Live from Krazy Winter Nights in KC!

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if you're in kansas city come on out and hang out with ac so i'm here so for over two decades i've embraced the swinging lifestyle as a single male and on this show i'm here to share my wildest tales and experiences with you so for all those that love those sexy stories grab some lube grab a tissue box or you know grab your wife and give her a nice facial you know they said cum does have protein in it and protein's good for the skin so you never know i'm helping you out let's get cozy and settle in for some uncensored eye-opening stories from the swinging single uh podcast and all that stuff so we're gonna do that so like i said we're here live from the crazy night winter The Swinging Single Podcast with host A.C.

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I used to work for Google And now I do drugs Making more cash Posting thirst traps at the club I run my own shit Got managers and agents All of my haters Be increasing my engagement Fuck the 9 to 5 I'll kill in entertainment Get higher every day Just like my base state That's my big clit energy Ripping real tight That's my big clit energy Wrenched in the stench That's my big clit energy That's my big clit energy Where I'm from It's the literal hood But if you ask where I come It's from the clitoral hood That's environmental All righty We we are back.

We're going to start our long, long day here at the Kabash Crazy Winter Nights Convention here in outside skirts of Kansas City, Missouri.

We in Independence, Missouri It's about a little short drive from Kansas City It was an easy drive coming in from the airport And all that stuff It was great being here It's great seeing all the people walking by, staring at me Giving the dirty eye and all that shit So it's pretty good Anyways like i said excuse me i'm broadcasting live and all that great stuff from here so if you have any questions i'm just asking you know we could talk and see what's going on and get in there and and have all that great stuff hopefully you can hear me on the online i'm i'm live on sdc swing lifestyle.com uh facebook twitter ticket tickety talk and all that bullshit on there but today make sure you go to swing a single podcast.com and see all things ac go check it out see where i'm gonna be at now you might hear people talking in the background that's because, like I said, I'm in the convention, I'm in the corner I guess someone puts someone in the corner So, you know, it is what it is So, you know But we're still going to have a good time I'm going to check out Fantasy Lounge I think it is in Kansas City, I'm going to check out tonight I'm going to go to the little party here At the crazy winter nights Then I'm going to go to Fantasy Fantasy Lounge and check that out, give you a review tomorrow, let you know how that all goes and all that stuff so you tune back in.

I think I'm going to start at 9 or 10 a.m. tomorrow and go to 5 o'clock, if I can. I don't know if I'm going to be able to because of the fact that, you know, how can I talk forever? But anyways, today we're going to talk about jealousy because, you know, we're at a swinger place and we got all this stuff we're going to have. We got half naked people running around doing nothing. We got sexy people running around and we got to talk about is there any jealousy? So how swingers can diffuse the jealous feelings that they get from every now and then?

You know, you have envy, which is very common emotion that arises in many relationships, vanilla and in the swinging lifestyle, even within the context of swinging, where individuals are typically more open to sharing their partners. Now, I've 99.9% agree with that, that people are very open, but you only get that 1.0%, 0.1% that is just, you know, they don't want you to do anything. They don't want the partner to do anything. They just want to fuck and have fun while the partner doesn't get anything. Usually it's the females that's going to be left out of this. So, you know, it is what it is.

I'm going to share you a story also. I found this on Vice, Vice website, vice.com. And it was, I was a jealous partner until I went on a swingers vacation. Now, the funny thing is that when I'm looking at it and I'm reading the article, I'm going to read it to you, is that she or her and her husband went and she's not a swinger.

And apparently now that she went to a swinger resort that she's not uh very jealous anymore so she's happy she's doing all she wants to do she's no longer jealous of her about her husband maybe looking at another girl or something like that but i'll we'll get to that so while swingers may experience less sexual jealousy overall they are not immune to feelings of jealousy of course not no it it is you know you do get jealousy a lot because you know what like my high school coaches have told me there's someone bigger stronger faster than you out there just like it's swinging there's someone better looking than you there's probably someone with a better body than you probably someone with a bigger cock than you boobs than you and asked to die for stuff like that so you know you do get jealous now those are jealousies of personal personality traits but what about jealousy when you're having sex and your wife is screaming oh god and she's making noises you never uh she's never made with you or vice versa your husband's pounding the hell giving back shots all the women at the club, but he don't give you back shots as good as all that, as he's doing to those girls.

So, you know, jealousy might peek its ugly head, and jealousy is one of the big things. When I was working at Caliente, most of the, well, maybe pretty much most, if not all the fights were that we had to break up between couples.

