When Swinging Goes Wrong!

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Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about Mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker. The quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary. Yeah, I said it. Whether you're into edibles, concentrates, flour, or just looking to explore, you'll find it all at Mood. And it's not just the variety that makes them stand out.

Every product is sourced from small, American-owned family farms that care deeply about what they grow. It's cannabis you can trust, delivered discreetly, and ready to elevate your mood. And because you're a listener, you get 20% off your first order. Just head to mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com to get started. Welcome home to the Swingin' Single podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell, broadcasting from the legendary Upside Down Pineapple Studios bedroom in the heart of Texas, baby.

For over two decades, I've embraced the swinging lifestyle as a single male buddy and now on this show i'm here to share my wildest tales and experiences with you the audience so gentlemen grab some lube some tissues and for the spouses out there get your man sit on his face and get cozy and settling for some uncensored eye-opening stories on the Swing and and today we got something special we gotta gonna talk about when swinging goes wrong and we're gonna talk about have some red stuff talk about too so we got a lot of stuff to talk about today i think i'm gonna keep this one short because i'm not in my original studio and all that stuff as you can tell because i haven't gotten any sound effects or anything like that but we're gonna talk about swinging when it goes wrong and what to do when it fix it and all that stuff, as you can tell, because I don't got any sound effects or anything like that.

But we're going to talk about swinging when it goes wrong and what to do when it fix it and all that stuff. Then we got some Reddit. You know, I want to ask people out there, go to swinging single podcast.com and go to swinging single podcast at gmail.com. Let me know what you think. Let me know. Can singles be swingers?

Because on Reddit, there was a little debate some guy got a little nasty on reddit and was talking about that you know single men cannot be swingers he never he failed to mention single women but i don't i think i already know his stance in the single women part but he said something he said that single men are not swingers we are just just, uh, uh, stalkers waiting for an opportunity. You know what I was? And I thought I took, you know, I don't really take offense to anything. I don't take offense to this because you know what? I don't really go out and talk to people.

You know, I always get yelled at by couples saying, you should get out some more. You should talk to more couples. You get your chances are getting higher, but you know, I'm like, they see me, they see me. If they want me, they want me. So I don't know. But anyways, we're going to talk about that a little bit. But first I want to start talking about hand singles, B swingers. And I'm in a, I mean, not that sorry, when swinging goes wrong, I'm sorry. Oh, I got too much of that shit on my brain.

So when swinging goes wrong, how to handle the unexpected and you know if you are a newbie you might not know this but if you are a veteran to the lifestyle you would know this for sure swinging can be exciting fulfilling way of fulfilling way to explore intimacy deepen connections and create unforgettable experiences oh yeah so many experiences i've had in the past and so many to tell like when i first started gangbang after gangbang women loved the gangbang back then and here in texas it seems like it's coming back more and more women are getting into gangbangs and all that stuff but oh well but you know those are some fantasies that a lot of people have a lot of and i got to participate and help women out in that so but like anything in life things don't always go as planned yes like I said I had one gang bang when I was in Rochester New York and there was a shitload of us and I think there was close to 10 men and what happened was after one guy she fucked she called it quits so nine other people with blue balls whether's a miscommunication, broken boundaries, jealousy, or an unexpected emotional reaction, when swinging goes wrong, it can be challenging to navigate.

Now, don't let this affect your relationship. You're going to have hiccups along the way. Newbies, you're going to have hiccups. It's not going to be perfect. You're not going to go to a club, find the perfect couple, and live happily ever after. You're going to have to kiss a few frogs. You're going to have to do a lot of stuff. It's trial and error. You have a rule, no kissing. You might break that rule. You have a rule of same-room sex. You might break that. Things do happen.

Don't let it be the end-all be-all be all when you are in this lifestyle because, you know, like I said, it can end relationships and you don't want that to happen to you or anything like that. So here's what can go wrong and how to handle it when it does. And the first one is always the key. What does AC always say? Communication. Number one is miscommunication and mismatch expectations.

you don't know how many times I go to a club and I hear people or when I was working at Caliente or I was working at a club here in Texas you know I hear couples you know oh we can't wait for the night we're gonna do this we're gonna do that well you know from my experiences it all depends on the mood you go there, it's like a full out, pretty much a free-for-all. Some clubs, there's nothing going on. It's just a bunch of people getting drunk, dancing, talking, having a good time. No hanky-panky or anything like that. So it really depends on the mood.

