In this eye-opening episode of the Swinging Single Podcast, host AC Maxwell dives deep into the unexpected and often untold aspects of the swinging lifestyle. Ever wondered what truly surprises those in the swinging community? What the glossy guides don't tell you? Today, we unpack it all.What Surprised You the Most? We kick things off by exploring the biggest surprises newcomers face in the swinging lifestyle. From unforeseen connections to the emotional landscapes seldom discussed, our guests share their most unexpected revelations.The Untold Aspects Next, AC sheds light on what they don't tell you about the swinging lifestyle. We delve into the nuances, the unspoken rules, and the surprises that often catch even the most seasoned swingers off guard. Our discussion aims to peel back the layers, revealing the complexity and richness of the swinger's experience.Drama on Secret's Facebook Page And for our finale, we take a turn into the dramatic. Secret's Facebook page—a notorious online hub for the swinging community—has been ablaze with controversy. We discuss the latest drama, dissecting the conflicts and camaraderie that paint a vivid picture of the social dynamics in play.Engage with Us! Listeners, join the conversation! What surprised you about the swinging lifestyle? Have you encountered drama in online spaces? Share your stories and insights with host AC Maxwell and get involved in today’s vibrant discussion.Tune in to The Swinging Single Podcast for an unfiltered look at the swinging lifestyle, full of surprises, insights, and a healthy dose of drama. Whether you're part of the lifestyle or simply curious, there's something for everyone in today's tantalizing episode.
Transcript
hey there you wild and wonderful listeners you're tuned into the electric and the electric vibe of the swinging single podcast where we dive into the heart of the swinger lifestyle untangling its mystery celebrating its joys and revealing what it's truly all about i'm your host ac Maxwell, the guide on this journey of exploration and exhilaration. So today, what are we going to talk about today? Today, we're peeling back the curtain on a topic that has everyone talking. And let me tell you, it's as spicy as it sounds.
We're delving into what surprised you most about the swingers lifestyle, unraveling the threads of preconceived notions and the raw truths that have caught our swinger friends off guard and myself off guard too from the misconceptions of the mind-blowing revelations we're covering and all but hold on to your hats because that's not all we that we have brewing on today's episode ever heard of the secret resorts in cassimia land uh florida if you are immersed in a swinger lifestyle it's practically a household name a haven of freedom and exploration but with every paradise comes a storm and right now there's attempts it's a big storm swirling in the official secrets uh resorts facebook group drama intrigue you name it.
We're diving headfirst into the eye of the storm. We invite you, our daring and dauntless listeners, to join the conversation. What rocked your world when you first dipped your toes into the swinger lifestyle? And for the seasoned adventurers, have you caught wind of the drama unfolding in the Secret Resort's digital domain, stay tuned as we bring in some maybe experts like me and perhaps a surprise guest to shed light on these titillating topics. Plus, we'll be opening up the lines maybe if you want to call in to talk.
So grab your headphones, pour yourself a drink, settle in, have your wife sit on your face as you fucking listen to the Swingin' me ac maxwell and you're in for the ride you won't forget all right so let's swing into action everybody the swinging single podcast with host ac maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only the opinions views and content expressed or shared on the podcast are solely those of the host, A.C. Maxwell, and any featured guests or contributors, and do not necessarily represent those of the podcast's affiliates, sponsors, advertisers, or partners.
Any information provided is given with the understanding that it does not constitute a contract, engagement, or formal advice. The host, contributors, affiliates, sponsors, advertisers, and partners of the podcast shall not be liable for any direct, indirect, incidental, special, consequential, or punitive damages resulting from the use of, or inability to use, the information in the podcast or from any decisions made based on such information. The content of the podcast is protected by copyright and other intellectual property laws.
By continuing to listen to the podcast, you agree to be bound by the then-current version of this disclaimer. Any questions or concerns regarding this disclaimer, please contact us at swingingsingleogmail.com. By listening to the Swinging Single podcast, you acknowledge that you have read and understand this disclaimer and agree to its terms. Shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. All right. Thank you, everybody, for coming back.
That was my little and all that she had to do our little ditty that we always have to do so today like i said we're gonna got we got three things if if we got time like i said i don't want to spend all day on here and all that i could but i don't want to so let me move this chair out of the way here we go all right so we got three things what surprised you most about the lifestyle what unusual things yet you learn from the lifestyle and the drama that brings in facebook and all that so you know we got all that stuff that we got in and i want to talk about all that great stuff today so the first one we're going to talk about is let me see what surprised you most about the lifestyle and kingdom we're getting ready to go so don't worry about it man we're almost there we're almost there let me minimize this get this out of the way all right so i was on reddit and i thought this was a great topic to talk about what surprised most about lifestyle so this guy writes before my wife and i joined the lifestyle i honestly thought it was a free-for-all which i'm going to tell you right now probably 100 of the people that start in the lifestyle think it's a free-throw they think it's what like i always say everybody swinging is nothing like you see on the movies or in porn no it's not all good looking good looking people.
It's mostly mom bods, dad bods, girls with stretch marks, hangy titties, guys with balls hanging down to their knees, guys with small dicks, guys with big dicks, guys with big beard guts, guys with six pack abs. It has, you got every gamut. So if you like every body type, swinging is for you then.
So it's not a free for all and bang any and every one and everyone no i can tell you that back in 1998 you probably could have a lot of bang anybody bang everyone and anyone but now here in 2024 it's kind of like well what's your sign what you do for a living how many kids you have yada stuff like that it's more like dating so obviously this isn't the case. Correct. Also, I had no idea how much stronger your bond with your partner really becomes just your thoughts about what about you. So, you know, a bunch of people chime in and all that.
Now I could tell you what the stronger bond for some couples.
