Welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast, where we dive deep into the world of alternative lifestyles with your charismatic host, AC Maxwell! Whether you're curious, experienced, or just looking for some intriguing conversations, you're in the right place.In today's episode, we are talking all about "Newbies Entering the Lifestyle." Join AC as he demystifies the initial steps into the swinging community, sharing essential tips, personal anecdotes, and expert advice to ensure new enthusiasts can navigate this exciting world with confidence and ease.Whether you're single and exploring or a couple looking to spice things up, this episode is packed with everything you need to know to make your first experiences both exhilarating and safe. So, buckle up and let’s get swinging!
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hello radiant listeners welcome back to the swinging single podcast where adventure meets intimacy and every conversation is a steep step closer to embracing the swinging lifestyle with confidence i'm your host ac maxwell here to navigate the zero yet sometime perlexine world of swinging today's episode holds a treasure trove of insights common mistakes new swingers make and how to avoid them oh yes we all have been there we all have been new none of us were born into this or anything like that so we make mistakes whether you're curious cautious or somewhere in between this episode is tailor-made for you we're diving deep into the lessons learned from those who've danced this dance before us from missteps in communication to overlooking personal boundaries we're peeling back the layers on how to steer clear or common pitfalls for those just tuning in whether you're here to learn laugh and find a sense community you come to the right place so settle, get cozy or mobile.
I'll know some of you are tickling life's adventures as you're listening. And let's embark on this journey together, shall we? Remember, the goal here is just to swing. It's to swing with style, understand, and respect for everyone involved. So let's unfold the do's and don'ts that will keep the passion thriving and the experiences positive. Buckle up. It's going to be an enlightening ride. The Swinging Single Podcast with host AC Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only.
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Shave your cock and oh yeah gentlemen maybe make sure you shave those cock and balls and get everything going because those ladies don't want to you have the pubic hair in their mouth when they're giving you that intimate sexy blowjob especially at a club and all that you know especially if you're a single guy you're new you want to make a good impression and having a nice shaved cock and balls nicely trimmed and all that is good for the ladies and the ladies will love you for it hygiene is very important ladies and gentlemen so make sure you have your hygiene so today's episode is going to talk about new swingers when you are starting off and for my personal experience for the past 20 plus years, I made quite a few mistakes in my swinging, especially, and mostly those mistakes have been in communication, you know, like, where do you want my jizz after I blow my load?
Do you want it on your face, on your hair, on your fucking body, inside your pussy and all that stuff? And, you know, sometimes it just happens where, you know, we don't communicate well and you blow your load somewhere as well. They don't want that load blown and all things happening. So, venturing into the swinging lifestyle can be an exhilarating exploration for many couples. Yet it is a path lading with potential challenges and missteps.
Oh yeah, like the load I shot on a lady at a club in Fort Wayne where, you know she was jerking me off but apparently i'm not supposed to shoot on her stomach or anything like that or getting come on her but you know it happens and she never communicated that with me and so you know a little uh tit for tat started with the hubby and all that and they felt they fucked up because they never told me that don't shoot your load on side on her and i you know fuck it i'm gonna do it if uh you know you don't tell me not to so i thought it was perfectly fine we get a little fight a little pushing and shoving and that was it and that's all that escalated from that but like i said the misstep was communication so this article or this podcast is designed to illuminate some typical errors newcomers to swinging swinging off the encounter offering practical tips for smoothly navigating these obstacles by grasping the intricate balance between one swinging activities and personal life honing your social approach adhering to the adequate of swinger gatherings respecting various forms of non-monogamy and responsibility exploring kinks and fetishes couples can enrich their swinging experience and fully relish this lifestyle now you i've been learning that kinks and swinging are two different things from a friend of mine she's been educating me on the kinks and i'm not in the kink or anything like that i'm just into the swinging lifestyle like adding two three four five shit ten people to my fold but you know it is what it is so you know you i'm learning everything just as much as everyone else is learning because you know you never stop learning i believe that if you stop learning you that's when you start dying and i don't want to start dying anytime soon so some of the things we're going to talk about keep a discreet separation between your swinging lifestyle and everyday life to safeguard personal relationships and manage duo do identities effortlessly i see a lot of these couples on facebook on twitter and all that shit they had they're all you know great people but you know what they live the lifestyle 24 7 and i cannot imagine have being married to someone and living the lifestyle 24 7 with them and not having that you know break away from their lifestyle and doing all that and it's just constantly just bombardment of the lifestyle and i think it's actually a bad thing for couples i think because there's going to be a time yes ladies and gentlemen when ac will hang up his cock and balls and no longer be swinging anymore there comes a time everyone it's like an athlete every every athlete who is out