Join host AC Maxwell on the Swinging Single Podcast for a deep dive into the world of ethical non-monogamy. In this episode, AC uncovers compelling stories shared by individuals embracing consensual non-monogamous relationships. From heartwarming anecdotes to eye-opening revelations, listeners will gain a firsthand understanding of the diverse experiences within this lifestyle. Additionally, AC provides expert advice on navigating the intricacies of organizing and participating in gang bangs, offering insights on communication, boundaries, and consent. To further assist listeners in their non-monogamous journey, AC shares valuable tips on finding like-minded individuals in their local area, creating a sense of community and support. Tune in to this episode for a thought-provoking discussion, valuable guidance, and inspiring stories that shed light on the beautiful complexity of ethical non-monogamy.swingingsinglepodcast.comswingingsinglepodcast@gmail.comhttps://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/jan/27/humans-are-messy-readers-share-their-experiences-with-ethical-non-monogamy
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I'm in bed, texting girls, but I'm thinking about you, baby I'd hit you up, but I'm stuck, trying not to come off crazy If it were up to me, I'd be calling you mine already But I'm in bed, texting girls, thinking about you, baby Don't know what to say Probably shouldn't tell you this, but fuck it Here's my confession I'm kinda hooked on you and in my mood for an obsession Yeah, you might be someone I could love We'll be right back.
all right let's get into it remember gentlemen to shave your cock and balls and we're ready to rock on with the Swing and Single Podcast here in the Upside Down Pineapple Studios. But first, remember to go to swingandsinglepodcast.com. Check out all things AC. I'm trying to figure out how I get this live stream on my website. Hopefully, if you know how, you know, give me a call. Give me an email. Shoot me an email at swingandsinglepodcast at gmail.com.
I would love to be able to hear about all that stuff because I really want to get a live broadcast, do a show live every week at the same time and all that. So hopefully I can figure that out and all that. But like today we're going to be talking, you know, this is this is a sex podcast.
We love love talking about fucking as a single male i've been swinging for 28 plus years as a single male in this lifestyle when i started it was crazy it was awesome and now we got so many terms and so many definitions i don't know it's my head spinning i did a show one time of the 101 swinger terminologies and i'm like my head can just explode because there's so much things to know and learn about the lifestyle these days this day and age and all that so you know it is what it is what it is so you got to figure it out you just got to go with the flow baby not don't be in a hurry because guess what swinging is going to be there next week swing is going to be there a month from now and swinger will be there years and years and years i think swinging ain't going to stop anytime soon uh it went back all the way to the greek roman days probably even before then they were swinging so now we have this young group of cats you know these young millennials these gen zers that you know they don't like the term swinger they think it's dirty it's like grandpa grandma and all that stuff so they came up with a new term for swinging they call it ethical non-monogamy or enm all right so you know as a as a you know you know a common sense type of person it's all the same thing you have a partner you're screwing other people having sex with other people having relations with other people and you know you can call it what you want it's still swinging all right so i keep calling it swinging i don't really care it doesn't i don't care what other people think i don't know why everyone cares what other people think because guess what we're all going to end up at the same place we're all going to die so i don't know why we care what other people think because we're all going to end up in the same spot.
And go and enjoy your life, everybody. Do that. And you'll be a lot happier. You won't be a miserable fuck like a lot of people. So I found this article in The Guardian, which I will put the link to the article on my show description page at swingingsinglepodcast.com. Swingingsinglepodcast at gmail.com. Check it all out. So we're going to talk about ethical non-monogamy, a.k.a. swinging.
So I came up with this, I came across this article, humans are messies, readers share their experiences with ethical non-monogamy, from sex and scheduling to jealousy and boundaries, being with more than one partner has its joys and pitfalls.
Yes, I'm glad they mentioned pitfalls because a lot of podcasters in the swinging lifestyle always tell you how awesome swinging is oh swinging has been saved my marriage we we communicate more yada yada but then you always hear those people that sing a different tune where well you know swinging pretty much ended my marriage and ruined my life or, you know, things happen where, you know, we end up getting divorced anyways. So I'm glad they put pitfalls because like I said, I'm true to the lifestyle. I don't think the lifestyle is for everybody.
And I don't think everyone should be in the lifestyle. I think certain people need to be in the lifestyle.
Certain people can be in the lifestyle and certain people shouldn't be in the lifestyle all right so let's get down to the nitty-gritty remember shave your cock and balls gentlemen ethical non-monogamy e and m isn't for everyone from the 270 readers who wrote in to share their experiences this was the most popular piece of advice there is not a lot of liable data that about how commonplace non-monogamy is but it features from the new yorker to the daily mail are saying to go by it's certainly becoming more mainstream of course it's becoming more mainstream you see it more in the movies uh popularized in the movies tv shows uh documentaries stuff like that and you are an idiot, like a lot of people are, right?
