Welcome to this week's episode of the Swinging Single podcast with your host AC Maxwell. In today's episode, we will be discussing a topic that many singles and couples in the swingers lifestyle may struggle with - the fear of rejection. Rejection is a natural part of life, but it can take on a whole new dimension in the swingers scene. Whether it's approaching a new couple or receiving a negative response to your advances, the fear of rejection can significantly impact your willingness to explore and enjoy this exciting lifestyle.Fear of Rejection: A Common StruggleFear of rejection is a common obstacle faced by individuals in the swingers community. It can stem from a variety of factors, including past experiences, societal expectations, or even self-doubt. However, it is important to remember that rejection is not a reflection of your worth or value as a person.Learning from RejectionWhile rejection can be disheartening, it can also provide valuable lessons for growth and development. By approaching rejection with an open mind and a willingness to learn, you can transform it into a stepping stone towards personal growth and self-discovery.Here are some tips to help you learn from rejection in the swingers lifestyle:1. Acceptance: The first step towards overcoming fear of rejection is accepting that rejection is a normal part of the human experience. Remember that everyone has the right to say yes or no based on their comfort level or preferences.2. Self-Reflection: Take the time to reflect on why a particular rejection may have affected you. Consider whether it was due to personal insecurities, unrealistic expectations, or a lack of self-awareness.3. Empathy: Put yourself in the shoes of others. Understand that rejection may not be personal, but rather a reaction to their own experiences and preferences. Practice empathy and be kind and understanding when faced with rejection.4. Moving On: Don't let one rejection define you. Move on from it and remember that there are many other couples and singles out there waiting to be met. Let go of the past and focus on the future.5. Seeking Support: If you're struggling to overcome fear of rejection, consider seeking support from trusted friends, fellow swingers, or professional counselors. Surround yourself with a positive support system that can help guide you through this journey.Embracing the Swingers LifestyleUltimately, the swingers lifestyle is all about embracing new experiences, exploring new boundaries, and fostering connections with like-minded individuals. By overcoming the fear of rejection, you allow yourself to fully immerse yourself and enjoy the vast array of opportunities that the swingers community has to offer.Tune in to this week's episode of the Swinging Single podcast with your host AC Maxwell, where we will explore the fear of rejection in the swingers lifestyle and learn valuable tips to help you overcome it. Remember, rejection is not the end, but rather a stepping stone towards personal growth and self-discovery.
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So with that, today we are going to talk about rejection. Have you ever been rejected at a swinger party or online when you answer 20,000 ads and no one responds to you well today we're going to talk about that couples and singles alike always always are getting rejected and how do you handle that will say a lot about you and are you fit for the lifestyle so sit back relax and enjoy the show take it away former President Donald Trump. The Swinging Single Podcast with host A.C. Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only.
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AI is a son of a bitch because there's going to be a lot of shit going on as AI gets more advanced and all that.
pretty soon they're going to be able to dub anyone's voice and so that should be good because then we're going to hear all your beetle fans and all the fans of dead artists and all that are going to come back to life now they're going to put out more music so that's good for the families who squandered their fortunes and all that but it's kind of fucked up you kind of think about it all right so today we're talking about rejection and as a single guy and as any other single guy or even a single woman would know they are we get rejected and rejection is not always fun right guys it's it's a shot to the ego like no one really wants us and all that we feel bad about ourselves for a while but we are but we have to take rejection in a mature polite way you know i know so people even couples that don't take rejection too well and they have problems with it but i think it's all how you take the rejections fine if you are going to be attractive and never and will secede all right so let's get into it all righty so how was everyone's weekend i hope it was all great me i got a great weekend talking more about sex and all that going out to a movie got to see that on generally warfare movie it's a decent movie not that great but you know a lot of shit in hollywood's not that great so let's get to it you are entering last week we talked about discussions you should have before you enter the swinging lifestyle and here we're entering the swinging lifestyle and attending a lifestyle party for the first time can indeed stir a mix of excitement and nervousness for many couples that also goes for single single men and women i know single women have to be probably very very uh nervous because you know let's face it ladies you have your ass kissed your whole life you know you got ladies night you get dinners paid for and all that no i don't know about this generation of men who are fucking not doing anything for the ladies and they're you know just being whatever they're being so you know you have you're gonna have those you're gonna be scared you're gonna think is anyone gonna want me is this what the hell is especially if you're new to this lifestyle uh veterans already know what it's all about but if you're brand new this is like your first time going to a club going to a house party you don't you probably think it's a fucking orgy like a lot of people do so this is also known i call this known as newbie jitters this feeling is common and entirely normal so if you're thinking oh man i'm i'm oddball because i don't know i have all these jitters and all that don't worry about it because we all have remember we're all new at once one time in our you know in our swinging careers all right so we're talking about newbies and newbie jitters how you feel when you go to that club everyone's no first of first time and everyone you know unfortunately you do got couples that can smell fresh meat so you might want to watch out for those couples so making a transition from the curiosity like i always say everybody the fantasy sometimes is better than the reality and you can destroy a relationship you doing that reality so the curiosity or fantasy into actual participation often involves you navigating uncharted waters.
You know, there's no manual for, you know, allowing another man or another woman into your sex life, you know, and all that. So where the anticipation of the unknown looms a little large. And I think a lot of people get really too excited.
The blood starts flowing to their genital region and they start making stupid decisions so we're all getting excited we're going to go to our very first party club event and the blood is going everywhere we're all thinking the how bad it's going to be or how good it's going to be so on one of the primary concerns for newcomers is how to gracefully handle situations where they might need to say no uh to others in the swinging community now like i said before no one likes rejection so rejection that saying no is going to be hard for some some people do it is and it's kind of messed up that some people cannot say no because their fear.