there listening knows this there comes a time when you can't just do it anymore and swinging is going to be one of those times either your health gets involved or you know family life getting involved or you just get too old for this and you're like fuck it and you're like mel gibson and danny glover i'm just too old for this shit and all that so you know trying to keep that separate life knowing that you're a swinger and your personal life your vanilla life whatever you want to call it keep those different separate is you know hard for new swingers because you know they fucking think they got to do this right now they got to do it right now they got to do everything right now because there might not be next week there might not be a month from now but i'm going to tell you this young young cats out there or your newbies and swingers there's going to be a swinger club somewhere around you forever as long as you want as long as you are swinging so awkward pickup lines instead of learn instead learn to reach social cues and foster authentic relationships with the swinger community yes awkward pickup lines do not usually work in the swinging community because you guess what all the couples have heard it before all the single women have heard it before if they're if they're veterans they heard it they've seen it they've done it they know all about the bullshit that a lot of people are putting down and there's a lot of bullshit like i always always find it's funny that people talk about how authentic swinging lifestyle is swinging lifestyle is not authentic it's the same as bullshit it's very uh uh exclusive exclusive you know people are not allowed you know whenever someone says it's inclusive everyone's welcome i go bullshit single men are never welcomed they're usually tolerated gay men are definitely not welcome uh bisexual men tolerated not welcome uh straight women toler tolerated and all that.
But welcome to some couples, you know. Just ask the couple who's straight how much action they get compared to a woman that's fully bisexual. And they're very much wanted. So if you're a bisexual woman in the lifestyle, you're at the top. You're at the top threshold.
If you're a bi couple where the male is straight and the the woman's bisexual you're at the top of the food chain in the swing and lifestyle but if you're a straight couple where both are straight you're not in the pussy eating and your wife's not in the pussy eating you're in all that you're you're lower on the total pullman let's be honest that's how it is and you know like i said the swing single podcast doesn't bullshit its listeners or anyone they're listening we just how it is.
So be considerate when bringing items to a swing or parties, taking into account dietary preferences and limitations, and steer clear of unsuitable contributions. Remember, we got a lot of people who are allergic to things. We don't know anyone that has allergies, and hopefully they say they don't have allergies. You got people who don't eat meat or anything like that.
So if you got a tray you know what maybe some people are not going to be eating it who knows i don't know so just just take keep that in mind when you're a first-time swinger and you're going to bring something you know it's not safe to bring bring alcohol that's always safe recognize that and honor different non-monogamous relationships such as cock holding and hot wifing while dispelling prevalent misunderstandings this is one of the things cock holding is where the guy likes to be humiliated you know cock holding is just not the guy who wants his wife to fuck other dudes it's not about that cock holding is where the guy wants to be humiliated he wants to be dominated by the bull and then the wife and all that um where hot wifing is where like me i just enjoy my girl fucking other men i just end couples it's just one of those things i do but i don't like the humiliation i'm not a fucking beta male i'm a fucking alpha male so you know i i'm not gonna take shit from some guy talking about penis size oh i'm fucking your wife better than you and i'm like fuck you dude you're not trust me you're not so know the difference and respect those differences if a couple's in there and they only want to fuck other other women just respect it inside you could be laughing at them whatever but just respect their things exploring kinks and fetishes within the swinging scene always prioritize transparency agree on boundaries and consent and thoughtfully integrate new experiences all right so those are some of the things we're going to talk about in this little podcast or so so the importance of discretion i always tell i'll say it again do not use your first name or anything on your swinger profile don't put april april and john if your names are april and john and you put april and john you're just asking for it now you might not give a shit because your job doesn't care your family don't care that you do this but if you have a job or you think they might care just make up something this is what you should do go online look up ai and just put in ai hey what's a good name a swinger name for a couple looking for other couples and bada boom bada bing it will print out 20 fucking different names that you can use do not do that if you're going to use pictures i say black out you black out your face and all that now what i see is the guy will have his face picture the woman the wife will have her face blocked out now do you understand how stupid this is because if someone like i'm friends with someone and i'm on i'm checking out that swinger website and i see your face i say hey that's john and i see a picture of a woman blacked out well that's probably april you know i'm not fucking stupid so already no that's john and april so oh john april are swingers so that's how you're gonna get found out black out your face show everything from your chest down whatever you want to do but be discreet if you care about your job you worry about your job or anything like that or your family to find out just don't do it and if no one wants to party with you because you don't have one have a face picture fuck them just go to the club that's a lot easier don't even fucking do online ads it's 19 bucks a month you're wasting your money anyways half the Thank you.
