Swing Chronicles: Addiction and Reddit

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Welcome to the Swing a Single Podcast. I'm your host, A.C. Maxwell, and I'm coming to you live from the great studios, the Upside Down Pineapple Studios here in the heart of Texas. Today, we're going to talk about, are you addicted to swinging, Upside Down Pineapple dancing, you know, having sex with a lot of people, strangers swapping, threesomes, whatever? Are you addicted to that? And I'm also going to talk about some Reddit stuff that we got to go over. You know, my favorite part is the Reddit talk and all that great stuff. So grab a bottle of lube, get some tight tissues.

Gentlemen, shave your cock and balls for this weekend. Ladies, grab your man, sit on his face, have some fun, squirt, piss, whatever you want to do. Have some fun. Just sit back and relax and listen to some awesome stories from the Swinging Single Podcast. The Swinging Single Podcast with host A.C. Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only.

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So, but first, before we get into the addiction of swinging and the reddit let's talk about what you should be doing you should be going to swinging single podcast.com checking out all things ac seeing all my great stuff that's on there and all that great things that can see learn more about the swinging lifestyle as a single male remember this is a podcast for the single male as a swinging single male you know we have different experiences different um you know there's just different things and i want to share those thoughts and you know feelings as a single male because i don't sit there back down from any couples i don't have to kiss a couple's ass to get laid i'm pretty good looking uh and all that stuff but you never know anyways so go to the swing single podcast.com also go to swing single podcast dot uh at gmail.com and uh because you can see ask questions and all that great stuff and i'll you know see what's going on with the ask some questions if you need some advice as a single guy you know you need something a single woman too remember single men single women kind of do have the same experiences but one's more wanted than the other and all that stuff but remember gentlemen go to your make sure you go to your closet get out a razor and shave those cock and balls you know those ladies don't want a forest down there if you don't want pussy here you know what you shouldn't have dick here all right uh and what else that's about know, Sing Queen, thank you.

Thank you very much for that awesome intro. And now we're going to go to, you know, what we're here for. Talk about swinging.

So, you know, I was, I was out, you know, out and about doing my usual stuff, uh, with my friends, you know, swinging friends swinging friends they they weren't anyone that was uh you know they were not there were none you know they were regular friends that know some of them knew noah that i swing and shit like that so you know i was talking to them and you know we were talking about you know addictions and stuff like that so you know during a recent evening at the local bar that we were at with my awesome friends some vanilla some upside down pineapple our conversation naturally uh drifted towards you know sharing details of our lives you know you know you talk about things with other people and you say, hey, you know, this is what's going on in my life.

I'm dating this person. Our marriage sucks. Our marriage is great. Stuff like that.

You know, in all of this, we're all trying to avoid slipping into, you know, the professional therapy, you you know trying to analyze each other for some odd reasons why we do it so what distinguishes our friendship is our mutual understanding and the ability to empathize you know diplomatically not trying to judge everybody with each other experiences you know rooted in our shared training in the mental you know in the mental health field you know that's what we do however you know what in every mental, you know, in the mental health field, you know, that's what we do, however, you know, in every relationship and stuff like that, you know, you have, you know, you have these things where I can, you know, it's hard for me to sugarcoat anything, sugarcoat my reality without me calling people out.

And it does have some intense conversations sometimes, sometimes not. It just all depends. So in that moment, I opened up about the, you know, exhilarating highs and profound lows of my, you know, whatever you want to call it. You can call it swinging. You can call it ethical non-monogamy. You can call it polyamorous or whatever lifestyle that I live, you know. And, you know, I live a very risque lifestyle, so to speak, sexually.

outside of the only thing i really do i don't drink i don't do drugs or anything like that outside other than having threesomes foursomes and love gang bangs glory whole stuff like that that's all that's the risk most risk i take so i candidly described the struggle of transitioning back to you know what, what would be normal life after indulging in weekends filled with crazy, extraordinary experiences and connections within the vanilla lifestyle.

