Join host AC Maxwell on today's episode of Swinging Single as we delve into the delicate topic of maintaining privacy in a swinging lifestyle. With expert insights and personal anecdotes, we explore the importance of discretion, establishing boundaries, and handling confidentiality in the world of non-monogamous relationships. Whether you're a seasoned swinger or new to the scene, this episode is a must-listen for navigating the complexities of keeping your swinging lifestyle private. Tune in for engaging discussions and valuable tips on safeguarding your privacy while exploring the exhilarating world of swinging.
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welcome to the swinging single with your host ac maxwell today we are diving into a hot topic how to keep your swinger lifestyle private join us as we explore insightful tips and strategies to maintain your privacy while enjoying the swinger lifestyle to the fullest so grab your headphones and get ready for an episode filled with wisdom and guidance on navigating the delicate balance between swinging and privacy so let's swing into action and shave your cock and balls gentlemen the swinging single podcast with host ac maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only the opinions views and content expressed or shared on the podcast are solely those of the host, A.C.
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Yeah, we're going to talk about privacy because there's a lot of, you know, how to keep private in the swinger lifestyle a lot of couples don't want to be identified because of reasons for work family and shit like that so we want to keep them out and make sure they have a joyful time in the swinging lifestyle all right so sorry for the technical difficulty right there ladies and gentlemen but like i said today we're going to talk about how it is so the swinging lifestyle is a choice where couples consent and singles consent to exchanging partners um multiple partners in a night maybe offering an exciting and rewarding experience for many participants preserving privacy is crucial due to the potential significant social and personal consequences of exposure like i said i had a run-in when i started my podcast about supposedly you know outing people or actually a person or a couple people i don't know but you know what i learned from that and i know that people are stupid and they use their real names when they use their ids for their swinger profiles which is dumb to me i would never do that but okay whatever so this piece offers practical tips on keeping your involvement in swinging discreet, including mastering discretion, managing exposure, determining your comfort level, and incorporating kinks and fetishes.
So by following these recommendations, you can embrace the swinger lifestyle while safeguarding your regular life from unwanted attention. Now, like I said, everyone probably thinks that I don't have my lifestyle out and open for everybody.
Like I said, said when people are gonna know i'm a swinger when i'm dead because they're gonna find all my kinky shit that i had in my room and all that over the years you know i don't advertise it to people when i meet someone i don't say hey i'm a swinger and all that uh i'm like dating profiles i do say i'm a swinger but you can't see anything uh of me there's no pictures of my face or anything like that or even my body so when people email me on those websites they are you know taking a leap of faith that i'm actually good looking or anything like that so you know i get a lot of uh emails from curious women about the swinging lifestyle on those even without the pictures but you know we got to be safe and caught and discreet you know because you know just because you're open with your family you tell your family that you go fuck a bunch of strangers or you fuck other couples doesn't mean the next couple that you're fucking wants everyone to know what they're doing so do you know so this is just a little guide you know take it or leave it to see to make sure that you are discreet and that you're discreet with everybody else like i said it's a learning process don't get upset if you sometimes you're gonna might get outed by someone because you know someone doesn't know you don't tell people uh i always tell people i keep this stuff quiet now so a couple might not say that to you they might say oh well you know we don't know or anything like that and you might see you out on about sorry out and about in at a mall or something or grocery store and they might you know talk to you and then people start asking questions who the fuck are those people so how to recognize the significance of privacy personal privacy holds a vital role in the world of swinging all right transcending more mere preference to become a necessity in life concealing your intimate exploits is crucial in staring clear of unwanted attention potential evening envy and in preserving the core of your personal life like i said people get swinger burnout there are people out there that live the lifestyle 24 7 there are some people that just live it four hours a week six hours a week six hours a month you know they just go out once a month they go to the club they go have their little fuck sessions with everybody or themselves they in front of people they watch people fuck and they go home and fuck each other and they're perfectly fine with that all right so you got that's why i said you gotta remember not everybody is just like you we gotta remember everyone's different everyone has potential to lose things even people who are out and about who have podcasts or they have videos of themselves and all that where they are you know talking about swinging and having foursomes and threesomes and shit like that being in orgies you know you never know what can happen in the future you know is it a sustainable lifestyle for everybody no is it a sustainable life also some yes of course so so concealing your intimate exploits is crucial in steering clear of the unwanted attention that you're going to get.
Unwanted attention might be from, you know, where your buddy finds out your wife likes to get gang banged. And now your friend, your buddy that you don't want anything to do with or your wife don't want to have nothing to do with either. All of a sudden is coming around a lot more. Stuff like that.