Yes, it will bring a larger bond to a lot of a bigger bond or a stronger bond to a lot of couples now with that said i did a thing about divorce rates and swingers and it's 50 50 still you know 50 of swingers who do participate swing it do end up getting divorced where 50 of them don't so you know it like i always said it just depends on the couple that you're with because you know what sometimes swinging can break a couple where one wants to do it more than the other and the other vice versa so you know i don't always agree with that that's one thing i that surprises me that it does well actually you know what over the years it doesn't surprise me that it does so some people wrote the way swinging has changed and strengthened the bond between me and my fiance and i i have always uh fiance and i has been crazy we have sex way more often just together and it's amazing i also love the possibilities that is open up for us to sexually uh together and with other people all right i'm just reading what the fuck they put on reddit I'm you the if they can't write proper english i'm sorry guys but this is what i'm just reading so of course people agree what 100 yep 100 all this uh can you help me understand this i am genuinely curious about how this happens is it about a shared experience and something that's fun is it about uh sharing an intimate secret with that friends and family don't know is it about a shared experience and something that's fun is it about sharing an intimate secret with that friends and family don't know is it simply glow of good feelings that comes from having great sex is it akin to the way my so significant other and i feel closer after a week and get away something else uh full disclosure he's just curious not they're not swingers so let's talk about is it genuinely curious this happens is it a shared experience something that's fun yeah of course it's a serious thing about you know maybe you go to college and you have a roommate you have first roommate and you do you get along great and you're having this really great time and all that so maybe that bond that you have from that experience or traumatic experience think about that uh you have a traumatic experience with someone maybe you've gone through a robbery together and someone you were in a store and you got robbed or anything something like that and you shared that experience you got a car wreck or whatever you have that bond right there so maybe yes maybe when you have that first threesome or you swap with another couple and you bring other people into your bedroom maybe that experience brings a bond together now that doesn't always mean that every bond or every experience is going to bring you closer together there could be bonds where it tears you apart where you find out wow this person really is not the same person that i thought they were you know things like that so it's just one of those things where you have to um i don't know so it's just one of those things so xarian nine eight nine eight eight what surprised me the most about the license how many single men will try to pose as a couple like to what end you know what you are correct a lot of people there's a lot of fakes and flakes now i'm going to tell you i am more of an advocate for single men single men get a broad deal so i don't know but as far that i'm surprised how many people even single females i get hit up by single females all the time and they're just fake or i call them flakes they just like okay they just want to talk about i always tell it that couples want to know more i mean the fantasy is better than the reality of it Thank you.
talk about i always tell it that couples want to know more i mean the fantasy is better than the reality of it more people can be interested in the lifestyle but actually doing it actually have two guys penetrate you at the same time or have people watch you having sex is going to to scare the shit out of a lot of people right x i think that's what it is he says i love me some single men just the ones who admit they're single and yeah women are bad about wanting money uh i don't know uh yeah you know what over the years i have found out more and more it's more about prostitution really and you gotta be on these telegram groups x and i'm just like no i don't want to fucking have your get pay you 500 for one hour or anything like that why would i do that when i could just go to a club and get it for the 100 bucks at the pay the uh interest fee the membership and all that so you know now do you play if a guy says he's married would you play with that married man axe just a just a little question there but you know going back to the one uh deep cabinet put in there i just think swinging can make and break a couple it is a traumatic experience not like a bad traumatic experience where it's going to affect you for the rest of your life it's just one of those things where you will have that shared experience so i think sharing more having shared experiences will bring couples together and they have to be good that's why i tell men listen and i'll talk i'm talking about this later on the facebook drama when you take your girl your wife your significant other whoever to a swingers club as a man your job is to make sure your woman has the greatest time in her fucking life she needs to walk out of that club saying god damn this was a this was the greatest time of my life you understand so because if she has a great time guess what's going to happen and i figured this out in my mid-30s i was very selfish before then it's all about me but then i found out in my mid-30s that if i make her have a great time she's going to want to come back for more she's going to be willing to do open up and do more things with me and that is great and that's what you want so you need that uh let's see i play with merry men i prefer their wives to be on board good That's a you want.
So you need that. Let's see. I play with married men. I prefer their wives to be on board. Good. That's a smart rule. I prefer the wife to play too, but marriage, but your marriage is your marriage is your issues. Yes, I agree. The wife should be on board. You know, here in Texas, we have a lot of guys that travel because they're in the oil and gas industry. Same thing with females.
We have a lot of guys that travel because they're in the oil and gas industry same thing with females we have a lot of females that travel to here and that live here travel outside of the state because they work in the oil gas industry and you know they're swingers too i have one that i play with that is in the oil and gas her husband goes off for a month at a time and he invites me over to his wife's house or their house and you know i do the deed i make sure she's pleasured and make sure she's nice and full and stuffed and all that just for him so we got that a little we got that uh little uh thing going on yes it's very hot especially you know all that so another one writes my biggest surprise was how uptight i had been about sex in my life prior to entering the lifestyle yes it's going to bring out the lifestyle is going to bring out a lot about you that you never knew it also could bring out that you might be a little bisexual mills because you know what over the years i have had more couples ask me am i bisexual and i tell couples i'm bi-friendly and listen i don't mind touching or anything like that i barely stick my dick in a woman's ass let alone another man's ass because it's just too much i don't know diseases to me it seems like more diseases are passed through anally than anything else but you know that's just me being paranoid i like just regular pussy sex and all that i'm not into the anal sex i'm not going to ever ever uh sit there and say hey i'm going to do anal sex with uh this girl and all that now i had a girlfriend that loved getting it in her ass and she would fucking squirt all over the bed when i put it in her ass she's one of the very few to have done that with so but yeah it'll open up new things i never thought i'd be into gang bangs glory holes fucking in a porn theater fucking out in public and shit like that things that can get you in trouble in life so you know i don't know but it does surprise you how uptight that some people are or have been over the years d all the above yeah i guess so all right um let's see what else the occasions when you meet some of the most wholesome and kind-hearted people imaginable i figured a lifestyle would be a mere sleazy degenerates and in some cases it is but also, made some incredible friends who are the sweetest people.
All right, let's go back. I agree and disagree with this. You do meet some great people, great people that would give you the shirt off their back outside of the club. Now with that, you got a lot of sleazy people, degenerates.