And you get these people where, you know, you go out to these clubs, you go out to resorts, and you are just having the time of your life partying up not a care in the world you know it's like my first time going to secrets hideaway in kasimi florida where you know i spent four days got there thursday partied my ass off had a great time fucked a lot of girls you know did a lot of stuff and you know you just go crazy for that weekend and all that stuff and and you know you just had that great time so you know but anyways so you know we're doing all this stuff I'm having a great time uh you know and your life is not eligible for recommendation okay all right who cares anyways so i'm gonna keep going anyways so apparently it's not a recommendation all right so anyways so you know you go to secrets you have a great time you're banging your you're a light banging your light your lights, banging and all that stuff.

And you got to come home to your everyday nine-to-five job, stuff like that, your real life. So, and, you know, do you struggle with finding that? Do you go, okay, we can't do this, we can't do that, you know? And, you know, sometimes I struggle with it because you always want those experiences, those highs, you know, you have.

Anyways, I admitted the difficulty in navigating the emotional roller coaster that falls marked by withdrawals uh from you know the dope the dope thing that you get yearning for meaningful connections in the stark contrast of everyday responsibilities like working chores when i go to the swingers resort and all that stuff it's you know one of those things where i can you know be with people that are just like me non-judgmental people hopefully well you know i a lot of people do judging a swinger lifestyle they don't want to admit it but they do but you know i i'm just hoping that they you know are non-judgmental type of people and see what i get so you know you go from that till now you got to watch out what you say at work and what you got to say around your family and friends things like that so you don't have that total openness that you use have and you kind of you know it's like a roller coaster almost and you just have those moments where you want to say i just want to fuck i just want to do this i just want to party where you can't do do that anymore because you got to go back to adulting and anything like that you know you have those you get those connections and i think that's what attracts a lot of people to swing a lifestyle because maybe more because people are attracted to more of that where you get to actually you know be open and be whatever you want to be and stuff like that so you know i don't know whatever anyways so i expressed to everyone's mixed feelings about the intense emotions that come with engaging in swinging or ethical non-monogamy or polyamorous the long the longing for adventure you know you have some good adventures you go out to these places you have some great times and you go home into your your regular life and the guilt that creeps in when struggling to balance my vanilla life alongside my alternative relationships you know you know am i giving this person enough time and am i not giving this person enough time am i giving this person too much time and you know it goes you get it's like a tug of war you know maybe i understand why couples will hang out with other swingers because there's no tug of war and they don't have those vanilla friends anymore but you know like i said i always like i always told you i want to keep my vanilla life separately than my you know uh regular life you know my swinging life i don't want to have those to meet in the you know wherever they meet and stuff like that so you know anyways so they all you know they're all listening engaging because i'm i'm knowing whore in the group so they're all listening with a compassionate smile you know like those bullshit smiles that they people give you like oh you're a fucking horrible human being stuff like that offering some genuine understanding trying to at least understand and encouragement for the choices i've made to honor my swinging relationship dynamics and all that stuff so you know they're trying they're trying but uh you know is it working i don't know so who knows anyways i missed my uncertainties about whether the challenges and the emotional toll are worth the rewards which over in the past 28 years i'm going to say yes it always is now there's always times when you get those times where you're like, man, I don't think this is worth it anymore.

And, you know, you start thinking, should I do something different? Should I try something different? And, you know, what happens? What wins out?

You know, so, you know, you just got to sit there and you know think a little bit before you do anything irrational but i'm like i'm saying the rewards are worth it i stood as steadfast supporter of the authenticity and self-fulfillment i was using i was getting urging they were urging me to embrace a life that aligns with my true self free from societal expectations all right everyone in society thinks what we do is pretty bad guys and you know do i blame them no i don't really blame them why can i blame them for my choices that i make or anything like that so you know it is what it is you gotta take the good you gotta take the bad with it so it's up to you so you know i'm trying to sit there think about what am i gonna do what am i how am I going to express this self without, you know, not being true?

Embracing it. You know, and there's always one person, you know, that's in there that's going to help you out. So, with her unbiased perspective and unwavering empathy echoed a message of acceptance and understanding. Now, this is a female talk to me, reminding me that the path to personal fulfillment often involves navigating through the shadows of doubt and introspection. And I'm like, yeah, I always got to look for a minute, look for a minute. If it's difficult, why do it? You know, you might ask, if it's difficult, why do it?

