In this steamy episode of The Swinging Single Podcast, your host AC Maxwell—armed with over 20 years of swinging experience—dives deep into the art of turning down couples and singles with respect, honesty, and style. Whether you’re navigating how to say no sexy yet clear, or gracefully moving from intimate play back to friendship, AC’s got you covered.Learn how setting boundaries actually amps up your confidence and keeps the swinging lifestyle safe, sensual, and sustainable. Of course, before you step into your next encounter, remember the essential grooming tip that makes all the difference—shave your cock and balls. Feeling fresh is the ultimate power move.For more juicy insights and ways to up your swinging game, visit swingingsinglepodcast.com and join the community where real talk and real pleasure meet.Stay bold. Stay honest. Stay irresistible.#HotWife #Swingers #shaveyourcockandballs
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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell. For over 20 years, I've been navigating the swinging lifestyle as a single male, experiencing all the excitement, challenges, and everything in between. This podcast is my honest and unfiltered take on that journey. A fresh set of eyes, diving deep into real stories, lessons learned, and practical advice for anyone exploring or curious about the lifestyle. Whether you're new, seasoned, singled, or a partner, Join me as I share my experiences. Bust a minute.
lessons learned and practical advice for anyone exploring or curious about the lifestyle whether you're new seasoned singled or a partner join me as i share my experiences bust the myths and help you swing your best in this exhilarating world so let's get real keep it respectful and keep swinging single but first before you do that go to swinging single podcast.com check out all things ac also go toinglePodcast at gmail.com to send me any comments, questions, or topics you want me to cover.
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All night, swimming up the windows till sunrise, you're in converse, I'm in my me highs, everything I ever wanted, sketching hearts around my skin, you should have told me they would see through, guess I turned a blind eye to the truth, cause you were all I ever wanted, yeah, it seems like a better conversation, but you don't like when the heat turns up So you're never gonna not run I leave my water on the line They wanna leave it out too dry Out there, oh, I swear They got the worst taste in girls I feel it coming when they smile I know know it's only just a while till they're scared, then they're not there, I got the worst tasting girls.
Now I keep me riding my stance, when I stop and go and leave them. All right, hello lovers, players, and the Aries is Smurlyibly curious, and welcome back to the Swing and Single Podcast, where we live loud, live boldly, and always play respectfully. I'm your host, A.C. Maxwell. Today, we're diving into a spicy but deeply important conversation. How to say no when the temptation is thick in the air.
How to turn down couples and singles in the lifestyle with grace and honesty and how to move on from one's hot connections without burning those bridges i think this is very important for a lot of you to understand because i always see that people are worried about saying no to people and all that stuff and i'm like well just say? It's just like drugs. Just say no. And if someone's butt hurt because you decide not to play with them or not to play with them anymore, well, then they probably weren't your friends in the first place.
Because swinging is a playground of possibility, but that doesn't mean you have to say yes to everyone. Boundaries, respect, and communication make the scene electrifying and safe. Too bad everyone wanted to play with everybody.
There was no judgment or anything like then we can all just have fun but it's not it's the real world out there all right and trust me feeling confidence starts with the little the little things so if you haven't done it yet take a moment to shave your cock and balls before you step out tonight feeling fresh just adds that power to your skin your swagger your words all right let's get into the art of saying no with style and worth let's get real in the swinging lifestyle their energy is hot right you go to the club people are half naked or naked and just partying having a good time the chemistry crackles and sometimes boom you don't want to take things further with a couple or a single you meet it's sexy but you get the call but you get to call the shots especially if you're a woman remember ladies don't be afraid to say no because you know what you have to say no that's it if you are not feeling it you're not in game for it you got to say no always go with your gut you know when you're dealing with people couples and singles because you just never know what you're going to get it's like like a box of chocolates, as Forrest Gump would say.
Saying no isn't rejection in a cold way. It's an expression of love, self-love, and respect. You know, you got to respect yourself to say no.