You would think that it's a bunch of 20-year-olds having a free-for-all sex, beautiful people, women walking around with nice tits, abs, guys with fucking huge cocks, six-pack abs, everything you would want. Well, you know, that's not really what swinging is or ethical non-monogamy.
It's mom and dad bods women with scars and you know droopy tits cellulite asses guys with small penises small cocks and all that stuff so you got a lot of stuff going on in the swingers lifestyle that you don't really like uh that you don't see on the tv so that's why i always say tell people do not watch, because porn tells you a whole stupid story about what's going on. If you look in porn, you got guys with fucking monster cocks, and the average cock is 5.6 inches. So, you know, if you watch porn and you think every guy has an 8-incher, well, then you're going to be very disappointed.
So most dating apps now allow users to indicate their preference for non-monogamy in their profiles and depictions of the various forms it can take are on the rise in popular culture. As with any good relationship, readers who have experience with NEMs say self-awareness and communication are key to keeping things harmonious. I would think communication is the most important, self-awareness, whatever.
Couples in particular should proceed with caution as opening things up can create more problems than it solves your relationship has to be rock solid one reader put it while others warn that introducing new partners is no um is a no compensia for failing marriage no recipe like i said there's a good advice you a rock-solid foundation on your relationship, and you got to remember this is not going to fix anything. It's going to probably destroy it if you really think about it. So you know what? Just chill, relax, enjoy.
But anyways, from open relationships to polyamory, poly cools, and relationship anarchy, readers below share recipes for success and some cautionary tells about opening one's heart and bed to more than one person at a time i always say pali is for young people because after you get to a certain age you just don't want to deal with the bullshit you don't want to deal with two or three different personalities and all that so i really see if you're young i would go you can do the pali i'm going to tell you when you're 40 50 years old you're not going to want to deal with the crap that you get and it's going to be very rare it's going to be new and if you can find three people that get along in your 40s and 50s all the time every day then you are very lucky and that proves there is a god because that's a miracle because you trust me if you're 40 50 years old 60 year old you're listening to me you know what I'm talking about that people are just annoying as hell and you don't have time for that bullshit anymore so you know good luck with Polly I will stick with swinging here's one there is a lot to let go of when you start exploring after a failed attempt at opening a long- relationship six years ago i wanted to learn how to make it work and i have been practicing ethical non-monogamy for the last four years i've been doing that for the last 28 years i've been in a polyamorous relationship for nearly three years with my primary partner we both have other partners some casual some more romantic and are welcome to explore love and sexuality as far as we choose within those relationships i don't understand my thing would be doesn't one of them gets mad because you might be paying attention to the one person more than the other person i don't know our only agreement is that we use barrier contraception and other partners.
Everything else is up for discussion and flexible. There is a lot to let go of when you start exploring ethical non-monogamy. You have to learn to deal with jealousy in a way that doesn't rely on convincing yourself that you're the hottest, coolest, best person your partner has ever met. But you know what? I do know a lot of couples where the man has like a magic cock where she desires no other man. Just, she only desires other women because her husband puts it down. I have seen, I met a lot of guys like that. And I always ask those guys, can I see your cock?
Because I want to see this magical cock that has ruined her for all other men where she doesn't want another man she just wants other women instead you must develop security that is based on a connection that exists between you and your partners trusting that real love is not based on competition or comparison but connection which has nothing to do with anyone else yeah that's i don't know i it's just hard to think that you could find a bunch of people that all get along so i guess you know they will be going out they'll go friday night to go on a date with partner b saturday night to go on a date with partner C or whatever.
Whatever they do. And I guess it, and if it works for them, it works for them. I don't know. Like I said, I don't see old people doing it, people my age doing it, because it's just too much work. And you always got to worry about other people, you know, and other people, what they're going to get jealous and all that stuff.
Now, you could listen i know they say well you got to have this uh sort of you know you got to be an open communication even if you have perfect communication guess what's going to happen feelings happen things happen in relationships even with non-poly people vanilla people you still you're still going to have those issues that arise. And you're not 100% guaranteed that it's going to be cool forever. It's going to be, you know, it's going to be tough. So, you know, you can keep your poly. I don't want to do poly or anything like that. So... Let's be honest.
