Welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast! Hosted by AC Maxwell, this podcast is dedicated to exploring the exciting world of swinging and embracing alternative lifestyles. In each episode, AC provides valuable insights and practical advice to guide singles and couples on the swinging journey.In today's episode, AC shares his 7 Golden Rules for swinging, offering listeners a comprehensive guide to navigating the swinging scene. From establishing boundaries to maintaining respect, these rules serve as the foundation for a pleasurable and ethical swinging experience.Whether you are a beginner who is curious about exploring swinging or an experienced swinger looking to enhance your skills, AC's 7 Golden Rules will provide invaluable guidance. From understanding the importance of consent and communication to avoiding emotional entanglements, these rules highlight the importance of respect, honesty, and boundaries in swinging.In addition to discussing his 7 Golden Rules, AC will also address some common concerns faced by beginners in the swinging community. From navigating the initial steps to setting boundaries and knowing when to say no, AC will share practical advice and real-life experiences to help listeners navigate the world of swinging with confidence.Join us for this exciting episode of the Swinging Single Podcast as AC Maxwell shares his 7 Golden Rules for swinging and explores the boundaries that beginners should establish. Whether you're single or in a relationship, this podcast will teach you how to have pleasurable and consensual encounters in the swinging community.🎧 Stay tuned!
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Every product is sourced from small, American-owned family farms that care deeply about what they grow. It's cannabis you can trust, delivered discreetly, and ready to elevate your mood. And because you're a listener, you get 20% off your first order. Just head to mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com to get started. Welcome to the Swinging Single podcast, a platform for sharing the unique perspectives of A.C. Maxwell.
As your host, I will take you on a personal journey through the ups and downs of my years as a swinging single male please note that while my experiences will undoubtedly provide valuable insight it is essential to understand that my views may not be aligned with your own views all right so today's show what do we got about today we are talking about golden rules for swinging over my 20 plus luxury awesome years in the swinging lifestyle i come up with these golden rules that both single men and women and couples can uh you know live by and have a successful successful swinging relationship so that's what's on this episode of the swinging a single podcast with your host, me, AC Maxwell, coming to you live from the Upside Down Pineapple Studios.
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You can listen to me Monday and Wednesday on the full swap radio Monday at 1 p.com you can listen to me monday and wednesday on the full swap radio monday at 1 p.m central time and wednesday 11 a.m central time all right this is my live podcast right here recording and all that so that should be good news for everybody all right uh let's see what else follow me on twitter at swinging single m uh let's see youtube swinging single podcast instagram swinging single podcast 1976 and let's see facebook swinging single podcast also there all right tiktok i'm on tiktok same thing swing and single podcast and all that i heard that you only have i can't go live on pod that podcast yet because on tiktok because i have to have 10 000 followers so that's kind of tough so i'm about oh only about a little over 8 000 short so follow me on tiktok so i can go live on there all right and anything else no i don't think i have anything else so you know that's just gonna have a good old time so today like i said i'm gonna talk about rules and boundaries that you should have or you might want to think about having as a swinger there are some couples out there that don't have any boundaries that just want to go out and play and bless your heart i love you so much you're my favorite type of couple to have all right so i come up with seven rules i will call them let's call them seven golden rules for swinging and all that but first jennifer aniston has to tell you something shave your cock and balls gentlemen yes shave your cock and ball gentlemen and save the ladies a lot of anguish from looking at that force down there all right so with that let's get into the seven golden rules that we have as a swinger and all that so let's see it's crucial to maintain uh discretion and respect within the swinging community and one of the cardinal rules is to avoid making comparisons between partners have you ever had that comparison between partners what about just think about dating remember when you were dating before you got married and one of those assholes would say hey you're not like my ex-boyfriend he was a lot better or hey you're my ex-girlfriend was such not as crazy as you that happens and even in swinging it happens not only it's not only a matter of etiquette but also one of the preserves uh preservatives that integrity preserves integrity and emotional safety of the relationship involved here's a great way to remember these guidelines all right so please whatever you do if you're at the club don't talk about that girl fuck the shit out of you and you didn't and your wife doesn't fuck you like that or vice versa girls don't talk about how big his dick was and that his dick is superior than your husband's because please it's it's just going to cause some insecurity and a lot of, what do you call that?
Oh yeah, fighting in the club. And that could get you banned permanently from a swinger club. So you don't want to do that. So maintain respect at all times. Be mindful that swinging is a shared activity where mutual respect is paramount.
It's never appropriate to ask for comparisons regarding intimate matters now i would say this about that it says i never it's never appropriate to ask for comparisons regarding intimate matters all right a lot of times guys will i like when i with my partner and we go to a club we play with a guy or play with a girl but i ask her how was it how did he do uh how did she do and all that who's better me or her but i don't really ask that all the time but that's what you want to avoid you want that avoid that when your husband or your wife asks you something like was he better in bed than me or was she better in bed than me i just avoid that question and just laugh it off and go somewhere else because that's like what we call you know you throw out the window you're fishing you're fishing to get some information all right let's be honestying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality.
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I'm always trying to benefit I always want to ask a couple or a single girl I'm with hey how can I improve my pussy eating skills how can I improve my love making skills and all that and sometimes they'll tell me say oh they'll tell me sometimes they won't tell me just like when I was I think I was 20 years old home from college for the summer I met this girl, Ms. J. Ms. J owes everybody. Oh, we all owe Ms. J, whoever I played with, whoever ate the pussy out, a debt of gratitude because Ms. J helped me learn how to eat pussy.