party with you because you don't have one have a face picture fuck them just go to the club that's a lot easier don't even fucking do online ads it's 19 bucks a month you're wasting your money anyways half the time these fucking people don't even show up or their flakes or face or just pick pick collectors and they're jerking off to your fucking pictures so you know just be discreet don't be stupid don't use your name your real names in your ad and all that because the swing a single podcast might say your name and I can't help it if you fucking put your real names in your ad and all that because the swing single podcast might say your name and i can't help it if you fucking put your real name in there like a dumb asses all right so in the realm swinging trust is a critical pillar with discretion discretion serving as its foundation while the excitement of the lifestyle may sometimes lead to feelings of guilt for keeping secrets, navigating this area with sensitivity is vital.
Now, just because you don't care if no one, everyone knows that you're a swinger doesn't mean the couple that you're fucking doesn't either. They might care. So, you know what? Just be quiet about it, you know, and all that stuff. Now, if you're at the swinger club, you're out there and John and John and April walk by, you go and you're talking to another couple.
that's john and april we played with them last week that's fine that's perfectly fine because everyone's there everyone's a swinger now if you're if you're at the kroger you're at the heb you're at the costco whatever you're at and you see john and april and john april goes by and you talk about john and april at the swinger club that's where it gets become a nono because you're not at the Swinger Club. You're not in the appropriate area. You're not in the appropriate environment for that shit. So stay away from that stuff and respect other people's privacy.
So discretion is key to keeping your personal and professional worlds distinct, ensuring a sense of safety and respect for all parties involved.
Discretion and words requiring our awareness of one's limits and respect for other people's boundaries like i said i care i don't fucking put my business out there for the world no i don't want anyone to know my friends don't know i swing only people that know i swing are the people who i'm partnered up with and all that they're the only ones and that's how i'm going to keep it i don't want them to know don't want family to know it's just too much it's just i don't want that problem and a lot of people don't have that problem they tell their family they tell their fucking kids and all that and i know in all that they know mommy goes out and gets game banged by a bunch of dudes on saturday nights every fucking weekend at secrets or stuff like that so you know it's one of those things where I don't know.
know and all that they know mommy goes out and gets game banged by a bunch of dudes on saturday nights every fucking weekend at secrets or stuff like that so you know it's one of those things where you got to respect the limits you got to respect my boundaries and all that so ethical swinging means always asking for permission before divulging any information about encounters or individuals i always say once you're at the swing if you're at the swing club all hands are off all bets are off you can talk about what you want because you're in that environment you're not outside of the fucking heb in the fucking produce aisle and you see a swinger you talk start talking to you you know other people about oh that couple swings and all that that's not that's not the cool part now if you're at a fucking swing club you're at um col TPC, you're at Secrets, you're at Caliente and there are everyone's there.
Everyone there knows what they're there for. So that's the environment to talk. And I don't have a problem with people saying, oh, yeah, we were with them last week or we play with them. We know them and all that stuff because people love dropping names, drop the names at the correct places, the correct places and all that. So do that. So, uh, to help maintain discretion, consider these points, always seek consent before discussing swinging activities with outsiders. My whole thing would be just don't ever do it. If they're outside, they're not in the swinger lifestyle.
They're not at the swinger club or anything like that. They're not at the swinger house party. They're not at the swinger resort.
