In today’s episode, AC Maxwell dives deep into the mental health risks that swingers may face, exploring how to recognize and manage emotional challenges within the lifestyle. We also break down the upsides and potential pitfalls of house parties—the social hub of swinging—and what to expect when entering this scene. Finally, AC discusses the delicate art of being forward with a couple you’re interested in: when to make a move and how to do it respectfully. Tune in for insightful advice to help you navigate the lifestyle with confidence and care.swingingsinglepodcast.comswingingsinglepodcast@gmail.comhttps://rollingout.com/2024/03/15/swinger-marriage-risks-4-mental-health/https://www.groupinkellertx.com/
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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell, broadcasting you two from Plano, Texas at the Group N. Keller Hot Wife Takeover Party. Oh yeah, some good times are going to be had tonight. So for over two decades, I embraced the swinging lifestyle as a single male, and on this show, I'm here to share my wildest tales and experiences with you. So grab some lube, gentlemen, and don't forget those tissues for cleanup. Ladies, if you're with your spouse, go, man, and go sit on his face.
Have a little fun and get cozy and settle in for some uncensored eye-opening stories on the swinging single podcast the swinging single podcast with host ac maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only. The opinions, views, and content expressed or shared on the podcast are solely those of the host AC Maxwell and any featured guests or contributors and do not necessarily represent those of the podcast's affiliates, sponsors, advertisers, or partners.
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Oh, yeah, coming to you from Plano, Texas Here at the Group in Keller Hot Wife Takeover Oh, yeah, we're going to have some Hot Wife action tonight, baby Going on vacation in France Need a soul deported to Spain It's making the flick It's their kind of kick The loving, the loving, the green It's a cockle and a hot wife Swing on, swing on It's a cockle and a hot wife Swing on, swing on. And it's in the journalism to fix. Now when it's time to relax. They want it all more. They want it all more. Again and again and again. Alright, welcome to the Swing a Single Podcast. I'm your host, A.C.
Maxwell, and I got a good show for you today. I'm here in Plano, Texas at the Group and Keller Hot Wife Hotel Takeover. They do it once a month. Gentlemen, if you're a good-looking dude, come on down because it's a great time.
Couples, if you love that extra cock, come on down because there's a lot of cock here for you to have if you don't like single men please don't show up and bitch about our single men if you do come because guess what there will be single guys here and i know we're average to below average here at the grouping keller playing grouping keller uh single men category but you know what we always can't be hot but anyways before you go before we get started let's talk about my website go to swing and single podcast.com see all things ac maxwell then go to swing and single podcast at gmail.com check it out because you know what maybe you come on the show have any questions complaints you want to yell whatever you want to tell me i'm wrong go ahead i'm don't mind debate as long as it's a friendly debate you don't start calling names like a lot of people do on Reddit.
Reddit, they always want to insult you like it's fucking, like they're the smartest people in the room. Okay, great. You insulted me. Great. Okay. Let's whip out each other's cocks. Let's fuck your wife and see who fucks her better. And I guarantee I'll bring my A game while you bring your little F game. And F is not for fuck. It's for failure. Anyways.
So, I am here at the grouping killer hot wife hotel take over here and i love it out in plano texas another great job another great you know great time to be had by all everyone you know always has a great time people are very friendly like i said check the group out grouping killer just google it grouping killer and you'll see us uh on there you'll see all the things they do have couples and females only parties most of the time three they have a party every weekend and three of those four weekends is always couples and single females only so if you're not into the hot wifey that's all right if you're not into that extra dick that's all right you don't have to come to that uh the party tonight you've got three other parties you can go to that fits your schedule and you will have a great time.
I'm telling you, the people here are very friendly. The guy who runs it, a very friendly guys always shakes your hand and all that stuff. Hugs you ladies. You know, I wouldn't blame them either, but anyways, the people are friendly. You're going to have a great time. If you come here and you have a horrible time, then that says a lot more about you than the group.
Because group because i as a single guy i'm showing a lot of respect here i don't get uh shitted on now last party you know we had one couple that complained that all the guys were here that were average to below average so you know to whatever you always got to look at who says it you know when i was growing up mom and grandma always says always when someone assaults you look at the source of the insult and when that couple said it you know i looked at the pictures and i go well you know i remember that couple and they're a little average to below average themselves like i said you know there's always that swinger delusional syndrome sds i call it some people have it but if you come here you're gonna be treated well you're gonna have a lot of you're gonna meet a lot of new cool people they have theme rooms my theme room is i'm doing a theme room for the very first time it's the glory We hope you enjoyed it.
as I call it, and some people have it, but if you come here, you're going to be treated well, you're going to have a lot of, you're going to meet a lot of new cool people, they have theme rooms, my theme room is, I'm doing a theme room for the very first time, it's the Glory Hole theme room, so I got, so I didn't have much time to throw anything together, I saw a couple places where you could buy some Glory Holes, it's like a thousand dollars for a setup of three, and it also has the Czechoslovakia, the Czech Glory Hole, reverse glory hole, where the girl get fucked and all that stuff.