You know, when you're growing up as a young man back in the late nineties, there's nothing, there's no internet, there's no TikTok videos of how to do do kongling this and eating out all that so you had to learn from girls and what i found out i was eating the pussy wrong so i'm like oh so she taught me how to lick the clit find the clit play with the pussy and all that while you're eating the clit and with that she became the person that taught me the most about pussy eating. And that's where I go, go off of now.
So it's one of those things where, you know, you got to look at it and say, okay, comparisons, maybe not be, might be the best. Now she did it in a kind and loving way when she told me how bad I was and she did it in a kind, loving way to show me how good I can be. All right. So try to stay away from asking for comparisons. Just ask, hey, how was he good? Was he good in bed? You know, stuff like that. That's OK.
This ensures that all relationships are honored and everyone involved can enjoy the experience without unnecessary complications or hurt feelings you will gonna hurt someone's feelings and you know i would love to tell you ladies and gentlemen that it's never gonna hurt but sometimes it's gonna hurt guys you're gonna be at a club or you're gonna be at a resort you're gonna be on the swingers clues and some guys is gonna well your wife like no like you never have and all that don't take it personally don't get upset about it be happy because she's having a good time so she's having a good time guess what buddy you're gonna have a good time same thing wait ladies some women might have bigger tits and bigger ass and all that but you know what at the end of the day hubby's gonna go home with you and hubby loves you that woman over with the big tits and big ass is just that a piece of ass nothing else nothing more so always maintain that respect try not to make comparisons with everybody you know try not to at least number two number two focus on the present and positive interactions keep discussions light and centered on the moment without diving into personal details about absent third parties all right by keeping the focus on your direct interactions your you foster a comfortable and respectful environment for everyone involved all right so if someone's not there don't talk about them or talk about it just move on with your life all right that's a pretty dry plain and simple one that you can go on all right uh let's see number three of the golden rules in environments where trust consent and mutual respect are paramount it's essential to maintain a positive tone about all relationships, especially one's own partner.
Here's a brief guide. Promote positivity and respect. Always speak of your partner and your relationship with respect, particularly in settings that could be sensitive or intimate. Don't be telling other couples that your relationship is shit. Your wife is a pain in the ass. Your husband's a pain in the ass. Unfortunately you're going to hear stuff stories like this. You're going to meet couples that will talk negatively about their partner. Their husband. Their wife. And all that. And all that. Me. I talk negatively about people when they fuck everything in the club.
And they don't wear a condom. That's when I will talk talk negative about you or when you say you're a swinger but yet you only play with the same four people and you charge 9.95 a month on only fans for us to watch that privilege of you playing around so you know i would like to say always be positive but i'm like i don't know i'm not always going not always going to be positive, all right? If you have any questions, put it in the chat, and I'll answer them if I can, if I see it, all right? So that was the, let's see, where else?
Sharing grievances, especially about intimate manners, can create discomfort and undermine the trust and respect essential in these environments, all right? When you go to the Swinger Club, do you really want to be dealing with someone's drama? Save the drama for the mama. All right. It's just sad that when couples go there, they fight. They're not on a good foundation. Like I said before, and I'll say it again, I'll maintain my theory. It is 80% of couples that swing should never be swingers. They are doing it for the wrong reasons.
not doing it for the right reasons unfortunately all right and that's gonna hurt the club that's why I don't think this is why the relationship has taken off though I was watching a what the hell was I watching I was watching a movie the the breakup artist I think it was I don't know what it was it was a it's a good movie no and it was a talk of a lady a couple one of their friends got divorced and people started texting each other individually the couple that got divorced and they were discussing why they were texting these people it's because they want to play with those person they want to fuck with those that new broken up couple so long story short they decide she decides to test it and she tells everyone's on facebook and all her social media that they're gonna break up that they're getting divorced and like clockwork all these women started texting the husband and started texting the lady well they went to this thing called the husband got invited to a thing called pool party which which was a.k.a.
was a swinger party. So he gets there. He thinks it's a real pool party and he's upset that they never invited his wife and him to a pool party and all that. So when he gets there, he gets a number. He goes to the room and bada boom, bada bing. It's a sex dungeon of dildos, chains and all that.
Now, as I'm watching it, I'm laughing because I'm laughing because there's not one only obese person is the men all the women are skinny they got the nice titties a great face great ass and it's they're all beautiful women if you ever been to a swinger club you know that's not true so i think what happened is these people see that on tv and they think swinging is a bunch of beautiful people that they just have open sex and they find out it's not like that so the relationship is bad is on cracked foundation they can't fill they can't put cement in it to fill in those foundations so they talk negatively and when they go to these clubs they start talking negatively about you know other things not directly about the club but about themselves and all that all right so focus instead of on nurturing and supportive and positive atmospheres for all involved that's one of the things that we'll struggle with as swingers because you know you go to a club and there's no one there you go there again no one there so you know it's hard to be positive with the club when you let's be honest buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated sketchy or low quality that's why i want to tell you about mood.com that's m-o-o-d.com mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door no medical card no hassle and here's kicker.
