun and you stay faithful to your wife the wife is the one with sex external sexual partners while the husband primarily remains with his wife emotionally and sexually like I said it all depends on your communication your boundaries your dynamics with your wife it's not what has to be rules are made to be broken words can be changed in definitions just look at what a woman is because liberals don't know what a woman is yet.
So you don't have to fall fit in this mold. All right. If you want to call yourself a hot wife, but you don't play with single guys, you only play with other couples to swap because your husband has small dick energy. Then by all means, use it hot wife. But you know, I don't have to respect it.
I don't have to give a shit about it but here's where it gets interesting and unique the husband often derides pleasure and excitement from his wife encounters i love it when my partner goes out fucks other men because you know she's having a good time she's fucking throwing back squirting all over the place she's happy as shit she's fucking making me a sandwich when we get home she's cleaning up my house she's doing all that stuff for me because i'm the man i let her throw it down let her get some sexual satisfaction let her be her and i benefit from it and i love it you know there's just more benefits in the sexual and stuff like that there's the emotional and the rawness of it he might watch her he might join in or simply enjoy being hearing detailed retellings about her experiences later on.
Most of the hot wife or hot husbands that I know you like to watch. Not mostly, a lot of them don't join in, but there are some that do join in. This element of voyeurism is emotional excitement is a defining trait. Now, what's the modern rise of the hot wife?
You know, was hot w back then back in the roman days was that something that was people talked about stuff like that or people practice or was it just completely fucking roman orgies so why is this dynamic gotten so popular well part of the answer lies in the cultural shifts around gender roles sexuality relationships over the past few decades think about it women become women are told now be slutty sell your body on online because nothing bad can happen later on right when you post fuck pictures you're getting gang banged or you're doing porno with other people you know 20 years from now who cares what happens so now we tell women be you all right great that's great i'm i'm all for women being you but you know you got to also remember if you're a young lady think about your future i know it's hard to see 20 years 30 years down the road but think about your future do you want that shit everything i say is online forever so i gotta be very careful and all that so you know and so should you ladies you know do you want to have pictures of you sucking dick and taking facials on your face things like that so you know we tell women to be more open and all that stuff which is great like i said it's great but we got always there's consequences to everything okay just remember that all right the gender roles what are gender roles anymore we don't even know what gender is or well we do know what it is but we just refuse This is...
Just remember that, all right? The gender roles. What are gender roles anymore? We don't even know what gender is. Or, well, we do know what it is, but we just refuse to say it out loud. Sexuality. We're more very open to our bisexuality. When I first started, bisexual men were no-no in the lifestyles where, and if some clubs would ban bisexual men in their clubs because they didn't want them in there. Now, it's open. It's free.
free now is it totally acceptable yes and no there are some places that like i don't really give a fuck you know you go to a bisexual there's a couple's bisexual a male's bisexual i don't give a shit we're here to have fun that's all that matters the three f's all right and relationships people are realizing they're not supposed to be monogamous they don't want to be monogamous they want to have some fun outside the marriage think about it like this if you go to mcdonald's every day you eat a big mac for breakfast lunch and dinner after so long doesn't a whopper sound fucking pretty good or a fucking chick-fil-a sandwich sounds pretty good of course so once in a while you know we realize we come to realize that we are sexual beings and maybe maybe being promiscuous maybe being monogamous is not what it is maybe we should once again stray from our partners but with our knowledge with their knowledge and all this and their support women's increased economic independence women got jobs they don't need men anymore to financially take care of them even though they whine and bitch about it and tick tock and all that shit because they want a man that makes six figures and stuff but you know women can make their own money plus growing acceptance of uh and exploitation of female sexuality has challenged the traditional marriage uh model you can still be a traditional marriage and still be a hot wife.
