Welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast with your host AC Maxwell! Today, AC is diving into a topic that many may find intriguing - being an introvert in the swinging lifestyle.AC Maxwell is a well-known personality in the swinging community who has always been open and honest about his experiences and perspectives. As an introverted individual, AC offers a unique and insightful perspective into the challenges that introverts may face in this alternative lifestyle.In this podcast episode, AC will explore the various aspects and challenges faced by introverts in the world of swinging. He will delve into the reasons some introverts may find this lifestyle appealing, as well as provide practical tips and strategies for introverts to navigate the swinging scene successfully.Throughout the episode, AC will share his personal anecdotes and experiences that shed light into the unique challenges introverts may face in the swinging community. He will also discuss the importance of communication, setting boundaries, and finding like-minded individuals who appreciate and understand an introvert's needs.Whether you're an introverted swinger yourself or simply curious about the experiences of introverts in this lifestyle, this podcast episode will provide you with valuable insights and a fresh perspective. AC's open and honest approach will make for an engaging and thought-provoking conversation.Tune in to the Swinging Single Podcast today to hear AC Maxwell discuss being an introvert in the swinging lifestyle. Whether you're an introvert yourself or simply curious about this unique aspect of the swinging community, this podcast episode is sure to captivate and inspire you.Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe to the Swinging Single Podcast to stay updated with future episodes and exclusive content. Thank you for choosing to listen to AC Maxwell's expert insights and thought-provoking conversations.
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So today we are going to talk about introverts yes i think it's a very important topic to talk about because we're trying to be an all-exclusive lifestyle that we don't you know kick out people for whatever reasons you know whatever their little quirks and norms are uh but we have to talk what if you are an introvert how are you going to be successful in this lifestyle and I hope I could shed a little light maybe talk about myself as much as I can because you know I am truly an introvert too I really don't go up to running around talking to people all the time so with that let's get right into it so diving into swing lifestyle might seem a bit daunting for you know introverts even though a thought of intimidating discussions on topics like sexual preferences and attractions and social contexts that differ vastly from their everyday life however introverts bring to the table profound social capabilities to the stand as invaluable assets in the non-monogamous lifestyle swinging, a realm where authenticity and in-depth dialogues play a crucial role.
All right. So you really got to think about what is introverts? It's just like someone, they might not like big groups. They don't want to be in a club with a thousand people, 400 people.
They might little small get together you know 10 20 people things like that so it just depends how the introvert is now am i an introvert no not really because i don't mind a big uh party you know more the merrier for me but i think i'm more shy than anything i don't think i'm really into walking up to a guy and start just chatting him up and another woman and chatting him up and say hey you know my name is ac nice to meet you you want to go fuck so that's one of those things where you know i have a hard time struggling with and you know and i think a lot of guys do too because of the way you know some men have been i don't know not very gentleman like where they just walk up grab someone and all that which i'm going to talk about later on uh i had an issue on a facebook club group i'm in secrets hideaway and they talked about this little topic over there but that, I just wanted to say that, you know, being shy, introverted is not going to sit there and really hurt your chances of, you know, being, you know, successful.
You can be successful in this lifestyle, even though you have your introverted and there's nothing wrong with it. Don't ever think that you're wrong or anything like that. You can find also other introverts. There's a lot of us out there. Adapting to the swinging lifestyle doesn't require an alteration of your own inherent nature. Don't change for this lifestyle.
That's one thing, one of my pet peeves, how some people change for this lifestyle where they will act one way, but they're totally different when you get away from the lifestyle and outside of the lifestyle i like a person that is genuine who's going to be who he is i am who i am i'm not here to uh be your buddy i'm not here to you know do all the stages for you i'm here to fuck your wife and make her feel good and make you too happy and move on with my life i don't want none of that stuff i'm not looking for you know friendship outside of the lifestyle where we go off and do things together we go to vacations all together no that's the that's not me if that's what you're looking for then we don't we just don't mesh but i'm always honest i'm not i'm sitting here on the internet on a podcast telling you all the stuff about me, where a lot of guys will say, oh, I love you.
Your wife is ugly as a dog, but he's telling how beautiful he is and how she is and all that. So it's just one of those things where I like you being authentic. Introverts are more my style. All right? So don't change for anybody. If you have to change for someone, they're not in your life. Even in this lifestyle, if you have to change for someone in the swingers lifestyle, still don't do it. It's not worth it.
On the contrary, the introspective and contemplative qualities of introverts are often celebrated for adding depth and richness to interactions within this diverse community that we have.
We have everybody come from all walks of life in here you know we got church people teachers doctors lawyers all that stuff you know bums all that stuff we have every single thing like that we have great people and we have some bad people all right introverts are still the same they're great people they could be good and all that for us we can learn from something from this they like should we have a small group? Should we have a big orgy? Or should we have a small orgy? Things like that. Introverts are just as like us, guys. So remember and all that.
So this guide aims to provide introverts with practical advice on how to engage with others in the lifestyle in a manner that remains true to their natural disposition. For mastering the art of conversation or handling social discomfort, the guide will offer insights into how to relish interactions with your chosen circle, all while respecting the interpersonal proceedings needed and setting those healthy boundaries.
