Tune in to the latest episode of the Swinging Single Podcast with your host, the charismatic AC Maxwell, as we delve deep into the realm of Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM). Join AC as he explores the basics and rules for nurturing healthy and fulfilling ENM relationships, shedding light on the complexities and nuances of love beyond traditional boundaries.In this episode, AC offers valuable insights into the role of single men in the lifestyle, providing guidance on navigating the swinging scene with respect, integrity, and a genuine understanding of the community's dynamics.Additionally, our host delves into the often-unspoken rules of house party etiquette, offering a comprehensive guide for creating and enjoying inclusive and respectful gatherings within the swinging community.Furthermore, AC turns the spotlight on age gap couples, examining the dynamics, challenges, and enriching experiences that come with relationships transcending generational differences.Get ready for a thought-provoking and enlightening discussion as AC Maxwell leads us through a multifaceted exploration of Ethical Non-Monogamy, single male etiquette, house party dynamics, and the diverse world of age gap relationships within the vibrant and ever-evolving world of swinging.swingingsinglepodcast.comswingingsinglepodcast@gmail.comhttps://www.simplypsychology.org/what-is-ethical-non-monogamy.html
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Hello, everybody, and welcome to the Swinging Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell, coming to you live from the Upside Down Pineapple Studios here in the heart of Texas. Today, we are going to talk about some ethical non-monogamy, basic, and rules for the end of the E&M relationships. Also, we're going to talk about some Reddit issues that are out there.
You know you know people have questions on reddit and i'm here to help and guide you through the swingers lifestyle yes this podcast is from the perspective of a single male myself ac maxwell and all the fun things i've done over the past 28 years of swinging swinging my little richard all over the United States, some parts of Europe and some parts of South America. So grab a lube, bottle of lube, grab some tissues.
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It's 1042 on a Saturday night. And let AC read you a bedtime story. So anyways, so she wrote a thing about dating tips and how, what's some of the basics, basics you're going to need, the rules for ethical non-relationships, non-monogamy relationships.
So, ethical non-monogamy is a relationship structure where all involved parties consent to have multiple romantic or sexual relationships with honesty and open communication unlike cheating all actions are above board and ethically conducted with respect for everyone's boundaries and feelings and they give you a graph of all different types there is Types of Ethical Non-amy poly fidelity closed group of multiple partners poly multiple romantic relationships i don't like the multiple romantic relationships because that's complicated shit and you have problems and that's when you have open relationships outside sexual connections monogamous occasional outside encounters Relationship, relationship, anarchy, all relationships equally valued, and polygamy, multiple spouses.
You know, I always admire people who have multiple spouses because I could barely find one woman I could stand for 15 minutes, and those guys were able to find two, three, four women that could stand for more than 15 minutes. So, you know, good for you guys. So, ethical non-monogamy versus non-monogamy. It is important to note that the difference between E and M and non-monogamy in general. Ethical means that there is a agreed consent between the parties involved in the relationships.
In contrast, without the't know, 95% of the world they live and even the people that do practice ethical non-monogamy, they still, you know, they might not tell the partner everything because you know what we lie sometimes the little blood starts going to our little brain down there blood gets gushing ladies and and gentlemen you all are guilty of this you'll see it ask just to ask a worker at a club and all that i was working at caliente uh resort in land of lakes florida and i remember a couple a a woman was sitting on one of those beach chairs.
This was during COVID times when everything was outside, so they would have the parties outside and everything. So she's sitting there waiting and waiting and waiting. I think like an hour went by, and her husband finally came back, and she's like, where the fuck have you been for an hour?
Well, you know, he'd give the same old bullshit, but he was out fucking someone, and't want the wife no so you know it happens ladies do it you go on a little girl's trip whatever you hear a woman going on she's going on a girl's trip that means code for she's going to take some fucking dick at the in the girl's trip they're all fucking doing it you can't trust a girl's trip with anything guys trust me Trust me. You'll see it. Ask the people of Las Vegas a girl's trip. All those girls are trying to fuck everything in sight.
Infidelity means that a partner in an exclusive relationship has a romantic or intimate relationship with someone outside the relationship without the knowledge or consent of their partner. This happens with even swingers. This happens.
You get guys and girls that will cheat on their partners even at the even though they're swingers when someone is cheating they're not communicating ethically they are lying deceiving and disrespecting their partner well you know what are you going to do i heard that it's supposed to be in 2026 it's supposed to be outlawed you can't cheat anymore i don't know what the fuck i see it on tiktok you know a lot lot of those stupid TikTok videos. Is ethical non-monogamy accepted?