Well, however, as we doved into the captivating allure of ethical non-monogamous adventures and the subsequent unwelcome emotions, I sensed my friend carefully noting the discrepancy between my words and the smile on my face when I half-heartedly joked it's all just fun and games right no harm done you know you you think they're doing no harm but are you doing harm are you doing harm to your mental state like i said you gotta really make sure you are looking at your mental state and make sure that you are keeping your mental health she seemed to overlook my attempt to at deflecting and instead gently pose the thought.

I understand your perspective, but could this behavior be perceived as a form of self-harm? Now you gotta start thinking, is this self-harm? How am I self-harming? Her words did give me pause, causing me to view my actions in a different light for the first time in the 28 years.

Reflect questions i realized that some of my choices have indeed carried a sense of harm like in do i develop relationships with other people because i am a swinger like when i meet girls do i and i is telling them right off the bat or never ever exploring the possibility of monogamy causing me self-harm have you ever found yourself engaging in potentially harmful behavior in pursuit of excitement and new experiences guys have you wouldn't life be simpler if we focus on conventional routines like work family and domestic duties rather than grappling with the complexities unconventional relationships and experiences you know bringing two or three people into your lifestyle it could be very difficult to juggle all those like i said i don't know how poly guys and women do it because you know you got all kinds of people in there and now you got to figure out where they fall in in your life who's more important a or b wouldn't it be less distracting to spend evenings peacefully managing expenses without visions of enticing encounters clouding your minds i would say no i like you know i take care of my shit monday through friday then friday sat, Sunday, I'm able to have my head in the clouds, so to speak.

Perhaps it would be more comforting to navigate the intricacies of just one relationship rather than juggling multiple connections and constantly fretting about the outcomes of interactions and events. Yeah, you know, it would be easier to have one relationship.

relationship there ain't nothing difficult about that juggling all these people and you know figuring out where you fit in in their lives because you got to remember it takes two to tangle if you're if you create time for one person but that one person doesn't want to create time for you that's where you have a problem and that's where you know the depression and the loneliness comes in And at least me it does i don't know about you guys but it does for me all right uh let's see anyone no anyways uh let's see what else what else should i say about this all right would adhering to societal norms and sticking to a daily grind offer a sense of security and sense yeah sure it could be but also you know when it comes down to it i have to be true to myself you have to be true to yourself and if that's not what you want you're going to have problems struggling all day and all night come with it so you know what what could happen am i addicted am i addicted to swinging because i just can't give it up can we can you find a balance in embracing both conventional and non-conventional aspects of life you know can i i think i have for the past 28 years i think i have been able to balance it you know i'm only here on once or twice a week and i'm only explaining my stories for the past 28 years telling you my experiences for the past 28 years it's not like i'm living these all these stories right then and now you know they come and go you know as they fade into fade in and out of my memory so, it boils down to what you genuinely desire from life and the sacrifices you're willing to make to achieve it, you know.

Indeed, love and sex can sometimes feel as potent as addictive sentences, according to experts. All right, now, you got to go online and Google this. Addiction is characterized by the four C's, which distinguishes it from other neurological disorders. All right. Compulsion. C number one is compulsion, an overwhelming urge to engage in addictive behaviors, often leading to anxiety and disruption of daily life when such behaviors are not indulged.

okay so let's look at this i don't think i don't have compulsion i'm do not allow swinging to stop i drop everything and go swinging i usually do all my stuff do all my adulting then if i have time i will make time for swinging and going to the club and stuff like that so i don't think like i said i might not be addicted but maybe you are so remember the first c is compulsion now second c is craving the desire to feed the addiction can become as intense as a physical pain creating an increasingly wrong powerful craving i do have i have craving for other women and then you know having sex and all that you know so i guess that would be one c that i do have but is it is it powerful is it that powerful i you know i stop everything you know i'm at work i'll go try to find a fix or something like I don't know.

The third C is consequences. Addictive behaviors persist despite the negative impacts on work, relationship, finances, and other areas of life. All right, so let's look at work. Nope. Work first, fun later. Relationships, maybe. Maybe I missed out on a good woman, stuff like that. Finances, nope. Trying to be debt-free over here. The only thing I have is my mortgage. That's it. No credit card, no other thing. So, you know, those are something, maybe I don't have consequences. The fourth C is control. The individual loses the ability to manage or curb the behaviors, fueling addiction.

