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Call me the Brazilian baby I make them all go crazy They say that it's my smile But I shake it, shake it well Throw my hair back, I'm a sick chick No holding it, let it down, let it out Throw my hair back, I'm a sick chick No holding it, let it down, let it out He loves the boys, want me Wanna see big men, help me Wanna see me take it, take it Come home so he can reclaim it He loves the boys, want me Wanna see big men, help me Wanna see me take it, take it Come home so he can reclaim it He loves the boys for me Wanna see big man on me Wanna see me take it, take it Come home so he can reclaim it I'm in love with a caca I'm in love with a caca Now you wanna admit it But he knows that I love it I'm in love with a caca I'm in love with a caca Ring, ring in the regular Ring, ring in the regular Who said this?
All righty, as you can tell by the theme music today, we're going to talk about cock holding and all the great stuff. Can cock holding be a positive for couples? Well, for some couples, it can be for other couples. Maybe not.
So that's what we're going to talk about the cock holding on the Sw single podcast today but first remember to go to swinging single podcast.com go see all things ac talk and all that go to fullslop radio.com go there see a bunch of other swinging couples and swinging people and some kink podcast on there's a whole website full of them click on it you can go find all kinds of stuff you find me there also i'll be on february 21st through the 23rd i'll be at crazy winter nights in kansas city missouri looking to hang out party have some adult fun i'll do some live podcasting there so check out all my channels and all that you'll can see me, yours truly, AC Maxwell there.
And ready to party and all that when I'm there. Let's see what else. If you have any questions, comments, concerns, go to swingandsinglepodcasts at gmail.com. Give me a shout. Anything like that. I'm available for interviews. Anyone want to come on and be interviewed? Couples, you know, you want to come in, share your point.
Let's go's go let's do this so today we are going to be talking about cock holding and can it be positive can it be positive for couples and maybe we'll talk about some of the negative sides of it but i don't know we're gonna get through this it's super bowl sunday uh february 9th today so you know i gotta get out of here a little early this might be a short little podcast but you know who knows i always go on a rant so in our current political climate the term cook short for conservative has become an insult of so-called alt-right aimed at men they view as spineless and masculine all right now i heard that word a lot of times now we're talking about politics and all that now is it emasculating i don't know i don't really you know what honestly at my age at anybody age you should really don't really care what other people think because you know a lot of people are just a little you know nutty in the first place but you know i don't really care what someone calls me all that matters is how i feel about my life and all the great stuff that I'm doing and all that.
So, you know, I want to be able to enjoy my life. So I'm not worried about what someone calls me, a cuck or anything like that. The slur has its roots in the concept of cuck holding or having an adulterous partner. So basically your wife is cheating on you. Now, there's a lot of cucks out there that they don't know they're cucks or anything because their wives are cheating.
Just ask a bartender at a nightclub or anything like that women cheat just as much as men if not so more you know i know a lot of people don't want oh women are so pure no women are very dirty they're very nasty they will go out fuck around just like a man would and remember men only can fuck what they have access to women have access to every cock and balls uh in the country basically if you're a very good looking woman you have access to all dicks in all sizes in all colors you know it's just way if you're if you're a mechanic making thirty five thousand dollars a year guess what you're not you don't have that access to a lot of pussy unless you got a big fucking cock in you know and if you don't well then you're pretty much screwed you're stuck with the whatever you got and you know it's true don't sit there say oh this is horrible no that's not true that's not Thank you.
And if you don't, well, then you're pretty much screwed. You're stuck with whatever you got. And you know it's true. Don't sit there and say, oh, this is horrible. No, that's not true. That's not true. Yeah, it is. Bullshit, it is. It's true. You know, people do look at that and say, okay, no, that's not going to happen. But anyways, now let's get back to the nitty-gritty. So, but according to a recent study by David Lee, Justin Lee Miller, and the writer Dan Savage, acting on cult-coding fantasies can be a largely positive experience for many couples and hardly a sign of weakness.
No, it's not a sign of weakness. Come on. I don't know why people would think it's a sign of weakness. I think because a lot of people watch too much porn. They watch too much Twitter porn and all that. I'll see you next time.
of weakness no it's not a sign of weakness come on i don't know why people would think it's a sign of weakness i think because a lot of people watch too much porn they watch too much twitter porn and all that and all that and they see these guys being you know put mask on have a put a cage on on their cocks and all that and they just go what the hell is this you know they don't you know they don't see what truly cock holding is and all that so you know it's just one of those things where you go, okay, so it's supposed to be a sign of weakness.
But for many, you know, cock-holding has many different varieties. Cock-holding, you know, the true cock-holding would be put yourself in a chastity cage, you know. Your wife dominates you. A guy with a bigger cock comes in and fucks your wife in front of you. Maybe you do some little cleanup of his cum inside your wife's pussy and all that. But, you know, it could be different things.