Just like this past weekend, Friday night, I go to the Pendling Clubstead and i go there and i you know there's a lot of people on a friday night usually friday night it's not a really big night for uh tbc but there was a shitload of people and it was crowded and i was very impressed so we go back saturday night i go back saturday night uh and it was very slow now it could have been because a splash was here in Houston this time. So I'm going to chalk it up to that, but we'll be, I'll be back on Saturday. We'll come back on a Saturday and check it out, make sure everything's kosher.

But we did love the Friday that there was a lot of people there and people were having fun and all that stuff. But anyways, so you got to have that miss, you might, you're going to have miscommunication and you're going to have mismatched expectations. Your expectation is don't expect anything. So one of the biggest pitfalls in swinging is assuming everyone is on the same page. Think about this this way. Maybe you're at work, you're having a pizza party or you want a birthday cake and everyone's chimes in what they want. How hard is it? Think about it.

How hard is it to just say yes to what toppings you want on a pizza and think about how hard it is to find people that you want to have intimate relations with, you know, and all that stuff. So it's very difficult. It's very hard to be on the same page. Not everyone's going to be on the same page as been doing this for 20 plus years. So many times I'm not on the same page with people or anything like that. And it's just makes for a bad night. Whether it's between partners or another couple, miscommunication can lead to uncomfortable or even hurtful situations. Yes. No. No.

The lady says she was ready to go brady's all good to go i'm ready to go and then husband says no you know you know you get all excited you're all thinking of party and have a good time but then hubby steps and says no all right so did it hurt a little bit but you know you understand it is an uncomfortable situation depends on how the husband reacts i had a husband flip out on us both me and the female and that just was a lot of awkwardness because screaming and shouting and other people watching so what are some of the common issues that may be caused by the miscommunication?

One partner wants to try something the other partner isn't comfortable with. That's always seems the biggest one I have found that that's the biggest one in my time in the lifestyle is that one person does something they don't want to do. Vice versa. A couple believes another couple is open to full swap when they're not. That's why you got to communicate. You know, it doesn't have to be the first thing you say. Ask a couple, but you know, if you're hanging out with them all night, at one point within the hour, within an hour, make sure you ask, are you guys full swap, soft swap?

What do you like? What are you into? Is it just girl on girl? Things like that.

Someone assumes there's an emotional connection when the other sees it as a purely physical that's why i said you got to ask yourself what you want when you are with your wife your boyfriend husband girlfriend whatever um do you just want it to be physical because that's what i want i don't want my partner to be emotionally attached To someone else Because I want her for all myself Call me selfish or what not But I want her to You know make love to me Have sex with me Where she just fucks and use the other guys And the other couples And all that stuff So you gotta get on the same page With all those So there's three symptoms there.

How do you handle this? How do you go from having a bad night to having a good night? Clarify everything up front. Open and honest conversations are non-negotiable. Talk about desires, limits, expectations before any encounter. Yes. Another thing you got to talk about is what time birth control. See, we, in the lifestyle, we kind of get lost. We always talk about condoms for STDs, but no one ever really talks about condoms and birth control for the purpose of preventing pregnancy. We are getting a lot more younger couples into it. Younger, fertile females that are in the lifestyle.

Now, if she goes to the club, or the couple goes to the club, and the raw dog and every dude that they play with and all that stuff, well, accidents do happen. Maybe she gets pregnant, maybe she doesn't get pregnant. When I first started, it was mostly older women in their 40s and 50s. You didn't really have to worry about that because they're done, you know, having babies and all that stuff. They get their tubes tied or whatever they have, or they just went through menopause and it's over and they don't have to worry about it anymore.

But when you do talk with a younger couple, make sure you talk about birth control. Is the baby factory still open or is the baby factory shut? I see couples like for single men that have a vasectomy. See, you want to make sure the baby factory shouldn't be cut and you're up front and with that at the very, very front of the relationship. Be open and honest. Did you have a vasectomy? Did you have your tubes tied? Yada. But we don't ever hear that about birth control. So you got to talk about that, especially if you're young. Talk about it because you got to know and all that stuff.

Use safe words or signals. If things feel off, having a way to pause or stop without awkwardness can help prevent bad experience from escalating. Now, when you're a newbie, this might be a little more difficult because sometimes you have a signal. You got to pick something, a safe word or a signal that is not the norm.

