Welcome back to the Swinging Single Podcast with your host, AC Maxwell. In today's episode, we are joined by the fabulous Ms. Joyride, who shares her personal journey and introduction into the exciting world of swinging.Ms. Joyride brings her expertise and insight to the show as she offers invaluable advice and tips for newcomers to the swinging scene. From navigating first experiences to communication strategies with partners, Ms. Joyride provides a candid and honest perspective on how to embrace this lifestyle confidently and respectfully.Join us for an enlightening conversation with Ms. Joyride as she opens up about her own experiences, busts common myths, and empowers listeners to explore their own desires in a safe and consensual manner. Tune in now to learn from the best and kick-start your swinging journey with confidence.
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All right, welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell. We have a special, special guest today. We got Miss Joyride coming in, going to talk about her little life and her frustrations as a swinging single female or a former swinging single female. Is that correct? Former? I'm always on the fence. She's always on the fence. You hear that? She's on the fence, but she should be on the cock, really. Yes. Yes, you should.
And she is here to talk about her stuff, her life, and also she's going to give some advice from Facebook posts because, you know, she's a good advice giver. Yes. Yes, you are. So tell me, what started you, why did you even start thinking about swinging in the first place? So, let's see. Um, about 15 years ago, I was dating a guy that was into the whole, um, BDSM lifestyle. Okay. The BDSM lifestyle. He liked to chain you up, whip that ass, big ass.
She nice big juicy ass gentleman thank you um he liked to experiment a lot of things and we started dating and it was very vanilla up front and then he said hey come with me to a party one night and i'm'm like, okay, I'm down. And we went to a lady's home in Houston. And the door opened up. And she had her husband on the floor on all fours with a dog collar on and a leash. And she was butt naked with thigh-high leather boots on. And I was like, oh, what am I getting myself into here?
um explored a lot of things tried a lot of things my main goal was to just break out and and just explore my sexuality um okay i had never really done that before i was a good girl i got married and lost my virginity at 26 years old shit and then shortly after he got ill passed away with cancer and i was like pandora's box i had just started having sex and had no one to have sex with okay so all right so let's go back to this you went to a bdsm party right yes did he say hey we're going out we're going to a bdsm party did he mention it so he didn't say a word to you he said it was an alternative lifestyle but i was such a newbie to sex in general yeah um i had no idea what he was talking about i'm like i don't know maybe it's alternative music right i don't know so you didn't even so you he didn't like say this is alternative where people might be in collars nude maybe having sex beating the shit out of each other blood he said it was gonna be a sexy party a sexy party and you never and you knowing very little like every swinger does because we all start off new we don't know shit yeah we didn't know that when he meant sexy was it's going to be a sex party yes so was there people having sex there yes um so this lady was self-made um What do you mean, self-made?
Very, you know, well-off, I guess you could say. Affluent.
We should say affluent sure um i didn't know the industry i don't know any of her business but she had like a 13 bedroom house and each bedroom was a theme so oh shit she had like a dungeon going on in one room she had different colors different fetishes different niches for people to explore she had this gorgeous backyard with this beautiful pool and yeah everybody was naked and I've always struggled with my self-confidence being like a you know thicker girl um so i i decided to just let it all loose really got butt naked jumped in the pool i i had about nine shots of tequila first okay liquid courage yes um and he disappeared actually and i didn't know where he took off or what he was doing but he's like mingle i'll be back later okay and yeah um got hammered Thank you.
and i didn't know where he went he took off or what he was doing but he's like mingle i'll be back later okay and yeah um got hammered had a lot of fun met a lot of people so not do anything okay so okay so for newbies out there that are just listening start want to get into it you said you got just butt ass naked so with the liquid courage the alcohol is there any advice you could give to anybody when like i'll say like a thicker woman wants to do this but she's oh my body i don't know did you notice anything about the other women's bodies at the place yeah that's what gave me a little more confidence is i was in an arena where people were sure of themselves and that gave me confidence there were all different body types there was a lot of older i mean at the time i was you know 30 i guess yeah so there's gonna be a lot old swinging is in that lifestyle it's old yeah but the younger kids are coming in but that's because of social media it's corrupting their shit curiosity i think um it's a trend you know some people i find now do it as a lifestyle and they enjoy it and they you know have managed it appropriately some people are like oh this is a trend or it sounds fun let's go just a fad for them watch yeah you get a lot of young watchers um i remember even the first club i went to with you there was a young couple that just came in the room do you remember in vegas no in houston we were i don't know if I can say establishments or not.