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Every product is sourced from small, American-owned family farms that care deeply about what they grow. It's cannabis you can trust, delivered discreetly, and ready to elevate your mood. And because you're a listener, you get 20% off your first order. Just head to mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com to get started. You know, that's all good. Let's see. What is the next one they have? Initially, I had lots of short-term partners, but it got tiring. But I don't know, man.
I don't know if I would get tired of a bunch of short-term partners but it got tiring but i don't know man i don't know if i would get tired of a bunch of short-term if he wants to have a relationship i can see why but it sounds pretty good right now i split up with my high school sweetheart in 2017 and ended up dating around 100 people that first year holy shit man this guy was busy 100 people think about it there's 365 days so that's like every other day he's out with a new person damn dude i learned about e and m from roughly five percent of them and one of those people became my nesting partner all right i don't know what a nesting partner is i think it's someone you live with today my e and m involves living with my nesting partner and seeing my non-nesting partner one or one to three times a week for chat snacks excursions initially had lots of short-term partners but it got tiring and i'm not interested in seeing anyone other than my two current partners all right that's good all right you settle down you you had your fun now you're ready to settle down with two people, being in an EM relationship takes away lots of the stress of getting in trouble for being interested in others, I don't know, I don't understand what he's saying, I don't know why you would get in trouble for if you're a swinger or you're EM, I don't know, like, hey, honey, I like her.
How would you get in trouble for having an interest in other people? Is he talking about in a vanilla relationship? Well, yeah, vanilla is you're not open to other people, you know, and a lot of people don't want to hear it. It has improved my ability to communicate, my wants and needs, and I'm much better at time management now.
you gotta get yeah if you are bad at time management hat being open up your relationship is not good doing poly or enm enm is not good man it's gonna be tough books like more than two opening up and non-violent communication can be helpful as you get started yeah so you offer some good advice i think that's good you know read some books read some articles about opening communication open communication be able to tell i think the most important part there and the toughest part is being honest with what you want and your wants and needs i think a lot of people cannot tell their partners partner or partners what they really want without, you know, is this going to upset them?
And that's where I think a lot of people, that's where the problem lies in, you know? Are you going to be able to tell your partner that you want another man? Are you going to be able to tell your partner you want another woman? Is she going to be all okay with it?
Is he going to be know so yeah so that's a little tough that's a tough one right there being able to communicate my your wants and needs to someone else because you know shit happens next one it isn't something that piques curiosity as much anymore oh i'm a gay man i have been with my husband for over 10 years and married to him for those six of them congratulations we have been in a thruple relationship with another man for the last four years huh when we first started telling our friends and family the question would come thick and fast how does it work don't you get jealous do you all sleep in the same bed does one get more attention than the other all right those are all good questions and i would probably and i would ask us a regular couple that too not just a gay pump and why this is what this is what i don't understand about people people think that people give a shit about your lifestyle why do you have to tell everybody you're who you're fucking what you're fucking why can't you just live your life Thank you.
About your lifestyle. Why do you have to tell everybody. Who you're fucking. What you're fucking. Why can't you just live your life. I don't understand why people. I don't understand swingers. Pally. Whatever. I don't understand you're telling your kids. That mom likes to get gang banged. On Fridays and Saturday nights. We swap with other couples. I don't understand why. Couples got to tell their whole life story. To everybody.
