Episode Summary:In this episode, AC Maxwell dives into one of the most important aspects of the swinging lifestyle—finding compatible couples and singles to play and connect with. Whether you are a couple or a single guy, compatibility is key to having fulfilling and respectful experiences. AC shares practical tips on how to identify, approach, and engage with compatible partners both in-person and online, emphasizing the importance of communication, trust, and respect. As always, AC reminds all single men to "shave your cock and balls, gentleman"—because confidence and presentation set the tone for success in the lifestyle.What You’ll Learn in This Episode:Why compatibility matters more than physical attraction aloneHow couples can find singles who match their vibe and boundariesStrategies for singles to connect with couples confidently and respectfullyThe critical role of trust, communication, and boundaries in swingingPractical, actionable tips to prepare yourself and engage with the lifestyleOvercoming challenges such as jealousy, insecurity, and mismatched expectationsThe importance of grooming and confidence—yes, that includes the catchphrase you know and love!Key Quotes:“Compatibility means you respect each other’s limits, communicate openly, and share a similar approach to swinging—without that, things get messy real quick.”“Gentlemen, remember—shave your cock and balls. It’s not just hygiene, it’s a mindset.”“Chemistry isn’t just physical. It’s energy, mindset, humor, and connection.”“Every swinger’s journey is unique. Don’t compare yourself to others—focus on your experience.”Links Resources:Visit swingingsinglepodcast.com for more tips, episodes, and community resources.Interested in joining lifestyle events or online platforms? AC Maxwell discusses trusted venues and apps during the episode.Connect with the Host:Follow AC Maxwell on social media:Instagram: @swingingsinglepodcast1976Twitter: @swingingsingleMDon’t forget: Stay confident, respectful, and keep swinging single!If you want, I can help format for website or newsletter use!
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Welcome to the swinging single podcast with your host AC Maxwell for over 20 years I've been navigating the swinging lifestyle as a single male experiencing all the excitement challenges and everything in between this podcast is my honest and unfiltered take on that journey a fresh set of eyes diving deep into real stories lessons learned and practical advice for anyone exploring or curious about this lifestyle. Whether you're new, seasoned, single, or partnered, join me as I share my experiences, bust this, and help you swing your best in this exhilarating world.
So let's get real, keep it respectful, and keep on swinging. I smoke weed, eat pussy every day And every day is kind of the same I have fun and I feel no shame I smoke weed, eat pussy every day And I've always been at this game We have fun when we play this game Everybody knows my name We have fun when we play this game. And I will never be your baby. Cause I'm a motherfucking lady. I hit the blunt like I'm Slim Shady. Yeah, I'm let's get ready. Let's get it on. Let's talk about a little swinging and sex. Oh, I love it. And before we do that, let's talk about swinging single podcast dot com.
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Also, got any questions, concerns, or any topics you want me to cover as a single guy or just in general, go to swingingsinglepodcast at gmail.com, and oh, yeah, I'll get back to you as soon as possible and all that great stuff like i said i'm very accessible so don't worry about it so welcome back to the swinging single podcast i'm your host you know it ac maxwell for over 20 years i've been exploring the swinging lifestyle as a single guy yep that single guy you know all the ones you don't love the you love the hate exploring the ins, the outs, and the all unspoken truths that help us navigate this world successfully.
And today, I want to talk about one of the biggest questions I get asked. How do couples and singles find compatible couples and singles in the swinging lifestyle? This is a topic close to my heart because compatibility is everything if you want to enjoy your experience and build meaningful connections all right so if you are looking to build a meaningful connection do all that great stuff this is a podcast for you this episode's for you you know and like i said this is just for me this is from my own experience this This is from all my experience in the lifestyle for over 20 plus years.
And for me, compatibility is totally different. Now, I'm talking about as a partner. As a sex partner, compatibility really is no big deal because I can get hard and fuck anything, fuck any hole out of female.
But for me to find someone I can connect with and join in the lifestyle with and be a partner within the lifestyle that's totally different that's a little more difficult and it is very difficult to find people you are compatible with i hear from couples all the time i can't find two other people to be compatible with me and my wife and stuff like that or my wife and my husband and me can't find two people, so we want to play with single men. They want to play with single women because they just can't find two people they are compatible with.
Or if you go on Reddit, you find all this other stuff where these couples, they like the wife, but they don't like the husband and things like that.