You know, I, like I admit, I like to have sex with a lot of women, so, you know, saying no to me, but I have to have to say no to sometimes, because sometimes you just got to know when to fold them and know when to hold them the tone of your experience you're setting the tone of your experience showing you value yourself and others enough to be honest and here's how to do it make your no soft but clear something like you're amazing I really enjoy spending time with you but I'm not interested in taking this to the bedroom with you I hope we can be friends and enjoy this vibe as it is.
That's one thing I think a lot of people forget. Just flat out saying no will actually make you sound like an asshole. You know, give them a compliment. Tell them, oh, I really like your style. I like your dress. I like your hair. I like your face. Stuff like that. Whatever you want to do. Just make up something.
You know, they always say when you're going to tell someone something bad, you start you off with a positive then go to the negative so and that's what uh i'm just saying you're amazing and i really enjoy spending time with you now you laid after you set that foundation of niceness then you lay down the hammer say no i don't want to play with you that tone it's sexy as fuck it always it says you're confident enough to be selective and kind enough to honor their feelings yes remember you're always you're gonna get rejected ladies single ladies ladies couples you're gonna get rejected it's not gonna feel good and you're gonna be wondering why did you get rejected and all that stuff and i'm gonna tell you it could be for multiple reasons but you have to be able to take no and not feel sorry or sad or anything that would take it personally because that's what's going to happen you're going to get even the hottest couples hottest single women and the hottest men get turned down will get told no it's just a matter of time when and where you're going to get turned down and how you act because you know what a lot of times when you get turned down and how you act really shows you how you are as a person if you're immature about it then you're I don't know.
when and where you're going to get turned down and how you act because you know what a lot of times when you get turned down and how you act really shows you how you are as a person if you're immature about it then you're probably an immature person if you're mature about it you go and you do the right things you say the right things to that person it just shows you you're a great person and probably someone you're going to be recommending you to a couple or something like that and when you're ready for interactions in person or online remember again shave your cock and balls nothing says confidence like a real groomed man who knows he's fresh for whatever comes setting those boundaries like this is pure power and ladies and ladies listen loud couples and ladies ladies whatever you control the lifestyle men do not control this lifestyle guys want to sit there and say they do but they don't control the lifestyle okay you do your pussy has a power it's pussy power or a pussy control like prince used to say so setting those boundaries that's your power and it often earns you even more respect and curiosity that might be true you know you might say there why does she not want to play with us or anything like that and you might add that uh what is that that feeling of when less less is more so you can do that don't put yourself out there and all that a lot so when you do get play it sounds great it's you feel really good people want to be around someone who knows what they want and what they don't want.
That's another thing. You've got to figure out what you want and what you don't want because you see a lot of people doing things that they probably shouldn't be doing. Go to Reddit. Go on the Swingers website, the Swingers subreddit, and guess what? You're going to hear a lot of, we didn't like this, we didn't like that. Well, you know, you should speak up.
You've got to speak up and all that so don't be afraid to say no practice with me say it repeat after me no repeat after me again no it's very simple it's very easy and it will get you where you need to go all right so that's one thing all right so turning down the singles and couples, the words that might work. Now let's get practical. What do you actually say when a couple or single is turning their heart, you're turning the heart your way, but you want to keep things friendly. You know, you don't want to go to bed. You want to do anything like that.
Maybe you're just not feeling it with that tonight.
Maybe you don't feel that sexy tonight or anything like that, but you know, maybe in the future there's play in the future maybe so honestly is the honesty is the sexy shortcut so here are some examples you can tailor to your own voice so here are some things i put together um i think about three i put three things together that can help you say no to someone without being an asshole because let's face it sometimes when people get rejected or sometimes when someone says no they do it in an asshole way you remember this it takes a lot of guts to go up to someone start talking to them and asking them if you want to have sex it is a very hard thing to do it's not easy if it was easy everyone would be doing it but they don't you know especially in this day and age of apps you just like left site right ass is at your door so you know think about how you want to be rejected if you how do you want to be told no by a couple or a single so here's some of the things i i wrote down number one i'm really enjoying our connection but i'm not looking to get sexual with anyone else right now let's keep this fun fun, strictly social.