Keep everybody keep it quiet there's no one's business then you get then these are the same assholes who get upset because someone on the internet outs them or someone says something negative to them about it if you don't want the negativity then don't tell people your secrets all right people are going to judge you vanilla lifestyle is going to judge you vanilla and fucking swinger lifestyle is going to judge you so stop it you don't need to tell everybody everything all right i think over the last year or so people are less taken aback yeah because they probably don't really give a shit anymore it isn't something that piques curiosity as much anymore because it has become more common or less hidden no i think you just met people who really don't give a fuck about what you do and they actually just want to live their lives and be left alone by you and other people each of us brings something different and special to a relationship sure we get different things from each others each of our partners when i'm upset i have two times the love comforting me organizing appointments when all three of us are available is an actual nightmare though of course you got three people it's going to be a nightmare listen the reason why you're able to do this is because you got no kids and you're not going to be able to you and you none of you can have kids so you don't have to worry about that now try having putting two kids in this thruffle you thinking scheduling is a nightmare now just wait till that you'll break up trust me because guess what if you're all living together and you got two kids discipline is different not you might not believe the parent the same way as the other two or the other one or whatever one might be more vocal than the other so you know what it's easy because you don't have kids but later on it might get difficult and they and they also gave the names of the people where they wrote from this person's anonymous too so i don't know but i just don't understand why we have to tell everybody our whole business listen just you know i don't know i guess you could just say i'm a hypocrite because i do a show on it but i'm not sitting there like no one i know knows i do this i don't put myself out there that much so you know i don't know but you know if you want to tell people your business go ahead but don't get mad when someone criticizes you or judges you on it you know because we all get judged even even if we weren't swingers we would still be judged by our actions and stuff like that you know what i'm saying it ain't that difficult but i don't know i just wish it would be a lot easier but you know it's not anyways all right so let's go keep going on we're 20 minutes in apart from some poorly behaved men it has been a great experience after a negative experience i didn't want to want a full-time relationship i didn't feel up on taking on the full weight of another person's well-being i was very affected attracted to the idea of an open and honest communication that is the key feature of a successful enm2 results so far have been mixed the first guy i dated claimed to be an open relationship but i didn't believe his partner knew she was so i bailed another guy wanted to tell me in great detail about his relationship and interaction with the others but couldn't extend me the same courtesy so i bailed so he was okay telling you about people he's screwing around with but he didn't want to hear about you that's weird you know whatever things are going well with the last guy he dated until his wife left him oh that sucks he kept that from me and became very needy without exploration explanation all right all right maybe he should have told you but maybe he didn't want to tell you maybe he didn't think it was any of your business i don't know eventually he confessed but the nature of the relationship had changed and become something i wasn't interested in pursuing so basically sounds like she just wants someone to fuck that's it then once you're done go away apart from some poorly behaved men it has been a great experience i have learned a lot about myself what i need from the world and what i'm prepared to tolerate i'm happily single and open to meeting new people but not at the expense of my own well-being i am definitely a better person as a result of it my advice to the emn curious would be if anything feel feels off and the pat of open and frank communication isn't respected then jump ship immediately yeah but guess what life ain't easy you can't always you love sex is hard difficult to love someone is very the most one of the most difficult things you can do because guess what they're not perfect so the minute you think that everyone's perfect and you just jump ship because a guy gets divorced and he wants to talk to you about it or he doesn't want to talk to you about it you want to jump ship so you might think this is harsh but i don't think she's i don't think she's enm i don't think she's a swinger i don't think she's any of that i just think she's just someone who's fucking around and the minute one of her partners doesn't check off and back she's fucking out but she calls it open relationship because it suits her it makes feel better about herself, that she's not a fucking whore, and that she is just having fun, I don't know, like I said, like I said, I don't know, you don't know these people, that's why it's tough, because you don't know what their full intent is, what they're trying to do, but from what it sounds like, she just seems, you know, any minute it gets tough, any minute of her day she gets hard, she jumps ship.
And you know, married people out there, you know what I'm talking about. Can you imagine the divorce rate when something got really hard? Boom, they're gone. It's already 50 or even more than 50% now it would go up to 75 80 percent because people just don't understand you gotta understand it's hard everything in life life is hard who said life is easy like i don't understand where that came from oh life's supposed to be easy life is fucking gonna be life is not supposed to be easy life is hard but you know what it's fucking fun.
hard life that i have the hard life that i go through it's fun you know you get those things where sometimes it's just it's worth it guys it is really worth it check your mental health make sure you go talk to someone if you have any problems but man life is great to live and it's gonna suck when we all end up dead because you, the pot's probably when we're going to get flying cars and a hoverboard like I've been promised by Back to the Future, but I still haven't gotten it. Next one, our relationship has to be, your relationship has to be rock solid.
Best advice, yep, I always tell, I always say that. You go back into my catalog, go back into history, I always say, your foundation cannot have any cracks in it.
If it's's got cracks in it you better fill those with cement because it will get bigger and bigger and destroy your relationship my wife and i have been married for 11 years and decided to explore e&m about a year ago we are very much in love and our sex life was definitely good but after almost a decade it gets boring it was starting to get routine and stale we began to entertain the ideal of having a third in our bed oh nice um let me guess i'm gonna say a female initially we tested the ideal through role play to make sure the fantasy worked for us from there we progressed slowly to have an online friends sex my wife while we were in bed together i like how they went that bit and guys if you're listening you want to get your wife into this type of relationship do that do the role playing watch watch porn do role playing in the porn and all that that'd be a good way to do it good job so far we took our time to push those boundaries little by little until we finally felt ready to have the third person physically in our bed Thank you.
That would be a good way to do it. Good job so far. We took our time to push those boundaries little by little until we finally felt ready to have the third person physically in our bed. So it sounds like a guy they're going to bring in the bed. While our marriage is now open, I have not actively sourced playmates for myself. I might do so in the future, but for now, my attention is periating my wife, letting her enjoy her experiences. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com.