Or the husband, they don't like the wife, but the husband's great's great so you'll see stuff like that so you know you got to be very careful you got to pay attention to this lifestyle so before we dive in let me remind you all my single gentlemen out there and all my gentlemen out there period shave your cock and balls gentlemen so clean confident and ready it's not just hygiene tip it's a mindset all right when you look good you feel good and that confidence shows okay you understand that okay all right so let's ask ourselves this one question why does compatibility matters try to say that fast compatibility let's start with the basics you know compatibility is the foundation for any successful encounter or relationship in the lifestyle especially when you're talking about couples and singles mingling the swinging scene isn't just a just hook up it's about finding people who match your vibe your boundaries your desires and yes your energy all right so this is coming from me from trying to find someone to be a partner with in a lifestyle not just to go out to a club and fuck that is easy finding someone to have sex with is very easy for a man single men yes it is very easy i always find it funny i always find it funny when couples will say oh it must suck being a single man i go no it really doesn't because you know i'm not that ugly i'm in decent shape i got a nice size cock i my cock works it doesn't get Thank you.
suck being a single girl i go no it really doesn't because you know i'm not that ugly i'm in decent shape i got a nice size cock i my cock works it doesn't get soft in the middle of love making or fucking and so i do very well so that is no problem finding fuck people that people fuck with or fuck girls it's very simple but trying to find that one woman that you connect with where you can Actually enjoy this lifestyle with that is a whole different ballgame so that's why i wanted to talk about compatibility compatibility means you respect each other's limits i have had girls partners that i had well they didn't give a shit they just wanted to do what they wanted to do fine we're not compatible could communicate openly lie stuff like that when you first got it when you're going into this lifestyle remember when you're going in this lifestyle guys you're openly saying that it's okay for you to be with other people you know whatever way you want to do you want to be there you don't care if she goes off by herself you know as long as you get yours you know that's all you care about you know but the communication there is lacking in a lot of people and i find it lacking in more the younger crowd because of all the you know social media it's easier for them to text than to do anything now if that's one of you if you're one of those young couples where the communication is there, maybe try texting each other.
Maybe, even if you're sitting in the same room, maybe that would be a great way to open your communication lines. And share a similar approach to swinging, whether that's casual fun, friendship first, or something more emotional. To me, I want my swinging partner to be casual. We're fucking that couple. We're fucking that dude. We're fucking that girl. But I make love to my partner. I have my feelings for that partner. When I fucking fuck some hot wife, I could care less about, you know, what's going on. I care more about my partner, how she's feeling, how she's doing, how's her day going.
I want to hear that stuff from her. I don't care about that hot wife that I'm playing with or that couple i'm playing with my emotions with her all right so that's why i see you gotta i have to have a girl a partner that feels the same way that those people those couples those men those women are play toys for us and we take the serious stuff for us, the emotions, the love, and all that stuff. So without compatibility, Danes can get messy real quick. And you know you can. And the couples that are here listening to me for the first time or whatnot, you know it gets messy.
If you have been in the lifestyle years, I'm not talking like 20 years. I'm talking like you could be in the lifestyle for a year. You'll see some crazy shit that goes down. Couples, you'll see couples full go swinging every weekend at the club. Then never hear from them again. You find out shit happened. They got divorced or stuff like that. You know, the couple I play with right now, they took a break because he was fucking around and she found out... The couple I play with right now, they took a break because he was fucking around and she found out.
Luckily, they were able to repair the relationship, and now they're swinging again. Hopefully, nothing happens bad. So, how do couples find compatible singles?
all right now if you're a couple looking for compatible singles it usually starts with attention and clear communication between two first between you two first are you both on the same page about what you want all right are you are your boundaries aligned now this is to the couples this is the couples talking it's not couples talking to a guy so are you on the same page what are you looking for are you looking for full-blown sex oral sex stuff like that are you just looking to uh foreplay tea stuff like that are your boundaries aligned what are you gonna do condoms no condoms anal no anal oral or no oral kissing no kissing stuff like that what boundaries have no hair pulling no scat no piss whatever have you discussed Thank you.
Anal, no anal. Oral or no oral. Kissing, no kissing. Stuff like that. What boundaries have? No hair pulling, no scat, no piss, whatever. Have you discussed what attraction and chemistry look like for both of you? What does a man, what does he want you to see?