I'm not talking about fights with men on men women on women it was women on men husbands versus the wives and they would get into some fist you know some fisticuffs and we would have to separate them because they were fighting and you don't want that to happen at any type of club because you don't want to bring the heat you don't want to bring the cops in because it you know people are still a little gun-ho about gun shy about this whole lifestyle thing and all that so you know we would have to separate them and usually most of the time was because the wife was paying attention to a guy most of the night or the husband was paying attention to some co-girl most of the nights things like that so you know things that might seem petty to a veteran swinger like myself but for a newbie it can be very very dangerous and why i say it's very dangerous because I think it's very dangerous because it could really end your relationship with someone or harm it in a long time have to take a fix make it fix make it work again so you know we got to talk about that jealousy thing so this article that i wrote aims to explore strategies to manage jealousy but before we dive into that you have to talk about the psychological aspects of swinging and all that or i'm not i'm not not swinging but jealousy what is social what are the psychological including jealousy, serves in an evolutionary purpose, helping to protect our bonds with loved ones.

So here we, why? I don't know. I just look at what the stuff that says on the internet, look at it, interpret it. I don't understand how it's going to protect your bonds with your loved ones or anything like that. It does what is what it is, buddy.

So I'm not really too worried about going into detail on that one so jealousy can be a signal that a relationship is at risk promoting us to take action to safeguard it all right so but you gotta remember it just depends on what type of jealousy it is because you know what there's jealousy that okay he's better looking than me i'm jealous of that you know he's richer than me i'm jealous of that he she has bigger boobs than me i'm i don't have any boobs but i'm talking about if i was a woman she has bigger boobs she has a better body than me all that stuff that's jealousy that i don't i don't know if it's really a psychological one maybe well it is a psychological one but is it really that bad but they're talking about that jealousy is what safeguards our relationships with people because it makes us take action okay your your wife's getting pounded and she's making those noises that she never makes with you you up your game on that um your husband Thank you very much.

your wife's getting pounded and she's making those noises that she never makes with you you up your game on that um your husband now i don't know what i can't speak for you ladies because i don't know how if your husband's pounding the hell out of a a woman how he can you can get him to do that to you i don't know So I have to leave that there. So fundamentally, jealousy stems from a clear fear of losing our place in someone's affections. Yeah, of course, everyone's worried about being left alone and being on the outside looking in.

Look at, you know, in my senior lifestyle, I'm always, as a single male, I'm always on on the outside looking in i'm never inside looking out at all the other people where you know if i was a couple then it'd be a totally different story i'll be the inside insider and not i'm not now over the years i have learned how to cope with this type of thing and all that great stuff but you know it is something that you have to think about so it's getting a little more busier in here more people showing up and all that great stuff so also you don't want to lose that affection you know you got you're married 10 20 30 years and all of a sudden jealousy rears hisars his ugly head.

You guys start thinking about adding more people into your sex life, into your bedroom, and now all of a sudden, you're like, what the hell is going to happen now? What are we going to do now? So, you know, it's something you got to think about.

So while jealousy can sometimes motivate positive actions, such as increased kindness and affection, it often leads to negative feelings like anger, possessiveness and rejection So let's talk about the positive You got increased kindness Maybe your jealousy can be fixed And you say it there I'm going to be a little nicer to my wife Or something like that And be a better lover to her Or something like that who knows what it's whatever you is uh maybe you bring her flowers once a week you know i have you know women love flowers so why not bring them some flowers that flower shows affection maybe you'll do more little affection on people stuff like that so you know it is you know you can just figure it's all good.

You can figure it out. Now let's talk about the negative. Like I said, this show is about both the good and the bad with swinging. So what are some of the negative behaviors you can have as a swinger? Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker. The quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary. Yeah, I said it.

Whether you're into edibles, concentrates, flower, or just looking to explore, you'll find it all at Mood. And it's not just the variety that makes them stand out. Every product is sourced from small, American-owned family farms that care deeply about what they grow. It's cannabis you can trust, delivered discreetly, and ready to elevate your mood. And because you're a listener, you get 20% off your first order. Just head to mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com to get started. No. Jealousy. Anger. Anger is what we see most because we're not there.

Like I said, when I was working at Caliente, when those couples would fight, it would be fight about anger and all that. Now, they might be possessing this.

It also might be rejection, but how am I going to tell because i don't live their life so you know i look at the anger they anger they fight all the time about stuff the husband's paying attention to someone else the wife's paying attention to someone else each of them don't like it so the anger comes out now when you have the anger what's the problem with what with the anger the one problem is you might say something that you don't mean because you want to hurt the person you know uh when i worked at club cave you know i had a couple they were new year's eve everyone's having a great time and all of a sudden this woman in her thong and her address in her hand runs out of the club butt ass in her thong butt ass naked titties hanging out in a bad part of houston no never you know whatever and she turns around screams at her husband it's not my fault you have a small dick and no one wants to talk to you or fuck you that is a very angry thing to say to someone especially any man i don't think any man wants to hear their dick is small except for your cook if you're cuckold do you like making fun of your small penis that's good but for a lot of other guys it's not one of those things you want to do and all that so you know it is what it is all right possessiveness you know i don't you know it's hard to say in the swing of lifestyle do i see a lot of possessive guys and possessive women?