Don't talk about it with other other people keep it quiet i had a girlfriend that i dumped because she broke the cardinal rule she was out shopping a couple saw her and they were from tpc and they talked to her and they were and she gave them the number they exchanged numbers and i was like you never do that i before we even did that i before this even have i said you outside of this place when we're in this uh club we're at tpc you can do whatever you want fuck whatever you want to do we'll do whatever you can talk to whoever get whoever numbers but once we leave this place we are now professional and all that we're ac and we're miss in all right we're not fucking anybody else don't talk to people about it outside and outside the club or anything like that and she did so i said you know what you you i can't trust you so you got to go and she was a beautiful woman i love miss n and i love being around her pussy was great fucking squirted all over my face was a fucking nasty little slut but you know what there's boundaries and she broke those boundaries be cautious with the amount of personal information you share within your swing community don't fucking tell everyone you're a fucking teacher or you're a fucking lawyer or a doctor you know what make up shit tell them your account tell me you're a ceo of a fucking oil company or fucking a cracker bro don't tell people like i said you don't owe people your whole life story in the swinging lifestyle the only thing you owe people your health status.
If you got STDs and shit like that, if you had them in the past or whatever. But I don't understand these people. Oh, I'm a teacher. Oh, I work for the fucking county government. Don't tell no one that because you guess what? You don't know those fucking idiots from anywhere. And those people might try to fucking out you because, you know, it's fun for them. There are just sick fucking people out there.
So don't do do that shit that's why i said don't use your names and your profiles don't have profile pictures if you care about your jobs and stuff only thing you can see on my mind my face is blacked out or you can see the chest down that's it that's all and you know doing this podcast i had to learn the hard way that you gotta watch out for fucking weird ass people people death threats and shit uh next one refrain from revealing specifics that could accidentally reveal someone's identity you know that happens like this happened on my podcast some dumbass used his first name and i said it and i said his law his id for his name and i said it and they all got pissed off at me about it it's like well fuck dude don't use your first name all right then that won't happen so understanding that swinging is a personal choice and not universally accepted practicing discretion safeguards not only uh not only yourself but also your partners on the broader community and that's why i always say miss m miss m because that's not the real name i i think you guys can figure that out but you know you know i just got to practice that discretion because you never know what's going to happen fucking people are just weird so so differentiating between swinging and non-swinging relationships this is where it gets critical because you know once you open that pandora's box guess what ladies and gentlemen newbies it can't be closed my next one i'm going to talk about pack uh some facebook posts i've been seeing i'm going to talk about those so essential to draw a clear line between swinging endeavors and your interactions with non-swinging friends or family this distinction keeps your personal life straightforward and honors the privacy of everyone involved all right you've got to have two separate lives in this lifestyle you i don't understand and couples listen if you live the lifestyle 24 7 come on the show email swinging single podcast at gmail.com i'll interview tell me how it's possible for you to sit there and live the lifestyle 24 7 and have no death separation you got to get swinger burnout and you know it's just like anything i call swinger burnout where i see couples every every friday saturday at the club and next thing you know i never see them again why i think they get burnout they don't know how to live a to the double life so if you can live a double life you will be successful if you can't well then you might not be so successful in the swinging so for example if planning a night out while your mother-in-law watches the children it's suffice to describe that it's a night out without detailing what it's uh what it's that it's to visit a swingers club like i said i don't understand people who tell everyone that they're swinging you know 90 of the world thinks we're fucking disgusting human beings.
Anyway, so why would you openly let that out? Hey, we're swingers. I'm going to go see Patty get fucked by another girl or something like that. You know, don't. Keep it to yourself. No one needs to know your fucking business. And I know this younger generation that's come. Okay, so. Take a night out.