You can say the establishment. I don't give a shit. It was the night game. Okay. And there was a young couple that was like, hey, we just would like to watch. Okay. And that's the first time I was like, oh, this is fun. Because somebody else wants to watch me have sex. And that was sexy to me. Right?
right like i was the one always watching others but the first time someone's like we want to watch you it was kind of like it felt like an honor like so would a group room thing be fine for you then like remember when you go to vegas yeah you go to the green door zombies everywhere which are the single guys i call them yeah did you get off and have those guys all watch you and they were jerking off while they were watching you i had no idea did you not open your eyes i didn't you should open your eyes because there was a fucking line of dudes on the wall fucking with their dicks out fucking jacking off watching you i'll tell you honestly like i had to that was my first like group thing right multiple dicks in my face in my body all over and it was scary at first right because it i if i get in my head that's a problem right i'm I'm very intellectual's just me it's my personality there's all kinds of people right so if you are an intellectual and you know also other things in my lifestyle like just being a mother right like if i get in my head and i think what am i doing what would my son think about this if he ever found out what are these like right they're complete strangers it's awkward right so i have to shut my eyes and i have to get into my own fantasy world so you have to get so you have to get into a zone yeah because it got really intense really fast well of course you're in a group room there's this guy, give him a blowjob.
And then the next thing I know, there's like four blowjobs going on at once. I've got a dick in my hand, a dick in my mouth, and then some guy starts fucking me from behind. And I look up, and you're just standing there smiling, and I'm like, I trust you. Right. I know you are watching, and you won't let anything bad happen. Nope.
And in your eye was like oh he likes this so then i felt like okay we're a team and i'm course having the funnest time right now but i still had to close my eyes yes and i did in the middle of all this open my eyes for a brief moment yeah and i looked up at this like guy which i would never in my normal life be attracted to of course and i was like fuck shut your eyes like because all of a sudden it was like real versus fantasy right like oh this guy's not my typical choice and oh you know and then i looked at his dick and it wasn't hard yet and it was just like oh like it just it it got me back in in my head where i was like what am i doing well you didn't think yeah but you did go you looked at me go oh this guy's got a big dick the guy that was fucking you from behind yeah and you and you look you so after you said that in a nice oh i'm liking this big dick voice i mean yeah it's you're not used to a big different dicks right like um i don't for anyone listening i mean everybody whoever's listening right like just i just talk i don't i don't have sex a lot you know this i know we know that i know that very busy lot.
You're a career lady. I'm a career lady with my, you know, my son, like all the things. So I'm single. I don't. You heard that, guys. I don't find a lot of time to date. Email me, speakingsinglepodcast at gmail.com to get her info. Now accepting applications. Yeah, why in the fuck not? Always.
You you are a freak i think you just need you are a little slut that needs to come out i don't think i just needs to come out because no you are i'm very discerning but you're just like i said you got to get out of your you got to do one of what is those little things with the mind things and you put an app and it clears your mind that's what you got to do before you go you think too much about it it's not a problem finding dick but i'm always thinking about it of yeah could this dick be something different right because i am single so it's like i would like to find of course a partner right right so it's like by having sex with this guy but i really like him and we have good conversation does it go a different way or is it just purely casual i've never had a i mean i can get on a website and have 900 people trying to fuck me it's duh yeah how how do you know who do i want to fuck right because i don't want quantity i want quality the problem with that is in the lifestyle or anywhere you're going to have to kiss a lot of frogs to get to that quality no i will not yeah well you're going to have to you say you're not but you're gonna have to and i don't want to hear no anymore no more text from you then i'm fucking horny i'm so dumb i just want dick and i offer you a spot where you can get but i have to feel safe number one you're always safe with me with you but on my own like i would not go if there's 57 guys that are knocking on my door i don't i don't to just get the girl to get in a car, go to a stranger's home, walk in and have sex and not wonder.
But didn't you do that with some guy? You said you met a couple. His wife was not going to be involved. You met him up. Wasn't it somewhere down in Galveston area? Yes. Yes. So how did that go then? You were able to do it that then because you fucked him, right? I did. And he was very rough with me to the point where I was like, we need to stop. And he didn't like that. Did you tell him, I don't like the rough shit? Not up front. Ah, see, that's where you messed up. You got to tell him. I mainly talked to her. Okay. She reached out to me and she was like... Did you meet her? No.
Did you meet her at all? No. She wasn't there? No, she left right before I got there. Did? But it was a public spot. So you never saw her? You never saw her? No. All right. Did you speak to her? Yeah. On the phone her yeah on the phone yeah multiple times she reached out to me and she was like we like the look of you we like your attitude we like your profile we want to get to know you so it was like a threesome group chat right and we texted for a while and then there was a phone call and she's like we're doing. I think she was bi, and she had a group of ladies she always traveled with.
They would go to casinos, Lake Charles. They'd go whatever, right? And he allowed that to happen with her. Right. But one day, I guess, he asked, like, well, if you get to go do this, like, what do I get out of it?
You get your too yeah type thing tip or tip like i don't i don't he didn't get off he did not get off for like watching the whole lesbian thing he's like multiple women for me don't do it i agree like i can watch porn and women on women sometimes or a turn on but it's not his thing he didn't even like because she invited multiple girls to join like to both ways right he's like i don't even like a bed full of women if i had five women one sucking my dick one sitting on my face one he's like that it doesn't even do it for me okay like one or two at a time maybe but he just he would like to explore single sex with other women while she gets to be allowed to go do her thing right so we talked about all that you know boundaries rules things like that um so that's where you're we talked about the boundaries that's where you have said, I'm not into the beating or the rough sex or anything like that.
