Welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast, where host AC Maxwell explores the exciting world of swinging and the conversations you should have before you begin this exciting journey. AC brings his unique perspective and expertise to each episode, sharing practical tips, insights, and advice to help you navigate the swinging lifestyle with confidence and enjoyment.In each episode, AC takes on a different topic related to swinging, providing valuable insights and guidance for both newbies and experienced swingers alike. From understanding the importance of communication and setting boundaries to navigating the complexities of jealousy and trust, AC helps you navigate the sometimes-tricky waters of swinging.Whether you're curious about the swinging lifestyle or ready to dive right in, AC's podcast offers a safe and non-judgmental space to learn, ask questions, and connect with others in the swinging community. From candid discussions about consent and boundaries to practical tips on finding compatible partners, AC covers everything you'll need to know to have a successful and enjoyable swinging experience.So, sit back, relax, and get ready to embark on a thrilling adventure with AC Maxwell and the Swinging Single Podcast. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or simply curious about the swinging lifestyle, this podcast has something for everyone. Get ready to explore the world of swinging, one episode at a time!
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Welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast, a platform for sharing the unique perspectives of A.C. Maxwell. As your host, I will take you on a personal journey through the ups and downs of my many years as a swinging single male. Please note that while my experiences would undoubtedly provide viable insights, it is essential to understand that my views may not be aligned with yours. So gentlemen, shave your cock and balls and take it away, Hillary Clinton. The swinging single podcast with host AC Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only.
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I'm your host AC maxwell today we got some tips some things you need to talk about before you start swinging a lot of information is out there for while you are swinging but what about before you start swinging is it a great ideal is it a bad ideal who knows that's between you and your partner so we are going to talk about that also i got some hot tips for single men then i also have tips for single women at the swingers club if we can get to it all in the hour so sit back relax get your bottle of lube get your tissues out ladies get some lingerie on and let's start talking about swinging all righty so i've been noticing on tiktok and twitter and any of the damn facebook they always talk swinging during.
What should you be doing while you're swinging? But no one ever really talks about or I haven't noticed because, you know, whatever. I'm a busy guy. I haven't noticed that anybody's talking about the lovely, what do you do when you are going to swing before? So before you try swinging, here are some things to consider. This is all me, A.C. Maxwell, my tips and important conversations to have with your partner or partners. You never know, there's probably out there in your life. So swinging can be a lot of fun if you go into it with your eyes open. Always have an open mind.
Be very careful and for the right reasons. Now, the rest of the day will be the first time. Now, the rest of the that's in there uh you know i believe a lot of people do it for the wrong reasons i always say that 80 of the couples that are swinging probably should not be swinging because i don't think they're really true slingers. And that's okay. But let's talk about before. So I know many couples who say it has enhanced the relationship, improved their sexual connection, and brought joy and pleasure into their lives in all kinds of ways that go beyond sex itself.
Now, those are few and far in between, maybe maybe that's everyone i don't know so we got to talk about it swinging is a form of non-monogamy you know ethical non-monogamy i think a lot of people say that now because it makes them feel better about themselves because a lot of the younger gen zers want don't like the term swinger because they think it is derogatory or it's disgusting misogynistic or whatever whatever they think it is i don't know but swinging is not monogamy you're bringing in other people into your sex and this is for casual sex now casual sex means i'm not looking for love i'm not looking for marriage i'm not looking for a baby in the baby carriage all right i?
I am looking for just wham, bam, thank you, ma'am, or sir, or ma'am, who knows? It is mostly practiced by couples. Now, that's one thing I always hate when people say, well, swingers, singles cannot be swingers. Yes, hell yeah, we can. You know, I participate in three, so am I participating in gang, gang, orgies, and all that, and I have partners all the time.
It doesn't mean it it's only for couples so these couples are usually in committed relationships who choose to also have sex with other people now uh i don't think they have to be married there's a good thing about red flag someone said it is a non-married swinger couple a red flag we'll talk about that but i don't think you have to be married to be a swinger you could be a couple you know and people get married don't get married for many reasons maybe it's uh i don't know maybe the lady has alimony that she's getting from the man her ex-husband and she doesn't want to ruin it and get married and get lose that alimony i don't know so either these couples will play together separately, hopefully all by mutual consent.
Sometimes, you know, it doesn't always happen that way. You know, blood starts going down to the generals and you start thinking of something else to do. You might go off and play with somebody without your wife knowing or husband knowing. Some single people, all right, also get involved with swinging.
duh but as most this post is this podcast is to address the couples who would like to try it together also i will throw in single men single women single women i think i want a single woman to come out here and tell me about her experience and i want a truth i'll block your name don't say your name or anything like that hopefully you're not using your real name like i don't know like whatever but i want to see your experience because i think single women have probably one of the worst experiences that more than single men because the way the lifestyle is all right so does swinging uh sound like something that you could be hot and heavy for with you and your partner can you see your wife get her back blown out by a eight inch thick cock can you see your husband getting his face written by some hot ass blonde or brunette while you're sucking his cock can you see that happening to you perhaps you're already talked about it i always say if a guy wants to i always say as a guy if i want to find out my girls into to it and i don't want to it up because I'm too scared, and we watch porn, I look at the porn.
I get a threesome porn or orgy porn or couple swap porn, and I ask, hey, what do you think about that? You know, you get her input. Maybe she would be into it. Who knows? I have a single friend. She wants to get her back blown out by two dudes at the same time. So I advise her. I go, well, she don't know if this man will be into it. I say, well, why don't you guys, when he gets back from town, he goes out of town for work. Why don't you do this? Why don't you watch a porn and gauge his reaction to it? If he's kind of like, no, he's lukewarm or cold to it, don't fucking push it.
If he's like, hey, I'm all for this. Let's do this. Then, you know, fuck it you know fuck it you gotta marry him have you fantasized about this stuff because trust me the fantasy is not like what you see on tv or movies it is very different so you know fantasies are sometimes meant to stay fantasies or thought you might like to give it a go if so make sure you have these conversations first all right right? If you don't, you may, you may end up in divorce court. Nah, I'm just fucking with you. Probably not. It's probably not going to work out, maybe. I don't know. Maybe. Who knows?