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We're all going to a swinger club or swinger party at a house for the same reasons right not that's not always necessarily true some couples go you know to just meet up wife can dress sexy not have to worry about guys grabbing on tour if she went to a regular club or anything like that they go home and fuck and they talk about all the couples that wanted to fuck them and all that it's just like a little fun thing for them to do they're not really swingers but they're you know having fun so you don't know like i said you got to talk to the people communication is very key in this situation couples worry about offending others i say don't worry about offending other people that's fine they cannot take rejection well then that's on them it's not on you so just say no thank you you know or say no thank you uh another time tell me around your period ladies that that always works and all that so creating awkwardness or being perceived negatively because of their choices there are people out there if you go to a porn theater you know like those glory holes and all that people in the lifestyle look down upon you some people do all right now for whatever reason they decide that well we don't want to play with those type of people and so on and so on well that's on them that's not you you listen you got to live your life when it comes down to it the judgment it's all on you it's not on them it's it's they don't live your life they don't pay your bills whatever may floats your boat you do it you don't fit and if they reject you for it so what they are obviously not the people for you you go find people that are for you and there's a lot of people out there in the swinging lifestyle in the swinging community we got instant we got a social media you can find people all over the country all over the world now you travel to europe go to those clubs europeans are very non-judgmental people i like they're one of the very few people that i have met in my life where you could do anything and they're like oh whatever it just rolls off their back or anything here you do certain things you do certain people like bisexual males if you're a bisexual male in this lifestyle you are kind of looked down upon as a couple and all that and you know or even a straight couple if a woman's straight and the guy is straight they actually have a hard time finding partners to swap with and all that because a lot of couples want the bisexual female in there so you know they always have to worry about rejection that's why i said rejection is for everybody it doesn't doesn't go for single men and single women and it goes for couples so however an essential aspect of the swinging lifestyle is understanding and respecting boundaries and consent all above all you gotta have consent like i told you last week about the drunken lady at the club at caliente her husband wanted me to fuck her when she's passed out like hell no i'm not gonna fuck this your wife because you know she can't consent to anything and then and that's i think that's rape you got to be very careful with that.
You got to have consent. All right. So saying no is not only acceptable, but expected whenever someone feels uncomfortable or simply not interested in engaging with others in that way. I have a play couple that I have fun with once in a while.
And they were talking about when they were going to the club TPC North and they talked about there's a guy there or there's a couple there that she has no interest in even hanging out with talking to but they always want to talk to them because he's very handsy with her and she doesn't like that so now she has a problem she's trying to say no in a nice way but she's really not direct to the point she just has to say no i'm not interested in you i don't want to want to have anything to do with you because the way you touch me and do all the stuff around me and i'm just not comfortable with you around so she needs to do that so it's crucial to communicate your boundaries and desires clearly and respectfully all right so when we talk about respect respect is a very is a two-way street you know i have found couples that say you gotta respect us but then they don't want to respect you back you know yada so how do i deal with this now when i first started swinging i was 21 years old now granted i was not rejected a lot when i went to the clubs because i was a young guy my fucking cock was hard 24 7 so i was the go-to guy you would get that um what is that what do they call it you would get that uh i don't know when when you i'll just say the go-to guy they knew if they were gonna to fucking play with me my shit was going to be hard and i was going to be able to deliver the goods so the so the rejection rate was very small now when i would go online and this was very new you go online there's there were chat rooms uh there was you answer ads i would answer ads and all that and i would just fucking if they had they were looking for like they would have a bar that says what they're looking for if they had single guy i would email them and let's say 100 emails i would get one or two emails back you know and the ones the ones i would get back they say they'll be interested and all that so we'll talk for a while then they would just be gone disappear all right but when i would go to the club it wasn't a rejection a lot of times it wasn't reject I don't know.
interested and all that so we'll talk for a while then they would just be gone disappear all right but when i would go to the club it wasn't a rejection a lot of times it wasn't rejected because i would like i said from the beginning i was very what is the i was very a people watcher so i would watch the people how they were interacting with other people and you would notice like i like gaydar where you could tell if a guy person's gay or not i had couple guard where i could tell a couple would play with single men and all that and all that so now that's even worse now i can't really tell anymore so it's kind of hard right now so as i got older the rejection came in it and at first it really does hurt and all that the rejection does hurt because you go what's wrong with me and all that as you mature and get older you got to realize it's not about you it's about them what they looking for you know you know you find couples as more interracial couples got into it you know they're only looking for a black guy so you can't take well i'm i can't be black so i can't take that personally and all like okay well they're looking for black all right you know that see that guy see that guy over there, that black guy over there, he's a very good guy, very gracious and all that.
So you might want to play with him. So, you know, I would give offer up recommendations to people and all that. So with that, you know, as I got older, you know, you kind of more mature a little bit. You kind of understand that you're not everyone's cup of tea.
And like I said, at first but then after a while now it's not nothing just it's like you know the water rolls down my back it don't really matter anymore because you know like i said everyone has their own thing i have my own thing um one is just one in the worst time i got rejected now listen to this fucking story there's an there's a resort in florida where you know it's a sweet it's a swingers nudist resort it's a motel six the guy gutted it out it's like a fucking it's they have stripper poles in the room they have sex swings in the pool they have uh the mares above the beds and all that and it's fucking it's made for fucking swingers it's a great place to go it's called Secrets Secrets Hideaway Kissimmee Florida if you're ever in the area go there for a day pass or go there for the night because you're gonna fucking have a great time so I have I put out an ad that says I'm gonna be at Secrets uh I'm gonna be there this weekend so I'm staying the weekend and this couple emails me and says, hey, we're going to be there, stop by, say hello, we want to play.
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We're all new people supposed to come in, but it's never people it's always fucking the same old same old so i'm trying to find this girl she don't have that many pictures she didn't send me a picture of her i saw her body and like a bottom part of her face so you can't really know who it was so i'm looking at you know are there any tattoos on the legs or anything like that tattoos on the body where the body where I would be able to see her. So I finally, the night comes, I'm there. I'm all dressed up to the nines. I got my three-piece suit on.
I shaved everything, shaved my cock and balls, everybody. And this girl is there in there and her and her husband show up. So we're all at the club.