I usually think a lot of this time it's just anger. It's not really possessiveness. So, you know, I think that's more possessiveness. It's going to be more of a vanilla type thing. I could be wrong, you know. I'm wrong all the time. You know, I'm not, you know, I'm not fallible.

I'm not perfect also rejection you know sometimes i think you know what when i was younger i'm gonna be honest when i got rejected i was jealous of the guys who got to the person because you know you're here we want to have a good time and you know you think you like someone you think she's beautiful you go hey what's up and next thing you know you're boom you're told no and you got rejected and you get jealous of all the other people who are going to be doing stuff and all that that get to play with that woman so you know it is something to think about jealousy but i think the number one for swingers is the anger and just remember when you're angry with spouse, try to do the 24-hour rule.

Try to talk about it after 24 hours so you can calm down, you can sit in there, you know what's going on, you marinate it on your feelings, and you don't come from an angle of anger. Now, a lot of times these people would have probably been a lot easier and more successful in their relationships if they would have took that rule. because I know whenever I'm at work and I get an angry email from an employee or a customer, I wait 24 hours to respond so I can collect my thoughts and chill out and marinate it.

Because you don't know, on emails it kind of sucks, because you really don't know what they're thinking. But also, when you're talking to someone in real life, with a husband and wife, like I said, with a small dick comment, you might say something that you might regret later on in the relationship and in life. So, you know, it's just one of those things you just got to worry about. You got to be very careful when you're swinging. The jealousy will and everyone will get jealous. Any swinger that says they've never been jealous is lying to you. They all get jealous.

Jealousy is a normal human emotion and all that stuff. So these emotions can trigger hurtful behaviors such as blame or withdrawal. We already talked about that. Accompanied by feelings of shame. Now, blame, you know, that's one of the big things that couples like to do, blame each other. Oh, we didn't have fun tonight because we didn't fuck anybody tonight because of you. You had resting bitch face and stuff like that. And it's just one of those things, you know, really? Damn, they're bringing a whole kit of stuff over here by my desk.

I'm sitting next to, if you're're coming out here i'm sitting next to a titty uh what do they call it when you what do you put over your nipples i forget what they call it a pasty they got i'm sitting next to a pasty then i got a big booth over next to me uh rope jam uh some other things i can't see because they're standing in front of it so I can't see lifestyle something and all that so you know it is a pretty fun night right now, people coming out, people checking it out people looking at the pasties no one's putting those pasties on yet for some reason, they should but anyways, now let's talk about the blame You don't want to blame someone for you not succeeding.

Because it could be for any one reason. You go to a club one night and it's just not happening. You know, I go to a lot of clubs and it's just not happening and all that. And it gets tough and all that. And you just got to accept for what it is and all that. So, withdrawal.

You don't want to do that because if you withdraw you might lose the partner to something else because you know many times you see i'm ready i see a lot of ready oh my wife don't want to swing anymore my husband don't want to swing anymore but but i want to swing and all that stuff and it's just shit man what are you going to do how are you going to really navigate it when you're doing all this you got to be very careful it's a delicate dance uh in the swinging world and all that oh crap let's go so shame let's talk about shame what are you shamed though i don't know like i said i don't know uh a lot of these a lot of these emotions because i don't have them i'm just just being honest with you.

I don't feel shame of anything because, you know, it's my life. I have my own free will, you know, and all that stuff.

Analoging jealousy can be difficult due to societal expectations, hindering our ability to address and resolve these feelings, especially, I think, if you get outed in the swingers lifestyle, oh my god, you let guys fuck your wife, stuff like that and embarrassment might come in, jealousy might come in because guess what that guy, your buddy next to you might be like, god, I wish my wife was into this and you get jealous and all that stuff because, you know you got something they want but society says that's a no-no and it sucks that it's the way it is Thank you.

because, you know, you got something they want, but society says that's a no-no, and it sucks that it's the way it is, that we got to be hiding, and you got to still hide in the shadows, because, you know, you got people's jobs and all that, but, you know, someday, maybe someday, with the alpha, the gen alphas, or the zoomers and all that out there, we'll come out and do something for us, and make swinging great again, or make swinging great. Thank you very much.

alphas or the zoomers and all that out there will come out and do something for us and make swinging great again or make swinging great maybe that will happen all right so in the context of swinging relationships where external partnerships are embraced it can be tempting to assume that jealousy is absent in such arrangement like i said everyone gets jealous there's one point everyone's going to get jealous i don't know going to get jealous. I don't know why people think that you're never going to get jealous. You're just like, you're more open. Hey, my wife can do whatever she wants.