I don't get any email. Email me at swingingsinglepodcast at gmail.com. Maybe you and your wife, you and your husband are the exception to the rule. Remember, there's always exceptions to every rule, guys. So why don't, I think conversation one, why don't we want to try swinging? There's lots of reasons to try swinging. Some of them are bad. All right. Good. And there is bad, just like everything else in life. Everyone's reasons will be slightly different.
I got into the swing because i was a horny young man i love the fuck that's why i got into it there is no other reason swinging that involves sex i would never be a swinger so make sure you and your partner are clear about what you want to get out of this and what you want to get into that's why i always said you got to make sure you are talking and communicating i know communications put the number one key but even when we do have good communications shit goes sideways maybe you don't like the fantasy of fucking two dudes maybe you don't like the fantasy of fucking two women and such etc etc maybe your wife ain't bisexual you know what i want to get a straight couple in here too i want to do so much stuff but people are too scared to come on so so why don't you email me at swinging single dot podcast dot at gmail.com come on and all that some of the reasons people want to try swinging are include desire for sexual variety that is part of the my number one thing it's always nice to have a new strange pussy you know to see if you got the skills to make that girl come see if you still got it see if you can still get it all right so sexual variety was the main point for me i love different pussies i cannot imagine getting the same pussy over and over and over again for 20 30 40 years or how about trying to get yourself sexual right I think this could be good but I also think it could be bad it's a simple fact that if you're in a sexual rut it might not be swinging might not get you out of it maybe you need to see someone talk to someone you talk to definitely communicate because if you're in a sexual rut and you're not communicating well well then I don't think swing is going to uh cure your sexual rut now it might kick-start it like maybe you go to the club you have a swap with the couple bang now you're off to the races you and your wife are fucking every night whatever uh for whatever reason and you go out and you don't need to swing anymore all right so maybe that can cure it but you know it's also can also damage it which is you like to show off.
Dudes, if I had an eight inch plus cock, I'd be showing that dick fucking everywhere. I'd be showing dick pics. Maybe that's why a lot of guys send dick pics with big dicks, because they got that fucking sausage and they sling it and they can fucking, and they know it. So they send it to everybody, you know, whatever. But it's great. Enjoy exhibition. You like showing off.
Why if you like watching people have fucking when you're fucking your husband you want everyone to watch you because you want everyone to be jealous of you all right voyeurism you like watching live you know what i'm going to tell you something there's a lot more it's a lot better to watch live porn than it is to watch porn on tv even if you're not going to be a swinger come to a swinger club once in a while watch the live porn and all that watch people fuck you you'll you'll enjoy it i love it you know i love watching i love that showing off exhibitionism and all that uh but just don't fucking be a pain in the ass when you're there at the club you know makes you remember we're all there for the same reason.
Maybe you enjoy group sexual dynamics. Maybe you like that group sex couple swapping. Maybe you like adding two couples, three couples, four couples. You're in the group room. You're in the group orgy. You love it. So you enjoy the group dynamics and all that. Or you just like talking to couples that you can be open and free with other couples. You know, I know a lot of couples that are just, they don't actually fucking really swing. They just go to the club so they could, the wife can dress slutty, show off her titties or pussy to everybody.
And they go home and fuck the shit out of each other. And they talk about how every guy and every girl wanted them and all that. That's their dynamic. All right. And that could be yours too.
Or you're simply feeling strong, strongly that you are not built for sexual exclusivity so that means you are not made to have one pussy or one cock all right so you know these are some of the things swinging is also a common solution for couples where one or both parties is bisexual or bicarious now this will be tough i hmm would i want to date and marry a bisexual woman i shit ac is torn on this i don't know if i would want to because then i have to compete with the women at least with guys i compete with guys i can compete with them i can i'm on the same playing field but when girls i don't know i don't think i can't i don't know because man they know what the girls want good at pussy eating and stuff like that you know can i compete with that i'm not soft and i'm not smelling good i'm rough and tough i'm a you know a man so i don't have that softness that a woman does so bisexuality for me is okay i don't care whatever you want to do but for me as a woman i don't know i don't know if i wouldn't want a bisexual girl it's fun because you know you got more sexual um chances but like i said i'm not in that thing right now by curious you know you want to try it out it might be for you might not be for you so you know and not every girl went to college so they didn't get to have their bisexual experience while they were in college uh let's see where one has a sexual desire or fetish that others cannot meet that's like bdsm you like getting pissed on you like getting shit on you like getting fucking have 20 guys blow their loads on your face whatever it is sometimes it just cannot be met by one person and all that so you have to go out there and get it some people get into swinging because it it's feeling of sexual joy uh you like the jealousy that comes with it some some do all right some people like that feeling of jealousy and all that then the man comes back and reclaims the pussy and all that.
Sometimes you would call it cock holding or cut queening, which is cock holds for the men. Cut queening is for the woman. So your wife would love watching you fuck other women. And she don't fuck anyone else. So she's always faithful to you. Cock holding. The wife fucks other men. He only fucks his wife.
Some enjoy the feeling of seeing their partner made happy with the interactions of other people that's my thing right now i love watching my partners have sex with other men and women if they choose to and enjoy themselves because that's what it's all about the girl has a great time i'm always having a great time there's always a smile on ac's face even when the club is not busy at uh you know collette's tng tpc's and all that and whenever i go to vegas or florida and all that go back there so happy with others all right so some bad reasons to get in to swinging by me ac these are some of the bad things i came up with all right let's see bad name bad reason number one you think one of you will cheat if you don't do it i hear this a lot from couples especially the female side of the couples that well if i don't do it he's gonna cheat on me anyway so might as well do it i don't know how as a man you can sit there and feel good about yourself if your lady feels like that i always you know i always i ask a lot when i first with someone and we're gonna we're going to a swingers club or we're gonna be partners and swing and i always ask are you sure you're okay with this if at any time you're not we can leave it ain't no big deal we can go out and do our own thing you know i got a lot of things i have other desires or any other act hobbies i like to do outside of it so i just don't think as if someone told me they never wanted to do it i would feel feel pretty shitty about myself but that's just me so one thinks the other will cheat two you think your partner will leave you if you don't or they have threatened to leave you.