It could be that you just enjoy that your wife has sex with someone else because maybe you're not adequate enough right now because for medical reasons that you can't, you know, perform the way your wife wants you to perform. All right.
So references to cock holding appear in literature as early as the 13th century, usually in the form of male characters who fear that their child has been sired by another man during an act of infidelity today however and with dna technology cock holding has become fetishized into a powerful sexual fantasy fantasy for some men who get aroused by the ideal of the romantic partner engage in a sexual activity with someone else women also share this fantasy but less than men do now i don't know when they do these studies i always wonder are they legit are they people are being honest and forthcoming when they do these and are they one-on-one or a questionnaire because i think if you're one-on-one or you just give them a questionnaire you send them in a room in a nice room by themselves to be answering more they'll be more forthcoming when they're in a group i don't think they're going to be forthcoming forthcoming because of the fact that you know what's that person next to me going to think of me i'm a horse whatever so i don't know i maybe women do have a lot of i don't know if they have a cock-holding fantasy, but I do think they have a fantasy of actually, you know, being with other partners other than their man.
And maybe it could be a woman. They could be with a woman. They could be with someone else. Who knows? So, who knows? Alrighty. So, this fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality, said Lee. Of course, look at the, you know, the Roman orgies. That's a long time ago, 2,000 plus years ago, whose book, Incessible Wives, addresses cuckolding in heterosexual couples. But we're hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy.
Now, does anyone ever think why you're hearing it more these days it's because you have social media so you have you can post you know you see people women on tiktok talking about they're cheating on their husbands and they tell their husbands and it didn't go the way they thought it was going to go so you have that in there so you have social media and you have the breakdown of no shame there's no shame in anybody in anything anymore you know i remember when i was growing up you'd be on welfare you were ashamed because you're on a welfare now it's like you're fucking who's smarter the person going to church or the person receiving the welfare and as a person uh going to work i'm sorry but as the person that goes to work every day i think the person on the welfare is smarter than me because they're getting an iPhone they got streaming services they got a house paid for and all that stuff for them and I'm busting my ass for some uh company and all that so you know it's you know you just gotta think social media has you know lowered the standards of shame and there's no shame in it anymore so people are more open to say hey yeah you know I love fucking other men and my husband I don't care what my husband thinks or my husband gives me full approval of it and stuff like that so whose book alright but yeah so you got that book Insustainable Wives I post that on my the page and all that I put it in the description of where you can get that book probably on amazon as always so you know you you start hearing more and more about cult holding you hear it seen in the movies and all that now you have porn and the porn does stuff like that too or you know these content creators that they talk so much about and all that so you know you got all this stuff going on and all that and you know you really get to see more and more people getting into it because more it's the fantasy is out there you know a guy might be have a fantasy of that but he doesn't know what it is how do you address it and he sees a porno of cock holding you know porno of stag vixen stuff stuff like that.
And he says, oh, okay, that's what it is, okay? So now they get that, and they get it in their head. The seed is planted in their head by porn and social media. Like I tell people, you know, you just, you know. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker. The quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary. Yeah, I said it.
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It might never happen. It might never grow. It might die in the thing. But do you know, maybe five years later, she says, Hey, you know, you talked about swinging five long time ago, let's start swinging or something. Who knows?
So indeed, the numbers suggest that cock holding, or at least thinking about it is more common than you might imagine i think it is i think everyone thinks about it once in a while at least once and all that and i think maybe for guys will think about it because they want to think that their wives are desirable you know especially after you know they have a couple kids and stuff like that we get a little fatter we around the waist stuff like that and you still want that you know does anyone want my wife stuff like that so i don't know maybe that's why it comes might be why people think about it so for this forthcoming book tell me what you want the science of sexual desire and how it can help improve your sex life i'll put that in the thing too lee lee miller surveyed thousands of americans have found that 58 of men and about a third of women have fantasized about cuckolding now this is the this is where i don't know the study and i'm i'm gonna take it for what it is in this article and that is cuckolding the same as stag vixen or hot wifing see do people like for me cuckolding is not for me because i know cuckolding is where you're supposed to humiliate the male, the bull is supposed to humiliate you, but maybe even you fluff the bull and all that stuff.
I'm not into that stuff. I'm not into that. I'm not a little dick guy where, you know, I can't please women. I can please every woman I can be with, so I don't have no problem there.