So I'm thinking I'm going to purchase that for the next party. See how this glory hole goes and see if people like it. If people don't like it, then what's the point of doing it? Anyways, so that's my theme. Here's the other themes. People have drink mixers. They have bondage theme, gangbang room theme, stuff like that. So they have all kinds of different themes.
and from what i hear when it's a couples only they have pretty uh a lot more theme rooms because you know more people want to have a theme so my theme is the glory hole room and if you can see it it's right behind you uh if you're on the screen i'm on sdc live right now and you can see it it's i just got a three wall partition and i just cut the holes out like normal like a glory hole i put it together i got sandbags honing up so you know just in case nothing falls over because it's not really that sturdy with the sandbags it's a lot more sturdy and all that so you know i did the best that i could with what i had i didn't have much so in a short amount of time like i said there was a checks of check a glory hole for like 900 bucks it's like 869 plus probably shipping and handling so it's gonna be 900 bucks for me to purchase it and they do have the reverse glory hole where the girl could lay down and get fucked or she could bend over and get fucked and not know who's fucking her so i think i'm gonna purchase that later on i don't know like i said tonight is just a test run see how well it's received if it's not received well then you know i'll just stick to swinging my dick around and having a great old time but anyways so i'm here tonight hopefully a lot of people are signed up a lot of beautiful women are supposedly come here now in my 20 plus years of experience i already know we have they have about 150 to 200 people on the list to come party.
You know about, let's say, only about 100 of those people are going to show up. It's always half. It's always 50%. People always talk about, oh, they're going to go. Either something happens, and everyone has a life.
Things come up, and that's one thing that a lot of swingers, newbies, got to don't have to swing every single weekend the swinger club the swinger parties the hotel takeovers are all gonna be there they're gonna be here from this week to next week to 5 10 15 20 years from now unless some fucking radical thing happens where people all of a sudden don't get interested in sex and all that but you know it's gonna be here as long as they're interested sex there's going to be a swinger place a swinger party somewhere near you you just got to find it so you know life comes up so you got to cancel you can't show up it's a bummer but you know it happens you can always make the next party always in my experiences that that's what usually happens people will get busy then you got the people you know who want to come they have a fantasy of coming they have a fantasy of maybe seeing his wife take a bunch of dick or they want to fucking swap with another couple and guess what happens they chicken out they get scared for whatever reason it is they just don't want to do it because they're a little scared of what could possibly happen and all that stuff i don't know like i said sometimes the fantasy is always better than reality of it and i don't you know the reality of it is that i don't want to you know open pandora's box because once pandora gets out you cannot put pandora back in and meaning that maybe you, the male, loves swinging because you get that strange pussy, and you love it, and you can't stop, or your wife loves it because she gets that strange good dick, and you realize that you're not as good as you thought you were, or you're lacking somewhere what she needs, and she realizes that, and now she wants to keep going to the club and all that, so there could be that or the greatest scenarios you both love it you both want to do it and you both communicate well and you live your life happily ever after as a swinging couple you know or ethical nominami whatever the fuck you guys want to talk about so if you're here i don't know but anyways so you just you just got to be you know so it's my experience like only 100 are going to show up.
There's always less people that show up on the days when the single guys come because, you know, couples don't want to be partying with single guys, especially the ones that don't like them. And I appreciate that they don't show up because we don't have any problems because, you know what, if I say hello to you, it doesn't mean I want to fuck. Now, would I fuck every woman that walks through that door tonight? Hell yeah, I would.
I love eating pussy i love fucking women it's just you know i guess that's bad i guess that's not good for me but or whatever else but i'm being honest about it i'm not gonna fucking i'm not gonna sit here and lie that oh i need a connection i don't need a connection no man needs a connection really and then when they tell it when they say that i know i could see a fucking liar from a million miles away and that they're just telling you they're lying to you so i appreciate that since they don't like single men they don't want to party with single men they just stay away that's great thank you uh it it keeps all that awkwardness out of it and all that so you know but you know everything's going great and everything's going to be fun tonight people are going to vibe we got a lot of people sign up hopefully they all show up they all show up fuck it's gonna be a good time they don't show up it'll be a good time no matter what you got to make the when you go to a club you got to make the most of it you got to make that party and sometimes you don't make that party that's on you it's not on the person, your host or hostess.
You know, they can only do so much. If you're introverted, you've got to come out of your shell, say hello to people. Because guess what? We're all here for the same reason. Sex, connection. Connection, sex. That's what they're all here for. And you don't have to be scared about it. I don't know why people are. So, you know, I know you're introverted.
I'm an intro introvert myself i just can't walk up to some dude and say hey man your wife's hot can i fuck her and stuff like that it is it is hard for me and it's difficult but i have over the years i found conversation being funny is a great way into the conversation and also taking care of your body and not fucking looking like a troll like some guys do and i mean i'm gonna be honest some guys in this group i wouldn't let my girl fuck them and i'm a fucking stag and i'm and i encourage my partners to play with other men and i go huh i wouldn't they wouldn't be the guys i would pick to have sex with my wife or my girlfriends or my partners whatever so you know it's one of those things where it's like oh you know so did that couple have some legit concerns yes they did have legit concerns but you know saying that it's average to below average was kind of harsh because you're average to below average couple yourself but anyways i keep going on a tangent if you ever know me i just go all over i'm all over the fucking place i'm all hopped up on you you know, Coca-Cola and Viagra and all that shit.
I'm ready to party. I'm ready to go. It's four, four 34, almost five o'clock right now. So I got to get down to the gym, work out, do all that stuff. So, you know, but anyways, swinging can be a good thing for couples, but swinging can also affect your mental health.