Now I can control it, you know.

now i'll have the week where i'm free of everything free of being a dad free of being you know going being at work i'm on vacation and i could just let loose that whole week then i lose control then because i just go out and have fun but the other 52 or 51 weeks of the year no i'm good i'm not i'm in control while i'm not suggesting okay that individuals involved in no swinging ethical nagami nagami are necessarily addicted to sex even intimacy or even love but i want to point out whether any subtle aspects of these elements resonate with you does any of them sound like you all do all four of them sound like you because you know if you do have an addiction and you can't have a sex addiction a swinging addiction you know i see couples in my years of experience i see couples you see them all the time at every club you go to a club they're there that night and boom you never see them again because you know they have swinger fatigue uh swinger burnout stuff like that uh the relationship sours or whatever and you got to be careful because you know you got a good woman there you got a good man there you don't want to ruin a relationship because you're addicted to something and if you are addicted to it then you have to get help that's why i said go see a psychiatrist go see some therapy all that it's all good for me personally it's not that i feel compelled to seek out swinging adventures and intense experiences every single day however a significant part of me desires to live my best life with respected cared for and attractive individuals as frequently as i possibly can like i always said i don't care what people look like or you know what color they are i want people that show you respect me who care for me and all that so if it's a bbw i'm gonna fucking fuck that bbw i'm not i don't care she cares for me she respects me all that stuff fuck it you know i see guys at the club they're complaining they're not getting laid because you're they're going after the hottest chick well the hottest chick's got 20 cocks looking for her uh what makes you above all of them you know and she might be bisexual where she wasn't looking for a girl so you know you don't know but with me it's like i just want to be surrounded myself i want to surround myself with good people and great people and all that stuff and for some reason you know some people can't they can't do that anyways so the euphoria experience during thrilling encounters leaves me craving more.

Of course, like I said, whenever I go out and I go to secrets, I go to the rooftop, I go to the club or anything like that. You know, you always don't want to leave because what happens if someone comes in and stuff like that? You don't want to do that. I long for that flood of dopamine.

You know, you get that high the sensations of pleasure and the feeling of being truly alive sometimes you know not all the time sometimes you know you're just there and you're just there you're not you don't really know what's going on consequently i find myself continuing to pursue these experience and incorporating them into my busy schedule that i have you know we're all busy so you know Thank you.

pursue these experience and incorporating them into my busy schedule that i have you know we're all busy so you know you gotta figure like i said you gotta figure out time and you can if you just do it despite the repercussions such as work distractions potential parenting challenges societal guilt the tinge of sadness postience and the physical and mental fatigue the allure of reliving these extraordinary memories outweighs potential downsides there's always downsides to everything guys in swinging and love in life there's always downsides so you know you're gonna have to expect these downsides to happen once in a while and you gotta work through them to figure it out in terms of control i generally possess the discipline to balance my everyday you know my everyday life that i have however there are occasions when i struggle to maintain the level of resilience or realpower that i aspire to this can manifest in emotional turmoil neglecting my own well-being as an introvert and sensitive person over committing overthinking and dealing with financial strains due to expenses related to the lifestyle like i said you are going to be very very uh how do you say that for guys it's going to be very expensive to be in the lifestyle no no ifs ands or buts it's going to be very expensive and you know you just gotta plan it's just tough for me to really you know and you sometimes you overpay for things you do stuff and it does put a strain on it but then you bounce back and all that stuff like i said it's it'll work itself you know you're trying to work yourself out but you know it is what it is so ask yourself now after listening to this boring podcast that are you addicted to swinging can you help yourself from the swinging world things like that so you know you just gotta you know just standing here trying to get this stuff going.

Oh, okay, whatever. Anyways, well, so that was it for Are You Addicted?