My husband can do whatever he wants. But you're still going to get jealous. You're going to sit there and look. You know, when I'm with my partners, I look at a beautiful woman. They go, oh, you like her tits, don't you? Because I get a little jealous. It's always going to be that way. There's never going to be, you're never going to get jealousy out. Now, like I said, there's good jealousy and there's bad jealousy. And we'll talk about bad and good jealousy later on in this article as we go on and on this podcast.

However, it is important to remember that every relationship faces challenges and presenting a carefree facade may not reflect the reality of internal struggles, all right? So don't lie about it. Like I said, you've got to have communication, all right? So this is like the 100th time I've been telling you this. On every episode, communication. If you cannot communicate with your partner, please do not get into swinging because it will end it. Because you've got to be able to tell your partner what you want and how you feel. Thank you.

not communicate with your partner please do not get into swinging because it will end it because you've got to be able to tell your partner what you want and how you feel even when it's bad you know those are the tough conversations to have in life when you have these feelings jealousy feelings anger issues or something like that so just remember and remember not everyone is as happy as they seem you know i met some carefree swingers they don't have a care in the world i met some ones that have so many issues it's just like going you just you just go nuts you're like what the hell are they talking about anyways so remember you might have some internal struggles to deal with get those situated before you start this so overcoming the jealousy requires introspection communication and building trust within the relationship allowing for growth and emotional bounds to flourish i guess communication is always key so many people don't want to talk about things and don't want to really uh or maybe they're just too afraid to talk to their spouse Thank you.

both in an emotional balance to flourish. Like I said, communication is always key. So many people don't want to talk about things and don't want to really, or maybe they're just too afraid to talk to their spouse about, you know, what they want, what they don't want to do, what they're seeking and all that, but I don't know. Like I said, everyone's different. Some people have no, I met women who had no problem telling me what they wanted. Then I met some women is like fucking fucking, who's like pulling teeth. You can't get anything out of them. And it's just like, ugh, and it's tough.

And you know what? Honestly, I get rid of those women because I don't want to be dealing with that stuff. I want you, I want a person that will tell me this is what I want, this is how I want it, and all that stuff. I have a friend, she's getting divorced.

She's, I don't know, she wants to swing, but she just wants to get down all the time, so she's telling me about what she wants, and she's like, this is what I want, she laid out whole terms, like, I want to be choked, um, she wants to be choked, she wants to be spanked, she wants to be fucked hard, she wants rough sex, and, you know, I'm like, well, that's good that you know this you know this do you tell the other guys i go and she's and i tell you you tell the other guys then like she's like yeah i do but you know sometimes they just can't give it to me and it's like well you know you gotta find you know what you want and i already told her go you're already ahead of the game a lot of people don't sit there especially after a 28 year marriage they don't know what they, or they're just too damn scared to say what they want and all that stuff.

So, you know, so she's already ahead of the game, so I'm proud of her. Good job, Miss Kay. You're doing a great job. Now, when she's talking about swinging, she will be a jealous person because she talked about getting back shots and shit like that and all that.

I'm like and she wants to go to a swinging place and all that and I'm like oh I don't know you might not how you doing you might not you know feel good because of the fact that what's up you might be a little jealous of the women that might go there you and she's like I'm not a jealous person I go well it's always easier said Thank you. might be a little jealous of the women that might go there. And she's like, I'm not a jealous person. I go, well, it's always easier said than done because you never know. Like I always tell people, you are, what is that? What am I trying to say?

Trying to say, the fantasy is always better than the reality of what's going to happen, and you never know. So when jealousy, that ugly jealousy, surfaces both in yourself and your partner, it is crucial to address it openly and constructively. Like I always said, jealousy, when it's just me and only me, it's easy to fix.

It's when the jealousy hits your partner, that's when it gets tough, because Because you don't know how they think You don't know how emotional they're going to get About all this stuff And it is tough And it is Messed up sometimes That you have to Try to read their minds Because they don't want to tell you all and all that. So by acknowledging and communicating these feelings, partners can work together to navigate jealousy and strengthen their connection, fostering a healthy and more fulfilling relationships dynamic.

So like I said, it's always easier when it's just me because I can always deal with my issues. I can fix my issues. Coming to somewhere else, being able to fix someone else's issues, that's where it gets tough. And that's where you get in trouble because you don't know how long it's going to take. It'll take me one month to fix it. Or someone else, it could take years, and if you're swinging, swinging years could be a long time, uh, not to be swinging and things like that. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality.

That's why I want to tell you about mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker. The quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary. Yeah, I said it. Whether you're into edibles, concentrates, flour, or just looking to explore, you'll find it all at Mood. And it's not just the variety that makes them stand out. Every product is sourced from small, American-owned family farms that care deeply about what they grow.