And on this show we always talk about we always want to make sure your mental health because you know what in the end you being around is the best part you don't mean if you're sorry if you're swinging that's fine if you're not swinging you just want to watch party or be an exhibitionist yourself have people watch you fuck that's great too you know as much as i don't like it i'll still support your decisions because i believe in mental health taking care of your mental health taking those mental breaks is very helpful for a person especially in this day and age where we got social media we got people who fucking on the other side of the world criticizing you you might put some video out of you and your kids and something like that and they're criticizing you because they're fucking miserable human being i find that people that criticize other people on the internet are just miserable human beings in the first place and they can't really uh fix themselves so they gotta put other people down to make them feel better about themselves because they have that low self-esteem and all that so you know you got those people there uh and we need to take our mental health serious.
Suicide is never the answer. Don't ever do, if you're thinking about it, just don't do it. Because, you know, you might say, nothing good ever happens to me. But I want you to think about this. You say nothing good ever happens to you.
But what if you're the good that happens to other people what happens if you're that one person that changes everybody else's lives you touch them in a way just basically how your talk how you talk to them or you know you might when you shake their hand they just get a vibe from you and you're that good for them you've got to think that way sometimes you know you say nothing good happens to you but sometimes you're the good that happens to everybody else and you it sounds like a sacrifice and maybe it is a sacrifice but you'll be rewarded i believe in karma i think you'll be rewarded later on in life and like i think i think i am rewarded because all the good stuff that I have done you know I might sound like an asshole on here but you don't even know me you just know what I say you don't even know if it's a bullshit or is it true is it true they could fucking be writing everything on AI for all you know but I always try to do good try to help everybody like I'm thinking I don't know if you're the only one I might be the only one I go what are homeless people going to do good, try to help everybody.
Like, I'm thinking, I don't know if you're the only one. I might be the only one. I go, what are homeless people going to do when cash is gone? How am I going to give a couple bucks to the homeless guy at the subway shop I go to every day? Am I going to be able to give him money anymore? Is he going to have to have a Venmo or a Zelle or whatever? You know, I think about that stuff because that hurts them because, you know what, we should help each other out. And I think our mental health is very important.
So that's why I saw this article about swinger marriages risk for mental health dangers couples face. Swinger marriages come with a set of mental health risks that cannot be overlooked. And like I said, if you and your spouse are having trouble, go see a psychiatrist. Go talk to someone. Talk to someone who is friendly with the lifestyle. Don't go to someone who may not be friendly because we're human beings. They might be judgmental about it, and that could ruin your relationship because they don't understand swinging. They don't understand non-monogamous, ethical non-monogamy.
They don't't understand any of that stuff so make sure you try to find something that is a therapist that is lifestyle friendly google it maybe i'll put maybe i'll find something that's on there and i'll post it on the my show description as soon as this article so swinger marriages a type of relationship where couples consent consensually exchange partners for sexual, have gained attention and curiosity in modern society. Of course, social media and the media have glorified swinging. Swinging has become commercialized now. Look at all the only fan creators who so-called, ah, I'm a swinger.
I'm glad you're making money, but are you really a swinger? Because I want to see you fuck the same people. I want to see you fuck a whole group of people that you don't know and don't film. Anyways, while exploring sexual freedom and desires can be liberating for some, it's crucial to understand the psychological risks involved. This article delves into four significant mental health dangers that couples might face in swinger marriages. By discussing these aspects openly, we aim to provide insights and guidance for those considering or currently navigating this lifestyle.
Engaging, informative, and structured for easy reading, we explore the complexities of swinger marriages and their impact on their mental health. Now, there are four. First one is emotional attachment and jealousy. Second one, communication breakdown.
Third, impact on self-esteem and identity and fourth the mental health strain from social societal stigma stigmas and all those are big topics i think the one that's the most important might be your communication skills are you able to communicate with your partner effectively and in a right type of place because you don't want to be doing that and all that you don't want to be doing something crazy anyways so let's look at the first one the emotional attachment and jealousy one of the primary concerns in swinger marriages is a risk for developing emotional attachments to sexual partners outside the marriage despite initial agreements on boundaries human emotions can be unpredictable when one partner forms an emotional bond with the outside individual it can lead to jealousy and insecurity within the marriage jealousy is a natural emotion but can become overwhelming destructive in the context of swinger marriages it stems from spheres of losing one's partner feelings of inaccuracy and comparative judgments couples may find themselves unprepared for the intensity of these emotions leading to significant stress and anxiety.
Like I said, you're going to be jealous. It might, it could be a good jealous and it could be a very bad jealousy.
You know, you might get jealous because your wife's with a guy who has a phenomenal, just a phenomenal dick cock that's fucking out off the chains uh your husband might be fucking a woman that has the nice to a perfect pair of tits and a big ass and your your body is insecure so you get jealous because it seems like he's enjoying it seems like she's enjoying it well she's making noises that you never heard her make he's doing the same thing so that jealousy might kick in now the one thing that how you combat that jealousy is to be able to communicate with your spouse about your feelings maybe the jealousy is good it turns you on that your wife's getting dicked down real good it might turn you on that your husband's dicking some girl down real well and that but you're still a little jealous because you think that well is he liking her more than he likes me and stuff like that so on and so on so there's things that you can do things you can try and you know i don't know how you handle your jealousy you're gonna have to figure that one out yourself so talking to someone might be a good idea to you know see who talking to someone would be a great way to uh manage your jealousy and all that or talk to your spouse immediately when you're driving home from the club you hotel takeover make sure you discuss about it when you're going home don't get don't get try to get mad don't get all defensive because remember you guys are going home together he's not going home with that girl you're he's she's not going home with that dude you're going home together so you already won buddy you already won lady and you're all good to go now you look at the emotional attachment this is why i say connection is very dangerous i always hear a couple says we need a connection the connection is important well connections can lead to emotions and emotions can lead to bad ideals like hey why don't we meet without our spouses and you have affairs like that and you sit there say no that don't happen because we communicate well I know couples that have communicated are some of the best communicators between each other and I know they're having affairs outside of they don't know I've been one of those guys where a woman would lie to me say oh yeah my husband knows that i'm here with you and a year later i find out he never knew that she was playing with me when they didn't have they didn't play with single guys but she was playing with me on the week outside of the house she took me on vacation and i wasn't supposed to be because she wasn't supposed to be she's supposed to be with her family but, but, yeah, she's with me, and we're having a good fuck-fication and all that.