I don't think you have to give up being a traditionalist and being a hot wife. More women feel empowered to respect their sexual desires beyond the bounds of monogamy with their partner's support. And that's what's great about it. More and more, especially the younger ladies, which sucks because I'm an old man now. They don't want to have anything to do with me. But these younger ladies are being more and more open about their sexuality, which is great. They discover themselves. They learn how to have an orgasm. They learn what makes them cum, make them have their orgasm and all this stuff.
When I was growing up, some of these women didn't even know how to make themselves cum. They never were able to jack off or cum when they fucking masturbated. So, you know, they're having more and more information is available to the females. Additionally, the Internet has been a major catalyst. Online forums, social media groups, dating swing and swinger apps. These platforms have made it easier than ever for couples to explore these fantasies discreetly. Right.
You don't want to tell everyone that you want to watch your wife fuck a bunch of dudes safely you don't have to give up your information you'll be you don't have to tell people who you are and with mutual consent consent is the key you know no means no don't do any stupid shit gentlemen and if you're thinking about diving in just remember the basics again confidence starts with caring starts with caring for yourself. Yep, that means shave your cock and balls. Before the next fun night out, it's a simple step, but makes a big difference.
You know, like I said, women don't want to, women want to pull, when they pull on their pants, they want to see an eight-inch hard cock. They don't want to see a forest with a little teeny weeny in there. So what motivations behind Hot Wife? And what are some of the motivations?
I ask you me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com what are your motivations to be a hot wife and a hot husband couple why do couples choose this lifestyle you know are they just horny little bastards or you know stuff like that for some it's about exploring sexual fantasies that wouldn't fit in traditional monogamy you know more and more women that are having coming out saying they have a fantasy of being with two men at once all right now this is where i always say you always got to be careful with the fantasy the fantasy and the reality are two very different things all right just remember that sometimes fantasy should remain fantasy sometimes fantasy should become reality it's just all the couple is how well you communicate if you don't communicate well with your partner right now i would wait for you to definitely be able to communicate before you start doing any of this others use it to reunite excitement and novelty in the relationships after years together like i said you always eating a big mac the chick-fil-a sandwich or the whopper sounds pretty damn good and very tempting some find that swinging or hot wifing helps navigate dissatisfaction frustration or differing libido levels without sacrificing level commitment you know maybe the woman's in her sexual prime she wants to fuck three four times a day your dick can't get hard that much what's the alternative you know so you know you just got to do you know you just got to talk to your partner make sure you match that sexual libido for many the trust and communication required to practice hot wiping actually strengthens the relationship yeah maybe you shit you saw your wife get tag teamed by two dudes two big dick dudes or two small dick dudes or whatever you can tell your wife anything now how can they how can you not tell them anything transparently discussed discussing boundaries feelings and desires brings a new emotional intimacy that's hard to replicate otherwise it's always fun to be able to talk to be able to say hey that girl you know to be fully honest and being fully transparent with your partner you guys should try it someday you know ladies you know tell your man what you want what you really really want don't just say stuff because you're worried about what how's he going to feel you got to be able to tell your man how you want what you want how you want it if you can't well there ain't much i can tell you so what's the history of hot wifing let's travel back in time to understand how this all came about now this is what the internet says i don't know what was happening 18 1700s during the roman days during greek days so if you know for sure what they were doing and I'm wrong, well, then I'm wrong.
Email me at swingandsinglepodcast at gmail.com. During the 1960s and 70s, the sexual revolution changed everything. The birth control pill.
Swinging, the practice of couple swapping, burst into the scene as a way for couples to share sexual experience with others in a consensual fun environment they had key parties you know they put a set of keys in a bowl and whatever keys you pulled up that's who you go home with at first swinging was more generalized both partners might swap or play with others but over time particular variations emerged one of which is hot wifing this dynamic was a natural evolution where the focus shifted to just one partner usually the Thank you.
emerge one of which is hot wifing this dynamic was a natural evolution where the focus shifted to just one partner usually the wife taking external lovers while the husband either stayed monogamous or simply enjoyed washing watching now you got to remember guys sometimes when you get older that dick don't always work the way it was prostate cancer is a bitch because prostate cancer can take out your heart on. And back then, back in the 70s, they didn't have no pumps like they do now. So, you know, we're lucky that we have the penis pump where we could just pump up and get a heart on and fuck.