Have a good time time see what's going on so here are some things you could do engage in open discussions with your partner about what you are both willing to divulge talk about what are you gonna you're gonna talk about your careers you're gonna be able to say you're do this you do that i don't recommend any of thing that doing that just make up stuff you don't owe these people anything you could tell me your accountant uh ceo of some company you fucking work on an oil rig you fucking you're unemployed it don't matter they don't need to know you're there for a reason hopefully you're there to fuck and have a great time but you never know so uh with that also decide whether on a uniform story for those not in the lifestyle what do you tell your friends that when you're going out hey we're going out oh where are you going what bar are you going to we're going to hang out oh no we're not going to do that uh we're going somewhere else where you don't know so you got to come up with this a story to get out of things like that you know just tell them you got you need a whatever i don't know just tell them something make up something ensure the privacy of your swinger friends by not discussing them with non-participant so if you are open to your friends and your vanilla friends that you are swingers don't talk about your swinger activities if you do just leave their names out of it just say we fucked this one couple whatever we fucked this one guy we fucked this one girl don't say names don't describe or anything like don't take pictures i know some people take pictures i've been secretly recorded uh i was secretly recorded by a couple in bradenton uh florida when i was living in florida uh they had a nanny cam and i saw it in the bathroom and all that when i go take a piss when i got done blowing my load inside his fucking skank ass wife and i was pissed off and all that because you know what i don't want to be recorded and if they do want to record me i'll wear my mask you know and all that so this strategy is about achieving a balance that lets you relish the lifestyle without burdening non-involved parties with sensitive or uncomfortable information it's about managing the flow of information in a manner that reflects your principles and respects the boundary of those around you so how do you handle dual identities with ease for newcomers to swinging juggling dual identities can often spark anxiety recognizing that this is a common hurdle and approaching it with the right attitude and methods can make a world of difference reflecting on your motivations for engaging and swinging and maintaining open lines of communication with your partner are crucial steps to circumvent misunderstandings and minimize stress yes it does because you will be stressed out it's going to be very stressful for a lot of people when they are doing the swinging thing because you know what swinging is very stressful i hate to tell you so take time to ponder why you're interested in swinging i started my swinging because i was a horny young man who had a hard on 24 77.
I needed to drop my loads. I love fucking cumming and all that. I would fucking shoot ropes. I could fucking pull my cock out when I'm fucking someone and shoot her in the face from her pussy because I had that strength. And you know what? I wanted to share my gift to the world. But I was just a horny dude, and that's why I got into swinging. Ensure continuous transparent communication with your partner. I always got to talk to your partner.
are you looking for when i when i meet her go what type of guys are you into what do you like in a guy what do you like in a couple what do you like in a female i talk about stuff like that are you have are you okay with getting split roasted are you okay getting trained or game bane do you want to do a glory hole uh do you want to fuck another couple? Things like that. So we're always open to communication. Collaborate to resolve any challenges that arise. What happens if she doesn't want to fuck anybody? You know, things like that.
So you've got to remember because we do go and she's just not interested in fucking. There's no one that turns around or anything like that, which really sucks. But, you know, you just got to deal with it.
So these strategies are aimed at refining the swinging experience not simply avoiding pitfalls addressing communication barriers and teaming up allows couples to sidestep any typical errors encountered in the lifestyle it is about grafting a balance uh that honors you both your swinging endeavors and your personal life without letting one dominate the other and that happens a lot where one, the lifestyle, like I said, there's couples out there that live their lifestyle 24-7. I can't do it. I don't want to do it. I want to break. I don't want to get swingers burnout.
So swinging should be a source of pleasure and excitement, not anxiety or concern. And I also think if they're swinging 24-7, they live their lifestyle 24-7, I think they're pretty much bored with themselves and their life and relationships. So I don't know. By managing your dual lifestyle with honesty and consideration, you can wholly embrace and enjoy the swinging experience. So the pitfalls of relying on worn-out pickup lines. All right? Guys, listen to this. All right? Couples wear a girl. Women don't really have to wear it.
All they got to do is show their titties, and that's that's a pickup line that always work and it's always universal in the swinging world in the realm of swinging interaction resorting to stale pickup lines is a major faux pas such lines tend to come off as insincere and are likely to alienate potential partners you know every woman probably hears how beautiful they are how great looking they are but you know what sometimes you know these women at the clubs are fucking drop dead ugly so you know, every woman probably hears how beautiful they are, how great looking they are. But you know what?
Sometimes, you know, these women at the clubs are fucking drop dead ugly. So, you know, sometimes, and some of them can see through your bullshit when you see how beautiful they are. And they know they're not that beautiful and all that. They're honest with themselves and they see it and they can smell your bullshit. So, you know, just be honest with people. What sets swinging apart from traditional dating is the emphasis on real connections and shared interest. Here are several reasons why recycled lines don't make the cut. They lack innovation and a personal touch.
Try to make, if you're going to do a pickup line, make it a funny pickup line. Women love guys that can make them laugh. So make it funny.
