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She listens to this mess, I'm more like a one-night-send Apologist, she's so out of my league Every time I sing, I miss her Oh my god, I think we're Oh my god, we're gonna kiss I'm anxious with a grip Uh-huh She can turn me on just like a switch Oh man, it really keeps me going when she tells me Just like this Get out of your head Tell your men to drop dead Get into my bed Girls just wanna have sex Get out of your head We'll be right back. All right.
all right welcome back you know we're here at crazy winter nights here in kansas city missouri and if you hear people talking in the background it's because i'm in the main um i guess you say the main conference room you know i got the lovely pasty lady next door to me with her tits out, with her pasties on. I got another lovely group selling hats, tumblers, ropes, and other stuff out here. So there's a lot of stuff here, guys. So if you're in the Kansas City area or nearby, come on in and check it out because it's really fun.
You know, you get to meet people, fellow swing got the bdsm kink lifestylers in here and all that stuff so you got a lot of stuff going on here but you know you came here to hear my sexy stories or talk about it so i arrived in kansas city yesterday came here set up did my two-hour show here today. And last night, they were having karaoke in the main hall. It was pretty good. Karaoke was good. People could sing. Some people couldn't sing. But you know what? That's not what it's all about. It's about getting out there and having fun. So I decided to check out the local scene.
Whenever I go to any city, I always want to check out the local swinger scene. And I started Googling.
I Googled Kansas City Swinger Cl city swing clubs and one club that came out because it allows single guys but and it was on a friday i didn't want to waste i'm not going to waste my saturday night i'm going to stay here party here have some fun maybe have some sex and all that stuff and maybe who knows so i went to i googled kansas city uh swing and clubs and i came up with a club called the fantasy lounge and the website is the fantasy lounge.com and i heard it's brand new uh well actually the new the club ain't new but the location is new and i guess it's in a better area now in kansas city so that's good so i went there and what i kind of do like about it is that you have to be vetted so you got to send in an email explaining who's going to be there your single guy single female or a couple send in I guess a picture to I think I send the picture I don't know and later on you hear from they got back to me within 24 hours so it wasn't like you wait weeks and weeks and weeks I worked at a club in houston called club cave they would do that they would tell people you have to send the pictures in and fill out information and they'll get back to you well they wouldn't get back to them for a week or two which is kind of sucks because you lose them in there because you know people want to party so i sent in my information they vetted me and b bada boom, bada bing, I'm in.
So I could sign up for any party. So I went to last night's Mardi Gras party, and I got the beads. If you're on SDC or Swing Lifestyle, you can see my beads and all that, because I got them on right now. See, you can hear them, all that stuff. So I went there last night, and it's about from the hotel to the party. It was like less than 25 minutes, which was good because it's not a long ride and all that stuff. So I headed over there around 9 o'clock because it doesn't open to 9. 9, I don't know what time it closed. I didn't stay there long. I only stayed there an hour and a half.
And the reason why I spent a lot of money here to party here at the crazy winter nights and i figured well i better get my money's worth anyways so i go there and it is kind of hard to find but they do when they send you an email that you've been vetted and all that and they sent the information the the web address they don't want you to send the address to anybody It please don't send the address to anybody else which is you know kind of cool because I always say you don't want a swear club where you know the word gets out or you know cops and all that stuff find out about it stuff because you know people election years you know politicians love to DA's to make a big bus.
And a sex bus is always a good bus. A drug bus is always a good bus and all that stuff. So they tell you don't show, don't tell anybody the address. Great. I have no problem with that. I'm only in Kansas City probably once a year, so it's no big deal. Not like I know many people here anyways, right?
So to get there, I got to park underneath a road i think it is like a bridge you park underneath there you walk over there now like i said there's no nothing that will show you that it's a club or anything but what you do see they do explain about the still the still steps and the black railing which was a key so you figure that out you go there it's cold as hell here it's only like 15 degrees snow they had a winter storm here like the beginning of I'll see you next time.
steps and the black railing which was a key so you figure that out you go there it's cold as hell here it's only like 15 degrees snow they had a winter storm here like the beginning of the week and get in there you're gonna get little little cold get in there so make sure you dress properly during the winter months you go up to the stairs and the very first door you open it now my first impression I didn't know was new location. The first impression was this is not going to be good. The check-in area is not bad, but they need to definitely get it going.
They need to get a better coat check system because they have like this little rack, but you can already tell it's going gonna break because there's so many people everyone's bringing a coat and all that because it's 15 degrees out right so everyone girls dressing nothing pretty much anything and all that so you go in there now you can either pay pre there's prepay and there's you could venmo which was for me as a single guy was 80 for a couple i think it was $60, and single females was like $40.