But back then, there wasn't none of that.
So maybe the necessity of the man can't perform anymore, but the woman still has sexual desires played a role in creating the hot wife lifestyle thank you i appreciate it i appreciate your sacrifice it's important to note that hot wiping isn't exactly the same as traditional cook holding which historically had more negative or humiliating connotations the modern hot wife The hot husband relationship tends to be much more positive consensual and empowering so the key distinctions to hot wifing so we're gonna have to let's break down what makes hot wifing unique compared to other open relationship styles one one-sided activity usually the wife is the one who has outside sex while the husband remains loyal to their relationship emotionally and sexually with the wife that is not always true like i said you have to talk to your partner and say hey what do you want from me you're going to go out with other men you're going to go out with other women you're going to have sex with them do you want me to stay faithful to you do you want me to be with other people ourselves but we play separately it's what the dynamics of you and your husband have to decide that's why i said communication is the best at this you're gonna have to be able to communicate what you want if you're a woman you don't want your man to fuck another woman you better tell her you better tell him i don't want you fucking other men other women i'm sorry because if you're fucking other women i'm gonna be pissed all right now you might say well that's kind of unfair i go well no this is what the hot life style is it's your dynamic it's what it is so you know you do what you got to do.
Two voyalistic element the husband often watches or gets derailed deep or not derailed detailed reports about his wife's adventures this is a huge turn on for many you know some guys like hearing it you know wife coming home with the panties full of men's cum stuff like that other guys want to be there and watch or help officiate well you know help get the person uh get the man all that and do all that stuff dress her up and go out to a club and do it number three the emotional trust this arrangement calls for deep trust and communication more so than any other type of open relationships yeah think about it because you're a lot of couples will do this where they have a swinger relationship but they fuck other people on the side which the other people don't know about now that wasn't told that's not true that's not true yes it is true because a lot of times you see a lot of couples on tinder and guess what the husband don't know she's on tinder the wife doesn't know he's on tinder all right was working at Caliente, I saw a lot of that shit there.
I saw a lot of guys go off and fuck another girl while their wife is sitting at the pool getting tanned. She doesn't know what's going on. I got tipped well to keep my mouth shut. There are things like that. You got to have that trust.
You got to be able to talk to talk to your partner say i don't want you doing this you can fuck whoever you want to fuck any guy any girl but i must be there to watch i must be there to participate or you go hey you need to tell me right when it happens you come home and you give me the detail story of it that's just what you're going to have to talk about when you're with your partner with your wife with your husband because you just you just never know empowerment of the wife the wife often experience experiences a newfound sexual freedom and autonomy while maintaining the emotional safety net of her relationship all right once you gentlemen listen to me listen to me carefully this is not the first time i'm saying this once you open that pandora's box there is no going back all right you're going to have to live with your decisions so if you say hey let's start swinging and she goes to a club and she fucking has a great time she loves it you a little lukewarm because it wasn't what you thought it was going to be well you might have a problem there where your communication is going to save your marriage or save your relationship but this often empowers women to find their sexuality and there ain't nothing there ain't a damn thing wrong with that find your sexuality ladies find your sexuality gentlemen whatever it may be so remember whether you're a husband or a wife exploring this your grooming game matters too don't forget to shave your cock and balls gentlemen before meeting up or attending any lifestyle event it just makes the whole experience smoother and more enjoyable and it also makes your dick look bigger all right so now let's talk about the digital the fucking internet that gave stupid people voices with the rise of the internet the hot life lifestyle blew up in visibly couples can connect in private share their experience share their stories anonymously or openly, and explore fantasies in a controlled manner.