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You are sitting there and guess what? There's no one there. Swingers want interactions. They want connections or whatnot. We need a club to be there. So it's hard to be positive when you go to a club that's constantly empty or half empty and all that. And there's really no one talking to you because everyone's scared to say anything to each other because clubs don't promote that atmosphere of talking to one another. So that can cause a lot of negative feelings.
clubs and all that clubs can help this out by fostering a environment of talking to everybody talking to people opening up that's why i say games are always good to do all right so focus nurturing a supportive with your partner be supportive your partner might not like your wife might go well there ain't no one here this is really swinging and all that you gotta you know you gotta put that flame out and tell her sometimes it's a hit and miss when the swingers lifestyle all right number let's see number four personal grooming is considerate practice uh to maintain especially when engaging in intimate activities with your partners and i think jennifer aniston had something to say about that shave your cock and balls gentlemen yes she did i think she did shave your cock and balls guys there's nothing wrong with a nice clean or at least trim it where it's not fucking hairy and if you start getting gray pubes guess what that's the time when you should shave it all because you no one wants to look at gray pubes that's when you know you're really old when you get your very first gray pube all right so shower before you go no don't take a big ass shit then go to the uh club where your asshole is going to be stinking ladies you got that natural flow getting rid of all that poop and all that in your asshole so guys we got to keep clear you know maybe shave your if you're a hairy dude shave that uh taint you know maybe a girl would give you a rim job if you do and it's nice and clean so shave so don't forget to shave your cock and balls guys shave your face uh trim it up you got a beard trim that up.
You don't need to look like a goddamn, what do they call it? A caveman. Ladies, same thing with you. Shave, shave your legs, save your everything. We're not in Europe. Hairiness is not, and a woman here is not look really sexy for a lot of men here. You know, it's just like the girls and they say the uncut penis. They don't like an uncut penis. Some do, some don't. So, you know, it's just a preference for a lot of people.
I'm going to say, you know it's just like the girls and they say the uh uncut penis they don't like an uncut penis some do some don't so you know it's just a preference for a lot of people and it saves you a lot of time and frustration of being rejected if you got too much hair shave you know trim that pussy me ac i love a hairy pussy it doesn't bother me i am gained from anything i'm a true swinger um nothing can phase me you know people watching or whatever i had a i got back in the early late 90s i got oh actually 2000 was 2000 uh some dude was selling viagra at a swinger party and it got raided by the police and you know what as the police were raiding us i'm going to pound town on some uh nice hot wife so you know nothing would stop me and i didn't lose my heart on for a while even though you have guys with guns coming in for a swinger party which was kind of weird but you know it's experience you know you you get raided all right let's uh smell good ladies put some perfume on gentlemen put some cologne on no not the old spice shit or the axe body spray people don't like that uh put something original be original be different gentlemen if you're a single guy be different than everybody others all those things you go into last week my couple friends went to um tpc north and colette's and they were and she was bitching up but storm says why do don't the guys get dressed up there she's playing there's only one guy dressed up uh when they went and she really likes a well-dressed man she likes the ZZ top every girl every girl loves a well-dressed man well she loves a well-dressed man and I think a lot of other women's do women do but I don't know because you know when I go out I'm always dressed up to the nines I don't try to dress down and plus i get yelled at by club owners well why am i not wearing such and such so always dress nice gentlemen set your set yourself apart from all the other dudes and other swinging dicks there even the swinging dicks that are couples you know your what the wife might find you attract and want to be with you more than anything than her own husband so you, just be smart about it.
Put on some nice clothes. Make sure they're clean. They smell good. Ladies, don't wear jeans to a damn club, man. Why are you wearing jeans? If you wear a nice dress, honey, ladies, listen up. There are all type of bodies.
There's big women, small women, average women, thick women thick women whatever you got every gamut of body type and these women all dress slutty as hell which we all love you know when they bend over you see their pussy if they got panties on you see their thong up their ass crack come on just get real ladies you're gonna be all right you're not gonna you know no one's gonna make fun of you and if they do that's dumb fuck them you don't need to be all right. You're not going to, no, no one's going to make fun of you. And if they do, that's dumb. Fuck them. You don't need to be around it.
Like people hate me because I do this podcast. Screw them. I don't need to be around them. They don't need to be around me. All right. So let's see. Okay. So maintain that. It encompasses not only cleanliness, but also additional personal care that makes you feel confident and comfortable. Nothing, ladies, there's nothing that's going to change your confidence and go into a club and every swinging dick and every swinging titties are all looking at you and thinking you're fine. It's a big ego boost for your girls. So don't be shy about dressing down.
You don't need to wear pants to a damn swinger club even if it's your first time put on a dress put on a sundress then if you go again make sure that dress is uh three inches from your pussy where it ends all right uh the point about hygiene and grooming can be summarized as following so you want to prioritize your cleanliness and comfort being clean is a basic inspection expect expectation now i'm going to tell you this this is not always an expectation because there are some stinky ass people now i'm gonna i love eating going down on a woman i'm gonna say it's not them it's just that they've been at the club dancing and maybe they're working up a sweat but sometimes the odor down there ladies can be very bad and ac and the other pussy loving eating gentlemen out there would appreciate that if you're gonna go play go freshen up down there before make sure all the toilet paper from when you wipe your your urethra down that it's all out of there and there's no left there before make sure all the toilet paper from when you wipe your your uh urethra down that it's all out of there and there's no lagging tissue paper down there and all that that'll be helpful all right and all that so you want to you know take very good care down there now if it has home and it still stinks well then you got to go see a doctor but i always give the women the benefit of the doubt they've been at the club maybe they fucked someone else maybe they've been fucking already and it's no problem all right but make sure that pussy's clean for gentlemen like myself that love to eat go down down go down there uh let's see what else it shows respect for you both yourself and others when you are clean if you can't clean yourself why would you even bother i don't know it's just weird that people because a lot of the times the guys single guys will go there and they just look like they got out of whatever they don't have someone to dress them they need someone to dress them they look like they just got off the uh off the oil rig and straight to the club same thing with the women like when i see a woman in pants i'm like what is she thinking does she not know i this is where you go did the hubby tell her they were going out but they brung her here or whatnot because usually when i take a girl for the first time they always ask me what do they wear and i tell them they wear a skirt they wear something slutty and something you should wear and they're oh okay no problem and they never have any problem with that especially five minutes, always tell them, come in comfortable, bring a pair, something, two outfits to change into if you feel like you want to, and five minutes later, they're half naked, it's just like when I take them to the nudist beach, they go, well, you don't have to get nude, you can keep your, it's a clothing optional, five minutes within, they see all the mom bods and all the regular dad bods out there boom top off panty and the bottoms are off they're naked too so it's just one of those things where you got to be smart gentlemen and tell your lady to wear a dress if you go and let's see if you prefer to deplete as part of your grooming routine that can also be considerate depending on personal and shared preferences within the context of the what can of the encounter all right so that's where like i tell my girls they ask me do they want me clean shaven or not i go i don't really care what you do you it's whatever what you want i can eat a bush or i can eat a beer.