Society often has its ingrain in us that there is a set structure of how relationships ought to work, as well as establishing what is acceptable and unacceptable. Society and the media will usually display monogamous relationships as the norm and something everyone should strive for. And many people may not realize that there are other options. Yeah, you know, you just got to remember, a lot of people don't. Even the world don't really like swinging or ethical non-monogamy. They don't really like it and all that stuff, and it's all right. You know, you do you.
Don't worry about what other people are thinking, because guess what? When you die, guess who?
You die alone, unless you go in a car crash or a plane crash, and you die with a bunch of other people but i guarantee you're still dying alone so you know what you only have one person to worry about now if you are in a career field where you know this might be frowned upon and you can lose your job keep it discreet don't do anything stupid just keep it discreet you don't have to tell everybody you don't have to tell your homeboys that you want to fuck my wife or whatever you know keep it fuck with strangers no friends since the concept is thought to be relatively new it can be difficult to breach the topic of e and m with friends and family yeah i don't understand why people do that they want to tell every friends i don't tell no one i do it but hey you know if you want to tell, you want to tell your whole family that you, you two like to go out and watch your girl get pound back, back blown out by a bunch of dudes, or you like to swap with other couples, that's fine.
Do what you got to do. Many people who engage in ethical non-monogamy may do so discreetly because they fear judgment that may fall if they share that their relationships are E and M.
is a harmful stereotype that these who engage in e and m are cheating or do not truly care for their partners which can make it difficult for those who share details about the relationships yeah people are going to see that i i kind of understand why people will say yeah yeah they probably don't like their relationship or anything and they'll have people say well why don't you just get divorced because sometimes getting some strange will put the life and little life kicking back into a relationship types of ethical non-monogamy the e and m is an umbrella term for many types of relationships e and m can be practiced without following a specific relationship model and can compromise whatever rules that are all parties agree on.
Nevertheless, there are different types of E&M relationships, which I described below. You got polyamory, which means having more than a relationship. Good. Open relationships. Monogamous. That means once in a while you go out and get some strange.
Relationship anarchy whatever you want to do fuck who you want to fuck polygamy having marriage that's still illegal though it's illegal in the united states to have more than one now there may be places countries where you can have more than one wife whatever go to those countries but in the united states it hasn't been i'm surprised it hasn't gone to court yet, that someone after the gay marriage, saying that everyone has a right to be married, I'm surprised no one, like the Mormons or whatever, who doesn't fucking practice polygamy, would have just said, fuck it, let's sue the court.
I'm surprised it hasn't come out yet. Maybe it will. Polyfidelity. This is a type of E&M where there can be multiple romantic and sexual partners who are restricted. See, this is where I always think this is where it gets in trouble. If you are a couple, I do not recommend doing any of this. I recommend swinging. I recommend going to a swinger club, swap with a couple, find a girl, find a guy, fuck them, and move on. Because this is where, because when you talk about romantic relationship, feelings start getting in there.
And when your feelings start getting in there, that's when people make stupid mistakes. You might think, well, you know, my boyfriend ain't that great. My girlfriend ain't that great. My husband's not that great. My wife's not that great. Oh, I met this great couple. I'm going to leave my husband for this couple.
Or the man, another or the man another man or whatever vice versa a girl will leave her husband a husband leave her girl for her another woman because they don't understand this they they want romance i don't want romance i want to take your wife fucker eat her out fucker eat her out fucker and give her back to you i don't want to marry your girl i don't want to date her i just want to i just want to use her that's why i'm in swinging that's why i'm a swinger it's about sex and i see a lot of these young cats are starting this oh well we're gonna we got to have a connection things like that i go you only need a connection for five minutes after the five minutes you know if you want to fuck or not and don't lie to me ladies because when i was growing up dating and all that every woman said oh yeah we know within the first five minutes we're gonna fuck if i'm gonna fuck that person so you know there's really no need to have this long drawn out connection that everyone needs to have for a lot of people when you bring romance and feelings into swinging or ethical non-monogamy guess what's going to happen shit breaks up i think um some dj spice of life him and his girlfriend and another dude had a triage and whatever and she dumped a husband to go with the man the boyfriend and all that and they go that's the problem you let feelings get in there i don't allow that to happen no no no no now that's just my advice now if you feel like you need to have feelings and you want to date and shit like that go ahead and do it it's not my you know it's not my you know place to tell you what to do.
I'm just offering you advice saying, do not do it. If you're a married couple, don't bring anybody into your marriage. Just fuck them and send them home. That's it. And if they don't, and the couple, listen, a lot of couples are DTF. A lot of couples are down the fuck. They lie to your face. Oh yeah, we need a connection. But you know what?