You can always add stuff to it. You can always subtract stuff to it. You can add, well, let's keep this fun, strictly, casual, social, and all that stuff. But maybe later on, you know, I might be feeling it. I'll let you know. It's just all depends on me. Like I said, ladies, don't be shy. Say what you want to say. Say what you want to say.
what you want to say isn't that john mayer song so that's a good song though so say what you gotta say the next one number two you're incredible and i love to be part of your circle as friends for me it's about connection not bedroom play now this one might hurt a lot because then you're really because It's really saying you're closing the door to any sexual play with anybody and the person might want to be like well i want to really have some sexual play or whatever i don't want circle of friends well like i said it helps you get rid of all the trash and you'll be able to do what you need to do the third one the last one i put on there i hope this sounds okay i want to be up front but i'm not interested in sex with you but i value the friendship that i i think that's probably the best one because you put emphasis on that person you're saying hey i value you as a friend and i want to keep keep you as a friend all right now what happens is just because they reject you ladies and gentlemen doesn't mean it's always going to be a no people can change their mind and be dependent on the vibe maybe you know she wasn't feeling that night then two weeks later she sees you and she's like oh yeah i'm on it same thing a couple yeah let's not swap okay now we're swapping because you know it's just one of those things where you really got to respect the person when they say no.
And don't harass them about it. Don't beg them and all that. Just say no and be their friend. Because that's what they're asking you for. And you know what? Maybe they're testing you. Maybe they want to find out. Like I always tell single women who meet a guy in the lifestyle, always tell them. Tell that guy you don't want to swing and see how fast he wants to hang out with you.
See if he wants to go further if you're really questioning that he likes you for you and not just your your coupon to get in the club and get more access to pussy maybe the person that's telling you no is just testing you to see what kind of character you have you know now you say well that's playing games we go yeah well this is life vanilla there is no difference between the only difference between vanilla and swinging is that there's more sex and swing the games are same the people are the same everything's the same except for more sex and key gear sex and stuff like that you might add three four or five people to the mix but you know there ain't no difference so you got people out there will test you see how you react and see if you're a good person or not so tone is everything say it with warmth a light laugh or a knowing look smile when you're saying it don't be like you know just be like don't have the resting bitch face because when i get rejected i get rejected by women some of them have a very nice polite and some of them are just like flat out no they don't give your answer or anything like their reasons they don't say anything now you don't have to give a person a reason why you're saying no it's just that i want to remember i want to when i reject someone i always say something like that like i did it above like i really like your friendship i value your friendship more than anything and i want to make sure we keep that friendship you know so you really got to worry sometimes all right turn someone down as you want to be turned down and if you're doing this face-to-face which is a lot harder because granted face-to-face is a lot harder that eye contact will seal the sincerity all right make eye contact with the persons or persons that you are rejecting all right because you know they will get angry maybe and if you follow these steps you will stop with the anger towards you and stuff like that but you know there's some people that are mature and mature and should not be swinging will get angry no matter what if you turn them down they're going to get angry no matter how you turn them down so you know you really find out who the content of character of people when you when they're told no and all that stuff you know i don't know i just think that people like i said just turn down someone as you think you're getting turned down how do you want to get turned down you know you want to be cold or you want to be warm so we're relaxing poetic poetic in messages or chats be clear before things get heavy saves everyone time frustration and hurt feelings yes tell people what you want you know i have to tell reject women all the time because they're not what i want they're not what i'm seeking so you know i go well you're a good person i really like i hope you're gonna find someone someday but you know my lifestyle is not conclusive with your lifestyle you have difference we're both swingers but we just have a different take on swing you know and you always like i said i do it so do it nicely because that's how i want to be rejected i don't want to be ghosted being ghosted really sucks you know you talk to someone for a while you hang out then boom nothing no one ever you don't ever talk stuff like that and it's just it's one of those things you know like get over it but try to be an adult about it say i'm just not interested anymore i'm not feeling it or you know make sure this is how you want to be rejected you know remember your energy is magnetic when you're standing in in your truth and a quick tip before you hit send make sure you shave your cock and balls room confidence shines through words and pictures alike yes gentlemen if you shave your cock and balls you can give yourself an extra inch on your cock you know and don't lie about your cock size guys because we all know you she's going to see it anyway so if you come over with a six inch ween and she's expecting an eight-inch hot dog, well, you know, it's not going to look good on you.