Unwanted attention for couples maybe that you might not really like or unwanted attention think about this what about the hated unwanted attention maybe they you know the soccer moms and post shit about you on facebook and tell the whole world that you guys are swingers you go to tpc collets or whatever and things like that you already have only fans page stuff like that potential if me now in envy now this is probably i don't have a problem with that because you know people are jealous of fuck you don't think ac's jealous of people yeah sure we always have a little jealousy that you know that that dude has the best life he's got a fucking eight inch cock he's fucking ripped like a fucking uh a greek god and all that yeah of course we all got envy so i don't see that as a as a bad thing but people do get jealous you know you know why does my wife want to do this man i love to fuck other women but my wife is so uptight and all that i only get laid on my birthday on valentine's day stuff like that uh and all that and also you know your personal life keep your i always say if you're newbie to this or you're a veteran couple you should know this keep your personal life separate from the swinging you know i do believe that there is a lot of swing or burnout out there and a lot of couples get that over the years i have seen a lot of them and it kind of sucks because you know you got a lot of good couples i had one great friendship with a couple and you know we always had fun together we always played together and after four or five years you know they just disappeared off the mat no one heard from them no one heard from them no one's seen them so it's kind of sucks because you don't know what happens and you know we're older so we don't really have a lot of social media like the young cats do but you know you can't find them you want to make sure everything's all right and all that and we don't know so it is essential to acknowledge that not all may comprehend or approve of your decisions.
All right. Remember, a lot of the world thinks what we do when you have a threesome, you do gang bangs, you do orgies, you'd swap with another couple, you go to nudist resorts, think we're fucking disgusting. You know, even nudists think swingers are disgusting. A lot of them do. And it's hard for people to comprehend what we are doing and why we are doing it. It's not our job to make them understand. We don't have to make them understand why we do it. We just got to live our life in a good way. Be moral. Be good people. You could be a swinger and still be a good people.
You still could be a swinger and go to church on Sundays or Wednesdays whenever you go and things like that.
It's just that you don't have to be an asshole about it you don't have to sit there say well fuck you uh I'm happy you're miserable you don't know those people like I said you don't know vanilla people vanilla people are happy people too you know there's a lot of them out there all right there's a lot of miserable swingers too so it goes both ways so it's gonna be tough for people to comprehend uh any of your that you make, especially some of the family members, especially old school grandma. You know, she was born in 1930. She only had one dick in her life or whatnot.
And she doesn't understand why you need a bunch of dicks or a bunch of pussy and shit like that. And, you know, some of them will approve of it. Some will be like, yeah, I would do it, too. You know, it's just, you know, it's a crapshoot. I just don't want to take a personal chance on that crapshoot. So emphasizing the importance of discretion in every step you take. It's very important. Like I said, you are going to live. Newbies out there, you're going to stumble and fall.
You might say something to someone and no one knows they're swingers and you might accidentally let it out that they are. All right?
Just, you know, try to say, you know, try to, hey, hey, I i'm just joking or something i don't know what you can do about that uh it's going to happen but you know what best key is just not to say it at all you know i try to keep away from people's id names or their swinger names now because some reason people use their real names and all that uh and all that now do i think some of the privacy when swingers talk about privacy that they're hypocritical yes i do because i go on swinger websites and i see their full fucking face on pow right there in front of me so you know if i know them i work with teddy and june i know teddy and june are swingers now so you know it's kind of hypocritical but we know we got to address this conference topic because you know privacy is important to some people i have seen some people i've never seen online i've never seen them and i see them all the time at the club they don't get on the online because maybe they don't want people to know or they don't have or they have a profile with no pictures on it and you know i think i'm going that way closer because i'm getting tired you know everyone just looks at the pictures they don't actually read anything on your profile very few of them actually do they look how big your dick is and see if you're fucking in shape that's it so I'm probably just gonna get rid of it like I said I don't pay for the websites anymore I just have those free ads and you know so you can go on there to see what's what parties are going on for the weekend all right so the ability to maneuver through your lifestyle with discretion empowers you to fully freely explore without the fear of criticism or consequences like criticism people are going to criticize you anyways uh even fellow swingers are going to criticize you so you're not going to fully get away from criticism but you got to remember um miss joyride comes in she always talks about her fear is that what are other women going to think of her that she's a whore stuff like that and i'm like they're all doing it you just doing it for the fun of it they're doing it for i don't know for whatever other reasons so just go ahead and do it you're gonna get criticized anyways girl the consequence is you know you can get fired from your job people could say well the moral clause and their contracts and shit like that which i'm totally against and i would love for a a lawyer to go after these companies that do fire people.
You know, the schools, police departments, fire departments, you know, public servants really are really fucked on this and all that. You know, who says it's moral or immoral? You know, so if we can't have we can't have we have a separation of church and state, we can't use.
Well, the Bible says, well, the Koran says the fucking Torah says, no, we can't have we can't have we have a separation church and state we can't use well the bible says well the quran says the fucking uh torah says no we can't because it's the separation of church and state we can't look at those laws like we can't look at stuff like that so i would love for a lawyer to get in there because i don't think people i think people should be able to do what they want outside of work whatever someone does as long as it doesn't affect your fucking job you're fine don't be fucking anyone on your desk or anything like that don't be taking nude pictures of you and you're in at work or in the bathroom or anything like that stay away from that shit you know because you know then they have a reason well you're doing it at work so you're fucking with your work no whatever you do whatever a grown-ass man and grown-ass woman do outside of work is none of their jobs business it doesn't matter as long as you're good all right so when contemplating privacy is an imperative to also consider the role uh of a unicorn or a bull and who are individuals who join couples unicorns being the female by female actually and a what do they call a regular female who's straight then boring probably but in a bull a single male now seeing bill could be someone who's hung it just varies who do you talk to and all that so you got to talk about those individuals who join couples their requirement for privacy often escalates especially as they navigate multiple relationships that demand heightened levels of secrecy all right like i said as a as a bull or as a single male i have to be very careful like i said if i see you outside of the club or anywhere that's not swinger related i don't even fucking wreck acknowledge you unless you come up to me say hey how you doing ac i'm like oh okay yeah how you doing but then i'm like oh i just work together.