It doesn't matter. All right. Ultimately, how you groom should align with what makes you feel at your best while being considerate of the comfort of others. Like I said, when there's an order down there and all that, it's kind of hard to want to stay down there. Same thing when I'm there. No.
When I'm out at the club, I'm using baby wipes to wipe down my cock and balls and all that especially you know when you pee because you know as you get older you dribble a little more than you do when you're 21 so you got to make sure before you go play wipe it down so just in case she wants to go down on you now she might not go down on you she might just want you your heart already so just stick it in all right that's a different story you don't really need to put the condom on and all that also when you're done playing take the condom off and wipe down your balls and cock again guys because if your next lady may not like the taste of that rubber and latex or those skins do not taste good all right some girls don't mind the taste some girls will gag on the taste so it is what it is so you know just be clean take a shower before you go not eight hours before you go and you'll be all right you know five dress for your comfort and confidence what you wear including whether your undergarments match is completely your choice a lot of times i see women you usually don't wear any bras you wear panties so the matching bra and panties don't really matter also ladies with the matching bra and panties i'm going to give you a little secret so come close to the speaker no one cares let me repeat no one cares no one really cares if your panties and brawl match because you know what they're going to be on the floor and my ultimate goal is to get those panties off so i can get inside of you so i'm not going oh you know timmy you see that woman fucking beautiful but her bra is black and her panties are yellow oh i ain't fucking touching her no No, no man has said that at a swinger club.
And if a man has said that he might be gay, I'm just saying, because if you're a beautiful woman and people are worried about your mix match panties and bra, I don't know. I wouldn't trust them. I wouldn't want to be friends with them because, uh, you know, whatever, for whatever reason, I don't think that's even whatever. So the priority is your comfort and confidence. Like I said, bring multiple outfits, ladies.
Gentlemen, we don't do that that's not part of the lifestyle so don't worry about yours just wear a nice fuck man you wear something that you don't usually wear wear something that says you're going out on a night on the town and all that i know it's a suit for you might be uncomfortable but you know what you might get more action single men if you wear a suit a suit and tie wear something i don't know wear a fedora wear a hat nice hat don't wear a fucking baseball cap don't wear a cowboy hat because you know we're in texas if you're in texas and everyone's wearing a cowboy hat you know but if you go like if you're at a club in oregon maybe a cowboy hat would be a good thing because people will notice it because not a lot of cowboys in oregon and all that and north and stuff like that so try to set yourself different when you're wearing some ladies like i said bring couple outfits you can change there are rooms where you can go change and all that you don't have to change in the bathroom all right a lot of couples when i go to colette's i see them uh they will change into something else they either change into a sluttier dress or they change into lingerie all right uh let's see what else matching sets are not necessary unless they make you feel good like i said no one's gonna really care if you don't have a matching bra and panty set because you know what a lot of the times the bra a lot of the women don't wear bras you know for you big at welding down ladies that we love we love so much those big titties you might wear a bra but it doesn't really matter because we're not we're looking at everything we want to see those bad boys out we want to see that fucking panties off and seeing that pussy to us and all that we want to see all that guys ladies you know that's what what we like you know we're guys we're here for the fun here for the sex all right the focus is on ensuring a relaxed and enjoyable experience for all without the pressure and of expectations about appearances and you know what the problem is that's we got to be honest with each other in this lifestyle what you wear is the first impression so right when you walk into that door and there's other couples there, you get there, like the club opens at nine, you get there at 11 and everyone's out in the dance floor or everyone's sitting there.
When they see you come in, what do they notice first? Your personality? No, they're going to notice what you are wearing, what you have on, what does the man have on? What does the lady have on? And you know what?
Ladies, couples, the lady of the couple will look at the man as she's into men and they want to play with the couple because she's ultimately going to be fucking that guy so she's going to look at okay he's dressed nice so you know what he's probably smells nice he's fucking groomed and all that now if he looks like he's just coming back from the rodeo with his cowboy hat dirty ass jeans looking and just his little t-shirt and a cowboy hat on or just a regular ball cap on that doesn't sound scream i'm clean or anything and when i'm referring to clean i mean like i have showered in the past eight hours all right so these people are looking your your outfit is your canvas is your first thing because no one's going to get to know you until unless they like what they see and you see it you see a you know swinging is just like high school we got clicks we got people cool kids hang out the cool kids the nerds hang out the nerds jocks hang out the jocks whatever we got all right but that's part of the lifestyle so So your tough part is getting into one of those or being able to move freely i move freely through all of them because i like all women big small don't matter black white asian hispanic it don't matter to me how you treat me is how i decide if i like you or not because i get treated like like i like um i get treated like a human let's be honest buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated sketchy or low quality that's why I want to tell you about mood.com that's m-o-o-d.com mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door no medical card no hassle and here's the kicker the quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary.