All right let's talk about for one handling conversations for introvert it might be a little difficult to walk up to a stranger a couple you know you have a introvert couple who really don't you know they're just shy whatever they're they just like to be in smaller groups they get a little um i don't know a little antsy if it's a bigger group so how do they talk to couples how do they talk to another single female or a single guy it's tough for them because they don't know how to approach it so that i'm hopefully hopefully helping these people understand that it's okay we're all there even if you're extrovert extroverts it's still kind of daunting that you have to go up to a stranger in a sexually charged atmosphere.
And that's what swinging is. We're sexually charged atmosphere. The social discomfort that they're going to have, they are going outside their boxes here. They're in that. They never go outside that box. Now they got to go all over the place because they have to and all that.
Let's see the guide so you know it's just one of those things where we have to start thinking about everybody so keep in mind that swinging community is inclusive um for the most part i would say it is uh and offers space for every personality type whether it's involved sticking to familiar topics of conversation or venturing into more straightforward dialogues some of the best conversations i had some of the best friends i have made in this lifestyle have been introverts uh introverts and all that so you know i kind of you know understand where they're coming from i understand how to work them in a conversation if say like another couple comes up how to you how to, you know, I'm more of like a matchmaker.
When I was working at Caliente, I was hooking up couples because, you know, the couple a was shy. There is the first time, or they just don't know how they're introverted. They don't know how to interact with people sometimes, uh, cause their, their shyness or people might think that, Oh, well, they ain't talking to us.
So they must, must they must think they're better than us i had that a lot because i wouldn't talk to people because you know i like to watch people and all and everyone's like oh what do you think you're better than all of us i'm like no i just you know i'm just where i'm at i just don't have the need to talk to everybody i'd like watching people do things and all that so having them do having this guy will try to help them with this and all that so be straightforward and all that so understanding introversion on social settings in social settings introversion is often defined by the need for personal downtime to recover recover energy after engaging in social activities, along with the tendency to favor meaningful interaction as opposed to surface level chatter.
It's common. It's a common misconception to confuse introversion with antisocial behavior. All right. I think I get that a lot that I'm anti-social i'm not anti-social if i was anti-social i would never come to a club or anything like that i don't think anybody who's anti-social even though they wear those stupid anti the anti-anti-social club shirt it's you know or anti-social club shirts they're not really anti-social they're more they could be intro that. So, you know, that's something that we, as sad as it is, we are, when I first started swinging, no one wanted labels.
There's only two labels, full and soft slop. That was it. No one, there was no pansexual, poly, non-ethical stuff like that. Ethical non-monogamy. I don't know, but now everyone has to have a label. They all want a label. We would then, my generation, we didn't want labels. We just wanted to live our lives. But now everything has a label. So now we always do this. Well, he, they don't, that couple don't talk to too many people. So they must be antisocial or they think they're better than us.
But, you know, it's just everyone all right but in reality introverts practice selective social uh sociability all right they pick who they want to hang out with they pick like everyone else like they should have every right just as much as we do just because you're extroverted and you like to go talk to everybody you're a social butterfly an introverted person should be able to do a couple should be able to talk to who they want to talk to you know and without being judged anything you know i don't see a lot of judgment that much in the swingers lifestyle it's but you do get it once in a while you'll get those people that will start judging people especially if you a couple goes there a lot to the club and they really don't talk uh talk around a lot of people i probably get that all the time from couples like oh he thinks he's better than all of us no i just don't think i'm better than us i just don't know how to talk to you because i'm there for sex i'm not there to be your buddy and make friends all right uh they will only interact when they sense meaningful connections or feel truly intrigued all right so i don't know how this would go about either they like you or they don't like you.
They find you attractive. They don't find you attractive. So I think if it's someone who's, if a couple says they're introverted and they come up to you, I think that means they're attracted to you and you're good to go. So you just got to remember conversation. In bustling social environments, introverts may find endless or trivial conversations to be quite draining. To navigate such scenarios effectively, they might benefit from, one, crafting a mental list of conversation topics beforehand.
So if you are introverted and you know you are, what you should is find topics already talk about don't talk about politics don't talk about religion that's a big boner killer and a pussy dryer uh topic talk about work i don't know i stay away from family and all that because you know really there's no one's business if i have kids or not uh you You know, talk about the weather, you know, sports, if you're into sports or you're into anime, stuff like that, especially if they're younger, video games, stuff like anything. Just come up with conversations that you can have.
And you know what happens if you talk to someone, let's say you talk to you both sports fans, you like the Astros. You're talking about the Astros and something pops up in your head and you go, oh, OK, what about this?
about this and you start talking about that having a conversation the conversation flows and you're having a good time and later on bada boom bada bing you're both fucking all four of you are fucking so that's good two stepping aside for periodic intervals to regain their composure so if you're talking to someone and you're feeling that urge go to the back go, go to the smokers area, go hang out by yourself or excuse yourself, go to the bathroom. Going to the bathroom is good. Take your time going to the bathroom and all that. Just refocus and get your time in.
