Dive into the world of MFM threesomes with host AC Maxwell on the Swinging Single Podcast. In this episode, we navigate the intricacies of arranging and conducting a successful MFM threesome, discussing the crucial aspects of setting it up and establishing necessary boundaries as a couple. Join us as we offer valuable insights and practical advice on approaching this dynamic experience with clarity and respect. Additionally, we tackle a sensitive scenario where a participant in the threesome faces size disparities between partners, exploring how to navigate and embrace these differences with empathy and confidence. Get ready for a candid and informative discussion that will enlighten and empower you on your journey through the swinging lifestyle.swingingsinglepodcast.comswingingsinglepodcast@gmail.comhttps://www.julianbeing.com/blog/make-your-first-mfm-threesome-a-blissful-experiment-being-the-boyfriend
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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast. I'm your host, A.C. Maxwell, taking you on a journey of the swinging lifestyle as a single gentleman for the past, I don't know, 20 plus years. Coming to you live from the heart of Texas. So gentlemen, remember to shave those cock and balls. Guys, if you're sitting there alone, listening to my sexy voice, get out a bottle of lube, get some tissues. Ladies, if you got a lady around, have her sit on your face and listen to the stories that I'm going to tell you about the swinging lifestyle. We're going to talk about sex. Sex is great.
We're going to talk about the male-female-male threesome. No, not the female, not the two-female-male threesome, but we're going to talk about the male female male threesome and a great article I read from Julian Bean dot com about how to get that very first one. Because some people have questions about getting a first time threesome and all that stuff. And you it's very, you know, it's not that easy.
You know, guys got to be able to get it up and keep it up and you don't want that first time to be too awkward it will be awkward the first time i'm going to tell you that for sure but if you listen to ac listen to uh the swinging single podcast you're gonna be all right so with that let's get into it the swinging single host A.C. Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only. The opinions, views, and content expressed or shared on the podcast are solely those of the host, A.C.
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Let's do yoga on the bed Put that dick in my head Smack my ass, make it red Teary eyes, but I ain't sad Let's do yoga on the bed Fuck me deep in the head Mouth open, pussy spread Boy, just do what I said Let's do yoga on the bed Fuck me deep bed. Fuck me deep in the head. Smack my ass when you get red. Just do what I said. Let's do yoga on the bed. All right. We're going to be talking about threesomes today. The two male, the devil's threesome, the Eiffel Tower of Paris, whatever you want to call it. But we're going to be talking about that today and all that and some stuff.
We're going to talk on Reddit, a little bit Reddit, because some people have a question about the male, female, male threesome and all that. And like I said, everybody in the lifestyle is welcome. Everybody has a role in the lifestyle. It's just not a couple's lifestyle.
It is a single person's lifestyle single person's lifestyle you know you might go well single people can't be swingers but yes they can you know swinging is more than just being a couple and swapping partners all about connections and all that stuff but the sex is the main component all righty for l for me at least you know i know a lot of people who we like the connections the most but the sex is just nothing well for me the sex is the main course and everything else is just appetizers and desserts all right but first make sure you go to swing and single podcast.com check out all things ac then go to swing and single podcast at gmail.com if you want to come on my show be a guest or anything like that got any questions concerns you want actually attack tackle a topic topic i don't shy away from the controversial topics like stds and stuff like that remember if you are going to be swinging i recommend you going to get your std check i do it monthly i go to talent testing services very cheap for me it's 15155 for a gold panel test, which tests for mostly everything.
And you also, and plus a $50 blood withdrawal from the place, the lab. So it's like $200 for that. And it's $200 worth it because it gives you the peace of mind that you are clean, your partners are going to be clean, and the people you are playing with, you're going to keep them clean. You're actually, you know, you're doing a really good thing. So make sure you go get checked. Don't be shy, you know. It happens. If you don't want to go to your regular doctor because you don't want your regular doctor to know you are a swinger, then just go to a clinic that is not associated with your doctor.
Also, maybe it's also, you know, dedicated, you know, they have one that is uses your insurance and your insurance can pay for it. Anyways, we also, you know, if you want to talk about unicorn hunting, I saw a post on Facebook today about some guy was angry that for some odd reason, I don't know where he got this stuff from or anything like that but he got he got uh sorry guys i messed up a little bit no all right so he saw a post i saw a post from a guy who was talking about why is there so much anger when couples try to get a single female?
And I never seen an ad yelling at couples for looking for a single female. You know, you see them. You see a ton of them. They're always looking for a single female. And I just replied. I go, i don't think it is what you think it is i just said uh you might be mistaken the way they word it and all that stuff because what we do call them we call them unicorn hunters and that kind of sounds i don't know i'm not a woman for me the bull is a i don't like to be called a bull because i'm not an animal and't want to be treated like an animal. Some guys, some single guys don't give a shit.
All they care about is the pussy. They don't, they lie about it. I don't lie about it. That's what I'm looking for. I'm looking for pussy. Aren't you guys? And so he was saying there's a lot of anger towards people that want to do it. But I just, I just said maybe it's because the term unicorn hunter is – some people don't like that term. Now, maybe change it to just say you're looking for a single female.
And I also offer a suggestion, like for couples that are looking for single females but they can't find it, why not just get a couple, get two couples together, husband A fucks the two girls, he busts his nut, he leaves, husband B takes over, busts his nut, and you're all done. You have your female, you have your threesome with two females. Then some people got on my ass about it. Oh, no, that's not the way it is. We just don't want no guys fucking, no penises going into my wife or anything like that.