Yeah, I said it. Whether you're into edibles, concentrates, flower, or just looking to explore, you'll find it all at Mood. And it's not just the variety that makes them stand out. Every product is sourced from small, American-owned family farms that care deeply about what they grow.
It's cannabis you can trust, delivered disc and ready to elevate your mood and because you're a listener you get 20 off your first order just head to mood.com that's m-o-o-d.com to get started i mean then i get treated like i'm a piece of shit garbage that you know i'm just there for whatever so when you're dressing dress with the confidence and dress with the thinking that this is my canvas. This is what people are going to notice me when I first walk in. All right. Let's see. Let's see.
What else do i want to talk about all right so that's five dress for your comfort and confidence six be considerate of time and others it's important to remember that swinging involves mutual respect and awareness for everyone's comfort including timing this is why i'm getting off the internet for dating apps for swingers, because you'll get an email from a couple, you'll start talking for two or three days and ghost, bye, they're gone. No more. You don't hear from them again, whatever and all that. And you see they're active, but they're not just responding to you. So they wasted my time.
So that's why I had the 48 hour rule with anybody, either on Tinder, Bumble, dating, swinger and dating apps, like SLS, SDC, Quivert and all that. If you're within 48 hours, we don't meet up. I'm done with you. Cause I don't have time for it. You know, I'm a busy person. It may not look, look like it, but I am, I got some busy.
I'm trying to do this and trying trying to make this better for everybody so you know just trying to do what i gotta do so um you know be a be very what do you be consider of people's feelings and their time because they it's swinging does take away time from people you know you hang out with all right uh let's see keep encounters enjoyable but mindful of the duration to ensure no one feels neglected or uncomfortable couples need to do this make sure gentlemen if you with a couple don't sit there guys don't sit there talk to the wife the wife of the couple all day and all night include your wife into that because your wife is ultimately going to let you decide is going to decide if she's going to let you sleep with this woman or not same thing ladies do not always keep your husband involved when you're talking to another man and single guys when you are talking to a couple make sure you are including the single the hubby into the conversation now there are times when the hub hub husband has is has no personality let's you know we got i gotta say what it is he has no personality he's just there looking around he has no you talk to him and you get one word answers from all right well then that probably tells you that he's not making a decision probably the wife is making a decision or he already made a decision about it and from my experience has always been the wife's making the decision i'm sorry but that's how it usually is for me and my experience like i said it's my experience not yours so the husband's over there trying to talk to him you try to talk him up make sure he's comfortable make sure the wife is comfortable and all that and you'll be you'll, all right?
If you are going to meet off like SLS, SEC, Quiver, anything like that, make sure what you are doing is keeping track of the time, and make sure you follow through. If you are going to show up, show up. Do not just cancel ghost people, especially if a couple comes out, because that, to me, I don't sit to say hey let's meet at eight o'clock at this bar and I never show up. People do that. Couples do that. Singles do that. Single women do that. All that stuff. This is not nothing new.
This consideration helps maintain the overall positive atmosphere and respect for everyone's feelings and experiences.
Hell, it's just respect in general that you would show up will you come to a business meeting say hey let's do a business deal and not show up to the business deal this is what you should be doing you should be texting those people say hey this is going to be happening uh whatever and you know what things come up all right things come up if you don't want to party with these people be honest with them saying you know what i just don't feel i'm just too scared as i'm new to it because you got you remember we got a lot of newbies and newbies get scared all right they don't sit there and uh they're not experienced they're not veterans like us people where they know what to do so they're scared the fantasy is always better than the reality of it so they check it out i had that happen where you know couples with oh yes this is our very first time never hear from again we're gonna meet at marvellous at eight nothing i met like the venezuelan couple that i played with in january they we met there and we played they showed up i showed up i showed up on time they were a little late and they text me oh we're gonna be late we're gonna be like 10 5 minutes late all right they didn't have to do that because you know i kind of figured it'd be late anyways because that's how usually people are all right so be considerate of people's times and others when swinging seven emphasize consent and mutual enjoyment the foundation of swinging as with any intimate relationship, even not in swinging, relies on mutual consent and enjoyment.
If your partner does not feel a connection or attraction to another participant, it's crucial to respect others, their feelings and not press the issues. This is going to destroy couples. This always does because couples will have to take one for the team. I talked about that earlier. Yes, everyone takes one for the team.