You know, if you always put put your fingers run your fingers through your hair don't pick that as a single because then he's just then i would be just thinking that that's what you're doing normally you got to do something that's not something you normally do for a single or a word you know let's be honest buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated sketchy or low. That's why I want to tell you about Mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker.

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Just head to mood.com that's m-o-o-d.com to get started to me the easiest thing is to excuse yourself and grab them and go to the bathroom say let's go to the bathroom together very simple very easy and it doesn't really um give off any awkward vibes or anything like that they're going to go to the bathroom and you could talk to them then so going to the bathroom could always be a good one uh for Thank you. This is something very important because, you know, if you are not on the same page, you're going to have trouble.

There's going to be problems with you and all that stuff that you're going to have trouble and you're not going to be able to, you know, talk to people and have a good time. It's going to ruin your night. So, you know, it is what it is, guys. You got to do what you got to do. Let's see. So, another thing, jealousy. Number two out of the five, jealousy creeps in. Even the most experienced swingers can encounter jealousy, whether it's an unexpected reaction to seeing a partner with someone else or realizing that emotions are playing a bigger role than intended.

That's why I don't understand i hear these couples uh we gotta have a connection you know we have to have the emotion i think emotion and emotions is very bad for the lifestyle because you get that you get a sense of what is it uh clinginess you know you get attached to people and you as a couple play with one couple that couple now goes play with someone else and you get jealous and angry because they went and played with someone else you thought oh I thought they were with us but you know it's not it's you two are together those two are together you're or not together so what are common triggers seeing a partner enjoys someone else too much that's what I always tell people this is what happens in swinger couples the jealousy will get you if nothing is if not the communication part but the jealousy will get you because now you have your wife she's getting you know she's having she's playing with another male or another girl and she's screaming she's she's moaning like she's never moaned before you never heard it maybe she squirts for the first time and you can never get her to squirt and now you start thinking it gets in your head am I up the problem or how dare she enjoy this more than I thought she did?

There's a lot of times you see this where you go, a couple will go and pick up another couple or another single. And next thing you know, they're in a fight because one was enjoying it way too much.

But you got to remember, guys, gentlemen, ladies, you're there there for enjoyment it's okay if your partner enjoys another person it's okay for that to happen talk about it talk through it talk through it in a rational adult way it doesn't mean they're leaving you or anything like that it just means they're enjoying their time and that's what you want because if they enjoy it guess what happens he might she might want to come back or he might want to come back and in the end of the day you're going to have fun anyways so she's enjoying another guy she's enjoying another girl let her enjoy it.

Ladies, if he's enjoying another girl, let him enjoy it. Remember, he's going home with you. Remember that. Feeling left out or ignored during an encounter. I see this a lot. Unfortunately, I do see it a lot. And it's usually, the main cul are the men. But, you know, you will see women do this because they just don't, for whatever reason, you know, they're enjoying themselves too much. And they forget about their hubby. And the hubby takes exception to that and doesn't like it. So that's why I always say, make sure you check in with your partner. Don't worry about everybody else.

Worry about your partner. Are they having a good time? For me, if my partner's having a good time, she checks in on me and go, okay, go out, have fun. I'm watching. I'm talking to her while she's getting fucked or she's fucking. So, you know. And another thing. This happens a lot. Jealousy. Comparing yourself to others. You know, you got a lot of mom bod, dad bods. Love your body. If you're a big girl, own it. If you're a skinny girl, own it. If you got a mom bod, own it, girls. Listen, there's someone out there that want to be with you. Trust me, I've seen it. I love thick women.

Who doesn't like a thick girl? I love all women. I just care about how they treat other people and how they treat me. Gentlemen, all right, maybe your cock ain't 8 inches or 10 inches long. Can you use it? Can you eat that pussy out? If your cock ain't that big, learn to eat pussy like a master. I don't know, go somewhere, go learn pussy eating school, go to pussy eating school or something. But you can overcome your small penis. Guys, maybe your penis is huge and you just hurt too many women.

got a mouth too you got fingers guys maybe you're not six feet tall six-pack abs or anything like that you know don't compare yourself to other people who cares because you don't have no clue of how that other person is. That person that looks like an Adonis could be the biggest asshole and the biggest idiot on the planet. Usually they're not that intelligent because people look at them and go, oh my God, they just fall over them because they're good looking. They don't really have to use their brain too much.