Website forums and apps facilitate everything from finding like-minded partners to engaging in virtual low-play and support groups. This digital framework has helped normalize the conversation and reduce the stigma around the lifestyle right yeah because you know they always they call you a cuck if your wife fucks another man stuff like that so is it really is it cheating if your husband watches i don't know ladies i don't think so so here here are some tips for the couples interested in exploring this hot wiping, this trend, this trad, whatever you call it.
If you're curious, here's my advice to get started safely and enjoyably. One, communication is key. Talk openly about desires, limits, and feelings. If you can't communicate with your wife now, how the fuck are you going to do it when she's got a fucking eight-in or inside of her game pounding and she's screaming and yelling like she's never screamed before so you gotta be communicated before the action set those clear boundaries decide what's okay and what's not before jumping in i could just tell you my rules no fucking anyone without me being there no i don't want to hear story later on.
I want to watch. I want to see. I want to see you get that conversation going and stuff like that. Let's see. Trust your partner.
You're going to have to trust your partner because you're doing a lot of stuff with, you know, you're giving her the okay to fuck other are you does she understand that that okay is just for when you two are together or is it okay for her to fuck she sees a guy outside at work or something like that it's okay for her to fuck her so the foundation of this lifestyle is trust respect above all remember practice safe sex get regularly tested stis stds get it all get the engine check make sure you're not spreading I mean, practice safe sex. Get regularly tested. STIs, STDs, get it all.
Get the engine checked. Make sure you're not spreading any bacteria on shit, all right? If you're a female that can still have babies, make sure you're on birth control. Accidents do happen, all right? You don't want to be raising another man's kids, gentlemen, so make sure you get tested. Groom well. Again, it bears repeating.
Shave your cock and and balls it's a small step that boosts confidence and respect to the scene ladies if your pussy smells you probably have mgen and you need to get you get the antibiotics real fast yeast infection or whatever smell your fucking pussy or you know what stick your fingers down there have someone else smell it and tell them does it smell bad because i guess what there has been many times where I pulled off a girl's panties and whatnot, and you just stunk up the room, and nothing kills a boner faster than that, all right?
So, gentlemen, shave your cock and balls, wash your asshole, clean your armpits, wear deodorant, do something, smell nice, and start slow. Maybe just chatting in forums, visiting the club together, or attending the party without joining in right away can help you get comfortable. I don't know what's up with you newbies and some of you veterans, but you don't have to do everything at once all in one weekend or one party setting. Swinging is going to be there. Swinging will be there. It's never going nowhere.
We will be there'll be a hotel takeover next month there'll be the part the club is open every friday saturday sometimes all right there's swinger resorts around the world swinger resorts around america all those things you will be able to swing somewhere somehow all right so you do not have to do everything in one weekend you know i see so many of you do that and it's just like sad because it really fucks you up and it really gets people mad because couples get in the fights well i thought we weren't gonna do anything yada all right so that's just some help now take it or leave it you know i'm a single guy what the fuck would i know right but i've been in this lifestyle so long i see a lot of things i've seen couples come and go i've seen couples happy as shit i've seen couples get divorced and all that stuff so you know it is what it is so let's go turn to reddit because i love the reddit swinger the hot wife advice so hot wife's question from a bull hey y'all what kind of introduction do you like when bull when a bull dm's you well you know from what i hear women don't want to see your cock and balls shave your cock and balls gentlemen but don't be sending dick pics right away all right show that woman that you actually have a brain other than your little cock and go out and introduce yourself.
Tell her all the good stuff about you, why she should pick you, all the other 10,000 bulls that are emailing you, especially if she's very good looking, she's going to get a lot of action.