It's outdoors and she says come and i know the email says come up and introduce yourself so i go up to this woman now i was thinking well maybe it's not this woman but i introduced myself and she just looked at me and just loudly started laughing like and she's like moving around in her chair laughing and laughing it's like are you are you so-and-so she's like shaking her laughing and laughing and i'm just i'm just sitting there standing up looking like a fucking jackass in front of everybody because this girl's laughing so loud everyone turned around and you know she's just laughing shaking her head now i don't know what the fuck it was i now maybe i was like in my head i'm like maybe that's not her but i'm 100 sure it was her so that rejection really was way blown out of proportion a portion and it was really hard to take that because everyone else saw it now when you go to a club sometimes you know you go to the club you're out there dancing at the club you no one sees here's your rejection because it's so loud and all that you can't hear anything so you go okay well that's no okay no problem maybe some other time but this woman was so damn loud everyone's watching everyone looking now i got pity i guess you call pity pity love from everybody else because they were like what what the hell happened i was like oh we were posting me and she saw him now for whatever reason she laughed now at the end of the at the end of the day i ended up finding out that it was the couple that i was talking to she went in well this is what karma this is why if you don't treat people well and treat people with respect this is what's going to happen guys she finds some dude that's really good looking and all that they go back to her room five minutes later they come in so i'm in the hot tub hubby gets in the hot tub she's still out there so so how was it she's like oh it was horrible he couldn't get it up i go well that's probably what you deserve for fucking laughing at me that's what i was saying in head, but I didn't say it out loud.
But the husband was actually fucking a lot nicer than his wife. So I was just like, what the hell happened? I just wanted to know. I should have asked him, say, hey, you know, what was that whole laughing thing about and all that?
But I didn't want to go there because as a single guy, you got to be very careful when you go to a club that you don't piss off some people because they will get you banned or kicked out for the night and all that and i'm staying there for the weekend and i just wanted to you know have a good time and all that so it was one of those things where you know i got rejected but i handled it a lot better than what a lot of other guys i've seen i've seen guys go fuck you you know you're you're ugly anyways and all that and i tell single guys listen you don't have a lot of single guys don't have a chance uh you know opportunity to be picky sometimes you gotta fuck the twos to get to the 10 finally you know and reach and when you do get rejected by that 10 you just gotta take it in stride and say okay thank you you know be nice to them because you know what they can all also you gotta remember if you are mean to that couple you talk a lot of bullshit you uh you can uh get a good referral or you're gonna get a bad referral from them or you could get a good referral if you're a nice polite young man so i don't know you do what you want to do boys but so i have a few tips with uh newbie jitters and the art of saying no at a swinging event now this is at any event could be a party or whatever one communicate beforehand discuss with your partner about your expectations boundaries and who you'll communicate during the party and how you'll communicate during the party having a clear plan can ease some anxiety all right if you are introverted this is gonna be tough so you know sometimes sitting back and relaxing and watching the crowd i like doing that you know i'm introverted i don't go up to every fucking couple say try to start a conversation with them some guys do i admire those guys because i don't know how they can do it i can't do it but you know those guys can so communicate beforehand two use clear and kind communication all right try not to cuss as much as i do try to uh you know tell people have fun with them and all that so if you need to decline an invitation or advance do so clearly but kindly a simple thank you but we're going to pass This is a production of the U.S.
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so if you need to decline an invitation or advance do so clearly but kindly a simple thank you but we're going to pass this time is usually well understood and respected you know like i said girls if you really don't want to do this just say you're on your period you're just here to have fun or you just want to meet people tell them that i guess because that usually works but remember be kind remember you one day you might be on the other end of that rejection because I guess what couples you will get rejected by other couples three remember you're not alone many attendees even seasoned swingers have experienced newbie jitters yes I have too I still do because especially when you go to a new club because you don't know how people are gonna to react to you.
Don't hesitate to share that it's your first time. You might find others who are very willing to help you navigate your first experience. Yes, there are some couples out there that can smell fucking fresh meat, just like a shark can smell blood in the water. Four, attend orientation. This is something that lacks in the Swing and Lights Out.
If a part of your club offers a newbie orientation take advantage of it these sessions can offer valuable insight into the etiquette and norms of the community this is something that has to come back to the clubs when i first started swinging in 98 every club had an orientation where you had to go through a whole process and listen to the talk of what you should expect what you're going to see here and all that bullshit they don't do it anymore they just sit there and just you show up to the club you pay your fee that show you around and say have a good night some of the clubs you know still do a little orientation but it's like five minutes long i had a club when i was in a hot when i was in michigan living in michigan then toledo and they would have actually a sunday before you could go to a party you had to go on a sunday to an orientation it was like three hours long so you know they swinging back then was a little more i don't know complicated but now it's just easy just show up to the club pay your fee and you're in and five you don't have to play remember there's no obligation to play during your first visit or at any visit for that matter some couples find it helpful to attend the first party with an agreement just to observe and we do have a lot of people that do just observe you know they're looking for something uh a couple i knew they did not play, uh, when they went to the club, but however, they were recruiting for people to play with at the house and all that.
So I got an email or text message from them and say, Hey, you know, we saw you at the club. Would you mind, you know, coming over to our house? We want to play at our house.
They're not comfortable playing at the club so you know you might have those couples where they might take you out take you back home take you to the hotel room or whatever and want to play with you then the swinging lifestyle is ultimately about mutual enjoyment respect and exploration within comfortable boundaries moving at your own pace and respecting your limits and those of others is the key to a positive experience now unfortunately we don't always have positive experience you're going to have negative experiences so you know you know Thank you.
your limits and those of others is the key to a positive experience now unfortunately we don't always have positive experience you're going to have negative experiences so you know you know don't judge this lifestyle by one uh incident so mastering the art of saying no is a crucial skill within the swinging lifestyle especially for newcomers venturing into swingers clubs for the first time Not every couple or individual you meet will be someone you're interested in engaging with sexually. And that's perfectly OK. All right.