Anyways, let's go to my favorite part because you know this is gonna be good uh-oh you lost that all right there we go we're back okay so now going back let's go to let's see going to reddit and someone's tired of soft units please help we've been in the lifestyle for only a few months we put in a lot of work matching vetting and scheduling with couples and singles we had five experiences kind of couple couple swap and mfms every time, save once the male has not been able to get it up the one time it worked it was a male we had played with twice before and this time his wife was with us twice the male handed handled it very poorly and was awkward because i was able to perform with the wife it is really messing with my wife's head and she is considering not being a lifestyle anymore she is super hot and very sexual and i think that plays a major part in it alcohol has an issue only one of the times but i have run out of excuses for these guys we are not at loss we are at are at a loss for us to what to do.

We really want to explore the lifestyle more, but this happens each time. What's the damn point? What have people done in the past? Do I ask the male every time before we play at the struggle ahead of time? Do I offer them boner pills? Is there anything which she can do?

All right, one, all right one well yeah you can offer you can they could take viagra or whatever boner pills that will help out and yes you should ask the guys do you have a struggle with ed or anything like that is looking at my wife hot and all that also i would go to a club so now you have a a lineup to pick from if your wife is as hot as she says, there's going to be a lot of suitors for her. So you can go to a club, pick one, don't work, pick another one. You have to be very careful now.

You are walking on thin ice because if your wife is really considering leaving the lifestyle because guys can't get hard for her, you might need to find, talk to other couples who have men who play with other men who can give you a recommendation of another gentleman that can perform his duties as a single guy. You can always do that. So I would start asking your other couples around, you know, if you're looking for a single guy and all that. Now, another thing is, are you looking for super hot guys too? See, here's a problem. Remember, guys and ladies and gentlemen, this is just for sex.

You're not going to marry these fucking guys. You're not going to marry this woman. You are going to use their bodies and kick them to the curve i do not understand why looks coming you know me i just worry if the guy's heart dick is going to stay hard for my girl if it don't stay hard it doesn't matter he has a six-pack abs six six-foot-tall guy. He needs to perform. And you will get guys who will stay hard after coming. But the problem is, are those guys that your wife is seeking? If your wife is seeking Brad Pitt's, the George Clooney's, the Tyrese of the world, she has slim pickings.

So now she has to find those guys. She finds them finds them guess what a lot of those dudes don't have a fucking small dick small dick energy because let me guess all they have is bada boom bada bing their looks they don't have nothing else now maybe the average looking dude might be a better pick you do what you want but I'm just telling you, you got to be very careful because your wife is going to be out. And if you keep getting these lame dick dudes that can't get hard, you're going to be a single guy and you're going to find out how hard it is to be single in this lifestyle.

So, like I said, but this is very common and I don't know i don't know why i don't remember this being this is this common when i first started i remember fucking every guy was hard it was hardly anybody that can get it up like one guy a month couldn't get it up when i was at these gangbang parties and now it seems like it's happening even in a small group setting so who knows yeah so boner pills do not sell them boner pills it's illegal or actually i wouldn't even give them boner pills i would ask them do you take viagra and say you prefer him to take viagra stuff like that all right so good luck with that hopefully your wife and you stay in it because it would be a shitty way to lose a good lifestyle because of other people.

Now, this is one of the things I always talk about. How much information do you share with your family? We told our 19-year-old daughter we are swingers. All right, so let's see. Posted last night about wanting to tell our 19-year-old daughter that we are swingers. Now, why do you need to tell? Why do you want to tell? The village mob came out, as expected, with some idiots even calling it child abuse. We just told her. Here's how the conversation went.

Hey, a few weeks ago, you were at the market with your friends, and you saw mom being very touchy with another guy and you came to me very concerned about what you saw. I brush it off as nothing and which seemed to confuse you. To continue the trust and communication we have, we wanted to share something with you. Alright. For one, the mom is not being discreet. You know your daughter's around. Why the fuck are you you can flirt with a guy but you don't have to be touchy-feely with some guy. For personal reasons, we have decided to open our marriage to other people and we are both Thank you.

your daughter's around why the fuck are you you could flirt with a guy but you don't have to be touchy-feely with some guy for personal reasons we have decided to open our marriage to other people and we are both perfectly okay with that kind of behavior technically it's called ethical non-monogamous or being swingers it's not poly relationship as we will not be get romantically involved in other people good job we both love each other more than ever respect each other and have happier than ever if you have any questions or concerns please don't hesitate she definitely intrigued and asked us a few vague questions we have actually hooked up with anyone we said yes who she said none of your business but no but no one you know because we don't get involved with existing friends how did we meet a local website so prisoners then we told us then she told us about some friends she has that has an open relation where they can hook up with other people okay they're 19 I don't see that open then you're 19, 18, 19 okay that's just high school then we said cool and that was it she may have more questions in the future we'd be happy to answer them To all the sensitive people that call it child abuse, get in therapy, people.