I wouldn't call them degeneratesates i just think they're out for their own self that they only give a shit about themselves they don't really care about anybody else other than themselves where you know they want their own thing they're gonna do whatever it does for them they're not gonna worry about anybody else uh and all that you got to watch out for those people like i said i love people watching so i know who's fucking who are they using condoms are they not using condoms especially when they're fucking out in the open and all that but you will make some incredible friends in this lifestyle i like i always tell everyone i'm personally i'm here for the sex part i'm here the swingers lifestyle because i want to get laid i want to have sex i want to have great sex and i like kinky sex but you know what over the years i have met some great people that i still haven't talked to outside of the lifestyle where if they said it when they said they're moving i go do you need help yeah okay i'm there helping them move they need something done they need help on the in their house building shit i'm there for them i got the saw i got the hammer nails everything what do you need me to do type of things if they need help with something i'm always there willing to help out so that's one of those things where you do me then i meet some of the people where like i said it's all about them single guys they'll talk about how they want a relationship with a woman or how great this couple is but you know behind the back they're talking about how shitty of this couple is girls are just fucking hoes and stuff things like that and you really get to see the worst of the worst uh sometimes in this life so unfortunately and you know it's not all single guys though it's a lot of single women and all that too.
So yes, single ladies, you are sometimes not so great. So let's see what else. What else do people say? I guess my biggest surprise to me is just how ordinary swingers are. There is more jealousy than I would have thought. Dicks are smaller than I would have thought. There are a lot more five minute wham, bam, thank you, ma'am, men than I would have thought. There are more vanilla just want missionary sex position, sex position than I would have thought.
People are people, I guess, wherever you go yeah texas you are correct people are people so i'm not why would you be surprised jealousy hell yeah when the opp other one penis uh policy those couples very a lot of more jealousy like i said i don't understand listen look my dick ain't that big. It's fucking six inches when I'm hard and all that. I know guys are going to have eight inches. Some guys are going to have 10 inches, but the whole point, I want that guy with the eight and 10. If my, if my partner can take it, I want him to fuck the shit out of her. Good. Cause I want her to be happy.
Now, is she going to scream a little more than what she does with me? Probably so, but it ain't going to hurt my feelings. I'm not going to be all mad about it. I'm not going to get in a fight with her about it. I'm going to like, hey, did you enjoy it? And she says, yes, great. Then that's great. We'll maybe go back to that guy again. We're not, I'm not going to sit there. Well, we're never going to do that again because you made noises that you never made with me. That is just a silly, stupid way to look at the lifestyle. So jealousy does come in. Dicks are smaller. Yeah.
You're going to see fucking, well, you got to remember a lot of these guys' dicks could be big if they would lose weight. You go to the, I go to the nudist resort.
I go to Emerald Lake, Live Oaks, and there's a new one, the Kraken up by, I think off of off outside of cleveland and you see these guys these big guts and you can barely see their dick yeah there's a lot of small dicks out there but you know what if they lost the weight they would make their dick look look bigger and all that so you know dicks are smaller so are the boobs i saw some flat chested women big chested women boobs all the way down to the vaginas knees and stuff like that you're gonna see everything there ain't don't ever think that you're going to go to a swinger resort or get in the swinger lifestyle and you're gonna see what you see in the porno and in movies all right there are a lot of five minute wham bam thinking men now this is one thing i always thought is funny you know the average time people have sex is five minutes the average five fucking minutes so to me when i take my girl to the club we meet a guy i don't want him fucking her for 30 40 under one hour she don't need that she needs quality you need quality guys gotta realize quality works better over the quantity you can go for an hour but if you can't fuck you can't move the ocean of them you know the ocean you can't get it good what's the point you're not doing anything for her you're just sitting there boring the shit out of me so you know i always tell guys i give them 10 15 minutes after 15 minutes i'm like bust your nut and let's go if you don't oh well time out we're going to do something else we'll go to the next guy next guy next heart next cock up that's what i call it so you know no i don't know about this what he said the vanilla is just there are more vanilla just want missionary position sex I'll see you next time.
up that's what i call it so you know no i don't know about this what he said the vanilla is just there are more vanilla just want missionary position sex you know you got to remember this is the problem when i went to vegas i fucked a six i think she was like 70 years old a fantasy of mine to do we are limited on the positions we could do because of her you know hips and her knees she couldn't ride me for more than maybe a minute because of her knees and all that so that's fine so you have to make up so i don't want to say that about the missionary position that there's more missionary i'm just saying i would just say you know what we don't know people's health i have a bad hip bad knees but you know what i stopped lifting weights i just do cardio at the gym now so i could save my hips and my knees for fucking.
And that's why, that's the main reason why I did it because of the fucking. I wanted to be able to bring my A game whenever I am with a couple or anything like that. So, you know, it is what it is. Let's see what else. So that was a good one. All right. So that's what surprised some people. That's just a little thing. If you want to go to over credit, you can read it. Just look up what surprised me most about the lifestyle. You'll see it. Here's one that's surprising.