He wants you to fuck a big, burly guy or a twink-looking guy, a feminine-looking guy, a masculine, tall, short guy, black guy, white guy, Hispanic guy, Asian guy a feminine looking guy or masculine you know tall short guy black guy white guy hispanic guy asian guy you know what what attracts what is the attraction for the woman what she find attractive because that's going to be very important because a lot of what listen guys we are whores men are whores we can fuck anything even though they always say oh i need a connection which is a fucking lie uh but women need something more than just a hard dick I'll see you next time.
can fuck anything even though they always say oh i need a connection which is a fucking lie but women need something more than just a hard dick there are some women out there that just need a hard dick and they don't care so you know if your woman is one of those women that care about looks and stuff like that find out what she is attracted to find out what she likes and go from there once you covered that it's time to explore the scene most couples i know start with three avenues these avenues avenue one could be a lifestyle events and parties they these are prime spots to meet singles who are also looking for couples so if you're going to go this avenue you know try to find a make sure you go to the club website go to the lifestyle event website make sure they allow single guys in because if you're looking for single guys and it's only couples only you're not probably going to get it unless you want to share someone's husband and stuff like that but you get in you got to negotiate with the wife saying hey can we borrow your husband so it might just be easier to find the legitimate singles who are there alone keep your eyes and ears open for body language singles and approachable singles all right Thank you.
husband so it might just be easier to find the legitimate singles who are there alone keep your eyes and ears open for body language singles and approachable singles all right if the guy has his arms folded looks like a sourpuss stuff like that maybe not approach him maybe he looks like he just got out of work all dirty and grimy maybe not want to approach him and guys that means again if you want to get approached by a couple shave your cock and balls gentlemen because first impressions really do count especially in swinging all right so you go to lifestyle events and if you don't know where lifestyle events are in your city just google wherever you live and you'll find the swingers everywhere all right you got websites sdc.com swingerslifestyle.com you got cassidy.com you got other stuff you know you got all kinds of stuff so and that's where it comes from these online swinger platforms websites and apps tailored to swinging let you filter singles by interest experience level and location helping you match with compatible people more easily now if you're a couple out there you're looking for that compatible single I would tend to stay off of online apps because of the fact that you've got 20 million guys on there looking for sex, looking for ass, and find a legit guy that's into the swinging lifestyle who's a little swinger.
A lot of guys say, yeah, I'm a swinger, but they're not really swingers because they don't know the code of swinging. They don't know how to swing. They don't understand that swinging is just him sticking his dick in your wife and that's it. There could be four, five, six, ten people in a room. He's sharing you. The single male has to share with the other single guys and your husband. And a lot of guys don't guys don't understand it. That's why I said there's always a difference between single men and swinging single men. Swinging single men get it. Single men at the club don't get it.
Things like that. You could tell. You know, you got the single guys that follow a couple around all day and all night at a club or at a resort. Then you got the swinging single men that sit up, post up somewhere, so just chill and relax and, you know, have a drink or two, smile, and are sociable. All right? You know it. But, like, with the dating apps, you get 1,000 guys for, you know, every one couple, there's 1,000, there's 100 guys waiting to fuck. And you don't know the intentions of these guys. These guys are fake.
Could be just husbands looking for excitement in their marriage and stuff like that. So I would just say if you live in an area where the online thing is probably the only best place you're going to get any action, go that way. But if you live in a city or a town or a state with multiple swinger clubs and swinger events, I would stay away from that. I would just go to the events because you know what there is, what everyone's there for. Now, here's another one. Friend of a friend. Often the best matches come through trusted introduction.
Couples who already know and trust singles are more likely to have smoother experience, all right? So if you're a couple out there, you're looking for a compatible single, ask around other couples.
Get some, what do they call it references stuff like that that will help you out very well because you also got to remember if you find someone at a club or online what happens if he can't get hard you know at least this way if you say hey to you go john and katie you know you talk to them you say we're looking for a single guy to play with do you have any recommendations they can recommend this guy that guy or whatever chances are john and katie play with that guy so john and katie know that guy can little soldiers can salute and all that stuff so you know you can always look at that avenue remember when meeting when meeting singles, always be patient and respectful.
Compatibility can take time to find, and it's about quality, not quantity. I just want to let you guys remember. Remember this. When you're with a single guy for the first time, or you're meeting him for the first time, things might be awkward. Because what, you know, especially if you're both new to it, or you're a seasoned vet he's new to it or vice versa, you're new to it and he's a season vet. You know, there might be some awkwardness.
Don't worry about that awkward silence stuff and all that stuff because you might miss something that could be good because you might have this little awkward silence, silences in the conversation, but in the bedroom, the passion, the heat could be there. So don't judge a book by its cover within the first 10 minutes, 20 minutes of a conversation. Because you know what? You've got to find things that you click.