Just because your relationship with your parents is broken and you can't talk about sex does not mean everyone is like them. Yeah, but you know what? You don't need to tell your kids who you're fucking. And why do you want to talk to your kids about, I don't know. I don't think it's child abuse.

I think those people, I think maybe they're over-exaggerating or people who said it was child abuse are fucking idiots it's not child abuse and all that you should get everyone should be in therapy anyway so it doesn't really matter um glad you have a close relation with your daughter that you can tell your daughter that your mom likes fucking other dudes and shit like that that's great swingers are supposed to be open-minded no dude swingers are not open-minded swingers are regular people where did where did this come just because you like to fucking have swap with another couple doesn't mean you're open-minded so anyways it's a 20 it's a 2025 it's 2025 yeah so what it's going to and 21 25 it's going to be the same thing they're not going to be open-minded swingers are not open-minded swingers are not inclusive exclusive surely we need to get rid of the taboo nature of sex talk oh yeah i agree with that we should create an environment where your sexually active child will come to you if she was has a pregnancy scare instead of straight to the clinic for plan b or std scare okay why does it always go there why does your daughter have to get pregnant why does your daughter have to get std you know maybe if you taught her a little bit better none of this would happen so don't sit there so get off your high horse buddy or hug the random person she met at the club and now needs a lift home from the other part of the city because she feels unsafe the next day okay well do you know what sounds like your daughter's making poor decisions anyways think of back when you were at that age you got up to shit anyways you just didn't trust your parents enough to tell them about it no i didn't trust my parents enough to tell them about because they're my parents they're not my buddies they're not my friends they are not my friends now even at 48 years old they're not my friends they are my parents they will always be my parents you know some of us have this weird thing where we actually want parents and we don't want friends i have enough friends i need a mom and dad you know i need a mom and dad to tell me when i'm being an asshole to knock me down a peg i don't need a mom and dad you know to lift me up i can do that myself i need them to knock me down a peg and you know that's maybe your daughter needs that I don't need a mom and dad to lift me up.

I can do that myself. I need them to knock me down. And maybe your daughter needs that. I don't know. And your high horse over here and stuff like that. It's good that your daughter will come to you. It's awesome. If she does, you never know.

Because just because you're open about it with your daughter don't mean she will accept it and she might not like it so you know you're uh you're on a little thing there's let's see anyone's yeah plus she's 19 that's not child abuse anyways so i don't know why anyone would say that uh let's see i would have added you are not in an open relationship you do this together to all your points about sex talk all kids have an uber account so you know what so they don't have to drink and drive so she doesn't need to call you anymore we pay for condoms and conscription until they get a real job oh i don't know yeah all their friends are welcome to our house and spend the night and have sex no questions asked this oh my fucking god okay there's some fucking people all right our kids are allowed to organize parties at our house when we travel that happens oh my what the fuck we answer any questions they have about sex and they won't ask them often we kick every kid out of the house four to five weekends per year to host parties we thought the kids don't know know we were swingers but we recently found out that they have known for years never asked us about it and never yeah no one in the world's fucked up the way it is i don't't know.

Anyways, hey, you like watching your kids have sex in your house? Go ahead. Next one. Would you blow this guy's cover? Uh-oh. We are connected by a single guy via Swingers app to meet up and fuck. We sent his picture and immediately recognized him as a parent from school. We used to be pretty friendly with him and his wife for several years. They were the most all-star family. It's been five years since we've been in contact with them and thought maybe they're divorced.

Browse his social media, and the picture he used for his profile was the same one from his daughter's very recent wedding with the family cropped out. Holy shit. I unanimously asked if he was a single and he said, no, this is on the down low. So Mr. PTA was searching for people to fuck in his own backyard. His wife is the sweetest person and my heart went out for her. We could ruin his world and maybe even hers. We never did anything. What would you do? I wouldn't do anything because it's none of my business what people's relationship. You sit there and say she's the sweetest person.