Single guys, if you get there before 11, it was $80 for a couple I think it was $60 and single females was like 40 bucks single guys if you get there before 11 it's $80 if you get there after 11 it's 100 bucks all right so I pay my Venmo they have the little scanner code for you scan it pay pretty simple not not too fast you give them your name excuse me so you have your name there and if you're not on the list I don't know if you can get in or not but they have to look up and they got a bunch of different uh sdc sls they got their regular their regular website and all that so they can go and do all that stuff so they have all that great stuff on there um you got your name so you're good to go your name's on it you're good to go you pay your venmo you pay your admissions and you go off you give them a cold check to give you a number and all that, so you're good to go.
Your name's on it, you're good to go. You pay your Venmo, you pay your admissions, and you go off. You give them the code check. They give you a number and all that stuff. So that's good. All right, so you go through, you walk, you go through the black door. You open up and you turn to your right. In your right, you have the two bathrooms, which they only have two bathrooms.
So they have, so got to keep keep those guys and ladies you got to keep those bathrooms clean because they're only two on the premises right next to the bathroom is where you can get your setups or uh you know your cokes your sprites whatever you need ice and all that stuff you can bring in coolers but they got to be hard shell coolers they cannot be none of those shitty styrofoam coolers or anything like that this is you know they're trying to be a more upscale type place which it is i'm gonna agree i'm gonna have to agree with that it is a very upscale uh type place all right so you go in there i go grab a coke you don't have to pay for anything you don't pay for the setups all you got to do you know tip the person getting you to set up and all that stuff now there's only one which was good because there wasn't a lot of there wasn't a big line for setups and all that because people bring their alcohol and they just drink the straight alcohol the beer or whatever they're doing so that's good so you don't have to sit in there late in line.
Like some clubs and some swinger events, you're sitting forever in a line because of the fact that they don't have enough people doing the bartending and anything like that. So, you know, you just got to be very careful. They did this right.
So far, from what I saw, they didn't have any line problems at all even when you were checking in checking in was pretty quick you know sometimes you go check in when i'm in houston i go check in if you got a new couple in front of you guess what happens you got to wait forever for that new couple to fill out their paperwork and do all that pay and all that stuff well here it's pretty simple your name's on the list pay your venmo go all right so you're in there bathrooms to the right uh set up stations to the right you're all good all set the dance floor dance floor is huge pretty huge they got seating permanent seating they don't have chairs they have permanent seating on the walls of the dance floor so everything all the's on the outside so think of a square and in the square all the seats are on that outside of the square they got uh one stripper pole by one of the chairs by one of the chairs area which where i sat and all that stuff so you got nice little you know stripper pole so you could do your little dancing.
No one was doing anything on the stripper pole at this time right now. Because like I said, I don't know. After 11.30, I took off. Had to get back to the party here at the crazy winter nights in Kansas City. So I did that. Sat down. Had my soda. I don't drink, so I had my Dr. Pepper. Actually, I had a Coke.
They actually had a Coke coke i'm finding kansas city and all that stuff is pretty much a uh what do you call it a pepsi city i don't understand that why some cities are pepsi and the other cities are coke but anyways so you go there they play great tunes i love the dj dj was doing a real good job and all that stuff and he he's rocking people by 11 o'clock everyone was a lot of people were dancing having a good time shooting the shit with people and having a great time and all that so all that stuff was great and you know ladies were dressed this was a place where the clientele i the clientele was very great very beautiful women women dressed like swinger with ladies they had the mini skirts on see-through outfits all they were dressed to the nines and all that stuff so they were looking good the swinger girls were looking good guys dressed nice I was I was impressed the gentlemen there were dressed nice a lot of guys were in a you you know, were in a, what do they call it?
Nice suit and tie and all that stuff. So it was pretty good. Suit and ties they were having and all that great stuff. So it was kind of weird seeing that, how people, usually when I go to a club, the guys don't dress at all. They don't know how to dress. I don't know. But here, the guys would dress pretty nice.
Girls were even sex were even sexier heels on they weren't wearing flats or anything like that dresses all dressed even at 15 degrees the women came dressed to fucking dress to impress so ladies of the fancy lounge on friday night at the mardi gras i give you a thumbs up gentlemen you too you guys dressed to impress i didn't feel out of place because you know what i wasn't the only one dressed up summer adventures are better with minky couture from road trips to ball games beach nights to backyard movies minky has you covered don't miss the everywhere blanket water resistant ultra soft and made for life on the go wherever summer takes you bring comfort along minky couture.com the original best blanket ever i was wearing this stuff i always wear a three-piece suit when i go out because, you know, you've got to dress to impress.
And I was very impressed by that. So that's good. So the clientele is great. Friendly? I don't know. I don't, like I said, you have to go for yourself. If you're a couple, it's always going to be friends.