But, you know, and she might reject you harshly. And you know what? If someone lies about that, like they're pitching and shit like that, you have all my, you have my permission, not that you needed it, you have my permission to rag on that person.
Because you go out there, you say something say something you put fake information out there you make it harder for other single men who are honest like myself and to get friends in the lifestyle meet other couples in the lifestyle so don't lie be honest no 20 year old pictures so moving from sex back to friendship with a couple now Now, this is a popular topic when I go to Reddit, that people don't know how to tell the other couple they don't want to play with them anymore. And you know what? That's perfectly fine, because guess what?
You have every right to change your mind, even if you have been swinging with that couple. And there's been some bad breakups.
You know, when I worked at Caliente, two couples were always with each other, banging having fun and all of a sudden now they break up and guess what no one wants to no no one wants to talk to each other and they're immature about it they get one couple gets kicked out of the resort for good because one couple didn't like didn't want to see them around anymore now that's on caliente for being petty like that and and saying to the couple okay we'll kick them out for good but it can happen so now you just want to be friends so all right lovers this one's delicate and so essential you've been intimate with a couple the sex was fire yeah it was hot but now your hearts or lifestyles are asking for a different rhythm.
Maybe the passion cooled. Maybe life pulled you in other directions. But how do you say, let's keep loving, but not in the bedroom anymore? First, you get honest with yourself or selves. Why do you want to pause or stop sex with them? Knowing this helps you communicate authentically. Yeah.
maybe whatever reason why you want to pause or stop sex with them knowing this helps you communicate authentically yeah maybe whatever reason why you want to stop having sex maybe he smells or she smells or they're not always available when you're available you only get to play with them once in a while and you want more or you play all the time but you want to explore different people you know just be honest with them if they don't like it well that's not you that's not your problem that's their problem all right so then reach out in private do not do this out in public reach out in private calm a calm moment something like say something like this i want to be real with you because i respect that we what we share i feel it's time for me to step back from the sexual side of our connection So, let's get started.
this i want to be real with you because i respect that we what we share i feel it's time for me to step back from the sexual side of our connection but i cherish the friendship and good times we've had you know maybe medical reasons why maybe the little soldier can't salute that much anymore and you just want her to go on and move on to find someone else that can satisfy her sexual desires people like that that. So timing is also key. Don't spring it on them mid-party or in a high-energy moment. Pick a low-pressure setting. Even a simple message works, all right?
So if you're at an orgy, don't do it in the orgy at a swingers club or anything like that. Do it before you go to the swingers club. You can do it on a weekday when no one's playing or anything like that and just let them know that you are no longer interested in continuing a sexual relationship but you want to have a friend relationship a friendly relationship outside the bedroom not inside so and whatever you do maintain respect and worth the point is to bridge the change, not to burn it down. Now, you might ask, well, is this a sure, is this foolproof? No.
Like I said, it just depends on the people who you are playing with and who you're talking to because lots of times they could be horrible human beings. The couple could be horrible. They don't may, they might not take rejection well like i said single guys can take rejection i think better than most people now you get those assholes that are will keep trying and trying and trying but however you know you got these guys and we're used to being rejected no problem we move We move on. There's what swinging single guys do.
But then you get couples, you know, they might be very good looking, stuff like that. They might not get rejected that much. They might not know how to take rejection, even in the vanilla world and the swinging world. So they might act, react differently when you tell them this. Be prepared. Be prepared for the worst, but hope and pray for the best. Maybe they said, yeah, okay, that's fine.
We really love your friendship and what yada and you know you become great friends out of the bedroom so but you mean we may be respectful and show their warmth in your uh message if you really unsure just try ai have ai write you a breakup song or if you know taylor swift AI. Have AI write you a breakup song. Or if you know Taylor Swift, ask her. She could write you a breakup song. But, you know, be very respectful. And before that important conversation that you're going to have with that couple, you know what you need to do?
Yeah, it's time to shave your cock and balls because you got a new couple to impress.
