Online Connections: Navigating the Swinger Lifestyle

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Welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell, broadcasting from the legendary Upside Down Pineapple Studios in the heart of Texas. For over two decades, I have embraced the swinging lifestyle as a single male. And on this show, I'm here to share my wildest tales, fantasies, and experiences with you.

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Any information provided is given with the understanding that it does not constitute a contract, engagement, or formal advice. The content of the podcast is protected by copyright and other intellectual property laws by continuing to listen to the podcast you agreed to be bound by the to contact people online other swingers online. And that can be very difficult as we can see because a lot of people always have questions. How do you contact people? How do you approach people in a lifestyle that are also in the lifestyle?

And here as informative, it's all my stories and all that is ac maxwell here is going to show you you know how to get uh you know to meet people online and talk to them and all that good stuff all that great stuff so sit back relax and enjoy the show today and remember shave your cock and balls gentlemen to go to swinging single podcast at gmail.com to talk about all kinds of stuff also go to swinging single podcast.com and check me out see what i got going on there all my new latest episodes and all that great stuff that you might want so go do that check it out and see what it is so how do we contact swingers online and that's a million dollar question for a lot of swingers out there so you know you gotta always think about stuff how are you going to contact so have you have a have you experienced difficulty contacting uh you know other swingers uh on swinger forums or lifestyle membership sites only to receive minimum responses or immediate blocks.

Now, what I always hear is I see is that for a single guy like myself, it's always tough to find people who want another single guy, especially online. And when you do, there's like a 10,000 other penises trying to poke these couples that are on there. So they get create a lot of people and all that and you do get black i don't know how many times i have emailed people and i'm sitting there talking and i'll just i send out a nice email to them nothing like hey let's fuck or anything like that i just hey this is me yada this is what i like to do this is what i want.

This is what I feel like why we make a good fit. Then you go in there. You see that they looked at your profile. They looked at your email, and you go, and they blocked you for some odd freaking reason. They sent there and said they just blocked you because for whatever reason. Now, I don't know why they blocked you or do anything like that, but you know what? Hey, it is what it is.

So, you know, you got to go through the kiss a lot of frogs to get to those uh people so do you do you find uh yourself met with silence when messaging other swingers of course single guys you know this you all know this that you will be very quiet it will be very quiet for you especially if you don't have the 12 inch pecker or anything like that if you got a, you're probably going to be bombarded with emails from couples and other people, singles out there that want to play with that 12-inch pickle.

So if this scenario resonates with you, it's important to pay close attention to the strategies we are about to discuss. Now, all these strategies, some of them work for some people, some of them don't work for a lot of other people. It just depends on how much time and effort you're willing to put in.

Now, if you are far away from a, you know, you're far away from a real swingers club in your hometown or anything like that, you don't want to swing in your hometown or anything like that, this is where you really have to pay attention because this is where you're going to meet people that actually have this. So by approaching online interactions with new swingers correctly, you can significantly increase your chances of meeting like-minded individuals. Your approach has to be good. The online ad, we talked about, go back to my other podcast where we talked about ads and stuff like that.

How do you post? What should you post? the pitchers the pitchers are 99.9 of the getting that door open to a couple or another single if you don't have those great pictures men women you're not going to get a lot of uh feedback or anything like that what you're going to get really is you know nothing you're going to get blank so it's going to be hard so make sure you some good pictures. You know, the iPhone has great technology now. It's not like when I first started in 98, where people like had one picture and that was it. You could have quite a few pictures.

You don't need to do any X-rated pictures, you know, anything like that. But you do need to have good quality pictures so people can see who you are.

And if you are keeping it discreet, you know know let them see your body put a happy face around your face and stuff like that if you go to TikTok I got my face covered stuff like that when I'm TikTok living and all that you do that put a so you can so people don't see who you are because you want to keep it discreet and respect other people's discreteness so many individuals particularly single males often make mistakes in their initial contact attempts yes I always see it all the time I always hear couples complain about oh they just say let's fuck I got a big dick stuff like that yeah you as a guy if you're a guy and you're doing this be original be different be the be someone that's not the other 50,000 guys out there that are trying to get easy sex, because that's a lot of dudes are.

Like I always say, there are not a lot of swingers out there, single swinging males, but there are a lot of single males out there in the lifestyle. Now, why do you say, what do you mean the difference? Well, to me, I'm a single swinger. I love having threesome, foursomes.

I don't sit there and look for for use women to get into the parties and stuff like that i'm not there for that i want if i'm taking a girl to a party we're gonna have a fun she's gonna have the best time of her life we're gonna do what she wants she wants to fuck every guy in the party well then you know what i'm there to be the protector and all that whereas other guys they're gonna use the women to get into clubs because it gives them options to more pussy and all that. That's the way it is. These guys don't want to share. They can't get it up if they're in a group.

