Welcome to the world of Single Single, a podcast hosted by AC Maxwell. In today's episode, AC delves into the topic of couples taking one for the team. He explores the reasons behind this selfless act and the dynamics that come into play.AC then shifts the focus to the concept of bulls and how he perceives himself. He shares his unique perspective and offers valuable insights into what it means to be a bull in today's world.Don't miss this exciting episode as AC Maxwell unravels the complexities of couples taking one for the team and sheds light on what it means to be a bull. Tune in to the Single Single Podcast today to gain new understanding and perspective.
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All right, welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast. I'm your host, AC Maxwell. This platform is for sharing the unique perspectives of AC me. As your host, I will take you on a personal journey through the ups and downs of my years as a swinging single male. Please note that while my experiences will undoubtedly provide valuable insights, it is essential to understand that my views may not be aligned with your own. I'll see you next time.
experiences will undoubtedly provide valuable insights it is essential to understand that my views may not be aligned with your own all right so today on the swing and single podcast we are going to talk about taking one for the team a lot of couples say they don't take one for the team i got proof that people do take one from the team from tiktok thank. And also the second part will be about bulls. Are you a bull? Are you an alpha male? Are you just a guy that just wants to get laid? We'll talk about that all on today's episode of the Swinging Single Podcast. Take it away, Jennifer partners.
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You're looking real good for a nice 50-year-old plus lady. Thank you for that introduction.
I'm getting celebrity endorsements from all these ladies and all these gentlemen out in the world no guys that's not the real j-lo calm down i'm not getting any endorsements they're not doing anything for me or anything so chill out relax it's just a nice little way to you know soften the mood but today like i said earlier we are going to talk about taking one from the team I have so many swinging friends over the past years that this topic comes up sometimes and it's always funny topic because a lot of couples will say we don't take anything for the team we don't take none of us do that and I always said that's probably the biggest bunch of bullshit I ever heard because yes I have seen you who you played you played with.
I have seen you vibe with people. And, yes, you have played, taken one for that team. And we're going to discuss it. And I got proof. Thank you from the Miss Impulsive. She admits, and this is why I endorse her because she's real. She's not fake, even though they don't like playing with single dudes.
I still like that she real about it she's not fake about it and all that but she talks about her experiences taking one for the team so that's something we're going to talk about then we're going to talk about bulls and all that are you a bull and all that so get into in it get this get into it so So, we have a dilemma for a lot of couples when they start off or even if they are experienced in a lifestyle 20 30 plus years whatever taking one for the team now i have this scenario from a couple that 15 years ago had this thing come up and it was funny you know We'll be right back.
have this scenario from a couple that 15 years ago had this thing come up and it was funny you know we would talk about like I have a lot of experiences that shaped my life and everything and I started instead of being the typical single guy that would tell a couple what they want to hear I tell them what they need to hear I tell them what they need not what they what they want. Like I always said before, I don't kiss ass. I don't, you know, just to try to fuck your wife and all that. I'm going to be real genuine. That's what you're going to get from me. Love me or hate me, whatever you want.
But when it comes to taking one for the team, I have to say every single person in the lifestyle will at one point take one for the team so this was a scenario that happened I don't know about 10-15 years ago so it was back before 2010 before I moved to Houston and it was just a typical night at the club the wife the hubby was not meeting anyone that she was all at all interested in but he was having a great time chatting up a female of a couple in the club this was a club i do shit i think i'm in i think it was out in cleveland at this time so it was just one of those things you know uh so days were going great with her, the other female female and it was clear that they were both interested in playing with each other so the male the hubby and the female of the other couple were you know they were having a good time they were vibing everything was going great you know they were doing all kinds of you know little type of foreplay you know little seduction touching know, touching each other, putting his arm around her, putting it on her ass and feeling their ass and all that.
So it was obviously they're both interested in playing with one another. The issue was standing between them in the bedroom was the wife. And her and her husband are the same room room only couples they only play with others when other partners are present as well so if they want to go so the hub the hubby mr x wants to go play with the wife however hubby has to her the wife's husband has to be in the room too and mrs x has to has to be in there, too. So it's one of those things. So they get the opportunity to introduce their spouses, and their spouses are talking to each other.
Introduce their spouses to this ideal that just a hubby, Mr. X, and the wife are going to go play. The other wife. Now, the other husband was interested in Mr.
X husband no doubt about mrs mrs x was one of those hotties that i would say was a you know she's an eight outside the club you know inside the club she's a plus 10 but outside the club she's in but inside the in club outside the club she's eight so she's very good looking nice beauty nice little beauty nice ass nice tits all that stuff now as he seemed interested in her mrs x his wife was not particularly attracted to him though so mrs x was not digging the hubby for whatever reason that they never told me and all that but they said the main thing was you know basically probably was an attraction so all of them are for chatting for a while and all that i always tell couples you got to have a signal uh that the other couple the other your husband will know like is there a word safe word that you have where it says i'm not interested or i am interested in them um but she just whispers in his hair in his air i'm not really attracted to him uh but you seem into her if you really want to play with her i'll take one for the team to make it happen for you now that's a girl i love because like i said you're gonna take one for the team stop acting like you don't take one for the team and all that and be all this well we don't do that stuff we communicate well with each other all right so she's willing to fuck the other dude so the husband can have his mr x miss x was willing to fuck the other dude so mr x can fuck the wife uh so this and long story short bada boom bada bing they go into the room and they both fuck and they come back out her fucking face i look on her face when i was i just started laughing because it was just like one of those what the fuck did i just do now luckily because i'm just a pervert and i'm kind of a dickhead i timed them and they're only gone for about 30 minutes so it wasn't like a big long play section so it was like wham bam bust your nut get out so there are some critical rules and options i think that if you are a couple and you're in this situation because you will be in this situation situation, trust me, a hundred percent, you are never going to enter this lifestyle.