So to me, I'm more of a hot wife stag vixen type of person but that's where you know i'll have my girl have sex with other men in front of me and all that so men are more likely to fantasize about cuckolding and they do it more often but there are a number of women who have these fantasies as well which points to the need for more research focused on women's cuckolding desires lee miller said all right good luck on that you know i don't know how many women are very forthcoming a lot of stuff swinger women will be because you know they're there but if you get like vanilla women i think it might be a little hard for them to uh no pun intended to really come forward because you know what they're shy they don't you know they're not really open but also you got to remember that the new generation coming up there is no fuck there's no uh censorship on those people they will talk and talk and say what they want to say you know but then again you got those ones that don't want to offend anybody and all that stuff and like jesus christ man you know just say what's on your mind it's going to be all right so initially viewed as a heterosexual phenomenon it's increasingly prevalent in the gay men too oh geez who would have thought that because you know gay men are men and gay men straight men gay men are the same we're all fucking horny dogs i am a horny dog i i'm not ashamed to admit it shit yeah fuck if i could fuck every day i fuck a woman a new woman every day yeah i yeah, I'm going to do it.
So, you know, I'm not surprised that gay men like this fantasy, too. I long forgot, I long forgotten letters from straight couples into cock-holding, usually initiated by the husband. But none from gay couples until after marriage equality began to gather steam, explained writer-activist Savage.
To learn more, Sav has joined the miller and lee for a study cock-holding fantasies experiences in 580 gay men all right their findings suggest that there are similarities between the way gay straight men view cock-holding but clear differences too most notably interracial and bdsm themes don't appear as common in gay men's cock-only fantasies as they do among heterosexual men. The motivations behind these fantasies may also be different. Now, let's address that.
I know a lot of guys, a lot of couples, straight couples or swinging couples that only swing, will only have a black man have sex with them. Me, at my personal level, I have no fantasies about a black man ever being with any of my partners. I just never saw, I never saw the difference. You know, they'll say skin contrast, but I say, you know what? I don't really care. I want a nice cock going inside. I want to see a nice cock going inside my girl, my partner's pussy. I want to see her suck on a nice cock too. It doesn't matter what color it is.
But for a lot of people, a lot of couples I know that do the swinging and they do with single men, they only do it with black men. And I have my theories on that. So, you know, that's fine. But I noticed that is a lot like with my gay friends. They don't give a shit what color the cock is. They just want to fuck.
You like I said I always give props to those guys because you know what they're just like yeah want to fuck and they'll try to you know try to change me gay I'm like you're not changing me gay it's been 48 years you haven't done it yet you ain't gonna happen now but yeah so you know when my gay friends and go they don't give a shit about any what color cock is. They just want to fuck, and great for them. I love that, and I love that they're open about it and all that, but for with the heterosexual couples, I noticed that it does matter what color the person is for a lot of them.
That's not all of them. Now, don't get to say white guys and Hispanic guys. Don't get all sad Asian guys. Don't get all sad because, oh, they only want black guys.
No, that guys no that's not necessary not all of them do you know I went to a hot wife party at Colette's on Friday and a beautiful uh couple picked me and out of all the guys there's black guys there and I picked me and I fucked them and we had a great time Friday night uh this past Friday night so you know what it's just not it's something more common in uh the interracial is more common with straight guys and straight men than it is with gay men.
BDSM, you know, the tying up, I noticed a lot of that because when I read the article, I was like, oh, I noticed that a lot because a lot of them want to blindfold their wives. They want to handcuff their wives and stuff like that to a bed and just come in, stick your dick in there and do your thing. I know a lot about that and all that. So, you know, you see a lot of things. Like I said, you've been doing this for a long time. You'll do this for a long time, guys. You'll see a lot of things. You'll notice a lot of things. And that's why I said this is the truth pod.
This is where I tell the truth. I'm not sitting there telling how great everything is. There are some really fucked up things in this lifestyle that you go, you just cringe, go, holy shit. And you're just, you know, you just gotta take the good with the bad. You gotta learn from your experiences and all that. My nose itches so much. All right. So anyways, so part of what makes cock holding arousing for heterosexual men is that they tend to view it as a taboo act.
In a society or culture that idolizes monogamy, the cock-hold fantasy is a current narrative that is available to people to conceptualize their sexual fantasy, says Lay. So, is it taboo? Oh, yeah. It's still taboo. It's always, listen, as long as we're still in this monogamish type of society, it's always going to be taboo. There is not going to be taboo? Oh, yeah. It's still, it's always, listen, as long as we're still in this monogamous type of society, it's always going to be taboo.
There is not going to be, I don't think the generation before, the alpha generation or the Gen Zers or anything, they're not going to change it. It's going to be that way. There's just people, there aren't just some people out there meant to be monogamous. They're not there to fuck every person.