Lastly, focusing on one-to-one or small intimate group conversations. You don't really have, in Houston, you don't really have these big, big groups where you have seven and 10, eight, 12 people, you know, talking at once. You really get mostly two couples talking to each other and that's it. Sometimes the big group comes, you'll have all the whole group talking, but you really, if you just go by yourself, you're just going to have you, you and your wife and another husband and wife team and all that.
So you don't have to really be too worried about that because, you know, a lot of times it just doesn't happen in a club in Houston. These techniques can help introverts preserve their social stamina while still engaging in viable exchanges. All right. It's crucial for introverts to affirm their right to take needed pauses, you know, and you don't have to tell anybody you're introvert. Just take a pause. Go tell you got to go to the bathroom. At my age, I got to piss every five, 10 minutes now. So it's like, that's an easy out for me. Oh, I got to go to the bathroom. I'll be back in a second.
You know, I get my compulsion and go back out.
Honoring their technique, unique requirement for private moments to reflect and recharge is key for introverts to manage their participation in social scenes throughout you know without feeling swamped and that's probably one of the least things we want to do we don't want to swamp these people we want to keep them here we don't want to do anything that's okay they're not going to want to come back we want them to come back we don't care if they're introverted we don't care anything about all we care about are they good people do i like them do i want to hang out with them do i want to fuck his wife that's what we're looking for furthermore introverts often often equipped with admiral social competencies they are typically attentive listeners and provide considerate insights so you know talk to an advert because they might give you some feedback on you like about your clothing or something i don't know whatever it is maybe they got a good stock tip to give you and all that maybe some uh nf what is it nfts nfts coming up where you're gonna be selling for a million dollars and it's just you know one of those things so if you need to really vent too maybe your boss at work sucks ass and you're tired of it and you got vent to someone they're very good listeners so do that when introverts acknowledge and leverage these abilities it reinforces their self-assurance and eases their involvement in social engagements.
All right. So now we got to look through the lens, the swinging lifeline through the introverts eyes, just like how this podcast is through the single male eye. We have to look at how introverts see the world and see swinging for introverted individuals to Vowling into swinging lifestyle might seem like a formidable endeavor due to its focus in social exchanges and sexual encounters. Nevertheless, by utilizing their innate aptitude for deep listening and careful observation, introverts can adeptly navigate this non-manogamous lifestyle.
Now, it might be a good thing for you to be introverted because you can read people better, maybe than more than someone who is the social wallflower going all bouncing from couple to couple, you know, talking to each other and all that. So that might be, you know, a good thing right there. So here's potential strategy for Interverks exploring swinging. Start online. We all have to find. I just had a girl on Tinder trying to get more information about swinging. She says she always wanted to go to a club, but she doesn't know where to go. And I told her, well, let's meet up.
But she was one of these types where I'm like, how could you not know just to and she said i go why don't you just google swinger clubs and she's oh i feel stupid um when i do that i go well then i don't know if this lifestyle is for you because if you feel stupid googling it just wait till you have see some guy with a 10 inch dick fucking someone who's four foot nine chick uh in the back of the room so you know maybe the maybe the same, but if you're an introverted, start online. This is an easy way. You don't have to see anyone's faces.
All the thing you see is pictures and you have a half the time. Those pictures aren't even real anyways, because they're usually just 10, 20 years ago.
So initiate your journey in the comfort of the digital platforms, you know, engage in discussions on forms about the lifestyle to develop your confidence before stepping into a per in-person event so online think about this digital the the internet has changed swinging some for the bad but some for the good now you got more and more people are connected it's just not you and some seedy swinger magazine that got at an adult video store where you had to write the person, send them a letter, and they had to wait and get the letter back. But it has helped for the better, some of the bad.
All right, so going online, going to swinglifestyle.com, sdC.com, quiver.com or quiver.us, uh, Cassidy or whatnot. Remember a lot of these introverts, these swinger life, these swinger websites for when they put ads on their, their regional, they're not united. You're going to go to one like swing, swing lifestyle.com is not good for Texas. If you go to Florida, the Northeast and up North, it's a great tool to meet people. But here in the Midwest, the West, it's just not there.
So I would not recommend going to Swing and Lifestyle if you're in the Midwest, West Coast or in Texas or anywhere like that.
But if you're in Florida, go at it because that's where a lot of people are sdcs are very good one but like i said most of these are regional they're not unite nationwide so you also got reddit reddit is a very good source you know you can find a lot of things going on reddit and and whatnot so go there um and just start looking at ads look how people read the ads to please read the ads just don't look at the pictures guys i know you see a nice one with the big big titties and big ass and the blood starts going down to your cock and all that ladies the same thing you see a 12 inch monster and you always wanted to fuck one your blood starts racing down to your clitoris just remember read the ad make sure to write for you make sure you have something counting too because you know if someone puts effort into the ad that means they're going to put effort into you you as a couple i have like a book written on my um sdc swing lifestyle quiver and all that but no one appreciates it because no one ever reads it they just look at my pictures so i fucking took the pictures off what's the point of having pictures if that's all they see so I just took the pictures off and you know what I never got any emails anyways because for whatever reason but there's no reason no there was no reason to even have them on there but I always read everyone's ad because I want to know do we have anything in common and if so what is it and will work out same thing with you guys introverts just find go online find out all stuff remember only thing I can say is remember that just because one person had a negative experience at some place doesn't mean you will like I have a lot of you know experiences my experience is as a single guy at a club is totally different than what it will be for you guys.