When there's an orgy in the back room going on i don't see connections happening all i think the only thing i see connecting are penises to vaginas and vaginas to penises or mouths to vaginas and mouth to cocks i don't see any of that stuff that they're talking about connections so you know yes swingers are bullshitters we lie all the time all right the en E-N-M marriage refers to a marital arrangement where both spouses agree with transparency and consent. Yeah, you can do that. Like I said, it's going to take time. It's going to take a lot of understanding, a lot of communication.
So why choose ethical non-monogamy? One, to fulfill other needs. People who engage in ethical non-monogamy may do so to meet other needs they may have that their present relationship cannot provide like your girl don't like eating your asshole and you love having your asshole ate you got to find a girl to do that so ethical non-monogamy might be that ladies your husband has you has, you know, a small pecker, pecker, and you might need one, a big one. So maybe that was it. You know, there's other things and all that stuff.
Often in monogamous relationships, there is the expectation that your one partner must fulfill every need that you have for the relationship to work. Well, that's true. You don't need that.
Many who are E and m believe that putting these expectations on a partner is unreasonable as you cannot expect one person to meet every need you have just as they cannot expect everything from you but yet it won't stop people from demanding it and all that stuff you see it on tiktok i don't cook for my husband i'll do all that then later on they're crying because their husband's leaving well you know that's what happens all right can it be a burden on others and can lead to disappointment or they should break downs enm allows people to look for others with similar romantic or sexual interests that their partner does not have or is not comfortable exploring this is also allows your partner to change to chance to explore things that you may not be interested in like your wife wants to get have sex with a woman you might not be interested in it probably are but i'm just giving you an example or your wife wants to experience two guys at once this is a way for you to explore this is not to say that the relationship lacks something but that there is more to gain from others to strengthen it yeah it can happen to strengthen the relationship while it might sound unusual engaging in relationships outside of the primary partner might strengthen the relationships they have together yes i believe it can do that if you talk it out if you are very smart about it if you after you go to a club you swap with a couple whatever you need to talk about everything especially if you're a newbie once you become like a seasoned veteran like me you don't really need to talk about it because you already know the thing now when you're newbie you got to talk to your partner hey what did you like about the swap what did you not like about it that way it can strengthen you because guess what if you could talk about if you can talk about your wife having a nice big cock in her mouth you could talk about anything in your relationship so everything else seems mundane uh compared to what you guys were doing at the club saturday night those who engage in enn may have strong communication skills and low high levels of honesty with their partner they may not feel the need to hide anything yeah like i said your wife had a fucking big 12 inch wiener in her mouth you know what what's the word what's worse than you can say now you know she there's not really much you can uh say or do so go have at it you know you know what i'm saying so so anyways so be able to talk to explore their sexuality some people may not have had the chance to explore the sexuality before settling down with one person yeah that's true but not anymore i don't think i don't think for the young cats today that's not true for.
For my grandparents, maybe my parents, yes, that's very true because grandpa had to get married to get laid. Women had standards. Women had morals back then. Now, were there horrors there? Yes, of course there were horrors, but you know what? Still, a lot of women didn't put out back then until there was a ring around that finger.
They may be extremely happy with the person they are with but feel as if they have missed out on experimenting with people of different genres uh if they never had this chance go to college e and m may then make sense for someone to explore their sexuality without having to give up the relationships they have that's only if your partner is in agreement you can't go out exploring your sexual relationship if your partner says hell no so that's what you got to talk about so maybe if both of you got married at it's like 18 20 years old you know maybe and maybe then you be open both open to it to share the love they can offer some people who engage in enma may argue argue that it is human nature to want to have multiple romantic connections with others.
No, man, it's fucking difficult. Ask anyone who just got divorced how difficult dating is. It's fucking hard. I just want to fuck. That's all I want to do. You know? I don't know what else to say. I don't know what you want me to, couples, you want me to lie to you and tell you I'm just here to have fun and I just want to make connections and all that. No, I just want to fuck. I can make a connection with my penis to your vagina and your mouth, lady. I don't need that, all that crazy stuff.
I don't need that romance because that fucking brings in trouble romance equals trouble if you are married and you want to have romance with another couple that's going to cause some problems just follow just be in the lifestyle long enough you'll know this is just that if it is normal to have more than one friendship love for all family members and all of your children you have why are romantic relationships so restricted uh probably because of children it is listen no matter what you say the data shows proves that there has to be a mommy and daddy in the house it's just you know children grow up better when there's a parent two parents in the household you know i sorry to say it.