I don't sit there and say, oh, yeah, I fucked his wife at the, he watched me fuck his wife at the TPC last night and stuff like that. I don't do none of that. I always keep quiet and just be whatever. So here's some key points to bear in mind when you're doing this. Maintain clear communication with your partners regarding what can and cannot be shared.
And know what this is never i i can literally say when i meet a couple they never talk about stuff like this they never tell me oh don't say anything don't tell no one you met i did the vince wayland couple said please do not uh uh was it before we started playing they said please don't uh was it certified us don't certify us on a website or anything like that okay that's all right no problem so i didn't i would love to but i didn't all right so a lot of couples don't tell other singles and because you got to remember as a single i don't have that risk of every a lot of stuff that couples have i'm not getting criticized because you know people are not going to look at me like oh okay they're like oh so what he's he's not married so it doesn't really matter single females yeah she's a slut but oh well but for a couple it's totally different so they have to be very and they in couples you have to be very communicative with your single partners that you have don't tell this don't say this do this that and all that stuff if we see like i always tell people like always bring into the conversation when if i see you outside i don't even know you exist and always always bring this up with uh all the couples i play with exercise caution in divulging information in public or to casual acquaintances yeah like so like i said if you're at a bar with your co-workers and i see you i'm not coming up to you you have to come up to me and talk to me and even then i'll be just like yeah okay we're just friends i don't tell you where we met we're just friends from school stuff like that that's always easy to do when you whenever you're when in doubt just say you're friends from high school or college now if they didn't go to college or anything like that just say high school then you know people go oh okay yeah that's no problem because that's more believable than yeah we we know each other from theers club, we know each other from the night game and stuff, so, you know, here's a great one, this is one everyone should do, ponder the creation of a swingers alias to shield your true identity within the community, like I said, do not use your first names as your swinger ID, I know, it's hard to think of, like, I fucking have trouble coming up with names, so, you know what, with ai i just google i just go to ai and go hey what's a great name for a swinging 40 year old swinging male uh that's been swinging for the past 20 years and they come out with a fucking list of names do that as a couple do that as a single person do do that all right they don't need to know actually make up your name a lot of the couples that a lot of those single girls i play with i always tell them do not tell them your real name tell them give them a fake name what's your middle what is you know even your middle if you can't come up with a name just call your middle name just use your middle name ladies and gentlemen they don't need like i said swingers they don't you don't need to tell people everything other than your health status you know if you want to tell me your real name you want to tell me you're a teacher you want to tell me you're a firefighter a police officer a lawyer whatever that's you that's you but for the newbies and the veterans who sit there ponder this question you can say fuck you i'm i'm a fucking ceo of a oil and gas company or i'm a i'm an accountant at fucking baker hugh Hughes or something like that, or at Walmart.
So I'm a Walmart greeter. It's fine. You don't have to worry about what other people are going to say because that's your alias. So formulating cover stories for swinger events. All right. And this is goes both at the swinger party and before, you know, you got, you got, you're dropping the kids off to the mother-in-law. You got to come up with a reason where you're going. So when parking in a swinger lifestyle, I mean, sorry, when partaking in the swinger lifestyle, establishing convincing alibis for attending events is vital in upholding discretion.
It is not about deceiving others, but rather safeguarding your personal life consider the following tactics sorry so on a night out so if you're going on a night out inform friends or relatives that you are having a standard date night the casual explanation raises no eyebrows just say yeah we're going to movies we're going to check out a new bar restaurant downtown we'll let you know how it is and all that then if they ask you how it is just say oh well we didn't really get there you know we decided to stay in stuff like that all right now this is if you don't have any kids that need babysitters now if you have kids that do need babysitters you might have to come up a little more you could say the same thing i'm and i don't think people are gonna like what you're really going to a movie oh you're really going to a new bar downtown i don't think they're going to sit there grill you now unless you were devious in your past life maybe the mother-in-law or your mother or the babysitter might grill you babysitters probably not because they're getting paid to do it mothers-in-law you know the grandparents are not there they're not getting paid or anything like that unless you're really nice and pay your grandparent all right professional obligations mentioning a work-related function or the necessity to handle office matters can serve as a plausible excuse for your absence there you go you're going let's say you want to go to secrets you're you know out here you want to go to secrets hideaway you want to go to caliente you want to go to paradise lakes you want to go to vegas and get your on you want to go out to palm springs and go to one of those nudist resorts there just say hey we got a business function i got to go to i got a business um and me and the wife are going to go we got a convention in las vegas convention no one ever questions a convention in las vegas that's where everyone every convention and fucking there there's a goddamn uh laundromat convention dry cleaner convention out in las vegas when i was there uh a couple months ago so i'm like yeah there's so everything's las vegas so las vegas is an easy one to say about business even if you um even other places to say you got a business obligations you got the wife are going to go.