It's crucial to recognize and exercise your right to decline offers without guilt or discomfort as mutual consent and interests are fundamental to positive experiences in the swinging community. All right, so remember it's okay and it's expected that you say no. If you're not interested, just say no. Do it respectfully. Don't be an asshole. Don't laugh in their face like I got laughed in my face and you should be all right.
Moreover, it's important to remember that the swinging community is known for its welcoming and sociable nature like i said extroverts succeed in this lifestyle more than introverts unfortunately unless you're really a fucking hot piece of ass 10 both you and your husband and you're introverted it's going to be hard for you you're going to have to talk to people all right newcomers might be surprised to learn that not every interaction or friendly conversation at an event is a precursor to sexual activity boy would we all love it you know if someone says hello bada boom bada bing you're sticking your dick in her but you know that's not how it's going to be swingers often enjoy meeting new people and engaging in friendly non-sexual conversation and that is so true especially here in houston if you're in houston you are and you love conversation this is a place to be because people here love to talk and like i said you go to the club you don't have any sexual activity so usually after 12 now you go to a hotel takeover house party those are different because it's a smaller and sometimes i like those smaller uh parties better in our early days of exploring the lifestyle, we quickly discovered this aspect and had to recalibrate our expectations.
The realization that a simple hello isn't always an invitation to play, but rather a gesture of friendliness was both amusing and enlightening. So that's one thing I have to realize.
That's how I gauge if a couple would be interested in a single male i say hello how are you doing if they don't respond back to me they're probably not interested in me at all i might be they might be interested in another single guy but they might not be interested in me uh and all that if they say hello and they say hello back they say they're doing fine and you know you try to do you got to have a little like a little light banter with them and all that and you can read them and all that so i try to get a little conversation going as much as i can if she's looking at me you know i had a couple couple weeks ago i'm at colette's of houston and you know i'm sitting at the and if you've been there they got the couches so i'm sitting at the couches and she keeps looking over at me i'm the only guy around i'm the only person around so i know she's looking at me and she's not looking at someone behind me you know something like that so i she was looking at me so when she got up and walked around i just you know accidentally ran into him and i started a conversation with him and it was and from there it was on so we had got to play in the back and all that and it's because you know i read the signals that she was giving off that she was interested in me so understanding this can significantly ease the pressure felt by those new to the scene and to the who are veterans all right remember this because i'm talking about newbies i'm also talking about veterans veterans can use this too it's a reminder that these environments are not solely about sexual encounters but also about forming friendships and social connections with like-minded individuals all right uh so when someone approaches you with a friendly greeting take it at face value and enjoy the opportunity to make new acquaintances now this is hard for america whenever even if you're at a regular club i have people who are very rude and disrespectful because they think like you say hello you go out to a woman you say hello to her she's always like well this guy's trying to fuck me here no i'm just saying hello to be nice and be a gentleman i'm not trying to fuck everything all right there's a time and place for everything if i'm at work it's just being hello if i'm at the bar it's just hello you know it's just a hello don't take everything thinking it's sexual and i think in america that's how it's a lot of times it's raised and all that when i go to other foreign countries i say hello women are very friendly and they're they'll have a conversation with you they don't always think well you're trying to fuck just like when you go to a night club and you ask a woman to dance they think it's fucking you asking them to fuck well you go to a foreign country you ask them to dance and you you know you could ask any woman to dance and they just think it's for dancing they don't sit there and think there's alternative motives in your you know thinking well i don't know it's just the way our countries are so keep in mind that swinging lifestyle embraces communication respect and consent can help you navigate your experience experiences with confidence and ease ensuring enjoyable and fulfilling encounters for everyone involved that's you and me included all right that familiar internal battle feeling pressure to say yes when every instinct is screaming no is a scenario that plays out all too often whether at a mundane social gathering or within the more intimate confines of a swinger lifestyle event listen gentlemen your wife let reinforce that it's okay to say no because if she cannot say no guess what's going to happen she's going to have a miserable time and she's going to say, fuck this lifestyle.
I don't want nothing to do with it. We're not going anymore. Then now you're holding your hand, you're dicking your hand because you fucked it up. Like I said, gentlemen, you have to be smart with your wife. You have to be very patient, especially if it's your ideal. Now, if it's her ideal, well, it might be, you know, you might be good to go. But if it's your ideal to do this and she's going along with it, make her feel wanted, make her feel special. Always talk to her. Make sure even if you swap, make sure you make eye contact with her when you're fucking the other woman.
Make sure she's happy with whatever she's getting because make sure the guy ain't going to get a limp dick either. So, you know, don't be doing it out in public. Do it in the bedroom and all that so she understands. So she can get that dick and she can get addicted to the lifestyle and stuff like that. The fear of appearing rude or causing disappointment is a powerful motivator. One that can sometimes lead us down paths we'd rather not tread. Your wife loves you. She wants to make you happy. She's doing this to make you happy. All you can do, guys, is make sure she's having a great time.
Because I always say, if the wife is having a great time, you're going to have a great time. Women, ladies, listen up. You control this lifestyle 100%. Your husband thinks he does. does he does not you can go anywhere and get laid ladies think about it where can your husband go husband women cheat more than men because women have more opportunities to cheat even the disgusting women can cheat more than men there's very few men that have more access to pussy than women women have access to to cock and pussy now.
So now you're fucking, if your wife is bisexual, now you got to worry about fucking women and men. So gentlemen, make sure your wife is happy. Kiss her fucking ass. Do something, all right? Shave your cock and balls, dude. Damn, all right? She runs the lifestyle. You're just there for the, what would you call it? You're just there for the, yeah, you're just cock support. This episode sponsored by The Bomb Box. When someone you love is going through cancer, you want to do more than send flowers. You want to truly help. That's why there's The Bomb Box.