So there's no reason to be jealous Who should really be jealous You're the one with the wife He's the one fucking going home alone And stuff like that So you know She has you for her husband She's got that idiot over there For her husband So you know Don't compare yourself to others Try not to It's human nature I'm going to tell you that right now It's human nature It's going to be fine Thank you. She's got that idiot over there for her husband. So, you know, don't compare yourself to others. Try not to. It's human nature. I'm going to tell you that right now. It's human nature.

It's going to be fine. So how do you handle all this jealousy? Announce the feeling. Suppressing jealousy won't make it disappear. Address it. Talk about it. Identify the group calls. Honey, he had a bigger cock than me. Or honey, you said things that you never said with me. You know, things like that. Thank you. Honey, he had a bigger cock than me. Or honey, you said things that you never said with me. You know, things like that. After every time you go to the club, make sure, you know, on the ride home, talk about your experience. What happened? What did you like about it?

What did you didn't like about it? You know, this can really stage off that jealousy. You know, why were you jealous in the first place? Was the guy, was the girl have nice big fake titties and a BBL ass? Was the guy hung like a horse and your guy at four inches? I don't know. You just got to talk about what's the root cause. Reassure your partner.

Remind each other why you're in this together and what makes your connection special like i said keep emotions out of it just go for purely physical okay you want to hang out you want to talk you want to meet other people that are in the same lifestyle i get it that's great do that but remember you're there with that partner you had that special connection you make love to each other you built a family together not those fucking idiots at idiots at the club. The club don't, they're not, they don't pay your mortgage, your card note, your health insurance and all that stuff.

That woman next to you does. That man next to you does. They're the one that built that family. They're the one that, you know, took that pledge.

So just reassure your partner that you ain't going nowhere or everything's cool take a break if needed if jealousy keeps resurfacing step back and assess whether swinging is truly right for your relationship at this time yeah you always gotta step back and look at it if you're always jealous maybe the lifestyle is not for you maybe you gotta change your playing dynamics I don't know I had a reddit thread that said talked about single guys We'll be right back.

maybe you gotta change your playing dynamics i don't know i had a reddit thread that said talked about single guys you do realize this is swinging single podcast guys i'm gonna talk about single guys a lot so don't go oh he's talking about single guys again they were a lot of single guys are assholes i admit it they're creepy they do dumb shit so the couples do dumb shit but So what was the guy? I think the guy was talking about they don't want to go to Secrets, Caliente, or anything like that if they're single guys there. Because just the thought of having a single guy talk to them was icky.

It was an ick for them.

And like always, you know, it turned into bitch fest 101 for single males and I I did I posted I said maybe you don't belong in this lifestyle maybe it's not what you need right now because if I don't know the content from what I'm reading I'm just assuming that if a guy talks to them they get angry they don't like it and if that's it I would not I would take a break because if a single guy disturbs you that much just for saying like if I said hello that disturbs you why you know maybe there's something that you need to focus on before you get into the lifestyle remember you're going to meet all kinds of people.

Guess what? You know who goes in those swinger clubs too? Transsexuals. There's a lot of, you know, I met some, I haven't met a lot of transsexuals, but the ones I have met in the lifestyle and at the clubs, at Caliente and all that, have been pretty fucking respectful towards me. They respected that I was not into it. They didn't sit there and go like the gay men would do. Oh, you just haven't had the right partner. I go, trust me, I know. They have been very respectful, honest, and open. So if you don't like them, they might go to a club. What are you going to do?

Not go to the club because they're there?

Fuck no, why do you, don't let someone else ruin your time, so just take a break, figure out what your dynamic is, and if, and if it's still the same dynamic, then find places that fit that dynamic, because not everyone is, has a dynamic, and I, and remember, swinging is inclusive, remember, everyone's everyone's welcome right guys is that what we tell everyone swinging's inclusive everyone's welcome so that means singles and couples just a little food for all you swingers let's be honest buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated sketchy or low quality that's why i want to tell you about mood.com.

That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle, and here's the kicker. The quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary. Yeah, I said it. Whether you're into edibles, concentrates, flower, or just looking to explore, you'll find it all at Mood. And it's not just the variety that makes them stand out. Every product is sourced from small, American-owned family farms that care deeply about what they grow. It's cannabis you can trust, delivered discreetly, and ready to elevate your mood.