I know you might hurt like two daddies and two women, two mommies. A dad with a cock, a mommy with a vagina is the best way for a child to be raised. You know, if you're a gay couple, listen, I don't give a shit. But I'm just saying what the stats and statistics and data says. That's just what it is. And, you know, ask a teacher, you know, see how they, what they feel. Well, actually, I don't know because they're all fucking libtards and they're going to say, oh, it's okay, whatever. No, a child needs a daddy. A child needs a mommy, you know.
You know, it's just something that you, it's something that we seek biologically. And I'm just, you know, I'm just something that we seek biologically. And I'm just, you know, I'm just saying yes. Maybe the reason why they're talking about you not having a romantic relationship is because it could fuck, it could really mess up the kid. Like, what the hell's going on? Things like that. Maybe that's why. To not have, to not have to end a relationship. Some people may have a very strong relationship with their partner, but they find they are attracted to others.
Of course, who everyone's fucking there's isn't if a woman says her husband's the best looking man on the planet, she's a fucking liar. Vice versa. If a man says her his wife is the best looking person, he's lying, he's bullshitting. There are a lot of other traffic. No one's married to a perfect 10. They may not want the relationship to end or cheat on their partner, but they feel pressure to pick one person. This is what monogamous society states. Okay.
Many people may choose to end strong relations because they believe they need to pick one person or the other and believe that this is the way things are well if you want to have a family and a normal family and not a weird family i guess yeah this is how things should be done but you know you do you boo and we'll see who wins at the end those who engage in ethical non-monogamy recognize that there is the choice to have both. As long as this is discussed and consented by all parties. So what are the challenges? There's got to be challenges. Social stigma and judgment.
Of course, people who engage in ethical non-monogamy may face judgment from those outside the community, including family members, friends, and therapists.
You're going to lose friends you're going to lose family members uh and all that stuff because of your choices now you're always going to be dinner conversation you're going to be talked about all the time at thanksgiving day table and all that great stuff you might not maybe they don't maybe you don't lose all your family members but there are people that will be like nah i don't have nothing to do with that uh and all that so you know you are taking a risk there is social stigma now is it ever going to go away i don't see it going away even with the young cats coming up i don't think i think sexually they'll do it because they're doing it so young now if they were waiting to their 40s and 50s like the group i was in the group the generation i was in Thank you.
do it because they're doing it so young now if they were waiting to their 40s and 50s like the group i was in the group the generation i was in i would see it changing but because they're doing it so early i think they're gonna do what they're gonna do is have swinger fatigue or swinger burnout ethical non-monogamy burnout whatever the hell you want to call it they're gonna burn themselves out and by the time they're 40 they're gonna be like fuck they're gonna put their hands in the air fuck it i just just let me find one person what is it that 50 of women are going to be single from the ages of like 21 to 35 50 of the women in that age are gonna be single you know i don't know it's not it's not good there's social stigma judgment on it.
Jealousy and insecurity. Even in consensual E&M, jealousy and insecurity can arise, even when individuals concisely choose to live this way. Of course, everyone's going to get jealous of it a little bit. Even swinger couples get jealous of it a little bit, especially when you start. When you start out doing this stuff, you're going to be having one of those.
You might see one guy whip out his eight- thick cock and your wife is gonna have her eyes are gonna get all big and she's gonna start smiling and shit and she's gonna you know act like she's never seen a penis before and you're gonna be like whoa wait a minute my dick is not good enough for you it may happen you never know guys you just don't know so you don't know when jealousy ugly head. You're going to see it a lot at the club. I see it a lot at the clubs. Working there and going there. You're going to have communication challenges.
Ethical non-monogamy relationships require open, honest communication and ongoing negotiation to thrive. Now, I want an ongoing negotiation. Why would it mention that? All right. When you start out, say you're in your 20s, you and your wife get married, whatnot, or you're in your boyfriend and girlfriend, you're young. Your feelings are going to change over the course of your lifetime. If you're 25 and you're still thinking the same way at age 40, you have not matured as a human being and you probably don't, how can I say it nicely?