That goes a long way in feeling confident and centered when you're handling sensitive talk so respectful boundaries keep the sexy lifestyle and make it sustainable all right for those who just uh for those of us who want to play the long game you know you always gotta play the long game guys gentlemen play the long game that's what swinging is couples you can do the same thing play the long game they might not they might reject you today but in a month from now they might not reject you at all so respect the boundaries keep everything sizzling not stressful all right when you say no or transition out of the bedroom play you're still part of a wider community hungry for respect communication there it is a connection here are some golden rules you should live by be kind but, but firm.
Tell them what you want. You're not going to settle for it, but be kind about it. You know, if the guy, if you meet a couple, the guy has a small penis, you probably not want to say, well, your husband's cock is not big enough for me and I need to get something different. I need bigger.
And you will see, you know you will get that that's not very kind right you don't want as a woman you don't want to say oh your ass is too thick it's small your tits are too small you know so be kind if it's a physical thing just be you know just be kind about it say and not be so hard on a person be kind but firm don't ghost always offer closure Thank you.
it say and not be so hard on a person be kind but firm don't ghost always offer closure you know as a single guy we get ghosted daily especially when you meet people online that's why i stopped meeting people and i stopped doing the apps and all that stuff tinder filled other three-way whatever because it's always going to be ghosting they'll talk you for a day or two don't want to meet up stuff so on and so on they never respond to say hey i'm going to go in another direction uh i'm not feeling it things like that they just stop texting you calling you all right so don't ghost very rude celebrate the moments you shared you know you can have a great friendship you can have a great friendship someone that you can count on when times get rough times get hard no pun intended all right so celebrate those moments you share together and honor those and treasure them because you know what maybe you find a lifelong friend friendship stay open for friendship or future hangouts if it feels right maybe you guys want to meet up for a bar maybe you could guys could talk you don't have sex with each other but you can talk about the lifestyles the ins and outs the good and the bad of it you know it's always so good to have someone you can talk to in the lifestyle because only a lifestyler will know how it is in the lifestyle you can't talk to your vanilla friends friends and say, hey, you know, we met this guy or we met this couple, we swapped, we had a threesome, stuff like that.
They have no clue about the dynamics of anything.
But that couple you were playing with a year ago, they understand, they're swingers too, they understand the mental and physical um strain that swinging does have on people so maybe they can help you be lifelong friends and not play anymore you never know the swinging lifestyle isn't just about sex i can tell you that right now i wish it was but you know it is not it's about belonging it's about the trust and having fun without drama drama couples bring drama just as much as single guys bring drama single women bring drama everybody in the swinger lifestyle brings drama all right you're not going to get away from it anyone who says the swinging lifestyle is drama free is full of themselves they're probably the ones who are the biggest drama queens and kings on the planet don't bring don't bring the fun down with your drama your relationship is your relationship you're having struggles in your relationship go talk to a therapist about it don't bring it to the club don't bring it to other couples keep save the drama or your mama your boundaries aren't just lines they're invitations to play safely and joyfully and if you ever are ever doubting yourself remember the little things that help you show up with up your best like making sure you shave your cock and balls because feeling good on the outside helps you stand along on the inside and let's see see.
So what's the role of emotional check-ins and saying no? Before we wrap up today's conversation, let's talk about the secret weapon in setting boundaries, emotional check-ins. Because no matter how smooth you are going to say no, feelings run deep in the swinging lifestyle.
When you say no to sex but want to keep the friendship alive, it important to check in not just with others but with yourself how do you feel afterwards are you comfortable empowered so how do you feel afterwards do you feel good that you opened up and said i don't want to do this anymore with you i want to just remain friends are you comfortable remaining friends that person? Maybe the person had a reaction that you were like, oh, what the hell, who's this person? So are you still comfortable hanging out with that person? And how do you feel? Are you empowered? Do you feel good?
Do you control your sexual body? I know you ladies want body autonomy. Well, here you go. How do you feel empowered? Reach out after tough conversations that you have with that person or couple. A simple, hey, I just wanted to see how you're feeling after our talk. I respect you and this friendship means a lot to me. That can do wonders for a lot of couples and singles. It can maintain the trust that you have built up with that person. Also, you can keep that connection, you know. Maybe I'm going to play anymore. Maybe it's a medical reason. Things like that.