They have to be one-on-one with the female, stuff like that. So that's the big difference. There are differences in swingers, single males. So by reading and implementing the advice we will be sharing, I will be sharing, you can improve your responses rate substantially. Hopefully you can. Like I said, you have to – you've got to kiss a lot of frogs. You've got to figure out what works for you. But I always said the number one thing, man, make sure your pictures are accurate. Do not lie about it because guess what? They're going to see you anyways.

They're going to see all the stuff that you have. And if you come to the bar or another club or you come to a meet and you're not looking like the way you're looking on the pictures, it's going to be embarrassing for you and embarrassing for everybody. And guess what? The couples are going to talk about you. So let's begin by focusing on your forum or swinger site member profile. So we're going to talk a little about your profile.

Your profile on the swinger forums or website membership sites before reaching out to new swingers, it is essential to ensure that your forum or swinger site member profile is fully complete. Incomplete profiles mean you're fake, you're lazy, all of them. I don't answer wimp couples that if I ever do, like I said, I step with the online ads because I'm tired of putting hours and hours, tens of hours, 20 hours, 30 hours a week into trying to get these ads and answer these ads and I get nothing. So I stopped doing it.

I go, you know, what's the easiest, easiest is just to go to a club and have fun. so many individuals overlook this step or provide minimum information that reveals very little about themselves this goes for couples too couples put very little information now i know about this being discreet and not want to put a lot of stuff out there but there's ai now you can have your ad written by ai and you can have a lot of stuff now don't tell everybody what you do for a living and stuff like that. Just put in what you're looking for, what you look like, and stuff like that, and you should be fine.

You have to write more than one sentence, all right? If you don't speak the language, use Google Translate. You can always do it that way. Hopefully, it translates right, but you know, Google's pretty good.

So when filling out out your profile approach it as if you're on a dating site share details about your hobbies entertainment preferences favorite restaurants and other aspects of your personality when i'm looking i'm always looking for what are what is the couple looking for are they looking for tall dark and handsome or are they looking for anything and everything you know you got to look at that so you've got to make sure in that profile with all those those are great those are great ideas those hobbies, you know, you've got to look at that.

So you've got to make sure in that profile with all those, those are great ideas. Hobbies, you know, like you like to play, you like to work out, you like to go rock climbing or you like to take hikes or you collect coins, something like that. What do you like to do for fun? Entertainment. You like to go to new movies, concerts, sporting events, stuff like that. Now your favorite restaurants, you can put that in if you've got some foodies because guess what? There are swingers that are foodies. Some of those would want to go to the nice restaurants and stuff like that.

And talk about your personality, you introvert, extrovert. Definitely, if you're introverted, definitely let them know you're introverted because that really helps out people because if I know you're introverted, I know I have to pick up the conversation. I know what I have to do. If you are extroverted, I can lay back and let you do the talking and you can have the time and all that. So this not only helps others get to know you, but it also increases the likelihood of connecting with individuals who share similar interests that you have. All right.

Like I said, if you like going to restaurants and you're a foodie, other swingers are foodies. Swingers come from everywhere. So there's no one-size-fits-all swinger profile type. You know, they come from everything. You know, you like those Renaissance Fairs things. I know that's big around and all that. You've got other people. Other people know that. Hey, we're going to the Renaissance Fairs this weekend and stuff like that.

So you've got to put more stuff in and you can get more attention all right avoid starting your profile with explicit sexual content or focusing on sexual proudness now that's if there are two things this is two there's two things i go with this if you're looking for connections and stuff like that stay away from the sexual stuff if you're just a wham bam dtf type of couple or single then do it i would put the sexual stuff because that's what you're there for that's why i started swinging because i wanted to have the We'll see you next time. bam bam, DTF type of couple or single, then do it.

I would put the sexual stuff because that's what you're there for. That's why I started swinging because I wanted to have this open sex and all that kind of stuff. And I wanted to be free so you can do it too. Now, if you're looking for connection, pay attention, refrain from leaning with sexual in the windows or descriptions, you know, uh, things like that. Instead, focus on presenting a well-rounded portrayal of yourself. While you can subtly hint at your sexual preferences further down in your profile, refrain from sharing explicit details initially.

Save those conversations for after establishing contact with other swingers who express mutual interest, all right? Now, if you're a DTF down-to-fuck type of couple person, guess what? Go for it. Do that stuff.

Tell them what you're looking for you're a DTF down to fuck type of couple person guess what go for it do that stuff tell them that what you're looking for you know and there are a lot of swinging couples out there and swinging singles that are like that they do say stuff like that they will say we are just here we are a DTF we're not interested in connections or anything like that we're just interested in wham bam thank you man type of thing and that's great let those people know what you're there for if that's what you're there for if you need if you're that kind of couple or a single if you're that couple you're a single that needs a connection you need to have that mental stimulation and all that then go ahead do it don't be so sexual at first wait till the sex comes up all right so by approaching the initial context with a goal of forming connections and potential friendships the more intimate aspects can naturally unfold in due course for couples and single women in the swinger community now pay attention this is something you have to think about all right we're going to talk about single women in the lifestyle i'm going to have a special guest and, you know, me and him kind of agree about single women and lifestyle.