I being working at Caliente Resorts and being a member of Caliente Resorts, I hear this a lot too. Couples are scared that the other one's going to leave. And you know what? It's just not the men. It's the women too. Women will tell their men, I'm going to do this, like it or not. So the guys do it. I know women who cheat on their husbands outside of the lifestyle because they don't get what they want from the lifestyle from their husbands. So they go out and find other ways to do it. So you're thinking your partner is going to leave. That's a horrible reason to get in there.
Three, you expect a swinging event or party to be a sexual free for all. It's not.
Like I said God damn The thing that ruined Swinging Was social a swinging event or party to be a sexual free-for-all it's not like i said goddamn the thing that ruined swinging was social media and the movies now you see movies and you have all these beautiful people and an orgy and all that stuff it was i saw one time my mom and dad watched nip tuck and there's a part or i guess they went to a bbc party and one girl's getting fucked by this black guy and the main star and his girlfriend was there and the guy goes oh you're next honey and all that and so they're glamorizing this fucking lifestyle to be all hot moms and hot dads where it's completely not that it's fucking average people having fun you got mom bobs you got women with Scars, tits saggy skin fucking birth marks all over her body stuff like that you know and you got guys beard guts looking like they just fucking got out of the cave and all that hairiest shit it's not like you see on tv it's not the fucking um swinging people that you know do podcasts of this you know i'm average looking dude so i'm more i'm more what swinging is than those people on the other ones where they're fucking hot and glamorous are not what swinging mostly is they are the exception to the rule i am the second i am the rule all right so people expect it is to be a three for all if you go into Houston, have you been to a swing club in Houston?
You know, most of the time, shit don't get done until after 12. You might get one or two couples go off and fuck at 10 o'clock, 11 o'clock. But mostly the shit happens after 12. And if you don't agree with me, then you're probably lying to yourself. But then you go to other clubs. Now, I have been to other clubs where fucking shit started at nine and people are fucking all night. You know, those are a lot of some of the clubs and not every club. People wait to get started. All right. See you next time.
fucking shit started at nine and people were fucking all night you know those are a lot of some of the clubs and not every club people wait to get started all right so not everything's a free-for-all guys that's another bad reason to get into it it's not a free-for-all you're gonna be disappointed number four you are suffering from low self so low self-image and think that sexual attention from new people will fix it boom this i'm gonna tell you right now it's the number one reason why a lot of people get into it especially i'm gonna i'm i'm gonna say it but i'm gonna say it fuck it because this is me especially the ladies in this lifestyle they have very low image of them the sexual attention they get from all the men and all the other women ego boost them that's why i always said when women walk into the club they think they're a 10 but when you walk out of that club they go back down to being a five and ladies and people listening there's nothing wrong with that you can think you're a 10 bless your heart i support you i will promote you but we gotta be realistic all right i'm not hating on you you can think whatever you i think i'm a fucking hundred all right but we gotta be realistic i gotta be realistic i know i'm not gonna get every girl in the club i wish i could but i'm not so i gotta you know i gotta swing in my ballpark so you have a lot of people with low self-image in this lifestyle and the attention they get from the other men and women jacks it up now if it is good for you and it makes you feel better i'm all for it but that's not a reason to get in the lifestyle you get in the lifestyle because you like the fucking kinky ass sex that's going on you like fucking fucking dudes and women and all that shit that's why you get into it but okay so your little self-image no problem and the last one i put on there five you are no longer attracted to your spouse or vice versa that's the wrong reason that's pious maybe you should just start thinking about divorce do it amicably don't be fucking being nasty about it do it nice and polite and you know just do go you both go your separate ways but if you're not attracted to each other i don't think you should be married anymore now just like couples that don't get married are in the lifestyle there's all couples that are in the lifestyle that not attracted to each other don't get divorced money-wise financial is probably the biggest part and you know what that's fine if you if you're not attracted to your partner anymore but you don't mind going off and finding couples a fuck where you swap and all that do it go ahead have fun you know but it's not a reason to get into the lifestyle i guess i'm saying.
So those are my one, two, three, four, five reasons why not to get in the lifestyle. And these are all conversations. All right. So let's see what else. The second one. How is your relationship doing? Are you looking for it to fix it, swinging to fix your relationship? Are you looking for it to enhance your relationship?
are you looking for it to fix it swinging to fix your relationship are you looking for it to enhance your relationship are you just looking because you're two horny people and why the fuck all right so open up a relationship that is in trouble will not save it guys and gals come on let's think you will not save your marriage if you are trying to, going to be swinging. Swinging does not save it. Swinging will destroy it in a heartbeat. Because guess what? If you're having troubles, guess what's going to happen? Ladies, he might fuck a girl and get a little attached.
Gentlemen, your wife might get her back blown out by some dude and might think about about going there so you got to be very careful with this i always advise making sure your relationship is a good place before trying swinging or any other form of sex without your regular partner no relationship is perfect repeat no relationship is perfect all right if you think you have the perfect relationship you are not you might have the perfect relationship for the relationship for you and her but you don't have the perfect relationship because there's always problems so if it isn't that perfect guess what maybe swinging is still for you guys it's normal to have struggles we all struggle financially emotionally uh to have things you don't entirely agree on like how to raise your kids sometimes you know someone likes to you know smack the shit out of them when they tell mama they'll go fuck off or they just put them in a timeout in the corner uh you're gonna fight we all fight occasionally that doesn't mean your relationship is fucked what it means is that you're normal everybody goes through this i don't yeah unless have you ever had that couple that look perfect on the outside when they're going up all the parties you're here and everyone's like i wish we could be like uh john and jane they're so perfect and usually those are the ones that are usually the most fucked up couples but not everyone's perfect and just because they're perceived to be perfect it doesn't mean they are they got their struggles too uh but if you're fighting frequently or one or both of us is is seriously one of you is not seriously happy is very unhappy uh this is not the time to open up any relationship to swinging you need need to seek whatever, find and fix whatever is the problem.
Maybe your lack of communication is the problem. I don't know. Maybe the lack of sex. Maybe you should tell your wife, hey, how about eating my asshole? Or ladies, tell your husband to eat your asshole or how to eat your pussy.