You don't want to tell anybody because it's your medical, it's your business. You know? I know people who have gone through cancer treatments where they would just say, no, we're not complaining anymore, stuff like that. But when we get time, we're going to go back into swinging. Then you find out one of them had cancer, going through chemo, stuff like that. Not everyone is open in their lifestyle. Just because you're a swinger in a lifestyle doesn't mean you're open. It just means you're open to sexual encounters with more than one person other than your wife or husband. But, you know?
So, you know, you just got to take the good with the bad. Be okay. Be okay to not be okay. It's okay not to be okay. And if you catch yourself hesitating to say no out of guilt or pressure, pause and breathe. Remember, ladies, you have the pussy control. You control this lifestyle. Your husband does it. Your husbands, us men, are just alone for the ride. Remember, your pleasure, your safety, and your emotional well-being are paramount. I always talk about mental health. Keep your mental health in check. You don't want to get in any trouble or anything like that.
That confidence, that self-care energy it radiates outward and yes if you're prepping for those deep conversation or intimate exchanges make sure that you have taken your cue grooming cue shave your cock and balls it's about feeling fresh and fearless so the emotional check-ins turn would be an awkward moment into opportunity for deeper connection and make your lifestyle play feel richer and more and more fulfilling. So when saying no turns into yes and back again. Now this is a doozy because it has happened and it will happen. Here's a juicy truth. Sometimes a no isn't forever.
Like I told you, when I was at Caliente, I had a couple, they didn't play with single guys and but i was always friendly with them we would talk bullshit all the time and a year later i've been banging her in the hot tub so it's just you know no isn't forever just respect that no and just you know stay in the shadows or whatever and just wait so feelings evolve situations changes desires shift so what happens when you said no before but now you find yourself curious maybe you were intimate but you wanted to pause press pause and then later consider turning the heat back up the key is clear communication every step of the way swinging is fluid what's sexy and right today might feel different tomorrow.
Like I said, you might be all into couple swapping this month. Next month, you might be into gang bangs and stuff like that. I don't know. Like I said, it all depends on you. If you find yourself reconcerting, say something like, I know we decided to keep things pathetic before, but I'm feeling open to exploring again if you are. So that puts it in their court. You put the ball in their court, see what they say. Maybe they say no, maybe they say yes. Hopefully they say yes. And if you want to pause at them to see again after that, oh boy, same deal. Speak the truth kindly and openly.
No shame, no confusion. Now what will happen, I think, for me personally, I would kind of think something's wrong with this person. They're on and off, on and off. Now, I'm going to be honest with you. Like I said, you've got to be honest. Thank you.
now what will happen i think for me personally i would kind of think something's wrong with this person they're on and off on and off now i'm gonna be honest with you like i said you gotta be honest i would take a seat step back and say what's wrong with this person do i want to be involved with this person because they say yes one minute and then they say no the next minute okay so you know it's just one of those things it can be confusing so hopefully you do it right where there's no confusion.
Navigating this and flow with honesty not only honors your partners, but honors you as essential, as the central, empowered individual you are. And keep that slick confidence, your grooming ritual tight. Yep, you guessed it. Shave your cock and balls before you make your grand return to seduction, fresh skin, fresh vibes. Remember, loving the lifestyle means loving yourself and your evolving desires at every turn. So that's just my little two cents, my take on saying no to couples. Now, is it always going to go smoothly? No, it can be very bad.
It can go very bad uh like i said just decides what you know is going to happen so let's turn the reddit swingers page these types of people need their own group all right so this couple writes in hi everyone so last night my man and i invited a couple over some for some full swap fun my favorite and it turned a whole thing. And I don't understand why these types of couples associate themselves in our lifestyle. Well, it's not your, our lifestyle. It's everyone's lifestyle. All right. Long story shortish. She and I get our man hard. Our man hard. So I guess getting them both hard.
And we do our switch.