As a couple, you will have more fun. You have more chances to play and all that. I have my, my chances are very limited. So, you know, so when I talk about a club, it's coming from my eyes, my perspective, not a couple's perspective. All right. So just go check out, you know, the websites, find out what you're looking for, find out what you both are interested in doing. So learn into observation, harness your observational tendencies to gauge nuances of social settings.
This helps you in understanding the dynamics at play and identifying individuals with whom you might share a comfortable energy, which is a crucial step in finding allies and potential connections who are either introverted themselves or appreciate a similar vibe. A lot of swingers do like a smaller group. I like small parties because you know why? Because it really forces everybody to talk and get to know each other. And when that happens, you know, people are more opt to play with you and have fun with you and have sex with you. And that's my main goal is to have sex. All right.
So with that observing, which I always do, always observe what's going on and all that. So you can learn from the observations you make and see if what people you would fit with. You could find other introverts. Actually, you can go online and find introverts and swing in and all that. I think there's a good group on Facebook for them. All right. Prioritize meaningful interaction interactions. Instead of skimming through superficial exchange exchange, like, Hey, how are you doing? Huh? How's the weather? Find value in engaging deeply on topics of mutual interest within the lifestyle.
So this is what would help if you do it online. You could say, hey, I know you like anime. We're going to be at club so-and-so. Oh, we'll be there too. Okay, let's meet up. That might help. Connecting with others who cherish in-depth dialogue can enrich your experience. All right. Honor your pace. Allow yourself the space to process interactions at your own pace. Embracing the quiet when needed. It's important to be straightforward about your interaction limits to maintain your comfort and energy levels.
And this is where couples will get in trouble because they don't want to, we don't want to disappoint anybody. I don't want to disappoint my husband. I don't want to disappoint my wife. And this is where taking one for the team happens because no one communicates and just takes their time. I see a lot of first timers go to a club and averted extroverted. It doesn't really matter and how they're always, always getting themselves in trouble. They always had these rules. We're going to do these rules and those rules are thrown to the side, uh, by 1am. All right.
So, you know, just go at your own pace. Do not rush. Don't let anyone rush you into swinging. It's not something that you should be doing at all. Right. Don't let people rush you. And I think someone has something to say too. Shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. All right. Shave your cock and balls, he said. So, choose events carefully. All right. Prefer smaller, more intimate events that may feel less daunting than larger parties. The journey to and from events can also serve as a viable time to recharge and gather your thoughts. Saturday nights.
If you are introverted most clubs on a saturday night are packed my my thing would be go on a thursday night if they're open on thursday go on a friday night where it's less people saturday night is going to be very full this is where your research will have to come in you're going to have to research things like that red Reddit is a good tool. Find out where people are going. Find out how many people are going. House parties are very good. House parties are always small.
They're never that big because you don't want to have a lot of people at your house anyways, because you don't want to attract the attention from nosy neighbors. I used to go to a house party in Corpus Christi when I was living down there. The whole fucking city knew about these swinger parties at their house. They didn't care. They were an older couple, wonderful couple. But they hosted like every other week, weekend, they would have a party every Saturday night and it would be packed and there would be a lot of people there. So I always wonder, don't the neighbors get tired of it?
Because they always got people parking in front of them and all that in their yards and stuff like that and no never the police never came no one ever gave us any trouble so and in fact i think one time the neighbors did come over they checked it out they looked around and they were asked us a bunch of questions and that was it we never heard from them again we never heard anybody problem problem is are they were the there was that older couple a good neighbor maybe not but that was great for introvert because the introverts would have loved the small gathering that we have i think maybe at most we probably had 40 maybe 50 people at these places and we had all single women single men and couples so it wasn't like a big big two three hundred part person plus party.
It's not like going to Caliente on a Saturday night and you got a thousand people there. You have a good small amount of people and conversations can be had and you can, you know, if you want to play, you want to play. So, you know, choose the events carefully. Don't not go on a Saturday night to a big takeover, hotel takeover where there's 500 people. You're going to get scared off, guys. Don't do that. So try to find a house. And like I said, find a house party. When you do online and you're doing online, go just have dinner with a couple of couples.
Go find two couples you like and go with them. All right. Schedule downtime. After participation, it is essential to have time reserved for yourself to unwind and reflect on your experiences ensuring you replenish your social energy um after you're done just hang out by yourself collect your thoughts you too you know talk about it a little bit you know and just you know be cool breathe, and you'll be all set. You'll be fine, guys. You're going to make it through this lifestyle and you're going to become experts one day and you'll thank me for it.
So it's crucial to acknowledge that there's no uniform way to enjoy the swinger lifestyle. Your individual traits can add a unique and viable dimension to both you, both your and your other's experience in sexual and social explorations. All right. So these are some of the tips introverts navigating the swinger lifestyle. Embarking on the swinger lifestyle as someone who identifies as introverted may initially feel challenging, yet adopting a tailored approach allows for comfortable immersions into the non-monogamous lifestyle at a pace that suits you. Begin gradually. One, begin gradually.