So if you're not interested in single males, utilize the blocking feature on member sites to prevent unwanted, unwanted situate, uh, solicitations. I always encourage you as a couple or a single female or anybody, if you don't want single guys to, uh, you know, to email you, block block them just block them all and all that stuff now here's the problem if you are looking for single men later on because your wife decided she wants to have a threesome or a game bang or something like that you make sure when you do you unlock the males, unblock them so they can contact you.

I don't know how many times I had on the dating profiles or the swinger sites, I would go on there and they would be like, we're looking for a single man for a gangbang for my wife. And you go on there and you try to email them and it says the couple does not want single males to contact them.

Well, how are to have set up a game bang if you don't allow single males to contact you just unblock it when you're done block it again all right so while there are quality single males in the swinger community many lack an understanding of the lifestyle and may disregard stated preferences like i said a lot of people don't look at your profile they just look at the pictures that's why i said 99.9 percent of your ad is going to be your pictures and i know you might say well why am i talking about what you're writing and goes well because this is the reason why i'm talking about what you should put in your profile it's because of all the stuff that is out there there's so many people out there they come from all walks of life in this lifestyle you might find a great friend on the website you might find that in this uh lifestyle those people that you can really go and hang out with and do stuff for it so there are quality single men out there ladies and gentlemen believe it or not there are some really great single men out there you just have to like i said even couples there are some great quality couples out there and there's some not or not that don't just that disregard stated preferences stuff like that now when i'm doing it i always look at what they look like oh they're looking for a single guy saturday so let's look what they look like what do they want you know what type of man age you gotta look at age now as you get older you to remember some young couples don't want an old 48-year-old man like myself.

They want a young man. So why would I waste my time and waste their time on doing that? Oh, Tinder notification. Let's see who it is. Hold on one second, everybody. Let's just see. Tinder. All right. Probably no one. Buy some stupid thing from 20, Josephine, ooh, nice name, and 35 miles away, all right, so at least that's clear, closer, all right, anyways, so going back to that, I kind of forget what I was going to say now, you want to make sure, I don't know, I can't remember, anyways, take time to assess your profile objectively. Remember, would you ask yourself, would you email you?

Would you not email you? And things like that. You always do that. So be objective. Like I said, when I first started, my swinging profiles were horrible. But now with the introduction of AI and all that stuff and other features, you can really write a great, well-thought-out, tailored ad for yourself. So take time to assess your profile, like I said. Ask yourself if you would be interested in meeting someone with similar content. Fill out your profile thoroughly and thoroughly, as thoughtfully and thoroughly, as it can significantly impact your experiences in the swinger community. All right.

So, you know, now, do you want to have pictures? No. Make sure your pictures are great. Make sure they're all that, your avatar. Now, I don't know if there's any, I haven't seen any swinger sites where you can only have avatars. But if you do, what type of avatar would you have? All right. Your main profile picture, also known as your avatar, which would be, that's computer talk, is the initial impression that other swingers will have on you. It is crucial for this image to be eye-catching and distinctive among a crowd of pitchers. Single men, go with a suit and tie.

Go with their best picture that you have and things like that do not use ai uh filters or anything like that because once again i'm telling you they're gonna see you why are you gonna why are you gonna try to fool anybody with the picture from 20 years ago when you're when you're 28 and now you're 48 and all that stuff you know you're they're gonna see see. And it's just going to make you look stupid and people are going to laugh at you and we're going to make fun of you when we're all together talking about our experiences as swingers. So make sure it's eye-catching.

Like I said, guys, suits, ladies, nice gown, you know, something made up. You could do some lingerie. I don't know about, well, you could do lingerie because I don't think anyone would really care. Lingerie would help. But you've got to remember, the picture you put out is going to be the type of people you're going to get coming in and saying hello to you. All right? So your picture should capture the attention of fellow swingers and present yourself or both of you in a positive light. Nothing negative. Not you smoking a joint or doing a line of coke on someone's ass or anything like that.

Because you laugh. But I have seen, you know, profile pictures where they're smoking a joint, a blunt, whatever they call it. They're doing drugs and shit like that.

That just sends a bad vibe to people because you know what I don't want to be around that stuff I hate going to the clubs now you got to smell the weed and all that and all that now and it's just like man I'm just here to have good conversation and great fucking mind-blowing sex I'm not here to get high or anything like that and I think I was at a club this weekend in Houston and they were doing nose candy out the fucking open and they got kicked out of the club because they were doing fucking drugs in the open it wasn't like they were going to the bathroom snorking up they were snorting the fucking drugs right there in the area where everyone could see and they all got kicked out because it was just fucking what are you doing dude don't be doing that you know as a club owner you would never want that stuff around you don't want drugs around because guess what cops come around and when cops come around things get shut down so as the saying goes a picture is worth a thousand words and your picture should convey a message of click me and read my profile like i said if you're a beautiful couple guess what you're going to get those anyways they don't matter like sometimes i really don't think some of this stuff really matters, but I'm here to educate.