Oh, you probably don't mean, you're probably a terrible person because you got to evolve. And how I was thinking, when I started at 21 years of age is totally different than what I do at 48 right now.
i was younger i was very selfish if i had a partner that partner was going to get me laid get me more pussy me now i will fuck it i enjoy just sitting back finding guys finding other couples finding women for my partner to fuck in front of me i don't have to ever have i don't have to have my penis inside another woman as long as she's got a smile on her face she's getting her back blown out and having a great time i'm fucking happy and it annoys me sometimes because she's like are you okay are you happy i'm like baby you see this big ass smile on my face i'm happy you look bored I'm not bored I'm just enjoying the scene I'm enjoying that I get to relax and just get to see you thrive in this lifestyle and all that so you're going to have to be able to negotiate because you got guys out there that want to OPP one penis policy and those are the biggest loser couples I ever see where well Thank you.
Because you got guys out there that want the OPP, one penis policy. And those are the biggest loser couples I ever see where, well, I'm going to be the only penis. We're only going to be with women. And they're going to go out and find relationships with other women. They're not ever going to find men. Well, guess what's going to happen to that woman? Five years, 10 years, 20 years down the road, she's going to be like, you know what?
We fucking fucking get women all the time what about me well i would love to have another penis and like i always said that the opp couples i want to see these cocks because these cocks gotta be amazing because these girls are foregoing all cocks for that one cock and i'm like i. Like I said, shave your cock and balls, gentlemen, and send me those cock pictures at swingandsinglepodcast.gmail.com because I got to see it because I've never seen couples who have a one OPP policy, one penis policy, and the man's cock is not that great looking. I had not seen the super cock and all that.
But going back, her thing might change. Your thing might change. You might only want to do couple swap, but five years later, you know, you open up to singles, male and female. So you're always going to have these negotiations you're going to have to take as long as you are ethical non-monogamy or you're a swinger or whatever lifestyle you're in. You're going to change. You're going to grow up. You're going to mature. Hopefully, you mature. People engage in this need to make sure their partner or partners are trustworthy. That's another thing you got to worry about.
Is your partner going to be trustworthy and all that stuff? Potential for exploitation and abuse. As with any relationship style, there's potential for toxic or abusive relationships in E&M. I see all these single women in the lifestyle, and they always talk about how bad the relationships are with the men. I go, yeah, because the guys just use you.
You're a coupon to these motherfuckers to get in so they get more access to pussy you choose the wrong guys all the time and it's not and you blame everybody except for yourself you know if you're a single girl and you got a boyfriend right now that's swinging tell them that you don't want to stop swinging test them i wonder what's what his reaction is he gonna he going to be okay? Oh, yeah, let's stay monogamous. Okay. Because I'm guessing, you know, if you have any questions, you should do that because you just don't. You can't trust everybody, man. Don't trust everybody.
And if you're in a toxic, abusive relationship, get the fuck out. Couples, get the fuck out. It's just better to get out and, you know, be happy than to, you know, have problems. So let's talk about practicing ethical non-monogamy. How to practice ethical non-monogamy. One, let's see, ensure the relationship you have is strong. That's a given. Solid foundation, no cracks in the foundation. If you have cracks in the foundations, fix those. Put some men on there. Put some fucking gorilla goo on there. Do whatever you got to do. Seal those cracks. Consider your capacity.
It's essential to consider whether you have the capacity in your life for additional connections or relationships. Consider this.
What happens if your wife falls for another man or another woman listen I can compete with another man I can't compete with another woman I don't have the pussy for the compete with another woman so maybe that's maybe that's why I'm all open to my partners being with other men in front of me and not having to worry about anything but are you able to have the capacity to be able to love more than one one person you know you gotta are you gonna have time do you have little kids small little kids because guess what when you have small little kids you don't have time for shit now think about this what happens if you're the small little kids with special needs you got autism you know you got other intellectual disabilities you got other health and problems that's even worse that's even more on your plate are you do you have enough time to have a romantic relation all right another one discuss what you would both like to gain what do you want to get out of this do you just want to have flings and you know enjoy sexual issues with strange people I don't know.
That's what you would both like to gain. What do you want to get out of this? Do you just want to have flings and, you know, enjoy sexual relations with strange people? You know, you got to ask yourself. Communicate openly and honestly with your partner. You know, if your man's got a small penis and you want a large penis, be honest about it. Now, there's a way you go. Listen, if you really want to hurt a man, tell him he has a small dick. All right?
but if that's the case you know there's a way you go listen if you really want to hurt a man tell me he has a small dick all right but if that's the case you know there's ways around it start out with dildos start going to stores together and buying yourself dildos and shit like that uh and see how that goes then you can move up to the real life thing and all that uh you want a woman with bigger boobs and a bigger ass because your wife's got small tits, small ass. You know, you got to be smart. You got to be able to communicate effectively and all that stuff. Be honest. I don't know.