Adapting to smaller events can facilitate richer conversations and connections with fewer individuals, diminishing the potential for feeling overwhelmed. I have a play partner and she is introverted. She doesn't want to deal with those big clubs because, you know, she says she's shy and all that, but she's introverted and all that, which is fine. So, you know, I'm always like, do I take her to a club? Do I not take her? I don't want to scare her off. She enjoys threesomes and all that.
So, you know, of those things where you gotta think one when will she be ready she may never be ready but that's one of the things i have to do acknowledging your boundaries regarding social energy is crucial allow yourself moments to breathe and recognize the need for breaks and to rejuvenate without any sense of guilt people will get i see this all the time people get you feel guilty and they take one for the team and everyone says i don't take one for the team well bullshit you did because you got pressured into it do not do that these moments are essential for replenishing your desire to interact open dialogue is essential by discussing your introverted nature with you your partners and, and navigating the swinging lifestyle together, you can establish boundaries and expectations that ensure comfort for all involved.
It is up to you. Do you want to tell everybody you're introverted? You know, if you have an STD, you should tell everyone that you got herpes or whatever, but is it anyone's business? Are you introverted? It's up to you. It's a peripheral preference. Sometimes people like to tell other people because it makes them let them know what are you going to get yourself into? And sometimes a lot of people don't know what they're going to get themselves into. All right. And maybe that's why when I talk to a guy that it's like pulling teeth from that they struggle with the conversation and all that.
So, you know, it's one of those things where you just got to figure out who do I tell? What do I tell them? Do I tell them anything? All right. Open dialogue is essential by discussing your introverted nature with you and your partners. All right. Utilize digital platforms.
The online realm offers a comfortable environment to connect with like-minded introverts or those who are empathetic towards your preferences allowing for gradual introductions ahead of face-to-face meetings i would i think this is the biggest one you should do i don't think you should go to clubs right now i think get your feet wet as a couple in the swinger lifestyle by meeting people just for dinner, for drinks or whatnot, then going back to a hotel, going back to a hotel going back to the house and fucking having fun i don't think you should go off to a club because you know you might pick a bad time for to go to the club and it might be really bad for you so i don't know it's like i said this is just guide tips for you.
You take them or leave them. Moreover, find your unique spot within the lifestyle, whether it's a specific theme, activity, or social setting, engaging in areas driven by mutual interest can ease conversations and make encounters more effortless. Therefore, thereby enhancing both your sexual life and your overall lifestyle experience. Above all, the essence of the sexual life and your overall lifestyle experience. Above all, the essence of the lifestyle is enjoyment. So pinpointing what makes you feel at ease is critical to a rewarding and fulfilling adventure.
And that's what we're all here for. We're here to have a great time. Maybe some of you want to make friends.
Maybe you want to have a triad or a poly situation it's up to you you make the you make or break the lifestyle the lifestyle doesn't make or break you you know so that's some of those things you still got to think about during this time creating comfortable spaces for introverts curious about swinging lifestyle the prospect of attending large dynamic events might seem a bit much you know you got all the lights you go to like places like secrets hideaway you go to caliente maybe paradise lakes you got all these huge large crowds and i tell you i love that's why i don't think i'm introverted i'm just shy i love the large crowds i get to see a lot of people you get to see a lot of things happening you know as in you're a nymphomaniac like me ac you love seeing a lot of people because you get more sex action than anything but for introverts true introverts it might be overwhelming so it's not something i would are going to Secrets or you're going Tidal Way, you're going to Caliente, Paradise Lakes in Florida, I would stay away from those for the first time.
Wait, get your feet wet in the last cell before you go. So you make sure. Or go on a weekday when there's less people. Yet, it's entirely possible to customize swinging experiences to align with their comfort zones. Tailoring intimate atmospheres for introverts involves organizing smaller, more personal meetups. Such events can focus on facilitating substantial discussions on shared interests, making social interactions feel more manageable and less overwhelming.
A guide to creating comfortable spaces for introverts, event size, choose smaller, more personal, again, house parties, just regular meetups online, no clubs, no hotel takeovers, house parties, meeting people online, that's it, conversation, encourage meaningful, engaging, common discussions on thought-provoking subjects. So if you're an extrovert, and you should be paying attention because this is how you can ease an introvert couple into the lifestyle. So have something engaging to say. Have something meaningful.
Some of the times I hear some of these stupid conversations swingers have at the clubs, I'm just like, Jesus, do they even have a brain? All right. Activities. Use hobbies and interests as natural conversation starters. There you go. That's one easy way. You like anime? They like anime. You like movies? They like movies. TV? They like TV. You too. And setting. Ensure the environment is calm and inviting.
One thing that a knock on clubs is that they're so damn loud and you have to shout to talk to people and you got to get real up into the face tone the down music down a little more and let people able to talk i think most of the clubs will be a lot better but a lot of them are just loud as shit and it's hard to hear anybody so it's hard to talk but if you're at a house party and you're at even a hotel takeover where you you know you had the rooms and all you can talk to people house parties you can talk because they don't play they play music but it's low it's not loud because you know you got neighbors and you like i said you don't want that heat on you so you're able to talk so that's why i always say you know house parties are usually the best for introverts introverts looking to better manage social dynamics in these settings might consider the following strategies.