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Your swinging is based off your wife no one else your wife controls it you don't control it you think you do but your wife really doesn't need you to swing or do enm she can do whatever the fuck she wants to do and make her happy guess what she's gonna make you happy because guess what she's gonna want to go back to that club she wants to do some more so finding compatible playmates can be hard of course like i tell people i don't understand why people do go couples why do you even bother with online apps go to a club if you have a club in your city go to it do not go online reddit online.
Go to your local club. Now, if you are a couple that's in the middle of nowhere, you're going to have to go online and you're going to have to kiss a lot of fraud. You're going to have to go through a lot of fakes and flakes to meet people. All right.
So he says finding compatible payments can be hard and the lifestyle can be open to the door to a whole bunch of undesirables yeah i see a lot of ugly people out there i take on the task of weeding out dubious characters our relationship has to be rock solid before you even think of embarking on a lifestyle and if you do so make sure you are doing it for the right reasons yes don't do it because i don't know just just make sure you're doing it for the right reason and you'll know as a as the people as a couple you will know the right reasons it has totally transformed our sex life amplified our attraction to each other and strengthened our relationship further yep this is a success story this is because they knew the dude who ever wrote this um knew he had to have a solid foundation he went about it right he they role played first they didn't he didn't sit there force his wife into anything and now his wife's happy he's happy and all that oh now we got another one let's see what we got here's another one stds aren't something to take lightly no they are not get tested monthly everybody that's if you're active i don't remember a time when i wasn't aware of enm when i went to university it was fully accepted in my social circles yeah because you're young i am confident in myself and my worth and don't take it as a personal insult if someone wants something I personally can't provide.
Open relationships have always been the norm for me, even though I'm monogamous. For me, it meant I could spend more time on my studies without warning that I was neglecting my partner. When I met my now husband as a postgraduate researcher, we were both presenting at the same conferences but researching in different countries. We knew we had something special but I didn't want to restrict him to a limited sex life. So I suggested an open relationship very early on. Like me, he was monogamous and refused, which I accepted.
Although we now live together, I still wouldn't mind an open relationship. You don't have to be the perfect person because several people might be working to fulfill your partner's needs. While he's more than enough for me and I tried my best to be everything he could want in a partner, I find this situation more stressful than an open relationship.
All right's well you know hmm that's that's something new she is willing to let her man be with other people because she can't give him what he what she feels he doesn't need it's a lot of responsibility if he wanted to open up our relationship in the future i would be happy to that said stds aren't going something to take lightly even with condos my stipulation for any open relationship is frequent testing. Yeah, I agree. You definitely got to get tested and do it once a month at least. Once a month and all that. We've done a lot of learning and built a shared map.
I was in a monogamous relationship for all of my 20s. I learned about ethical non-monogamy through my reading taste. I began researching and shared it all with my long-term partner.
After six solid months of research, talking and having a great counselor support us, we opened our relationship in its ninth year and then fell hard and fast for other people eventually we stopped fitting in each other's lives so we separated it amically like i said it can destroy everything for the last six years i have been with the man i fell in love with we live together but have maintained the ethical non-monogamous relationship once since day one i have three other partners two males and one female whom I've been seeing for for five two and just coming up a year respectively all these relations are open my nesting partner is dating a wonderful woman too these days it feels magical we are lucky enough that everyone gets along with everyone else and we all hang out often while there have been more painful misinterpretations and miscommunications we try to regard the more challenging experiences as chances to grow we've done a lot of learning and build a shared ethical map the connections we share like a weird wonderful extended family and i feel like the extremely lucky matriarch yeah this right here sounds like a fucking a lot of work it just seems they don't have they there's no way they have children so okay take the children out it's still a lot of fucking work and it's just like like me i'm sticking with swinging i cannot you know you you poly people you can have you keep it i don't want nothing to do with it i just want to be left the fuck alone swing bang my wife get the fuck out of the room and have a mary you know go on that's this just jeez that just that's just a lot of work i don't.
I existed for more than who I was as a person. I don't seek out nominami as much as I found myself in it. After my marriage broke down, a relationship started between me and a long-term couple I knew. The man and I had been close mates for nearly 20 years, and I'd grown close to his partner for seven years, too.
The relationship between the three began organically it was just one of those it feels right things yeah i'm sure it did like most relationships the early days were full excitement we would shop together go to the beach perform domestic attacks a lot of norm normality but two years ago they welcomed a beautiful little girl into the polycule oh boy boy, let's see where this goes. This development has not been a positive experience for me. Yeah, no shit, dumbass. I told you, kids fuck up everything. Kids will fuck it up. Your polycule is not going to be good.