If you're a real swinger, you're never going to enter this lifestyle and not have this come up. So you got to think before you do, before you talk, you got to talk about this and say, Hey, what are we going to do when one couple is not?
That's what I said about having safe words and stuff like that phrases, or, you know, just like, Hey, I got to the bathroom with me usually when a couple does that i already know they're talking about me so if they're we're talking it up they're gonna go talk about me and all that shit and we'll see what happens so for couples that only play together creating a rule or rules in advance is critical here's one option one no one will ever take one for the team. You will only play if both want to play. This is tough.
And this is what I'm talking about because I always say you're going to have to take one for the team probably at one point. All right. You're going to break this rule, but you know, you going to, if you don't want to break this rule, this is the toughest rule. Number one, nobody will take one for the team. We only play if we both want to. All right. Now, Mrs. X didn't want to fuck the husband, but she did it anyways because she took one for the team. Number two, it is okay to volunteer to take one for the team, but not to ask your partner to do so. So what does that mean is that Mrs.
X did the right thing. Mrs. X says, I will take one because you want to fuck the wife. Let her or him decide if they're going to take one for the team. And guys, there's nothing wrong with it. Remember, this is about sex and this is about you and your wife, your husband and you. It's not about a relationship. Oh, are we going to marry this couple? You know, remember in the United States of America, you can only marry one person. If you marry two people, you are polygamous and you can go to jail for that. So you're not looking to marry these people.
You're just looking to fuck them and use them for the night. So it's okay. Let the wife, let the husband volunteer to take one for the team.
And if they don't want to take one for I don't want to take one for the team do not get upset move on and enjoy the night because there will be other couples there trust me trust OHC I know what I'm talking about 26 years long time number three it is okay to ask your partner to take one for the team now i do not agree with this one all right someone came up with this list i don't agree with that one do not ask your partner to take one for the team because guess what happens fights lead to it because she's going to say no he's going to say no but your blood goes from your head to your genital area men and women both have this have seen it where, you know, women have done stupid stuff because they got horny and the blood was out of their brain, down into their pussy and all that.
So, and men, fuck, we know men. That's like every day for us. Anyways, so I don't agree. It's not okay to ask your partner to take one for the team all right uh and all that so where was i all right number three number four this is a good one it is okay to take one for the team if you want to if you volunteer your time and effort into it but if you do the other partner does not owe you one like i hear couples oh you oh, you owe me one. Or, you know, just in regular, you know, me and my friends, I'll buy them a Coke. Oh, you owe me a Coke or whatever. You owe me dinner or whatever.
In the world of swinging, that's not okay. Do not do that. Do not tell your partner, you owe me one because you volunteered it.
It's a different story if you, and this happens all the time because couples don't know how to communicate they don't want to communicate with each other we'll say well uh you you uh you fucked that one girl and i had to fuck his her her ugly husband so i get to fuck him you gotta fuck her his ugly wife that's not okay that's just a tit for tat that's gonna build up to resentment that's gonna build up a lot of anger and maybe some hate and all that and all that so like i said this goes with number five rule number five it is okay to take one for the team but not to keep tabs on who took what for the team like i said earlier earlier, that's just not common and all that.
So, you know, a lot of couples have to face deal with this, you know, because if you go in the lifestyle, just like in life, you're going to have attractive and unattractive people. There is no right or wrong answer.
You know, every couple will have different needs, you know, for some people allowing their partner to have the time of their life is such a turn-on that it would even make taking one for the team enjoyable like me ac i love watching my partner with other men you know i don't care what type of men as long as they're respectful to me towards me and that's what you don't get a lot in the lifestyle a lot of guys will talk to the girl like i said if you talk to my my partner first you're done you're zero chance of fucking her you should always say hey how are you doing introduce yourself first to me now we don't have to have a long conversation but introduce yourself first to me the male because i'm going to allow you to fuck her uh for others swinging is only fun when they have they're out with someone they're attracted to and what their partner is doing does not affect their ability to enjoy the experience so you know like i said you're going to take one for the team not everyone can be a 10 sometimes you're gonna have to fuck five twos to get to the 10 so and all that uh so so you make up rules you go by my rules or you go by someone else's rules your own rules remember always go up make your own rules all right so with that you go to a club it's saturday night friday night well saturday night go saturday night because those are usually the best nights so you're there saturday night you're at the club you're vibing you got you know four people that you're looking at you got another couple you're looking at there's four people talking it's very hard to get a connection with all four people you know you're experienced swingers out there have the have you met every couple and you had a vibe with them you had a good connection with all of them no you'll have a one or the other or both of them, not at all.