I'm here to help out people who are new to this lifestyle, all that stuff. So I just want to make sure everyone's good. All right. So if your pitcher lacks appeal, it may not receive much.

If any clicks, especially in private private messages introducing yourself to other swingers now listen we got to be honest with yourself if you're not very good looking you're not going to get a lot of action if you're a very good looking person male or female you're going to get action you're going to have to take a real deep dive look into yourself say hey am i good looking am i overweight all that stuff because swingers are shallow look at well i gotta have a connection first of all the connection is is that person good looking if they're good looking all right well i'll fuck them i'll do stuff like that and you know what you don't want to sit there and swingers don't want to say oh no that's not right we don't we don't't do that type of stuff.

I go, yes, we do. We judge people all the time because we're judging ourselves and we're judging others. Look at the swinger club. When you go, all the ladies look at the other ladies. Why? Well, there could be two reasons. One, they could want to have sex with that lady. And two, they're sizing that lady up. You do it, ladies.

You size each other up when you go you that's why you go to the bathroom together that's why you get all sluttied up all the time and go out and stuff because you are trying to be the head queen now that's most of you not all so don't sit there i didn't say all i said just most all right but you know you have to look at yourself. Are you that good looking? And if not, you can always make yourself start, you know, take care of better skin, better care of your skin. Do your hair. Shave more. Do stuff. You know, you have an excess amount of body hair. Trim the body hair. Do that stuff.

Like I said, always shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. Women don't like, you know, a big old bush down there. You know, if you don't like a bush, gentlemen, why would a woman like a bush? So, you know, think about it. Anyways, same thing. But ladies, you know, you got to look at yourself, say, am I hot? You know, you got to be, you know, you just got to be intelligent when you do this stuff and be honest. You know, get to the gym, work out. You don't have to be a six-pack ab. You don't have to be double D titties with a two-inch waist, stuff like that.

You just have to present yourself and look decent and all that. Because, you know, people are shallow in this lifestyle, you know, and people don't want to agree with it. They want to say, no they want to say no we're not shallow i go yeah yes we are very shallow and all that just look at online you know i could do a study i could put two different profiles on one ugly couple and another beautiful couple and see who gets more profile once you know and if you don't agree with me i'll do that i'll pay for it and I'll prove it to you with my findings. I could do another scientific findings.

So when selecting a suitable picture for your avatar, avoid using the default images provided. Always have a picture of yourself. Do not come in with fake pictures or anything like that. Have a real picture of yourself.

Do not use an avatar or anything like that all right if you don't want to show your face don't show your face block it out but have a nice nice clothes on you know something nice something you're doing like uh maybe you are an athlete or something like that many swingers perceive this as a lack of effort or attempt to conceal something all right yeah so if you don't have a picture they're gonna wonder are you fat disgusting uh are you married and cheating stuff like that they're gonna think of something because everyone thinks the worst of everybody even if you have concerns about privacy due to your profession there are plenty of pictures that can safeguard your identity outside the swinger community like i said use uh the filters that uh iphone provides and stuff like that or the android provides there's other i do in shot i do those like you know slap a happy face over that and all that if you got tattoos you can always blend them i think you could blare get them out of there now you could filter them out and stuff like that so you got all kinds of stuff that you can do to uh block out your identity and which i always recommend you to do i don't care if you don't have a job that they don't care if you're a swinger or not i would always block it out because there are crazy fuckers out there and you know you just don't want to be one of those you don't have to deal with those crazy fucks so if you choose to obscure your face in any photos do so in a manner that does not detract from the overall picture a blight slur is preferable to scratching out covering or scribbling over your face as these methods can't dismiss the appeal of the image and i have to agree like i see people they just use chicken scratch you know like they use the marker over and they scratch over it that don't look good like i said put an avatar face like i have on my um what is it my tic tac live i got an avatar over my face right now and all that so you can do that stuff right there and you know see and see how that works and I think it'll work a lot better than what you have so you know I don't know anyways so just me like I said just be careful of the people out there in the dabble verse because there's a lot of crazy fucks out there it's imperative to ensure that your picture remains current using a photo from your 30s when you're currently in your 50s can lead to confusion and potentially awkward situations when meeting new swingers your avatar your picture should accurately reflect your current appearance yes like when you meet people on what is it bumble tinder or anything like that and i always notice these women they come with these pictures and they look real good and all the pictures then you see if you know you meet them in person and they're like what they look a lot older or they're missing more teeth than what they usually had they they never had those missing teeth in the pictures and stuff like it's just awkward it's's just silly to think that you're not gonna go you're gonna be okay with it like i said you know you gotta have strong respect to get respect so here are some suggestions for selecting the ideal picture starting with couples so couples opt for close-up headshots of both partners smiling or full-length pictures of both of you together now if you don't care if people know who you are do it you don't have to put anything over your head but you know a close-up shot would a nice group it now you got to be together i don't know how many couples in the swinging community don't have any pictures together but they have her alone in lingerie nude getting plowed by a bunch of people or having a relationship scissoring with another woman but they don't have the couples together so how do we know you're a couple really I'll see you are together.