Once there was a child involved, my relationship with my female partner began strained by her family's rejection of me.
Yeah, because they normalcy i was often asked to leave if you're if her mother was coming over and i was never allowed at family dinners or birthdays or christmas celebrations yes all you were dude was it all right i'm just not gonna keep my mouth shut be nice i was invited into an existing relationship and whether i neglected myself to the background or was left there is unclear to me other little things ate away at the trust tube i always sat in the back seat of the car for example i didn't officially live with them but for a long time i spent more time there than my own home and did most of the cooking for everyone i often felt i existed more for what i could be and do for them than who i was as a person welcome to swinging buddy or girl whatever you were a boy or girl and all that i can't read it anymore it's just like i don't know all right okay this is that last one till i go on all right so my relationship with them with him remains close through the dwindling intimacy is beginning to feel explicit since she no longer takes my calls i miss both of them going into a pre-existing relationship as a so-called unicorn can be incredibly risky dynamics will be hat will have been established before you come along and if are emotionally vulnerable, as I was on the rebound from a marriage breakup, you might find yourself struggling to articulate your feelings and advocate of your own needs.
There were so many conversations we didn't have that we should have. Yeah, your friend over there probably was a douche. That couple was a douchebag, I think, don't you shouldn't feel bad they took advantage of you because they saw you you were what do they call it you're were easily manipulated because of you were in a fragile state and that's what they did they they screwed you over so you know i can't get mad at that lady because she had a disgusting you know people around her. You've got to be very careful. If your marriage is in, don't jump into another relationship right off the bat.
Take some time. Get to know yourself. Find yourself. Enjoy that time you have away from everybody. Just find yourself. That's what you've got to do. All right's move on so that is the guardians article and i'll post the link and you can read it yourself but there's some of them do have some good interesting advice about ethical non-managmy aka swinging and all that poly a lot of them were poly and like i said i'm just not into poly because i could barely find one person I could tolerate for a long, long amount of time. How are you going to find two or three other people like that?
So, you know, good luck. All right. So let's go to Reddit. My favorite is my favorite Reddit advice. Swingers edition. General questions plus advice. My boyfriend and I discuss interest in swinging, mostly in the sense of looking into threesomes. We don't know very much how to get started or how to find people who would be interested. So I have a few questions. How exactly do you get your start? All right, so how do you get your start? There's a thing, you Google it, Google swinger clubs in your location, Google swinger apps and all that stuff. There's stuff you could do. Just Google it.
You'll have billions of resources at the tip of your fingertip. Where do you look for people? Swinger websites, Swinger clubs. That's where you want to look for people. What was it like? Um, first threesome was awesome. You know, people are sitting there watching me. People are, you know, very supportive of me and it was great. If you're going in there thinking that, you know, you're looking to fix something in your relationship, it ain't going to help. It's going to probably screw it up. Do you have any general advice? Thank you for the time you choose to read and comment. It means a ton.
Pick your partner wisely. Do it a couple times. Don't do it just once. Because if you do it once and you do it with a newbie, it's going to be fucking awkward. Try to find someone with experience. Someone who is not trying to poach you from your man or your woman. Because you've got a lot of wife poachers out there. So you've got to be very careful.
So just be careful who you allow in to have someone experience don't worry about age and you'll be fine you'll do a great job you know i do not have any doubts about that all right here's another one how do i get into swinging as as a single female? Hi, all. I'm aware that single females are very much obligated to join swinger parties, but I have no idea how to navigate the community. Oblig? No. My main concern is that I feel a bit immature.
I'm 22, but I've read that a lot of couples try to avoid college age because of immaturity and i'm not exactly sure if it's widely shared thing in sex clubs all right a lot of couples are going to look at you and take a step back they're going to be like okay you're young but you know what there's a lot of young couples in the swingers lifestyle right now and they're going to take they're going to fucking smell your fresh meat and they're going to devour your fucking ass if you're very if you if you are good looking you are going you're not gonna have a let's say you would not have a open date ever at a club or on a day you will always get a couple that wants a party with you if you're good looking now if you're no you're not that good looking you might be a little bbw you know you might you might be on the bigger side.
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And admittedly, I am wet behind wet behind the ears but i am charitable being casual with a couple sounds safer sexier than being with a random man alone uh not true all right you gotta remember there are some bad couples out there i have couples i know couples that drug roofie at clubs, at resorts. Hopefully they go to prison someday. Hope this doesn't offend anyone. This is just how I feel, I don't think. And beyond that, how do I stay safe as a woman? You get a man that you can trust and he watches your back. He cares more about you than the other person.