Maybe you both have the football, NFL playoffs, college football playoffs are all started are all now you talk about that you but you just gotta find that one thing that you both like and you can start a conversation through there and it starts rolling it's like a snowball effect okay because i've been to many times when i've met a couple where it was just hard it was like pulling teeth trying to get them to answer a question but when we got to the bedroom holy shit it was it was fucking hot heavy it was great so you know you can judge and cover by his book about how the person looks and stuff like that but not on the conversation and you gotta remember some people are just not good at first with conversation all right you got people on the spectrum you got introverts stuff So try to be, you know, give some relay when you start that conversation.
If there's any awkward sentences, it doesn't mean that it's a no-go. It just means that, you know, you got to figure, find something. So how do singles find compatible couples? Now, this is dudes. You're listening. Girls, listen. For singles, the dynamic is a bit different. You're often the outsider. You're the third will. And that possesses both challenges and opportunities. For guys, being the third will is wham, bam, thinking, man, get the fuck out. Girls, it's we want to date you. We want to do all this stuff. When are you going to come back and have sex with my husband and us?
So, you know, there is very big double standards. And yes the swing and lifestyle is one big walking contradiction and one big double standard first be clear with yourself about what you want all right singles you have the choice what do you want because you got a lot of couples out there that are both bisexual the male and female and you might not be bisexual and you might not want the guy touching your ass so you got to be open you want. Or maybe you want him to suck your dick. Maybe you're into that little dabbling in the bisexuality. It's up to you.
Are you looking for a couple to play with? Or are you just looking for a couple to hang out with? Because you're just a watcher. You're a voyeur. Are you interested in purely socializing? Once again, you just like to watch people fuck. Are you setting your... Are you going to the club to pound as much pussy as you want? How do you get there? Setting your own boundaries and expectations is your first step to compatible matches. For single women, what do you think you're going there for? Things like that. Are you going there to get laid?
Are you going there just to hang out and get free booze because couples will buy you all kinds of shit, you know? Yeah, couples, I know single girls who get a lot of stuff from people. So here we go. Setting your own boundaries, you know. Then once you get all that, then you're going to try to do this. Learn, lean into the community. Engage at clubs. Go to clubs. Gentlemen, don't be cheap. It's going to be a lot of money. All right? Just deal with it. Stop bitching on Reddit. Stop bitching on any online forum. Because it really turns couples off when you do.
Because then they know you're a cheap bastard. Now, do they know it's expensive for you yes they know and they understand but don't make your problem their problem so engage at clubs and lifestyle events but don't just rush jumping into the bedroom right away try to have a conversation talk this is a good one if you can if you have if you're if you could be a car salesman at one of these events at a club you're gonna get a lot of ass We'll see you next time.
conversation talk this is a good one if you can if you have if you're if you could be a car salesman at one of these events at a club you're gonna get a lot of ass you know let's just face it people like to talk listen listen to what the couple's saying listen to the key words are they interested because you may not know you might you go cold it's like cold calling you might not know that they're into you so you have to really cold call a lot of couples and say you know listen to what they're saying are they into guys when they talk to if there's a group of you talking listen to what each couple's saying read between the lines uh get comfortable with regulars like i said you're going to go to clubs you're going to you go to club you go to club on friday every friday for a year you'll see the same couples.
Those are the regulars. Get involved with them. You want couples who are serious about compatibility as you are. That's something that you're seeking. Quality profiles.
When you're online, when using dating or swinger apps, craft your profiles honestly and highlight what you bring to the experience or bring to the table i know a lot of women always sit there say well i bring my pussy to the table well you know what pussy only goes so far like what i'm looking for a partner girls will say oh well i got the pussy what else do i need to bring i go well do you have a career do you have no mental illness and stuff like that So you've got to really find out what you want.
Put that in your ad have ai help ai have ai write the fucking thing for you if that's if you really need to all right but just make sure you put the right stuff into ai be up front about your lifestyle experiences don't lie don't put pictures from 20 years ago. Okay. You are going to be found out. Don't say your cock is eight inches when it's only five inches. You're going to be found out. All right. And be honest about your preferences.
Ladies, if you're not bisexual, listen, I understand all these couples are so hell bent onent on getting bisexual women because, for whatever reason, selfish reasons they have. If you are a straight woman, you don't enjoy sex with the other women, do not say you are bisexual. Just say, I am straight. If the couple don't want to be with you because you are straight, then fuck them.