I'm like, God, can you please send me me photos of your cock i want to see this penis because it's got to be a miraculous penis because she only wants to fuck your cock for the rest of her life she don't want any other cock inside of her or anything like that so it has to be a miraculous penis i gotta see it because i want my penis to be like that i want to bang some girl then she says i'm done with all penises i can only have yours acs and i need your penis so i saw that kind of thought it was funny and i'll go talk about that you know like i said in the controversials i'm very controversial i don't shy away from the controversial topics that are in the lifestyle that we have so you're thinking about having a threesome.
You don't want to have a female. You're not interested in the female, but you're interested in bringing another man into your bedroom. This could be very scary, just like swinging. Swinging is very scary because swinging can enhance your relationship 100% or it could destroy your relationship 100%. Bringing in an extra man to have sex with your woman, your wife, your girlfriend, or whatever is very, very, could be very scary for people, you know? What happens, because you get a lot of questions. What if he has sex with her better?
What if she likes having sex with him more than me and he's got a bigger penis than me and stuff like that. That shit's all in your head. All right? Hopefully your relationship is on solid foundation. Now, like I said, if you are not on solid foundation, do not swing. Do not even have a threesome. Do not do any of this stuff, guys. You've got to be on solid footing before you ever, ever allow another man or woman into your bedroom.
If you're not not on solid foundation it is going to end badly and i've seen a lot like i said i got over 20 years experience i've seen couples come couples go couples come because they're done couples get divorced stuff like that and it happens all the time if you're a veteran you're going to be a veteran in this lifestyle you're going to see it and're going to say, God, that piece of shit AC was really correct. He really, couples do break up and get divorced in this lifestyle. Yeah, just as much as in the vanilla world. Anyways, so I found this article online, julianbean.com.
And I'm going to post the link so you can read it. I'm not going to read it all to you. So it's the how to make your first male female male threesome a blissful experiment being the boyfriend all right now i always tell couples this when you start participating in a lifestyle you can't base your judgment off of one experience because i always tell them remember, remember that first time you had sex? Was it a great experience? Because for me, it wasn't. It was done pretty quick. And for the girl, I'm sure it wasn't and all that because it was done pretty quick.
So, you know, you've got to be able to do this and be able to really judge.
If it's for you or not for you do it a couple times you know three or four times see how it is because the first time is going to be awkward for you you're going to have these weird emotions and all that stuff and you don't know how to process them yet and as you go on and you get older and you do it a little more maybe another time you learn to process that a little more so hopefully your communication is great and your and your uh you know and your found and your foundation of relationship is there so does your relationship meet the requirements of a positive threesome you have you have to establish open communication with your partner in other words both of you should feel comfortable sharing your feelings and you know that could be troublesome for a lot of people especially sometimes guys guys and girls you know guys don't want to they want to be all macho and all that stuff they don't know how to share their feelings this includes constructive criticism you also should have a track record of taking feedback from each other well and incorporating ladies if your man's out there and he gets angry upset a lot of times when you give him feedback or criticism or anything constructive criticism not just criticism but constructive criticism and don't approach him by the swing a threesome with another man because i don't think it's going to work because if he can't take criticism constructive criticism from you in regular in the vanilla world once he gets into that swinger lifestyle world he's gonna be able to do it also your relationship must be a okay before even considering doing a threesome you two are a team remember that couples you're a team no one should have any hard feelings and both of you should genuine genuine lining want genuinely want the other person happy.
Yeah, that's what I always say. Make the person happy. If you're not willing to let another man fuck your girl, you should not be allowing your woman to let someone else fuck you, another woman fuck you, because it's only fair. Now, if she don't want to fuck another guy, well, that's good for you, because you got one of those girls that you have the magic penis, and she don't want that fuck another guy, well, that's good for you because you got one of those girls that you have the magic penis and she don't want that right now. But this is the problem.
What happens in 5, 10, 15, 20 years from now? How is she going to be feeling later on? Will she change her mind? So just because she says she doesn't want it now, five years later, she could be, I want it now. So be prepared for that. Like I said, don't do anything that you wouldn't do. If you have any problems in your relationship, fix them. Thank you.
years later she could be i want it now so be prepared for that like i said if don't do anything that you wouldn't do if you have any problems in your relationship fix them then you should work through them uh before inviting other people into your bedroom there's nothing like having a threesome and the husband and the wife get into a fight while you're fucking i'm going to tell you nothing as the third nothing kills well it didn't kill my boner but nothing kills the mood when husband and wife are arguing while you're fucking his wife and it just leaves a bad taste not a bad taste a good bad taste but a bad taste in your mouth that you're not going to get a nut so you better hurry up and come before they start really going at it all right a threesome done under the wrong set and setting is a catalyst for trouble divorce breakups stuff like that it's like a baby it won't fix your love is your relationship ready for a menage a trois then it's time time to grant preparation.
All right? So this article goes on, and it talks about some of the rules, some of the things you need to talk about. So how about discussing your boundaries? Have you discussed your boundaries with your partner? That's going to be key. Discussing your boundaries within your relationship is the most important conversation you will have. A few questions that you should cover to ensure that you will both walk out of this stronger than ever. And they give seven of them. So number one, safer sex rules. Do you want to use condoms, dental dams, or do STD checks? All right.