We're just going to get away for a while. She's going to go lay out by the pool or whatever. But you don't need to tell her she's going to lay out nude by the pool and maybe suck a couple dicks, eat a couple pussies. You don't need to tell anybody that. Just say it's work-related. And no one's the wiser. No one's going to say anything. Pursuing hobbies or education. You could state that you are participating in a class or engaging in a hobby that requires evening or weekend dedication. There you go. You are. Health education. That's what it is. Really? Swing it is health education.
You're going to learn a lot about health. STDs. You're going to learn a lot about that. You're going to learn about a lot of working out because you're going to see a bunch of 56-year-old men who are fucking ripped like a 20-year-old. So you're going to learn a lot about health.
You're going to see a lot of women with fake men who are fucking ripped like a 20 year old so you're going to learn a lot about health you're going to see a lot of women with fake titties and those bbls are coming in and you get more and more big asses so you know what it is just say you're going you're starting school you're going to learn something you are technically you are right you're going to learn about sex education health education and physical education so there you go see uh hobby now i don't know hobbies are going be a little tough i don't know what kind of hobbies are at night late on a friday saturday um you can't say you're flying model planes because you got to see where the fuck you're going you know that so you know a hobby might be a little different but if you do like if you're talking maybe you want to go to a nudist resort.
You know, there's a couple here in Houston. Two, one out in Trinity, out in Trinity, that's a really good fucking place to go to, which I had a great time, which I'll talk about later in another episode. So, it is crucial to construct your alibis independently.
Your narrative should remain constant while avoiding excessive intricacies that may lead to slip ups you know you might fuck up and say something that doesn't make any sense and you know you get some people you get some grandparents that are kind of sneaky trying to like oh i caught you because you remember the grandparents have done it all they heard your bullshit when you were a teenager and in your 20s now they know all they know everything they can smell your bullshit from a mile away so maintain a record of your cover stories to ensure coherence and prevent discrepancies like if the husband's good at remembering shit let the husband handle it if the wife is good at that let the wife handle it because you know it can be tough you know you forget your cover stories and stuff like that especially you know like you're like when you really are going full alibi you know you go to a swinger event and you're you're jack and diane but you tell everyone you're allison paul you know stuff like that so although spontaneity may appeal to some having a rehearsed excuse can be adventurous a little game you can play a little uh hooker john, particularly for newcomers in the lifestyle.
Ultimately, the payoff for your diligence is the freedom to explore your desires without the risk of exposure. Now, there's always risk, you know. I'm not going to sit there like, don't listen to other people that say there's no risk. There is always a risk, you know.
You just got to out, does the risk outweigh the reward or the reward outweigh the risk you know so in the realm discretion a real crafted out a real crafted alibi serves not only as a means to self-preservation but also as a demonstration of respect for the boundaries and privacy of all the participants involved like i said a lot of people don't talk about this stuff right here and when i had miss um miss h and me were going at it and we were swinging going to the clubs tpc and colette's she just she was just totally out in the middle of a fucking And we had one come out, we're at kroger's and a couple came up to us say hey we saw you at the swingers club and they said it out loud in front of the whole fucking place there were people in the aisle like oh shit and like i said she takes the number of the couple and i'm like i don't want to have anything to do with them because they can't be trusted because you don't know if they're going to say anything or you know what they're going to do you got to remember there are crazy motherfuckers out there crazy motherfuckers in the swingers lifestyle world that will fucking stalk your ass and call your work call your family members and do all kinds of crazy shit and it's just sad that's why i try to stay away from having those really big friendships now because i've seen and heard people do that shit and it's just like god man why are people doing that what is your problem so how to effectively effectively manage social media online presence in the swinger lifestyle now this is definitely one because you know i don't think people know how to do it like i said i just i would recommend you just don't put any pictures of your face on there uh things like that if you got a lot of tattoos uh everyone has a lot of of so it's kind of hard you know if you have one that's very distinguishable maybe you should cover that up uh don't have pictures of that in your on your profile or anything so in the world of swinging the management of your online persona holds significant importance your social media profile is an extension of your personal image like people and when we talk about personal image let's we got to be honest swingers just look at your pictures they don't you could be the fucking meanest woman in the world but if you're a hot looking woman you're getting 100 emails per day or more from couples trying to fuck you they could care less if you're a horrible person you could have been hitler's girlfriend during world war ii but if you're fucking beautiful hot oh they're gonna be fucking calling you up and all that especially if you're in your 30s too 20s and 30s oh mama mia will you be fucking bombarded and all that and discretion within the lifestyle demands meticulous control over what you disclose like i said do not use your fucking name as your id guys i'm going to repeat it over and over today or whatever do not use your id doing your first names last names whatever do not do that unless you don't care unless you don't care if anyone knows because some of you have those that luxury a lot of you have that luxury where you it doesn't matter okay maybe you lose a friend or two because they know you like to go to swingers clubs you like to swap partners and all that Thank you.