I was very thankful that I had a girl in my life that taught me how to eat pussy and it was at a young age i was uh 20 years old i was 20 years old i was home from college in between that summer and i met this woman i was working at a lingerie shop and all that and i met this woman came in same age as me very beautiful short at the time i loved women with short hair i don't know why but i just did she came in miss j she will all i will always remember this woman she will always be in my heart and you know she asked me out and she asked me out she was very aggressive and i loved that it was something new because i usually ac funny guy had to ask all the girls out but i'm shy and i'm introverted yeah i admit it so we went out and i went down on her well she taught me how to eat pussy i was doing it all wrong i was doing like fucking porn stories you know how they fucking they're all over the pussy not fucking licking the clit so i learned how to eat pussy by her and i'm you know and i enjoyed it because you could because when i was eating her pussy you could feel that clit swell up with blood and her ready her fucking pussy getting expanding because she's gonna blow her load any minute so where the fuck was i going with that I don't know I can't remember but if I Where the fuck was I going with that?
I don't know. I can't remember. But if. I don't know, guys, I can't remember. But anyway, swinging will destroy your relationship. You got to fix it. You got to fix it. I needed that fix. I know where I was going. I needed that fix. If I had ever had that woman in my life, I might have been eating pussy the wrong way for years and looking like shit.
But no one can ever say ac can't eat pussy i'll go up to i'll go up against any pussy eater in the world one-on-one and i guarantee i'll hold my own or do better than that person women too i can eat pussy just as good as a woman so but i needed that fix that was that what was really missing in the ac arsenal of love making was that pussy eating so i fixed the problem that was going to happen so with that if you don't fix the problem that's going in your relationship it's going to destroy it and you're going be out on the street.
The best time to open up the relationship is when you are generally happy together. Do you communicate well? Are you enjoying the sex life that you are having with that person? Or at least are you able to openly talk about your sexual desires?
Gentlemen, it's okay to admit that you want to have your wife get fucked by two guys it's okay to say you want to swap partners it's okay to say you want two women ladies it's okay you want to get fucked by another cock it's okay to partner swap and it's okay to say you want to taste pussy that's all okay if any partner is not does not like that or disagrees with any of that don't swing i don't i don't think you should swing you know because sex swinging is openness the exploring your desires as a man i want any partner i have open up a desire if she's not if she just wants to fuck couples we're gonna fuck fuck couples only If she only wants to fuck some women Guess what We're only finding women to fuck So Because I'm just not going to To say hey okay We're going to do fucking men all the time No If she just wants to fuck women We're going to fuck women Do I want to fuck other men watch her fuck other men of course i do ac does so i'm able to openly talk about my sexual desires like i said am i tender and bumble profile i put that i'm a swinger there ain't no harm in it half the million motherfuckers only read the profile in the first place but you know you get other ones that are open to it or want to talk about it which i don't talk about about with, because you know what?
A lot of them are just jacking themselves off and getting hot and heavy to talk about my stories. But anyways, they can watch, they can go on the swinging single podcast and see all my stories here.
So if you're not there yet, consider doing some internal relationship work together, you know, and seeing couples therapists, if you want to, it costs costs money maybe your medical covers it then revisit swinging at a later date you know like a couple weeks a few months a year maybe you know whatever it's going to take but that's something you got to do how's your relationship to number three third conversation what rules and boundaries do we have well a biggest mistake couples will make when they're new to swinging is failing to set rules or agree to boundaries i always have couples always say oh we have a condom we always get our condoms well that's the one rule i think is most commonly broken is the condom rule that people in the heat of of the moment, they just slip it on in.
She puts it in. She wants a cream pie. So, you know, you got to set your rules and set boundaries and agree on boundaries. Perhaps you think the rules of engagement are so obvious you don't have to state them. But they are not obvious. They're never obvious. It's just like a relationship.
Swinging is just like having a girlfriend and boyfriend for the first time you don't know and you're gonna have to find out but this way i think it is bound to lead to miscommunications all right hurt feelings oh hurt fucking hurt feelings fuck you're gonna get pissed off feelings and possibly even big blow-ups all right huge ones like when i was working at caliente all the time couples would fight because maybe senor was paying attention to the senorita too much or vice versa the senorita was paying to the senora too much so you have all these things going on when you're dealing with sex and emotions and jealousy so you definitely better set your boundaries and rules what you're gonna have condoms yes kissing i hate to pee couples why do you do that why do you let me stick my dick in your wife and i can't fucking kiss her i don't understand that but okay whatever but i never understand that rule no kissing rule oh whatever people are not mind readers you hear that we're not mind readers guys we're not mind readers women can you read our minds you know well it's pretty simple pussy is our mind everyone's ideal of acceptable and unacceptable behavior will always be different swingers are like it's hard you know you find swingers that are just are common have common interests but you really never find two swingers that are alike they have the same philosophy the same goals and all that stuff so this is where you know you got to understand what's acceptable what are your rules what couple couples are you looking for young couples old couples don't care we just fuck whatever and we just want to have a good time all right those that's what you got to think about instead discuss your rules and boundaries before you even try swinging this is the problem now this is where it gets difficult can you do this when all that blood is rushing to both your penis and your clit ask yourself that so you go in the club you see a hot fucking couple you're a couple you're in your late early 30s let's say your early 30 You see another early 30s couple, maybe late 20s.
And they're fucking looking like goddamn supermodels. Beautiful. They're the unicorn couple. Hot ass man. Hot ass wife. Are you going to be able to control yourself? If they say, hey, come with us. We're going to swap or whatever.
Because did you want to to swap did you want to fuck on that first time you go to the swing or closer sometimes a lot of couples just want to check it out before they play are you gonna be able to control yourself self-control will dictate if you will be successful in this lifestyle self-control will dictate if you will be successful in this lifestyle because you are going to be tempted gentlemen ladies you're going to be attempted attempted by some of the hottest wicked people you will see there are a lot of fucking women and men that are fucking beautiful that will want you to eat their pussy blow your load inside their pussy.