If she's not that good looking, let's be honest, she ain't going to that line of action all right what kind of information is important you know some if you read their profiles they will tell you what information now granted there are a lot of couples that don't fill out the fucking profile they pretty much don't tell what they're looking for they just put out we're here for fun okay great so here you're here for fun you're looking for guys you're looking for couples you're looking for girls probably girls of course but you know what are you looking for read the profile if they have a nice profile in there they're probably a nice couple pussy pie don't stink because she takes care of herself that will tell you all the stuff you need to know what she's looking for what you know some of them say we want to know your dick size show your dick sometimes couples will say we want to see your dick because they are strictly fucking hardcore hot wife and all that.
They want to know. They don't want to waste their time on small dicks or they don't want to waste their time on big dicks. Because remember, there's a lot of women that don't want the big dick. They want the average dick, the small dick, and all that. So read their ad. Look at what they're looking for and see if you're what they're looking for. What kind of information is important? Well, do you have AIDS? I don't know, HIV, stuff like that. When's the last time you as a bull have been tested?
Bulls, if you are fucking fucking couples and you're doing it more than a couple times a month, you should be getting tested every month, all right? Because keeping the women, keeping those couples safe is very important. Keeping yourself clean is very important. Anyways. What else? What kind of pictures do you want to see? They probably don't want to see, like I said, a lot of couples don't want to see dick pics. They want to see, you know, just regular pics of you, what you look like naturally. They want to talk to you and see how you are. They might want to see your dick.
Or if you have your nude pictures on your website, on SDC, Swing Lifestyle, they're already going to see it, so they don't need to see it. All right? How can they convey what they have to offer? Here's the tricky part. Some couples don't want anyone cocky. All right? So if you're cocky, you might talk yourself out of it, out of a date with a wife. If you are nice, you're a gentleman, you're respectful, you don't sit there and say, hey, that's just fuck and stuff like that. You actually introduce yourself. You take the time to read their profile.
You mention something in their profile that caught your eye. Other than the pictures, you know, you can just say, I'm a normal dude. Maybe that's all you have to offer, that you're normal and you're not fucking creepy. What are the things you like and don't like? Well, that's up to the couples there.
I can tell you what I don't like like as a stag i don't like guys assuming that they could fuck my girl because she's already fucking someone else all right i don't like that ask me first ask before you touch awesome you know are you at the club are you with do you have condoms with you or you didn't bring any fucking condoms because you're just i don't bring any fucking condoms because you were just, I don't know, being stupid. Things like that. Other than that, I don't have much. Because you know what? It's about sex. It's about her. She gets what she wants.
And speaking of hygiene, let's talk about hygiene. Here's a question from swingers. Question for the more experienced in the group. My wife and I have been swinging for several years now, and I have noticed a trend. Oh, boy. I have an excellent sense of smell. That being said, how is it as a woman you cannot smell yourself or know that there may be an issue? I have no idea. I've been asking myself that for years.
Like I said, I stopped trying to figure out women, but I had two women in my life as girlfriends that shit stunk so bad when they took their panties off, the room would smell of the vagina. And I don't know how the fuck they didn't know there was any issues and how they didn't smell it. But, you know, maybe they get nose blind where they smell it every day. They don't smell it anymore. All right. Let me emphasize. Several times over the years, we have met and proceeded to engage with other couples. Upon doing this, I have noticed some women have an order, which is something very strong for me.
It's an instant turnoff. But more concerning is the possibility of transferring bacterial infection, like M.G.E.N., to my wife. All right. So he's worried about fucking a girl. So is he wearing no condoms, bareback? Now, listen, I get it. You can transfer bacteria between the woman you're fucking and your wife, even if you do wear a condom. Bacteria sticks on you, I guess. And, you know, that's why we have the rise of Mgen, the STD or STI, whatever you want to call it, in I'll see you next time.
you i guess and you know that's why we have the rise of mgen the std or sti whatever you want to call it in the lifestyle and in just in general in vanilla lifestyle too because people don't it's not tested we all have mgen but some of our levels are just different than others okay so you know you know it is possible if you always wear a condom you can always transfer that. So you got to be very careful, which has happened on several occasions. So my thing is if she smells, if she takes off or she's naked and you can smell her, try to figure out a way to get out of there being polite.