One, take a moment to breathe deeply and allow ample time for mental preparation before engaging. Two, begin with lighter topics, then gradually transition to deeper, more focused conversations as you become more comfortable. So you don't want to start off with religion right off the bat. You don't want to start off with politics right off the bat. You know, when I go to a certain club, I'm looking to escape reality for a couple hours. I'm looking to have a good time. I don't want to talk about, you know, Biden, Trump. I don't want to talk about religion or anything like that.
I just want to come over there, eat your wife's pussy, eat her ass and fuck the shit out of her and do it all over again. I'm not you know to be do every you know have that deep conversation with everybody now do i have deep conversations yes with people i have played with and you know you talk to you have a good time with i have a deep conversation with them but if i'm just first meeting you it's got to be a light conversation we can't really be talking about all kinds of stuff and you know i had, I had one, the Venezuelan couple I was with, we would talk about politics.
Well, me and her would, and the husband would get upset because we're not fucking, and that's what he wanted me to do to fuck his wife. But me and her had that connection because we talked about everything and all that. We could talk about anything, and it would be great. Be mindful of your social energy limits and arrange for some quiet downtime afterwards. So let's say you meet a couple, you play with them. Go your separate ways or, you know, go back, excuse yourself and just you two hang out with each other.
You know, this is a good time to talk about what happened and what you like and didn't like about it and all that. So, you know, just know where your energy levels are to keep them up. By addressing these preferences, introverts can navigate the swinging lifestyle in a way that respects their needs for processing time and deeper connection with others in social scenarios. So we have to talk about the last part, the challenges that people are going to have, introverts are going to have.
For introverted individuals contemplating the swinging lifestyle, the thought of extended social engagement can be intimidating. Like I said, introverts, if you're out there, you're listening, like I don't know if you are or you are not. I got one person. Thank you person for talking and all that. So smell my farts. you all right so anyways so for the introvert person it's very intimidating the house parties are the way to go i would think uh and all that i know i've been saying over and over but i think it is one of those things where you do the house parties.
Many introverts find prolonged interaction exhausting and might struggle with social anxiety, all right? So how can we as swingers, veteran swingers, help them out? Well, you know, we understand them. That's why you got to understand the people. It's like autism, you know, people, they're swingers with autism. You know, you can't joke or sometimes you can't even joke around with them. You got to be straightforward. I don't know.
I don you know you can't joke or sometimes you can't even joke around with them you got to be straightforward and all that so you know you just got to learn about different people and i think this great this is why a great lifestyle because you really do get to learn about different people's uh personalities and all that and how to deal with you know more the more difficult type of personality and all that uh let's see it It's crucial for them to remember to take things slowly, breathing deeply, and moving at a pace that feels right for them.
And this is the problem a lot of times because, like I always say, when they get there, they start fucking around.
And when they do that, it becomes a problem because they get there they see people having sex or whatnot and they get horny and you know the blood goes from the brain to the little brain so it's just one of those things where you just you know hopefully you know you got someone to guide you or you're there and you just are there to watch you don't participate because i know sometimes like i said especially younger couples they see it they want to do it they don't want to wait and boom they start doing stuff and they immediately regret it because they don't they wanted to take it slow so understanding communicating one's personal boundaries is essential for maintaining comfort in social environments what's your personal personal boundary?
Do you have any? As for me, boundaries, you know, anything outside the club is off limits. I don't really want to, you know, have I had people in the lifestyle as my friends? Yes, I have had and I still do have friends that are in the lifestyle that I met at the club and outside will hang out outside the, you know, the club. It's just that I had just a different connection with them where, you know, they love me for my personality and I love them for their personality and how they treat me and we treat each other well.
So, you know, it's one of those things that you have these connections that you can take outside of the club. But for the most part, the connections are not just there. You're not going to connect with every single person and introverts. You have to understand not everybody is going to understand us. Not everyone's going to understand you. So you just have to go off and find someone else. It's okay to be friendly with everybody. Everyone should be friendly. Am I friendly with everybody? For the most part, yes. But for a while, I just stopped being fake and I just stopped being real.
I'm going to say something if I don't feel that you are. Anyways, it's important for introverts to know that it's perfectly normal to take their time getting comfortable in conversations or to set limit on how long they stay in social scenarios. So someone, see, this is the problem. Because you don't, when you first meet someone, do you really know that person? Do you know anything about them? You don't. So it's hard when you, okay, let's talk to that couple. Ooh, honey, that couple's hot. Let's go over and talk to them. And you're talking to them and it's like pulling teeth.
You just get one word answer choices. Like when I talked to the men in the couple, you know, some of these guys, it's like, okay, how are you doing? Good. It's like everything. What do you do for a living? Oil. You know, it's just like one of those things where they just it's hard you gotta pull teeth so you gotta go back into your brain people okay so maybe they're introverted maybe we just gotta take it a different approach and all that so we just gotta make them feel comfortable then they will open up to us maybe you know they see, they see us one time, that's it.