But anyways, reassure your partner. Your partner may feel taken aback by your proposal of engaging in ethical non-monogamy. Yeah, of course he's going to be taken aback because they're like, well, I'm not good enough for you. That's what you're going to hear. I'm not good enough for you. And so on and so on. So you better come up with a reason why she is good enough for you, but you just want to have some fun, meet other people, and bring other people in. Got to set clear boundaries.
Ensure that you and your partner select clear boundaries and the expectations of what is allowed and not allowed in the relationships. Are the people allowed to stay over? Are the people allowed to meet your family members, friends, and all that? Now, you don't have to introduce, hey, this is Todd and Carol. We're fucking Todd and Carol. You don't have to do that. Oh, this is just Todd and Carol. We work together. Whatever.
You don't want to do that Oh this is just Todd and Carol We work together Whatever You don't want to tell everybody You have boundaries like that Your boundaries are No one knows Just us We are discreet about it Things like that That way you can put away all your fears Now Can boundaries be broken? Yes Boundaries are broken every day in the lifestyle Non Non-monogamous and swinging lifestyle. They're broken all the time. And that's where honest communication comes into play. If you're able to have open and honest communication, those broken boundaries can be fixed and all that.
And you know what? Those boundaries that may have been broken might not be a boundary anymore. Like I always had couples.
I never understood couples that had the uh the boundary of no kissing you're okay with me sticking my penis inside your wife you're okay with me her sucking on my cock but you're not okay with me putting my lips on her lips i never understood that it's the that's the weirdest thing i think about swingers that i find is that some of them do actually have no kissing i the couple i play with right now they have they used to have that rule and they're like fuck it they said after two days two times i went to the club they said that rule went out so boundaries do change some go away some new ones bounce up negotiate while you cannot always meet the needs of everyone it is important to Thank you.
change. Some go away, some new ones bounce up. Negotiate. While you cannot always meet the needs of everyone, it is important to negotiate a place in the middle. One partner may be all in while the other may be more cautious. I think you both got to be all in. Another one, connect with others. If you and your partner are debating ethical non-monogamy, consider connecting with others who practice ethical non-monogamy and can help you in research of how it works for them. That's always go to the bull, go to the horse, go straight to them and you'll find people. And they can guide you through it.
Me, I'm just a swinger. Ethical non-monogamy is just way too much for me to even consider with anybody i want to be someone's number one and i want someone to be my number one i don't want someone to be my number third i don't want to be the third fourth round draft pick i'm not fucking tom brady you know another one manage new relationships energy they call it nre new relationship energy is a concept often discussed in the context of ethical non-genomy and polyamory, though it applies to all relationships.
It is that giddy, excited feeling you get when things are going well with a new relationship. Oh, okay. Another one, check in with each other.
West, while engaging in E&M, ensure you check in with each other west while engaging in enm ensure you check in with your partner regularly yeah that's that's standard for everybody you know that's standard for all people check in see how they're doing ask them questions uh and all that stuff and the last part of it it's all about you know what is it called questions and answers frequently asked questions can ethically monogamous people get jealous of course they can they're human beings are there any limits to a non-monogamous relationship sure there are it depends on the couple can ethical non-monogamy be sustainable no i don't believe it is sustainable because like i said you see young couples do this after a while when you get to 40 anyone over 40 listening shave your cock and balls gentlemen go to swing and single podcast.com all the over 40 would all agree with me you get tired of people's bullshit after a while and that usually happens when you're getting close to 40 and over.
How can you bring up ethical non-monogamy to a partner? I don't know. Just talk about it. Watch a porn. I don't know. What is the difference between polyamory and ethical non-monogamy? Poly, you've got to find a bunch of wives or husbands. Ethical non-monogamy, you have your wife, your husband, and you do your thing boo so that is the article and i hope you enjoyed it ethical non-monogamy basics and rules for the enm relations by olivia guy evans and this was written last year like i said i'll put the link up in my description and all that stuff so you have it.
But anyways, we're going to my favorite part. This is my favorite part. Going to lovely, lovely Reddit. And the first one, we're going to start off with Single Men by Mystery Couple. One thing I'm sure everyone has run into is the amount of single guys and even some of them who are partnered that have zero etiquette or awareness. So he doesn't want to say couples. He just wants to say partner. If you can't say partner, well, actually, I don't know if you can say couple anymore, because guess what? A lot of people don't get married, so they're not husband and wife.
So, you know, but these are couples. So even some of those couples that have zero etiquette are winners. I haven't been single in a decade. Well, lucky you. But even though I realize there's no way I've ever talked to a woman like this to get them to sleep with me. I would like to say I'm a perfect human being, but I'm not. I probably talked to some women badly. I admit it. And this guy wants to not admit it, that he probably has. Because he probably has told people shit that they wanted to hear to get laid.