They will want to fucking. Ride grind on your face gentlemen. They want you to fucking. Fuck them in the ass or whatever. And they. And are you going to be able to say no. Because our boundaries are. Nothing for tonight. And that's very hard. That is something that. I'm going to tell you. AC struggles with. Because you never know. I can't tell you what rules you should have. I can only guide you. I am the couple whisperer, you can call me, because every couple is different. You will be different. And also, you know what happens? Evolution.
Your rules year one of your swinging will be totally different than year 10. If you're still swinging and still together. And hopefully you are still swinging and still together. Those will be very different rules. Because you change. Guys like me, I said I don't even want another fucking dude around my girl when I started out. As my pussy and only my pussy.
If the only way you're going to fuck fuck my girl if you have a girl for me to fuck but now i did a 180 where shit i don't even give a shit about fucking another woman when i'm with my girl i want my girl to fuck other people i don't want her to have a good time i'm having a good time because she's having a good time so you change things change you know think about it you're 20 years old do you still think like you're 20 when you're 40 or 50? And if you still do, you're probably a fucking schmuck. Come on.
You should take your individual feelings, what your needs are, what context you want to have, what are the circumstances into getting into it. You negotiate these.
It's like a fucking, you're like your negotiation that Israelisinian peace deal with your wife or your husband you got to do all this stuff so i came up with some you know rules maybe this will be one one no sex with others in our bed i had a girlfriend that i was very serious with i asked her about when we started swinging should we bring people back to our house and she's like no fuck no that's our house that's no one uh you know not even the invite them over for dinner no nothing so maybe you have no sex with others in our bed and i don't talk about in your bed i'm talking about at your home at your house you know where you raise your family or whatnot two we only play at swing swinging clubs never outside of that environment so when you go to the swing club you're gonna fuck when you're going to you know um little little old joe's downtown you're not fucking you're not doing nothing all right now what i see this evolution would be that you go to little old joe's and you see a hot couple and you take them back to a hotel and you fuck the shit out of them.
That would be an evolution. Three, a specific sexual act is reserved just for us. Anal is usually it. The guy only fucks you in the ass. Usually anal, that's all you can really think of right now because that's the only thing I ever heard. Oh, he only fucks me in the ass. Okay. And you know what? I don't really like anal sex in the first place. I like the nice warmth and wetness of a pussy on my cock. Not some shit, you know. But you know, guys like it. I had a wonderful girlfriend in Buffalo, New York. She only wanted anal. I would fuck her.
I would put my dick in her ass and she would squirt. Fucking and she was she was like a teenage boy getting sex for the first time she nutted instantly it's like i was amazing i would eat her pussy out then i'd stick my dick inside of her asshole and fuck she it was just a waterfall gushing out miss a wonderful miss a miss a if you're listening you're in buffalo new york you know you doing whatever you're doing. Your asshole was wonderful. You're one of the only girls I ever stuck my dick in. The asshole. No men. I never stuck my dick in any man, no matter what they tell you.
Number four, we always use barriers with our lovers. Safe sex, condoms. This changes. A lot of times couples will, in the heat of the moment, forget to use one.
You don't believe me go search it on tiktok there's a lot of tiktoks and you know i really love when swingers are honest and not trying to bullshit people and trying to convince people to get into the lifestyle you know there's a couple of them like that that say oh we fucked up we had this one rule condoms and you know one thing led to another and we didn't use condoms all right i always had i always saw couples this is the weirdest thing i saw couples where the woman i was at a play party it's a big orgy you know there's like 10 couples me as a single guy and that was it and we all were fucking and i had one couple lovely couple i like playing with i would play on play with them when I would see them.
She would make every guy wear a condom. But then I'm watching her husband fuck someone, and he's always barebacking everybody. So I didn't know. Now, this is what I didn't think of. Because I was young. I was only in my early 30s. I was like, why the fuck is he barebacking everyone? And he's just going to go home and fuck his wife?
Why wife when he give whatever disease he has to his wife and all that but then you know i thought about it where later on is that maybe they were not fucking maybe they were not sexual with each other maybe they were just married with benefits where she would take them to a club so he could fuck other women and he could she could fuck other men so it's kind of weird that we would be in this orgy and she'd make me put on a condom and yeah i see her husband over there fucking without one long story short i ended up fucking blowing my load inside of her one time because she didn't she took my condom off and she like fuck the shit out of me and blow your load in me i was like okay baby i'm gonna do that now so i was like okay so that's one thing what condoms are you gonna what birth control because remember girls you know you're 20 30 40 years old you still get knocked up guys still blowing loads inside of you so you never know what are you gonna do uh five one two three four five no taking one for the team bullshit we all do it try to eliminate this as much as possible you're going to take one you are 100% guaranteed to take one for the team even though you don't think so you don't think you are going to or you don't think you have couples you swinging you have taken one for the team trust me the whole club knows the whole clubs knows that you took one for the team all right don't worry about it they all know so try to eliminate try to limit the number of taking one for the team and i talked about that in my last podcast check it out we won't play when drunk high or play with people who are drunk and high this oh my god by the boom bada bing there's a lot of drunkenness assholes in this lifestyle i mean alcohol and sex gentlemen why do you drink so much your dick can't actually you know what gentlemen drink as much as you want because you know what when you're when you can't get hard and i can get hard your wife's gonna be fucking me do that be stupid i tell guys couples if you're a male and you're bringing your wife to a club don't get fucking hammered have one or two drinks and have fun single dudes you especially don't fucking even drink at all don't have a sip make sure that fucking little little timmy can salute when needed.
Because you need to get hard in a group session. She might want to watch the hundred people watch you fuck her. You don't have a say in this. She controls that. And if you can't get hard, she's going to go on to someone else. And she's going to tell all her girlfriends that you couldn't get hard. And all the hundred people that watch knew you can't get hard. Like Limp Dick at TPC that one time.