Some people are just there to have club to go fuck and that's it. They're not there to make a connection with you. And, you know, you got to respect that and just say, okay, they're not. So what happens when there's drama? Well, there are big risks. You know, you got problems often arise when this stuff happens. People may feel, a couple may feel pressured into letting their partner down, feel into not letting their partner down. So you don't want to let your partner down and say, hey, no, you can't do that because you can't have any fun. And I think women have this done to them the most.
I don't think men feel this way a lot because the way I see clubs, the way I've in the clothes how it's couples dominated couples for couples and only it's important to remember your each other's boundaries what do they don't like what do you do like that's why i always ask partners when i go take them to what type of guy do you like you like tall guys short guys fat guys round guys skinny guys athletic guys you know things like that guys are big d guys are small dicks. And I asked them a thousand questions about it because I want to find guys that fit their profile, fit what they like.
You know, I don't want them to take one for the team, so to speak. You may be attracted to one half of the other couple, but your partner should always come first in any scenario that you have. Come in first. Yeah. Ladies come first.
Gentlemen, make sure your wife is having fun like i said if your wife has fun you're gonna have fun no matter what you might not be able to fuck that hot blonde that you are having your eye on and you're talking to but you know what next time you go to the club you might be able to fuck two hot blondes that you had your eye on that's just the way it goes bro so just fucking you know take care of your girl. Same thing just fucking, you know, take care of your girl. Same thing, ladies, you too. Take care of your man. Your man has needs too. Make sure he's happy.
Do not let your partner or the other couple pressure you into a situation you are not okay with. That's one thing. Do not let your partner do that. I see that all the time. And anyone who will tell you the truth about the lifestyle, you see this weekend and week out. Every weekend you'll see it. One guy will pressure his wife into it. I always, that's why I was wondering. I really want to get a round table of single guys, couples, females and couples and see how they really feel.
You know, all, no one would know who it is and all that and see how they really feel about the lifestyle because i met a couple well this was at caliente um a long long about three four years ago and her husband was fucking a walking hard on this guy's dick was hard walking around all day and all night and i was like fuck man that's and i'm like fuck that i'm impressed by the dude i'm like yeah i wonder how he fucking kept it hard viagra tried max the shot whatever but talking to her she was only into coming here to caliente and having to fuck other people is because he wanted to do it and she just didn't want his shit on him she was tired of of fucking him because she says he has a high sex drive, a sex drive more than her, and she can't keep up.
So she's like, well, I'll bring him here so he can fuck all night, all day and all night, and I don't worry about it. And it gets him off me because she wasn't fucking no one.
He was fucking everybody and everyone at the club at the caliente and all that so you know that does happen you got to make sure now you might say well that's fucked up i go no it's not that's what she's she's okay with it why aren't you okay with if if they're okay with it you should be okay with too you shouldn't be saying anything you know like oh that's stupid that's not good that's not fair to you it's fair to her because that's what she likes and that's what she's going to do so you know just you know remember don't let anyone press you into it maybe he did pressure into it i don't know that's what i was thinking maybe he was impression but he was pressuring her into doing it but as i sat back and i got older and i thought about it she must be okay with it because she's doing it you know it's not a she's not divorcing them or anything she's still with them so good for you know them so taking one you know for the team is about how much you are willing to do for your partner's pleasure for some people it's a huge importance to them to the point that they put their own wants on the back burner yes that is true you know some people do that I do it you know would I like to fucking go to the clubs and fuck a bunch of random women yes of course but when I got my partner there it's all about her because I know the situation I know the deal I know if she's having fun I'm gonna have fun ultimately other people are diligent about not sacrificing their pleasure or faking it for anyone else's benefit no matter how they feel like me i can no longer fake being that single guy that tells a couple what they want to hear i tell them what they need to hear and if they don't like it oh well uh you know you just gotta draw the line somewhere where do you draw the line i don't it's hard to understand i don't know but you know it is what it is so you just got you know swinging is supposed to be fun and sexy exciting for both about both of the couples for the single guy for the single girl all that stuff so it's just when you get to this drama bullshit is where you know you have problems all right now how you don't have any drama it's good so how can you know how can you shit i don't know not take one for the team well you can if you really want to do this i know a lot of couples are starting to do this but separate play options separate the play options have some couples will solve this by you know they agree to play separately at the club like husband vibing with the wife the other couple's cool and all that they're cool with your the hubby taking the other wife to the back and playing while you two sit out back and not do nothing so they decide they want to play separately at a party or a club or even the woman even the woman goes alone on some dates with some guys and all that.
Or they play single, like some couples do. This allows them to hook up with other couples or single people while their partner does their own thing. And like I said, the couple back at Caliente, who I just talked about earlier, I think she would have been happier if they did this. But she was always with them and all that.
So i think this would have been a good play option where she just does her own thing now she doesn't have to fuck anybody she just go out hang out people go to the be at the bar dancing and all that while he's out fucking women in the fucking uh conversation pool in the hot tub but you know it is what it is this takes a huge amount couples, though. And it's a rare occurrence in couples who always swing together. I think that is. I think before when I first started swinging, I think this was the opposite.