They come off as disrespectful or reduced individual to objects objects uh see this is a tough one because you know what swinging is about that fucking shallowness of a lot of people you know back when i started it was about does your cock work okay fuck it let's go uh now it's about you got six-pack ab you got an eight-inch cock you fucking looking good you got all your hair you got your teeth and all that stuff yada so it's a lot of things have changed and you know and it mostly is swinging now has reduced a lot of people to being just objects you know look at all the fake boobs that you see at the swinger resorts fucking i swear to god i think someone went to all the swinger resorts a plexa surgeon and just gave them discounts for fake titties because you go to caliente you go to secrets now fucking every fucking woman every other woman has a fake pair of tits so you know what just don't be disrespectful but you know we're everyone's an object there they overworked their crucial aspect of building trust and comfort you know it might it might try to turn a woman off you know she might not have liked what you had to throw down like i said you can never go wrong with something that will make a woman laugh and you got to read the room because some women have no personality you know it's like what's the difference between a woman a pregnant woman and a light bulb you can unscrew a light bulb you know if she laughs at that she's got a sense of humor you know not every single woman has a sense of humor and even guys some guys are fucking up tight so swingers prioritize clear communication and respect which cannot be transmitted through memorized lines instead forging meaningful connection begins with engaging dialogue creating the atmosphere of safety and consent is paramount in swinging it is crucial to be adept at interpreting social cues and to approach others thoughtfully like i said read the room if you can read a room you will be successful single guys uh newbies you will be successful you can read a room it's like when i go to collect that hot wife night i figured out that hot wife night means totally not what half white means in the swinging lifestyle and i learned that it is the wife's hot so they're a hot wife whereas hot wife party means she's into other dudes and all that.
So I learned that just because it says hot wife at Colette's doesn't mean it's going to be a hot wife night. So for additional tips, explore the latest Any Swinger podcast for any post that you might have. How do the client advances to, you know, as a couple, you don't want to be disrespectful. You know, I know a lot of couples say they want respectful single men, but yet couples are not respectful to other people or other men, or they don't want to give that respect back.
So, you know, couples learn how to politely and newbies, you should learn how to politely turn down someone because it's not nice. It's not fun being turned down and all that. If you're a very hot-looking couple, you'll probably never get turned down.
You'll probably get turned down once every 100 times you ask, but for the ones of average to below average in looks and all that, in body, we'll get turned down all the time, and it's not fun to get turned down because you really feel bad about it, and it hurts people's feelings, and we don't want to do that because we want to make everyone happy and all that so interpreting the social cues and singles signals that you get the ability to understand and respond to social cues and signals are is indispensable in the swinging community to prevent awkwardness effective communication is fundamental to swinger interactions acquiring sensitivity to uh to others emotional states if uncertainty or nervous arises, it is advisable to observe and wait before initiating contact.
So here are some advice that you can use. One, maintain open communication with your partners about your desires and expectations. Okay, that's very simple. Two, deliver challenging feedback with compassion and understanding. All right?
Don't be, just say, no way, we're not doing it you know decide understand what the other person think what are the reasons three and final one utilize the post-encounter debrief as an opportunity for self-improvement reflecting on success and areas of growth when you're out going home you're driving home maybe you talk about the club what did you guys experience what did you what did you do newbies is very important how'd you feel how did that guy with the huge penis uh make you feel that he was going to pound town on your wife or the beautiful woman with the nice fucking ass the fake titties and the freshly shaved pussy sucking and fucking your husband and sucking his uh seed out of him like there was no like there's no tomorrow how did that make you feel so you want to talk about that stuff and so you guys will be fine and all that swinging is meant for pleasure and discovery should discomfort occur it's entirely appropriate to take a moment to reassess like i said newbies you might you might have to do a timeout you might have to do a pause and that's okay because guess what swinging will be there so say like you pause for a year guess what a year from now today swinging was going to be there uh and all that so you know unless the world ends swinging is always going to be there because swinging has been here since fucking probably some of the first cavemen were walking where they're all butt fucking each other or whatever so forging authentic connections versus using stock openers all right the ability to genuinely connect is pivotal in swinging where an authentic mind can transform an uncomfortable moment into a cherished memory and that's very hard for a single dude single guys we have it rough we got to be fucking on our game 24 7 when we're at the club we cannot have an off day you always got to be bring your a game and initiating the conversation is half the battle because you got you know what sometimes the guys are stone cold they don't want to hear anything don't want to talk to no one and i always say it's always good like when a guy does not talk to me he's not fucking my partner i ain't gonna let him touch him he has to i'm letting her fuck so if you want her to fuck her you better talk to me and a lot of guys don't do that so they get to know when they ask if we're on play i go no not with you sir all right sometimes women are hard to use pulling teeth you know what are you doing here all that stuff you know you ask just simple answer questions and they can't even do it just look at on your online stuff and you know texting and doing tinder and bumble and all that shit uh resist the urge to rely on uh hawkeye openers show a sincere interest in getting to know others instead a straightforward greeting can lead to discovering mutual interest shared laughter and a comfortable chemistry so maybe you'll find out when you're talking you guys live grew up in the same area you know you're from out of state you just moved down here whatever you come from the same area your same background ethic background stuff like that so you never know so tips for deepening connections included one engage in active listening and thoughtful responses to relate personal relate personal anecdotes and shared experiences to find commonalities.