There's a lot of surprises in our three years about the amount of drugs in the lifestyle has definitely surprised us hotel takeovers rewards can be filled with hardcore drugs yeah you want to stay from the hardcore see the problem with the hardcore drugs is this is what's going to fucking happen secrets has a problem like that i i believe it's just my opinion but the problem with the hardcore drugs is the cops get involved and once the cops get involved they're going to shut your ass down especially during election years you know i've been the i've been the only had one time i got raided and that was when i was when viagra started coming out some asshole at a hotel party was selling it to guys and all that and the cops found out and they raided the place and i had to be full thrust got a girl doggy style while the cops are busting in my door so you want to stay dude if you got to do hardcore drugs stay at fucking home do that shit at home don't bring it to the clubs because you're gonna fuck us up and you you fuck hardcore drugs will fuck a club up more than single dudes were uh let's see yep as a physician learning about the std rates kind of cool still best to play safe and often a lot of couples do get tested but you know what some of those guys also lie about it so you can't trust if you can see test results with their names on it you can trust that but if they're just showing you a clip you know a screenshot of test results you take it with a grain of salt because and just use a condom anyways because they're probably not telling you the truth all right so let's move on to our next topic i want to are we all in chat over here you guys x and kingdom hopefully that's all you're still good over there so i don't know if i'm live or not on this damn thing Doot good stuff like the drama i love the single male drama at secrets so what are the unusual things that they didn't tell you about the lifestyle all right so here's the background another one on reddit reddit is a good topic if you want to learn about swinging and all that have any questions about swinging get to reddit because reddit really does a good job so the background we've been in the swinging lifestyle for a little over a year and a half and we were chuckling the other day while changing the sheets for the third time in one weekend and that's and that's a weekend that there's some unintended consequences and realities of being a lifestyle couple we would love to hear yours too so this guy they did a fucking great job i think this is a great job holy shit so and this is from five starter 69 great he did a great job you did a great job on this guys all right so vanilla friends that find out have one or two reactions they're worried you are going to hit on them or they want to hit us to hit on them but most of the time it isn't going to happen now i always say if you are a swinger couple and you have friends that are vanilla and you're close to these friends don't bring sex to the table because it will just up the relationship now think about it when you're a single or whatever you have your good friend there you're maybe your best friend's the opposite sex and you decide the fuck are you still friends today is your relationship still the same maybe you got got married maybe that was great you could but you know a lot of times what happens is you get you bring sex to the table and it just fucks things up now one person can say a guy could go oh i fuck his wife whenever i want now or a girl could i could fuck her husband or whatever and she interjects her relationship and her business into your relationship so you know you gotta be very careful when you bring friends in my vanilla friends will be my vanilla friends if they start swinging no problem no problem, but I'm not fucking anything with them.
My good buddy, back when I was in Michigan living there, me and him lived together. He had a girlfriend, and they wanted to have a threesome. They asked me if I would fuck her. I'm like, no, because you're my best friend, bro. I'm not going to do that because that just brings complications in.
Because you don't know how the's going to react they're not married they were not married at this time they did end up getting married but they were not married at this time and all that so i was like no that's all right man thank you for asking me though i appreciate it uh i'll help you find a club you can go to and all that so i did and i did all that and all that also another thing that surprised them there's complicated crossovers with varying rules and etiquettes between the lifestyle community and the hot wife cock hold bdsm and the lg the alphabet mafia communities so there's a lot across complicated crossovers it's only complicated if you make it complicated one thing swingers love to do complicate shit you complicate shit by thinking too much stop thinking so much and we'll be fine nothing to surprise them all women are bi and no men are bi that's sarcasm that's what they said sarcasm intended you know what i i just wish i could get a straight male and female couple into my studio or on the phone and interview them because i do believe those couples have a extremely harder time to find couples to be with because the female is straight and a lot of the people want a bi-female.
Why? I don't know. You're swapping partners. Why does it matter if she wants to eat pussy or not? The whole thing is having fun. Okay, great. Your wife's but that but that girl that you all like, you both like her, she's great. She's sexy looking. That couple, she's straight. She don't want to, you know, eat pussy. Fuck it. Go in the back room, have fun, swap partners, and enjoy the new pussy. That's all you got to do. Okay, so what? You don't get one. Today, you don't get pussy.
Tomorrow, next weekend, you might get four pussies who knows guys so you know what but just have fun guys another thing they learned a white comforter was a terrible ideal and we spend a lot of time changing the sheets in our room and our our spare room oh so i'm wondering if they have like sex parties at their house sex another thing they learned sex is understood but affection can easily be misinterpreted another thing they learned we should always travel with basis necessities like lube condoms a toothbrush medication anything else we need for unplanned overnight okay so they do unplanned overnight i always tell gentlemen, even married men that couples, you should always have lube and condoms with you at all times.
If you take Viagra, have your Viagra stored. I got a little fanny pack with my Viagra in there, my lube, and my condoms, both. Now, when you use condoms, bring skins and regular ones, all right?
Because, you know you do have some women are allergic to latex and they can't have that on their vagina because you're gonna fuck it up for everybody so you have both one you look like a fucking genius two you are that guy that will always be in their head that he came prepared ready to go another thing they learned while they're in the lifestyle if we are actually being murdered at 4 a.m none of our neighbors would notice or call the police i guess they're having parties so that's why they said that but that's kind of fucking weird they wouldn't even put that on there but hey it's whatever it's their thing it's their post another thing they learned age and maturity have loosened relationships i could say when i got older you know i got less jealous and like good fuck it you know fuck he's got a 10 inch dick let's go fuck him in let's have a good time let's roll baby uh things like that do happen you know people get more secure with themselves women get more secure with their bodies when I take a girl to the first time who's never been to the newest beach I go you know you don't have to go nude just wear your bikini and you're fine but then 15 minutes they see every girl there and they're like fuck it they take the shit off because you know what they all have the same bodies they have all the same stretch marks they have they have the same whatever body issues you know so you know and they loosen up and after that they're fine they could do whatever they want to do because they know they're going to mature and all that.
And you see it with the young cats now, the mid-30s and under, where they have some issues with a lot of stuff they have to work out. And that's just age. And everyone hates to hear that when you're that age. But you do. You learn more from your age. All right.
Another thing they learned is reluctant and forced participants participants and they said it's typically the wife is the modern norm form of domestic abuse of course i say a lot of women do swing because of the husband wants them to do it it's not because they want to do it it's because their husband wants to do it and you know but you do get exceptions where the woman wants to swing and the husband don't want to do it. I have played partners that I've been with over the years tell me, yeah, I want to swing, but my partner, my husband don't want to do it and stuff like that.
And they end up fucking cheating on their husbands anyways, which is kind of fucked up. But, you know, it is what it is. And I met one girl when I was working at Caliente. Her husband was going around swinging his dick to every girl on the fucking place. And I asked her, go, don't you do anything? She's like, no, I'm just here to get him off of me. And I just do it because he wants to do it. So, you know, it is what it is. But you know what? That's their relationship. That's not for us to decide if it's good or bad. That's for them to decide if it's good or bad. All right.