because some of you have those that luxury a lot of you have that luxury where you it doesn't matter okay maybe you lose a friend or two because they know you like to go to swingers clubs you like to swap partners and all that you like to watch your wife with other women other men fine that's good that's the worst thing that happens to you but some people have a lot to lose and like i said don't use your names don't use anything that's close to it you know don't even put the town you're in just say if you're in Dallasallas put it here in fort worth or somewhere it's closer you know you don't want anything like that all right so here are some measures to contemplate when you're talking about your social media because everyone has it access and modify your privacy centers to regulate the visibility of your post and personal details so if you got a personal facebook with your name and all that like you know you got your family and all that put it as private i would put it as private so only people you know can get access to it so if you have like one of your swinger buddies knows your name because you told them your name they want to be facebook facebook buddies you can say no thank you if you're going to create a swinger profile on facebook or anything like that i would i recommend having a vpn uh doing that creating a email with your with a totally different name and all that create a good you know jnlswingercouple at gmail.com gmails are free do that phone numbers when you put a phone number in get a burner phone I'll see you next time.
name and all that create a you know j and l swingercouple at gmail.com gmails are free do that phone numbers when you put a phone number in get a burner phone don't use your regular phone use a burner phone um you get one from t-mobile you get one from walmart for 50 bucks and you could just use that phone number as your you know for 25 bucks a month or 25 bucks for three months you can have service and all that so you can use that as your swinger phone and you can use those phone numbers when they want phone numbers and all that that's what i would that's what i do so there's no you know there's nothing there you're gonna have to really dig deep and all that for you to find so someone to find you you know and if they find you good for them i guess shit they go off through that trouble so you know make sure your privacy settings are there on my web page for my facebook page i have it open where everyone can see because you know i'm advertising for my podcast i want people to listen people to like stuff like that or hate and send emails or whatever all right another one exercise discernment in accepting friends requests from or followers like i said with my i don't have a personal facebook page i just can't keep up with shit i can only keep up with this so you know tiktok nothing i don't got nothing there instagram nothing uh what's twitter nothing it's all swinging single podcast that's all i have and that's all i can deal with because you know i you know i don't want to spend forever and i don't really care people from my high school know what i'm doing who are not my friends in the first place they weren't friends in high school they're not gonna be friends now so i don't so i never really got in that social media thing i can't stand it now having to do this with the podcast and all that i wish i could just hire someone to do it but you know i gotta do it because this doesn't i don't charge anybody anything just don't make no money so i gotta do it so you know just watch out who you accept friends because if you don't know them don't not accept them just say no thank you or i don't know if you can i don't know if you are able to send a thing back saying hey who the hell are you all right refrain from sharing information or images that could potentially uh signify your involvement in the lifestyle yeah like i see swingers post pictures of their kids pictures on their swinger facebook profile and they black out the kid's face thank god but you know you're still you're putting your kids in there and you know what someone close Most you can tell if that's you and all that like i said uh watch out what images you show you know if you have a picture a great picture of you and your wife at secrets hideaway in front of the secrets hideaway uh big red cheer uh and in front of their uh picture taking booth you might not want to put that on your regular facebook page you want to keep it on your swinger facebook page because you know what guess what someone sees it guess what they're gonna look secret they're gonna look in the back and they're gonna see secrets hideaway and they're gonna google secrets hideaway and they're gonna know you know and people don't out people out themselves more than anything uh and all that now but that like i said you gotta be very careful you know there's a lot of ai now technology that you can see.
uh and all that now with that like i said you gotta be very careful you know there's a lot of ai now technology that can do shit for you there's a i have picture the director i pay for a year yearly service and i could change the backgrounds and pictures so you know you really got a good way now it does take time to do it but yeah it's better than fucking you don't want people to know who you are. That's a good way to do it. All right? So just refrain from sharing information or images, all right, that you don't, on your regular stuff that you don't want.
If you got a family Instagram, you're not going to post stuff on that family Instagram. Hopefully you're not. I know some of you don't give a shit, but you know, remember not all your kids want to know that mommy and daddy are fucking other people. Contemplate the creation of a distinct profile for your swingers engagements, ensuring it remains unlike to your personal professional life. Like I said, that's why I, you know, that's why I would recommend I do it. I recommend everybody do it.