And because you're a listener, you get 20% off your first order. Just head to mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com to get started. Three, someone crosses a boundary. Single guys do this a lot, and couples do this a lot. One of the fastest ways swinging can go wrong is when someone ignores or disrespects a clearly established boundary. Like anal, don't put it in my ass. And he tries to stick it in your ass. This can range for pushing for more than what was agreed upon to outright non-consensual behavior. What are the common issues of partner engaging activities outside their green limits?

Yes, like pissing, no anal, wearing condoms, stuff like that. Or meeting people Thank you.

uh pissing no anal on wearing condoms stuff like that or meeting people outside of the club for one them one-on-one i have a couple i'm friends with believe it or not ac does have some swinger friends uh i wouldn't okay see to me when people say friends i think like they're going to help me move you know if I call them at 3am to bury their body they're going to come help me bury their body you know your friendship your definitely friendship should be different so I just want to put that out there where friendship is where if I got to move I got to stay somewhere for a couple days they're going to invite me they're going're going to help me move.

And at 3 a.m. during the dead body, they're going to do that for me, too. Because there's only one dude I would do that for. And, you know, he's my ride and die because he's my boy. Anyways, so I do consider him a friend, but, you know, it is what it is.

But they, he travels to work, and she she stays home and works and so monday through friday she's home alone and you know and he's okay with her having a partner during the week because she needs sex and as long as they meet the guy and all that stuff he's cool with it so what would be crossing the boundary would be her not telling him that she's meeting other guys and he's not meeting them and i will i told her that you should always have every guy meet him first before you play because it just saves a lot of time it just it shows respect a single or couple trying to pressure for more than what was discussed yeah you're only going to do oral you're only going to do vaginal things like that you're only going to hawk in the club you're not going to meet outside the club stuff like that you know and people will do that especially with single women couples will be very aggressive when there's a single woman involved they will try to keep that single woman for themselves you know i seen it happen i know single women that happen they tell me stories.

Not stopping when someone expresses discomfort. Well, see, that's a dilemma because if they say no and you keep going, well, that's kind of rape, right? So I don't know if you want to be doing that. So when someone becomes uncomfortable or anything like that, show, you know, try to read the room. Try to read her body language or his body language that they're uncomfortable. So you can say, stop. Let's just cool out. Let's go sit back out. Let's get a drink or something like that. Let's go dance, man. Let's go do that. Try to be able to read that body language. Don't be selfish.

So many people are selfish where they don't really look at other people. They just look at themselves. So how to handle it? Speak up immediately. If something feels off, don't stay silent. Say no. Use a safe word or physically remove yourself from the situation. Physically remove yourself from the situation is probably the best way to go because you know what they're going to say, oh, I didn't hear you say no or anything like that. And don't feel like in the middle of play that you are obligated to keep going. If at any time during play you want to stop, just stop. Say, I got to go.

I got to go. You know what? You know what always works? I have to go to the bathroom. I have done that myself. I have said middle of a foursome gangbang. Oh, I got to go to the bathroom. Excuse me. And guess what? I just left. It was nothing to do with anything because, you know, you know, you're pumping and some guy sticks his finger on your asshole. You know, it kind of gets uncomfortable. So, you know, you leave and you just want to get out of there. So just remove yourself. If you don't know how to do it, just remember bathroom. Oh, I got to go to the bathroom. Hold up.

Grab all your stuff, whatever you need to do, and get on out of there. Reavaluate your boundaries. If the line is crossed, talk with your partner about whether adjustments are needed in your approach to swinging. This should be done all the time because as you get older, your boundaries change. You know, you might not be cool with playing with singles. I'm talking about men and women.

Then maybe five years down the road, you you're cool with playing with singles then maybe another five years you're cool with solo play you know like not playing together anywhere she can go off and play and he can go off and play see because your your boundaries should change you know are gonna are going to change yours i don't think i met a couple where the same boundaries because i always ask them because i'm curious how has your boundaries what have you done differently since you started uh the one couple i know a couple i know that i play with their rule was no kissing then what they said within a month that rule was gone that boundary was gone because they like to kiss so you don't see things change and you always got to talk with your partner your female partner your male partner say hey what do you think about this boundary we said no anal but you know what maybe i want to finger up my butt or something like that i don't know whatever but you know talk about your boundaries re-evaluate them are they still you know working for you maybe you want to change them maybe you want There's another one.