Whenever you're a couple, it's always easier to make friends and all that stuff because the people there are more open to you and all that as a single guy a white single guy you know sometimes you know they kind of tend to stay away or you know they're a little shy or hesitant to approach you but it seemed like everybody knew everybody there and it's pretty uh you know it was all right but anyways so a lot of the people there were great and all that they had in the back they had a dj in the back playing tunes they had the video wall so if they had a video they'll play a video too with the music and all that which i like i like that because you can check out the video because you never know some of these because you don't really know the artists and all that stuff so i can figure out who's this artist oh this is oh that's a great song all right so sorry my sign fell and i had to fix it and all that good stuff because you know people got no so i think i was talking about the dj the dj was there dj playing they got videos of the songs they're playing all that stuff so that was good then they had a setup of you know they had snacks uh i remember chips of white cookies were there chips they had cheese and crackers all kinds of stuff so it was pretty you know pretty cool that they had the cheese and crackers set up because i i went to town on the cheese and crackers because uh you know i like i was hungry too and i like the cheese and crackers so they had that little setup now you got you've got the dance floor.
It's a square, pretty big, lighting, everything. It's upscale. Like I said, I'll read all the stuff that they describe on there. Actually, let's do it now. So they talk about them. So they said, come enjoy some hip-hop Top 40 dance music to get those juices flowing and some sexy r&b to get in the mood our in-house dj plays all the hits so ladies don't be afraid to request your favorite songs all right so you can do that and all that stuff mama look at you they just look at me like i'm disgusted anyways our private lounge offers lounge offers upscale atmosphere. Yes, check. That is upscale.
It's not trash. It's pretty damn good. Like I said, I give it the Swing and Single podcast a thumbs up, two cocks up. Dance floor with LED lighting. Yep, they got that. 4K HDD TV. So you got those. Martyr upscale lounge setting. Yeah, it's upscale. all right? It's more upscale than a lot of places I've been to. Open, they got nine private playrooms. I'll get to that. All right, so let's just go back to the DJ. So they got the, it's Martyr and everything. Everything they say on the website's correct. It's accurate. Like I said, it's brand new.
They just got to make a little, you know, tweaks there, here and there. The entrance got to be tweaked, all that stuff. All right. Now, let's talk about the private playrooms. So, to get to the playrooms, you've got to go through the dance floor. And where the DJ and the snacks are set up, you just go straight. You follow the wall. You follow the hallway. And there you go. They have one room with the St.
Andrew's cross and all that and they have each room has a different theme some rooms will have a bed some rooms will have couches some rooms will have the sex furniture you know uh in there they have now there are nine of them so that's good so you have a lot of area to play. You don't have to worry about, you know, you don't have to worry.
You don't have to worry about, you know, not being able to have a place to play because a lot of times when you get to a club, you're fucked because you got nowhere to play So now you're waiting and waiting and even though there's a two-hour time limit on a lot of these things Don't mean they're gonna be done in two hours Some of these couples go for a long time because you know what sometimes they pass out I actually seen people sleeping when I worked at the club I would have to bang on unlock the door bang on it and the fucking couples will be in there sleeping Thank you very much.
Thank an STD because you're pissing fire and you get all scared and all that. But, you know, listen to AC. Don't listen to AC. It's up to you. So they have those in there. I think they have, like, some towels down, too. So you got that. When you are done fucking on the beds, make sure you clean up after yourself. Make sure you put the condoms in the trash. Make sure you take the bedding off. I think they have bedding in there so you can put a new bed sheet on there. Because, you know what, no one wants to see fuck on your jizz and all that.
You know, some people might, but, you know, a lot of people don't.
They have one area of open play area where they have uh you know porn playing they got a couches and all that now this is where it's not really much of an open play area to me it's kind of small too small to be an open play area and all that now did i see anybody playing no i didn't see anybody playing because like i said i didn't stay long i didn't stay even past i stayed 11 30 i got tired i got bored because it was just people dancing to have a good time now it was nice watching the ladies and all that but you know you know you ac gets a little tired after a while i want to see some action and all that so you know all that so you know all in all the overall vibe was a great vibe it's a great party for a friday night i was impressed that there were a lot of people there someone here was telling me i was talking to them last night and they said that it's a a new venue and that they only do it a couple times, like they're only open like every other weekend or something like that, which I don't think so because I'm looking at their, well actually you know what, maybe they are right because I'm looking at their website and Friday Night Vibes they're not, they don't have a party I'll see you next time.
they're not they're they don't have a party posted until march 7th and today is march what i mean february 22nd so yeah i guess they're not open all the time so maybe that is why they have a big crowd so you know but it was nice you know you got to see a lot got to see a lot of sexy women. Like, I'm there for the women. I don't know about you. I don't know about you guys. But I'm there to see the ladies and see how good they are and stuff like that. And they did not disappoint. Because I was very impressed by how the ladies were dressed.
Now go some clubs you go to the women got fucking jeans on they look like they just got off work at the dentist office or what all any office and finally bam here they are so you know that's always nice that they have that they went out of their way to get dressed like i said maybe it's better that they not open every weekend maybe because you know you have to go there on certain days you know you have to go and go there so let's look at the pricing the pricing is 80 well 80 dollars for couples pre-pay online or pay at the door 80 for single males pre-pay online before 9 p.m the day of the event and a hundred dollars after that at the door.