Just create a fake email address, get a VPNn for your computer or whatnot uh get a fake get a burner phone and all that shit and just have it there all right they're cheap they're you don't have a lot there you don't have to worry about spending a lot of money on it all right so you can have that and all that create a fake you know you always want to be a spy or shit do something with your spy 007 hung 007 and black guys if you have your profile don't put bbc okay 90 100 of the people that are looking at your profile that are black guy they already know you got a bbc you know so they already assume you got a bbc even though that's not true they already assume you got a bbc so you don't need to put the bbc in your profile name come up with something original be different other than the other 20 000 black guys that are doing it same with you dumbasses that put in bwc now okay listen you got pictures of your dick wayne we can see it's big we don't you don't need to put it do something original do something different all right uh but yeah just keep it you don't have to tell no one nothing i'm telling you i don't know why people think that you do but you don't so maintaining a modest online presence encompasses not only the content you share but also your interactions within the community striking a balance between sociability and safeguarding your privacy is crucial all right like i said just don't put your name on there if you don't want people if you have pictures and you're going to put pictures of your face and all that you're going to someone's going to find you i'm going to guarantee you that i'm sure probably someone found me when i used to post my face on their on the swinger website and all that so I'm pretty sure they found me but no one's ever said anything now because I'm a single so they probably don't care but now if I was I was married and you know me and my wife had her pictures up then maybe it'll be a different story but if you don't want to be outed i would recommend just put stickers you know what they call stickers put black out your face now if people are looking at your body they're gonna first thing they're gonna do i'm gonna tell you right now they're gonna look at your pictures if you got a toned body you look good you're not a slob they're gonna you're gonna get hits now you can share your face pictures after you meet them like i have people can we see your face i'm like no you can see my face when we meet things like that and if they don't want to meet me because i won't share a face picture before well then you know what it's not worth really going going through that risk of trying so you know be smart with your pictures pictures always out everybody you know it's not me it's not other podcasters it's not you know people at the grocery store it's the fucking pictures that you post all right so let me remember that you don't have to put a thousand pictures up people don't need to know everything about your life or swing your lifestyle remember once something is uploaded online complete removal can be challenging you know routinely monitor your digital footprint by searching for your name and users names associated with your swinger activities seek support from understanding communities prioritize your self-care uphold privacy seek professional assistance if necessary and advocate for the comprehension within the swinging community even the swingers don't understand swinging you know i don't think i understand everything yet because i don't i honestly don't i don't understand how guys could be so ignorant with their wife's feelings and say you know what we're only gonna fuck i only want to have women i don't want you to fuck other men i don't understand that you know like i said i just don't have the comprehension all right so So, you got to be safe you know i you know we are complete you know a lot of swingers are completely understanding they will know because you know a lot of swingers probably been outed at one point you know in their life so self-care make sure your mental state your mental health is the most important thing all right we don't want any crazy people give get your mental health fix get checked go see a shrink do something and we'll do everything we can to uphold your privacy stuff like that uh and all that so navigating the risk of exposure in the swinger lifestyle embracing the world of swinging can often involve a decision to keep your experiences private and the threat of exposure is a valid concern now you got the ones that are now only fans models where they pretty much post their whole swinging activities online and all that great that's i you know i don't have any bad feelings for it good for you you want to do it it's not for everybody so they're no one they're the ones that have no care in the world to let the world know that they are swingers or they're porns i call them porn stars i don't call them swingers because to me you're really a swinger you're really a porn star because you're charging people to watch you fuck you know and all that and would you be doing it if you weren't making any money off of this?
Would you be doing it just because you love it? Or do you love making the money off of the lifestyle? And it's easy for you to meet other people, other couples like that who want to make money off the lifestyle and all that. So, you know, I don't really call them swingers.
I call them more porn stars, amateur porn stars, which I love because, you know what, I like amateur porn amateur porn i don't like the professional shit those girls i can never touch in a million years unless i had a million plus in my bank account and all that but these amateur ones you know if i'm at a club maybe i can fuck one of them i'm not gonna fuck them on film unless i have a mask and all that so you know it is what it is so you know you gotta watch out for those people and if you do hook up with any of those people that have only fans and all that stuff you gotta make sure that it's a shit there's no cameras uh i had a couple when i was in florida that would film me and his wife and all three of us together as a threesome and they would have a nanny cam and they were filming me fucking his wife and the nanny cam and i confronted them about it they said oh we don't share with anybody it's just for our use only said okay whatever and after i confronted them guess what never heard from them again so you know i are they selling shit probably who knows i don't know i hope not but you know, you gotta be very careful with those people, so be wary of the OnlyFans swingers that are out there, because, you know, they're very open about their lifestyle, and you know what, and I am jealous of them, because, you know what, I would love to be able to just say, yeah, I'm a fucking swinger to everybody, and I don't really give a shit, I don't have to worry about work, I don't have to worry about family members, friends, and all that, I could and all that i could just be me but you know it's just the life we live no we can't we can't right now in this in this world maybe in the future generations it's going to be okay it's going to be more normalized and all that but right now it's not so you always got to be wary of that as you immerse yourself in this community it is essential to adopt behaviors that mitigate the risk remember engaging in thrilling experiences should not equate to being careless and you know what we're all you're going to be careless if you're a newbie listening you are going to be curious i was curious at one point uh things like that and you just learn with age and time and experience all right you like i said it takes you have to do something to learn it you just can't sit there listen to a podcast listen to a video of it and all that and watch porn movies and oh we're we know what we're doing because you really don't until you get balls deep pussy deep in it you ain't you don't have a clue what's going on so you know what try not to be as careless as others don't try to be careless like me and all that so maintain open communication with your swinging partners regarding the level of disclosure you feel comfortable with like i said before it takes communication the for this to work with your partner your wife your husband it takes a lot of communication and it takes a lot of communication because there's jealousy involved there's sex involved there's all kinds of stuff involved in this and if you can't handle that you cannot be a successful swinger if you can't keep your mouth shut that you fuck some hot looking couple at the club saturday night you're not going to be very successful you know swingers have a weird some swingers are very weird they take this i don't it's hard to say i take it seriously but i don't take it too seriously i know swingers and i can't hang out with them because or i don't like them because they take it so seriously this is their whole life this is everything to them it's nothing you know they don't have it seems like this is all they have in their life you know you got those guys at the bowling the bowling league that fucking want to bowl a 300 game every game they get pissed off when they hit down nine they get a spare they get pissed off they don't get strikes and all that they're kind of like those people where they just take shit way too serious and you know and which is great okay you got something you take serious in your life but damn man does it have to be that serious it's sex you're having a good time you're busting nuts you're fucking squirting and shit you're having a great time you're with people that think like you that's the that's one of the most important things i love about swinging is that the people in that club are just like me they love sex as much as they don't want to admit that they're there for sex they're there for the connection they're there for the sex and they're having a great time and i could talk to them about loving how i bring a girl to the club and she gets fucked by a fucking guy or another couple or another girl and vice versa and all that stuff.