That was where you probably should have said that. I kind of did say, you know, I'm not into. You can't be kind of. You got to sit there and beat. This is what I don't want, rough sex. You can slap my ass, but don't slap my back. Don't pull my hair. Do shit like that. That's where you got to say. You got to be very, when you're in this lifestyle. You know what? It doesn't matter. Vanilla lifestyle.
You got to be clear to the, straight to the point because people try to interpret shit and you can't and you know when you're trying to interpret it doesn't mean it's going to be right yeah and i learned from that um good but also he did say after like i turned him on so much the sex was so good the blow The blowjob, right? You're good at that. Nobody really knows. You know. She does porn star blowjobs. My blowjobs are awesome. You don't do that haktua, though. No. You don't have to. I mean, I can, but. Who wants that? Who really? Yeah. I don't. That could be a whole other podcast.
I don't understand. The haktua? What spitting on things people that i i believe that was a that's a black thing because you see a lot of these porn videos of black women they spit the shit all over the place and it's all over it's like what the fuck are they it's just it's like a big mess if you get a dick far enough back in your throat yeah there's a different spit than what you're right in tongue. I don't know how to explain it. All right, go back. Okay. Go back to the dude. He just said that, yeah, I was sucking his dick, and he was like, your tits and your face and your eyes and your hair.
And it just amped him up to the point where he got a little overboard. Right. And when I told him to stop, he realized it, And he was very respectful. Oh, that's good. It wasn't like I was like, oh, my God, I feel unsafe. But I just wasn't comfortable with what was going on. It just got a little rougher than, you know, because I don't mind.
And that's how i pitched it to him right like i don't mind the ass spanking i enjoy a good i okay so it goes all the way back to the bdsm days right where i started going with this guy i was dating and more and more i realized that i enjoyed a little pain with my pleasure okay um he Um, he took me to a public dungeon in Dallas called the sanctuary. If anybody's in Dallas, it's a great place. I don't know if it still exists, but very safe, very professional, very clean, but there's no sex. Okay.
And that's what I enjoyed most was that I liked the play without the sex sometimes okay and that was maybe because i was just weird because i i work in the medical industry and i always was like hiv and you know things like that are not curable it was scary for me in the beginning because of those kind of reasons. So I don't mind a little pain with my pleasure. Right. I don't mind not having sex.
I can actually have an orgasm from long, drawn-out spankings, nipple play right things like that so i really got into that so with him i was like these are the things i do enjoy he took it a step too far but um did you come did you have the good orgasms with them one just having one good orgasm that's all you need one good one i have a really hard time having an orgasm during intercourse right now it's been a lifelong thing mostly it's pussy eating and fingering with you right um yeah a lot of clitoral stimulation um so if you go to the during sex yeah i always thought like if i ever you know like the next time i'm in a public setting if i just bring my little pocket vibrator with me it'd probably be a whole lot more enjoyable but why don't you still learn i didn't know you could to a club yeah you can bring whatever you want as long as there ain't no dangerous weapon you're good so but i'm still learning things this is something that you learn as you go but yes but you seem to be Thank you.
no dangerous weapon yeah so but i'm still learning things this is something that you learn as you go but yes but you seem to be oh i'm not gonna go to a club i'm not gonna do that i still have a fear that i'm gonna run into someone i recognize oh someone's calling but but you gotta remember they're i think swinger clubs are not well known right do you? Do you drive by any place and go, oh, that's a swingers club? No. Exactly. I would have never known. So if, say like you have someone from work and they're there, they're there because they're swingers too.
They're not there because, oh, they stumbled on it. Johnny and Alice didn't just walk into that bar on accident. They knew what was there. It still puts a preconceived notion of what that person, right? It just lingers with you. And then if you see them at work, it's like, hey.
It only lingers with you because you're thinking about it too much what you would just if you see someone just sit there say hey we're both here at the same place we both enjoy the same things obviously when we leave this place it ends we don't know anything about this weekend we don't know anything about this place we don't talk about it at work if we do we call HR that's a weird conversation it is a weird no you have a conversation with them at the place Thank you.
about it at work if we do we call hr it is no you have a conversation with them at the beginning at the place because i had i met only one time i have ever met someone from work at a club and i but then it it takes it a level deeper right because swinging is usually a married couple's thing, right? No. It's not. Not always, but typically and traditionally, it's a couple's thing. Right. Married or not, right? Yes.
So when you're a single woman out there, and I don't know how everybody else looks at it, And what I had to kind of get over in my head was if you're single, you're just like a dirty, nasty whore out there trying to get as much dick as you can. If you go as a couple, oh, it's distinguished. It's different. My wife, I'm allowing my wife to have other dick. Or we're going to swap with a couple. Or it's a consensual thing. But the way I look at it, and with Vegas, it proved my point because there were couples sitting around watching. There were couples sitting around playing with each other.