44 single females. Pre-pay online or pay at the door. All right? And they got a link where you could click here to pay. All right. So that is the prices. Let's see what else we can get to you. Next one is March 7th. It's, I don't know. I don't know what the theme is, but I don't know. Let's see what else. Let's go upcoming events. All right. Let's see. Party at the Fantasy Lounge, Friday, March 7th, 9 p.m. to 3 a.m. Friday, March 21st is the next one, same times, April 4th, April 18th. So, yeah, they're pretty much open every other weekend. So I guess that's kind of, you know, cool, I guess.
Let's see. What about last night? Let's see. About last night. First, we all would like to thank everyone who attended our Mardi Gras theme party last night.
We also would like to thank you for your continued patience as we get our website as well as our new location up and going to our standards you'll you will continue to see small changes on both as we work diligently diligently between canes and each party make the fantasy lounge an even better experience for the previous location friendly reminder we you need to rsvp before 6 p.m the day of the party on our website on the sdtc page the earlier the better this especially true if you haven't been fully vetted yet by us these individuals definitely need to reach out to us in advance so they can challenge so it can be challenging to complete the process day or even before the party thanks again all right so remember just do it before get vded, have some fun.
All right. Let's see. Let's look at the reviews. All right. So it says on December 18th, 2024, my boyfriend and I have been going there since they opened. They are like family to us. And if you want a comfortable place that makes you feel like you're at home, then this is a place, always a good time. The whole staff is always so helpful. So tell your friends about this new location because it's going to be a blast. But what better way to bring in a new year? All right. One of the best places in Kansas City, been going there for like 10 years now.
Awesome, sincere hosts with the heart of the community. We have been going to their events for the last 18 months. Always clean, they hold people accountable, and last but not least, you're always going to have a great time. We love the environment that's created every time. Cool. Haven't been to the new place, but have always had a great time when we went to the venue. The Fantasy Lounge is our go-to place in KC when we want to mingle in the lifestyle setting. Always a good time, many good memories. All right. Let's see what this says. Sassy.
We've been coming to this club for the past three years, and it's always an incredible experience. Between the amazing music and people, every visit is memorable. The hosts do an outstanding job of creating a safe space for everybody hello how you doing carefully vetting attendings ensuring everyone can truly relax and be themselves we are especially excited to check out the new location is sure to be just fantastic now i don't know about you the vetting part is kind of it's subjective does it really keep out the trash or the bad people? Can you truly vet anybody?
Like, all I did was sign up to show my picture. Maybe they do that because they want to keep ugly people out. Now, there were some ugly men, but there were not.
I'm going to tell you something I was like shocked There was not Like there would not have been One woman I would have turned down Like No way I would have turned I would not kick any of those women Out of my bed I'd be like hell yeah Let's go let's party So there was a lot of beautiful women So the vetting I think maybe that's cold word for We're going to keep ugly people out I don't think it's vetting Like for bad people Do that I want to do a police background check on people Thank you.
I think maybe that's cold word for we're going to keep ugly people out I don't think it's vetting for bad people I wonder if they do a police background check on people and can they do that legally without your consent so I don't know what they're vetting but like I said I have a theory when i worked at club cave they would tell people to sign up and submit pictures on the website and the reason why they wanted to make sure they were good looking those owners were pretty slick like that like and like i said if you would have gone there on uh on any night a lot of good looking people were there so i think maybe that's what's going on here, the vetting and all that.
But you know what? It's their club. Like I said, it's their club. They can run it the way it is. I give them an A-plus for the club. I don't think there's – I don't see any problems with the club. So, you know, I'm not – you know, it's all good to me. I don't see a problem with the club at all. I think it's a very good club, FantasyLounge.com, the FantasyLounge.com club.
And I think it's very good and it's very, you know, a very nice place and all that, so, you know, it is what it is, anyways, so, that was my night, so, after I went to the Fantasy Lounge, I came back to crazy winter nights, and they were still doing the karaoke, they were going karaoke strong, all night, all night said there was good singers and there were some bad singers and you know the you always got to admire someone who knows i don't know if they think maybe they think they can't they can sing or they know they can't sing but they don't give a fuck and i respect those people i admire those type of people because it's amazing you get up now this is not like some karaoke bar there are probably close to 200 to 300 people in this room and you're seeing your bad karaoke they don't care they get up there they're dancing they're singing they're having a great time and that's what swinging is summer adventures are better with minky couture from road trips to ball games beach nights to backyard movies minky has you covered don't miss the everywhere blanket water resistant ultra soft and made for life on the go wherever summer takes you bring comfort along minkycouture.com, the original best blanket ever.
Having that great time, and I was very happy for them. Like I said, I could never do it. I could never get up in front of a bunch of people and just be like, hey, yeah, okay, we're going to, but you know, who knows? But yeah, that was very fun last night, watching the people do some karaoke and all that stuff.