So there are times where the emotion, that connection and emotion, it can be a bad thing. Now, if you're able to separate that emotion from everything else, you are going to win. If you can separate it, that's great. If you can't, that's where it gets very iffy. Maybe you shouldn't do this type of lifestyle. Maybe you should just be a soft swap couple and not a full swap couple, uh, things like that. So it's very difficult to tell a couple about, you know, what they should and shouldn't do.
But you got to remember, ethical non-monogamy, swinging, all probably it's it's a lot of probably is about loving 50 fucking people swinging is not swinging is just taking fucking going out having a great time fuck another couple and you guys go home to yourself that's what it really is and it's it gets sometimes it gets annoying when couples we got to have connections we got a date for a month before we put out it's like okay no if we're me we're gonna fuck if we're not then adios amiga i'm out because i don't have the time or you know the actually the time or the patience to be waiting uh for a couple when i'm a swinger and you're a swinger even though they tell me i can't be apparently i can't be a swinger anymore because i'm a single guy but anyways uh all that stuff so you know so when you have that emotions you have that connection you gotta be very very fucking careful because those connections can also turn to love those that emotion can turn into love and if you swing a long time you will you swing along enough you will see couples that have done that and's sad because those couples, it's, you know, the lifestyle is, to me, the lifestyle is great.
If you're the right person for it. The lifestyle is not for everybody. The lifestyle is for some people, but it's not for everybody. So you got to be very careful when you get those people who have emotions when they're swinging and all that.
Because then, you know, you don't want that crazy couple showing up to your doorstep you know and i hear crazy stories like couples will fall in love with other couples and things like that then they have a nasty breakup because you know they don't want to play they fucked three or four times already and they're tired of it they want something new they want something fresh and but the one couple wants to keep playing and they get very upset just go on reddit you hear stories like that in fact i think i'll try to read one uh today about a couple that has that there is that same situation where they just want to you know have fun and all that stuff but anyways uh what's the next one the next one after attachment emotional attachment and jealousy is another one communication breakdown the big big part of the three c's the three c's are communication so effective communication is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship and its importance is amplified in swinger marriages discussing desires boundaries and emotional comfort levels requires honesty and openness however the complexity of swinger relationships can sometimes lead to communication breakdowns misunderstandings or the inability to express feelings effectively can result in resentment confusion emotional distance without clear and continuous communication couples risk drifting apart and encountering unresolved conflicts that could harm their relationships and individual mental well-being i have to communicate i have to work on my communication all the time too it's not one of those things where uh i can't just you know i struggle with communication like because i'm an introvert i'm not that extroverted you know maybe get a few beers in me if i ever drink and maybe i become more extroverted but you know i'm not so that is something that i have to work on that.
Everybody, I think we all work on, you all have to work on that. Couples, singles all have to work on that communication. Single females have to work on that communication because you know, something single females are out there. They don't want to be treated like meat. And some of the couples treat single females like they're pieces of meat because that's the ultimate fantasy, two females, one male, things like that.
Single males, we always get treated like like meat so we're used to it so no big deal on that part so if you're a couple you've got to be able to talk to each other about your you know your feelings how do you feel what do you you know what did you like what did you didn't didn't like and you're gonna have to hear honest truth honest feelings you know maybe you have you swap with the females the two females playing a couple and she eats your wife's pussy out real well greater than you dude and she you know is she going to tell you that will she tell you oh no it was okay i would want to tell her i would want her to tell me say hey it was she she did the best pussy eating ever and i would want to know all right so how does she eat your pussy different than me because i i i want to eat pussy i want to be the best pussy eater uh thank you k uh i hope it's very insightful i want to be the best pussy eater out there so if she's doing something to my girl that she loved i gotta be able to do the same thing I won't know that unless i don't communicate in this and let's face it women don't women and men don't communicate well with each other for some when it comes to sex because the fragile i'm an average size dude my dick ain't fucking eight inches and it's fucking eight inches and thick i'm average size i have average endowment so i know i'm not fucking you know the greatest fucking lover ever so i don't mind like i hate it when women don't say nothing when they sit there and i could have done something better to get her off all she had to do is communicate so if you're not able to communicate with a partner of what you like how is your relationship going to be any better you know how are you going to talk about what type of people you want to play with and swing with you know does your wife have a certain type does your husband have a certain type or do you just have a free-for-all and you fuck any hard dick that comes along and you fuck any pussy that spreads your legs or any woman that spreads your legs and stuff like that you know do you fuck only white people or hispanics or do you only fuck black couples and stuff like that what what you know you got to communicate what you are looking for that's the first thing all right then you got to talk communicate what you want what do you like do you want to do this every weekend there's some couples i know that do it every fucking weekend.