But the minute, I don't know if you remember the room upstairs with the cross, the Jacob's cross. Right.
The minute this single woman walked in and she was like, I'm here, boys, there was like 10 men on her right right you remember that chick and yes so it's like you know they're like oh yeah the slutty bitch walked in and they were just they pounced like rabid dogs they're gonna listen this is what happened when a couple walks into that club the man's there protecting her so the guys are not going to do anything now if that if that same couple said the girl said exactly what the other girl said walks in says i'm here boys 10 guys would have pounced on her ass 10 guys pounced on you there were guys i told you if you there were fucking 10 there was a line of guys with their dicks out, jacking to you, watching you fuck and do blowjobs and all that.
You, as a single female, are at the top of the totem pole, so to speak. You are what every fucking couple fantasizes about. You are what every single male fantasizes about.
You are like, you're the most privileged in his lifestyle because you could do no wrong other than fucking give up give people stds you could fucking be the worst person human being i know women who are the worst people in the world will fucking kill their kids for just to get money or something shit like that but they're swingers and they're single and everyone loves them they're the worst personalities horrible people horrible human beings but yeah because they're single and they're swingers and they're female they are looked at like every couple wants to fuck them now the hotter you are it's going to get more it's going to get worse because everyone wants to fuck you then but uh with that the single girls you don't have to worry about that because people are not even thinking of any dirty thought about you.
They're like, fuck, I wish you would fuck me. Those couples wanted you to fuck them. They were fucking jealous that you were fucking those dudes when they're not with them because they go, they want you to have that threesome with, that final fantasy. They're not looking at you as like, oh, what a fucking whore. No.
that girl that got fucked by those 10 guys when they pounced on her shit that girl they didn't they like fucking and i guarantee those women that were there they're probably jealous of that woman that damn she got the confidence to do that or damn she's got a man that let her do that because a lot of women are not even as a swinger swinging women at couples some of those women are some sexually frustrated women because they're not allowed to be who they really want to they can't they don't want to tell their husbands i want to get gang banged i want to get gang banged by 10 guys i want 10 guys to blow their loads on my face i want them to blow their loads on my body and tits and all that they can't tell their husbands that because their husbands are like no dick either we swap with the couple a couple or we don't swap at all.
It's couples and single females. Single men stay out. So a lot of women are like that where they're jealous. They're more jealous of you than anything. They're not thinking, what a slut. They're like, God, I wish I could be that slutty. That's what they're saying to them. Well, that's a different perspective.
Well, yeah, because you're in your head thinking, okay, because I'm fucking a bunch of dudes, I'm slut no you're a swinger you're not a slut a slut is the one who denies herself anything so i ain't gonna do this because i'm worried about what other people think that's a slut a slut is that that's a slut someone that goes out and does their thing as long as you're protected like i made sure those guys are wearing condoms and all that you're doing everything their dicks look normal. They didn't fucking have warts on them. Shit like that. They're fine. But, you know, you got to be safe. Yeah.
And like I said, those guys, like, I guarantee you, when I went back and went to Vegas, I went back to that place, same thing. You said the single girl came in, the 10 guys jumped on her. A couple went in there.
Two two couples went in there they want to get gang banged by all the guys and fucking they got in the bed and fucking 20 guys jumped on those beds like i said it's zombies like they never saw pussy before i mean i always tell the green door that club for an amateur i think that was not a good place for you to start at because of the you well it's a little raunchy that and quality of people there yeah the quality is not great i think when i always offer my advice to couples when they start out so i always tell the guys go to one of the classiest places you can find if you got to travel out of of state, you got to travel out of city, go.
Because your first time, your first impression, you only got one chance to make a first impression. So if you go to a shitty place like the Green Door is or the place in Houston, H-E-W, Eyes Wide Shut, you're going to fucking lose that girl. She's going to, I don't ever want to do this shit again. It's horrible. But if you go to a classy place with some classy people, she might go, you know what? These people are normal people.
I like it let's fucking do it again but with the green door i think that was not a place for you to go to your first time and i always recommend if you're a newbie in the lifestyle as a couple do not go there because especially if you don't like single guys because they let all guys in they don't have a i always i think they should have a limit yeah a lot of couples a lot of they separated it yeah but you had to go through cage like yeah but you had to separate awkward they were like lined up along this like prison style door cage like waiting for someone to just pick them yeah it was weird that's how a lot of it is for a single guys that it's that way we just have to wait we just look fucking and that's why we look creepy and weird and shit because of that if it was just normal everything was open it wouldn't be that bad but with that place they did block the ad couples only area but the problem was you know they can look in and they're watching through the windows and shit like that but as a as a newbie couple if you don't like single guys in your general vicinity and you can't and you can't handle it that's not a good place to go because it's 80 60 70 80 percent of the clientele they're single guys yeah it's not a lot of couples like i said that remember the whispers we went to that would that was the ideal place to go i enjoyed that i enjoy the yeah and i i guess but you got new there distinguish them right it's hard to say i mean I guess you can but some people are just nudists and they enjoy the dankiness the freedom but the people there are nudist swingers they're swingers well they were not it was not nudists they were swingers but also it's like for me because i categorize everything, they were just chill, right?