Hello, how you they were going crazy with the care they were singing everywhere from country to rock and roll to i think they even sung some rap songs and all that so it's kind of funny when you hear a bunch of people trying to rap and you know and i don't think they had and they didn't have the uh karaoke where you know the words you had to know the words so it's pretty good and you know some of them were fucking up the words and all that so but it was okay but matters is they got out there they had fun they had a great time and i was very impressed and i was very very impressed that they were doing it it was kind of and then like i said it's jealous a lot of jealousy there because i would love to be do that, you know, because it would actually make swinging for me a lot easier because when I'm swinging, it's hard for me being introverted and not being able to just walk up to a couple, say, hey, start talking to them, start having a conversation.
It's tough because of that. And that, you know. You know, it's just.
And it's a numbers game I had a girl tell me at Secrets That you know you really need to talk to more people Because it's all about the numbers games But I'm like I don't want to be You know couples help me out I don't want to be that creepy guy You know that goes to couple to couple Trying to fuck Because I'm in this lifestyle to fuck I'm in this lifestyle to have sex i'm not sitting there lying to people about hey i'm here to make connections great if i can make a connection with someone i can hang out with someone and be friends with someone that's great but the end game is always you know the fuck and have a great time so you know for whatever it is what for for whatever reasons i just can't bring myself to be like hey i want to talk to everybody and i know some guys can do it like and like i said i always admire those guys that can do it so but who knows it is what it is guys ladies and gentlemen boys and girls children of all ages so you know we'll see what's going to happen so back there tonight i go sit down you know what actually i talked to more people just sitting down and over by the fireplace and i did actually at the watching the karaoke and all that so that was so i started talking to people they're the ones who are telling me about the fantasy lounge that it's only open like every other week it's only open twice a month and all that stuff so i was like okay that's how i figured how that's how i found out the fantasy lounge is like that so let's see what else i got so what else happened at night nothing happened i didn't end up with no one i went home jerk off uh jerked off and all that stuff so you know in all in all it was a pretty decent night you know other than have to jerk myself off but you know it's one of those things where you know you got to do what you got to do right you can't sit there and whine and cry about it i met someone here today real nice lady nice lady, nice, plump, nice BBW, looking for some action, hopefully, you know.
Wouldn't mind doing something. Now the girl's a tits, shows me her tits again. Jesus Christ. And all that. So, you know, we'll see what happens. But, like I said, we're coming to you live from crazy winter nights here in Kansas and Missouri. Remember to listen. Go to swingingsinglepodcast.com. Go to see all things ACC, see where I'm going to be at. Go to swingingsinglepodcast at gmail.com. If you've got any comments, questions, or anything like that. And go to Full Swap Radio.
Check out other content creators, creators you know people who have swinging podcasts and all that i don't i'm surprised they're not here they should be here but hey i don't know why they're not here because they should because this is where it's to be but anyways they're not here i am so i'm i have this journey for you so that, let's talk about something else. Let's talk about, let's talk about, let's go to the positive stuff, all right?
So, we go from having fun at the Fantasy Lounge, fantasylounge.com, which I'm talking about coming to you live from the crazy winter nights here in Kansas City, Missouri. I want to be here today. Tomorrow I leave, go back to the real world. So I want to be, let's talk about positivity, you know, because I do talk about the negatives of being a swinger. And I want to talk about being a positive. And I saw this article, SheKnows.com. She, as in the female, S-H-E, Knows..
I found it, and it says, For Women Get Real About Swinging, How Swinging Affected the Relationships, which is, okay, let's see. So, based off the title, I would ask you, what do you think is going to happen? Do you think these girls are going to be, oh, swinging ruined my relationship, swinging made my relationship okay, swinging saved my marriage, stuff like that. But we'll see. Because American culture is structured around monogamy, the idea of having sex with anyone other than your spouse or long-term monogamous partner might seem unimaginable.
It can be hard to understand how swinging, when you swap partners with other couples and sleep with someone new, can in some cases lead to stronger relationship bonds. You may think that the totality rare and always on the DL, Thank you. can in some cases lead to stronger relationship bonds. You may think that the totality rare and always on the DL, but believe it or not, there are couples interested in dipping their toes and other body parts in their swinging waters than you may realize. And for some of these couples, their relationship is totally blooming as a result.
Yes, I always said, swinging can enhance your relationship, swinging can also destroy your destroy your relationship in this case this is about all the positivity stuff that comes out of swinging you know what last day i had my advil i lost my advil tabs somewhere i don't know where they went let's see if i can find them maybe they're in my big pocket here i hope so oh yes they are they are, maybe, no, no, they're not, just paper trash, anyways, so, I really want some Advil, so if you've got crazy eights, come to my booth, give me some Advil, anyways, let me see some messages.
I'm getting some messages here. Hey, guys, if anyone need a refresher, hang on. They got the nurses here for the Wicklet drips and all that stuff, which is good because, you know There's a difference between swinging, open relationship. Open relationship you could do anything. Hello, how you doing? Lady in black with a nice booty. And you've got to talk. You've got to communicate. What do you want to do? Do you want to do anything?