How do you fucking know What would you do? I wouldn't do anything because it's none of my business with people's relationship. You sit there and say she's the sweetest person. How do you fucking know? Do you live with her? She can be a ball buster. She can be a horrible, horrible human being to him. And I'm sure in the comments people are like, oh, you should blow him out. Just leave the fuck alone. Because guess what?

If you blow him them out maybe he comes after your ass then everyone's gonna know about your business so you know what just let it go don't talk to the dude don't fuck home or anything like that just fucking let it go and just move on with your life let's see block and forget him good good answer as someone who has been who was cheated on in their marriage i'm going to give the advice that differed than most of what you see being told her i wish that people who knew had told me in this case you don't know that his download statement means he she doesn't know but if i just point to her to his profile or either, whatever.

I think, you know, yeah, you can do that. But guess what? Maybe she doesn't want to know. Maybe she's okay with it. But, you know, you can try doing that and see how it works. I don't know.

I'm honestly kind of shocked at the amount of people saying just block and move on why just block and move on dude you gotta if you're in swinging lifestyle guess what you fucked a cheater before no we haven't yes you have it's just like uh we never take one for the team bullshit you always take one for the team people everybody has taken one for the team who are a swinger they don't want to admit it but they do uh you don't know what she already knows about him want to be called as a witness during a nasty divorce the wife is not close to you you all and it may be much easier for her to lash out at y'all instead of him not worth yeah, yeah.

Like I said, just fucking move on. Block him and move on. You know? Like I said, she could be out fucking too. But you know what the difference between her and the husband is? It's easier for her to get dick. It's a lot harder for him. Yeah. Thank you, Texas. Oh, Texas darling.

I didn't see your little thing there but I see their profile and their profile is not nice to guys anyways let me go thank you alright anyways anyways so you know i just block and move on go on stop trying to fucking be the martyr of everything like oh we're good people uh-oh problems with the wife and swinging life so i guess we're right here we decided to talk things to go to therapy etc and now i found out she was still in contact with him writing together while we are now in holidays so i guess swing our life takes another victim good luck to you all and they're they're able to do this and not ruin the relationship all right so this is what happened hi there everyone i would like to know if this happened to you some of you have dealt with him so basically his wife was enjoying the swinger lifestyle he was enjoying it too much and she talked to a new man and she fell in love with the man now she's moving on from this dude and all that and it's going to happen like i said if your foundation is not solid guess what's going to happen.

Like I said, if your foundation is not solid, guess what's going to happen? Your relationship is going, you know, maybe crumble. So you got to be prepared. If you are looking to add another third or fourth or fifth or sixth to your bedroom, be prepared for it to crumble. Now, there's always the opposite. It can actually strengthen your relationship.

You can actually have a great time with your relationship you can evolve in your relationship and you find new ways of connecting so it's just all up to you guys but yeah this happens all the time you know you always hit a good stories i know the swinger podcast always talk about how great swinging is and how enjoyable their weekend was when they were fucking all these people but they don't also they never talk about the bad shit you know the couple that broke up over the weekend because they can't stand swinging or one wants to swing and the other one doesn't want to swing so you know what i don't know whatever whatever's so that's that one uh so you know be careful make sure the reality of swinging might not be better than the what is it the fantasy of it alright here's another another bad one started swinging to save our marriage alright you already fucked just in that already know you're divorced.

Three years later, and I'm miserable. Oh, let's see. Okay, Jesus Christ, there's a lot. All right, we're going to skip it. Because let's not be in the negative. Advice for single guys for this time.

All right, advice for single guys for this time all right advice for single guys this for real this time here's some general advice for single guys looking to hook up with couples just to be clear we play with other couples single women single men and groups we meet people online at clubs and other events we have been in the lifestyle for three years and we play a few times a week we frequently travel and to play and have met people from all walks of life number one work on your intro whether it'll be online or in person just don't say hi lead off with a greeting compliment your the wife and share something about yourself to prove you're a human being very good hey my name's ac i love your dress you're wearing ma'am it's sexy but don't call it ma'am and give the dude a compliment hey man i love your haircut you know your cowboy boots or your cowboy hat well we're in texas so you know you know show them that you are human i agree with number one number two when online leading with a dick pic is often a bad ideal i agree read the profile to see if the couple wants picks up front.