All her girlfriends that you couldn't get hard and all the hundred people that watch knew you can't get hard like limp dick at tpc that one time all those people knew he couldn't get hard all right uh what else drunk you gotta be able to consent if that couple or that girl or that guy cannot give consent that's rape you gotta be very careful careful yes you can still get charged i don't i guess you could i don't know you know i told the story many of times the one only time that really was fucked up was when i was at caliente we're all on a tuesday night we're all drinking well i wasn't drinking ac doesn't drink i wasn't drinking a couple beautiful cuban couple next to me was getting drunk and hammered her more so than him they invited me back to their hotel room and i said oh okay i'll come later on i'm still dancing with a couple ladies and i want to make them happy long story sure you go to the knock on the door he answers the door she's passed out on the fucking bed so i'm like oh i fucked this up i missed it so i'm like all right i'll see you later man no no no go over there and fuck her i go okay so i go over there not knowing that she's fucking blown blown out passed out i go over there and i start kissing on her and she's not fucking moving so i'm like you know you're doing that double take like you kiss her like does she move i got hey so i go hey hubby uh is uh is this okay she she up and she's like no she passed out i go oh well then i guess i'll see you guys later i'll you know i'll be here tomorrow night no no fuck her she likes it when she's passed out and someone fucks her so i'm like what i'm like i don't know about this you know and the moral you have to have some morals you know so i was like yeah i'm not fucking playing with her i'm like i was like sorry dude but you know she's drunk she's passed out she's uh moaning because she's fucking drunk and hammering i'm not gonna fuck her all right now the guy that i was with the guy that was in the room with me also he might have fucked her i took off i left and you know how hard it is for a guy with a fucking I don't know.
all right now the guy that i was with the guy that was in the room with me also he might have fucked i took off i left and you know how hard it is for a guy with a fucking heart on who hasn't blown his load and who's looking at a fine-ass cuban lady to say no is it took a lot out of me to say no you know it did i'm not fucking joking it took a lot to for me to say no so So Nancy Reagan would be proud of me. I just said, no, I was like, no. And I walked out. I never saw them again. Never saw that couple again. I saw many times before, but after that, I never saw them.
So, you know, it's one of those things where if you get drunk, don't fucking go to the lifestyle, man. And that goes for everybody. If you're in the lifestyle now, stop getting drunk. Stop getting hammered.
If you had to man and that goes for everybody if you're in the lifestyle now stop getting drunk stop getting hammered if you have to be hammered to do this you're in the wrong that's why i said a lot of people should not be in the lifestyle if you have to get hammered to get do this shit you are not a swinger you are someone who is doing something that you probably don't want to be doing in the first place and the last one last rule we always go to bed with each other at the end of the night, yeah, do that, like I always tell girls, when I meet a woman, she wants to go to the club, I go, she's worried that I'll leave, or whatever, I go, no, my rule is, I come with you, I leave with you, no matter what, you know, I'm 47, I'm mature enough to know, you know, you got to, you're gonna have fights, you're gonna have have a disagreement and maybe you're not right for each other you know i meet many single women i met that single that single woman that emailed me on a quiver uh a couple weeks ago where it is to me she's weird as shit but you know for whatever reason she just didn't want to because the connection between us was not not there now i don't think it's my fault i'll blame her i'll take the heat out and i'm very honest i'll say it's my fault like natalie and all that stuff stuff like that that's my fault i could have handled the situations a lot better but with this one this is her fault her weirdness really didn't click with my weirdness you know i'm weird i'm introverted and all that stuff i'm not going up to every couple of the club like i see i get very jealous of guys that can do that i don't go up to every girl a couple of the club because there's a number of games for us and say hey how you doing see if what their thing is so i always leave with the girl i never you know take off with someone else i heard girls take off go with guys and take off with couples and shit like that i had a friend that happened to me at tmz long time ago like 2014 2015 where she went with him he paid for everything got her all the stuff and at the end of the night she went home with a couple that she just met so you know i always always go to bed with each other at the end of the night no matter what and those so those are the so those are the rules and boundaries that you might should have.
All right, what's next one? Do we play together separately or both? This is something that's going to have to be talked about. Through swinging is often an activity, you know, that couples do together. Some couples agree that it is okay for each other to play with others separately. All right? Especially if you travel a lot, I would think that that would be one of those things you would have to do. Say, hey, you know, honey, you go away for a week or two every couple of months. If you find someone when you're out of town, you can go fuck and have fun. Just let me know what's going on.
So I think that would be a good setup for them.
All right right there are a lot of ways to structure this type of agreement you know you might agree that your bisexual partner can play alone with other people the same gender i see a lot of that where you know my wife can go fuck go out with girls and they can all fuck i don't care all right as long as the same gender they don't care that's not me i wouldn't be into that like i said any type of sex to me would be without my permission or me not being there would be i would consider cheating now if i know about ahead of time like hey we're gonna go out and probably gonna fucking eat each other out okay no problem but i wouldn't care if it was a female or a male whatever one um and they always say there's not you know the couples will always be with other girls the girl will always be with other girls but she would never be with another guy and all that stuff because i want a forever reason you might agree that if one who one of you feels like going to a swing club but the other doesn't it's okay for them to go alone and have fun i like that when couples do that because you know why because sometimes you know couples need to be you couples need to be tucking taking down a peg i always find i had it i'm what listen to this one uh podcast i was a couple's podcast and they were talking about my wife was gone and i'm gonna to go to a swinger club single I'm like fuck yeah this is gonna be great because I want to hear I want to hear his perspective as a single guy compared to being a couple because I have my when I'm with the couple I'm like I'm seen by everyone when I'm by myself I'm invisible to everybody so that you know that's you know you know that's how i feel so he's talking about going to this club getting dressed up and all yada and all this stuff well the problem i had with it he didn't get the full swinging single male uh treatment because he went to a club that him and his wife always go to so him and his wife go always go to this club so everyone knows this guy so he's not having to meet people by himself for the very first time like i would have to do or any other single guy would have to do or a single female would have to do so i was disappointed that i like that he tried it and he tried to understand single men more bravo to you brother if that's you listening I'll see you next time.
so i was disappointed that i like that he tried it and he tried to understand single men more bravo to you brother if that's you listening but i would challenge you to go to a club out of the city that you don't live in maybe another state and go to a club there by yourself and see how people treat you because i guarantee you you're going to get treated a lot different than you did at your club that you and your wife always go to because he was like oh yeah they were asking me about my wife where she's at and all that stuff so i'm like oh man i saw i was very disappointed because i thought it was gonna be good because i was gonna like this guy finally understand single men our struggles that we have and i don't think a lot of couples do i don't think and honestly i don't think a lot of you care about our struggles uh and all that which is fine i don't care it's like whatever i don if you don't care you don't care like i don't care about your struggles as a couple i don't think it's hard to be a couple in this lifestyle uh only thing i think it is hard to if you want a connection before you fuck is finding that connection with four people uh let's see what else it's fine to go alone and you'll fun.