That's why I get a lot of girls that want to go with me to a swinger club because I watch their back. I'm not there to fuck other women. Your pussy is not a coupon for me to get access to other pussy. I'm there to make sure you have a great time, you get your fucking pussy banged out that you wanted, and we go home from there and make sure you're safe and that you're at home safe.
So do go to a club never meet people alone always meet them at a bar if you're going to do that don't ever go to their house if you go to a hotel room with them text someone what hotel you're at and all that so they know so if anything happens they can call the police but you know be very careful make sure you watch your drink i know a lot of people think it's always guys but couples do roofie other cup people you got to be very careful all right how do i go about meeting interacting with couples go to swinger clubs google swinger clubs in your area i don't know where you're from do that google those uh Go to Swinger Clubs.
Google Swinger Clubs in your area. I don't know where you're from. Do that. Google those. Go to Swinger Apps. You could do all that. It's not that difficult. It's pretty simple. You'll be fine. You know, just be smart about it. And, you know, have an open mind. All right. Let's see what this one says. Suck dick. Eat pussy.
It's been a few days since hubby and i hooked up with two other couples at the club yeah our first acts of non-monogamy 20 oh look at that they the first time they went to a club they fucked two other couples good for them anyways things are leading up to this things were leading up to this a couple of years now. I was the lead, but Hubs was an enthusiastic follower. Fuck yeah, he was. He's like, yeah, I'm going to get rid of this. I'm going to get some fresh pussy. Yeah. And it's good that she was taking a lead. See, I told you swinging is for women.
I discovered that I don't really want to have sex with other guys. If sex includes penetration, I don't want to be fucked in the pussy. My ideal scenario is laying around, sucking two or three dicks in an evening. I'll eat a wife's pussy too. Happy for hubby to fucking suck in whatever combo he prefers, but this is what I prefer. We only play together. For single men, would you still play with a couple if they wouldn't fuck the wife? As a single guy, yes. I would still play with you. You're going to suck dick anyway, so I get a blowjob out of it. So I wouldn't turn it down.
But I bet you there are some single guys that would turn it down because some single guys are just complete jackasses and idiots. couples same question really please note i am fully bi-fem all right good for couples i think there would be more i think a lot of couples will be okay with just you and the wife fucking and the guys just staring or watching so i don't think you're gonna have any problems i don't think you will have any problems with that you know i could be wrong who knows but i don't think you have any problems especially since you are fully bi Thank you.
So I don't think you're going to have any problems. I don't think you will have any problems with that. You know, I could be wrong. Who knows? But I don't think you have any problems, especially since you are fully bi and all that. And the last one for the day, the last one. Couples or single women who enjoy gang bangs. So I was chatting with this couple, and they invited me to a gang bang for her wife. When I got to the hotel room, it was just me, the couple, and another guy, mid-40s. It's not a gangbang. All right. She mentioned a few more guys were coming.
Well, they showed up about an hour late, loud, and all seen to be in their early 20s and dressed like they just came from the gym. Yeah. The couples were in their 40s, so they wanted the youngers. These are women that are cougars. We had already started playing before they showed up and it was going well. When they did show up and join, me and the other guys stood back and let the other guys get in. One of the guys smelled so bad, the wife asked him to take a quick shower.
That's i tell guys always shower before you do anything go smell nice none of the guys could get hard and they all kept cursing and throwing out the n-word so were they white guys or were they black guys saying it it's probably black guys because you know the hell she's saying it two of the guys almost got in the fight and after that me and the other guy looked at each other and said we're out the hubby asked us to stay but we politely said no got dressed and bounced yeah you're gonna the bad part started when they showed up an hour late, and they smelled. Now, how did you dress?
It was a gangbang, and it's a hotel. If you're at a gangbang in a hotel, I wouldn't get dressed up. I wouldn't put on my suit or anything like that because you know it's what you're going there for. You've been invited by the couple. Hey, the wife's having a gangbang. Come on. All right, no problem. I wouldn't get all dressed up. I wouldn't dress nice, but I wouldn't get all dressed up. Them throwing out the N-word, saying the N-word all the time. It's just fucked up culture that we have in this day and age. I don't know what culture, why it's tolerated, but it is.