I think a lot of couples would play separately when they found a partner they connect with. And as more as now, that play separate is very hard to find. And you find them, but it's hard to find in the swingers lifestyle now where couples will go off by themselves. Now, will they go to a club and go off by themselves? Yeah, they will. They might. But, you know, some of the times it's just getting harder and harder. So maybe this is disappearing, but I don't know. Maybe it comes back. Maybe it's going to be a cycle where they comes back. All right.
Uh, so before entering into any agreement like this at all, it needs to be established that your relationship is strong enough and is, is what both of you want. Cause like I said, you cannot, if you don't have that communication in this lifestyle, you're going to, you're not going to survive their lifestyle.
And I know, I know you listen to tiktok people online and all that stuff and they talk about how if you have great communication the lifestyle is for you and if you'll be successful that's not true that's the biggest that's a farce that everyone in the lifestyle tells newbies that as long as you communicate everything be fine no it's not there's more to this than communication because your life changes think about it you're in your early 20s you get married to your man and your wife and all that your husband and wife you have kids you think the first thing you're worried about if you're a good parent about fucking going out and having to go in the club no your priorities change your kids are your priority they get older your priorities change and stuff like that just like in swinging lifestyle when i first started swinging it was all about bangs and all that then i got into couple swapping and all that i my evolution now i'm into hot wife stag vixen lifestyle and all that i'm not into what i was i'm not the same person i was when i was 40 30 or 21 years old when i started things change and having communication is just one of those key components but also remember your things will change what happens think about it you go into your relationship you say honey let's play separately she's like yeah i'll agree we're all agree on this but five years later she's like man you're like man i don't know if i like you going out on dates with other men and other couples or women and you know i really would just want us to be us too and stuff like that where we just find a couple and we fuck them again.
That can happen, too. And that's the lie that a lot of couples will tell other couples from TikTok and all that, that communication is the thing. But, no, people don't want to talk about your mental health changes. Everything changes. Your hormones change. And I do believe, I saw on TikTok one swinger couple talked about her getting her hormones check. Ladies, if you do, gentlemen, you do get your hormones level check because that could change it. That could be a big game changer and all that for you. So just be smart.
Think of what's the best for you as a couple and remember to, you know, enjoy it while it's there. So think of it like a sport. Swinging is like a team sport.
you know enjoy it while it's there so think of it like a sport swinging is like a team sport you know like basketball football but also be a single sport like tennis a large part of swinging for most couples is the element of a joint sexual interaction with others together or finding pleasure in others pleasures like i love other people having pleasure you know i'm a giver now i wasn't i will always like i was a a taker i would always it's all about me first so like i said you change if something persistently is one-sided resentment will eventually grow i heard stories about a guy locked his wife in the trunk of a car because she refused to go to a sex club with them and this was in ohio this is like now this was like a long time ago i think it was like the early 2000s and all that and i just started laughing i go what the fuck is this guy doing you know you got you got a wife why are you locking her in the car in the trunk of a car yeah he went to print he got arrested for it i don't know what happened because i didn't really follow up, just what the fuck?
That's going to make her even angrier at you that you fucking did that to you. So reciprocate the favors and compromises that your partner makes for you to the degree you are comfortable with. You might not be comfortable with everything. So I wouldn't be comfortable with my girl, my partner going off on dates by herself with other men, safety reasons. And I know some people are, some couples and men are just scumbags where they will bad mouth you, tell you that, oh, he's a horrible guy. He doesn't know what he's doing. He's a jerk to you and all that. You have people like that.
We'll try to break up relationships. Misery loves company. That's all I know. If they compromise for you, do your best to be open-minded for them. Like I, you know, guys are fucking huge dicks, man. I see a guy with a 12 inches on it. I don't want her to go with it, but if my partner wants that, my future wife, all that wants that, shit, I'm going to have to compromise and say, okay, 12 inches, come over and pound the shit out of this pussy.
This isn't to say that just because your partner agrees to something you necessarily have to do the same but do your best to show them you are appreciative appreciate it because guess what guys nothing is forever there's only two guarantees ac maxwell will give you death and taxes we're all going to die and we're all all gonna pay our taxes no matter what so remember to do that don't let your don't let your relationship become unbalanced for or the member feel like or your partner feels like they're being taken for granted and i think i have done i think i have done that in the past where it was all about me and all that and not my partner and that's why i stayed single for all those years because i wasn't i didn't have that ability to step step back and go hi co what about this girl maybe she doesn't want to go to a club tonight stuff like that now where it says i always ask what do you want to do tonight i don't know and i hate it when they say ladies stop saying i don know, pick something because don't complain months later.
We always do what you want to do because yeah, because you always tell me you don't know what they want to do. So I'm going to do what I want to do. So if compromising is hard, uh, compromising is hard for any relationship, you know, maybe you can try online dating is an easier option than only meeting couples at clubs and Thank you. You know, maybe you can try online dating is an easier option than only meeting couples at clubs and parties. I see on Tinder, a lot of, I don't know, couples are going on Tinder.
Maybe it's easier for you to meet them because then you can chat a little bit before you meet and all that.