That's their problem, problem not yours don't make their problem your problem all right be honest say i'm not straight i i will fucking have it i will touch your titties i might even kiss you but i am not you are not touching my vagina and i'm not touching your vagina and i'll be fucking your man if a couple doesn't want that then fuck them that's how i say you know you got to come to a life you got to get to the life where you don't give a shit what people think about you anymore because in the long run you really realize when you when it's to your time to go you're going alone you're not going with any other well anybody else you're going by yourself so you got to be able to be open to yourself be honest with yourself what are preferences?
Are you bisexual? Or are you just looking for women to fuck? You're not interested in the man at all. You just want to fuck the woman. Stuff like that. Or you just want to fuck the man. You don't want to have anything to do with the woman. Things like that. This attracts couples who see the real you. You want people to love you for you, not the other way around. I always said this. I would rather be hated for who I am and be loved for who I'm not. And like I said, I get a lot of hate because I'm a single guy in this lifestyle. I tell the truth, and couples don't like that.
People in their lifestyle don't like that. The people in their lifestyle say this is open, this is the most open, non-judgmental lifestyle in the world, in today's terms. I go, it's far from it. It's more judgy. I get judged more by swingers than I do get by my vanilla friends. I can tell a person in the vanilla world that I'm a swinger. They're like, okay. They won't say anything. They'll tell my vanilla friends. I could tell a person in the vanilla world that I'm a swinger. They're like, okay. They won't say anything. They'll still be your friend. But it's like the opposite.
You say one wrong thing in the swingers' lifestyle. They all want to just kill you. They all want to get you out of the lifestyle. They can't stand you. How dare you get out of the lifestyle? You know? And I'm like, I don't agree with everything that these swingers do. I don't agree with it. But I say, fuck it. Who cares? If you don't want to hang out with me, you don't want to fuck me because I'm real, that's all right. Communication is the key, ladies and gentlemen. Once you have interest, start open conversations about desires and boundaries.
Talk about what you're going to do, what you do's and don'ts compatibility is real is really about communication no matter relationship structure all right that could be a really good thing compatibility is communication there you go other than shave your cock and balls gentlemen i could have compatibility is communication all right so yes and gentlemen you guessed Shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. When you take care of yourself, couples notice. It shows respect not just for yourself, but your personal, your potential partners. All right, so there's a lot of things there to unpack.
Building trust and respect. No matter if you are a single or a couple, finding compatible playmates involves trust and respect. Without those, nothing sustainable lasts. So be honest. Transparency about your expectations and experiences build trust. If you're new, own it. If you prefer certain limits, stay up front.
So listen, if you're a newbie,bie there are a lot of people even experienced ones that will love to take you under their wing and show you the ropes and stuff like that there's no problem all right just tell us if you especially guys if you're new to it this is your first threesome first time having a threesome with another dude in the room and all that stuff you got to say it you got to tell us because then they can relax you and so you can your little soldier can suit and do the deed uh things like that uh let's see what else uh expectations what are your expectations be honest is your expectations just to talk or your expectation to go full board fucking you know don't worry about it because everyone's there for the same reason they get laid they have a fun time so don't worry about it things like that if you're married you're single and you're married you can tell people you're married if they want to play with you that's fine if they don't want to play with you that's even fine there's lot of women in this lifestyle.
There's a lot of men in this lifestyle that are married that their partner does not know about. So that is not for you to fix the relationship. You worry about your own relationship. Don't worry about the other person's relationship. If they're fine with going off and going to a club and having sex with other people while their husbands or wives are at home not knowing what's going on, that's not your problem, all right?
But if you are a person that's doing that, be honest with the couple or the single person that you're with and all that because they need to know what they're getting themselves into. Respect boundaries. Never push anyone beyond what they're comfortable with.
The lifestyle thrives like a scent and mutual respect so many couples push themselves on women so many guys will push themselves on couples and stuff like that and you know couples you do that shit to a lot of women that are single in the lifestyle you push a lot of shit on these girls and you turn them off to the lifestyle because you can just like a single dude. You get all horny. You get all excited. You start thinking with your little brain. They're not your big brain. And some of these girls, just because they're bisexual at a swing. Doesn't mean they're wanting to fuck you.