Friday and Saturday. Friday night comes, put the kids to bed, off to the club. Saturday comes, off to the club. Go on trips to swinger resorts. They live the lifestyle 24-7.
Then you got some that do it once a week or once a month, once every other month or once every three months or whenever they go out of town, they do it because they're less inhibited because they don't have to worry about, you know know people seeing them that they might know from work and communication is important in any type of relationship it doesn't matter if you're a swinger or you're vanilla you have to be able to communicate well with your partner tell them what tell them what they like what you like ladies this swinger lifestyle is all for you This is what what the swinger lifestyle is about.
You guys, you ladies, you're the ones that, you know, are the main dish. You're the ones that are there. There's a reason why, you know, everything flows. It's because you lovely ladies. And, you know, you got to sit there and speak up. Be able to communicate.
able to communicate don't sit there oh no and don't sit there and say anything you know don't sit there and not say anything say something be cool be open be able to express yourself because once you do once you can do that you're going to be okay you won't be all right trust me anyways so let's look at the next one after communication breakdown. Impact on self-esteem and identity. Participating in the swing of lifestyle can have varying impacts on individual self-esteem and sense of identity. For some, the lifestyle provides a sense of liberation and confidence.
However, for others, it may trigger insecurities and self-doubt, especially if they compare themselves to others or face rejection within the lifestyle.
these challenges can lead to a deeper question of one's attractiveness worth and place in the primary relationships over time self such negative self perception can contribute to anxiety depression and profound sense of isolation even within the marriage yeah that's one thing a lot of people do they compare themselves to other people i stopped doing that Listen, I't be a fucking six foot two black guy with abs and a 10 inch cock i can't do that i can't be a fucking six five white guy fucking looks like he's he's a fucking lumberjack i can't do that i'm just a five foot eight five foot nine guy with a size six inch cock uh a little belly but i eat pussy well great the best them.
I use my fingers and tongues and I can do all that stuff, but I can't be something I'm not. So I stopped that. And I'm a lot happier now that I'm saying they're insane. You know what? I'm happy because now I'm happy about who I am.
I accepted who I am and I feel better about myself and you're going to have to do the same thing don't go to the club and compare yourself to all the other guys gentlemen don't now you there's you should take care of yourself you should you know you watch what you eat go to the doctors regularly check your psas gentlemen because you don't want to get that prostate cancer and your dick don't work anymore because you got it you want to take care of yourself you know if you're a fat guy you got a big gut you haven't seen your dick since the clinton administration guess what go lose some weight take ozempic go online there's you get ozempic for 200 bucks a month take it lose the weight look good feel good about yourself ladies the same thing you guys have the i think you have the well i don't know dick size for guys is big in the lifestyle because you always see the couple couple like i always hear people oh being hung is not the it's it's not the be all end all but it goes every time i see a ad for a single guy they always want someone who's hung so i don't know maybe size does matter anyways so with the women you know you always compare yourself some of these women that they'll look each other up and down at the club or wherever they're at they look each other up and down and like i don't think the women dress for the men at the club i think the women dress for the women honestly i don't think they dress for the men i think they dress for the other women to show off and you know you gotta be very secure because guess what women have babies they get loose skin they have stretch marks their titties starts dropping down gravity's a bitch you know then you get those women who have breast implants and ass implants now and they're they fucking look awesome they got the tummy tuck they got the mommy makeover and they're looking good and here you are you got saggy you got stretch marks on your stomach uh you got saggy tits and all that stuff.
You don't feel like you're 25 anymore, you look more of 45, and you kind of get insecure because you start comparisoning yourself with them. You don't need to. Listen, how your body looks doesn't mean a thing. It's how you treat people.
people now some people in the lifestyle are shallow we got we know that you know i know the lifestyle sister tells you they're not they're lying to they are shallow some people won't touch you with a 10-foot pole but you know it you don't need to be the friends you don't need anything with them like i said i don't care you know you don't like single guys all right that's great because you know what that means that's one less couple i have to worry about in my life i could give my time and effort to another couple that wants that effort and when you're comparison yourself to everybody else every other couple you know you're just not you're not going to feel well about yourself you're not going to feel great you know you're going to sit there and always feel bad about what's going on in your life.
And, you know, it's like those people on TikTok, you know, they're always worried about other people. They're not worried. They're always bitch about things that they have no control over. Listen, you don't have, ladies, you don't have control over how tall you are. You know, sometimes you don't have control over how your tits are, how your body works after a while. You can always work out. You can always get stuff done. You get plaid surgery if you feel like you need plaid surgery because every girl at the club has plaid surgery. So you feel like you need it. Do you need it? No, maybe not.
Maybe your husband loves you the way you are. I had a girlfriend that lost fucking a lot of weight. She didn't look good to me i loved her when she was bigger and it was something it was just it's amazing that's when i realized that i love thick girls i don't like those skinny minis but i loved how she looked big and she lost all that weight you know she still looked decent but to me it was like it it ruined it because i was like ah i want her to be thicker as snicker. Anyways, so don't want to compare yourself to other people. You know, there are rich, very rich people in the lifestyle.
There's very poor people in the lifestyle. You don't need to be jealous about anyone else. Don't worry about what other people are doing. Worry about what you're doing. Because if you're worried about what everybody else is doing, you're not going to have no fun at the club. I'm not worried about what the other five guys are doing at the club.