It's cannabis you can trust, delivered discreetly, and ready to elevate your mood. And because you're a listener, you get 20% off your first order. Just head to mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com to get started. You've got to be very patient when you're trying to fix the swinging jealousy. Remember, I'm just talking about jealousy. I guess you could do this for Vanilla. Vanilla can do this too. You know, you've got couples there that are jealous and all that. So you never know. All right, anyways. So you can strengthen that connection after all this jealousy.

Like I said're going to get jealous guys and girls ladies and boys boys and girls ladies and gentlemen you are going to get jealous at one point like i said there's always strong someone's bigger stronger faster than you and you're going to have to deal with that how you deal with it is going to determine are you going to be successful but you know there's jealousy and then also strengthen your relationship strengthen your bond you know you got through this hump you got over the hump and all that and then and it could foster just a healthier lifestyle so you got to embrace and then release it's common to experience jealousy when observing your partner enjoying themselves with someone else at an event or when they compliment another individual's attractiveness.

All right? Yeah, like I said, it's one of those things where you got a couple over here playing and your wife is making noises. Like I said, she's making noises she never makes with you, but she's making with this guy and this couple over here, and all that stuff, so, you know, it's one of those things, you just gotta communicate, talk about in a calm manner, not anger, do not bring anger in the whole thing, if you bring anger in it, you're fucked up and all that. How you doing? And so, you know, you got to be very careful when you got that jealousy going because you might show that anger.

All right. Let's see. And it's okay. Listen, and if your husband thinks a woman is good-looking, guys, it's okay. If your wife thinks a couple, a girl, or a man is good-looking, it's okay. You probably want that because then you're probably going to have some fun later on in the night. You remember that, all right? So, it's okay. You're going to be all right. Trust me. You're going to get jealous. You're going to be okay. It ain't going to hurt you, all right? Even the mention of a specific name can trigger feelings of jealousy. Yes, that is so true.

Like an ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, ex-husband, or ex-wife. Oh, my God. Bada boom, bada bing. I have women. I know women that if I just mention their husband's, ex-husband's name, or even shit, even their husband's name, because they're still not, they're still, what is it? They're still not divorced. you will hear you can go on a 24 hour tirade of how bad that person was. And to me, I don't know about you listeners, everybody out there in podcast land.

Remember to shave your cock and balls and go to swingandsinglepodcast.com you see this it's unhealthy to be so hard up or so stuck on your ex's life that you don't even live your life and it's just it's it's sad and i know i always say i go to therapy. I go to therapy, you know. I'm not ashamed to admit I go to therapy. It's great for you. And it's just like, oh, my God, you know, what are we doing here, people? Because you've got to be able to move on. If you cannot move on from a previous relationship because of jealousy or anger issues, you're not going to be able to live your own life.

How do you expect to live your own life? I don't know.

So when you feel that familiar pain in your chest, the sense, the tension in your stomach, and find your mind racing and untroubably pause you know relax take a deep breath do something that makes you stress really go work out go for a walk go for a run play video games jerk off jack off do whatever you got to do when you get to that it time just take your time Take a moment to center yourself Breathe deeply And consciously Focusing on your breath from your core And grant yourself a brief respite Reflect on the circumstances Like I always said That's my 24 hour You've got to reflect When you've got people yelling at you all the time and like if you're at work your customer care or whatever your job is and you're always arguing with people you get you gotta you know you're gonna say something that you don't mean like i said you're gonna say stuff you don't mean when you get angry and all that stuff and all that.

So, you know, it is something you've got to think about. So just reflect on the circumstances. What happened? What was all the good stuff that was going on? So instead of dwelling on your negative reaction or directing blame towards your partner for causing your insecurities, remember, your insecurities could be, it's your fault. Like, the broad married you.

The man married you So you gotta have something Worth you know Marrying Shit that's like a big For men marriage is a big thing You know Women control sex Men control marriage But for a man to say I do Remember He's given up 50% of his shit in the first place. So the minute he says, I do, and he signs down that dotted line, guess what? He's 50% poorer. Let's face reality. That's what it is. So your insecurities, you cannot blame your partners for it. So if your man married you, he married you because he loves you. He says you're the only one for him.

Except for him swinging, which, you know, all the other girls. Now I'm looking at this girl's titties. She's got her pasties on. That's very good. Good job over there in pasty booth. Now all the guys are staring at her and all that stuff. Tall, blonde, and all that. Oh, see, now everyone's going over there to look at the group. That's going to be a very popular booth. I ain't going to be able to take, I'm going to keep looking over there.

Hopefully she didn't glue them on too good Anyways, sorry guys Like I said You're going to hear some stuff today Because this is live from the crazy nights Crazy winter nights bash And we're at the convention center I'm doing my show live and all that So it's going to be what it is So married you you she married you you're going to have insecurities of course everyone's like women their bodies men their dick size stuff like that so you know you know don't blame your partners uh for those insecurities that's something that you got to deal with you know i always thought like pencil thin dick and all that.