Like, they enjoy a certain lifestyle, whether you have sex or not. And I enjoyed that place because, yeah, we were barbecuing, having drinks, you know, sunshine, a pool, everybody was chill, the music.
And then when we felt horny, they had a room a room and we went and i had no problem fucking you in a room full of people watching or coming and going and then you go back out to the pool and you enjoy your day right right in the club there's just a different expectation and yeah you're right and like i feel like i'm an attractive woman and in some of these clubs i i don't know i don't want to sound arrogant but i'm more attractive than some of the women there you can say your some is better off the like i like there's other women that have better bodies but then it's like better face right um so i think i'm good mix, right?
I'm not too horribly obese, but I'm not, you know, like, I'm not. Anyway, so I'll toot my own horn. I'm a pretty attractive woman. You're fine because you like the fuck. I'm telling you that right now. And you could, we could do anything, and you're like, cool, cool about it.
But in the club, it's just just it was different because it's like so many people are staring it's like a meat market like yeah yeah of course what are you gonna do where are you gonna go can i touch you can i watch you what do you think secrets were i mean whispers was it was a meat market and then they literally had meat out being with you it's like and i don't know if we haven't ever talked, we haven't ever talked about it a lot, but it's like, do you want me all to yourself? Do you want, if I find someone I'm attractive to, attracted to, can I just venture off and do like whatever?
Or do you want me, you know, it's like, it's hard to know, like to know like okay i want to fuck him but i wouldn't mind fucking him but should i make sure that he has a wife and we can no swap or all right you want to it's always like i told the club it's different like no it's the same this is my this is my thing because they're very um cliquish in those clubs oh it's like high school everybody knows each other they stick to their own and it's like because they hang out with each other all the time but see they live that lifestyle 24 7 so they're always their friends in and outside the club and all that so they're you know now with me when i always tell i'm me i don't give a fuck about around with other women i want to take like for my partner for the night, I want you to go out.
We're going to find guys and couples for you to fuck. I would, I love just sitting back and watching you get fucked, a woman get fucked. I don't care if they have a husband, wife, or whatever. I don't really give a shit. If it happens, it happens. It's great. But my thing was with you, just get you fucking, have, you're the best time of your life.
Get laid, have fun, have all all the orgasms because you said you don't have sex that much so it's like let's get fucking a year's worth of fucking in one weekend and that's my thing and so i always tell all my partner if i take a woman it's all about her it's not about me like before like i think 10 years ago 20 years ago it would be selfish me where i would be like yeah i want to fuck as many women as I can. You're just there to help me get blatant. Now it's the opposite word.
Because I feel like if the woman is happy with me, if she has a great time, she has the best time of her life, she's going to want to do it more and more, right? She's not going to be like, oh, okay, this is done. One and done, I'm done. She goes, well, you know what? Fuck it. So I make sure the woman's taken care of. Guys are wearing condoms. The couples are wearing condoms. I make sure the couples are not bullshitting because I had an incident at TPC North at Thanksgiving time where a couple said they were going to do something and they didn't. It was only the man.
But I want that girl to have the greatest time of life. I want her to come a thousand times, have orgasm a thousand times or whatever.
So that's what I was doing for you we didn't did i fuck another woman no no you didn't i felt like you had a horrible time no i had a great kind of woman i am did you not say did you just said the look in my eye yeah that was one time i was having a great time i thought like this is great because i love that she's having a great time she's fine i know she's enjoying herself and she's gonna fucking never forget about this weekend yeah it's hard to forget about that shit but i but you like i said you are thinking too much no it's my nature and my personality to take care of people.
I'm just a giver. But you don't have to. It's hard to let go and to receive without wanting to reciprocate. You said you're a giver. You were giving me pleasure. Everyone's asked, everyone goes, how can you watch another man fuck your girl? I'm like, I'm allowing that to happen.
That's not happening because whatever reason that's happening because of me it's not because of her it's not because of him it's because of me she's having that fucking orgasm because of me he's having that nut because of me it's that's it that's what pleasure i get i'm the i'm the king you know i might be getting my girl might be fucking someone else but you know i'm still the king and at the end of the day guess what who she goes home with me and all that yeah so that's what i always you know you were giving me something you just didn't know you didn't think you were thinking too much into it you or i had a great time well in the same respect i want to watch you fuck and you never fuck anyone but me at the club so but that's you can find someone for that thing how do i find someone how do i get another see that's what you need to learn or like how can i just sit back rub my clint while i watch him fuck another woman well see that you've got to learn.