We don't play with single men, but we have had quite a few inquiries with their stats and some very explicit messages. Yeah, because guess what, idiot? It works.
Literally, if it didn't work work guys would not do that and i don't think couples understand it if you are a couple you don't like single men or your couple that likes to play a single man and you complain about how they act is because guess what it's a numbers game so they will send out 100 emails write the same dumb shit and guess what one couple will respond and guess what now he thinks it works all the time it's just i see that shit at the club all the time the same guys they'll go up to every try to hell have his dick out and try to fucking put his dick on her ass and get real close to her she gets rejected does it again gets rejected but that third time he does it the girl gets on her knees and sucks him off now he knows that's a way he can get laid now that's because of the couples all right i hate to say it couples but you know what you bring what's seeing you bring the energy and that's what the energy you're giving off uh explicit messages i don't ever send explicit messages like hey let's fuck i actually write a fucking paragraph or two and i get shit i get no fucking answers so i'm i'm wondering should i just play hey let's fuck maybe i should start doing that see how that works in fact maybe i should do that and report back the results there is there is also the occasional male speaking on behalf of the couple that does something similar.
Of course, it's a guy. Just because you got a wife and got pussy don't mean you're smart or mean you're any different than a single guy. You're still a single guy, but you're just partnered up. Just to add, we do not have OPP. We're open to couples with specific rules that work for us other than that any advice you all have given to guys every adjective what the fuck i've myself had stated multiple times definitely do not lead to nudes measurements and explicit messages i don't know why guys. Guys and couples are idiots. Couples are idiots. We're all idiots. We just do dumb shit.
And when it comes to sex, guess what happens? The blood goes away from our big brain and goes to our little brain. So, you know, I don't know what to tell you. Anyways. So, you know, do what you gotta do.
all right so that's one if like i said if you're on a site and it can block single men and you don't want single men make sure you click that little thing that blocks single men because it's just it'll just make it a lot easier for everybody uh and all that stuff so you know so what about house party etiquette wife and i are attending our first party this weekend congratulations hope you have a great time we have plenty of experience going to clubs and hotel takeovers but not house parties this is a nighttime pool party could you could you find folks offer us some ideas and things to take into consideration when arriving?
Example, should we be wearing some sexy outfit under a coat, or should we bring a change of an outfit and get changed there? What kind of stuff would you think? All right, well, what you should bring, bring a towel, because you don't know how many towels. If you're going to go in the pool, you don't know how many towels that host couple has, So bring a towel. Bring a change of clothes. If your wife is comfortable walking out in her slut wear with a coat on in the neighborhood, to the car, to the house, to the car, all right, fine.
But if she's not comfortable doing that, bring a change of clothes. And when you get there, change into those clothes. That's all you got to do. Make sure you clean up after herself.
If if you put a condom on don't throw the condom on the damn floor put in the trash throw shit down the toilet do whatever and also the condom wrapper the condom wrapper put in the trash can be courteous remember treat this house like it was your house there's a thing when people get outside their house they become fucking degenerates i don't know how many house parties I've been to where people would piss on the floor, piss all over the seat, do stupid shit, use condoms on the floor, wrapper all over the place because it's not their house. And this is why I don't want to throw a house party.
I would love to throw a house party, but I would never throw a house party because people do not treat my stuff like i would treat myself and i'm very fragile with my how i teach how i have my stuff i get very upset if something breaks next one venting keep running into age cap age gap couples so these are couples that have you know age gaps uh let's see me 30 year old female by she had to put by in there my husband 31 year I don't know.
that have you know age gaps uh let's see me 30 year old female by she had to put by in there my husband 31 year old male straight i'm on a few apps and we keep running into the same issues we match with a profile but they only put pictures of the younger person turns out their partner's a lot older and we prefer like 20 plus years older turns out their partner is a lot older, and we prefer, like, 20-plus years older. Turns out their partner's a lot older, and then we prefer. All right. Step one, young cats. Swinging is for older people. Because you know why?
When you're 20, you should be having the fucking great sex. You don't need to have other partners. You should be fucking banging everything. So these couples that are young annoy the shit out of me when they say, well, it's all old people. Oh, yeah, because that's what makes up swinging. Young people don't pay for shit because you don't have no money. Us older people got money now, and we're fucking going to the club every fucking weekend.