Like I said, nothing can help a single male get inside the swing community as having something that's in common with everyone else. Also, newbies, same thing. Find out what you have in common as you get your foot into the swinging world. Find couples that you have common ground with. Maybe they have a four-year-old son too, you know, things like that. Three, suggest activities or subjects you both find engaging. Sports, music, movies, sex, all that could be helpful. I don't know. Remember, the swinging lifestyle extends beyond more physical attraction.
It's about fostering relationships that enrich the experience for all parties.
All right, is 99.9 percent of it i'm going to tell you that right now people newbies it's all about the attraction you know people will say on other podcasts or blogs or whatever they'll say hey it's a physical attraction is not the most important thing bullshit it is because you go to a club guess what best looking people are fucking so finally be aware of applying generic productivity tips to social interactions every meaning is unique and strategies that facilitate one's personal social ease might not suit another remember we have people who have you know uh ptsd autism and all that stuff we have all kinds of people in this lifestyle so just because you are introvert or extrovert you go over your social butterfly doesn't mean everyone else will be so remain flexible and responsive to the nuances of each new encounter newbies just remember that so let's see what about if you're going to a swing or event a house party and they ask you to bring something i hate it when they do that because i'm like fuck what do i bring you know you got a lot of sex going on and got food there so what do i bring it's like going to a strip club for a fucking dead lunch or something like that you know do i really want to bring something but anyways so you know what should you bring to a swinger soiree foods what type of foods?
So when gearing up for the swinger soiree, selecting the right snacks and dishes is key. Certain foods should be sidestepped to maintain comfort and add to the pleasure of the experience. Here's what you might want to consider leaving out when you're party packing.
So pungent foods, stinky ass food like garlic, onions, seafood could be overpowering and off and off putting during intimate encounters like your bad breath stuff like that uh messy prone items foods that are saucy or greasy like barbecue wings can lead to unsightly spills or stains and stuff like that uh i like fucking butter i like that at a party but you know i don't see a lot of it you know finger foods are usually the best thing to do just bring finger foods complex intensive to carb dishes opt for an easy to eat finger foods over those that necessitate cult cuttery for a smoother mingling experience and highly alert allergenic items sideline potential allergens such as nuts and selfish to be considerate of those with food sensitivities like i said you have to be worried about what people um what health issues they bring because we're all we're not all healthy we have some problems so we all have those problems so you know you just want to be very careful what you bring into a party the aim is to enhance the laid-back seductive ambience not cause distraction or discomfort through your food selections whipped cream will be good to bring maybe by adhering to these insights you'll be fostering a considerate and pleasurable experience for everyone in line with sex party etiquette that prioritizes consent and comfort now the person if you are a newbie and you're throwing your first party this might be a good tip but if you are a newbie going going to your first party not throwing it but you're going to someone's house party or something like that you know you know ask the host and hostess what they should bring what you should bring they say nothing don't bring nothing bring a bottle of wine or whatever because you know everyone likes to drink uh you can't go wrong with alcohol at these parties i can tell you that uh but you know just check it out ask those people what you should do what you think you should bring if you're a newbie because you know you don't know much and you know let's face it you got to start knowing much more anyways so by so that is what you should do if you are you know going to your first you're a newbie you're going to your first house party so you want to host now do i recommend newbies doing this no i don't recommend it because it's hard and it's very difficult and you gotta remember as an as a host and hostess your job is to make sure you your invitees have a great time so if you're there trying to get laid it's you're not gonna be a great host because you know the host and hostess have to make sure everybody's having a great time so if you see someone in the corner a couple in the corner you gotta figure dig them out get get them out of that corner get them naked and get them fucking all right you can't be trying to get your nut before everyone else so taking on the host role for a swinger event invites a chance to set the stage for memorable affairs all right and if you do become good at it you know good for you comfort and inclusivity should