Next time they see us, hey, how are you doing? They're catty chatties and all that, chatty kaffies or anything. So intimidate, immediate, deep, and intense conversations aren't unnecessarily required, right? Like I was saying earlier, you just, you know, you got to go fill them out. Couples that can fill people out are usually the most successful. They can know, okay, they're not interested in us or whatnot. Because like I said, if you're talking to someone and they're just giving you one word answers, are they interested in you? Are we bothering them and all that?
But like I said, they might just be introverted and they just don't know, you know, how it goes. They're not just, they haven't taken time to themselves. They're not, you know, taking breaks and all that. So it's one of those things where, Jesus, we don't know anything about anybody. So we really got to be careful when we talk to people. Starting with lighter, straightforward topics can act as a good stepping stone, especially if they have, especially if you have people with autism, those being straightforward is always great. Same thing with introverts, being straightforward.
Now, that doesn't mean, hey, me and your wife think you're too hot. We want to fuck. We want to bang. No, that's not. You don't have to do that. But it's just one of those things. So, you know, just find it. Find a stepping stone. Facilitating smoother transitions between discussions. I don't think this is really necessary. It's going to come. If it's happening, it's happening. While sex life, sex life and swinging may often be upfront topics in non-managious lifestyle, there's no requirement to engage deeply, uh, from the get go.
Remember that introverts, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do everybody no means no they don't care if you're in the lifestyle you're vanilla no means no forming connections based on common interests can pave the way for more relaxed atmosphere from for introverted individuals the most significant aspect of enjoying the swinging lifestyle as an is to proceed at a comfortable speed and honor your need for time to process experiences. All right.
So if you have any questions, you can email me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com or find me on all the social media outlets, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Twitch, TikTok and all that. All right. So that's just something I wanted to talk about because no one really talks a lot. Well, at least I don't hear anybody talking a lot about introverted. Me, I think I should do a topic about shyness.
How can we get shyness out of the lifestyle where we're all comfortable walking up to a perfect strangers in a sex charge atmosphere and have a conversation other than sex because a lot of couples complain about single guys all they could do all they do is talk about sex well you know we are in a swinger club in a sex club so you know kind of makes sense right but anyways i digress but i think as me personally as a single male that is shy i don't think i'm introverted because i do like big social gatherings and all that it's just it's a difficult lifestyle for me you know do i have success yes i'm very successful at the lifestyle but like i think if i think if i was more extroverted and outgoing i would be king of the world but i'm's just, it's just, uh, something I hope people who are introverted will understand and, you know, take some advice, maybe try it out because I don't want people not to try the lifestyle because they're scared.
I get a lot of people on, you know, online that goes, Oh, we're scared. We don't know what to do.
I'm like, all right, maybe it might not be the lifestyle for you lifestyle for you it might not it might be who knows the only way to do it is go go to a find a house party some some states some places are better at house parties than others and i think in houston some of them are very hard to find but once you find them you get it get into the group and all that you'll find more and more house parties and all that and being online it really helps you know we got to be very thankful the internet does help out swinging because now you can find out all the information and if you don't know anything about swinging just go online google swinger clubs wherever city you're at chicago new york you know tampa houston dallas la las vegas just google them and you'll find clubs there everywhere all If you're not, you can Dallas, L.A., Las Vegas.
Just Google them and you'll find clubs there everywhere, all right? If you're not, you know, you can always email me. I'll set you in the right direction. All right, let's see. What else do I got to talk about today? I don't know. But anyways, one viewer, good. Thank you, whoever's viewing my thing, thank you very much. I appreciate it and all that. So, I don't know. 18. 19. 19. 20. 21. 22. 23. 22. 23. 24. 25. Good. Thank you, viewer. Whoever's viewing my thing, thank you very much. I appreciate it and all that. So, I don't know. Anything else you want me to talk about?
If there's anything you want me to address on the podcast, just email me, swinging single podcast at gmail.com. I'll do it and all that. So, anyways, what else? So, I was today, I'll you my little thing. I was supposed to go to two gang bangs today. And the first one got canceled. It was supposed to be around is here. And this is what happens when you have assholes in this lifestyle.
Like I said before, the, uh, the little i can't you know as much as they're the drama it's still great and fun lifestyle you meet a lot of interesting people you know but you do have trash and i mean by trash is they got some horrible people that shouldn't be you know i wouldn't want to fuck with a 10-foot pole or any one of the man's dick. You could take your dick and I wouldn't fuck her with it because these people are just angry individuals. So everything's going cool. We're all hanging out. We're supposed to start, you know, at the time, girls are there. We're going to have fun.
Well, what happens is one of the guys i don't know who it was we don't know who it was called the police and the police came and knocked on the door and asked the girls are they there on on their own feet well which they are and nothing happened the police went home police went away did whatever they did all right but it killed the vibe so the girls were definitely out for playing and nothing happened so strike one that nothing's going to happen and these girls are beautiful they're in their 20s they're young and they're beautiful and all that they just want to get laid they want to get fucking gang banged it's a fantasies of their ac and the rest of the boys will do it we'll give you that fantasy well because some asshole and was angry, either he didn't get invited or he's just one of those guys who just doesn't want misery, loves company.