That's why you've got to keep going because you'll learn from other people. That's how I learn from everywhere else, wherever I go. It's hard to navigate. It can be if you just get out of your head for a minute. Because I go in and it's like, I'm bold. I'm going to do whatever I want.
And then and then i don't know like we were sitting in one room one night and i was just watching all this action going on and i'm like i don't know i wasn't feeling it and there was nobody that i was like i really want to be with him but i really was in vegas or dng or so i was like i think i even asked you i was like should i go flirt around should i go find some woman like no it was here in houston the night game no it was the other one because there was colette's no but that's all we went to yeah no um yeah it had to be the night game pendulum the pendulum problem with the now this is what sucks about houston the clubs are so thin now there's so many clubs the crowds are thin so there's not a lot of a lot of people at each club if you go friday the first friday in friday of the month at tng you go it's packed because.
Because it's $40 the night for couples. So everyone goes there. So that's the only time it's ever packed. Now, the rest of the time you go there, it's not that packed. Like tonight you go, it won't be that packed. There will be seats available. Friday night there on the first Friday, it's fucking no seating. So, yeah. So it's kind of hard. But I'm like, you just got to say, you want to fuck someone? That's all you got to do. We're at a sex club, so why don't you just say, you want me to go find someone to fuck, for you to fuck? But I'm a little shy by nature.
I think you know that now, and I'm still finding myself. But you don't have to be shy. I'm finding what I like, what I don't like, what works for me. So it's hard to just voice what I want or what I don't want. And I think you have said this before, but when you said when we go somewhere together, you prefer me to be a little bit more submissive versus if we're just like right after this podcast, we want to fuck.
then you like to kind of let me, well, even in Vegas, you wanted me to just like attack you rape you whatever you know right like be the aggressor but in the club you want me to be a little bit more submissive so I have a hard time like you know finding that balance I guess well when're at the club, you're submissive to me. See, but then it's, that's my point. Like, I'm trying to stay in that role and be who you want me to be. But also it's like, I don't know how far out I can venture or what I can, you know. You can do, you got to just be submissive to me as the man.
And if you feel like you want me to be with someone else, you go out and say, I'm going to find someone for you. That's all you got to do. So figuring all those things out. Yeah. And really just, yeah, finding the courage to say, this is exactly what I want. And it's so much harder for women than it is for men, in my opinion. Why? Maybe not all women, but just, you know, years and years of societal oppression. You know? Like, women are labeled a certain way if they're promiscuous. They're labeled that way outside.
You know, oh, you had 27 women last women last night you're a fucking stud and if you're a woman and you go in and you're like but why are you telling everybody i had 27 so you go you go to so you go to the office and tell everyone you suck 27 dicks no but even then okay then how are people openly express that but if a woman does it's like oh Oh, my God. So you think I walk around telling guys I'm a swinger? No.
I don't tell no one i am like i tell i tell everyone no one my kid the kid would never know until the day i die when he finds a shit if i'm still if i'm still fucking at 70 or whatever when i die no my parents don't know no one knows i don't tell no one so when they ask me what'd you do this weekend oh man i just went you know i went to home depot did some stuff i don't sit there go oh i'd suck twitter i fucked 27 women again here's the thing you have a life but you have a life too you can make up lies too you can't lie jesus christ girl no i lied oh baby Jesus, just lie lies go in the office man i had a great weekend i just did nothing relax sat by the pool okay but just admit that even with her even your very best friend i told her oh i'm i'm out like hanging with this dude and he's a swinger yeah you know don't tell him it's just say you're hanging out with a dude why you Now add swinging because if you're a single woman then they're like who is he what does he do is it interested do you are you gonna date him are you this and that okay like no it's purely sexual answer those questions they will look just okay then that's not a friend that you need well that's again these are the life's hard things you got to get rid of those people i had to do i got it i was i was i had an early age i was good i got it at an early age when i was in high school got rid of all the negative out of there people that didn't like me for me i would rather be hated for who i am than to be loved for who i'm not so if they don't love you them get them out.
Get them out of your life. You don't need them. But they can love everything about you, but the minute you say... Then you don't need them in their life. Oh, I went to this club last night, and I got banged by five different guys. Once again, you don't have to... Once again, you can admit that. But girls like to tell. Then don't... Why do you got to tell people? That's your problem. I mean, there's reality TV shows about just chicks gossiping all the time. That's how everybody loves the TV. There's podcasts of that shit. But still, you don't have to tell everybody. That's like a girl thing.
Girls out there will understand me right now. Chicks like to talk. Yes, we know you like to talk, but you don't have to talk about every single fucking thing. Yes, we do. Oh, Jesus. Well, then that's your problem right there. If you go get a new boyfriend and you have sex with him they want to know like how big's his dick? What does he do? Can he get you out? Can he make you cum? Okay. Does he this? Does he that? Right? But that you don't have to admit that you are into threesomes and shit and foursomes and gangbangs and orgies and all that. Sometimes you do. You don't have. No.