You're holding hands or something. It could be at a wedding that you recently went to and all that stuff. Remember, it has to be doing your pictures every six months, I think.

I think every six months, changing your profile pictures every six months will be good because it shows because you can have a lot of weight change and fluctuations and all that uh from time to time like i always do like i had to change all my pictures because i lost a shit ton of weight so you know i had to change because i'm looking good now i'm like hey i'm feeling good about myself my dick looked bigger and all that stuff so i'm like hey let's go let's do this so also for couples consider using photos of yourself dancing or at another swinger party now when you do this uh now this is what i'm getting tired of um because you know it says without displaying other individuals faces without their consent i see a lot of more couples going to swinger parties taking videos videos, taking pictures, and boom, I can see clear as day the people that are there.

Now, you got to remember, not everybody is there that wants to be outed. They don't want people to know they do this. This is just fun for the mom and dad to do, to have fun once in a while. But you're out there, sitting there, taking videos and taking pictures and posting them on tiktok instagram or twitter and all that x whatever you call it and you know you gotta be very careful that you're not doing that so be careful if you're anywhere in fact block out block out, blur out everyone's face at any part. It could be at a wedding or anything like that. Just block out everyone.

Just your two faces should be out and everyone else should be blocked because it's just so respect. Because you know what? No one wants to be... Maybe the people around you don't want to be associated with swinging or anything like that. You want to convey a fun genuine image. Choose pictures that align with how you describe yourself and your profile. If you're an athlete, show us some pictures of you being Thank you.

associated with swinging or anything like that you want to convey a fun genuine image choose pictures that align with how you describe yourself and your profile if you're an athlete show some pictures of you being athletic your wife's uh marathon runner show her in the marathon i know and all that stuff uh so do that uh while intimate photos may appeal to some hardcore swingers like me ac seeking one night stands be prepared to for a specific type of attention if you choose this route so if you got a lot of pictures of your girl getting hammered by a bunch of dudes Let's get started.

like me AC seeking one night stands be prepared to for a specific type of attention if you choose this route so if you got a lot of pictures of your girl getting hammered by a bunch of dudes uh or videos on your site you're gonna get those type of people like those ones that oh there must be DTF and all that which you know I don't know it's just it's very difficult sometimes when you got people because people think they know what they're doing and they find out we don't know what they're doing. Now, let's talk about single women pictures. This is going to be very simple.

If you're a beautiful woman, you can have anything and they're going to email you. Let's just be honest. If you're a decent-looking, good-looking, young, middle-aged woman under 50, you're going to get a lot of likes and you're going to get a lot of emails. Now, if you're older, that might be a different story. So as a single woman, you can choose a photo showing you in a sexy outfit. Oops. Sexy outfit. New pictures can also be effective, but expect an influx of brief messages from those interested in casual encounters, which, yeah, okay, yeah, that's what we're here for.

You got a swinger website. You're looking for, you know, threesomes, foursomes, whatever you're looking for, and you're going to expect to get some of those crazy-ass people, you know, the ones that can only write, those couples that can only write a sentence, those single males that can only write a sentence. But if you're a single woman and you want to put photos in your profile, make sure you put some nice, sexy outfits in there and all that because that would help you get what you want, I guess you could say. But it says you're here to party, but you're not here to party.

You're here to have fun, but you're not necessarily here to have that fun or anything like that. Now, single guys.

Now, we got to talk about me me we got to talk about all the other single dudes out there a fully clothed full body shot or face picture is recommended all right i know i open up a lot of single guys when i have a play partner wants to have a bunch of men wants to have a threesome with another man i got to go find a single guy i click on it and first i see is their junk all right that's a no yeah we don't you don't need to do that because guess what we could i have seen some of the biggest penises in the world and i have seen some of the most disappointed women in the world with those penises because the fact just because its size is big doesn't mean you necessarily know how to use it and a lot of women always say oh size matters and we know their line size does matter of course it does but if you don't know how to use it then what's the point you know if i could like i said a story like a girlfriend of mine we were living in tampa florida we go to caliente we met this really just a young cat not not someone I would ever think my girl would ever date or anything like that, but he was nice to me.

He was respectful towards me, talked to my girl. She made her laugh and all that stuff. Me and her got a little horny, so we said, let's go down to the cabanas and let's fool around. Well, I asked the gentleman who had no way and shape or form would ever hit my girl. I asked him if he would like to care to join us. And, you know, he popped up. He ran as quick as he could. You know, probably the best offer he's ever gotten in his life. And so he gets up, comes down, smallest penis I ever saw, baby dick. It was a baby dick, really.