My cock is the average size and I'm always worried about that. After a while, I go, you know what? I ate great pussy. I'll put myself up against anybody about pussy eating and all that. I learned to deal with my insecurity of my cock size. Strive to identify the triggers behind your emotions.

Why what happens you know and it's and it's gonna be different for everybody i can't really tell you i can't pinpoint it down what you what will trigger you and all that stuff she keeps her tits are just right in front of me she's trying to sell pasties and all that to people anyways ignoring jealousy will not make it dissipate you can't ignore a problem you gotta go for it you gotta talk about that problem because if you ignore a problem it will just sit there and build up it's like a earthquake the pressure on the plates just keeps building the building and finally it erupts or like a volcano and that's what's going to happen to you and that's what happens to me that was happening to me now not in the swingers lifestyle but in my personal lifestyle where you know people are just fucking assholes you got to deal with the fucking morons at work and boom finally this explodes and you just go off so however understanding its origins can enable you to articulate your concerns and needs of your partner effectively to your partner effectively Like I said, if you need to go to therapy, there's good swinging lifestyle therapists that can help you out in your, you know, in any of your problems that you might have.

You know, I don't know. It is up to them, you know, what the, how they can help you and if they can help you. Maybe you't maybe you're unhelpful i don't know so during your deep breathing exercise envision each inhalation as embracing your partner's affection then with each exhalation release the jealousy to create space and more positive emotions to flourish. I'm going to say I'm sitting, I think I got a good booth because I'm sitting next to the most popular booth right now because she has her beautiful breasts out and it's covered pasties.

And everyone comes, they talk to her for five minutes they just look at me that okay and on to the next one so anyways so i think i got i'm gonna get a lot of exposure today i got a good booth over here now yeah i can't i can't stop. I keep going, turning my head. Stop. Anyway, so, you know, do try some breathing exercise. Breathe. What's that stuff? Meditate. You can always try meditation. Maybe that will help you with your anger and jealousy issues that you might have. All right. Practicing mindfulness.

When faced with emotional emotional stress or pain acknowledging your feelings and concentrating on your breath enables us to find inner peace regain control of your thoughts and soothe the mind i did this i think i did yoga for a while and i think this really did help it when i was done with it i felt more satisfied it's like, but, you know, it's like when I was working out anyways. I was going to Orange Theory, you know, Lifetime Fitness and stuff like that. And I completed a class at Orange Theory. I always felt better about it.

Now, during the class, I felt like shit because, you know, I'm busting my ass and I'm sweating my balls off and stuff like that. But, you know, when it's all done, it's like, damn, I feel good. I feel like I accomplished something. Showing compassion and granting self-forgiveness for experiencing jealousy can slow down racing thoughts and promote a more rational mindset. Remember, you're there to have fun. You and your wife are there to have fun. And, you know, remember, it's new. Think about it when you guys first started hooking up. You guys started having sex. Was he more vocal then?

Was he more aggressive then? Now think about it now. You're going off and swapping partners, and it's new sex. It's new people. The feeling is that rush of, you know, being a teenager in the back of the car comes back in. Nostalgia comes back in. And there you go. You're off and running. You know, you're doing what you got to do. And they're just enjoying the moment as much as everyone else. And it's just something new for them and all that great stuff. So it's just one of those things, you know, you got to remember that it's new for her, it's new for him, and there's nothing more than it.

Now, granted, are there times when, you know, this shit goes sideways? Yes, of course, it's swinging, it's life, it's like in, you know, it's like in life, regular life, shit goes sideways all the time, right?

People go get divorced, each other stuff like that excuse me but you know hopefully you pick the right person and do you know some techniques some you know meditation some breathing exercises waiting 24 hours discussing the anger or jealousy that you have you might you might just you know make it through which usually you do so if jealousy frequently surfaces and becomes a recurrent issue integrating mindfulness into your daily routine can be viable tool for mental training also i would want to add if you're always jealous if you're always a jealous person, you might, you know, and I hate to say...

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But you might want to think about not doing the swinging lifestyle because if you're always jealous and you can't stop that anger at all you're going or that jealousy feeling you're going to be miserable right am i wrong are you gonna are you are you gonna be happy always being jealous oh oh maybe you're one of those people that gets off on being jealous you know there are people like people like that that I have couples say, oh, I love when I get jealous and all that. Then we fuck and I just have a great orgasm and all that. So I don't know. Maybe you're that type of person.

But if you're not, I would suggest you pause. Pause for swinging. Now, don't sit there and say, I'm not telling you to quit swinging. I don't want you to quit. I would love for everyone who starts swinging to keep on swinging because swinging is great. You know, there's great things about swinging.