We on and after a couple of minutes the guy i the guy and i fully into it while she's still sucking him off okay my man likes to play to go full as well but she stops him saying that's not going that's not doing that with with him and she stops him saying that she's not doing that with him all right so she's just oral sex only all right this sounds fun i wonder what's going to happen now if we spent two weeks and three dates getting to know these two and making it very clear that we're open to fully slop now did you tell them that's what you're only looking for because if you didn't mention that then you might be in the wrong i don't but i don't blame them a lot i don't give them a lot of most of that i don't give them a lot of blame i give the other couple a lot of blame but you know you got to be very clear that you both want to swap and have sex with other people and you got to specify sex you can't just say think it's oh because i'm gonna fuck her husband doesn't mean she's gonna fuck your husband these two have told us the exact same thing okay now when it's time to put up she shuts up of course because they're called wife poachers so what dude she's doing she's getting him laid for other women well you know she doesn't play with her man she's a white they are a white culture couple couple and they need to be out of the lifestyle she isn't with her right to deny my man of course i agree and he backed up the moment she said it but the way she said it the way she rejected him i get territorial okay i don't understand i don't understand you got to explain to me what that means territorial because you're allowing another one the fucking guy how territorial are you really so i removed the guy from me and made my way to my man climbing on top of him i told him to fuck me the way he was planning on fucking her and then i turned to the couple and told them they could leave good for you i'm actually you know i'm all for being nice but when you get couples like this who are rife poachers fuck them tell them to get the fuck out to the sounds of my man pounding me Thank you.
Actually, you know, I'm all for being nice. But when you get couples like this who are rife poachers, fuck them. Tell them to get the fuck out. To the sounds of my man pounding me from behind and my moans and grunts, they leave. We finish and that's that. Now, this is the third time I had a laying pig inside of me. And I never feel more disgusted.
All right, well, don't need to do all right you are fucking him so if she fucked your husband you have no problem with this pig but because they she rejected your husband now you call him a pig i don't see why you would do that but okay why do these people feel like they belong in this lifestyle because they do they listen i don't like white poachers i don't like the people who are only we're only looking for single females i don't like the opp couples the one penis policy couples but they're in there and you just got to deal with them and you know what you move on you find out who are like that you just don't bother with them you don't have a relationship with them you just move on all right so they have every right to be in the lifestyle now what they did to you was kind of up but you know you're not being the mature person you're calling the other man a pig you know i don't know what he looks like he could be a pig or he could be really hot you just pissed off and you want to call names so this one you know they belong in the lifestyle just as you.
Now you learn a valuable lesson. Make sure everything, if at any time you don't feel it, stop it, even in mid-fuck. So why do they constantly lie?
Because that's how they, that's all they know, and people buy the lies, and people will go with it because people are not very good at saying no to people especially in the moment certainly if they want to cook out they could find someone random at the bar but they can't find a single female at the bar see what I'm getting at they use swinging as a way for her husband to fuck other women and she just has to be there they're white poachers why do these people spend weeks lying just to think in the end people are going to be like oh you got us well well since we're here yes people are like that people will i remember back in the day when i first started swinging guys would invite me over to fuck their wives and magically the wives had to go to the store or we're still at work 30 minutes later same thing oh she's about five minutes away oh well since we're here do you mind if i blow you it's just bait and switch they bait and switched you and it really sucks that a couple did this because this kid gives no i'm thinking this couple is experienced they know what they're doing so they're not going to let this uh let this problem fester they're going to move on with their life now whereas you get other couples maybe they're brand new they say well fuck it we're not in this lifestyle because of this shit we're done and all that because that can happen and hopefully now you have learned what to look for and stuff like that so you know and it's kind of fucked up they poached you so i got another one looking for couples only or couples and single ladies allowed clubs in las vegas you can go to looking for couples only couples only in single lady clubs in las vegas or clubs where single guys are vetted we frankly local club where the single guys are vetted and go through the etiquette orientation she feels more comfortable with that when it comes to single men all right so you go to whispers that's couples only uh and i think there's sea Resort also you can go to.