Do not be fucking rude. Say, your pussy smells, I'm out of here. All right? Because guess what? Sometimes something might happen to you.
Like you might have a little poo-poo in your butthole and you might be able to smell the shit whereas you could just go in the bathroom and clean it up or do you want someone say no thank you you got shit you smell like shit you know remember treat people how you want to be treated in lifestyle if you want to be treated like shit treat people like shit if you want to be treated nicely and professionally treat the people the same way i had on several occasions where i had to tell women you know i'm not into it right now is uh you know you know make up something it's a me you know i can't get it up or something even though i'm fucking hard and they probably knew i was lying but you know just be polite about it about the smell and all that stuff, and you will be fine.
You ain't going to cause any problems. So here's the question. How, as a woman, do you not notice it if you have it? And the second, how do you handle the situation going forward and then notice it again? Like I said, people become nose blind. They smell it every day. If you smell the same smell every day, it becomes natural. You don't know that you are smelling or stink, so they always smell it. Now, how do you do it? How do you get out of the situation? How do you handle the situation? You just be polite. Act like how you would.
If it was you in that situation, you were the one that smelled, how would you want to be told you smell without being, you know, how would you want it? Would you want them to be rude about it? Do you want to be, you know, able to, you know, it is however it is you want it to be, all right? That's how you go about it. Just be a common good person. All right. Last one. And this is sad. Being a unicorn isn't fun anymore. Am I the only one feeling this way? I don't know.
I'm writing this for other single women, unicorns, because I really want to know if it's just me or if other people are feeling this too. Lately, I've just been by it all i feel like people forget that i am one person i work i have bills i have a life i live in new york city going out is not cheap an uber alone can cost like 50 to 70 dollars each way so a night out can easily turn into 100 to 150 just on transportation i can't casually show up all the time i actually have a plans thing have to plan things out.
Me, if I'm a couple and you're a single female and you want to fuck us, I'm paying for your Uber. So I don't know what the fuck you're doing, lady, but you should be getting your Uber paid by the couples you're meeting. Just say that straight in your profile. If you want me to come meet me, you're paying for my Uber. But it feels like a lot of people don't get that. Of course not, because a lot of people are fucking stupid. They think with their private parts and not their brain.
There's this expectation that as a unicorn, you're just always available, down for anything, ready last minute, willing to travel, et cetera. If you are not, people act like you are being difficult I said that before I always say that couples treat unicorns horribly they're treated like a piece of meat but at least you're wanted me as a single guy I'm not wanted you know at least I don't get you get treated like a piece of meat I get treated like I'm a pariah like I got the fucking plague alright so you know you're lucky you got that Thank you.
get you get treated like piece of meat i get treated like i'm a pariah like i got the fucking plague all right so you know you're lucky you got that now is it right no but still on top of that there's safety i've had situations where i get invited somewhere and then realize someone there already crossed the boundary with me like a merry guy in my dms trying to meet me alone and if i to side'm not comfortable Suddenly the energy changes And the invite gets pulled Alright People are going to lie, honey The best unicorns out there If you're out there listening The best advice I can give to you is Go to clubs, go to takeovers where swingers are at If you're not, don't meet swingers by yourself Go to a bar or anything like that go to a event go to a club because we all know what we're there for we're not there wasting anyone's time and stuff like that like am i supposed to ignore that and i'm still a woman at the end of the day i have to protect myself yes make sure you carry your gun and honestly sometimes even when i do meet couples the experience can really feel one-sided where they get to off and take care of each other not me like once they're done it's okay bye no real connection no consideration nothing that makes me feel feel neutral it kind of makes you not even want to meet up anyone well you know that's the people those the couples you're choosing.