Number one, I never use a dental dam. I saw one, but I never ever used one. Condoms all the time. And STD checks once a month for me. I don't know about you, what your preference is. Some couples do it every three months. I had couples where we're not going to go use condoms. Are you okay with it? Yes, I've been checked. I show them my results and they come up with, well, we got tested five months ago. Well, have Well, and that's no good because that's no bueno because what have they been doing in the past five months?
Mine are a week old, two weeks old, three weeks old, four weeks old, but not five months old.
And that's where you got to really put your foot down and you think with your head, not your little head, that this is not going to be a good thing if I decide to go bareback on this couple because i don't know what they got i don't know who they've been with i know a lot of a lot of people say well we're very selective well i can only take that with a grain of salt because i've seen people at clubs in the orgy room the group rooms or whatever you want to go from one couple to another but yet they said in their profiles they said they're very selective because i look because i look when i go to a club and you know on sdc swing a lifestyle swing my style.com cassidy it says who's going to be there and you can see so i always look at the end oh i saw that couple there let's look at their profile okay okay and i just see and sometimes they say very selective but i go well they must not have been very selective that night because they just went through six different couples but okay whatever so you know you can't don't trust it's sad to say you can't really trust anybody when it comes to your health always be careful always do the right thing with it and just if you have to think about it don't do it and all that so when you're seeking a male ask them are they gonna be able to one perform with a condom you should be surprised how many guys cannot get hard and this is the younger generation i can't believe the older generation out does this for you know i thought the older guys would do it even with even with viagra you can still not get hard there are guys who build up a tolerance Thank you.
the older generation out does this for you know i thought the older guys would do it even with even with viagra you can still not get hard there are guys who build up a tolerance to viagra and they can't get hard just by viagra alone anymore but these young cats i'm seeing are struggling to get a hard on when it comes time to do the deed and the girl will be trying to fluff them sucking them off trying to get them you know to get them going but to no prevail Thank you.
get a hard on when it comes time to do the deed and the girl will be trying to fluff them sucking them off trying to get them you know to get them going but to no prevail or they get hard and they start fucking and they go soft uh blood flow blood circulation i don't know if you're if you're one of those guys go to the hospital go to the doctor go to your general practitioner talk about it and see what tests could be run to see if your blood flow and all that. So make sure they can get hard with condoms on. Now, you've got to take their word for it.
So you might want to talk to other couples who have threesomes with other men who, you know, have success with them. Dental dams, I don't even, listen, if you want to use a dental dam, go use one, but I don't know. I never have used one. And if you are going to do STD checks, which I do see couples on Reddit and SDC ask for those, how long are you going to let the results? Do they have to have it within a month, two months, or three months? Once you get past a month, you don't know. You don't know what they've been doing that past month. So it's, like I said, it's up to you.
You have to talk with your wife or girlfriend or partner about that, and you'll see what happens. All right. Let's see. What else? Number two, is it okay for two people to have sex independently or just if everyone is involved? All right.
Do you all need to stay together in the same room beside toilet breaks well i don't see if you're not all involved how much of a threesome is it so i don't to me if when i take my partner to the club i'm always in the room i'm always there i'm participating or not or watching in some form or another so this is what you got to talk about do you want to watch your girl have a three have have sex with another man if it's a you don't mind her going off to a room by herself with the man okay but i always recommend you go with the your girl your wife your girlfriend because for safety reasons, right?
Because some guys are some dirty son of a bitches and they will try to do shady stuff. Like put a condom on and when she's not looking, when she's behind, pull it off and start fucking your girl. So you know you got to do that. So you got to be very, very careful. Like I said, picking the right guy is going to be the key.
So, you know you got to do that so you got to be very very careful like i said picking the right guy is going to be the key uh so you know i would think everyone should be involved you should be involved your first couple i would recommend you be involved your first couple times guys just so you know you learn how to do it you learn different positions and stuff like that uh for the threesome that. Do you have to touch each other? No, but you gotta remember there might be some friendly fire or something like that. You might touch one time. It doesn't make you gay dudes. Don't worry about it.
Number three, do you want the third to spend the night or should they go home? All right. I only have stayed the night one time in my 28 years of swimming of a couple. I have always left and gone home. When I was living in Buffalo, I met a beautiful couple. It was in the middle of the winter, and it's fucking, you know, in Buffalo. It snows a lot. And they lived out in the country, and it was so beautiful.
And met them up at a bar, talked, had a great time they invited me back to the house we did our things we we had sex for we were tag teaming his wife split roasting her for about three hours one it was one two in the morning they go hey do you want to stay up you want to stay tonight then if you stay up in the morning time we could split roast her again fuck her again all right i was too fucking tired i was like okay i'll stay slept there morning time got up we did it again we had sex for an hour you know it was a great breakfast breakfast of champions we fucked we said our goodbyes and i left now that's the only time i have ever done that usually all the time time I leave because I feel like, to me, I'm the tool they're using.
Not like a tool in a bad way, but a tool like, you know, the hammer to nail his wife. And you put it away when you're done. And I don't want to overstep my boundaries because some couples are too nice. They won't tell you, hey, get the fuck out. I will tell you to leave. Like, whenever we were at, I took a friend to TPCs a couple nights ago, and we were playing. I asked the guy, does he want to eat her pussy? Because that's my prereq. You have to eat her pussy before you fuck her. So he's eating her pussy. I go, you want a fucker? Got a condom? Yep, got a condom.