You get to make your own rules and set your own parameters that work for you both. You know, this is what it's all about. Do you want to make space for the possibility of separate swinging adventures in your relationship or a strictly together arrangement? It would have to be a strictly together arrangement with me because you know, you can't trust people. No, I'm not talking about my girl. I'm talking about the people she's going to be fucking with. I have many guys who I know will, in couples too, that would get behind a girl and take off their condom and fuck her.
I was at an orgy one time in Detroit back home when I was back in Detroit. And it was a hotel orgy.
And this guy was fucking his his girl she turned around and noticed she didn't have a condom on and she fucking freaked out and it fucking killed the mood of the orgy because of all that so she freaked out and all that shit but that's the kind of scumbaggery shit that couple guys do now i didn't say single guys i said guys because i've seen couples do it too where the guy will fucking slip off his condom and shit like that and you know do things like that so you know you gotta be very careful that's why i said it i want to be there so i know that it's all safe because i don't want no fucking shit in i'm fucking no warts on my dick or anything don't forget you can always go back and re-amend all these agreements you know like i said sometimes you, sometimes, you know, you have a rule of condoms, then you're like, fuck the condoms, things like that.
Yeah, I know it's crazy, but, you know, some couples are just, they don't like condoms. Maybe you're allergic to them and all that stuff. All right, let's see. How many more we got? All right, we got two more. How will we handle sexual health when we try swinging? All right, let's talk about the STDs. Let's talk about it. Yes. I know a lot of people, oh, swinging is safer. A lot of people get couples get tested. All right. Have you seen those couples paperwork? Have you? Are you taking a word for it? You know, people do lie.
There's a lot of scumbags in every lifestyle vanilla lifestyle scumbags swinging lifestyle scumbags you might think i'm a scumbag whatever but there are people out there that will lie about it no i got tested every two days i get tested or whatever you just don't know condoms are not 100 proof you can still get diseases with a condom on oral sex you eat i ate a lot of pussy get my dick sucked a lot doesn't mean i can't transmit or get something through oral sex now it's a little harder but still you're still playing that russian roulette so you got to figure out what are you going to be doing?
Are you going to get tested? I know a lot of couples, they say they get tested. I'm going to take their word at it for it. But as a common sense type person, I'm going to tell you they probably don't. It's just probably just as many STDs. But there's just as many STDs in the lifestyle than there is outside of the lifestyle. Like I said, I got my STD from fucking a girl that I was monogamous with for a couple of years. She stepped out. She had fun with someone else. I don't understand why because, you know, AC would have been fine with it. But she gave me, you know, siplice and all that.
So, siplice and that was it. That was all that I had. So you got to stay in this to set rules with your partner that are both, you are both comfortable with and to stick to them. If you're going to be condoms, wear them. Don't be pressured and taking high risk if you don't feel okay with it. Sometimes some people don't give a shit anymore.
They've been swinging for 10, 15 years're 50 listen i'm gonna tell you something if i'm 60 years old i'm still swinging ac ain't wearing a condom i'm like listen what's so what i'm 60 years old i only got a couple more years i got at least 20 good years left maybe so what's the point that's why you see at the nursing homes is a fucking high std rates at all those nursing homes in florida or the villages in florida because those motherfuckers like fuck it why wear a condom now all right also you should wear a condom because pregnancy don't forget you still can knock gentlemen if your wife is fucking another dude he blows his load in there and she gets pregnant guess what you're on the hook for that kid not him but you especially if you're married so you know you got to be very careful with all that stuff get tested uh everyone says every three months if you don't fuck a lot you can maybe do it longer and then you're gonna do it four or five months but if you're fucking like i see some of the couples that that go to the club every weekend you probably should get tested every.
And they always fuck with other people. So, you know, you just got to do that. You just got to be very careful. You got to remember, STDs and also pregnancy is a problem, especially if you're still. Now, if you're a 50-year-old lady and a 50-year-old couple, you don't have to worry about that pregnancy, probably. So, you know, the only thing you got to do is worry about the STDs, you know. Let's see. Sex is never 100%. Do you remember that? You probably heard that before. The higher number of partners does somewhat increase your risk profile.
That's why I always looked at the people who I love watching because I know who fucks who. And I know that guy. I see a single guy and I know single guys that bounce from one pussy to another. Sometimes they use rubbers, sometimes they don't. Now, if I see them fuck this guy, a couple I like, they fuck with him, I have to decide. Is it worth the juice? Depending on the guy, I would say no or yes. Couples too.
I know some couples, they swap with other couples, they don't wear condomsoms and all that is it really worth it if they asked if i ever get the opportunity to fuck her you never know you just don't know so you always got to ask yourself what are you going to do if you're making appropriate precautions you're going to be fine getting tested regularly your level of actual risk is going to be low all right now i'm going to tell you this swingers are more responsible with getting tested you know that is a i'll say that's a fact all right swingers are more responsible for getting tested where outside the vanilla stallion it burned for a couple days fuck it i'm done so you know all right last one and i think i think this is gonna be it how will we handle jealousy whether you consider yourself a jealous person if you're a jealous person please i don't know if you should be in this lifestyle anyways or not it's likely that jealousy will rear its ugly little head at some point if you choose to pursue swinging or be in an open relationship also.
Alright? Remember, you don't have to be a swinger. Open relationship doesn't mean you're necessarily a swinger. Maybe you and your wife say, we're going to date other people. But you don't go to swinger clubs and you don't have threesomes or foursomes or shit like that. Alright, so, when do you get jealous? You you're a couple your husband you know is good size seven inches let's say the partner that you pick pulls down his pants and a fucking nine inch anaconda comes out does he get jealous about it or does he take it on and all in stride, say, yeah, go at it, honey. Or how about the wife?