I know a lot of couples that will fuck the shit out of a single girl, make sure she's happy and all that, so that they come back for more. On the other side, single men will say they want to meet but expect you to coordinate everything. Find couples, plan the night, and then cancel. No, you're wrong. You haven't met me, AC. I plan everything. I will coordinate everything.
I don't give a shit if you're you're my girl you're gonna be taken care of you don't even have to think you're gonna get that pussy popped so you end up doing all the effort for nothing i just think this girl's picking wrong people wrong men wrong couples meanwhile my inbox is flooded yes of course because the fantasy of having you fuck have a threesome with two women it's fun and a lot of couples do that like i said fantasy always makes the fantasy can always be better than the reality reality hits and people get all crazy mostly from single men of course you're called the coupon single women are called the coupon for no reason because you're the coupon to get access to more pussy and a lot of guys like that me you know i don't know so it's not even about lack of option it's more like lack of respect effort and consistency i agree couples are lacking respect are lacking effort, and they lack consistency.
I can't even say that fucking word. And so the single men are the worst at it, too. You know, like I always tell single women, when you meet a single guy and you think you're in love with him and you think he's in love with you, tell him you want to stop swinging. See what his reaction is. See if he says, well, you know, I'm a swinger. I'm not going to do it. I'm not stopping swinging. Or if he says, you know what? You know what, lady? I really fucking love you, so you know what? Swinging ain't no big deal. Let's be mutual. Let's be monogamous. See how it goes.
I guarantee you ain't going to like the answer. What's crazy is I used to have a much better experience with this. I was in L.A. pre-COVID. People were more accommodating, more respectful, and actually seemed to understand what it takes for a single woman to show up. I don't understand what it takes for a single woman to show up. Honestly, I don't. Get in the car and go. But okay. Now it just feels very different. You know what?
It could be because laid back new york more uptight you know you're talking about a group of people that will run your ass over at two and two p.m to get the fuck out of the way so it might just be where you're at i'm honestly getting to the point where i feel mutually exhausted by it and kind of want to take a break. I would suggest taking a break. Just take a break, ease up and do something new, do something else, create another hobby, then come back to it. Like I said, I would not be meeting, if I was a single female, I'm not meeting couples at their house, at a bar or anywhere.
I will meet you at the swingers club. I will meet you at the hotel takeover. I will meet you at the swinger resort. I am not meeting you because it's just dangerous. It's not as fun as people think Here we go. swinger's club. I will meet you at the hotel takeover. I will meet you at the swinger resort. I am not meeting you because it's just dangerous. It's not as fun as people think it is. No, you know, swinging is never what people think it is because people believe swinging is what you see on TV. It's not. So I'm curious to do other single women unicorns feel like this.
Like you're constantly having to protect your time, energy, and safety. Sure, you should have to.
All right right you should tell people you're not wasting my time i go if you don't have you know maybe if you've meeting guys off and couples off of the websites maybe they have to be certified to make sure they're real also just to say this up front i'm really looking for responses from single women only if possible oh i'm so sorry i tried posting before and it just gets flooded with men which kind of proves my point what point is that would love to hear if anyone else has experienced this or it's just me it's just you it's where you live all right well that's not just you i'll retract it no it's not just you it's just where you live people are assholes in new york that's where you live new york city big assholes you are just not you know you're just not going to have that la vibe where there's no laid back you know island time shit now i had some wonderful experiences but lately i've had to put my foot down a whole lot all right let's see what it says i'm sorry you haven't experienced a good this is a good this is good for us couples to read too.
Yes, you should do better. You know what? Guys should do better in couples because you need to dress better. Sounds like most people you have mentioned are more interested in having a paid professional experience. Could be. Fellow single female in New York City and can totally relate. I pretty much stopped meeting new couples. I have set a playgroup. I have set a playgroup on a part and just don't have energy to meet new couples anymore. Okay. Same.