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So many in the swinging community can attest, including myself, succumbing to the pressure does a disservice to everyone involved. It's a lesson we've learned through experience, sometimes the hard way. We'll learn it. You'll learn it. Newbies do not get discouraged. All right. You have to be able to say no. Do not say yes, because your husband is making you say it or gentlemen, your wife might make you say it, too. All right.
There has been times when husbands had to take one for the team i talked about taking one for the team everybody takes one for the team if you want to take one for the team do it that's fine i'll take one for the team and all that finding oneself is an unwanted sexual encounter simply because you couldn't bear the thought of hurting someone's feeling is the epitome of discomfort and regret. Each situation is underscored the importance of honesty and communication, a cornerstone of healthy sexual exploration and relationship. Honesty. That is one thing that lacks in this lifestyle is honesty.
I see so many couples that take one for the team when they don't want to take one for the team or they just don't know how to say no to the couple or the single guy or the single girl yeah single girls single women get rejected you know it's hard to believe that a single woman gets rejected but they do so in the swinging lifestyle clear honest communication is particularly crucial is avoiding unwanted situations. It's about respect, consent, and making sure everyone is on the same page.
Far from the beginning, far from being offensive, a polite but no thank you is an expected and accepted part of the interaction. Usually, now, there are other people that do not take no for an answer. There are. There are some of these dudes, even couples.
dudes that don't matter how time anytime you tell them no they'll still want to pat you on your ass you know play around and do stuff stupid shit like that because they think they're the shit those are the guys you have to stay away from couples are the same way there are some couples where women will just walk up and grab your titties i had an incident at caliente this beautiful woman uh miss a young girl fucking fake titties nice and perky nice ass husband fucking great guy he loved watching her go fuck other people men women she he didn't care as long as she had fun he didn't give a fuck so a girl comes up and grabs her titties she just got her boobs done and the fucking right hook that girl gave miss a gave to that chick was fucking awesome i mean i never seen you know she must have cupped her hand when she slapped her because it was a loud it was like when someone smacks you with a big paddle and she just came around with the right hook and smacked the shit out of that woman that grabbed her boob now this woman didn't ask to grab the titty she just grabbed them and she just had a boob i think it was like two weeks she still had the fucking uh she still had the fucking incisions in there man and this fucking broad grabbed her titties and i'm just sitting there laughing my ass off and People are looking at me like i'm the asshole i'm like no i'm not the asshole i'm just laughing because that shit's funny you know just because you are a girl don't grab another girl ask gentlemen you're a couple just because you got a female with you do not grab another woman ask you know it's not that hard all right in these environments everyone understands that personal preferences and comfort levels vary like i said you have to get over it like guy couples are more and more couples want the big cock guy all right that sits me out i'm out of that i'm not gonna lie and say yeah i got an eight inch cock then i show up with my fucking six incher it's fucking it's just stupid like and and you know what people do lie even couples lie they show you pictures from when they were in their 20s and they're fucking 50 years old and you know that's i don't understand it i don't know why couples do it or even people do it guys do it why are you showing pictures 20 years ago when you know you look different now so stop doing that shit you're not fooling anybody what do you and if anyone shows up like that tell them no mr podcast producer had a experience like that it was some fucking bullshit some some girl said he looked older on facetime was it was a facetime it was facetime and facetime and she got all mad about it then she meets him in person oh you are the same age as you your pictures are you know it's like so she was kind of a you know little bitch about it because you don't fuck around with people's feelings like that if she didn't like it she should have said no thank you why did you want to meet up with you you know it's kind of stupid but you know that's you know that's people though that's human beings and in this day and age with social media people getting dumber and dumber.
So when you're thinking about it and you're going to get rejected, think about this, ladies and gentlemen, couples. And this is single women, single men. Rejection will make you better. Because maybe you can find out why are they rejecting you. Now, if it's a physical thing, like your cock is too small, okay, you can't do nothing about that.
But maybe you're just an overweight overweight dude i always tell guys you need to get in the gym workout you don't need to lift weights do cardio walk every day for 30 plus minutes on a treadmill at a 12 degree angle you will lose weight stop drinking soda drink water drink uh i drink the what the the minute made sugar free lemonade and all that minute made i lose a ton of weight on that shit because i'm not drinking soda i'm not drinking the sugar effect go on uh ozentic or some shit lose some weight guys remember every 20 pounds adds an inch to your cock so that's what that's what they say i think this is all bullshit anyways but that's what say, so fuck it.
I'll go with it. Secondly, maybe it's, you know, you're not clean shaven. Maybe you got to, you know, some women do not like beards. Some women love beards. So you just got to think, I have a beard. I'm not shaving my beard for someone because they don't like beards.
If they don't like my beard and they don't want to play with me because of it okay no problem uh you know what your dress people at colette's colette's had a party friday night they had a woodpecker party and the couple that i know complain that the guys didn't get dressed up i don't well maybe you need to get dressed up ladies maybe you need to get dressed up maybe not to wear something a little sexier um you know high heels always works it makes your ass look good so couples you got to maximize your worth there are some things you cannot change about yourself your personality you could change you don't have to be an asshole you know you don't have to be introverted you could actually come up and talk to people remember we're all there for the same reasons couples hopefully to get laid but you know you know you never know maybe some of them are you never know i don't know but maximize what you can do with yourself gentlemen you too like i said dressing is more important remember when you walk into a club the first thing what's the first thing the couple see your clothes how you look they can't see how big your dick is they can't see you know the muscles that are underneath those shirt now some guys are fucking still worried out yeah you can see that but you know what a lot of the times you know you can't see it ladies too when we when you walk into a club, you guys are showing a lot less than men.
So we get to see a lot. So you're advertising your whole what you do, how you wear your clothes, how you do your hair, makeup and all that. That's advertising. All right. So there are things you can do to maximize your potential for play partners. All right. And. that will take out the rejection for you when you are playing damn 40 minutes so so remember it's entirely okay and necessary to trust your intuition and say no when you're not feeling it this approach not only assures your well your own well-being but also upholds the fundamental values of the swinger lifestyle.