Do you want to you know, be able to date outside to date outside the marriage do you want to date alone you want to date together stuff like that so you got to communicate what you want you know i would suggest doing it together first and see how comfortable you get with maybe the husband going off and dating by himself or you going out and dating by yourself for any type of ethical non-monogamy to work peacefully there will will the here i will include swinging you really have to be on top of your communication game and be incredibly self-aware says dr emory morris host of the podcast sex with emily and author of smart sex most folks think any type of non-monogamy is about more sex but if anything it requires more communication you need to take extra time to process your emotions around your sexual relationships and it's impacting your main partner even if you develop other sexual romantic connections emphasizes worse definitely if you are starting out especially as you're a newbie you're going to have a fucking flood of new emotions and new feelings coming in i don't know emotions and feelings are the same thing they probably are but you're going to have those new emotions coming in you're like holy what is this what are we doing and you might like it you might not like it but one way you can stop the negativity is by being able to talk to your partner about it.
Can you imagine being able to talk to your partner about that stuff? Think about it now. Are you able to talk to your partner about what you really want? Do you want to tell your partner you want another woman? Do you want to tell your partner you got another man, you want just a man by yourself or whatever? Those are the things, and it's scary.
people cannot talk about their partner you've got to be very open you got to be able to tell people what you're looking for and all that stuff all right so it's not also it's it's also not ideal to try swinging as a way to spice things up in a relationship that might be on the rocks 100 agree if you're trying to save your marriage don't have a kid and don't start swinging because it will just end your marriage if anything it will put a spotlight on the problems in your current relationship whether it's a lack of trust a lack of communication or an inability to communicate says morris if you are insecure and trusting spot in your relationship, trying swinging can be an amazing erotic adventure, according to Morris.
The sky is pretty much the limit. You can read, you can head to designated clubs and on cruises for swingers and connect with people who will make your couple's trips that much sexier and gratifying.
Yesterday I talked about with a I read a vice column about a girl who was jealous she says she never thought she would be a jealous lover until she went to a swingers resort then she found out she's not jealous and the same thing is true here they had fun she ended up having a great time with a couple that was there a bunch of couples actually they hooked up with a couple couples they were swapping cocks and support. Thank you very much. Thank you all that. And now, here you go. Same thing. A good couple.
If you can find a good couple that you connect with and have a great time with, guess what? You're going to have a wonderful swinging time. If you have the communication, Pat, you're able to talk to your partner about all the good stuff that you want. Through meeting and exploring sex with other couples, learning new couples' bodies and preferences can help you become more aware of your own and your partner has as a result, says Morris. Yes, like squirting. Like a lot of women don't squirt until they actually find someone that knows how to make them squirt and all that.
And they could teach the husband i had to teach them i would teach guys how to squirt make their wives squirt and all that stuff not saying i can get every woman to squirt but you know i'm very i would like i said i'll put money against my ability make you make a woman squirt you know you just got to get them to that point and you got to know you got to listen to their bodies stuff like that orgasms all that stuff that self-awareness piece is key here if either of you tend to experience jealousy intensely then swinging could potentially be a challenge for your relationship according to morris once you establish that jealousy what jealousy looks like or doesn't hey how you doing you doing good her tits are the fucking distracting her boobs are distracting yeah you gotta have a trade-off yeah I gotta have a trade and they were so friendly.
Yeah? Fucking love them, but I didn't like the kids. You got to have a trade-off. Yeah, I got to have a trade-off. Yeah. But you're all right. They still look good. Thank you. So what? Listen, it's what you bring to the table. It's not the look. What? I don't want more squishy now, so. So they're more suckable. Oh, man. And they're pillows now that you sleep on. So there you go.
So your tits went from here to there and that but they're more fun to play with so you you see you got to look at the positive don't look at the negative right you can't look at that and go judges put yourself it's like It's like cock size. You can't look at that and go, judges, put yourself. It's like cock size. You can't look at a guy. Some of them are eye candy. Right. Some of them are snacks. Right. You're a five-course meal, baby. You're the top-of-the-line meal right now. You know that. No, sir. If you're not really hungry, you can have a snack or if you're starving. All right.
So, how do you put a person in eye candy? Say what? Eye candy. What's an eye candy lady? Eye candy means that is so pretty I don't want to miss it. Okay. So, that would be eye candy. That's eye candy. A snack would be someone you just want to. A snack would be somebody who just looks like fun, but you just want to taste it. You don't want to take it home from my heart. You don't want to take it home from my heart. All right. And you're a five-course meal then. Take it all the way. Yes. Claim it as your own. Yes. There you go. I like that.
That good that's that's a good positive attitude so many people have a negative attitude it's like dude don't judge yourself based on there summer adventures are better with minky couture from road trips to ball games beach nights to backyard movies minky has you covered don't miss the everywhere blanket water resistant ultra soft and made for life on the go wherever summer takes you bring comfort along minky couture.com the original Best Blanket Ever. Yeah, that's true. Are you at home decorating? But I think that people understand what I'm saying when I say it. I do. I agree completely.