Another thing they learned is swapping means very different things for different people fuck yes it does i agree the motivation behind the swap matters more than we thought it would like i said people think swapping is two girls fucking all of them everybody fucking to me swapping is i'll take your wife you take mine that's it but you know i'm just that kind of cat all right one also thing they learned is we can walk into a room of a thousand people and not find a couple we both find attractive holy shit that is so true and that's one of the common things i hear from couples is that they can go to a club they can go to a party and they can't find anybody they agree that are both attractive and that's why i say couples you will take one for the team yes you will because guess what ladies and gentlemen your blood's going to go from this big head three feet above your ass all the way travel down to that cock of yours and that clitoris of yours and it's going to make you horny and as much as you want to say you can control it you're not going to be able to and you're going to want to get fucked so you know what the male over there is good looking his wife is not so good looking i'll do it anyways everyone takes one for the team i cannot stand what couples say we don't take one for the team i go bullshit you will take one for the team or you have taken one for the team and you're just lying to yourself and it's okay i take one for the team, or you have taken one for the team, and you're just lying to yourself.
And it's okay. I take one for the team all the time. I don't mind. It's not going to hurt my feelings. Because you know what? In the end, I'm going to have a good time anyways. I love all women. I love all women, all colors, all sizes. And I'm going to have fun, no matter what. I'm going to make sure that woman feels like she's the only woman in the world. That's just the way I am. I'm not going to sit there and say, I'm not taking one from the team. I will. Because you know what? If my partner's happy, guess who's going to be happy? It's going to be AC. AC's going to be happy. All right.
Another thing they learned in the lifestyle. Cheating is somewhat prevalent in the lifestyle.
And some get off on a taboo of unpermitted activity more than sex guys this is a message to you if your wife wants to fuck a single dude at a club just let her fuck a single dude at that club because you know what she's gonna end up fucking some dude anyways has she ever gone on a girl's trip to vegas some dude was up in that pussy has she been on a girl's trip to new orleans some dudes probably been up in that pussy if she's been on any girl's trip guess what that pussy's probably been used by some other dude and if you are an opp one penis policy guess what you're probably getting you know and you're it's just fucking let her have what she wants to have Let her have a good time put your small dick energy away let her have a great time ladies same thing let that man have a good time if you don't want to fuck anybody but he wants to fuck find a girl for him to fucking put that inside and enjoy it's going to be a lot better and the cheating might not happen now you know i'm just saying i'm just saying i know i'm controversial because i'll say shit that no one else wants to say because other single guys are too scared to say because they're worried that they're not going to get laid ever again i'm not ugly i can find tinder pussy i could find bumble pussy i could find tpc colette and tng pussy it's not going to affect me so i I'll say it for all of you guys.
All right. Another thing they learned, drunk encounters are a terrible thing. Fuck me ass. Drunk encounters are stupid. Guys get stupid. They all act tough. They'll beat your ass. All right. No, you're not because I'm going to call the police. The police are going to come to the club. You're going to bring hate to the club. Do not get drunk.
If you need to be drunk drunk swinging you shouldn't be swinging i'm just saying if you have to be plastered to do this lifestyle you are not shouldn't be doing this class lifestyle all right another thing they learned swinging is expensive a good month equals a lot of hotel bar restaurant linger restaurant, laundry, club, and toy charges. All right, yes. If you're a single dude, it's going to be very expensive. I can't stand when single guys complain about the price. Listen, they don't want us there. Do you not get this? A lot of clubs don't want us there. So they charge us a lot.
And they say, oh, well, so we can eliminate a lot of guys. No, if you really didn't want, if you really did want single guys there, you make it cheaper. You just kick the fucking pieces of shit out that are assholes. It's not that hard. They don't want us here. So we're going to have to pay a lot more. It's fine. Do it. Stop complaining. Stop going online on Caliente's webpage or Secrets webpage. I'm looking for a date. I really don't want to go by myself. Okay. What you're saying is to me, as I'm smart and educated that you're too fucking cheap to go by yourself and pay for it.
Listen, if you're a black guy, go to these places. You're going to get laid anyways. You don't need a fucking date. They're all going to want that BBC. Just go. Like I said, there's rules for different single guys.
Black guys, you're number one on the pecking order after that it's every man for himself so you know what just go and have a good time pay that fucking fee guys all guys now swing in here yeah fucking i mean when i take my partner to the club i gotta pay 100 bucks to get in i never pay more than 80 bucks when i go out of state anywhere other than vegas but everywhere else i pay like fucking 100 like 80 50 dollars here i gotta pay 100 yes it's expensive but like i said you gotta go there with a purpose if you're spending 100 just to hang out it's your money you do what you want i'm not going to spend a hundred dollars just to go hang out like my if my partner wanted to go i don't want to do anything i just want to hang out let's just go to a bar where we could fucking spend a hundred dollars on drinks and food whereas i don't have to spend a hundred dollars on a mission just to get in and i gotta buy the drinks and i gotta buy the food so i know you know it's going to be expensive everybody for everyone couples and all that when i worked at caliente shit couples will drop two to three grand for a weekend but it's fucking worth it so you gotta ask yourself is it worth it or can you or can you just meet people outside of the club and do you have time to do that where you're gonna get a lot of fakes and flakes it's up to you another thing they learned at least half of the new men have performance issues especially in club environments huh uh you know i i had that limp dick bastard he i he couldn't get hard i had those two russian dudes that couldn't get hard but i haven't seen a lot of uh guys who cannot perform the task at hand so i don't know so i don't know if that's true or not for me at least for couples you can tell me email me at uh swinging single podcast at gmail.com if you have any problems of that uh guys performing and all that listen i'm if you guys can't perform i'm fine i'll do the duties i'm always able to go i don't drink and i don't have no whiskey dick i'm ready to go rock hard every time you know put a pussy in my face my shit gets hard so you know if you can't perform i'll take over for you uh let's see another thing they learned people lie about fake sti test results to avoid having to use condoms like i said if their name's not on it the date's not on it don't take it screenshots whatever i have my quest i go to quest i just log into my quest and show them and i show me logging in and everything so you know it's not fake so you got to be very careful listen know condoms fucking suck.