Maybe you want to add, you know. You don't want any guys with orange pinks. You're a size queen. You want everyone to be over eight inches. There's a boundary. Cut off repeat offenders. If another couple or individual disrespects your limits, don't give them another chance. There are plenty of respectful people in the lifestyle.

Of course, that's great advice very disrespectful sometimes and so are single guys sometimes and so are single girls you know i don't single women are just as bad as people you know they get the credit because they got a pussy and everyone wants them but you know some of them are not the nicest people and i'm gonna leave it at that but when we talk about couples, you cannot be, you know, don't try to put so much pressure on another couple. You know, you don't want that to happen to you.

Don't do it to someone else because, you know, it might make that couple uncomfortable, especially if they're new. Now, if they're veterans, they probably could tell you to fuck off and they don't care. But newbies, especially these young cats, they're not very confrontational. They don't handle confrontation well. So you can get away with a lot of stuff with them. But just remember, you got to show respect. Guys, when you're going to talk to a couple, make sure you talk to the man. Show respect to the man. Talk to him. Keep him in the conversation. Sometimes a guy is hard to talk to.

He don't want to talk to you. He just wants, you know, he's just there for his wife. Whatever. Whatever works. But if he's talking to you, you talk back. You have a conversation with him because he has to be comfortable with you and vice versa. You got to be comfortable with him. So, you know, and all that. So, you don't, you just got to be smart about it. Show respect. Learn what the respect is. Introduce yourself within the first five minutes. Don't sit there, try to talk about fucking or anything like that. You know, try to have a dream.

At least have a 15-minute conversation with them let them know that you're not a complete idiot that you can have a conversation gentlemen and you go from there all right number four here's one that i don't like catching feelings when you didn't mean to the lifestyle is meant to be fun but sometimes emotions get involved maybe one partner starts developing deeper feelings for someone else or a connection starts interfering with the primary relationships this happens a lot unfortunately it does because people don't know how to separate emotions and lust when you go to the club you're in lust you know when you first meet someone everyone says oh i was in love at first sight no you're in lust at first sight you've developed love later on but it was lust you're lustful at first sight same thing when you go to a club you see that couple there you what they walk in you it's lust at first sight you don't go oh i love those people even though i never talked to them and they're married to each other i think I love them.

No, you're lusty. You got to remember that. So common signs. You start thinking about someone else outside the bedroom. See, this is where I have a problem with this one and this article, because guess what? I think about other people all the time. You know, there's a spank bank. Every man has a spank bank. Women probably have a spank bank and all that stuff.

One partner prioritizing the lifestyle over the relationship yep and i see that a lot when i was working at caliente and i was working at the clubs here in texas you see those couples that would come every friday saturday night to the club and you'll see them like for months and all of a sudden they don't you don't see them anymore Like I said You cannot Guys I know Fucking swinging is great Swinging is fun I can only imagine If you had a partner You know Like when I have a partner It's fun Because you got access To more couples More people will talk to you And Your relationship Is the primary thing Swinging is going to be there guys Trust me Next week Guess what there's going to be There's going to be Swinger clubs open We'll be right back.

and your relationship is the primary thing swinging is going to be there guys trust me next week guess what there's going to be there's going to be swinger clubs open a month from now swinger clubs will be open a year from now same thing swinger clubs will be open 20 years from now same thing swinger clubs will be open it's not going nowhere you do not have to be gun-ho and do everything in one night. You can just do it over time. Remember, go on date nights, take your wife or your hubby on a date night where you don't swing or you just hang out and get to reconnect with each other.

Then next weekend, go out and fucking do fucking orgies and shit. You feel a sense of loss when not interacting with a certain play partner. Yeah, I see that all the time. I had it happen to me where, you know, people want to talk to me. I just don't want to talk to them, stuff like that. Because, you know, they're married. Listen, I don't want your married. I don't want a married woman. I want my own woman. There ain't nothing I can do with a married woman. But I want a single woman to have that connection with.

And when these married women start having feelings for you, you got to cut them off. I had one beautiful couple. They were all right.