By being kind in your refusals, you maintain the positive, consensual atmosphere that allows everyone to explore the desire safely and respectfully. After all, the lifestyle is about mutual enjoyment and fulfillment. Through honest communication, we can all navigate the Madrid myriad of opportunities it offers with integrity and joy. Now, key word is honest communication. I don't think a lot of couples are honest with themselves or honest with their partners because you see some couples where they get in arguments about what they're looking for or what they want to do.
Women, I think, are a little more timid and they don't tell their partners what they really want which i just i always don't understand because of the fact that you control the lifestyle 100 like i said if any guy says otherwise they're lying to you because guess what you control the pussy and that's what you know the lifestyle is all about the women all right it'sed to women. So within the vibrant and diverse ecosystem of swinger clubs and lifestyle parties, the act of asking someone to engage in sexual or intimate encounters is both an art and cornerstone of the lifestyle.
Now, sometimes, you know, you get those couples where it's a fucking three for all. They're going to do anything. They're going to go to the club. They're not going to wait. They're going to go in the club they're not going to wait they're going to go in the back start fucking and you know they like to be watched and they'll pull guys in pull couples in no matter what those are those are around but you know in the houston area it's not the common it's not very common it's the uncommon part they're the out.
It's a practice underscored by boldness and clarity, but also by respect and consideration for the rich tapestry of personal preferences and boundaries that each participant brings to the scene.
Asking for play, whether through a straightforward, do you want to play or seductive, want to something sexy or an invitation follow us to our hotel room is integral to the social dynamics of swinging gatherings so we're gonna have to talk about how do you get i think i'm gonna have to do one about all right you're vibing you got a connection with a couple now next step put the penis inside the pussy and so on and so on how do you get to that stuff that's why i'm gonna have to do one next because you know what i think that's a lot of couples a lot of singles have a problem with when do they ask and i usually say fuck it after 10 minutes if you're talking to a couple for 10 minutes because i usually ask what are you looking for and if they tell you know hopefully they say something they go you know they said we're looking for anything i go okay well you know i'm down to play with you i think your wife is very beautiful yada and hopefully we're not back fucking so these inquiries straightforward as they may seem open the door to experiences founded on mutual consent desire and exploration people laugh at that i say that that let's go fuck but the problem is that's how you're going to get fucked you go to just think about it and when you weren't swinging you go out you met your wife what did you guys do you just your dick just fell into her no you had to ask her the fuck right it's the same damn thing swinging is the same thing as natural it's like dating your dick doesn't naturally fall into the woman you have to get there how did you get there did you ask i hope you ask because if you didn't you have fucking rape right so you know you have to think about it if you're at a club and you're vibing with a couple just say hey you want to go play just say you want to play you want to play with us and they say no okay that's your rejection and you keep talking or you move on i had i know couples where once they hear that no they fucking take off and they go to someone else and i like those couples because those i know what they're there for they're there to get laid they're not there for any other bullshit reason they're not leading anybody on all right so where am i at all right they embody the explicit communication that is vital in settings where activities range across a broad spectrum of sexual and sensual interactions.
All right. Like I said, you got to be straight to the point. If you cannot be straight to the point in this lifestyle, you're going to not be successful and all that. All right. 15 more minutes.
All right right so when navigating the waters of swinger clubs and parties especially for those new to the scene or veterans alike kindness patient and respect are key virtues each individual's journey into the lifestyle is unique and for many the exploration of their desires and boundaries is a gradual process it's not like ac ac started because i was a was a horny 21-year-old dude, and I wanted to get laid. That's how I started in the lifestyle. I tell you that all the time. Not everyone, not a couple. Couples are just, I have a couple friends where their kids left. They were empty nesters.
What the fuck did we do? And they started fucking swinging. So, you know, everyone's story is different.
Recognizing and honoring this diversity of experience helps cultivate an environment where everyone regardless of their level of experience feels respected safe and included all right now does everyone feel included no not everyone will feel included like said there's always outliers most the majority of the swinging lifestyle are great people but then you have those assholes that ruin it for everybody or make give it a bad name you know those couples there were two gentlemen who have hiv one was in dallas the other one is cincinnati and this was just this year guys in 2024 look it up one was in just look up hiv swingers uh cincinnati and in dallas and these two fucking dudes they knew they had hiv and they're still fucking swing at swingers events and shit like that so those assholes give everything a bad name and those guys give single men an even worse name because you know you never know so always wrap it up all right so both seasoned swingers and curious newcomers the prospect of asking for play combines excitement and vulnerability it's an invitation to connect explore and share in an experience that is much about the thrill of the ask as it is about the possibilities it unfolds embodying the courage to ask paired with the grace to accept no as comfortable as a yes is what makes the swinger lifestyle journey of continuous discovery and connection i have to agree i don't the chase Thank you.
To accept no as comfortable as a yes is what makes the Swinger Lifestyle journey of continuous discovery and connection. I have to agree. I know. The chase, the chase is easy now. Gentlemen, you're on Tinder. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. It's easy, pussy. It's not hard. Like when I was growing up, gentlemen, you're my age, 47 or older. We had to actually talk to women.
had to ask them out there was no swipe left or swipe right and boom you're in it was that we had to learn how to be funny because women love funny dudes all right and we had to learn how to make women happy and the chase was the thrill but that would be a good topic to have on the conversation about you know how online dating has changed both swinging and your personal dating life your vanilla life like i always said like i tell mr podcast producer i talked about dating single women in the lifestyle versus dating swing uh vanilla girls which are normal girls i would try to date a vanilla girl you know that because it's like a vanilla girl is like a blank canvas so i can mold her and paint her into what i want whereas a swinging girl she always has these issues and she's all over the place and shit like that and i got some stories of crazy ass single swinging girls and all that you know, but that's something we have to think about, you know, and when we do it.