Puts on a cond condom fucks her and all that stuff once he's done i said hurry up dude bust your nut you know it's it's getting too long you know you don't have to be pumping for her you're not making love to her she just wants you to fuck her and fuck her hard and get out and you know once he came you know we said hey thank you buddy i said thank you buddy and all that said all right we're good we'll talk to you later stuff like that kick him out of the room and all that basically don't do it rude but just you know just you know just make sure that i'm the man he's just a tool just to remind him that but like i said you know i wouldn't recommend the guy staying the night but that's up to you you might want him to stay night because you might want that morning sex or i don't know if you've been drinking a lot you might not want him there because you might regret the decision that you made uh the night earlier all right so i would always recommend just have him go home after after you're done you know after all parties are satisfied satisfied.
And do it nicely. Say, oh, you can't stay. Like a lot of guys, I don't think a lot of guys will stay tonight. There are some weird old guys that will try to stay tonight or try to talk you up and stuff like that. You know, you just got to be able to be firm but be respectful. Say, hey, you know, we got an early morning. We got to go to church in the morning.
So we would like you like you to leave you can leave now and stuff like that me i don't have a problem telling the guy to get the fuck out if he want if he's trying to overstay some people some couples are due because some people some couples are very nice i'm not that nice four how much body contact do you want to have with the third now we got to talk about this because guess what there are bisexual men maybe they're doing this the threesome maybe you want to maybe your girlfriend said oh i've said okay do a threesome because you told her that you are bisexual you are attracted to men you like having sex with men uh so now you got to figure out how much are you gonna be doing all three participating is the third bisexual male are you gonna be touching penises Thank you.
out, how much are you going to be doing? All three of you participating. Is the third a bisexual male? Are you going to be touching penises, doing DP, double vaginal penetration? That's where two penises go inside the vagina at the same time. Done that a bunch of times and all that. So how much touching are you going to do? If you are a bisexual male, are you going to be making out with the guy? Are you going to be fucking the guy? Are you going to be sucking the guy off? The guy is going to suck you off, things like that.
So you've got to discuss all that, especially the dynamic changes when it's a bisexual male because now you have all the other stuff. Usually when it's just a male, female, male threesome, it's the two guys paying attention to the girl.
But now it's two guys paying attention to a girl but now it's two guys paying attention to a girl and two to a guy and a girl paying attention to another guy so you know you got that added dynamic and it's great you know there's nothing wrong with it don't be if you're a bisexual male out there don't be scared to say you're bisexual male let people know because you're gonna be surprised how many download bisexual males are in the lifestyle because of the shit that guys get from being bisexual male, being bisexual female. Hey, oh, it's all great. We love you. We love you. We want you.
You're a guy. No, we don't want nothing to do with doing shit like that, which is bullshit.
But like I said, I always appreciate it when a couple tells me they're bisexual because I know because i tell them i'm not bi i'm bi-friendly but not bisexual so that gives me the opportunity to say hey i don't want to play with you or yeah i want to play you because you respect my boundaries i always tell i tell them i'm not doing anything with your guy we could put two penises inside you put two penises inside your asshole or stuff like that two in your mouth and touching dick ain't gonna hurt me but I don't want anything to do with anything with the man and I don't find men attractive that much, awesome but anyways, so figure out what kind of contact you're gonna have if you're a straight male, just say no male and male contact man find another straight dude if're a bisexual male, yes, you can find plenty of bisexual males out there to do this male-female-male threesome with.
Number five, do you want to ask each other for permission before you engage in a sexual act? Your partner asking, can I kiss him? Or are you okay with going with the flow? I have both. I had both couples ask. She'll turn to her husband, is it okay to kiss or stuff like that? But for me, you should always, if you're a single guy getting into the lifestyle, you should always ask the husband permission. Is it okay to touch her? And a lot of times the guy would say, you better ask her first. You got to ask her. And you ask her.
Is it okay to touch her and a lot of times the guy would say you better ask her first you know you got to ask her and you ask her uh is it okay to have sex with your wife stuff like that you know make sure you come you incorporate the male partner into your conversations at the club conversations at the bar wherever you're having a conversation at because there's nothing nothing I don't like when a guy approaches my girl, my partner at the club or anywhere at the hotel takeover and I'm not there and trying to hit her up. You should do that with a man.
I don't ever go up to another couple when the female's alone. I try not to talk to a female when she's alone. When the guy goes to the bathroom, i stop talking to her because i just don't want the guy to i want the guy to know he can trust me that i'm not there for shady reasons i'm there for sex i'm not there to steal your girl because guess what when we talked to the houston hot wife xxx and her interview she talked her and her husband talked about guys telling that they could do better than her husband and stuff like that. So there are some shady dudes out there. So I don't want that.
I might be a fucking pervert and asshole, but I'm not shady like that. I don't want to steal your girl. I don't want to, you know, marry her off and steal it from you. I just want to use her, have fun with her, make her happy, make you happy. And we can just go our separate ways and all that. But, you know, it is what it is for me. So do you want your girl to ask permission for you? Because sometimes you might say, just go with the flow, honey. You do your thing, we'll do our thing. We'll just go with the flow. So that's a possibility.