There ain't no swinger that could say, wow, I never took one for the team i talked about that earlier yes everyone takes one for the team there ain't no swinger that could say wow i never took one for the team honey yes you have you have took one for the team you just don't want to admit it a tiktoker that i follow she admitted it and i love her tiktoks because of that because she's honest she's not bullshitting people she's not lying to people she says she says, literally says, I had to take one for the team, I have taken one for the team, all right, so try to keep that to a minimum, it shouldn't be every time you play, the lady or the man's taking one for the team, because guess what, couples, the ladies is sometimes ugly, and the man is a handsome dude, and vice versa, where the lady is sexy, and the man is just, you question how much money the dude has because how did he get a piece of ass like that so you know make sure everyone's happy with it you know and sometimes you're going to have to take one for the team it's okay this practice ensures that experiences remains positive enjoyable and respectful for everyone involved so when you are taking one for the team make sure your partner is having a good time anyways because you know there's there's some women i played with that i wouldn't have anything to do with outside of the club but i ended up having a great time with them we had you know we would talk like when i first started swinging i went to the dayton social and swim club and there was a young single lady of my very first encounter of a single one at a club nothing i would never date her in a million years i would never even look at her in a million years but we're at the club i'm a horny dude and i love all women sexual not by dating so me and her would get together we played and all that then we just you know kind of latched on to each other at the club and we had a great time it was a great night we did a lot of things together and all that so we ended up blossoming into a friendship you know i got her number we would we started emailing each other because email was there so we would email us back and forth through ims to i kind of can't remember the im chat bot but it's one of those old ones that don't exist anymore and you know whenever i was in town we would always hang out we would go do stuff together and all that it was not uh would i ever date her uh as an uh you know a loving relationship no but like i said me and her just had something in common we had a connection and we watched out for each other and we enjoyed every experience i had with her i enjoyed it even though it wasn't the you know the quote to quote the one person i wanted to you know be with but with her i always had a great time and all that so prioritizing equal equity and fun helps maintain the essence of what swinging should be about.
All right. When I was with her, I made sure she had a great time. She made sure I had a great time. So it was like we had mutual respect for each other. We're going to help help each other. She was my wingman. I was her wing woman. All right. Oh, absolutely.
Setting and respecting boundaries is fundamental in maintaining a healthy and positive swing relationship all right so you gotta just keep swinging and to keep a good lifestyle you gotta have those boundaries you gotta have some rules now my rules are different than your rules because i'm a single guy as a couple your rules are going to be definitely different you know know, what do you do? Do you play in the same room? What do you do about protection and birth control? What do you do when one of the partner is ugly and the other one's good looking? Do you take one for the team?
So on and so on. So those are some of the things you got to start thinking about when you're as a couple. As a single guy and a single woman, it's pretty simple.
It's whatever we want because we don't answer to no one and all that so veterans all know that everyone knows that now what happens if you're a newbie so what are the swinging boundaries for beginners should be all right swinging boundaries for beginners is tough because you don't know nothing you can watch all the tiktok videos you can watch all the youtube videos but nothing happens nothing can prepares you for the reality of it you know like i always i always complain tiktok people and these youtubers they make swinging sound fun everyone loves each other there's no problems but the reality of it is there are problems there are bad people in the lifestyle you know there are just you know everything it's just like regular life you go to work you got those people that complain about everything you go to swinger club you got those people complain about everything and all that so you so it's just not that simple all right you have to have a great foundation and you got to be willing to make mistakes if you are newbies single guys you're new you're going to make mistakes couples that are new you're going to make mistakes hopefully the mistakes don't destroy your relationship but make your raisin chip salad you know what's a better word salad-er I don't destroy your relationship, but make your relationship solid.
You know, what's a better word, solid-er? I don't know, the foundation. The cracks that are in the foundation get filled with cement, all right? Just like the one song. So when embarking on swinging lifestyle, it's crucial to establish boundaries that keep everyone's experience enjoyable and respectful for all parties involved. Here are some common starting points that you can think about. One, and there's six of them, selective affection. All right. Should you limit kissing to your primary partner only? Or are you going to kiss everybody? All right.
That's what you have to think about as a newbie in swinging. Are you going to do anal with anyone or are you going to save anal for the hubby? Things like that. You've got to come up with what are you going to be comfortable with and what do you not want to do and all that? So that's something that you got to talk about. Unified exit. You always leave an event together. You would be surprised how many couples leave separately or single guys that take a single girl and they leave separately.
or a single female leaves with a couple when she brings her date i had a buddy who took his a girl to tmc and by the end of the night she took off on him and went home with another couple to me that's that's the most disrespectful thing you know you know ever i could have a threesome the guy could blast me in the face with his cum shot i don't think that's disrespectful that's just uh enemy fire that's just par for the course you know but when you bring a girl and she leaves with another couple no no no no that's a big no or you're a couple and you leave separately no now if you're not a couple and you're just going as a couple, that's different.
Okay. I understand that. Uh, you know, no, that's a big no. Or you're a couple and you leave separately. No. Now, if you're not a couple and you're just going as a couple, that's different. Okay, I understand that. You know, I do that all the time too. But if you're married and you're leaving with someone else, I don't know. You've got to go together, stay together, and leave together. You know, I don't know why that's so hard for a lot of people to understand.
right another one would be what are your specific sexual activities deciding which sexual acts you are acceptable you know uh there's a couple that i know that goes to collette's all the time she only gives hand jobs she don't oral she won't suck your dick she won't fuck you but she'll just give you a hand job that's part of those sexual her specific sexual activities that she's doing uh i don't know it's just one of those things where they decided they want to do just hand jobs hold on one second i'm gonna get my phone Just seeing if Mr.
podcast producer nope he ain't gonna make it this time so he ain't coming in mr. podcast producer is not coming in oh well what a shame the world will spin though anyways so are you gonna do intercourse are you gonna do oral sex you know is your going to be allowed? Because there are couples that are hot wives, stag vixens, or cock holds where they don't play. The man don't play with no woman. She plays with everybody else. Are you going to do full swap? Are you going to do soft swap? And all that. So you got to sit thinking about, talk to your partner about what you're going to do.