Problems with that is when you do online dating, people don't necessarily put out the correct pictures and let's face it we all just look at the pictures anyways pictures you know they might a little bit older a little younger a little chubbier things like that so like i said pictures can be deceiving so they may be old deceptive angles photoshop now a lot of girls are wearing the filters and all that so you might she might be 50 but then she's looking more like 60 so you know so it's possible it's so it is possible that meeting the couple you both get excited about online will end up with should someone take one for the team dilemma because you know what sometimes i've seen guys where like when i meet a couple i always introduce myself to guy.
I always try to have a conversation with the guy. Some guys are just not having it. Where I ask them a question, it's a one-word answer. So I have to talk to the girl more because I can't get nothing out of the guy. Because he's not being cooperative. He doesn't really give a shit.
But I think maybe he's taking one for the team because his wife wants to fuck dudes uh you know for whatever reason but it's just one of those weird ass things where you know you got pulled teeth and even online there is no you know i would like ac would like to tell you guys out there that there's one for sure for sure full fire way that you would be able to score with couples and you and four people will connect and have a great time because you guys all so for some reason you all need connections now but there isn't it's just a hit and miss and you know it's just one of those things where you got to just pray and pray some more so some people are okay with compromising for the good of the team or even go as far as saying it brings them the closer closer some people view making a sacrifice for their partner's pleasure as a romantic gesture and say watching their partner be pleasured is sometimes enough of a turn on despite not being particularly attracted to the person they are playing with that's true i don't look at the guy i'm like looking at his cock is it big is it small is it thick is it thin how's it go how's it look going inside my partner's pussy that's what i'm looking for how's it look when she's sucking on it how's he good at eating her pussy does he use his fingers or does he just use a tongue and you know you got to use fingers dude so i'm looking at all that i'm not looking about his fucking face i don't care less about that that's me that is me ac like i said this is my perspective this is what i like it's my podcast so i like that you might have to have a brad pitt look-alike for you to like get turned on that your wife's banging a dude or you got to have a pamela anderson look-alike that your man is fucking to get turned on but that's not me all right you got to separate yourself from that if you and your partner are frequently find yourselves unable to agree on swinging partners it could be an indication that you need to take a step back from the lifestyle oh boy something that a lot of tiktok swingers don't want you to do because you know you had Thank you.
dun oh boy something that a lot of tiktok swingers don't want you to do because you know you have that communication you should be successful in the lifestyle they don't tell you all about the other stuff in the lifestyle that can get in the way you know i always find that something i think that's so true that maybe some couples should take a step back from the lifestyle for a while and just, you know, be, you know, stay in there. Because you never know. Because in like five years, things can change. My best friend, we grew up together. He had a girlfriend. He was stripping.
She's a stripper too.
they would bring girls home when we were living together they bring girls home and fuck them they end up getting married they're bringing girls home they're having three sons with girls all the time five years into the marriage she talks about bringing in a guy in he's like hell no you know and you know and this caused a problem in their relationship and they ultimately ended in divorce because she wanted she was changing she wanted other things the same the status quo changed for her him and i told him do not get into this lifestyle if you cannot watch your girl with another man because if you can't you ain't gonna make it and i was right and it's sad because I really liked them you know as a couple but you know just that change in the lifestyle made them break up just think about think back to what excited you about the lifestyle in the first place when you do take that that step back are those are those factors still in play have you crossed any of the things off your bucket bucket list that the thrill's gone now because you've done it?
You had a threesome with two girls, and it's just, oh, okay, no, that's it. Done it, did it, done it. It sounds crazy on the face of it, but sometimes having sex with a bunch of different people gets, well, boring. Because you always got to step your game up and all that.
And sometimes the effort involved finding potential partners chatting them up assessing the connection etc all come a bit of a chore and that's what i'm doing that's why i'm taking a step back from the swinging clubs because it's just getting boring to see the same people doing the same old thing i want to travel more when i travel i always find a club to go to that allows single guys uh all that, and I go to it, and it's fun. That's when it's fun to me because it's new. It's not something that's been there for however long. So it can get boring.
Swinging can get boring, believe it or not, guys, and some of you can agree with me.
Some of you will disagree with me, but I'm just just saying sometimes i get bored it may be argued that someone like this shouldn't be involved in lifestyle at all all right i don't think so i think the lifestyle is for anybody that wants to do it safely and not be an idiot about it all right this is probably a call for each couple to make it as make it is possible for everyone to enjoy swinging once they have the right environment and the right people around them just fine like i said last last podcast i talked about everyone all these swingers want these so many fucking friends i just want to one or two three motherfuckers that i can roll with you know and have a great time with i don't need the whole goddamn club to be in my friend i don't need to know everybody like i walk in i see guys you know they know everyone's name and all that i go that's pretty that's sad because you know i have a life outside the lifestyle and i know couples that have they know everybody at the oh i know that i know him i know him and i'm like do you really know these people like are you hanging out are they having barbecues together kids are playing with their their kids and all that stuff they haven't played eights with the children.
Uh, that's just not me. I don't, you know, I just need a couple people. I don't need the whole damn swinging community to be on my side and be, we could be friendly, but we, I don't need you to always be my friend. I don't need that. I don't need validation in your friendship. I need validation in a few people, good people.