But at the end the end of the day she loved him she loved the fact that she got off so many times with this guy because he knew how to work his cock he knew how to look his mouth and he made her come all the time and you know what we became friends after that mean that us three you know we whenever we saw him we know he could hit the deeds and so i made sure every time we saw him that he would play my girl and you know what like i said size matters you got to know how to use it if you don't know how to use it that size ain't gonna matter so make sure you choose the attire and chant and that enhances your physique and conveys a well-groomed appearance now if you're you've got that ripped abs, ripped muscles and all that stuff, sure, man.

Show a nice muscle shirt. We'll show off all that stuff and all that. You'd be surprised that not many women are attracted to that stuff. But, you know, hey. But for the women that are, you know, check it out. Look at it. Anyways, so if you've got a good body, show it off, guys.

do not be don't be afraid to show that off try to avoid explicit or nude images you know you've seen one cocky seen them all all right they're gonna eventually see it anyways so don't worry about it so with that expectation of a beach wear or action shots that showcase your athleticism do that show a beach picture you're at the beach or something like that don't just try to stay away from look at me i have a huge penis type of pictures because you know people see through that and you're gonna get if they know you have a big penis you're gonna get those couples that don't care about anything other than your big penis all right so don't worry about there and are plenty, and I mean plenty of couples out there in a lifestyle that are like that.

They only care if you're eight inches or more. So avoid using a female's image as any picture that you have. This can be misleading. It may lead to being blocked by others. Like I said, couples will, or single guys will put pictures of them as a couple just to do pic collecting.

Now, if you get a couple, you them they want to show pictures all the time they want you to send pictures all the time just stop talking to them because that's just a dude trying to get pictures off of you now that we address the importance of your picture let's discuss how to curate a photo gallery pictures effectively all right swinger membership websites typically allow users to create multiple photo galleries that can be categorized as public or private, which is invitation only. It is advisable to make use of both of those type of photos galleries. So here's our pictures.

Say like if you have a job or you don't want people to know or you don't want no one to know that you're a swinger, use the private ones to have the pictures of your face on there. That's what you can do. So for couples to ensure that both partners are represented in the public and private photo galleries, avoid profiles that only showcase one member. As this may rise, concerns about transparency and compatibility. It is essential to display images of both individuals, provide a clear representation of your couple to potential matches. Like, I don't know how many times I see, I hear couples.

male have any pictures it's because it's all the girls the guy has a hundred pictures of the girl and one picture of him you know ladies want to have fun too and they want to see the guy so you know what make sure you show the guys uh and all that because you know what it is two there it is couple couple means two single men should be mindful of the content they share as overtly sexual explicit images can deter potential matches save intimate photos for private galleries and prioritize showcasing a well-rounded personality in your public profile to attract your interest that's what i do i put all my good pictures in the private one so if you want to see my my private stuff, you have to ask and I got to know who you are.

And guess what? If I don't see a picture of you, you don't get a picture of me. It's plain and simple. I know a whole bad. I know I'm horrible. So making the first contact, send an initial private message to a swinger couple you're interested in can evoke feelings of fear, excitement, and potential disappointment. for me as a single guy, it's more disappointment than there is fear or excitement because, you know, even when I had the best profile answers to their ads, I still don't get nothing. And it can be for a myriad of reasons. They're not, I'm not their type.

They're not looking for me as a single guy, stuff like that.

So today, let's explore how to make your first interactions more positive and rewarding i can't eliminate the fear factor for you guys you're going to just have to do it just do it that's something you'll have to navigate on your own nevertheless it is important to remember that receiving a no thank you or no response isn't the end of the world you're going to receive more no responses than you are going to be no thank you and i wish it was in like that but it is someone's calling from florida anyways uh so i wish it was more like you know they would say no thank you because at least no thank you you know that they have responded they've seen it they looked at your profile they decided no whereas maybe they just didn't respond to your ad maybe they didn't have time to do it stuff like that so they want to you know you don't know you're out there dancing on the whim you can increase your chances by of success by reaching out to couples with whom you share common interests beyond sex now if they don't have anything in their profile that's gonna be tough how do you know if you have any common interest uh things like that if they're looking for guys okay good they're looking for guys so you know maybe you can have that common interest that they're looking for guys they're they're a cock hold couple they're a stag vixen couple things like that so if they have the they have that.

So, you know, you have all that. So maybe you'll have more luck with that. So find someone. Maybe there are groups in these swinger websites where you can join, like, you know, maybe you're a football fan, the NCAA football fan, or you're a baseball fan, you're a foodie, you're a Rinsen fan, stuff like that, you're a goth, stuff like that You can find groups of swingers in those things and you can just email those people so you can try that.