be at the forefront of your hosting duties now when you're hosting at your house you have every right to say who gets to come to your house and who doesn't so you know just remember that so clearly outline the theme and code of conduct in your invitations are you going to have a halloween party are you going to have a costume party stuff like that what's the theme all white all black uh roaring 20s you know some movie theme 80s theme stuff like that so so stock a variety of drink snacks mindful of different purposes and dietary needs like i said alcohol is always good and those mixers you know coke you know seven up stuff like that have those things there for people to mix their alcohol with and all that finger food snacks potato chips dip stuff like that all that would be good set the scene with ambient lighting and background music that enhances the mood without draining off a conversation do not fucking pump that music so goddamn loud that people cannot have a conversation when we go to the clubs these clubs are so damn loud we can't have a conversation i was at uh the night game a couple weeks ago and it was fucking friday night it was packed as hell because it was a $40 for couples and i mean it was so damn loud me and the anyone who i wanted to talk to we couldn't talk we had to shout at each other we had to scream at each other it was just fucking way too much i'm like fuck this how can you mingle with this crowd and i don't understand why they had the music so goddamn loud so to host is to curate an oasis where guests can unwind bond and savor the time it's not only about opening your home but also fostering opportunities for camaraderie and pleasure um so the dynamic locals locales such as pairs wishing to evolve into swinging circle mastering the craft of hosting could pave the way to esteem membership and enriching social liaisons so you can make some friends you can make more friends definitely if you're a newbie and all that if you're a newbie have a veteran couple help you put this thing together if you know a veteran couple because you know what it's a good way to get your name out there and meet other people and start your own little podcast and have your own little side hustle.
So, the dietary needs of a swinger lifestyle event for newbies. Effective event planning in the swinger community involves acknowledging and accommodating the array of dietary preferences and restrictions of your guests. Here's how to tackle this with task, this task with care. All right?
You got to be very be very careful with this all right start inquiring about dietary limitation or choices before the event to anticipate uh anticipate needs all right anticipate the needs of the people what do they want finger foods just stay with finger foods i just don't understand why people want to go all full board on these house parties things organize a checklist of dietary necessities that will guide your food selection process if you want to get really involved in you want to cook some steaks whatever go ahead provide a spread with an assortment of dishes to cater to various preferences such as from vegan to low-carb lifestyles all right and i don't know i really don't see food running out every house party i've been to the food has been the least worries of everything not a lot of people have eaten because a lot of people go out before and eat dinner then they go to the club because the house party doesn't start to eight nine o'clock so you really just want snacks for people um after the fucking because you know what i'm going to tell you what you know when people start eating the food at a house party is after they got a couple rounds of fucking so make use of clear labels to indicate with with ditches which ditches fulfill specific dietary needs to prevent gas from guesswork yeah because you're not always going to be there so you might want to do that so if it has shellfish it has like nuts in it just put nuts in there whatever you got to do ultimately the objective is to cultivate an inviting scene where dining is a pleasure not a concern thoughtful menu planning is a cornerstone of hosting a well-regarded health-conscious swinger gathering all right so that's how you do the parties now we're talking about hot wiping we could talk about all kinds of other stuff but i think you know i'm gonna start stop right there because you know we got a lot of things to talk about uh later on so i'm gonna stop right there we're gonna go move on i hope you had a wonderful evening or enjoy listening to newbies remember if you have any questions just ask do not just assume all right just ask don't worry about it be open to it try to limit what you're doing you do you don't have to do everything at once you can go slow take your time all right ladies remember advocate for yourself you run this lifestyle so with that everybody keep on swinging i hope that everyone has a great evening a great day a great week and thank you for listening to the swinging single swinging single podcast remember email me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com check out on me on twitter instagram tiktok all those other things and keep on swinging america and gentlemen shave your cock and balls