So respect the couples boundaries. And respect the singles boundaries. Check in. If things move forward, check in with your partners. Especially in the dynamic encounters, including multiple people. Thank you.
boundaries check in if things move forward check in with your partners especially in in the dynamic encounters including multiple people make sure everyone feels safe and valued yes check in once in a while with your wife to make sure she's okay with the multiple guys on her and same vice versa make check in with your husband to make sure you're he's okay with it and stuff like that i had a past experience this past weekend at secrets where a couple me and my partner at secrets having a great time a couple noticed us fucking in the playroom and later on in the night they came to us and said hey we enjoyed watching you fuck but they really didn't talk to me they were they were really talking about her they loved watching her fuck and so they asked her not me her if she wanted if it was okay for her to play with them and i was like and it's her birthday so i i came to her and i said you know it's i'm gonna yes like i said anything you want this weekend you have so do you want to go play with them and she was like oh yeah she's like yes so i said okay we'll go play with them so i go there i said watch them fuck and have a threesome now if this was the any other time other than her birthday weekend i would have said no to them because they didn't show my they didn't try they didn't respect my boundaries and anything like that because they pushed themselves on her they didn't they only introduced themselves to me they really didn't talk to me at all and at the end of the thing when they were done did you like the show and i just wanted to say well that's the first time and that's going to be the last time you ever touch that woman again as long as i'm there and one thing i liked about it when i told my partner about it she agreed and all that stuff but you know what i'm not mad about it because like i told her you do whatever you want to do you got a free reign you want to fuck whoever you don't have to ask me for permission you just go fuck she played with uh she played with another woman her and her her and her uh woman went into the playroom and played i didn't watch anything because i'm not into the girl girl stuff and stuff like that so you know she had a great time and that's what was mattered the most any other time i told her that's not gonna ever happen because it does that has happened in the past where couples would because i like watching my girl play with other couples and men and couples find out about it so they want to use her for the threesome but they don't talk to me about it and we have passed on it before but like i said it was her birthday weekend she had a great time so this mindset not only keeps in good standing in the community but also helps you find deep satisfaction with your swinging adventures so practical tips for singles and couples at this point you might be wondering okay ac what practical tips can i take today to find compatible partners in the lifestyle well here are top five one clean and confident before you show up remember shaving cocky balls gentlemen hygiene and grooming boost confidence and leave lasting depressions also i want to say this ladies after you get done fucking make sure you clean that vagina you know use ph balance wipes or whatever you need to do get up in there if a guy comes inside of you get that fucking, make sure you clean that vagina.
You know, use pH balance wipes or whatever you need to do. Get up in there. If a guy comes inside of you, get that cum out of there because you know what happens? By the end of the night, that pussy is stinking. I mean, I could not smell the pussy steak at Secrets that weekend was pretty bad. Clean out your pussy. After you're done, go clean it out. Go do whatever you need to do because I like to eat a nice-smelling pussy, not a dirty-ass pussy that smells bad because it just doesn't taste good and it smells bad, and I got a beard, and it stinks on me, and whatever.
Then I have to take a whole shower and all that stuff. But remember, hygiene for both men and women. Two, do your homework. Research the swinger clubs, events, online groups in your ear.
Read reviews that get that get referrals all right because not every club allows singles all right they all allow single women but not single men so if you're looking for single men and your club don't allow single men it might not be a good fit so do your research get referrals from other couples three this is i think this is one important one start slow attend social events first don't rush into the bedroom scene. Swing is going to be there. Swing is going to be there. Couples out there that are listening, I guarantee. Swing will be there next weekend.
Swing is going to be there a month from May. It will be February next month, February, March, April. It will be there. Two years from now, be there. Ten years from now, it's going to be there. Trust me, it'll be there. So, build a rapport with people and find common interests. Now, common interests is not sex. I'm talking about sports, money, family, things like that. Alright? Four, be patient but proactive. Compatibility takes time. Alright? But don't wait passively. Put yourself out there.
Be approachable and engage positivity and all that stuff single guys always tell guys do not spend all night just on one couple i see it so many times at a club me and my partner will be watching because we love the people watch and we'll be at the club we'll notice one guy will always be with this one couple and by the end of the night 2 a.m nothing the couple goes home and he's there with blue balls all right you can be approachable you can engage positively with these couples but you don't have to spend the whole night with them you know be cool be relaxed talk to other people there's other people there at the club all right same thing with single ladies you know talk around get all around talk if people a couples get upset because you talk to another couple well then you know that's going to be fucked some issues they're going to be linger they're going to pop up all right couples same thing don't spend all night with one couple or one single or one single female or one single male you can talk to a whole bunch people.