Your girlfriends are your therapists and when you have stuff built up and you need a real therapist you have to tell someone women will understand comment comment below i don't know what's going on or you can't comment below write in and tell me if i'm right you're wrong chicks talk how about this how everything how about this why don't you get friends girlfriends that are swingers also i've never came across one all my married friends are just vanilla probably they would never tell me that because it's just a hush wait a minute you're so you're telling me that women don't talk about everything when you just told me women talk about everything well they won't tell on their husbands probably okay exactly you don't have to tell everything to everyone that's your problem you got no censorship well i like to talk my problems we're talking to the mic at least i'm sorry yeah i'll get close so you just got to stop that all right so you want to help some people out okay you want to give some advice to some people?
What are we looking at? I'll read it to you. Don't worry about it. So this is, I'm on a group. It's the Swinger Society 2.0. These people ask questions and all that shit. And some of them are funny and some of them are serious. So, and a lot of them post anonymously because they don't want to get in trouble.
So the wife and I have had numerous interactions with others male female female male female and female male female threesomes foursomes and all that my wife is my favorite porn star oh how nice so i enjoy watching her with other men i'm talking i want to sit back and watch her with three to four guys i'm not bi or anything in that nature i just want to watch her is that normal yes you think it's normal i do i think it's the most normal in this lifestyle is that a man likes to take his prized possession and put her on display for others to not only see but to enjoy and he loves watching that because she right would never have that experience anywhere else so it's it's his pleasure it's his permission um it's very ethereal like men you know love their possessions and their wife being one of them.
So I think that it's the most normal in the swinging lifestyle is to let, especially if there's a fantasy, right?
If she wants to explore with another woman, him saying, yes, you may, and him to sit back and watch her do those things with other people, it brings him pride, pleasure so he's normal so listen anonymous you are normal don't worry about it you like to watch a girl have a bunch of guys i like you just for that so here's another anonymous member we are fairly new to the lifestyle so they're newbies just like you and we swapped with a couple recently oh so what do you think what do you think's gonna do you think is going to happen? Drama? We've texted a good bit throughout the couple of weeks.
We've been knowing each other in group chat. Oh, this is already going bad. This is always going sideways. My husband and I, her and her husband, he's came to play solo with us, and they've come as a couple. We only play together.
Recently recently we haven't had a chance to meet up but still maintain texting okay the mail from the other couple has made comments and asked if i missed him and when i tried to avoid answering that by joking around he seemed a bit upset hurt feelings and likes to give the silent treatment from time to time i just think it's odd to tell a playmate that i miss them i mean i don't know is this red flag behavior or just okay i don't want him them catching feelings and we keep our feelings very shut off to others as we aren't looking to add to our relationship maybe we're too closed off i don't know help so is this a red flag yeah definitely I mean this is a red flag if you're sick Maybe we're too closed off.
I don't know. Help. So is this a red flag? Yeah, definitely. I mean, this is a red flag if you're single and dating, if you're married and swinging, if you're anything. Yeah. I don't understand couples that really want to get to know other couples.
I don't how that adds to it like being friendly with each other is one thing like hey see you at the pool we'll lay around naked we'll have a margarita and maybe we'll fuck each other i don't know right casual friendship is one thing but that's what with that couple i explored with like the group chatting and why do i need to know so much about your life i don't i don't want to get involved we're not sharing feelings we're not making this like a polyamorous relationship where we're gonna live like the partridge family in one house no no like it's it's weird to me so if they get too clingy and too attached that's a big red flag because then somebody's gonna catch feelings and then you've broken all the rules well it's kind of what you said about when you go and fuck suck 27 dicks everyone judges you think you're a slut do you think that's maybe why they want to have feelings for someone so this is no we have feelings for them we're not slutty um i think the more you trust a human being the more you feel safe so if we're friends and we're really intimate friends meaning intimate like relationship wise like we hang at each other's house.
We know each other's kids. Then they're going to keep our secret. They're not going to tell anything. They're not going to get mad and exploit or expose us, right? They're safe. Anything safe is fun. I don't know. You know, but it borders on too much because you have to separate personal lifestyle and this lifestyle. I think if we could see their age, I bet you they're in their 30s or 20s. Yeah. I see that more as... But they're also new, so... So they could be new in 20s and 30s. No. Yes.
yes yeah but it's a new thing meaning anytime you start becoming that intimate with someone you want to do it more and more and more right like the first time you had an ice cream cone as a kid you wanted a fucking ice cream cone every day right it was the best so i think it's just like a nuance to like an it not an addiction i don't want to say that but it's like it's an it's a compulsion all of a sudden right oh we can go out we're still married and we're still faithful to each other but we can go out and fuck all these different people let's do it again and then it's like why do you need a connection then you don't but that's what the lady's saying they're like looking for they have the this guy's has a connection with them they want a connection no i would tell them they don't need a connection and and yeah you're you have to form boundaries in that sense i always say if there's a guy out there in the swinger lifestyle that says i need a connection to play with couples that guy's a liar because i never needed a connection to get my dick hard to put it inside a female's vagina yeah just never never ever yeah i think for single women it's different it's difficult okay um i don't think i've ever shared this with you.