I just posted a comment on another group in Texas, and although people are super accommodating, I feel used at the end of the night or play session. Okay. Of course. using you single men single women out there couples are using you you are their fantasy you are their play toy you're nothing else you're not gonna marry the dude you're not going to marry the woman you are fucking there for them to have fun you are the play toy if you can't don't like that then you shouldn't be as swinging as a single person. Go fucking become a couple. I don't understand why you think that.
I just don't understand that thinking. All right. You got something out of it. You got, you got your nut. They got their nut. All right. Of course,'re going to use you. You're a single female. Of course they're going to use you. You're a single male. Of course they're going to use you. You are there. You are too. And she even says, it's like they use me as a tool. Yeah, duh. That's swinging. You are the tool. You are the play toy. And not as a human also looking for some fun.
Okay, what do you want do what do you do you want them to buy you flowers do you want them to buy you a new car or what the fuck do you want from them did you communicate this to them do you say i want a date if you're going to take if you want me to fuck you too you got to take me to dinner first i cannot tell you how many times I have gone to meet couples for them to finish with each other and not allow me to experience anything. Uh, okay. Like, I don't understand that.
I find it disheartening that I make arrangements and all and all to me for them to turn back to each other finish while I'm left on their bed, half naked with blue balls.
Also the amount of men that go behind wise's back to meet with me it's insane yeah like brother your wife is open to sharing in bed with her that's not always true sometimes the wife is not the wife the wife is someone who is the bait to get women into bed the bait and switch why go behind her back so i don't so i don't unicorn anymore i think there's this porn expectation that you are their guide and put on a show i am not there for that i'm here they have a moment of pleasure connection and mutual agreement all right you got to get yours you know before they get theirs all right so you selfish in this one.
When you're three together in that bedroom, you've got to be selfish and get yours before they get yours. And then the whole STD thing is real. A lot of these couples don't want to use protections, okay? They try to see if they can push boundaries, and that gets me very upset. Yeah, that's pretty, like I said, you've got to talk about that. That's communication. Do you tell couples before you play with them, we're going to wear condoms? Or do you wait until you suck him off and he's about to stick your dick in you? Do you tell him then that you're going to use condoms?
Because you've got to tell him way before. Like if you're smart, you're meeting him from dinner or whatever.
Or you're at the swinger club and you tell him, if we're going to go in the back, we're going to play to play with condoms Stuff like that You don't want to do it Right before He sticks your dick in you Because you don't Fuck it You don't even know What kind of fucking Moron you got You know Some of these fucking people But anyways You know I just don't understand Where Where are toys We are the couples I'm a single guy i am a toy you know you're a single girl you are their toy there's no questions about it you're not like i said you're not going to run off to the sunset with them they're going to use you and you're going to go home all right that's just about it i'm sorry's the reality of it.
If you don't like it, too bad. That's just the reality of it. Find your couples that love you for who you are, and make sure they love you for who you are, because if you stop fucking them, are they going to still be your friends, all right? But anyways, I think that's about time to get out of here because I pissed off a lot of single women and a lot of couples who can't think the truth because, oh, they're a little hurt. But anyways, go to swingandsinglepodcast.com. See all things AC Maxwell. All right. The hot wife lifestyle is a fascinating blend of trust, sexual freedom, and intimacy.
It challenges conventional issues by embracing desire in a nuanced, casual way that benefits many keyword couples then say singles whether you're just learning about hot wifing thinking about trying it or already deep in that lifestyle i hope today's episode gave you an insight and practical tips as always stay safe communicate openly and keep your game tight don't forget to shave your cock and balls before the next adventure thanks for tuning in to the swing and single podcast i'm ac maxwell reminding you to live openly love boldly and keep those boundaries clear catch you next time I want to be there forever on your shoulder I want to be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a four-leaf clover Baby, I'm a holly till you're a joker