I need need you need good people around you and that's where that comes in so taking one for the team now let's talk about that taking one for the team now everyone says no i don't ever take one for the team i go well here's one lady the impulse the in the miss impulsive tiktok and this question come up someone replied to her one of her tiktoks it says i admit that i have taken one for the team to play with a guy when i was not attracted to her at all but she never knew that at the time we were amazing friends but she wasn't my type all right and this is her response to it Thank you. time.
We were amazing friends, but she wasn't my type. All right. And this is her response to it. But like opposite, like with the men, I mean, and not like horribly not into them, but I think for women, it's a little bit easier to almost take one for the team with men. That sounds really bad.
But like, you know, if there are people you really get along with, you're vibing, but you might not be super attracted to but you might be attracted to the life yeah um so yes i have kind of taken one or i have four with like men i guess um and i think it's just it's so hard to find four people that vibe that it's kind of always like somebody in that group is going to take one a little bit for the team in like a physical sort of way you know you might again you might buy you might think they're cool and it might be fun but you might not be like super like that like sexual energy or compatibility is there um so yeah i definitely think this can happen so there's proof it does happen.
And she's very good. Like I said, the Miss Impulse of TikTok, look at Google her on TikTok, look her up on TikTok, search it. And she has great advice. If you're a beginning couple, I would go to her because she has a lot of great advice. If you're a couple just looking for a chick, I think that's all she fucks is girls anyways right now.
So's really good at that they have a website and all that stuff so i so you do take one taking one for the team is common in the lifestyle and all that so you know it is what it is you gotta just like i said sit back relax talk about what you want see if this is the lifestyle for you and so on and so on all right now let's change gears a little bit let's go to the single lifestyle single men what are single men called in the lifestyle well we're called bulls for some odd reason when i first started swinging there was only two labels soft swap full swap no no no one else was a label there were no other way labels unicorn bulls dragons poly non-ethical ethical non-monogamy stuff like that there was none of that when i was growing up we fought against labels we didn't want to be labeled anything we just wanted to be human beings now everyone wants a fucking label there's like 20 000 different sexual preferences now and i can't keep up with them you, are you?
even gentlemen in the couple ask yourself are you a bull all right i don't me i don't see myself as a bull i will never call myself you're never gonna have a you're never gonna say ac's a bull and i don like being called a bull. Now the reason why I don't like being called a bull because I'm not a fucking animal. I'm a human being. I'm a man. You know, you might not like me as a man, but I'm a great fucking man. All right. So this is something that I always get, you know, confused about what I always ask myself.
Cause i had a couple at live oaks ask me about what does a bull mean to you i and honestly i couldn't answer i'm gonna go i guess whatever bull to me is nothing i'm not a bull so and other guys call themselves bulls because they like that but i'm not i'm an alpha man now here's the definition of alpha man the alpha male is the man at the top of the socio-sexual hierarchy and the archetype that commands the highest level of social and sexual status. He's a strong natural leader. He's the type of man other men admire and the archetype that women most naturally crave and desire.
i think i'm that because of the fact that i don't kiss ass i i don't do any of that stuff anymore i dress well i try to carry myself well i try to educate myself not in just sex but also other things out in the world politics i follow the politics i watch the news learn about financial stuff simple stuff that everyone in the world, so if I'm in the vanilla lifestyle setting, I can talk the panties off of any woman, all right, I have people that, men do admire me because I have the ability to go out and fuck other women whenever I've got the time to do it, I don't always have the time you know family shit gets in the way I think highly of myself now you might say it's cocky but you know what I don't sit there and say well that person's not good I'm better I just let my actions my words speak for themselves I put my ass on the line on this podcast by telling my story by telling my truth they might couples might not like to go you know we don't want nothing to do with that dude and you know what to me that's an alpha that's fucking alpha thinking right there so i consider myself the alpha man not the not the bull now if you want the bull that's fine but if you want you want the alpha, you come to me.
All right. Then we talk about, because I use these things. It's called O-O-D-A. O-O-D-A. And I talked about this yesterday. I mean, last podcast, I'm sorry. Observe. I observe. I listen more than I speak. When I meet a couple for the first time, I let them do all the speaking. Now there's the problem. What happens if the couple's not really a talkative couple? You're fucked. So you got to bring, so you got to bring vanilla into the lifestyle. Talk about shit. Stay away from politics and religion because a lot of people don't like to do that.
talk about other shit talk about careers don't tell them what career you do just you know talk about them make it all about them i make it all about that couple when i'm observing i'm trying to understand the motivations and their needs what do they need what does that woman what does that woman want what does that male want because you know there's a want for him if you're if i'm with my partner and we're meeting the male i want him to be able to fuck her good i want her to make her feel like she's the only woman on this planet at that time i don't want anything else other than I want her to feel special, make her feel special.
And we'll tell you why. All right. So I observed, listen more, speak less. Then it's Orient. How can you be the most value? So when I'm talking to them, I'm trying to figure out how can I be the most value to them? And that's when you observe. That helps you orient and observe go together, which I think all of them just go together. But I'm looking, how can I be the best value?