Even as a single, you got to decide what you're going to do. Are you bisexual male? Are you bisexual female? Are you straight female? Are you a straight man? And all that. So, you know, you got to talk, you got to really sit down and hammer these things out. And also, I always believe you should go slow. If you're a newbie, go take it slow. Try find a club that's not busy. Friday nights in Houston are great for that because a lot of the clubs are not busy. You know, they have a good crowd, but they don't have like the Saturday crowds.
So a Friday night will be great for you because this is what's going to happen, especially younger people. Younger people tend to have that, you know, when they see something, they got to have. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker. The quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary. Yeah, I said it.
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So when they see the people playing, they want to play, and their blood starts rushing to their generals, and every rule they have, they break them.
And you know you know what guess what if you've been in the lifestyle veterans you know this if you've been in the lifestyle long guess what you broke a you broke a rule or two some of your rules that you had it happens but you don't want to do that when you first start off because it could ruin your relationship and it can ruin swinging for you where you don't want to where one partner don't want to swing anymore and that's going to cause a lot of problems, all right? So be specific on what sexual acts you want to do. Take it slow. Swinging will always be there. Guess what?
You go to a club this Saturday, guess what? Next Saturday, the club will be there. It's not going nowhere. Swinging is not going nowhere.
Unless they can find a way to imprison all of us, it's not going four group communication keeping communication open uh only when both partners are present don't uh you see this a lot with online you know have one people one person in the chat group while the other one doesn't it's usually the husband sometimes it's the wife but usually it's the husband he's talking to everybody while the wife doesn't know anything that's going on and all that i had i got invited to a party to now actually no some guy put an ad on craigslist a long time ago invited me over to his house and i'm sitting there with the husband the wife walks in she's like what the hell's going on well the wife had no idea that he was setting this up for her so and she was not into it she was not into swinging and he so finally i think this is she did it he did it a lot and so she said fuck it so me and her end up playing and the husband over there was sitting on his little cuckold chair i would call it and she was just berating his ass while i'm fucking her i mean it was horrible i was like but you know what i still maintained my erection and still had a great time but you know when i'm pounding her and she's telling what a little pathetic human being he is he's a piece of shit and all that they small dick he had a small penis it was like a micro penis it's very small and then he couldn't eat her pussy out i ate her pussy out better than all that and he just it was just he looked like someone shot his puppy because he didn't have a good look and it says and i think what happened was he found out that well it wasn't good for him so you know things happen but keep communication open have everyone communicate just don't have the husband just don't have the wife because you never know what's going on all right a lot of like i said there's not not everybody's great their lifestyle is not always rainbows and sunshines there are some people all right five would be shared experiences participating in activities together with no solo adventures this happens where if you're new do not do solo as much as you want to do solo do not do it wait till you've developed the foundation of swinging then go off and branch out because a lot of couples do that where they will you know play together only together then they will go off and play solo you know once everything is done I try to try to stay away from those type of couples because I had experiences where they would tell me oh yeah go play with go I'm gonna go out let's go play and I go play with the wife and the husband's at home or somewhere wherever and find out the husband doesn't know that we're playing or anything like that and that just causes drama for me because now i gotta deal with an angry husband because i'm the one at fault not that she decided to cheat on him but i'm the one so i try to stay away from that unless the husband know i always have the husband i text the husband saying hey your wife wants to go out is that cool and that's how we find out all right also the last one i would think some boundaries casual meanings only avoiding dates and sticking to hookups remember this is a sex lifestyle this is how it started this is what it was it didn't start in 1950s with a bunch of air force it started in the roman days and the greek days with orgies and all that swinging has been around here for thousands of years i know a lot of people on tiktok don't have a history book but swinging started back in the greek times but if you really want to know about it great fuck it probably started when since humans have been around so anyways but swinging you know really got glorified with the roman orgies and all that you know and they had swinger clothes back then couples would go in and fucking singles and all that it was just like an orgy that's why they called it the roman orgy you know because they would literally have orgies all right so swinging started way back then and it that's what it well this is what it is it's a swinger site it's a it's for sex and all that so there's no reason to act like this is a dating i know a lot of couples now they want to date they want that connection but you really got to you know be cool about it and understand that not everyone's there for the same reasons i'm not there for the same reason as you i'm there for to have sex and all that i'm not looking for a girlfriend or a wife or anything like that.
Because you know why? Because they already got a boyfriend and those women already have a husband. So what's the point? So it's just casual. Be casual. Don't look for that. Now, once you get it, maybe you'll find a couple that wants the same thing as you and you have a you have a force or a force on the relationship. That's fine. Great. That's all for you.
But remember, this this lifestyle is about was about the sex and still about the sex as much as people don't want to say it is it is all right so those are some of the things that you can do you know just have start uh some starting points you know but i think the most important part is start slow do not get go gung-ho into it because you'll see a lot of couples when i worked at club cave we look at caliente and all that and other and i worked other swinging events you would notice that there was these one those couples that would be there every weekend for months on end and one day you just don't see them anymore a couple months go by you don't notice them you go hey where's jim and k you know and all that and no one knows no one sees her so sees them anymore so you know it's one of those things where you can get burnout if you just go full ass bored on it but just ease yourself into it it's not going to hurt nobody swinging is going to be there guys and all that and it's never what you see on tv so stop thinking it's what is on tv exploring together open discussions initially it's about sitting down with your partner to openly discuss desires and boundaries these conversations should cover both fantasies and limits all right and limits setting the rules determine what enhances the experiences for you and what detracts from it and set set the rules accordingly.