Had a couple kids. Body's not what it used to be. The wife comes up, takes off her clothes, and she's got a fucking tight-ass body that looks like she just got out of a fucking Playboy magazine. Are you jealous now? Gentlemen, is your wife making noises that she never made with you when she was getting fucked by someone or another girl, another couple? Ladies, is he eating that other woman's pussy differently, using fingers, spinning on it, smacking that pussy? Are you getting jealous about that? Will you get jealous? See, that's what you have to really think about.
That's the conversation you got to have. You got to say, hey, what about the jealousy?
You can take a lot out of it, out of the jealousy jealousy by acknowledging that possibility and talking about how you'll handle it in advance how are you going to handle it are you going to get up and fucking walk away or are you going to do something about it you are never going to stop jealousy stop it with the bullshit you are going to be jealous you don't think ac get i get jealous a lot i get jealous of other guys like fuck i have i play with a couple well i used to play with a couple guy was like in his 50s and he fucking had a six-pack ab i'm like what the fuck dude how do you get that fucking body i'm jealous you know i'm like what the fuck, dude?
How do you get that fucking body? I'm jealous. You know, I'm like, what the fuck? You know, I work out all the time. I got fucking a beer gut or I should say a soda gut. Cause that's all I drink is fucking Coke. But this dude's got six pack ass, 50 years old, 20 years older than me. Anyways, this just makes whoever feels jealous, less likely to talk about it. You have to talk about it.
Communication about it communication guys all right so handling jealousy requires some self-knowledge you might already have an idea of the kinds of things that you are that are likely going to trigger it for you like i said a lot of guys might get jealous the guy's cock is bigger a lot of girls will get jealous because the lady has fake tits that look fucking fabulous. You know, simple things. Or, you know, I had a girl who was very jealous of Colombian women for some reason. Well, I know the reason, but she's very jealous of Colombian women.
So you want to stay away from Colombian women because I know it's going to be like a jealous. All right. You can decide whether you want to avoid these things. Like maybe say, hey, honey, I don't want you to fuck anything over seven inches. My size or lower. All right.
can decide whether you want to avoid these things like maybe say hey honey i don't want you to fuck anything over seven inches my size or lower or you know the couple goes we ain't gonna fuck with any couples under the age of 40 because we're 50 we don't want to have anything like that maybe they'll get jealous and worried about them leaving him leaving for a younger woman i don't't know. So jealousy can also surprise you. So expect the unexpected. It might hit when you least see it coming. And like I said. A lot of times the jealousy gets where.
One of the partners is enjoying themselves more. Than the other partner thought he or she would. When couples swap. One might not get what the other one is getting. Like I said with that limp dick guy. ltbc that one night poor wife she was sucking them off trying to get them hard trying to get her fucked while her husband was over there with his wife limp dick's wife and pounding the shit out of her now wife a who is sucking and trying to get laid might get jealous because husband's over there pounding away. So some of those, so, you know, it can happen at any time.
You should talk about how you'd ideally like to express it when you have those feelings, jealous feelings. Do you talk about it? Do not hold it in. Do not shout. Do not slam doors at a club. That will get you kicked out. One thing I loved about Caliente, if they saw you fighting, they banned you for life from that place. They did not want any problems. They didn't want the cops showing up. They didn't want nothing showing up. Because, you know, you don't want to bring heat. You know, you don't want to bring heat to your place or your club.
So if you're fighting a club, they're going to want you there because you know what's just going to happen? You're bringing heat. You're bringing the cops. And when cops come around, bad shit can happen. Make in accusations. Don't accuse anybody. If it's not happening, don't make accusations. Plan to sit down and talk about it.
And do it outside of the do not do it inside the club do it outside the club where because things can get hit listen we're all flawed individuals we might get upset we might start fighting we might start yelling and if we're at the club like i said they don't want that type of heat so stay do that shit outside the club you might also like to agree on a kind of safe signal i don't know if i could do this i don't know i could be able to i'm not smart enough to do this like i always always tell couple i always like a partner i would have tell me this we'll have a safe word i always fucking forget the safe word uh that can use if you're feeling jealous during any play all right hey let's go to the bathroom i need to go to the bathroom come with me now me as an experienced swinger i know what that means already they're talking about me or they're talking about something about me so i always find it funny like i already know what's going on because like i said i'm experienced i'm not newbie i'm 26 years into the game uh your partner can either pause and check in with you or you can simply make sure you're getting enough attention that is one thing got got when you first start swinging make sure your lady and your husband are getting enough attention all right do not just assume that they're having a good time all right you should also talk about what you need to feel better when jealousy arises what's going to make you feel better having you stopped fucking that guy will make you feel better having you stop fucking that girl make you feel better have you not swapping with that couple make you feel better you know you got to talk about that sometimes just talking it out is good enough you can actually do that so you know it works you'd be surprised how just talking about something will actually fucking make you happier and make you feel better.
And you can stay in the lifestyle. Which you want to do because it's a fucking great lifestyle. Let's see. Understanding each other's needs and wants ahead of time can help you successfully navigate any jealousy, feelings that might come up. You might have something new come up you know it's just it all just depends on you so you know i figured i should talk about things conversations you need six conversations you need uh when you start swinging you need one why do we want to try swinging? Two, how is our relationship doing? Three, what rules and boundaries do we have?
Four, do we play together separately or both? Five, how will we handle sexual health when we are trying swinging? Six, how do we handle jealousy? So talk about all this before you go to the club because you'll be a lot better and you'll make everybody better. So, ladies and gentlemen, with that, it's time for good old AC and the Upside Down Pineapple Studios to get on out of here. It's been over an hour. I really do enjoy talking to you. Hopefully, you see the perspective of a single guy.
I hope you enjoy my stories of my life as a swinger as a single guy you can email me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com criticism is open i don't care if you criticize me you ain't gonna hurt my feelings i'm a single guy i get rejected every day so what's another rejection uh all that so couples if you want to come on and talk about your lifestyle with me i'll appreciate it come on no names will be given no video no nothing like that uh let's see single women come on and single men come on i want to hear your stories so hit me up at swinging single podcast at gmail.com and I will see you on the other side.
Shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. The way that we're rocking, yeah, you, you got me, you got me feeling good tonight.