I always tell people, it's not how she looks, it's how she treats you. If she treats you well, it doesn't matter what she looks like. Because guess what? When you go home, she's got to treat you well. Because if you're at home, she's a bitch, you're going to be miserable no matter what. No matter if you're banging other chicks on the side or whatnot, you're going to be miserable. So I'll try to have someone who is a BBW or thick and a skinny mini that's going to drive my life miserable. Make my life miserable. It makes you want to keep them back for more of that.
But see, but you said they're a snack. So you don't want to keep them. Thank you.
make my life miserable but see but they're you but you said they're a snack so you don't want to keep them you just want to get rid of them you got to get you a five course meal that jiggle so that's good you got a good attitude there you, if they make you feel comfortable, like comfort food, back to the food thing, you know, the eye candy or the snack might give you a rush of energy, the sugar rush, it might get you excited and pumped, but if you feel rocky later on, like it wore you down, like you had to really work to get it. Yeah. What's the point? Yeah.
Maybe that's something that needs a one-to-week treat or something. You need to do a seminar to make these women feel better about themselves. I hate those women that, oh, I don't look good. I'm like, honey, you got the same body as every other woman. You look good no matter what.
Or they don't think they have a chance with you i'm like honey every woman has a chance with me it's just how you perceive yourself if you're negative no probably not but if you're positive about it you can be a big girl i don't care as long as you don't suffocate me when you sit on my face that's all that matters right no i don't want to die you don't want to die i don little bit of it. I see that. No. The challenge? I don't want to die. You don't want to die? I don't want to die. I love my life. I have a great life. I don't want to ruin it right now.
Maybe when I'm 60, you can sit on my face and kill me. I don't know. But after, right now, I'm having a great time. I know. So. Did you get your new wristbands? No. We got to get new wristbands? We're just changing colors. Uh-oh. So someone must have broke in. No. It's a preventative. Okay, thank you. Nice talking to you. Sorry, honey. I didn't mean to interrupt. We were talking about food. Thank you. Sorry about that, boy. Had a beautiful woman. Hey, hey. Show the ass. She's got a great ass, nice, eatable ass. That's a nice, eatable ass. Got a little. She turns me on, she leaves me alone.
What a meeting. And anyways, let's go back to what we were talking about. So, knowing that self-awareness of what you like and what you don't like. Once you've established that jealousy, once you've established that what jealousy looks like doesn't or doesn't look like for you as a couple, you can move on to thinking about swinging more seriously.
from there you and your partner may even may find you even strengthen your communication and trust and build an you can move on to thinking about swinging more seriously from there you and your partner may even may find you even strengthen your communication and trust and build an even more solid foundation upon which to have sexy adventures says Morris if you're reading this and feeling a bit curious about swinging either you are either with your spouse or a new long-term partner or just that cool friend with benefits you have an understanding with there are a few more things you should Thank you.
Thank there are a few more things you should know before you dive in. Below, four women get real about how their own swinging experiences really were really like. How she got into it. Let's see.
Nicole has been with her husband for 18 years and been swinging for 17 good for them how she got into it i grew up with this ideal that there's not just one person for anyone and that we can enjoy being with multiple people as well as the ideal that you can have sex without having emotion tied to it here my husband knew that i was bicarious when we met so on our anniversary out of our first date we decided to support i went to a swingers club Thank you. Have an emotion tied to it. Hear. My husband knew that I was bicarious when we met.
So on our anniversary, out of our first date, we decided to spoil it and went to a swingers club. How it impacted the relationship. It really helped strengthen our relationship. Not all experiences were 100% pleasurable. So we made an effort to have those conversations and keep the lines of communication open. When you talk about swinging, it makes it so much easier to discuss other issues in a relationship. I think so. What's the worst thing? What's more thing than having some guy stick his dick in your wife? Is there anything else? I don't know, man. It's like, okay.
So, you know, just something to think about. Her advice to those concerning lifestyle. For couples who are are considering it we suggest that you better have a really good relationship started out because it doesn't fix broken relationships it only breaks them up faster nicole i agree with you honey you're a smart lady your husband did a good job marrying you wife and that woman up also you need to have conversations with your spouse or partner before you go into it. Know your rules and limits before you get to a situation because you really get upset with your partner.
Get you with your partner. If you don't talk about it.
all right let's see another one jody was introduced to swinging five years ago and is currently single oh jody call me she loves her work as a sex coach and says it if it weren't for swinging she wouldn't be where she is now so how she got into it i was introduced by swinging by a former husband and not in a good way one day he forgot to log off the computer and i looked at his browser oh nosy i saw some sites that i was not familiar with but i was appalled by what i saw sometime later i confronted to him about it he explained to me that swinging what swinging was but I further appalled by what I saw.
Sometime later, I confronted him about it. He explained to me what swinging was, but I furthered my knowledge by reading everything I could. I then told him that if he had just talked to me about it, it was something I could be open to. So how did it impact your relationship? Swinging honestly had no effect on our relationship, which ended for other reasons. Swinging changed me personally for the better. Alright, I think that's bullshit right there. That statement, they really honor.