How can my average size cock be the best value to this woman or this couple where you got guys with eight inch cocks thick all that well how am i the best value so i'm trying to figure that out where do they want to be for this to have value where do they want to be for this to have value? Self-explanatory. Decide. Choose actions which benefit them the most. Keyword them. Did I say you? It's them. It's all about that couple. What actions benefit them the most?
Balance their individual needs as a hot wife or cock hold or whatever they want to be stag bixen so both get the fair outcomes that they want because if you can give them both what they want they will give you a call back maybe i have couples that you know they never call back they just disappear whatnot i see couples i fuck them at the club i see them again, no more all right so you just gotta sit there and think choose the action that benefit the couple the most them the most balance their individual needs as a hot wife hot cold stag vixen couple as both so both get their fair outcomes that they want because if they get a fair outcome they're gonna go and the lastly is is act enjoy them be and be enjoyed strengthening the bonds of their marriage by carefully stressing them and allowing them to recover together that's what me as an alpha man do and a bull can do this too like i said i don't care what you call yourself you call yourself a bull you call yourself alpha, whatever.
But observe, orient, decide, and act are the four things that you need to do when you are a bull. Because it is all about that couple. It's not about you anymore. It's about that couple. When you are a single male in the lifestyle, you have no saying in anything. You are at the mercy of the couple or couples.
they're going to decide that woman's going to decide if she's going to fuck you or not the man's going to decide if you're worthy of fucking his lady or not just like when i'm doing it i look at these things is the man observing is he talking listening to us because you know i could talk a lot obviously um and all that my partner can talk a lot so we're seeing it is he trying to interrupt us when we're talking or anything like that or is he just letting us talk you know when i do this i can talk a lot so i have to sit back i have to consciously put myself into a spot where i'm just listening because you know especially when the vibe is going like you have a good uh conversation going about something you want to put your two cents in well you got to sit back oh don't do this don't say anything let them say their piece and you go on and do it orient how can I be the most valuable how is that person more most valuable like I said I don't look for uh cock size and looks i look for is this guy going to benefit my partner all right decide and act so being a bull is very tough being an alpha man is being is very tough in this lifestyle because you are single and when you have that you have to think about what can you do so what couples look for a bull cuckolds and there are cuckolds couples out there and what is that you might ask what is a cuckold am i a cuckold am i a stag vixen so a cuckold is someone who takes pleasure in watching their partner have sex with someone else traditionally traditionally it's a man whose wife or girlfriend is having sex with other people now it did not say men specifically it just said people so me if she's having sex with other women i would still consider yourself a cuckold couple and there's an element of the man being mocked for his wife's lack of sexual interest in him Now, there are some true cock-cold couples where the wife is definitely sexually displeased with her husband.
You can go on TV, you can go on Pornhub or whatever and look that up. And they're degrading him. He's got a small penis. He comes in 30 seconds, stuff like that. But most of the cuckold couples that I know are not even like this. It's just that you have to put a label on it, because there's some gas. We have to put labels on everything, and that's the label they put on, that they're a cuckold relationship. He loves going and watching her fuck other men. I was at a party in Ohio.
This one couple would always host hotel parties fucking great hotel parties all the time and it was expressed that this is parties for couples that want extra cock this one lady would come in older i think she was in her 40s then the time and husband would never get undressed he would be in his clothes watching his wife she would get stripped down and she would fuck every dude that would walk into that room who who would fuck her so and he would write i think he would write down i think he would take a pad of all the guys they were fucking and just describe them and whatnot and write down how many guys she fucked that night because she would fuck maybe 15 20 guys in a night uh at one of these parties and she was there multiple times it was not like she was just there once she would go like once a month she would be at those parties because i was i would go to those parties like for two years when i was living in buffalo so uh but of course cock holding can be enjoyed by couples of any sexual orientation genders and roles and there's a wide spectrum of ways that the couple views the affairs with the third party in some instances it's more like an open relationship where only one partner has other lovers so there you go the word open relationship is a cock-holding relationship of open relationship that's something that couples got to figure out on their own and so on and so on there's also things like stag vixen all right so we got the Stag vixen so in the case of stag vixen there isn't the same element of humiliation i don't i don't like cock holding because i don't like being humiliated humiliated i am you know i know i'm average but you know what i'm still a lot better than fucking 99 of the men out there so you know humiliation is not my thing the man which is called the stag who would be who would in cock holding be the cook instead enjoys watching his other half the vixen getting sexual gratification from other men now maybe a stag vixen is where the woman is only with men whereas a cuckold could be with both men and women she the, the vixen, enjoys performing and being watched.
Also, stags and vixens doesn't prelude the man being involved. As well as watching, he might eventually join in with his partner and the other man rather than enjoying being excluded. So there's the big key difference.