Six, which sexual acts are you excited to do and which ones are a hard no? Like guy on guy. You're a straight man. You don't want no guy on guy. Fluids, you know. Are you going to go bareback? If you go bareback, there might be a cream pie or two in there. Are you okay with having sex with another man's jizz inside your wife's pussy? It's things like that. So you've got to figure out what acts. Anal. Are you going to do anal? Anal always got to come. You always got to say anal. You always talk about it because, you know, there's a lot of women that are hard-known anal. Some of them love anal.
But, you know, are you going to do anal? Are you going to do double vaginal penetration? Are you going to do double penetration? Double penetration is where one's in the ass and one's in the puss. So, you know, you've got to all ask those questions. Are you going to do oral? You know, things like that. Number seven, the final one, discussing your boundaries. Do you want to do any recording, taking pictures, et cetera? I advise against any kind of recording, especially for your first student. I agree with that. Do not even bother with the recording.
Don't, because you're going to be worried about taking pictures more than you are about the sex act. And it's going to make it awkward. It can make it slow. It could just not make it a good fit for you.
you and you might be like i don't want to do this again because it's going to be awkward in anyways so don't make it even more but i just say don't take any pictures or anything like that especially make sure you and if you do because you're going to because especially young cats love videos and pictures ask the person for permission don't have put it yet and don't put anyone's face in it your face your husband's face the guy's face or anything like that because then you can always deny oh that ain't us if anyone sees it from work stuff like that a boundary should be should be something uncontrollable for example defining the boundary that your partner should only orgasm with you sets up for accidents.
You can't really control where you come or who makes you come, really. I'm going to tell you that right now in the world of swinging. Thus, you only want to create boundaries that you, your partner, and third will have full control over. I have actually played with couples where he can only come when I tell him he can come.
He can only come with so he's over there fucking the other wife he's not allowed to come so when he comes he has to go on her and start fucking her and come inside of her so it's you do have couples like that you're gonna find that as the years go on and you become a veteran in swing-wise so you're gonna have some where you're gonna have some weird uh rules couples have for example we always use condoms for oral vaginal and anal sex would would be a boundary that works well so that'd be something that's what we're talking about so now you got to find the right guy for this threesome so the person that you are selecting for your first threesome will have a tremendous impact on your experience yes it can make or break your lifestyle however finding the right guy is is not an easy task i swear to god houston the hot wife xxx always talks about she finds guys on reddit to play with the film with and number one complaint they can't stay hard they can't get hard i can i try and i told her i go yeah that's because you are dealing with amateurs.
Try for your first threesome. Do a lot of research. Find a veteran. No, I'm not saying me. I'm just saying someone, a man who has done the lifestyle before, who has been in the lifestyle for a while. It could be a year or two. Someone experienced in it.
Because he's going to be able to deliver the goods goods probably guys who can't get hard or have a hard time struggling uh with the hard on with the condom on or whatever they tend to phase out their lifestyle real quick you know because they're as a single guy you're paying 100 bucks to get in the club you pay 200 bucks to go to the resort you're paying 300 bucks or whatnot so you're paying all this money and after a while you go fuck i can't even get hard i can't bust my nut so what's the point of going so they phase themselves out quickly if you know couples that swing get recommendations see if they have recommendations do something like that so let's look at some of the list there's one two three four five there's six the first one self-awareness is he able to know about his needs and emotion is he able to know about his needs and emotions you got to have someone mature enough who understands his his place in this so many guys like i said they're trying to find a couple i don't know they're trying to be a truffle or whatnot they're trying to steal your girl whatnot i don't know but theyacked out emotions.
They're immature and stuff like that. You got to find yourself a mature who has his emotions in check. He knows his role. Next one, empathy. Is he able to accommodate your, you and your partner needs and emotions? Yes. A good man should ask, what are we, what are you looking to accomplish? What, how can I help you accomplish this goal? What can I do to make this experience the top experience that you'll be talking about for the rest of your life and all that? What, how can I do that? I'm here as a single guy. I always say, I'm here to serve the couple.
Now, some people, oh, well, you're, you're gay or something because you said you said to go, yeah, I'm serving the male too. I'm serving both the female and the male, the couple. Now I'm not serving the male sexually, but I'm serving them emotionally, physically by being with his wife and girl, whatever.
I'm serving her physically, emotionally and all that so know you got to be able to know what they want i have one couple that i play with once in a while they just want to come inside of her don't care how long it takes she gets off when a guy comes inside of her she has an orgasm so he wants you to come quick and i know that and i and that's an easy facilitation because i could do that real quick uh and all that so have empathy accommodate your couple find a guy that can accommodate you and your wife and go for it self-confidence otherwise there might be drama because of personal insecurities have a guy who says okay i gotta send you his dick you know what i'm gonna drive your wife to pound town and i'm gonna make her the happiest woman on this planet that's my that's how i feel when i walk into a club i go i'm the best looking dude here i'm the best sharp i'm the best lover and all that stuff now is it true no but in my mindset i have the confidence that any woman or a couple that picks me, they're going to have a good time.
Or I'm going to try to give them a good time. Now, is he always going to give them a good time? No, because there's sometimes time restraints and stuff like that, you know, and you just can't do it. But one-on-one, yeah, I'll try my best.