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good you know i don't know about women new dick could be good too just as but the chase of trying to seduce that woman and make her feel like she's the only woman on the planet is what really gets ac going which is me lifestyle parties with their ethos of openness honesty and self-expression champion this approach uh encouraging participants to embrace their desires communicate openly and respect the individual journeys their fellow partygoers fosters a community where connections are meaningful experience are enriched and everyone is welcome this is where the club whatever club you go to is important because there are clubs out there that absolutely do fucking shit work in this area.
You as a club owner or a part because there are clubs out there that actually do fucking shit work in this area. You, as a club owner or a party host and hostess, your responsibility is to get people to mingle, and there are games out there that you can do, all right? As I noticed that clubs do not, you know, if you're a first time there, you go to a first time, you go to Colette's, you go to TPC, they'll show you around and that's it. There's nothing else that they'll say, have a good night. If you need anything, just let me know. All right.
They don't offer anything like in games or where you would have to talk to people. Now, there was a club. I talk about it. There's a club in Dallas. When you got there, they gave you a playing card and it's called 21.
so what you would have to talk to people now there was a club I talked about it there's a club in Dallas they have a date when you got there they gave you a playing card and it's called 21 so what you would have to do go around to other people and find someone with the card that equals to 21 and you'll get a you'll get a you know a ticket and they have a drawing and you win prizes that I got laid a lot there because I was forced to talk to other people and meet other people and the club was small i can't remember the club i have to figure it out i have to go back in my archives but that was a great club and i had other clubs that i would go to in the past they would have mixers where you had to talk to people and stuff like that colette's friday they had a great thing this thing, I think it was called a woodpecker party, but it has nothing to do with a woodpecker.
What they did, they gave you a sign. It says, it had a check mark and a thumbs up or a thumbs down. So if you're interested in someone, you show it and a thumbs up, a thumbs down. If you weren't, you thumbs down, right? That's a great, I thought that was a great idea.
I thought I gave, I have give colette some uh props there because they did something that would get people involved now the people there have to use it and which the couple that i know that went to they went said no one used them so it's kind of but they were doing what they should have been doing is trying to foster an environment of communication which a lot of clubs i think a lot of clubs are getting away from i think a lot of clubs are just going the route of this is purely money for them it's no longer about the lifestyles about making money so i don't know but i would say if i said if i opened a club i'll have games like that everyone had to there would be something there where people had to mix and talk with each other so absolutely the universal reality of rejection is an important truth to acknowledge regardless of whether you're a newcomer or a seasoned participant in the swinging lifestyle at the end of the day we all encounter rejection in various forms and settings and it can serve as a viable learning experience's essential to remember that it's not a reflection of you, of your self-worth or attractiveness, but rather a normal aspect of human interaction and personal preference.
All right. So as a single guy being rejected a thousand times in a night when I go to a club, I think that actually helps me out in my personal life. I think I can handle people saying no, Like when I go out to a bar, I say, Hey, you want to go have dinner or go get coffee? No. Okay. Whatever. See you later. I move on. I don't get all pissy about it. I don't sit there and say, well, it's your loss. When it's really, it is your loss because I think I'm a great person. I think I'm good. Someone that is knowledgeable in life and I can help you out.
But so dealing with rejection in a swing club or any alternative lifestyle setting does indeed come with its unique complexities you're not considering you're not considered considering the attraction and compatibility between two people but between at least four so think about it you got four people you got to remember not all of them want to think you're hot this multiplies the variables and the potential for no but it also amplifies the joy and excitement with everything when everything does click when you meet that when you're a couple and you meet that couple that you vibe with and you have a great time with it makes the fucking lot better the chances of all parties feeling a mutual attraction and being in the right frame of mind for play are more challenging to align with than a traditional one-on-one dating scenarios, and that's okay.
I know couples where they don't like playing with other couples. They just want to play with singles because they say it's a lot easier to find one person they have a connection with than they do with two. Now, do they always play with singles? No, they'll find a couple once in a while, but they said they prefer singles because of that reason.
It that it is this challenge that makes success that yes all sweeter like i said the chase is the sweetness when you do find that perfect match among the crowd it feels like the stars have aligned until then maintaining a light-hearted approach and a sense of humor about the situation can be your best assets. Laughter and positivity are infectious and they can significantly lighten the mood and help keep things in perspective. Remember, swinging is as much about social interaction and building the community as it is about sexual encounters.
Being respectful when someone declines your invitation not only shows your maturity and understanding, but also leaves a door open for friendship or future possibilities. Like I said, if you're an asshole when you get rejected, they might not recommend you to someone else. Like I said, I probably ruined a lot of my possibility fuck partners because I'm more of an honest type of person.
I'm not going to sit there and bullshit anyone just so I can get you into your wife's panties i'm going to tell you the truth you know that's just how it is now like i said would i feel would i be off better off by lying and just saying what you want to hear or do you want to hear what you need to hear there's a difference and you know i have been blessed in my life where i had people in my life that tell me what i need to hear and not what i want to hear uh so so let's celebrate the complexity enjoy the process and cherish the journey with every encounter whether it leads to play time or not which i hope it does for you because you know sex is fucking great there's a chance to learn something new meet new friends and enrich your experience in the lifestyle you know you might meet someone that owns a business and needs someone to go to work for them you might find a job i found my first job out of college by fucking his wife and you know i got the job so whatever hey whatever happens uh things like that so you might find people you might find people that you can do your sighting on your house or your AC work and shit like that.
You can, it does happen and people do have businesses that are in the lifestyle. So keep your head high, your humor ready and your spirit open to a Madrid of opportunities waiting you in the swinging world. Head high. Do not feel negative. Someone says no, just remember, you might not be their cup of tea.
There are guys and there are couples out there where you have to be young you have to be fucking have a six-pack ab you got to have fucking nice fake titties and all that to play with them okay or you got to have an only fans page let's not forget that i'm sorry i forgot that don't take that personal that's them that's their preference whatever just make it fun and just say okay no problem you know if you ever feel like you want to play with us you know we're here all right so you got to keep your head high no matter what you're going to get rejected people I get rejected all the time my head's still high the swodies connections, exploration, and enjoyment where the ability to say no is crucial for finding that.