Find out who you like at the end of the night. Five, communicate clearly. Always have honest conversations about your desires. What are you looking for? Big dick, small dick. Brown dick, black dick. White dick, Asian dick. Stuff like that. What are your limits? No anal, condoms, stuff like that. Oral sex, no kissing. The logistics before jumping in.
Where are you going to to play at especially if you meet out at a bar for your first time are you going to go rent a hotel who's responsible for it now i tell this i as a single guy i would think i would be responsible for the hotel i would always offer sometimes you get couples that would say no we'll pay for it fine with me all right but you should always offer uh yeah so where are you going to play.
Is your on premise or off premise if it's on premise you got rooms are you gonna be able to find a room stuff like that are you gonna be if you can't find a room are you free you care if you play out the open in the open room or do you stuff like that so keep these in mind you'll find your tribe within the lifestyle much, much faster, people. So the role of chemistry is not just physical. Often folks adequate compatibility to just physical attraction. Chemistry is about so much more. It's about energy, mindset, humor, and connection.
You can be physically attracted to someone but miss that mental or emotional spark and vice versa. Thank you so much. humor, and connection, all right? You can be physically attracted to someone, but miss that mental or emotional spark, and vice versa. That's why I've always said to single guys and couples alike to look beyond looks. She seek shared values, attitudes, and a vibe that feels natural and fun.
And I always tell that, people, you never judge a book all right this is this is where it gets difficult this white girl sounds uh uh two-faced you can't really judge a book by its cover but you got to and sometimes because like i said if a guy comes to the club he's dressed nice okay he he meets that eye test if a guy comes to and he looks like crap looks like he just got out work things like that all right then we have to talk okay maybe we're not interested in him because of that all right the guy that looks good in the club he's short he's too tall uh he's not that good looking stuff like that you got to get past that because you might find a diamond in the rough maybe that guy who is short uh is dressed well he's got his cock and ball shape he might lay pipe better than any guy with an eight inch cock or 10 inch cock or four inch cock stuff like that so you got to be willing to look past sometimes the looks maybe he's not something that you would naturally be attracted to but isn't that what the lifestyle is about trying new things out so if you don't like this type of person maybe you should try give it a try give it a whirl who knows don't be afraid to try something new you're already trying something new you're trying you know one guy in your mouth one guy in your pussy or another guy in your ass so you know might as well try something maybe try a little short dude or try a big tall dude try a 10 inch cock or try a four inch penis micro penis whatever so overcoming the challenges that you're going to receive because you're going to see you're going to have many of them in your swingers career compatibility isn't always easy you might meet couples who aren't communicative or singles who are unclear about boundaries all right or you could face jealousy or insecurity creeping in the key is to handle these with patience and maturity like Like I said, you might find couples that are hot and you and your wife are just looking like, yeah, we're ready to go.
But they have a 10-cent brain or a fine-cented brain and they're stupid or they just can't communicate well, stuff like that. Or you find singles, male and females, that can't communicate and stuff like that. Like I always said, why don't you try texting? Say, hey, maybe we should text each other. Like I said, it's weird. I'm just spitballing because we have a lot of people who have social anxiety or just socially awkward, even in the lifestyle. And try that.
Maybe say, let's just text each other maybe they maybe they could say talk they could use your fingers to do the talking to talk give their uh give their communication to each other or you know i don't know it's it's difficult to really say what you need to do because of the fact that, you know, there's so much shit out there. There's so many people out there, so many new people joining the lifestyle, so many people leaving the lifestyle. It's just something that you want to try. All right? So if a connection doesn't feel right, you got to move on. All right? Just say move on.
Don't settle or force chemistry. The lifestyle is full of options. Don't lose confidence. And remember, when you're feeling unsure, just shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. Restat your mindset and step back with confidence. All right, so every swinger's journey is unique. Mine has been very unique because as a single guy, I'm treated a lot different. I'm treated a lot worse. I'm like the pariah. I got the black plague, stuff like that, and that's fine. So my journey is going to be very different than your as a couple's journey. Couples evolve their communication.
Singles find their tribe, and compatibility grows through time and learning. Don't compare yourself to others. Something I had to learn as a single guy i can't have an eight inch cock i got six inches that's all i got that's all i have but what can i do with those six inches how can i be very different learn how to i can eat pussy better than all of you i can tell you that right now focus on your experience guys, guys, ladies, too. Enjoy the process. Respect yourself and others. And remember, the little things like grooming that keep you ready and confident every step of the way. All right?