Those are the conversations you're going to have to have with your partner. And they're not going to be easy ones. Because guess what? One partner might be all in on it. And the other partner might be half in on it. Have one foot over the fence. They're sitting on the fence. They're independent. They can swing either both ways. Swing.
So anyways the rules you got to have remember you got to have be calm if they you don't agree with it you got to be calm and not be upset you know swinging couples get upset too much there's a lot of anger in the swinging community you know and i don't know why if you have a different opinion of someone it's becoming like politics really you know if you have a different opinion than someone you call your names and it's what's happening in the swingers lifestyle where you have a different opinion than everyone because i like i said i'm gonna always have a different experience than a couple when i go to a club by myself it's different experience now if i go next week i'll come with a girl it's gonna be a very different experience because more opportunities open up for me.
And I always say that and I'll always tell people that's how it is for me. And they get a very upset. Oh, it's not like that. I go, yes, it is. You're not a cup. You're not a single guy. I always tell people, go be a single guy for a while and see how it is because it's not. And don't be a single guy with people, you know, go to a different state, go to a different club that you never go to and see how it is. All right. So compromising. So when you talk to people, you're going to have to compromise with your lady. You're going to have to compromise with your hubby.
Singles, it doesn't apply to you because you don't have to compromise. It's all you. All right. Shared expectations. Make a list of your desires and hesitations. I want to have two girls at once. I want to have two guys at once. I want to get gang banged by five guys.
I want to have all black guys guys i want to fuck a black woman i want to fuck an asian woman things like that and what are your hesitations stds are always the biggest one they're always the ones that i hear couples talk about that that's the most common one they don't they worry about catching something all right uh feelings they might catch feelings if you are a woman that sleeps with a man and you catch feelings for that swinging is not for you same thing as guys as i know it's hard to believe but there are some guys out there that they get attached to a woman once they fuck them all right so write down your hesitations then discuss these to each others all right discuss them to with each other write them down because you might forget later on but write them down as you you go.
Have a little notebook or a pad of paper. Make sure that pad of paper is secure because you don't want people at your work or you want your family members to see. I want to put three guys at once. They don't want to see them. Finding middle ground. Compromising is finding middle ground. Work toward compromises on sensitive subjects. Ensuring that each partner's comfort and desires are respected. This happens a little bit in the lifestyle where guys will say no to a single guy, no to a single woman. Even though the wife wants it, the husband doesn't.
That's the OPP people, the one-penis-policy penis policy couples and they want and the guy is kiboshing everything now if you really think about it women control this lifestyle i've and i always believe that women have the pussy they control everything guys are just there for we're just there for the ride all right as a single guy listen couples single couple men you're a couple and you're in a man another relationship listen up being a single guy in his lifestyle is not easy it's very difficult it's a lot easier when you got a nice looking pussy on your side to entice other couples and other single women and other single men it's not easy when you just got your average size cock and your average size body it's very difficult we got to have a personality all right so with that your lady dictates everything so as much as you don't like a single guy being in there you may have to to compromise with your lady and say, okay, we'll have a single guy.
Do you have to have it all the time? No. Once or twice a year is good enough. Maybe on Valentine's Day, on her birthday, you go, we're going to get you a nice hung stud or a nice stud for you to play with. And that's it. That's all she cares about. She's happy for the rest of the year.
But the rest rest of the time of the year you're out with other couples and other single women you're banging and boning and having a great time you got to compromise single ladies you got to compromise too not everything's rainbows and sunshines not every guy's got an eight-inch cock and a six-pack ab and look like brad pitt or george clooney or whatever you could turn you on or tyrese some of us look like shit so you're gonna we're gonna have to compromise on what type of men we want or you would want or the ladies you want because not everyone's attracted to you never not everyone's gonna want to play with you which i wish wasn't true but you know not everybody sees you as attractive and all that even though you find yourself extremely attractive so compromising with your maybe you don't kiss anybody you only kiss each other maybe he doesn't get to do anal on any other woman he can only fuck you in the ass or maybe she can always strap on a dildo and fuck you in the ass or you she can only use the dildo on other women you know whatever it is but the comprom But the compromising is going to be the biggest part.
And we all compromise in this lifestyle. Everyone, you know, like I said, people lie and people say you don't compromise. You don't need to compromise. Yes, you do. Just like in life, everything in life we compromise. It doesn't matter for vanilla or swingers. We all compromise. Think about your life. Think about when you started dating, when you had kids.
Think about all the sacrifices and compromises you make on that same thing swinging is a compromise and it's okay all right it's never going to hurt all right compromise be open to it and all that so with that i think we could get on with our lives and move on so let me see let me see where we at so here's one for you ladies what can I say I need a big dick what can I say I need a big dick ok All right. So with that, we are going to leave you today. Hopefully, you have a great Saturday, a great weekend. You have a lot of swinging fun. Have some fun. Make sure you're protected. Get tested.
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Send me an email, swinginsing swinging single podcast at gmail.com if you ever want to come be a guest on my show you want to be interviewed and all that you want to explain your story you want to talk about yourself i'm all for it but for that everybody have a great weekend gentlemen shave your cock and balls and have a great night world keep it swinging You got me, you got me feeling good tonight In a haze at our face, but I see you clearly Come right here, take my hand Oh, is it a night or for life? Let's just see what happens Can't be wrong, so right. Oh, I, I just can't help it.
And I, I give in to it. Time, it just stops moving. Stops moving. Oh, you, you got me. You got me very good tonight. Yeah, you'll You got me. You got me feeling good tonight. Yeah, you. You got me. You let me know that it's all right. And when I blow your body, I don't want to stop it. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about Mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker.
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