She would come visit me in New York and stay the weekend once a month and we would have our thing but she just got too attached and too emotional it's like having a girlfriend when we're just sex partners and having a great time and it really and it that sucked for me because i really liked her i like having sex with her i like talking to her because it was just like a buddy it's like having a best friend like i could talk to her about anything and there's no judgment no nothing there and you end up losing her because she starts you know saying she loves you and stuff like that it's like i i don't know does your husband know this but anyways so how to handle this stuff check in with your partner if emotions are surfacing talk honestly about what's happening and how you feel i would think you should do, if you start having emotions for people at the club or people you meet offline or wherever you go, take a step back.

Take a month off. Take two months off. Just get away. Refresh. Regroup. Decide on boundaries moving forward. Maybe you need to limit interactions with a certain person or take a break from the lifestyle. that's why i said if you ever get in that situation where you start feeling emotions i guess just take a break go take a vacation somewhere don't swing don't do anything like that stay off social media swing your site stay off sls stay off stc stay off castie just take some time away for each other re get your bearings recalculate recenter and Thank you.

off STC, stay off casting, just take some time away for each other. Get your bearings, recalculate, recenter, and fall in love with each other again. Be honest with yourself. If the lifestyle is starting to create emotional conflict, consider it if it's worth continuing or if the adjustments will need to be made. Yeah, you're going to have to make adjustments. Everybody does. If you tell me, email me if you never had to do this at swinging single podcast at gmail.com. If you have started swinging and your boundaries have not changed, nothing has changed. You're still the same.

You're from day one. You're still the same after 5, 10, 15, 20 years. Let me know.

I don i don't believe i think you change as a person there's things that you want to do and things that you find change your hormones change in your body your thinking changes and all that stuff so you gotta think you gotta make those adjustments now if the emotions are just too raw Or just too hard You fall for the people you sleep with I actually had a girl A couple tell me She needs to Be in love with the people she fucks In the lifestyle Yeah I'm like what the hell How do you do that So I'm guessing you don't sleep around She's like no I don't sleep with a lot of people We'll be right back.

yeah i'm like what the hell how do you do that so i'm guessing you don't sleep around she's like no i don't sleep with a lot of people but luckily she lets the husband sleep with whoever he wants to sleep because he don't need to fall off she does and i think as a husband i'd be like i would take a step back and go wait a minute hold on i'm your husband you love me you're not supposed to love anybody else now you can love someone but hopefully you don't love Thank you.

on I'm your husband you love me you're not supposed to love anybody else now you can love someone but hopefully you don't love this person more than you love your husband hopefully your husband is the or your wife's the main love of your life and everything's great you know you just love that person like a friend like you'll you'll do anything for your friend you'll you know you'll do the 3 a.m body dump like that so you know you gotta think is it worth is the lifestyle worth it too you know if you make adjustments it still is not helping maybe the lifestyle is not for you not you know i think when people swingers get are like liberals if you don't have the same opinion as everyone else they make they they call you names just go on reddit look at reddit if you don't have the same opinion as someone on reddit they call you names they tell you you're wrong and what a horrible piece of shit you are well not everyone should be in the lifestyle it's okay to you know it's okay for us to have different opinions you might not agree with my opinions but it's my opinion i've been doing this a long time i've seen shit my favorite thing is people watching i can go to a club and sit there at a table and just watch people go in and out and just watch how they interact with each other that'd fucking be a great i don't have to go fuck everything in the in the club or the resort i could just watch i love watching but i watch these people and some of them i would say should not be doing this lifestyle and it's okay to say that i don't know why it's so taboo to say that it's a great lifestyle very.

If you know what you're doing, if you don't know what you're doing, it's going to destroy you. So think about it. It's a sit back thing. Is the lifestyle worth my marriage? Is it worth my relationship? Because you know, when you're married, you talk about your marriage, guess what? You might have a house. Who gets the house? You might have kids. Fuck. That's where it really gets deep. Because now you got to worry about your kids. How are your kids, especially if they're young. Now, if you're 60 years old, you guys are divorced and your kids are like 30 years old. Well, fuck it. Who cares?

But, you know, you got to think hard, people. Is it worth your style? So, number five. And the last one, I think it is. Yeah, number five.

the last one i think it is yeah number five the morning after regret sometimes what seems exciting in the moment can feel different the next day whether it's from alcohol pure pressure or simply making a choice that didn't align with your true things regret and hit hard i wonder how many people regretted it if you have regretted it send me me an email swingasinglepodcast at gmail.com Also go check out swingasinglepodcast.com Check out all things AC And gentlemen, shave those cock and balls Anyways Let's see How to handle it.