I know a lot of dudes and they're not very respect behind when they're with other guys they're not very respectful women and you got to be very careful as a single woman when you're in this lifestyle be very careful that the guys are just using you using you now you might not care that they use you which i know some women that don't they said use me as a coupon and great but i'm just one of those i'm one where i want a legit relationship so i look for the legit relationship and i know a lot of women will say they're looking for a relationship too but yet when it comes down to it when they're talking about it they don't want one they say they want it but they really don't so i don't like that you say that swingers men are just better than vanilla men there's a a lot of great vanilla guys out there.
There's a lot of great single swinging dudes out there, too. Just don't say that they honor and respect women. Okay, trust me. A lot of these guys. Okay. All right, whatever. I'll find a tangent. So here's advice to those considering swinging.
If your is struggling don't do it it will only make things worse if you had a good marriage dip your toes in the water attend a meet and greet or an other's events the swinger couples i have known absolutely amazing marriages for a single woman you meet the best men ever but take it slow make sure you take the casual dating precautions yes okay i agree with that but i just don't like how it's the best man ever okay i know a lot of dudes a lot of my dudes i know are the greatest guys ever and i introduce them to women all the time because i go you know what this fucking dude is pretty good this girl they would make it so but i don't sit there think that oh they're so great and all that they're that.
There's a lot of good men out there, single or not, swinging or not. Okay, Julia Allen, co-founder of Stockings VR, was 24 when she first walked into a swingers club and has now been swinging for 25 years. Good, me and her are the same. How she got into it. My boyfriend thought it would be fun to try.
We didn't do anything except dance and talk to some people the first night but it was exciting and i couldn't wait to go back a few months later on new year's eve we had a hotel room and invited a few people up well everyone came up it was packed and before i knew it everyone was having sex all around me hey how you doing a lovely woman wanted to play with me and my boyfriend I loved it i love watching him with her and having him watch me with her and the both of us just getting lost in the whole experience i love the experience of being able to have sex outside of my relationship so how did they pack the relationship i've never been tempted to stray outside of the relationship by having an affair swinging takes care of all my sex needs i really feel it strengthens every relationship.
I don't view sex as something that you only have with someone you love. Sex is recreational. I think every boyfriend I've had has felt the same way. Of course. Along the way, I started filling myself with various people and decided to take my swinging exhibitionist kinky lifestyle and make it full-time. I guess you could say that swinging has enriched my relationship and enriched my life. Her advice to those considering swinging, don't feel pressure. Most people who are new to swinging don't actually have sex. They like to watch. In a swinger club, no really does mean no.
Many times I had men and women approach me, and if I don't feel like it, I just say no. You can explore your fantasies you have at a swingers club. I would suggest for the first-timers to try a larger club where there are lots of people. People go to swingers clubs are normal people who would never guess in a million years were swingers.
About 90% of the people who swing are married with kids and just want to try walking on the wild side together and let's see one more from jessica drake an adult superstar and certified sex educator okay all right she's an adult so how she get into it depending on the state of each relationship and my boundaries with different partners, I had different experiences. In the beginning, when I was younger, I felt awkward based on my inability to be assertive about my wants and needs. It felt more like that group sex stereotype that you might see on TV or in porn.
And definitely more male pressure-centered. Yes, I agree with that.
A lot of guys pressure their women into it way way too much and it's just something you know you try to stay away from anyways how it impacted her relationship sexual jealousy has never been an issue for me as long as my needs are being met i feel secure and aroused when each of my partners enjoys someone else i think one mistake people some people make is assuming that swinging has only one meaning but it's something that is totally open to interpretation some of my most intimate fulfilling encounters lately have been soft swap meaning i have sex with my primary partner and have foreplay with only our guest her advice for those consider swinging if you want to start experimenting uh experimenting with swinging and swapping you need to take a look at your sexual values and belief system.
Compare it to the way your partner perceives things. And before you proceed, have an honest discussion. Overall, if you find yourself wanting to try this later on in life, go for it. It may reawaken you and give you a sexual second wind. It's never too late. There are people of all ages, all body types, all colors who come from a variety of backgrounds looking for like-minded people. So that's their advice. I hope you enjoyed their little advice and the swinging and all that stuff. Remember, go to SheKnows.com. It's a great article. Check it out. Before with that, I'm going to cut this off.
i'm going to go take a break get some food in me and all that great stuff remember go to swinging single podcast.com check it out see all things ac go to have any questions comments go to swinging single podcast at gmail.com go there also have all that stuff remember gentlemen to shave your cock and balls and keep on swinging everybody Till the day that she died Going on vacation in France Need a soul deported to Spain It's making the flick It's the kind of kick The loving the limit of pain It's a cackle and a hard drive Swing on, swing on It's a cackle and a hard drive Swing on, swing on Thank you.
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