So find a guy who has self-confidence and not be too cocky now words to a wise if he brags about his penis size and his fucking ability ability drop that dude he cannot do none of that guys who talk shit about their sex life or you know brag about their sex life cannot fuck they can't do anything they're lame ducks like you know i come on a podcast and talk about this stuff but once i'm off the podcast and all that stuff i don't talk about this stuff i don't tell couples who i've been with or who i parted with i would just say i know them i know that them they're a couple great couple whatever but you know i don't brag about my sexual prowess i love being able to i love being a master of oral sex i do i really love eating pussy and so i really like being good at that but when i talk to a couple i don't sit there oh yeah i could eat your pussy out better than any man or woman i don't fucking ever tell them anything because you talk up a good game.
She's expecting the best. She gets average. You know, she's not into you anymore. So, you know, you got to be very careful. So make sure if the guy is talking shit about how great he is, how big his penis is and stuff like that, do not take. Pick that guy. Just saying.
And if you don't believe me, go try it and see how bad it is integrity is he going to act like he says a lot of guys are bullshit artists swinging single guys are not bullshit artists single guys are bullshit artists there's two difference and i talked about that swinging single guys they're all about the lifestyle they understand the rules the procedures everything like that and they're. Swinging single guys, they're all about the lifestyle. They understand the rules, the procedures, everything like that. And they're really swingers.
Single guys are just here to get laid because either they're too fuddly to get laid outside in the real world. Don't have no personality. So that's the only way they're going to get laid. Whatever it is. But you got to remember, you know, are they going to be able to do what they're going to be able to act right? Because some guys don't. Patience. Is he able to slow down when he needs to or will he recklessly continue? When you decide to have your threesome, it might be a month or two before you even do the act.
So is this guy going to have enough patience to hang around, talk to you and stuff like stuff like that now when he's in the act your wife says oh fuck me slower fuck me harder is he able gonna do that always hit got one speed you know you want him to think like that what is he gonna be able to follow your directions and pleasure giving mindset does he want to make you feel good like i said that you're're a single guy. Single guy's out there listening. You are the tool of pleasure. You're like the vibrator for the woman and the couple. You're not anything else.
They will respect you as a human being. But other than that, you're not in the relationships. You're not there at their house taking care of the kids, paying the bills. You are just there for her pleasure and his pleasure only after the pleasure is done get the fuck out say hello if they want to talk to you outside the bedroom go right ahead but if they don't respect that and leave them alone don't be hounding them because you know what you're going to sound like desperate all right so you got to find a guy who's going to make your wife feel good. And you and your wife have to figure that out.
Looks, size, you know, things like that. So asking one of your friends to participate is fine as long as you don't have to deal with him on a daily or weekly basis. I would always recommend, this is the article talking, I would always recommend a complete stranger. Because if it goes badly, you'll never see that guy again. And if it goes right, guess what? You'll never see that guy again. If you're with your friend, your buddy, hey man, we're drinking beers, let's go tag team my wife. It goes wrong, it's going to ruin your relationship.
If it goes well, right, it goes great, you still might ruin your relationship. So ask yourself, is your friendship worth losing? And if you say yes, it is because you're really not that close of friends, then do it. But if it is worth losing, don't do it, no matter how hot the friend is. Because like I said, you'll find, go on Google the shit, and you'll find stories where friendships have been lost because of swinging with friends.
a friend lives in another city and come visit occasionally that all right that'd be a good idea someone who lives out of state maybe you only see them once a year go go at it hoss this makes it easier for you to create a distance if you feel jealous or if things don't go so well yeah because you might might get jealous some you're going to have to do. Clarify logistics. Where are you going to have this threesome at? You're going to have it at your house, in your bedroom. You're going to have it at a hotel. You're going to go to a swingers club. You're going to go to a swingers resort.
Where are you going to have this threesome at? You're going to do it at an Airbnb and all that stuff. So you never know. You want to meet in person. All right. so you want to meet them at a bar somewhere i would i always recommend going to a bar or you know what if you want to go have a dinner go have dinner i have dinners with a lot of couples all right meet them at a bar you know uh so meet them at a neutral place try not to invite a stranger to your house i cannot believe how many couples will say, come to our house. It's dangerous for everybody.
I have been to some shady-ass areas in the Houston area where at night, and this is where people go missing because you don't know who the fuck. These people, they don't know the couple just because they send you a couple pictures of her spread, her pussy spread open don't mean they're legit people it could be someone ready to rob you and shit like that so, you know, you gotta be very careful so don't ever meet someone at the house, the first time after, say like you have a threesome, you hit it off, they wanna re-tap, yeah, go over to their house because you know them. But still, watch out.
They might be crazy-ass fuckers, too. So meet them at a neutral spot. Bar would be good. Hotel bar would be excellent. You know, you meet at the bar. You decide you like each other. Bada-boom, bada-bing. Go to the hotel lobby. Get a hotel room and fuck your night away. Fuck the night away. Fuck the pain away. All right? So just don't meet them at your house the first time. So meet somewhere and all that. Somewhere's neutral. So manage your jealousy. You will feel jealous at some point during the first threesome, probably.
It's a natural occurring emotion, and you should not be too hard on yourself when you are feeling it. What's going to make or break the experience for you is how you deal with your gut-wrenching. Remember, number one priority, the integrity of your relationship. You're going to be jealous. Even if you're not a jealous person, you'll feel a little jealousy. A little bit. Because I do get a little jealous because, you know, I'm old now, 48, and I got these young cats with nice big cocks running around, getting fucking my girl.
Her screaming, you know, so you can hear her on the fucking moon screaming of pleasure. That makes me a little jealous sometimes.