But there are people out there who you got to worry about. There's two gentlemen, one in Dallas, Texas, and one in Cincinnati, Ohio. Both had HIV and they were swingers. And they were still fucking other couples and people without, you know, telling, hey, I have HIV and all that.
So it's fucking crazy that these people are out there like that and there are people out there like that um hopefully not as many as there was before but there still are now like i said you don't owe swingers anything when you when you're a couple and you meet another couple you don't need to tell them your fucking real name you don't need to tell them shit only thing you do need to tell them is that if you do have an std or sti whatever you want to call it and your health status that's the only thing you need to own you know what people always ask are you clean and all that you go yeah here's my test results and all that and i this is my things i take uh for my health and all that another thing they learned condoms are somewhat ineffective in group environments and preventing the lesser STIs sorry guys but we use them anyway and hope for the best yeah of course everyone goes how can you swing because you know you gotta worry about STDs I go okay tell me what's the difference between me going to a swim club picking up a couple fucking the couple then it is for you picking up a dude the bar, fucking that guy at the bar.
What's the difference? There is exactly no difference in anything. Sex is sex. It doesn't matter if you have three-way sex or one-on-one sex or gangbang sex or one-on-one sex. It's all dangerous.
So you just got to hope for the best and be smart like i said i look at who people fuck other people houston texas is very you know it's close-knit you know it's a lot of the same people so you kind of know the same people even though you might not talk to them you still see their you know who they're playing with and all that then you go i went touch that couple with a 10 foot pole so and that couple fucked them now i'm good thank you so you kind of know who to stop stay away from uh let's see another thing they learned some couples don't know how to talk Thank you.
poll so and that couple fucked them now i'm good thank you so you kind of know who to stop stay away from uh let's see another thing they learned some couples don't know how to talk how to don't know how to talk about their children sending pictures of their kids in the middle of a sext sexting session probably isn't the best approach no i don't know why people talk about their kids in the first place i just fucking kids are off topic with me i don't want to fucking know about your kids i don't even want to know how old they are you know things like that now that's fucking i just it's just weird that like i said i know couples were oh let's have oh you got a kid oh let's all hang out let's have a play date no fuck no i don't want to you are here for a purpose i here for a purpose.
I'm here to fulfill your fantasy of getting good fucked. And you're my purpose of me getting my nut. That's it. Other than that, we're done. I don't want to be that out there. All right. Even the friends I have now, they never see my kids that are into lifestyle. I don't want to. It's just you don't mix.
I i don't mix them another thing they learn uh you can turn lifestyle friends into lifelong vanilla friends but you can't turn vanilla friends into lifestyle fun i always said that before you bring vanilla friends into it you're gonna fuck up your relationships another thing they learn many swingers are actually quite reserved uncomfortable with nudity and even prudish at times you need only to visit the background of a sex club to see people having sex with towels wrapped around themselves. That's good because of body image. You know what?
You know, I got a little stomach here, you guys, you know. You know, everyone's kind of conscious, you know. If my dick was hanging to my knees, I could have a big fucking beard gut. I wouldn't give a shit. I'd be like, fucking look at this. But you know what? Let's face it.
Women have a big fucking beard gut i wouldn't give a shit i'd be like fucking look at this but you know what let's face it women have a certain type now they don't when i first started was you got a cock is it hard all right let's fuck now it's how tall are you you got six pack how young are you how big is it and all that and when people say size doesn't matter i had a i was watching a podcast all these four girls all size doesn't matter yada i'm like well that's Thank you.
big is it and all that and when people say size doesn't matter i had a i was watching a podcast and all these four girls all size doesn't matter yada i'm like well that's kind of funny to me because when i go on double list or i look on the ads on swinger sites it all says hung they all want hung so size does matter and it does like i said i had those two prosthetic uh cocks i could put on and all that if size really matters. All right, next one. Let's see. What they also realize are unusual things they didn't tell you.
Lifestyle clubs are more safe and respectful environment than average club, of course. That being said, some people don't understand that a slutty outfit is not an invitation to look, but is an invitation to look, but not an invitation to touch. Yes, and you know what? Women are equally guilty of touching without Thank you.
not an invitation to look but is is an invitation to look but not an invitation to touch yes and you know what women are equally guilty of touching without permission as men yes they said it not me but i'll say women are just as bad as men women do is creep creepy too that men do but they get away with it because they they're single or they're women all right next last one they put on there rejection hurts more than it should you can have four great experiences in a row and still feel shitty when you are rejected by the fifth of course rejection sucks i'm used to rejection nine out of ten times is always going to be a no but there's always that one couple that would say yes so you know what if you've don't take rejection well which a lot of dudes do and a lot of couples do don't be get out of the lifestyle go do something else go find people at a online or something because you're just going to be full of anger and bitterness you know it sucks when a couple says no to me but you know what i move on because you know what there's other people out there in the world that are willing to meet a guy you know they listen you can listen to my podcast about all this guy's an asshole but you really don't know me because you only know me from the podcast and my views and like i said i'm not changing my views i'm not going to be someone that's like because i'm fake and a lot of dudes in this lifestyle are fake as fuck a lot of couples are fake as fuck too so i would rather be hated for who i am than like for who i'm not i'm just saying guys so that is some of the things unusual things they don't tell you about the lifestyle based off a reddit post i thought was great they did a great job on it and all that so the next thing i want to talk about i got it right here i gotta pull it up on my lovely phone is a c i think i saved it who knows i have so technology is so far for me i wish I could do, I doubt if I saved it.