To start, let me share some real messages we, maybe I have seen that we have, you know, real things that I have seen over we or I have seen over the years. These are some of the examples that you should avoid sending when connecting with other swingers for the first time. These messages often lead to complaints from senders who feel ignored by their peers. Here are some examples of what not to send if you want to avoid being blocked or overlooked. All right? Number one, hi. So the person always sends hi. I get that on Tinder and Bumble. When we match up, the person always sends hi.

I get that on Tinder and Bumble. When we match up, the person will say hi. Okay, hi. No, then I say hi back. Then you don't send anything back. It's like, what in the hell do you want me to do? You want me to, you know, you sit there, you send me a message. Why are you saying hi? Why don't you say hi? Shouldn't you ask me how I'm doing? Why you're emailing me? Stuff like that? No. Another one. Number two. How was your day? Okay, great. What is this? I thought this was a swingersite. Three. She is hot. Here's one that I think a lot of couples hate. Single guys always do this.

And couples, some couples do this too. She is hot. Okay, great. I know she's hot. I married a woman. I know she's hot. What do you want? You know, I don't understand that. Number four, let's get together tonight and fuck. Oh yeah. Okay. Cause I could drop everything. Cause you remember a lot of swingers have kids, a lot of swingers have families. They have more things to do in swingering than just to fuck. So let's meet and just fuck. Ooh, that always works. And anyone email me at swingandsingelpodcast at gmail.com or swingandsingelpodcast.com, and let me know. Does any of these work?

Have this actually worked? You literally type, let's get together and fuck tonight, and that worked. Number five, this will upset me as I'm a couple. Does your wife play alone? All right. Now, look at the profile. Usually if couples do play alone, they will put it in their profile. So that means you didn't read my profile. Because my wife, my partners, my girlfriends will never play alone without me. Number six, send the wife over to my place. I'll see her back full, calm, and satisfied. Now, this is where, because you would get these messages. These are first contact.

These are not like, hey, you've been talking for a week and you have these. This is like the first messages you get from a person. seven i have a nine inch very thick dick i would love to fuck her with it and make her orgasm over and over interested all right well can you use that nine inch dick thick dick then does my wife want my your nine inch very very thick dick guess what? Sometimes women complain that the dick is too big and they can't enjoy it. You know, I have the prostate sleeve that is over nine inches and it's very thick.

And if I use it on a girl, she's walking funny for the next couple of days because it fucking stretches the pussy out. So I can imagine imagine having to do that with another, another man and actually have enjoying it, especially if your husband's just average size and you know, he doesn't have that endowment like that, the nine incher. So, you know, does she want that? Number eight, I could make her scream all night. Let's get together and have a good time. Probably you can make her scream because you're ugly as shit or something like that. I don't know. Nine, I liked your profile.

Check out mine and let me know if you are interested. You know, this ain't that bad. It ain't as worse as other things, but it just shows you that you liked the profile. Okay. What did you like about the profile? Hey, I liked your profile that you're a Washington Commanders fan. I'm from Washington area too.

I just moved out here uh something like that what did you like about that profile you could tell be pacific and number 10 i enjoyed reading your profile and it intrigued us you two sound very interesting okay you're reading the profile what intrigued you about us tell those couples now number 10 will probably work all the time with other couples because they'll be like, ah, they kind of throw shit out the door. Ah, okay, yo, they like this. Hey, Marge, look at this girl. She looks hot. You want to scissor her? Things like that. So some of these things will get thrown out.

The previous example started off well, but it was a generic message sent out in the masses to multiple swingers. Most experienced swingers can easily spot these mass messages and tend to avoid them as it indicates a lack of genuine interest in forming meaningful connections. This shotgun approach is generally frowned upon in the swinger community. Surprisingly, we even receive identical canned messages from the same person at different times and even from multiple individuals. Yes, you will get that.

I will get the same messages from the same people over and over and over again for some odd reason. I don't know. But it's only when I'm looking for single males for either a girlfriend of mine or another person of mine or a partner of mine wants to have a threesome or have more than a couple guys so anyways so it is essential to refrain from including explicit or suggestive photos in your initial messages unless explicitly requested by the swingers who are contacting like you'll see swingers will say, hey, can you please send, you know, full nudes? They'll ask, like, Reddit.

You go on Reddit, you see, you go to, you join a swinger site on there, and they'll be like, hey, can you send us full nudes on your first matches and all that? Okay, they requested it. If they haven't requested it, I would just stay away from this.