He could be one of those guys. I don't know. So the police come, kills the vibe. And I mean, these girls were stunning. You know, they were in the-20s tight pussy looking they were dressed in sexy lingerie and all that and we were all about we're all gonna start but then that damn knock at the hotel door and that's why i say i don't like having these parties at hotels because of the fact that you got hotel management you got people next door they can hear probably and you got other other shit, indecent exposure, people walking on halls naked and all that. It just brings too much heat.
Doing that at a house, a department complex or whatever condo is a lot better because you have that protection from the law that you don't get from a hotel room.
So if we were at a house would have been fine but because we were at a hotel uh and all that we had to you know we weren't we didn't get in trouble but we weren't fine we had to we had to worry about other factors and you know as a guy you want to make sure your cock is fully erect and not worry about anything outside of the outside of the five foot area that you're in so after that the mood is killed what do we do so you know there's another place another place I know that's having a gang bang and all that so I end up going there it's a great place and I really like going there the guys real cool and all that.
So and I never had a problem with any of the guys there. So, you know, it is what it is. But like I said, one person can ruin the same one bad apple could ruin a bunch. It is true. One bad apple can ruin the bunch in the night and everything because we're all ready to go and have fun. The girls are ready.
But, you know, once, you you know police knock on your door and ask you what's going on and question the ladies it kills the mood so hopefully those girls will be back and i think they will be because i think they know what's happening and all that but you know how do you you know how do you guys deal with horrible people in this lifestyle how do you sit there and justify you calling police and all that on another group in the lifestyle? Because you might not have been invited, you don't like them and all that. It's like me. I don't like certain people. I don't hold back.
I don't like a lot of podcasters who charge money for their only fans and whatnot. And they're only fucking the same. They only fuck the same people. You know, you always see them with the same couples and all that. That's not swinging, man. I don't think you're a swinger. I think you're just someone who's benefiting off the swinging lifestyle. Now, if you're a couple that charges, you have a podcast, you charge, you're fucking everything and you're filming it and having a great time. I have respect for you because you know what? You are a swinger.
I consider you a swinger because you're not doing the same fucking thing. It's like you go on Twitter and you see the girl, oh, look at this strange cock I got. Okay. Then you look at the next one and look at another one. It's the same fucking cock. They're just lying. They're bullshit. Or the girls who say, oh, I'm single and all that, but they're fucking got a husband and all that. And you know, they do, but they lie about it. I don't respect that shit. Be honest. And that's okay. All right. But how do you deal with these people?
How, and how do we keep them out of the lifestyle and all that? Now me, I don't, I'm not going to be a judge and jury because you know what? Cause someone said you should be out of the lifestyle or whatever. And that's where you get to have a lot of problems. Who's deciding this? I don't think anyone should be deciding it. But I think we have to recognize who's bad for the lifestyle and who is good for the lifestyle. Because if we do, people can ruin it. What happens if one of those girls says, oh, no, I'm against my will. Fuck, I would have been fucked.
All the guys there would have been in trouble. So, you know, it's one of those things where shit, man, we have to figure out who's the good sheep and who are the bad sheep. And couples can be bad. Single men can be bad. Single women can be bad. It's just not single men. Let's not pile on.
Next podcast, I'm going to talk about single men and I'll talk about a little tit for tat on facebook with the secrets hideaway and all that about some couple was or some guy was complaining about single guys and touching and all that things i've never seen in a club i'll be honest i never seen anybody walk up to a girl and grab her ass grab her titties without asking i never seen that in 26 years and all that you know, it's one of those things where if it happens, it happens, but we do have to think about the bad people in this lifestyle.
And hopefully you, especially if you're new, you don't have those problems. You won't face those bad people.
And if you do, I apologize, but you got to remember most nine out of 10 people in lifestyle are very good good people they're not there out to fuck you because the guy also told me which was interesting the one who organizes it he says he gets guys that try to blackmail him i'm like what the fuck i'm like why do people want to do that you've got a steady source of pussy that this guy is providing his wife for you but yet you want to blackmail him to stop that flow i don't know what they did to this person or what's going on but you know i don't know i just don't understand it so i'll have the top i'll do a topic on that bad people in their lifestyle how do we you know what do we do and all that like i said i just don't associate with those people anymore like the group that i was in telegram i don't associate with them anymore you know i don't have any bad will against them but i just know they're not just for me and all that so you know newbies you gotta be very careful there are a lot of people out there you know just you know this the lifestyle is what it is you're gonna meet some great to meet some bad people.
So hopefully you meet more bad, I mean, sorry, more good people than bad people. Who knows? But with that, AC is going to get on out of here, you know. So we all got to get out of here. Go out and do your things. It's almost Friday.
also if you want to see me email me swinging single podcast at gmail.com i'm on all the social platforms i'm live not live sometimes whatever also don't forget to shave your cock and balls gentlemen ladies make sure your husband shaves his cock and balls for the other ladies at the club and let's see what else i have actually i should be patting my back and i'm about yeah thank you thank you i have a new podcast studio if you haven't noticed it it's a smaller though but it's all i need so hopefully the sound is better hopefully the sound is just the same it's not any worse i hope not because i kind of hear echo who knows but anyways you have a wonderful night everybody and i'll see you on the flip side and remember shave your cock and balls gentlemen