I'm worried about what the other five guys are doing at the club i'm worried about what me ac is doing at the club like tonight i'm not worried about the other hundred guys that might be here i'm worried about me i'm worried about me showing having a good time making sure this glory whole setup works and is successful and people want me to do it again at the next month's party that's what i gotta be thinking on be going on i can't compare myself to the other guys because there's some good looking dudes here i'll never be that good looking i'm never gonna be that young again now if i was 25 shit man i'd be killing it especially in this day and age because when i started when i was 25 girls when couples wouldn't even touch me because i was too young they would tell me i have kids your age and i don't play with that now these fucking couples are banging 21 year olds when they're fucking 60 and they got kids they got grandchildren their age so you know it's kind of it got born in the wrong time but i'm glad i'm born when i was because i love the fact that i got to grow up in a time when there was no social media and i got to have be myself and not worry about someone recording me 24 7 all the time but anyways so just be cool with yourself just understand that you are not going to be the best looking person in the world in the club all the time you're gonna maybe you'll be second fiddle maybe you'll be the 100th place in that but you know what if you don't don't love yourself, no one's going to love you.
You don't like yourself, no one's going to like you. So work on yourself first. Don't worry about those insecurities because guess what? We all have them. You know, we all have them. And the last one before we get on out of here. Navigating the complexities of this swing.
That's no mental health strain from social stigma.'m sorry swinger marriages often face societal stigma and misconceptions couples may encounter judgment criticism isolation from friends family and other brother and from the broader community this external pressure can add significant mental health burden compounding feelings of guilt shame or alienation the fear of being outed or misunderstood can lead to couples to hide their lifestyle, creating a perfect world, perfect society, we could be out and open and not have to worry about our jobs, worry about what people think.
But you just got to remember, there are over 8 billion people on this planet. 8 billion people think what we do is disgusting and immoral. And some of those people are not religious, and they still think we're immoral and we're disgusting human beings. But that's okay. You got to live your life. YOLO, guys, YOLO. So do we have a stigma? Yes. Is there misconceptions? Yes. Misconception is that you go to a club, everyone's having an orgy. Everyone's fucking naked and fucking everybody. You know, I wish that was real, but you know what? It's not what you see on the internet.
It's not what you see in the movies. It's not good looking people. It's mom and dad bods. It's 40, 50 year old, 60 year old old people living their best life some of them have sex with other couples some have sex with singles some will have sex with no one at all just themselves but it's not an orgy you know what i never i don't understand how you know why people believe the movies the movies are made up movies are bullshit so why are we caring what the movie i don't understand why people oh, oh, that must be real. There must be a lot.
If I go to a swinger club, there's going to be hot-ass women there. Yeah, man, no. There ain't going to always be. You know, I've been to parties where, every woman was over 200 pounds, and it was not a BBW party.
It was just a regular swinger party, but every woman was over 200 pounds, and i would have the time of my life at these parties too but it was not it's never like what you would think it is and that's what a lot of people get wrong a lot of guys single guys do this they think it's gonna be all hot and they show up and they'll be able to fuck everyone because they they showed up it's not true it's like you have to be picked a woman has to pick you a couple has to pick you if you want to have sex with you and all that uh all that judgment of course everyone judges everyone judges it doesn't matter if you're a nail or a swinger i don't know why that isn't i don't even consider that a problem because guess what everyone's being judged especially now with the fucking internet criticism everyone has a criticism now is it constructive sometimes it is Like, people email me.
They have just, they criticize because, you know, that's all they know. They don't know how to be a good human being. Anyways, isolation from friends. Maybe you lose all your friends. You come out as a swinger. You and your wife come out as a swinger, and your friends don't want anything to do with you, okay? So, you know, ask yourself, are you a good person? If you're a good person, you do the right thing, but the only thing you do once in a while, you take your wife out, you swap with the couple or you watch her get gang banged by a bunch of dudes. All right.
But you're a good person and those people don't want to be anything part, do anything with you. It's probably, they probably did you a favor.
Probably weren't the best of friends because i know my friends i can have you know i have friends that are in prison did some horrible shit i'm still their friends when they get out i'll still be their buddy i'll still be their friends i'll help them at every any which way i can you know because they're my friends now i have friends that will never speak to them don't even talk about them anymore all right so you know so if your friends are your friends you'll know who your friends are and the ones that get rid of the ones that leave don't want to have anything to do with you and lucy anymore fuck them family now family's tough because you got to have your family i don't know It's tough.
So, you know, I think families are more understanding now of days. So just be careful. Because you've got to have your family. I don't know. It's tough. So, you know, I think families are more understanding now of days. So just be careful when you go around your family. If you know your family members don't like anything about the swinging lifestyle, you know, maybe you shouldn't come out to them. Maybe there's some things. Some things don't have to be said. There are some things that you can just let die with you.
Like I wouldn't, you know, I don't understand people who tell their kids, you know, that's you. Thank you. Like, I wouldn't, you know, I don't understand people who tell their kids. You know, that's you. You tell your kids and all that, that's fine. But I'm not telling my kid that I'm a swinger or anything like that. I actually don't want him to be what I am. I want him to be better. So, you know, I think he could be better. So maybe I'm wrong.