You're going to make some great fucking people in your life in swinging some real classy people you know but also you know swinging can wear its ugly head where it can destroy a relationship it can destroy everything and all that and you meet some shitty people too so it is you just you hopefully you just meet more good than bad. Jealousy often originates from negative thought processes related to feelings of inadequacy or fear of being replaced. Yes.

Think about the first time, the first time you said to your wife, girlfriend, or whatever, your partner, honey, I think I would love to add another into our bedroom. And it's a girl. You want to add another woman. Think about what she would be feeling. Am I not good enough for him? Am I not sexual enough for him or anything like that? Let's reverse it. Your wife comes at you and says, you know what, honey, I would love to be tag teamed. I want to be split roasted. I can be doing the porn. I want to have a threesome with another man. So what does the husband think?

Is my cock not big enough for him? Or for her? I'm sorry, for her? Is she going to leave me for him because he's a better lover than I am? Stuff like that. And the same thing could be for a girl. Is he going to leave leave me for a better looking woman? Now, I'm not going to lie. It has. I've seen people do that where they actually leave for someone else, which is stupid. I always think, I always say, if you're going to, I would never get, I don't get involved in that stuff because this is what I always feel.

If you're going to leave your husband for me, there's no, what's stopping you from leaving me for another person? So it's something I wouldn't even bother even considering playing around with a type of relationship like that, you know. Let's see. Thank you.

in me for another person so it's something i wouldn't even bother even considering playing around with a uh type of relationship like that you know let's see so you know all that great stuff so you know you just gotta think pause think all right so consequently our minds become conditioned to revert to these patterns when encountering perceived threats real or imagined. Some of these threats are fake, you know. Some of the times your feelings are not really what you think they are. So, you know, it's just one of those things you just gotta think about, and it's tough.

Especially in the time when you are just fucking having a great time, your sex life is getting better, and now jealousy starts coming about for some reason. Now, listen, you can be a veteran swinger, and guess what can happen? Jealousy can happen. I've seen that happen. I've been around it.

Like I said, I've worked at, you know, swinger clubs, swinger resorts, and I've seen a lot of things that I could not believe was happening in this this time and in this lifestyle and like i said i bring that to you i got stories to tell so the encouraging news is that you're that your thought patterns are not fixed it is entirely possible to rewire the brain to overcome jealousy yes just like if you are having an addiction you can always rewire your brain not to have that addiction anymore. Now, are you always an addict?

Yes, you're always an addict, but your brain is wired differently where now you don't crave that addiction anymore, you know, alcoholism and all that. But remember, it can only work if you want to get help. If you don't want to get help because, you know, you're going to get help because your mom says to get help, your wife tells you, your husband tells you to get help, it's not going to work, all right? You're not going to have any of that stuff. So, you know, it is pretty messed up.

So, one effective exercise involves jotting down three positive occurrences from your day, regardless of their scale. Additionally, focus on identifying one or two aspects you cherish about your partner your relationship and the swinging lifestyle now let's think about this let's go no matter what happens know how bad your day is how shitty work is you write down three positive things uh positive number one i woke up this morning there are a lot of people that didn't wake up this morning so you know what that's positive i woke up this morning, two, uh, I woke up this morning.

There are a lot of people that didn't wake up this morning, so you know what? That's positive. I woke up this morning. Two, I got a lot of work done before the afternoon. All right? That might be positive. Third one, I got a thank you from a boss, whatever. You know, like I said, I don't know. But my number one positive is always I wake up in the morning. All right, so those are three things that are positive, and I wrote them down. Keep that book next to your bed stand and all that, and you write those positive reinforcements. Talk about what you like about your partner. She's beautiful.

She's sexy. She's smart. She works hard. She puts up with my shit. Things like that. Write that down. What about your relationship? She puts up with your shit. She's a great mother. All that stuff. What do you like about the swinging lifestyle? I like the openness, the friendships, things like that. You write all that stuff in the book and you keep it next to your bed and you write it down day. This way, it can rewire your brain not to be jealous about things. Now, is it possible to get jealous? Oh, sure it is. You could always come back, but you can always learn to rewire your brain.

Like, your brain is like, think of it like a computer. You can reboot it. Now, is the human brain, do we know everything about the human brain? No, we do not. We try to understand it as much as possible, but we really don't understand it as much as we think we do. But we have doctors who are smarter than me, who have done studies on this, says we can rewire our brain. And I think you can because I've done it to myself.

And with eating, I always ate everything, soda that things like that anyways these exercises can assist in fostering positive thought patterns and reshaping your mindset so hopefully that works I don't know maybe hopefully if it does work let me know let me know if it does work so I can talk about it it come on Positive decorations. Feelings of jealousy can stem from comparing oneself to others harboring thoughts such as, he is more muscular than me, or he prefers her over me. Like I said, that's probably the most common swinging statements when you get jealous.