Where I could fuck a guy's wife and that's it. We're done for the night. Things like that. So you've got to be open with your communication with your partner and partners.
Let them know we don't tell no one no one all right if you see us outside we don't know you and we're going to give you a weird-ass look when you come up to us and you know what i have over the years i have picked couples say we don't know you we don't want to know you we just want to use you and i was like great it made everything easier so when you see them out especially because you remember the swinger community is not a big community.
It's small because, you know, you might live in New York City where you have, like, 15 million, 20 million people, but you only got a small amount of people swinging. You know, it's not like everyone's fucking swinging. You know, they might do it once in their life where they might actually go to a club. So, hey, let's go watch people fuck. Let's go to a club. Let's check it out.
Let's see if it's, like,'s like the movies porn movies and they find out it's not and they're like yeah fuck it we're not doing it again all right so consider utilizing unanimous profiles on swinger platforms to safeguard your identity block out your faces you will be known you will get caught trust me you will get you're gonna feed someone's gonna find you if you have your face on there so just block out your face and all that tattoos that are you know if you're pictures of your kids and shit on your arm or chest or anything like that get rid of those block those out too all right and if couples do not want to hang out with you because like i said meeting online is shitty i don't recommend online profiles anyways because you know what all you're going to get is a bunch of flakes and fakes uh pick collector pick uh picture collectors and all that so i would just stay away from the online and just go to the club find your local club go to it all right if you're in houston you got five different clubs dallas i think you got three clubs austin you got you know you got one club or two and so san antonio and just google if you're in kansas you know midwest check it out you know see what you got all right if you find yourself in a situation where discretion is crucial have a cover story prepared in case you encounter someone familiar in an in-person event all right like you go to a work event they had the you know christmas party coming up christmas season's coming up uh you have the christmas party at your company and your company's huge he's got like 100 000 people or 50 000 or 20 000 and there's a couple you've seen at tpc or collats or the night game at that part you better have come up with a good story how to avoid them or a cover story so how do you know each other you work on the one side of town you work on the east end i work on the west end how do you guys know each other so things like that all right cover stories are very important living a vibrant swinger lifestyle requires courage it is not for everybody especially when done discreetly all right because you are risking everything uh for just this type of lifestyle which a lot of people I don't agree with the apprehension of your private affairs being this close can be unsettling yes a lot of people get scared because you know they don't want to be you know i don't i think it's not the family and the friends i think it's more work uh work that you could lose because you know you might have a great job where you're making six figures and you lose that job now where the fuck are you your your lifestyle and people live in debt and these days and everything's fucking costing the arm and a leg now pretty soon swinger clubs are going to be too expensive to go to so it could be unsettling for some people and some people maybe not they don't get into swinging because of that fear of losing their job and like i said i don't i don't think it's any i think losing friends you lose friends over the years anyways so i don't think people are like oh i don't want to lose all my friends i don't think that's the reason why and family members are going to hate them any you know you're going to have those family members and if you're a real family you wouldn't like if i had my sisters and brother come out say yeah we're swingers okay whatever i ain't gonna tell them i am either i'm not telling them that but i'm just saying okay whatever so are you cooking dinner for thanksgiving or what uh you know i wouldn't care i don't think a lot of family members care anymore you know there's are some that are very you know even liberal parents are very you very, you know, they'll be like, uh, I don't know about that.
Well, you know, they have a, they're worried, their parents could be worried that you're a reflection of them. So people find out they know you're a swinger. Will their friends find out that their son and daughters are swingers, stuff like that? So that might be a thing.
You might be a little bit worried, but I think mostly it comes from losing your job at work and like i said i'm i will i'm an advocate for fucking whatever you like i cannot stand when people say that because it sucks because what you do what i do at home and in my own fucking private time when i'm not getting paid by the by the company is none of the company's business as long as i don't fuck up on my job and if i do fuck up on my job fire me or fire that person that's fucking up but you know they don't have any right to tell me oh i can't do that because it's immoral who the fuck you know i don't know whatever it's just crazy so but with prudent planning and trust you can navigate these challenges confidently bear in mind not that not everyone will comprehend or respect this lifestyle choice like i said family and friends are not going to so it's wise to be prepared for any inquiries about your personal life all right if there are swingers if you're a swing club and they want to talk about your kids to say uh we're not here to talk about my kids uh we're here to talk about your my dick and your pussy and your dick and my wife's pussy that's what you should be talking about so it is wise to be prepared for any inquiries about that personal life keep your responses ambiguous and gracefully redirect the conversation if you sense discomfort like i said you know sometimes people i ask what do you do for them and you can tell they're like fucking trying to think of a lie to tell you.