Less drama playing with a single guy than playing with a couple you know it can be you know you got to find the right couple i call those k i call those couples unicorn couples because when you find that unicorn couple which is you got a good-looking guy and a good-looking girl and they're drama free everyonefree. Everyone says they're drama-free, but some people are fucking not drama-free. They want to talk shit about everybody, kind of like me. I like to hear the drama of all the people. As long as I'm not involved in it, I don't get involved in that shit. But, Kay, you're right.
Sometimes it is less drama playing with a single guy than anything. Because you know what? You can just tell the single guy, get the fuck out, and he gets the fuck out.
You're not having to exchange pleasantries with everybody and all that stuff so that's you know that's an interesting take okay that you think you say it's less drama playing a single guy uh and all that stuff but going back to family and telling everyone about the society stigma i don't think there's a lot of stigmas look at the fucking world of the only fans like every i think like 10 of 18 to 24 year olds in the country in the united states have an only fans page so you really you know how it's going to be interesting the next two decades to see how these young women grow up and i don't think they're and honestly i don't think they growing up too right.
I think they're going to be very miserable human beings when they get older because there's a stigma there. Maybe a guy doesn't, not every guy wants to watch his girl get pounded by another guy or have sex with another woman. Believe it or not. They all can't be ACs out there. Me, I love that shit.
I only fans girl i don't give a shit no she treated me well and was faithful to me and loyal to me but you know some guys don't like that they're not gonna put up with that so they might be lonely there's consequences for what you do unfortunately you know like i said karma you know you gotta be a good person to get good things happen to you but with the going back to the only fans you know how are they going to you know be treated in society later on you know they try to get a real job they look they look everything up you go apply for your job they see your only fans page so are the guys at the company gonna hire you because they want to try to fuck you they think you're easy or they're not going to hire you because they don't want that shit representing their company in which they have every right to do they have every right not to hire you because you have that because you know you represent the company just why they said there's a dress code you know things like that uh so you know you got to be very careful when it comes to you know who are you going to tell because not everyone's your friend you know like i like i said i don't tell anyone's names on here when they come online or whatever when i talk to them i don't tell anybody's name or anything because you know you don't want to mistakenly out someone you know you don't you because you get idiots that use their real names on their profiles and you say their profile're like, what the fuck?
Why would you use your real name? But you don't want to be outed. So I don't know. That's a whole different story. But anyways, so, you know, you just got to worry about that mental. If you're worried about it, it's a legit worry. You know, do the best you can. Burn accounts. Have a fake email.
Don't put your real names, your credit card information, don't sign up for anything, you have to put credit card information, your real name on it, just come to the club and shit like that, that's all you got to do, all right, so those are some of the things you can help out, there's some mental risk you have with your marriage, if you have a marriage, if you're a partner, even if you're if you're partner up you can have that i'll put the article online in my show description when i put it up there and you'll see it and you can go read it yourself anyways uh anyways so let's go to reddit what can we have since we're at a hotel party let's talk something about a house party.
Here is some bad stuff that can happen at an otherwise successful house party. So this person had a successful house party on Reddit, but there's some bad shit happen. Here are the little things that can happen at a party with 60 people that is otherwise fairly successful. This is made to make you feel better if you are a party host and you freak out about what happens to us in his routine. Yes, I worry about my glory hole. I'm worried about my glory hole. Will it be well perceived? Will people like it? Will people actually use it? I don't know.
I don't know if people are going to use it here at the hotel takeover. I hope they do. If they don't, oh well, I guess I won't be doing it again. But anyways, we'll see. So let's see what it says. Here's one. Single guy who counted on to make all the ladies happy gets so high he falls asleep in your living room. And when asked to go home, instead goes out to the patio and falls asleep in the bushes. All right. See, that's where you got to be very careful. You got to vet your single guys.
If you're having a house party and you want that guy to deliver the goods to all the ladies and make them happy you better vet that person because like i said i don't drink i don't do any drugs or anything like that only drug i do is viagra all right but i'm making sure i'm ready to salute my soldiers ready salute i can get hard stay hard come multiple times and give eat pussy and finger pussy the best of them better than a lot of the women can. So, you know, I make sure I am ready to go. I'm not this guy right here. Now they counted on him to hit a home run and he ended up striking out.
Here's another one. Drunk girl drops her Yeti on the kitchen floor, and you have to mop up the entire first floor. Well, you know, that usually happens. There's always spills and stuff like that. So if that's annoying to you, I don't know. I don't think it would be annoying. We love to play at a glory hole. All right, Kay, we'll come to the hotel takeover. I got a glory hole right over here. You can see it right there behind me. Not knowing who I am second would be hot. Of course, that's why I think the glory holes are very popular.
And I'm seeing more and more glory holes pouring out there and more couples going to these glory holes. Even if it's just choosing to do it once or twice. All right. So that's one thing. All right. So you're going to have spills. I don't see that as a bad thing. I think it's just normal. Next drunk girl fiddles with the spa settings and everything shuts down. Can you make it hotter, she wants? Yeah, I don't know. Listen, you're going to have drunk people, so you're going to just have to do it. Sometimes maybe you're offering too much at your house party.
Maybe you don't offer people to touch to do the jets or to go in the spa or anything like that.
Smell of a so powerful that everyone has to go inside until it this dissipates yeah like the shit they put i remember when i was doing weed in college the shit smelled normal now the shit that i smell is fucking it's just horrible like jeez what the fuck are they putting in this weed now 50 wet beach towels scattered around your backyard in your pool and your house yeah well well what do you think was going to happen you offer see like i said if you didn't want to clean up all this stuff you should have never offered your pool or your hot tub or whatever to the people you just said pools off limits because guess what people are very very uh respectful most people are very respectful of someone's house if You say, no pool, they If you say no pool, they won't go in the pool.