A cuckold, if you're a true c true cuckold you are not participating you are sitting there on the cuck chair and watching your wife go at it whereas me i would have fallen the stag a vixen one because i like watching first and joining in later or fucking if she wants some some of my partners have didn't want me to watch they wanted me to participate so i did that so i'm part of it also let's see couples who practice stag and vixen fantasies are not however automatically polyamorous or open stag and vixen stags and vixens often only have sex this way in pre-arranged situations having negotiated their boundaries and when they are both present so There you go that's a stag are you a stag vixen couple do you like watching them participating or do you like to sit back and relax and not join in on the fun you may be a cook if you are into that type of situation but i'm a stag vixen when i have a partner my relationship is stag vixen where i love watching her with other men i love watching with anybody i want her to be with anybody that she likes and has fun with because i'll have fun too now this is where it gets interesting lots of stags and vixens would still consider it cheating if their partner had sexual contact with someone else without discussing it first where where my experience with cuck holds would be the woman could fuck wherever whenever she wants and she doesn't have to get it approved by the cuck hubby so i think that's another big difference so you know when we're looking at stag vixen what are you cuck stag vixen i think there's another i can't remember right now is another type of relationship poly i think poly you know if you're a poly which you know are you a stag vixen and how do you work out that things like okay so you got a woman she has a boyfriend and she has a husband do they all fuck at the same time or does she go with the boyfriend one night husband the other night so on and so on so that's something that has to be worked out that i don't know because i have no experience i had i very little know anyone that's pali so i don't know but that's something that we need to talk about or we should we talk need to talk more about is the word pali all right so we have the bulls what do couples look for in Well, usually they're well endowed.
I don't agree with it because I think you miss a lot of good people. When you look at, you start checking boxes. Me, like I said, I have experience where I wouldn't want to check boxes because then you could lose a great person. You know, if I did that, I would never met some of the great people. If I looked at, oh, she's too fat. Uh, her hair's too short.
She has a hairy pussy oh if i did that i would never met some of the great people if i looked at oh she's too fat uh her hair's too short she has a hairy pussy oh if i did that i wouldn't have i wouldn't have had the great fun that i've been having for the past 26 years in this lifestyle you got to go with the flow you know stop looking at the size look at the person because that mental connection that you you connection you always say you gotta have ladies then you're lying to yourself you say you have to have a mental connection because then you just need a size cock and that's fine too ladies if you need a fair size queen all love to you all right so bulls call yourself a bull if you want i don't call myself a bull because I'm not an animal, you know, things like that.
I'm an alpha male, alpha man, and all that. Remember, bulls, when you do, meet a couple, practice your OODA, observe, orient, decide, and act.
They will appreciate, the couples will appreciate it, and you'll be more successful in the swinging lifestyle if you do all right so that's uh what we got for today i want to give a couple shout outs i have someone uh that i've been following for six you know six months now and she's a hot wife she's a true hot wife you know a lot of these people are not hot wives they say they are but they're not all right so let's see brie spades she's on twitter and when i first started following she was kind of she was a thick woman she was a thicker woman but i'm going to tell you brie spades if you're listening any fans there go to her twitter page is great brie spades.com she has a page and she's fucking looking better whatever she has done working out eating diet she is looking great because her body is fucking on point now that's like a lot better it's not a lot more toned and all that so good for you miss brie spades she's a hot wife she loves taking cock her husband loves watching it uh and all that so you know get with it it's at Brie Spades 21 on Twitter Her husband loves watching it and all that.
So, you know, get with it. It's at Bree Spades 21 on Twitter. Then I have another one straight from Houston. Not from Houston, from San Antonio. I forgot. All right. Let's see. Notifications. and only problem with this is hers is at sweet for kitty 20 gentlemen 28 to 50 she's looking to fuck guys she's mostly into latinos so guys if you're out there hit this up lady hit her up she's in uh san antonio 30 to 50 only well hung eight and guys. She's 8 and up, and that's sad. I asked her about, what about average size cock? She just replied to me, 8 inches to 10 inches.
So, anyways, but she's still fucking hot. She's still good to fuck. If you've got a big old cock, go get her. Let me know how she is. She's fucking really hot. I don't know what else to say beautiful so you know see what's going out there i'll give a shout out to her a lot of videos of her fucking let me see click on her and she's has a only fans naughty couple nsa uh she has an only fan and she fucks a lot on here and she takes dick it's all's all bareback, too. She's got to be tested, I think. So get with her. She's very beautiful. Two gun. All right. So that is my show for today.
Coming to you from the Upside Down Pineapple Studios here in Houston, Texasxas i hope you enjoyed it we talked about taking one for the team a lot of that we'll talk a little more we didn't get to talk a lot about bulls and all that we'll talk a little more about that maybe some other time you know i go back and forth i'm all over the fucking map but remember everybody when you're out there gentlemen what What should you be doing when you are? Save your cock and balls, gentlemen. Yes. Thank you, Kai. Thank you.
when you're out there gentlemen what should you be doing when you are yes thank you kai thank you mr uh hank hill thank you for telling us to shave our cock and balls because we got to do that you know we don't want to bush down there anyways so i hope you all have a wonderful weekend enjoy the clubs tonight if you're going it's a saturday here uh have a lot of fun practice safe sex or don't it's up to you remember communicate with your partner what you're looking for if you're going to take one for the team make sure everyone is on board with taking one for the team bulls if you're out there practice your ooda observe orient decide and act and you'll be successful in this lifestyle so keep on swinging everybody and shave your cock and balls gentlemen We'll be right back.