So, you know, you've got to be able to go with it. Navigating the dance of consent with grace and confidence is an art form.
Just as a glittering disco ball reflects light across the dance floor, every no you encounter or express opens up a new spectrum of opportunities it's a remember that this lifestyle is all about finding that truly resonates with you and your partners ensuring that every experience is as enjoyable and fulfilling as possible like i said gentlemen shave your cock and balls and two make sure you learn how to eat pussy because if you can eat pussy those girls are going to love you and the woman comes first do not blow your load before she does make sure she blows before you she gets her nut first feeling awkward or anxious about turning someone down is entirely natural but remember within the swinger community saying no is respected and accepted you're not going to get in there's not going to be a big brawl or fight or anything if you say no it's not like in a regular bar where guys get drunk and they fucking well fuck you bitch and stuff like that it's not it's not the way it's going to happen now people do get drunk but more most more more than not swinging people are usually happy drunks all right each rejection is simply a step towards finding those with whom you really click Those moments that truly make your heart sing and your body dance.
A.K.A. your genitals. It gets that blood to those genitals. However, the swinger lifestyle is so much more than the search for sexual encounters. It's a bustling dance floor of friendship, laughter, and unforgettable memories. Gentlemen, if you really want to not get rejected, learn how to dance. Women love a guy that can dance and dress well. So learn how to dress. Find that gay friend or something that knows fashion. I don't know. rejected, learn how to dance. Women love a guy that can dance and dress well. So learn how to dress. Find that gay friend or something that knows fashion.
Have them dress you. Learn how to do a line dance. Do one of those, what is it, to cha-cha, whatever it is, and learn how to dance. It's not that hard, gentlemen. It's not that hard. Lace up your dancing shoes. Embrace the rhythm of the lifestyle. Remember that whether you're gliding effortlessly into the waltz or navigating a tricky step or two, you're part of a community that values you. All right. Maybe. You know, depends. It depends if they value you. If you bring something of value to the table, they will value you. But if you don't bring anything to the table, guess what?
They don't value you. It's just like in life.
All right right and if you ever find the music too fast or the steps too complex there's a whole community ready to support you share in your experiences and keep the party going strong you can always come to the single mail the swinging single podcast and talk about your experience you call email me at the swinging single podcast at gmail.com let's not let the fear of rejection or the act of saying no dampen your spirits please if you're scared to tell someone no and you don't want to do the lifestyle because of it please talk to me i'll guide you hold your little hand through the whole process and we'll tell every motherfucker at the club no and you'll see how no doesn't mean anything it's not going to hurt anyone's feelings and all right.
Let's celebrate each moment for what it is. A step on a thrilling journey of discovery, connection, and joy. Dance on, partygoers. Never hesitate to reach out with your stories or seek support. Here in the lifestyle groove, every beat, every no, and every yes keeps the party alive and kicking. So this is a message to the single men. We're going to get rejected.
Unless you're fucking, uh i don't know who's a supermodel you know you're fucking brad pitt or something like that you're gonna get rejected you know and i see some guys who never got rejected and they would go fucking ape shit they don't take it well remember getting told no at a club or a party is a lot better than holding your dick in your hand on the couch at home watching some fucking porno whereas you can go to a club and watch live porn all right there's nothing better you know now i know there are couples out there that are gonna fucking go oh that creepy single guy was jacking off when we're fucking don't fuck in the middle dicks don't fuck out in the open i don't understand that honestly i just don't understand why people as couples get upset when people are fucking want listen if someone if i'm fucking my girl and someone's jacking off i must be doing something right so i'm happy about it i'm not going to be upset i have one girl at colette's she went off on this dude because in the playroom they're in the port there's a theater room right and it plays porno and that's where you fucking all that the girl's sucking on her man's dick and he's looking at her and he's not jacking off or anything he's just watching and she fucking yelled why don't you watch the porno you keep staring at me like and I just wanted to turn around and go, bitch, listen.
You're fucking in the public sucking his dick. If he's watching a porno on TV, you obviously don't know how to suck dick or you ain't doing it good. So you better be fucking happy that some dude's watching you. Now what it was, the dude that was watching her, she didn't like. He was an older dude.
a young got young cat was there like you she would have been happy she would have been fine she would never said nothing but that's what it's like so i say that man was rejected you know what that fucking man did he left after that i felt bad for the dude i go he he did nothing wrong she was in a public room where you can jack off you can fuck you can do whatever in that room and that woman yelled at him because she didn't like the fact that he was watching her and he did the wrong thing he left he should have stayed and he could have you know what he could have done he could have said hey ma'am after they were done said come up to him say hey i'm sorry that i was watching but i thought you were doing a great job sucking his dick and i was admiring your suck dick sucking skills all right but he did it he left he left the club so he paid 150 bucks for a couple hours and left i wouldn't have done that i was like okay i'm gonna watch anyways so so the rejection is not the worst thing guys in the world you're gonna we're gonna get rejected ladies i know in the swinging lifestyle it's hard to believe that women will get rejected but they do all right it's not the worst thing in the world like i said it's always better to be at the club or at the lifestyle party and having a good time dancing and giggling and sharing stories having conversations making those connections then sitting on the couch because of the fear of no all right so remember that people the fear of no is okay you're going to be okay so with that it's been over an hour we're going to get out of here we're going to take off and upload this this should be on soon be online soon so hopefully you're watching you're listening to me on full FullSwapRad swap radio.com email me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com if you got any issues or anything or if you'd like to come on and talk about your experiences i'm always open to hear your experience especially couples and all that couples and a couples that don't like to play single guys i'd love to hear from you and what about those straight couples that you know we all they all want bi couples so do you guys have any struggles email me come on the show we'll block out your face you will change your voice whatever we need to do but for that remember gentlemen to shave your cock and balls ladies make your husbands shave their cock and balls and you have a great time.
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