Don't beat yourself up Mistakes happen and it's okay to feel differently about an experience in hindsight Hopefully it wasn't that bad of an experience Now it could be a bad experience or it could just be like a a bad experience you know maybe one of the guys couldn't get hard you try to fluff his shit try to get it hard and you were shit out of luck maybe that was it all right so don't put yourself up about it just remember talk it out communicate if regret stems from a misstepstep, discuss it with your partner and identify what could be done differently next time.

Code words, actions could be done where, you know, you are uncomfortable. Honey, I got to go to the bathroom. Take me to the bathroom, honey. Here's your code that, let's get the fuck out of here. Or, you know, safe words like, love it to our big cock, bald hairy cock, I don't know, whatever.

But, you know, talk it love it or big cock bald hairy cock i don't know whatever but you know talk it out you know maybe it wasn't that big of a deal maybe you're sometimes we overreact we overreact and maybe that's what we're doing learn from it having experience good or bad helps shape future decision take it as a lesson rather than a future one thing i liked about when people were bitching about the single guys is oh we ain't coming back if they're single guys well good see now see they learn from it they learn they don't like single guys so they won't go to clubs that allow single men in that's great you do you boo but you know you can't complain about shit like that if you keep doing it you know it's like what's the definition of insanity doing the same shit inspecting a different result you can't you can't be like that you gotta learn from it okay you don't like you know you don't like certain type of people don't go to those clubs you don't like old people uh find your own club where it's young swingers if you don't like young people find your group of old people to hang out with so you know you learn from it you learn from your experiences all back it's like me i had to learn i had no one i mean no one there was no internet it was a baby infant there was like no one on it was dial up there was no one to tell me hey this is how you act this is what you do this is how you talk people.

I had to learn that from experience. And that's why I think I do it better than a lot of single guys, because I'm not very stalkerish. Like the guy told on Reddit, told me I was a stalker and you know, I sit back, relax at my Coke, sit there, watch, smile, nod at people. And if they come up and talk to me, I can have a conversation with them. So I learned from my mistakes what not to do. Don't touch no one without asking. I don't even touch her. There will be a girl getting gangbanged. I won't even touch her until she tells me to touch her. So what else can you do?

So turning mistakes into growth when swinging goes wrong, it doesn't mean the lifestyle isn't for you. It just means there is an opportunity to learn and refine how much you should approach it. Communication, boundaries, and self-awareness are key to preventing and handling problems when they arise. And I think that's one thing, self-awareness. A lot of people don't have self-awareness. Single guys don't have a lot of self-awareness.

When I go to the white party in Plano, Texas all the time, there's a certain type of element, single men, and they give us a bad name that they don't know how to act, you know, and I always take guys under my wing, because I always say single guys, the best friend for a single guy is another single guy, because I can help them out, but hey, that couple's like single guys, you should talk talk to them introduce yourself to have a conversation with them see you know if they're in any interest in there um or that couple don't like single guys there's no there's no reason why you should bother them don't bother them leave them alone let them have their fun so these guys are just horrible though you know people be playing on the bed they just whip out their dicks and they'll stand right next to the bed now i don't like that as a single guy but however if you're out in the open playroom and let's say you're all the way in the cup chair you're way uh far away from the play and you're just having to stroke your dick because you like what you're seeing and you want to jack off i don't see anyone complaining you shouldn't be able to complain about that couples or other single because you're in an open playroom but you should be able to bitch when those dickheads walk over there with their dicks out trying to fucking jerk off in your wife's face because they don't know how to ask permission and a lot of times if they just ask they probably get a yes but they don't because they're fucking idiots they don't know how to communicate so yes i can't stand some single guys you know and there's a couple guys there that you know always run it for everybody else but you know what you don't let the bad element in the lifestyle ruin your experience you move up above and beyond and all that stuff so I don't know so you could take it for whatever it is ladies and gentlemen and I hope that you do but anyways I'm gonna get out of here I hope you enjoyed the ways of swinging when swinging can go wrong and all that great stuff so remember shave your cock and balls gentlemen go to swinginsinglepodcast.com email me at swinginsinglepodcast at gmail.com and you know keep on swinging everybody have a wonderful night