But anyways, that means if you feel overwhelmed with with jealousy it is your duty to speak up and ask for a break yeah let's say can we take a break for a minute this is not you being a weak or unmanly this is you being responsible and caring you might be too afraid to be the one spawning the fun don't worry about this all right you're gonna have to listen i have been in threesomes where we're in the middle of a threesome middle of a gangbang stopped for some odd reason the girl got maybe the guy got spooked or the girl got spooked but they stopped it in mid big gangbang and make threesome it happens all right maybe because you were just too good never think about that gentlemen so guys when you're picking the male, you know, think about the jealousy factor.
If you're feeling unwell, just say it. You've taken time to select the right third, and you have communicated up front with your girlfriend about your boundaries. Everyone will understand. Under each scenario, do you feel a little jealous? Now they get four scenarios.
One, when my partner shows more affection in the third in the third than me remember if you are going to have a threesome there might be some more attention given to the other person than you as your first threesome that's going to what caused the jealousy that's what causes a lot of fights in the swinging lifestyle you paid attention to that person too much didn't pay attention to me. And you believe how many times it's the woman pays attention more to someone else than their husband and the husband gets mad. I don't know why, but anyways.
So make sure if you are on a threesome, female, ladies, this is a note to you. Make sure you give enough attention to both men equally. Or some even more than your, giving your man more than the third guy. Remember, you're going to kick that dude out in 30 minutes or an hour. So do that. Number two, when my partner shows more interest in the third than me. All right. Dad would hurt me when I was younger. But now as an older gentleman, I have found out that, of course, she is going to show more interest in the third because that's new. Think about it like going to McDonald's every day.
You order a Big Mac every day for years. And all of a sudden, a Burger King pops up. You got the Whopper. It's new. You start paying attention to the Burger King more than you do the McDonald's. Because it's new. Eventually, that Burger King is going to get old, guys. She's going to be right back to you, paying attention to you, showing more interest in you. It's a new toy. It has that new car smell. New car smell deteriorates in a couple weeks, couple months, because all the farts and all the stuffed food you leave in there. So don't worry about it. But make sure you tell your partner.
You're showing way too much interest in that person. Can you calm it down? Three, after I orgasm, a surge of jealousy will hit. The less horny, the less interested in engaging sexually, and the more jealous I will feel. This jealousy will subside once the refractory period is over and you're ready for more action. I get this all the time. I really do. I don't get jealous, but I get like, oh, I just want to get the fuck out of here and make a sandwich and go to bed. I really do. Is it tough?
It's, you got to have the right partner with me when I do that because I will get bored and I just get bored. So I always have to take a girl that I'm filling it with. If I just take some schlub, I could take, guys can find a lot of, guys do, but I don't. I could take a lot of girls. A lot of women I know want to go to clubs and they want to check it out.
They just want to check it out, but they always end up playing don't feel like i don't have a connection with them i don't have nothing with them there's no fun with them so you know like i said once i orgasm i'm gonna be like let's get the fuck out of here i want to go home stuff like that but when i have a friendship a connection with one of the females i bust my nut i get guys a fucker a couple the fucker i'm there i'm just waiting for my refraction to start back up and i'm in a half hour later i'm ready to go again because she keeps me there and all that but i do have that and i know what that feels like but i don't have the jealousy there not yet for the longer the experience goes the more jealous i will feel with the increase in duration there will be more pillow talk and more bonding i might think about irrational things like whether my partner likes the new man more than me that's gonna be natural but what you can do put a time limit on it like i like i said like when when i have a threesome with another man with my partner i say hurry up after 15 20 minutes of having you have an intercourse with my partner she wants to be done so i'm like dude hurry it up bust your nut we're not you're not here to steal her you're not going to do any of that so don't worry about it just come and you know most of the guys do come and and that's it and we have a a great time.
We clean up and we say goodbye. So you've got to be able to communicate that, that you don't want this to go for a marathon, especially at your first time, your first couple of times. Now say like you have your threesome, you have it. It's great. You stay in the lifestyle five years from now. If you want to fuck 12 hours, have them stay over, fuck another in the morning, go ahead. Go at it, hoss. You're good. All right? So, you know, you have your fun. So how do you mitigate the jealousy? Remind yourself it's okay for your girlfriend to enjoy yourself fully. Yeah, because it's all about her.
This is what the, it's all about the woman. Swinging is all about the woman. Guys, stop lying lying to yourself you would not be anywhere without your woman remember guys you're only one stupid decision away from being a single guy in a lifestyle remember that your partner has sex with someone with you all the time so it's normal that she will be way more excited about the new member like i said you always have a big a Big Mac and suddenly you got introduced to the Whopper. Something new. It doesn't matter if you're more attractive, bigger, smaller, or whatever. He is new and humans like new.
So going into the experience, you need to accept that for the duration of the encounter, your partner is going to be more into fucking with the other human, the other man. Go ahead. Don't take too much. Don't take on too much at once. Keep the threesome short and crisp. I recommend keeping it under two to three hours for the first time after you start. I recommend in an hour. After an hour, go home. Have a preset time when it ends. Let's say you meet at 4 p.m. and your end time is 8 p.m. If you start fucking 7 p.m., you might want to do a check-in at 8, whether everyone is still feeling fine.