But when I first met you, you came off as single-ish. And then, you know, the more I interacted with you, the more I wanted to see you. Right. And that's very hard.
and it was it was borderline catching feelings that's what i guess we're gonna label it you can have feelings for someone like for friendship feelings like you know what i want this guy in my life or this person yeah but i'd be laying in bed late at night like man i just want to go over to his house and fuck the shit out of him right now and i can't or man i wanted this or it'd be nice to see Anthony today or you know Bob or John or right like I could imagine somebody sitting there like I want to go see I don't think we have enough time in the day somebody list of guys you want to see no but I could I could imagine like people like yeah I want to go meet whoever for a drink and lunch other than just fucking right Thank you.
I want to go meet whoever for a drink and lunch other than just fucking, right? Like it gets to a point where you want them more involved for a single person. You want them more involved in your life because they're fun and you know you're going to get laid. It's a sure thing, right? It's a slam dunk. So...
I think you can make that that in the lifestyle you just got to be able to separate the two bullshit the bullshit from the reality of it well i mean i can see like if get out of your head you need to get out of your head that's the problem it's a red flag like you can't get too close to your fun couple partners no i never said that i don't know why people do it all right so one more let's do the one this is an interesting one because there's another newbie one new couple here have never hooked up with anyone yet and been reading and learning about the lifestyle for about two months we are meeting a single guy for a possible future first ever play date this first meeting is just a drink at a local watering hole meet face to face with no expectations this time.
My question is if we advance to the next step to set a date to play, we don't want to play at our house for obvious reasons, it being our first time. And we don't want to play at his house. So how do we go about the hotel? Is there an etiquette? Does a single male pay for the room? Or does the couple pay? Or do they split it? Just curious. What do you do your first time? What did you do your first time? Or what do you do in similar circumstances? All right, for a single guy, for me, for the, let's see, the hotel. I hate this because sometimes couples will refuse.
They'll pay for the hotel and they refuse for me to pay for it. I always say the guy should pay for the hotel room. Yeah. Yeah, I always think, yeah. I always had it when I first started, I would always pay. Then later on, you know, people started, they'll get a hotel room. I go, do you need some money? No, no, don't pay for it.
had one in january this year that they refused to take money i'll pay for it and all that so but no they didn't do so so the guy should so he should pay for the room uh anything like that so the single guy should always pay for the room that's it yeah why not i'm all about splitting but are you a couple no so you're a single girl going with a couple you split Thank you. Yeah, why not? I'm all about splitting. But are you a couple? No. So you're a single girl going with a couple, you split it with them?
I've never been in this situation, but I have had just, I'm a single woman and a single man and we're going to hook up, right? Like I've been there, done that. So I want to control the environment so that if anything happens, I can call management and be like, I have this room under my name, right? Like get him out of here or call the police or something like, or right. Like who the fuck are you fucking with? You need this type of attention. I think of these things. Like that's what I'm saying. Like as a single woman, you never know.
Like you think you're being cool and safe and you got it all under control and then you watch dateline and it's like woman stop watching hooks up with a man off tinder and he decapitated her right more to come right next story but there's so many true crime things out there it's just it's my nature i don't i don't obsess about them, but I want to make sure that I have the upper hand. I don't ever want to have a man know where I live, have my address. He can stalk you, follow you, right? Like, never. So going to a hotel is safe. I pay for it in cash.
Usually I'll just go to the ATM and pull out cash. I don't want any kind of statements or anything lingering around why why no paper trail oh my god why are you gonna kill someone you're gonna no that's why you're taking out kidneys my personal business oh jesus i don't i just that is weird myself always that is weird yeah no because you never know okay what you going to do when they don't take cash anymore? No more hotel rooms. Leave the country. Because that's coming soon. Jesus is coming then. I don't know. What hotel does take cash? All of them. They do? Yeah. Okay.
Even if you got a fork over extra deposit, they'll give it right back to you the next day or in the morning or however long. Yeah, I always want to be in charge. So I'll get it. I'll pay for it. It's my treat. How sweet of you. Bring snacks. Bring booze. Bring whatever, you know, anything. Bring me a gift. A gift of jizz?
I i guess a shot in your coochie yeah all right all right well thank you miss joyride for joining the swinging single podcast talking about your life and giving some help to other newbies out there that might need that help uh so if you got any questions for miss joyride email me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com hey if you're a single dude out there that's got a nice size dick and and nice i don't just think we know that we know that from vegas uh if you like a nice thicker woman that has a good career i mean a high paying career little wink wink gentlemen and you like to fuck and have a lot of fun hit me up, I'll forward your information to the lovely Miss Joyride but other than that, remember gentlemen, shave your cock and balls and keep on swinging