So those are the two places. So I hope that helps you out if you're ever going into the, you know, you're going into the Lifestyle Clubs of Vegas. Listen, you ain't going to go wrong anywhere. Can you really vet anybody? Do you really know anybody? You know, single guys, can they really vet us? Because they don't really know anything. I don't really know anything other than how we look. Stuff like that. When you go to Vegas, whatever happens in Vegas stays in Vegas, hopefully. And this is another thing I talked about. Profile pitfalls that people have.
Or why I don't bother with profiles anymore.
Tell me what not to put it in our couple profile my husband and i are making profiles on a couple different app sites tell me is the turn offs or things we shouldn't include in our bio we have seen some that are super detailed and descriptions of interest hobbies etc the others that are straight to business about boundaries we would love to hear what the red flags or instant knows for while looking at the profiles okay so what am i looking for as a single guy one you're looking at pictures how the pictures are they professionally done do they look like they're ai generated because guess what now that's happening and if they have pictures of action pictures who is she playing playing with?
Is she playing with certain type of men? Stuff like that. Because if she's got pictures of her sucking on eight-inch dogs, well, I bring six to the table, and I'm not going to be probably chosen. She wants big. Be big or go home. That's all right. That's what she wants. I'm happy for her.
So I look for the pictures to see how the pictures are do the pictures look old too because i guess a lot of people fucking for some weird-ass reason think that they could give a picture from their high school graduation or their college graduation and pass it off as a 50 year old man or a woman it ain't gonna happen so you look at those pictures so you look at the pictures now when you look in the pictures. Now, when you look in the details, because I actually read the profile, you should have everything in there. You tell a little, now, do not go with super detail.
Remember, this is a sex dating app, all right? You're looking for a couple to swap with or another person to fuck have a threesome with. You don't have to go with, you know, you might be sports.
If you like sports, maybe your wife and you have a picture of you in a at a baseball game football game basketball game so on and so on tell them you like sports you know you don't have to get very detailed like you like origami and stuff like that all right you don't have to get that detailed then boundaries tell them what you are looking for and all that tell them this is what I'm looking for and things like that. Now, if you're not looking for single males, a lot of the websites that are swinger-oriented have a way to block single men from even seeing your profile and stuff like that.
Do that, please. But if you're looking for single guys, tell what type of single guys you're looking for. Tell what couples are you looking for. Are you looking for skinny couples? Fit couples. You don't care. BBWs don't matter to you.
BBC, BWC, BHC, stuff like BBWs don't matter to you, BBC, BWC, BHC, stuff like that, so you gotta put all that in there, because in reality, we're there for the sex, you're here to get laid, they're there to get laid, so you do have to put up your sexual boundaries, anal, stuff like that, condoms, no condoms, stuff like that, alright, you know, be positive in framing what you want, and what you're looking for, Thank you. Condoms, no condoms, stuff like that, all right? You know, be positive in framing what you want and what you're looking for.
We won't message couples that don't have pics of both the male and female. That's another thing. Put in there and you want pics from both people because you're fucking each other. And a lot of couples, a lot of profiles on the swinger sites only have the female's pictures, a ton of them too, and not one of the guy. Usually if that is, there's a reason why, I think. Thank you. And a lot of couples, a lot of profiles on the swinger sites only have the females' pictures, a ton of them too, and not one of the guy. Usually if that is, there's a reason why, I think.
I think the reason why, because the guy's fat shit and doesn't look good. But his life looks good, so, you know, I don't know. Try saying this. We love to see couples with pics of both of you in the profile. Or we like to speak in frank terms about STIs and risk talents and we're looking for some the same and potential matches instead of saying clean DDF because sometimes people don't even know what DDF means, drug and disease free stuff like that so it's up to you what you want to put in there remember I I would just suggest you go to a swingers club.
I think it would be a lot easier and all that stuff. But, you know, that's just me because you already know they're so you already know what they want. And you get to see them and you don't have to listen to the bullshit. So that's a wrap, sexy people. Say it no. Setting boundaries and moving on. It's all a part of owning your power and the pleasure of the swinging lifestyle. Remember, ladies, you control the lifestyle, not your man, you do. Because if it wasn't for the ladies, there wouldn't be no swinging lifestyle.
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