And you can't know what culture why it's tolerated but it is and you can't you know it's destroying all of america maybe the world i don't know i don't know what's going on in the other parts of the world but here in america it's destroying america that cultures are destroying america uh you know just say whatever you want whenever we want to say it you know you got to have decor quorum you got to have manners and all that so stop fucking you know when you're around other people you don't if you don't want someone to use that word don't use it it's like i'm italian you have guinea you got wop when i'm with my italian brothers and sisters we never use those words because you know what we don't want them to be said so we don't use them but hey whatever uh it's just fucking stupid i just don't understand it i don't think i ever will understand it as a human being but okay uh and yeah i would be taken aback at first because if we're all fucking and a bunch of dudes came in later i would be kind of like what the hell's going on i wouldn't like it they all need to show up and you just gotta tell the guys like i always tell like when they say the party starts at eight i'm there at 7 55 i'm always early i don't come in late like a lot of guys do they show up an hour two hours late because they don't want to put in the work to talk and bullshit then fuck you know so yeah so you got those type guys, and that's what these type of guys were, and they're in their 20s, so you got guys that are immature, that don't know how to act, and all that, then they get around pussy, and they get stupid, the blood rushes to their cock, not into their brain, and they don't think, and they get in fights, keep in mind, the wife was attractive, and the younger guys were not in shape and not good looking to be honest so they weren't in shape not good looking yeah I don't I see a lot of guys who are just ugly and guys I would not pick for the bang my girl but you know some people don't care they just want a dick inside of her and that's all they cared about Thank you.
And guys, I would not pick for the bang my girl. But, you know, some people don't care. They just want a dick inside of her, and that's all they cared about. I think the fantasy of a gangbang overshadowed the couple's common sense in this situation. Yeah, they could have, but I don't think this was the first time. I don't think this couple was the first.
I think they were guys they knew played with they and all that not being able to get hard that's that's where the fighting pie came because they got embarrassed that they couldn't get hard like i said i have no problem i don't i will go up i i was like a i was on dallas the past week and i told a couple i go i don't understand guys how they cannot get hard you could put me in a stadium with 100,000 people and put a naked-ass woman with their pussy in my face on the 50-yard line. My dick is getting hard, and I'm pounding away. I mean, when I first started, it was gangbangs galore every weekend.
I had to be able to perform with the audience.
Maybe it was my background in sports that I'm able to perform in front of an audience but you know these guys can't get hard and i don't think and this was not this couple's first go around they knew what they were doing later i heard a real fight did happen in the room between some of the guys and it seems and items were broken hotel security came and essentially kicked everyone out the couple should have kicked those guys out the couple should have never let those guys come in in the first place i always have a rule when i host a gangbang for my partner i always tell them you got to get there eight when it's when it starts 8 30 is a cutoff if you can't make it 8 30 i don't give a shit i don't want to hear your story you got to work you got to take care of your kids fine there'll be another gangbang you can catch us then the couple told me a few days later that they wish they had vetted the guys better.
Yeah, of course. You always got to vet everybody. It don't matter if it's a guy or a couple. You got to vet people. You got to know who you're dealing with. I told them if you want to do MFM with me, great. But I will not be attending any more of their gangbangs. Dude, you're taking it up to that. I would go back. I would give them a second chance because, like I said, your first time is not always. Think about the first time you ever had sex. Was it great? Was it mind-blowing? No, it was probably horrible and awkward. So this is your first time? Give them a second chance. Go check it out.
See if they got any better. My question to the couples of single women, do you vet guys beforehand or simply put a request and see who shows up? I'm going to tell you right now, a lot of couples don't vet the single men and that's why they always get bitchy about, oh, they flake, they don't show up. I go, yes, because you don't take the time to vet. You look at a guy's package first. Oh, it's got to be eight inches or more. Okay, great.
You want a big cock, cock i get it but don't you want a cock that shows up me personally i want a guy to be able to show up for my girl put go take her to pound town you know and make her happy but you know when you limit the guys amount of guys you don't vet them properly you know now i know couples that were if they do they put an ad on the website like sdc and they say you have to have certifications from other couples before for them to even fuck with you which i'm like that's good because you know what now you need to you know now you got to prove yourself a lot of guys don't.
A lot of guys don't, so I don't know. Anyways, you know, I think that's about time we got. So hopefully that's helped you out. Hopefully the guy went back to a gangbang and checked it out. So with that, everybody, please go to swingingsingSinglePodcast.com. Support me. I'm trying to figure out how to live stream on that website. I'm not technically inclined. I'm 48 years old. I'm not a millennial. Also, go to SwingingSinglePodcast at gmail.com. If you've got any questions or any concerns or anything like that, check it out. But with that, remember, everybody, keep on swinging, America.
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