That he's taller than me he she he prefers her over me and stuff like that and those are things that we got to fix that you will have to fix in your relationship so focusing on these negatives or perceived inadequacies can obscure the positives within us to To counteract this mindset, utilize affirmations emphasizing an inherent self-worth. Choose straightforward and concise affirmations like, I am complete. I am attractive. I am compassionate. I have a great cock. That's one for me. So, I am complete. You're the overall. Listen, we're not perfect.

There is no one perfect human being on this planet. We all make mistakes. We all have something wrong with us. Some more than others, right? Just be honest. Some people more than others. Pasty girl is having a good time over the booth. She's got one, two. There's like four guys over there, two girls, so that looks like a gangbang right there. Anyways, I am attractive. Yeah, you know, listen, you can be, attractiveness is subjective. Some women I see are attractive, other people will say they're ugly.

Me, I like, a woman that's attracted to me is someone who shows, looks at me, looks me in my eye, talks to me, shows interest, things like that. Other than that, that's all. Because you know what? Guess what happens when you get older, looks fade, bodies get worse, gravity takes over, and all you got is a personality. So personality does take over more, for me at least, you know. Now, was that always like it? No, it was not always like it. Like I said, I had to grow up. You know, you do a lot of things. You got to do a lot of growing up and all that.

And hopefully I did, and hopefully I'm better for it, you know. I feel I'm better for it. So focusing on these negatives or perceived anecdotes can obscure the positive ones with us, within us. To counteract this mindset, utilize affirmations. Like I said, I am complete. I am attractive. I am compassionate. All that. Verbally express these affirmations and repeat them multiple times daily to reinforce their impact. Now, do you have to go look in the mirror? I don't know. Maybe. But you just say, I'm attractive. I'm attractive. I would say I have a big cock. Thank you.

reinforce their impact now do you have to go look in the mirror i don't know maybe but you just say i'm attractive i'm attractive i would say i have a big cock or i have a nice cock you know what i don't really care about having a big cock i have a nice cock i have a nice cock stuff like that you want to do something like that i would do that that's what i would do that's what i do i'm not ashamed of it all right uh. Enhancing your self-assurance within the swinging community is instrumental in mitigating jealousy, concerns, and gradually shifting your thought patterns towards positivity.

You got to be positive. Always be positive. Oh, cowboy. Woo-hoo. Cowboy over here. Cowboy girl and all that stuff. How you doing? Just staring at me. I don't understand. They just stare at me. They look at me. I don't know if they can hear me or anything like that. So it's kind of weird. But anyways, she's got little skinny boots on. Cowboy boots on. Cowgirl jeans. Mini half shirt on. Showing her little belly button out there. She's got her little cooler with her. Got a nice little cowboy hat, all that. So, who knows? She's looking good, though. Looking good, baby. Looking good.

All right, anyways. So, let's see where we're at. Self-examination. All right? Now, this is the tough part. Because now you've got to be honest with yourself. So, self-examination. the presence of jealousy indicates a perception of a threat to one's relationship. And we don't want that to end. We don't want your relationship to end. If you have to stop swinging and your relationship stays strong, do it. But, you know, if you don't have to stop swinging, we still want you to stay together.

Because there's nothing worse than a messy divorce and swing and swingers who get divorced because now you got, you know what happens when you get divorced? You also separate the kids, but you also separate the friends and all that. So even in the swinger divorce, the friends you swing with, now they have to choose which side they're going to pick and all that. So reflect on why you hold this belief. Is there a particular event that triggered this response? Like the guy pulling out his pants and the 12-inch cock falls out. Girl takes off her clothes and she's got zero percent body fat.

Is that what triggered it? I don't know. What is causing you to feel exposed or vulnerable? Figure that out. Dive into the underlying fears that fuel your feelings of jealousy. Often current jealousy is intertwined with past distressing encounters. Maybe you were, maybe something happened in your high school days. People called you ugly, people called you fat, people called you short, stuff like that. I don't know.

You just got to figure out what they did in high school to figure that out Now can you Overcome this Of course you can So don't sit there And think Ah I cannot overcome this Alright And you know what No it's a good cure Go to a Swinger club If you're a lady And just watch All the men and women falling over you, especially if you're a single woman. If you're a single woman, you're going to get all falling over, and everyone's going to love you. So dedicate some time to contemplate these occurrences honestly, both internally and in conversation with your partner.

Alright, so that's how you really deal with the jealousy. Some of it. Now, is it gospel? It's all up to you. It all depends on you what you want to do in this jealousy world like I said I don't know but you can and cannot do what you do with your partner and all that but jealousy you know can cause not a cop how you doing