If so, keep going. If not, it's okay to end the experience. It always is. Having an end time also helps. It's like a safe spot and you know you are good afterwards. This is what's great about having kids. Use the kids as an excuse. Even though they're at grandma's and grandpa's house for the night, just say, oh, we got to go get our kids. We only have to sit for so long. Works all the time. No one ever questions it. That's why I love having a kid. It gets me out of all the shit. Vanilla parties. Oh, I got to go. I got to get my kid. I got to get my son, whatever. My daughter.
I got to get my son and daughter, stuff like that. Shit gets me out of it. I don't have to go get them because they're at grandma's, grandpa's for the night.
But just use no one's gonna be like oh fuck you you're lying no they're not they're gonna be oh okay well we'll do it some other time and you could and you can decide if you want to contact that person again if you're not if not ask your partner beforehand to always reconnect with you physically during the threesome let's say you are currently watching and your partner and the third are having sex then it helps her if she reaches her arm out to you to single that you are still on her mind all right so also guys walk over there put your cock in her mouth get a blowjob get hard again participate do stuff like that i've found that women really do like well the most i't say all, but most of the women I have been with, Moderna Threesome, they really like the hand-holding and the kissing part of it because they really felt connected at that moment when I was holding her hand and I was kissing them deeply.
Another one, and the last one, if it gets gets too much say that you need a break and want to stop all right and you can stop it there now there's more to this information and like i said i'll post the information online on the show description but i thought this was great it's a great read for any of you guys that are considering having a threesome uh with your uh if you want to have a threesome with another man and it's and it's written for the male I don't know.
uh with your uh if you want to have a threesome with another man and it's and it's written for the male of the couple point of view which i think is great because a lot of guys you know a lot of women will probably be into the threesome of two men and if you notice if you see on tiktok when you do the street interviews a lot of them say they want to have two dicks at once so you know you got to you got to make your girl happy. She'll make, like I said, you make your girl happy. She's going to make you happy. And you know, you got to do that. Just make your girl happy. Bite the bullet.
You'll be all right. She ain't going to leave you. She's going to stay with you forever and all that stuff. So don't worry about it. You want her in the end guys. So don't worry about it all righty so let's talk now we have one person on reddit they had the first male female male threesome so hey i'm a single guy i've been invited to my first male female male threesome with a hot couple i met on an app after After sharing a few pics, I noticed the male partner has a pretty big penis. Looks at least eight inches and comfortably takes two hands. I'm pretty average at just five inches.
Have any men have been in a similar situation? Usually if I've got no performance problems and have never had any complaints, but I just want to make sure I don't get feelings on inadequacy and end up not being able to perform on the day. All right, so the first thing I want to know, do they see the picture of your cock? Now, if they have and they're still talking to you, they're okay with it because there could be things. She might want to do double vaginal penetration. She might not want to be fucking ripped into shreds by having another guy with an 8-inch cock. A nice thick 8-inch cock.
So she might be looking for someone smaller so she can have that double penetration. Or she might want to have anal sex and she don't want to stick an 8-inch thick cock in her asshole. So there might be a reason why they picked you.
Try not feel inadequate dude you're gonna be okay if you can fuck and do all that stuff don't worry about his penis size all right because you know what his penis can be eight inches but he can not be laying any pipe he can not be fucking her good now i've seen guys with small cocks fuck the shit out of women better than guys with big cocks all right remember that when the hottest looking woman at the club is probably a bad lay why because she probably just sits there and sits there and lay there and guys love it same thing with the guy with a huge ass cock he just puts it in thanks dad oh i should do the trick But that's not.
It's the motion. It's the size and motion of the ocean, people. So, you know, we'll see. So don't feel inadequate. If they're still talking to you, buddy, they're probably into you. So he has a follow-up. I just want to say thank you for all the amazing and thoughtful responses. I appreciate it. I have never had a performance issue in the past with the female partners or thought my penis wasn't enough. They have always seemed to have a good time.
Obviously, as this is my first forte into being around another hard penis, I had the realization a comparison would be pretty literal, but I'm feeling much better about it now.
It's no different to being with two women with different size breast bust he says i love all sizes plus when we met for a social they seem like wonderful humans and very down to earth all right so like i said personality goes a long way like i said single guys have no personality they can only get laid because you know they have to go to a swing club to get laid swinging single guys got personality they can talk they can do talk about stuff other than sex you'd be surprised how many guys can at the club cannot talk about anything other than sex uh you know that's why i said single guys if you want to be a swinging single guy learn the skill of conversation try not to be the guy who can only talk about sex his penis his his fucking skills because you will not be as lucky as you think you are and all that so you know but i'm glad this guy went for it took it in did everything right and he's doing a great job now so that's very good so anyways i think it's about time we get on out of here i bored you enough with my lovely talk so like i said if you want to have a male-female-male threesome, go right at it.
Read the article. Set it up. Pick the right guy. Do it a couple times. Don't do it once because it's going to be awkward probably the first time. Remember when you had sex for the first time? Not very good. Probably the same thing about the threesome. And if you do have a threesome and it's a knock-it-out-of-the-park world, consider yourself lucky. But anyways, remember, gentlemen, shave your cock and balls. Go to swingandsinglepodcast.com to go check out all things AC. Also, don't forget to go to the Group in Color Hot Wife Party this Saturday, June 21st. I'll be there.
Cock in hand, ready to party. Ready to rock out with my cock out baby anyways everyone have a wonderful night i will see you later and keep on swinging everybody We'll be right back.