We're paying for shit We're going to cruises on Swinger Cruises We're going to Swinger Resorts, stuff like that So yeah, you're always, no matter what you're going to do You're going to run into these age gap couples My suggestion is If you don't like that Don't swing, wait till you're old Because guess what, you're going to get there honey And you know what's going to happen Someone 30 years old is going to say We don't want to play with you because you're old It happens We'll be right back. Because guess what? You're going to get there, honey, and you know what's going to happen?
Someone 30 years old is going to say, well, we don't want to play with you because you're old. It happens. It's going to happen. I got old. I got gray. No, I do not want to sleep with someone that much older and prefer the 24 to 36-year-old range in the filter we placed in the app. Yeah, when you put it in the app, if one of them is 24 to 36, that profile will come up. And their partner might be 56. Well, because that partner is 34, you're going to match with that person.
Anyways, or they put their medium age in one profile thinking we are talking to a 30-year-old, but it's actually a 20-year-old and a 40-year-old. What the hell's the problem with that? Why can't you fuck a 40-year-old? Like, what is your hang-up? What is these people's hang-up on age? I don't understand it. I just don't understand age. Who gives a shit?
When I was 21, the best pussy I was getting was fucking 50 and 60-year- they knew how to fuck i don't know the young girls couldn't fucking fuck but you know the old ladies those those mature little cougars could fuck and i was very happy so i don't know what the hang-up is on so let's see what else they say none of this is is ever in their bio. I do not want to get involved with potentially predatory dynamics as we like to at least like to get along with each other. Okay. You all have one thing in common. Why the fuck? Why are people really up front?
Because you got people like you that judge them. See, that's always funny when we talk about swinging. It's not judgmental. Very judgmental here.
because you got people like you that judge them see that's always funny when we talk about swinging it's not judgmental very judgmental here because you're old don't get me started on how people who on how i'm started on people who chat for a while then ghost after not talking okay that's fucking english people don't get me started on people who chat for a while and then ghost after not talking to their partner about potential matches well how would you know they didn't talk about them how do you know your partner said fuck no i don't want to do nothing with them edit we don't have trouble matching with people in fact we are overwhelmed with them so we tend to chat with a lot of folks.
Oh, those are sexy. It's more so that because we chat with many, I don't want to waste time on people who are not upfront and honest. Okay, stop fucking chatting with these people online. Get your fucking sorry asses out of the house into a club. That's where you're going to meet them.
They can't lie as you see them at a club people they can't lie about their age they can't lie about their size they can't lie size about the cock size or tit size uh and their ass size if you just go to the club you will find what you're looking for stop doing on these fucking apps because your fucking generation cannot ever talk to someone because you lost the ability to have social interaction because your fucking nose is in those stupid cell phones all day. Learn how to talk to people. My God, people. I understand. Maybe there's not a club by you. Okay, I get it.
But if you're fucking living in a big city new york city chicago houston dallas austin san antonio and you're on or fucking miami tampa anywhere where there's a mega population and you're on your phone trying to talk to people that's your fucking your problem that's a up that's your problem not the rest of the society's problem so stop fucking on these apps and get your sorry asses to the club to the house parties to the hotel party and takeovers jesus fucking crap oh my god i don't need advice about getting matches or anything like that but you were fucking uh were you just, it's just a little vent on an annoyance we get out in cottage country where this has come, all right, once again, you might not live, don't fucking, take a weekend, if you don't have kids, you're young, so you might not have kids or anything like that.
Go and check out clubs. Go fucking to those places. And let me see. Yeah, these, these, no, there's not many, they don't have, and they don't have pictures up, so, you know, whatever. But it's just something I don't understand.
And all that, so, I don't't know any app worth your time should have data on the male's age yeah but but they're fucking young they're going to be going on these apps because they don't know how to communicate with people that much they want to just they want it fucking easy it's not easy if you're going to be a swinger it's very difficult to do swinging all right anyways you know what so with that rant and rave remember go to swinging single.com and go to swinging single podcast at gmail.com and all that stuff so you could talk to me maybe come on the show if you're young couple, tell me how I'm wrong about all you little fuckers out there with your noses in the damn cell phones and not in the parties getting your fucking dick and cock sucked and your fucking pussy licked.
Anyways, remember, go to swingingsinglepodcast.com. Gentlemen, shave your cock and balls. Ladies, make your men shave your cock and balls. At least trim the shit shit It's disgusting seeing some of these pictures of cocks On the internet With hairy ass balls and hairy ass cocks But anyways Have a great night, have a great weekend And I'll see you guys on the other side Or see you at the Swinger Club Keep on swinging everybody We'll be right back.
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