And which I'm like, all right, don't worry about it. I just tell everyone I'm a movie director or something like that, if I'm in Vegas and all that. I direct porn. No, I just tell people I'm a podcaster now, and that's it. Oh, what's your podcast? And I got to make up some bullshit podcast and all that.
So sharing details of your lifestyle is a personal decision and it's perfectly acceptable to maintain certain aspects of exclusivity between you and your partners all right you know like i said you only thing a swinger owes to their partners is their health status you gotta know are you you know do you have stds shit like that have you had them like sometimes like someone told me they had chlamydia like back in 2010 i'm like and it's 2020 i'm like i don't give a fuck about that that's 10 years ago i'm sure you got it cured i'm sure it went away and oh yeah yeah but you know like i said it's no big deal all right so dealing with the unwelcome inquiries from non-swingers, this is another thing.
Like, if once, you know, people find out that you are a swinger, I had when my best friend when I was in my 20s, my buddy, Mr. M, great friend. I told him that I was a swinger. No problem. Because, you know, he was not very judgmental.
was not judgmental at all he would just add he would do this he would ask me about what's it like and all that so when non-swinging individual asks about your personal life it's important to respond with the tact and respect from your own boundaries here are some approaches to consider using humor to deflect a light-hearted reply can alleviate any tension without divulging too much information you know i would joke around too i would do that use humor to talk about my lifestyle and all that he would talk about when he would ask me questions about what's it like to fuck another man's wife and what's it like to have people watch you fucking all that because i honestly i think he and his girlfriend at the time were going to be going into it i think they also thought about asking me to join in but I did tell them at that time ago one thing I never do is do it with uh friends and anything because it just ruins the friendship and all that so I think I've I lost out on that pussy because she was a good looking girl nice little blonde girl tight body you know we're in our early 20s so her pussy's probably tightest no actually no she had a kid so who knows polite ambiguity keep your responses general and shift the conversation to another topic yep you will be if you when you become a newbies when you become a veteran swinger you're going to be the master of changing the conversation without anyone realizing you're changing the conversation trust me being direct yet discreet if pushed it's acceptable to be clear about your desire for privacy just say hey i hey, I don't want to talk about it.
That's my personal life inside the bedroom. We don't talk about stuff in the bedroom. Remember, you have no obligation to share information that makes you uncomfortable. Protecting your privacy is your personal right. It's also beneficial to have a set of prepared responses for various situations to ensure that you can stay composed and maintain your privacy while safeguarding the swinging lifestyle.
right so you gotta all do that and you'll be fine trust me ladies and gentlemen you'll be all right you know what it's nerve-wracking at first but ladies and gentlemen you will be fine doing keeping everything private if you just do the small little things you know pictures stay away from pictures stuff like that just go to the club and meet people. You don't need online. You know what? Do an online profile. Don't put pictures up. Just do an online profile so you can see where parties are at, house parties and all that. I tell you, house parties are where they're at, man.
I really love a good, there's nothing like a good house party. So trust and communication in the swing of relationships. All right.
So you really got to have a good bond between those and communication is very important so you know when you're barking in new adventures alongside your partner can be exhilarating but it's crucial to bear in mind that the core swing last out lies uh lies a relationship that prioritizes trust and communication above all else you know you've got to be saying hey when you first start swinging are we going to tell anybody that we do this are we comfortable with telling our parents or family or kids and all that that we do this you know what someone will be like okay no problem yes we'll tell everybody and someone like hell no they ain't gonna ever know that we do this stuff so you know it's just something that the parents and you have to decide what to do and all that so hopefully you shaved your cock and balls gentlemen hopefully you learned a little bit about how to keep private in the lifestyle you know you are going to make mistakes yours truly ac has made mistakes i'm gonna make more mistakes as i go i'm not a perfect human being i know a lot of swingers think they're perfect but they're not trust me ladies and gentlemen veterans newbies none of these swinger people are any perfect trust me you know i've seen them at the club so like i've seen them naked none of these guys shave their cock and balls anymore gentlemen shave your cock and balls dude the girls don't want fucking to suck on pubic hair they want fucking cock they want cum down their throat they want cum in their pussy they want cum on their tits and face they don't need fucking they don't want pubic hair in their mouth so with that ladies and gentlemen remember shave your cock and balls gentlemen go to doobie energy to get that extra thump or extra fuck on at the club doobie.gg enter swinging single for your 10 off and support the swinging single podcast also go to my new website swinging single podcast.com know about me watch my adventures i don't update it that much i just updated with the podcast and listen guys i got a real life to do i don't have all the time i'm not here to make money off of you unless you want to pay me that's fine but with that go to my new website swinging single podcast.com email me tell me what a horrible job i'm doing or tell me how great i am and all that maybe you want to meet up do an interview i interview everybody so have a great day keep on swinging in america and the world You'll get lucky like a four-leaf clover, baby, I'm a Harley to your joker.
I want to be the devil on your shoulder. I want to be the angel when it's over. You'll get lucky like a four-leaf clover, baby, I'm a Harley to your joker.