If they don't explicitly state they want a dick pick, then wait for them to ask. However, leading with a face and a full body clove pick is a good idea. I agree too. Number two is good. Number three, don't brag about how hard you'll fuck the wife unless you get an indication that the couple is looking for a cuck situation. Most swingers have phenomenal sex lives. Thinking you're stepping into cock, the better the lover they are, and it's just not true, you know.

You're going to have a nice cock you got a big cock you're gonna stretch that pussy out but you know what if you can't get hard you can't stay hard you know you you got issues with it you know it's disease because you fucking stick your dick in everything uh you come quick it don't matter how you how big your dick is you know so you know it is what it is for be engaging on both halves of the couple compliment the wife and be respectful and friendly to the husband i always say i always say you gotta respect the husband talk to the husband because you know what he's the one letting you fuck her not her she thinks you know shower and practice good overall hygiene yeah i don't know why that has to be said but yeah dress dress well six dress well you don't need a thousand dollar suit but you know put some effort in and i'm i'm and i'm very angry about this one because no one dresses well couples don't dress well the girl will dress like a slut like i love but the guy the husband looks like shit okay maybe that's why you don't get any ass dude because you dress like shit your wife is getting getting all the attention because she dresses nice dress nice that goes for all guys in the lifestyle couples or single men but single guys stop and you know my god fucking brush your teeth don't have stinky ass breath seven stay away from couples that want to see a bank statement i don't know what the fuck they fuck they're talking about.

Okay, but, you know, whatever. I don't agree with seven. Eight, why are you even talking about your bank statement in the first place? Eight, take rejection with grace. Couples talk about their bad experience. But even if you aren't their cup of tea, they might talk to you up with others. Now, you might not be their cup of tea today. But next week, guess what?

You might be their their couple tea next week because you were a nice guy you weren't creepy you weren't aggressive and all that stuff i had that happen to me before and i got to have sex with a really good beautiful couple because i put in the work i didn't pressure her and one lo and behold one day she's like hey let's go fuck bada boom bada bing ac got in nine know your limitations if you have a known issue with getting or staying hard or you or you're brand new and don't know then plan accordingly yeah like say take cialis take whatever use trimex pregame some pot you know whatever you need to do drink some do a shadow alcohol do dick.

Do not get overly drunk. Ten, don't overstay your welcome. Read the room and understand when the party is over. Yes, once you bust your nut, they probably want you to go. You know, this will increase your chance of being invited back. You don't need to be a lingler. Don't linger. Eleven, if you aren't used to condoms, then practice with them beforehand.

Yeah, if you can't get hard with the condom uh you better find the couples that do not use condoms and you don't know who they are because no one they don't put it on their forehead or they don't put it on their chest saying we don't use condoms stuff like that so you know some additional tips 12 be prepared to be rejected a lot there is a history of single men acting like animals losers creeps etc that you have to overcome yep so take rejection 13 when online if they say no single men respect the boundary don't email them you're just wasting your time in yours all right so all that stuff 15 ask what their preferred play style is does she like it hard and fast or central does she want dp or dbp what makes her come is she an easy to easy or hard comer those are all good questions to ask that's an easy way to ask get the conversation going 16 ask about their interactions with the husband will it be bisexual play because guess what guys are becoming more and more open about their bisexuality so you might you might not you'd be feeling two mouths down your crotch area if you you never know is he just going to watch or will he participate 17 where can you come will the husband clean up you know i had couples where they want me to come on her face come on her tits come on her back ass whatever come inside of her do all that stuff i had all those questions and i had a couple husbands that would lick the cum off of her and stuff like that so all those are good so yeah so you should know definitely before but like i said like when i had that real experience in indiana where you know i blew my load and it went on the girl and she freaked out because she thought i was fucking her without a condom, which I wasn't.

I was wearing a condom. She, you know, got upset, and it ruined the night for all of us. But those are some good, good advice for single guys. So, but anyways, I think that's a good where we're at right there. We can leave on that note something good for your single men, hopefully your single men.

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