So that's my little spiel on compatibility. I hope you enjoyed it. I know I did writing it. I enjoyed it. So, you know, just be patient. Do not be in a hurry to fucking do all this in one night. You don't have to do it all in one night. Okay? You got time. All right. So, I'm going to go before I go.
to look at reddit uh i want to talk to you uh see what we got at reddit and next week next podcast is going to talk about divorce in the lifestyle oh yeah all that stuff so you know what here's a good one i understand it's annoying but you need to understand why men ask if size matters especially in this or a similar lifestyle okay Thank you. You know what? Here's a good one. I understand it's annoying, but you need to understand why men ask if size matters, especially in this or a similar lifestyle. Okay. Let's see. Main point.
Because I ended up yapping like an idiot, if so many women look for at least size X as one of the important filters, you can't men for keeping ass keep men for keep asking about it why can't we just admit then in a lot or most cases it does matter why is it so hard of course i can't give percentages but as a male uh you read stuff like must be x inches and it's like a. I understand not literally everybody only looks for big dicks, but it's a lot of profiles.
And often it is written in a way that gives the impressions that it's the first line of the fence and the best, the first important filter. Yes, I have to agree because you do see a lot. Like I always hear people, oh, size don't matter. I go, bullshit. Do you ever look at a swingers ad? Most of them say hung. So, you know, it is what it is. But, like, let's see what this guy says before I start ranting. It's really hard to believe the phrases that you are getting thrown and repeated all the times.
When the reality seems to be so different, it seems very disingenuous and outright mean when all the real signs point towards it does matter and you basically get told you're an idiot for asking that question and that's not true at all i can't be the only one who notices this why nobody ever mentions that uh even when people say something along the lines of it's important to be respectful blah kind of beating around the bush trying to suggest size doesn't matter while you're actually indirectly saying it does in fact matter just there just there is more important stuff which again seems very disingenuous yes of course be respectful and having the vibe matters more that's like the baseline but also dick size matters as well that when then you can't say that or also i roll my eyes every time someone says yes of course size matters too big is bad like come on everybody knows what that this is about uh as a disclaimer as a disclaimer i want to add that i am not a salty single guy in fact i have amazing girlfriend and even more towards even more towards being a cuckold uh with almost six inches myself so i'm an upper end of average than a swinger i just randomly thought about it and my own insecurities in the past regarding dick size which i also wanted to share and thought this thought in my experiences why i post here because people here are generally more open to talk about stuff like this also in the lifestyle like this it's more obvious that size matters no vanilla woman will put must be x inches in their profiles doesn't mean it doesn't matter but in this in this and other lifestyle people talk more open about it all right i can't go on this is like pretty boring but anyways for the men out there yes your dick size does matter to women they can say they can lie to you all you want say no it's not about the dick it's the it's not about the size it's the motion in the ocean which is bullshit because like i said in this lifestyle your size does matter now is it going to stop you from having real connections meeting people and having sex with other people nope it's not going to stop you what's going to stop you is not your dick size really it's going to be your attitude your piss poor attitude if you you if you have no confidence in yourself because you have a small dick people women are going to notice that we are human beings we we smell things we can smell your pheromones stuff like that and if you don't have confidence you ain't going to set off those pheromones of your confidence and women are not going to smell it not get attracted to you all right i have seen guys who has very small penises go from one couple to another all night long either at caliente secrets or at a swingers club even here in houston i have seen it now what makes them better one their dick can get hard multiple times in the night to they just exude confidence like I'm the shit, I'm the man and I'm gonna fucking fuck shit up that's your thing, if you don't have a huge cock, just work on yourself, work on your confidence work on the way you dress, how you talk stuff like that you'll be fine, trust You're going to get made.
You can have a micro-penis. I've seen guys with micro-penises get their dick sucked or fucked and stuff like that. It's because they had confidence in themselves to go up to a couple and talk to them. Because you would not believe how many couples don't get talked to by other guys and other women and other couples. Alright? But yeah.
can stop lying just tell us dick size matters it will be fine like i said learn to eat pussy well great too you gotta be a good great pussy eater man i'm telling you you can learn that you can eat pussy great no women will ever turn you down because they're gonna love that eat pussy but anyways all right so does that feel make you feel better guys all right you're going to be okay like i said the pussy's going to be good so oh all right guys this has been the swinging single podcast if you're ready to take your experience to the next level, go check out our resources and community at SwingAndSinglePodcast.com.
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