Give nice pg rated uh picture of you you know show your athleticism show your brain technology maybe you're getting your phd um you got a picture of you receiving your phd from uh university of harvard or something like that something that's kind of cool and all that do that don't show your dick off all right because guess what they dicks are kind of look the same all over just come into very different colors by now you likely understand what not to include in your messages let's shift to your focus on crafting the great message for what to you can make a positive message that you can make positive remember your initial message holds significant importance as it sets the tone for future interactions impress recipients right from to start with your message all right a successful first message typically includes the following components a brief introduction of yourself no harm in asking and telling about yourself evidence that you have read and engaged with their profile i always do that always put a little snippet of what they put in their profile into my introduction common interest beyond just sex now if they don't have any common interest in there there might be you might have to look in there dig in there but if there's not you ain't gonna be able to do it but if there is say hey i'm a foodie too let's go to vix and anthony's go have a steak or whatever and any specific information or pictures requested in their profile like i said there will be couples that want they want full nudes they don't want no they want g-rated pitch stuff like that they don't want uh this they don't want that so failing to include this information may signal that you didn't pay attention to the preferences leading to you being ignored or blocked your initial message should be respectful articulate and courteous if you choose to include photos ensure they are appropriate and non-explicit face and fully cold body shots are usually the safest options unless their profile specifies otherwise now if you don't want to show your face just say hey i got a job i'm a i'm a police officer i'm a teacher i work for don't want to show my face, but here's a picture from my neck down.

Because, you know what, like I said, they're going to look, they want, some couples want a six-pack, abs, six-foot-tall, tall, dark, and handsome dude. All right, so you're going to have to provide it.

Now, if they don't want to show their face, but they want you to do it that's a decision yet you're gonna have to make i don't do that because what because that shows me if i don't want people to know who i am in the swinging lifestyle then they should have to show their face too so if they want to see my face they can see that when we meet or they can send the picture of themselves too you know you always got those people and all that so you just got you just got to be smart and you know think about it if they have pictures of their face and they want to send you they want to see your face i would send it anyways because they're already out there so there's really nothing they can really do or anything like that.

So below are some suggestions for creating. And so here are some suggestions for creating an engaging first contact message that increases your chances of receiving response. Ask questions about something in their profile or one of their pictures. Maybe you saw them in Cancun. What resort do they stay at? I don't know, something like that. Highlight a common interest or aspect from their profile or pictures. Alright, see, you get to look at the profile and pictures.

Introduce yourself briefly and encourage them to check out your profile, mentioning something specific that may pique their curiosity. Maybe the wife is looking for a 12-incher and you have a 12-incher. Check out my pictures. Maybe your wife never been with a black guy before. Now you're black. Check it out. Check my profile. Maybe I'll be the first. Maybe your wife, I don't know, maybe your husband's into bisexuality. He's bi-carious. You're bisexual. Check out my profile. Extend an invitation for dinner, drinks, or a hike.

Attending an event or meeting at a club often offering flexible dates or multiple options for scheduling this works because like i said excuse me we are in a world where you know we have a lot of things to do and people are busy so got to have that flexibility. If you frequent the same swimming clubs or venues as them, propose meeting there during their next visit. Specify a particular location when inviting them out rather than suggesting a vague meeting. This is always difficult because you've got to find out where people live.

You want to meet halfway somewhere, or you want to, as a single guy, always say you better be willing to travel to their city so if they live in dallas you better be go to dallas if they live in fort worth go to fort worth all right you got to do that that's part of it all right alternately mention that you will be at a pacific place on a certain date and time if you're going out to vegas do that expressing your interest in meeting them in the person if they happen to be in the vicinity, especially if it's a nightclub nearby.

So when composing your initial message, maintain a lighthearted and fun tone that doesn't impose any pressure. Focus on non-sexual questions to initiate a conversation and give them a reason to respond. And crucially, always address both members of the couple if you're contacting the peer, rather solely focusing on one individual, all right? Like I said, if you don't talk to me when I have my partner at the club and you don't talk to me and you're expecting to fuck my girl, it ain't going to happen. Like I said, you have to talk to me.

Like that ugly dude that banged my friend at Caliente, he was more talking to me than he did talk to the girl. So, you know and because i said okay go ahead he ended up having a great time a great night all right let's see let's finish this up feel free to include tasteful compliments in your message without being overly sexual genuine compliments are generally well received by most people most people can take a compliment remember some people cannot take compliment. So don't be upset that they can't take a compliment. All right. And all that.

So above all, ensure your message excludes respect and politeness. All right. I don't know how many times that doesn't happen. Remember, the goal is to make a positive first impression. You only get one chance to make a positive impression, ladies and gentlemen. And don't do that it ain't gonna work so definitely make sure you have a positive positive first interaction now you're armed with these guidelines for crafting your initial message to swingers go out and explore go out and have fun go out and try, you're going to be disappointed more than you're going to be excited.

Don't let fear get to you. Remember to shave your cock and balls. That's the most important, gentlemen. Shave those cock and balls for those ladies. They don't want no forest down there. If you don't like Bush, don't expect your girl to like Bush. Also, go to swingingsinglepodcast.com to go see all things they see.

Go to swingingsinglepodcast.gmail.com to go see all things they see go to swing and single podcast at gmail.com to get on email me with that shake those cock and balls gentlemen and i'm out of here have a wonderful mlk day which i'm recording on so you won't see it anyways enjoy the rest of the football go fighting the irish hopefully they beat ohio state and all that wonderful stuff so have a great day and keep on swinging