I think I screenshot it. Dudes are thirsty. No, that's not it. All right, so let me see. Did I save it on the screenshots? There's too many apps out in the world now all right let's see i think i did nope okay let's see no I don't think. Fuck. All right, so this is the background. I'm on a, what would you call it? A Facebook group. Facebook group. Let me see. Let me get there. Oh, I can't get there. Oh, damn it.
All right, so i found that i'm on this face group official group of secrets hideaway resort and so this guy he posted a few things and it was all about single guys when he was there uh he said what is the proper protocol when it comes to seeing guys engaging couples two is it proper for single guy to seek out couples and approach them um asking if they are into him without even introducing himself okay that's kind of dumb if the guy did it three is it proper for a single guy to approach you multiple times in a row with the same exact game four is it proper for the same guy to approach the female who is sitting alone at the pool asking the same thing five and this is last this last one isn't a question the same dude came up to us on sunday whatever okay so they had an issue with a single guy and all that great okay that's fine they had this issue okay of course you i wouldn't doubt it you had an issue with the single guy there okay good let's see what else I got so anyway let me get here all right so he's talking about it he gives all the information so I'll tell you so the same dude came up to us on sunday and sat next to us at the beach entry part of the pool and was going to attempt to talk to us again but this time i just pointed at him and snapped my fingers and told him to read little cut himself he was kind of funny though when i did that he said he figured because he could read our bodily language.
Apparently not. Don't know if I would have been nice if I had used many words to make him get up from trying to sit next to us. Correct me if I'm wrong, please, but if a couple wants to seek out a single male, they will do that themselves. Okay, great. So he's asking questions and all that if you are at a club and all that you got to remember there's two type of people in the world there's extroverts and introverts if you're an introvert and you're not you know social like a lot of people are and is that's fine you're gonna have to go up to them.
You know how many times I had to go up to a couple because they were too scared to talk to me? A lot. Most of the time, I do have to. And this guy, now, I don't know. I don't think he's, you know, an asshole or anything. I just think he's just going about it all the wrong way. I don't think he's asking the right questions.
Of course, it's okay for a single guy to approach a couple at a club or at a resort or anything all right now a lot of guys the problem is a lot of guys are just fucking stupid and a lot of couples are just fucking stupid too let's not get it twisted yes couples you are just as dumb as single guys sometimes you know i see it and everyone else sees it but you know what since you got a female pussy around they kind of let that thing go they go okay well funny funny but when if i did it but i'm by myself oh shit you're out of here get out of here i'm creepy but like i said he doesn't know the proper protocol the protocol is anybody i could talk to anybody there's no this bullshit in any club where you have to be approached by someone else before you can approach them because if you do that guess what's going to happen no one's fucking anybody even at secrets or a caliente because you know what people are scared how the fuck like i always say it's hard for me to ask a couple the fuck because how do i sit there tell a dude hey let me fuck your girl you know how do how does that come up even as 20 plus years have i been doing this it's kind of hard for me to say hey uh let me take your wife to the back and fuck her no it's just hard it's difficult some people you can read some people who can't you just got to talk to them a little bit and all that so it's kind of hard so there's no protocol anyone can talk to anybody it just depends do you want to talk to that person back if you don't want to talk to that person back you just say no thank you we're not interested now i know a lot of couples cannot say that to people because for some odd reason they can't say no me i have no problem telling guys hey come on talk to us or get the fuck away we don't i don't we're not interested in you that's it and you know what it works all the time i have 100 success rate it doesn't guys don't come back and say okay uh you're interested now no they no because i tell them i'm just not interested at all with them uh is it proper for single guys to ask couples or approach them yes it's proper that's how usually that's how it works is it proper for now put couples is it proper okay what is the proper protocol when it comes to couples engaging couples all right what is the proper uh what is proper for a couple to ask out couples or approach them?
See, it doesn't, it makes no sense. It's just weird that you would have to say that you are able to talk to anybody. So if you're anybody, single guy, single female couple, you can talk to anybody. You just got to remember, do they want to talk to you? All right. That's the problem.
That's the hard the hard that's the the hard part that you have to do um it's a proper first thing i had to approach you multiple days in a row yeah i think it would because guess what i had people that i known at the clubs for years then all of a sudden in one night hey man can you go my wife wants to fuck you want to go fuck her? Yeah. Because you know what? Things change. People's experience change. People's attitudes change. One night, night one, we're here for couples only. Night two, we're here for guys only. Night three, we're here to fuck as many girls as we can.
Night four, we're here to fuck everything and anything. Yeah, it is okay for them to do it, dude.
Don't don't worry about it listen if your girl doesn't want a single dude just say hey we're not interested in you at all don't you don't need to bother us anymore and be cool about it now and all that and they actually know who this guy is in the chat so it's kind of funny um is it proper to for that same guy to then approach the female who is sitting alone at the pool asking the same thing now i don't know if he's talking about his wife or another just another random female but i'm going to assume his wife no i would not say that's proper because you know what i always say if you want to fuck my girl you better talk to me first and you've got to have me in the conversation because if you talk to her when she's alone it's going to be a no automatically unless she came up to you then that changes so i always ask hey did you did he come up did you talk to him first or did he come up to you and she tells me he come up to me i go listen that ain't going to happen that's disrespectful and all that so you know it happens so contact me if i'm wrong please but if a couple wants to seek out a single medal, they will do it themselves.
Yeah, some couples can. Some couples can seek out other couples by themselves. Some couples need help in doing that. When I was working at Caliente, I was working in the sex club down there. I would bring couples together because, you know what, couples are shy. Even though they're butt-ass naked together and maybe fucking next to each other in the group room, they still don't know how to initiate it. So, you know, I, you know, I would see a couple and they just look like they're lost. I go, Hey, what are you here for? You looking for couples or guys or single women?
They're always telling me we're looking for this. I go, okay, I got a great couple for you. Come follow me. And I would introduce them and guess what? They would fuck because you know what? It's hard.