Things like that. So, you know, you just got to be knowing your clientele. Two pool robotic cleaners cruising in the middle of your back alley as a prank. Fucking great prank. That's a great prank. Cool.
One drunk girl playing porn loud on her phone outside at 1 a.m okay why you should ask her why you're not inside watching a free porn the live porn in the brooms lady she's a woman so they're gonna let her in it's not like she's a single guy where they're not gonna let her in or they're gonna sit there go online and talk about the average to below average single men at the party one couple leaving all their stuff behind so we can see you again i don't know maybe they just got drunk and just got fuck out or you know they did something they shouldn't have done one squirter making you change bedsheets twice in your own bedroom well that's called collateral damage you know you you invite people over they might be there might be a squirter and god bless squirters one creepy dude offering your husband john his submissive chinese wife for you to fuck sir then offering to pay john five hundred dollars for the wooden curvature board that says john and angela carved into the wood john was like it was a wedding present and sentimental value is a hundred thousand dollars all right you counted off for a hundred thousand dollars so great or you could have said all right i got 500 why don't i just make you one yourself for 500 bucks i can make you one that says the same exact thing there you go you can make some money see i'm always thinking businessman one massively creepy cock cold switching the lights off in the game room because he wants to hear his wife get gang banged but can't stand watching it.
That is a fucking weird cock cold but okay to everyone to each their own. He doesn't want to watch her wife get fucked. He just wants to hear her get fucked. And the worst, last guest cannot get his iPhone 8 to update the Uber app and you have to pay for his trip so he finally leaves at 4 a.m. What a creep. Well, you're an idiot. Yeah, you should have just kicked his ass out. See, is it me or I don't have a problem telling people, get the fuck out of my house. I got to go to bed. I don't know. Maybe I'm just the asshole here. I guess I am because I'm like, fuck this.
I'll be like, get the fuck out of my house and all that. So, you know what it is guys you gotta it's you know it is what it is have you seen anything worse uh let's see what what did the people say any people they're always talking about the woman who got drunk and and are new to the lifestyle and argue with their dude the entire party okay you seen that. Women who get drunk and assume that because they have vaginas, they can touch every other woman without asking. Wow, I thought single men were the problem.
The guy who brings his wife and their unicorn and flips out when the unicorn gets caught sucking someone else. Yeah, because they want that unicorn. Couples want to control people. The girl who spends the entire party arguing with their dude. Okay, again, so what else? Let's see what else. I think that's about it. So, you know, it's been over 50 minutes, so I think we should get on out of here. Have you ever been to a house party? Okay, yes, I have been to many house parties. In fact, this is the hierarchy of swinging for me.
If I get invited to, if you have a choice between a house party, a hotel takeover, or a club, this is where I'm going to go. A house party is going to be number one. If I get invited to a house party, I'm going to that house party. Why? Because they're small, intimate, and you get to talk to people more, and you get to make those connections that people always talk about more. Then I would go to a hotel takeover. If I don't have a house party to go to, I look for a hotel takeover. Hotel takeovers are fun because you're at a hotel. People are naturally horny when they go to hotels.
You know, it's one of those things. And there's a lot more people, a lot more numbers. It's a number game for single males. I know couples don't want to hear it, but yes, it is a numbers game. Okay, if you got more questions, just ask.
Hurry up because I'm'm going to get off of here, so, and the third one would be the last place I'd check is a club, you know, some clubs are shitty, some clubs are great, you know, I've been to a lot of bad clubs, but I've been to also a lot of great clubs, where people, doors open at 8, people are fucking at 8.30, I've been to clubs, the doors open at 8, no one fucks till 1 a.m., and as I get older in life, I just want to hurry up, bada boom, bada bing, bang, wham, bam. Thank you, man.
I want to be home by midnight, you know, because nothing good happens after midnight unless you're having a foursome at a swing or clover or a house party or a hotel takeover, which I'm at tonight. So, yeah, I've been to house parties. And like I said, house parties are the top epsilon. They're the king of all parties. You know, for whatever reason, I just like, I just feel that you get to meet quality people at these house parties. Now, I've been to house parties where, you know, the people are suspect, the hosts are suspect, you know, you really, I know one couple, and they're brilliant.
This is brilliant. I don't like them as a couple. couple they're pieces of shit but they host by every other weekend they host a party and they charge couples to get in and that's how they pay their mortgage which is fucking brilliant that they don't use any other money to pay their mortgage but they host parties twice them twice a month so they have their mortgage payment. And I thought, well, there are a piece of shit couple, but yet they're very, you know, smart about finance. So I was like, that's pretty good. All right, Kay, I'm going to get out of here.
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Your lips, they taste like whiskey every move Time, the minute's quickly passing by Wanna slip away into the night But I don't need you to wake up by your side Ships in the night I wanna be the devil on your shoulder Thank you. Ships in the night I wanna be the devil on my shoulder I wanna be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like the 40th floor Baby, I'm a holly to your joker I wanna be the devil on my shoulder I wanna be the angel when it's over Thank you. Bye-bye.
I want to be there forever on my shoulder I want to be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a four-leaf clover Baby, I'm a holly to your joker Closer, will you put me in it says come on?