Introducing, uh, introducing yourself to another couple couple as a couple or even a single guy is the hardest thing in the lifestyle to do you remember gi joe uh was it knowing is half the battle i think it was i can't remember so fucking long ago but initiating the conversation is the hardest thing to do in the lifestyle once you get in that start the initial conversation everything takes off you can do whatever it's no none of this bullshit where uh you know you got to do other things once that initial conversation starts you're good to go you're golden it's either you're going to fuck it up or have a good or it's going to be and you know it has over 150 comments so this person wrote i'm going to read some of the comments in here just to pass up time uh i'm going to be devil's advocate here i personally don't mind single guys approaching us or even me or even me if i'm sitting alone i will directly tell him that i'm not interested in anything sexual if i'm not single guys are people too not all singles are bad and aggressive sometimes they are fine all right uh some people a lot of people were sticking up for single guys in this i was surprised because usually secrets has a lot of hate for single dudes in the facebook group when i go there i don't feel the hate there because you know i know you know if they want me they know where i'm at and a lot of couples are very friendly and very nice like i said i'm good looking i'm a little older now but i'm still good looking where you know women find me attractive uh okay let's see anything else that was good in here i don't know there's no etiquette for approaching anyone as a couple single trouble or group some like to be approached some like to do the approaching some like to engage in conversations some like to get to get to the point asap some want mental connection before play some just want a new warm body and don't care thus there is no etiquette if a single person or otherwise doesn't take a hint and keeps approaching you you can always notify security now also we don't know what hints he was giving did he say we're not interested in you and he kept coming back something you know maybe he was just they were not saying anything they were maybe they would engage in conversation with him and all that but from what they said they said from what he was referring to he said that they would uh what was it he would just walk up to him say hey you want to fuck i don't believe that bullshit i don believe it.
Like I said, I've never seen, the worst group of men I ever saw was at the Green Door in Las Vegas. But when I go on The Secrets, working at Caliente, Paradise Lakes, or any other clubs, I never really had any bad single guys.
Now, I get the ones that get drunk, you know, they get stupid and they do dumb things, but, you know, that's very few, that's a handful of guys uh let's see what else sorry i came up to you so many times my light left me alone and i wanted to be a creeper but does this mean i have a chance still after a lot of five times i tried it could you never know like i said i like i i had a friend when i was working at secrets and they were totally no they would never play with any single guy then one night it was on a wednesday night i was there relaxing in the conversation pool and bada boom bada bing she jumps on me and we start fucking i didn't know what the hell was going on and all that but you know it is what it is so you know just remember there is no way to approach it there is no protocol in approaching anybody that's something that the couple has to come up with some guys are too scared to approach a girl a couple that are with the guy because sometimes you know guys have resting bitch face or i'm an asshole if you talk to me i'm going to kill you face uh and all that but me personally i like a gentleman to come up to me uh with me and my partner when i'm there and you know engaging with me and all that i had experience where i would talk to a couple and i would try to bring the guy into the conversation and he wasn't having it.
It was just me and the girl having a conversation and back to the back of the rooms to fucking play. So, you know, it is, you just got to be able to read. If you can read people real quick, you're going to be successful in the lifestyle. If you can't, you're going to have moderate, maybe success in the lifestyle. So, you know, it's just one of those things you got to pick up after a while and all that.
So don't really have to you know worry there is no proper uh try to take hints guys if you're out there if a couple says no the first time you say okay great if you change your mind i'll be here all weekend just come and get me that's all you got to say you don't have to keep going back now if he did if this was true because you know what i can only i have to say it's true but you know sometimes i don't think it is sometimes because i think people embellish especially couples because they just don't like single guys at all because for whatever reason they just don't like it there's no pussy there for the guy they have and all that and you know just say be very open when you are a couple dealing with a single man you have to be direct you can't just be beat around the bush you have to be direct and say hey we're not interested in single guys this weekend we're not here for single guys we're not going to play with you i appreciate the author i appreciate that you think my wife is good looking enough that you want to stick your dick in her but we're not going to play with you at this at all so there's no need to ask or anything like that be very direct don't sit there be threatening don't be in that asshole couple says if you talk to us again i'm gonna fucking kick your ass because go on i'm gonna tell you stop fucking threatening people couples singers swingers couples all that single guys stop fighting at the swearing clubs you're just gonna bring fucking heat to the club and you're gonna ruin it for everybody else because guess what anyone hits me i'm going fucking after that i'm calling the cops i'm calling the on the cops and the club and everyone and the person who did it because you know i'm not taking that shit no one has any right to put their hands on you uh physically you know unless you know you're in bdsm she wants you to whip her ass then okay you got consent but no one has consent to punch me in my fucking face or my gut or kick me in the nuts or anything like that so you know i gotta be very careful all right um and all that so that is our you know my thing today that is my show for today i hope you all enjoyed it i hope you all enjoyed listening to all my shit that is going on all the drama i had to take a couple days off because of the hurricane that came through us and killed the power to my studio and everything but i'm back on i'm ready to rock and roll cock out rock out with my cock out and all that you go to joystick tv swinging single podcast you can see me live nude with my cock out like i said rocking it out with my rocking the world out and all that shave your cock and balls gentlemen i gotta shave i didn't shave today I don't want to shave my cock and balls when there's no electricity all right i gotta get a good look down there you know i don't got much to take off but anyways everyone enjoy the day enjoy your weekend hope uh everything's going great.
Shave your cock. Gentlemen, shave your cock and balls. Ladies, pleasure those dudes. Play with the balls. Play with the anus a little bit. They do like a little tickling. And with that, have a great week and keep on swinging, baby. It's over. You'll get lucky like a four-leaf globe. Baby, I'm a holly till you choke. Closer. Will you put me in a sense? Come over. I can barely keep all my composure. I can't play no games, can't keep my focus. Yeah, did you notice?
I want to be the devil on your shoulder I want to be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like you're fully floored Baby, I'm a holly to your joker I want to be the devil on your shoulder I want to be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a four-leaf glow Baby, I'm a holly to your joker Oh, We'll be right back. No money to each other Thank you.