They just can't do and that's okay you know like me i could know my if i got married my wife could do whatever she wants as long as i get to watch and be there and have fun with her yeah hell yeah but for a lot of other guys no they're one strictly one dick policy one one penis policy stuff like that same thing with women she she's a one penis policy she don't want multiple dicks she don't want a dick in her hand two hands one in her pussy one of her ass she just wants one in her you know vagina she don't want the whole world to see her fuck up everybody at the club she just wants to go home be do it in the bedroom in the privacy of their home home and bedroom and all that so you know it is still taboo today just like swinging swinging will always be taboo you know i know people sit there and say well we're gonna make it change it no you're not changing it it's just the way human nature is you gotta remember there's seven eight billion nine million billion people swinging is not big it's not like there's fucking like uh you know one billion swingers out there you know and what and you gotta ask yourself what constitutes a swinger so if you you and your girl one day you go out to a club and you hook up with another couple you swap but you never do it again in the rest of your life are you a swinger no and that's what might happen to a lot of people they were when they're younger they might experiment they might have a little fun but then after they get you know they get it out of their system they're done they're not doing it anymore so you know our society idolizes monogamy for right now now could it change maybe thousands of years from now maybe i don't know but like for for the foreseeable future it's always going to be monogamy and it's going to be the norm and not non-monogamy you know i know a lot of people want to talk do the ethical non-monogamy, but still, it's not for everybody.
But that may not be an influence for everyone. For gay men, cock-holding isn't quite as taboo because the norm of lifelong monogamy isn't so strong in the LBGT community. However, it can still be arousing for a number of other reasons, said Lee Miller. All right, I have to agree. My buddy's gay. He's fucked up. He fucks everything. He's married.
He still still fucks around i don't think his husband knows i don't know but he's still going around banging it banging away you know so it's not that taboo so i don't know if you're a gay you want to come and talk about this please do i would love to hear uh from your perspective about this whole thing and all that for instance fantasies about voyeurism and group sex seem to overlap with those about cock holding in these men it's a sexual desire that can easily be customized to meet a wide range of sexual needs and desires whether it's taboo sex novelty voyeurism or something else he told me i told my friend why don't they just be swingers you know don't i know gay guys don't gay guys i remember when i was like uh working at caliente we had like two gay couples they were openly gay couples that were members there and i don't know they would go nude but after night night i never saw him at night i always saw him during the day sunning and all that so i don't know if they were really into it i never you know i never talked to him about swinging as a gay couple or anything like that but i should have fuck i should have had that i should have asked them say is there places but i'm sure there's places where you can go you know porn theaters are very big uh those uh men's spas are very big so i don't know maybe there's a places for gay men to have sexual origins and stuff like that.
So I don't know. But that would be something to look into on the Swing and Single Podcast. So go to swingandsinglepodcast.com to check out all things they see. And remember, shave your cock and balls, gentlemen. And the emotions surrounding seeing your partner with someone else can add to the turn-on, explains Savage. Like I said, that's a very big turn-on because that means your woman, your man is desirable. So it's like, oh yes, they want my woman, but only I can have my woman type of thing.
It's not cock-holding if there isn't an element of humiliation, degradation, or denial, he he said our erotic imaginations have the ability to turn shame limb shame lemons into delicious kink lemonade see that's why i don't i would ever never be in the cock holding because i'm not into that element of humiliation okay great he's got a 12 inch penis that don't mean shit if he can't use it like always everyone says size matters i go yes and i go agree yes size does matter because you can have an eight inch penis and it not work you can't get hard what's the point of having it you can have a four inch cock that thing's rock hard your tongue is good you can fuck the shit you can lick the shit out of your girl and you and you can stay hard after all that stuff so who really is the benefit who has the best sex the the four-incher.
Whereas the eight-incher guy, you know, he goes hard, gets soft, goes hard, gets soft. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about mood.com. That's M-O-O-D.com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door. No medical card, no hassle. And here's the kicker. The quality is better than anything you'll find at your local dispensary. Yeah, I said it. Whether you're into edibles, concentrates, flour, or just looking to explore, you'll find it all at Mood. And it's not just the variety that makes them stand out.
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I don't know how many times I've been at a club or I've been in a game bang or a threesome and the guy with the big dick in the room is going hard and soft hard and soft he has to fuck put on a condom fucker then after a minute his dick is limp has to get hard again and all that stuff so it's kind of like it's one of those things where yes size does matter but you gotta think if you don't have a hard cock and you got 8 inches or more it doesn't matter because you can't use it and it ain't gonna go in so you know I'll see you next time.
But you got to think, if you don't have a hard cock and you got eight inches or more, it doesn't matter because you can't use it and it ain't going to go in. So, you know, I don't know where the hell I was going with that. But anyways, but no, the humiliation part, like I'm six inches. I don't care. I'm fine with it. I'm at peace with my small. I got my cock sleeve, which if you go to my Twitter page, the swinging male at swinging male M, you can see it. I posted pictures of me. I used it on a beautiful lady last weekend, and she loved it and all that. All the women have loved it, actually.
But anyways, if she needs bigger, I can just whip those out, put them on, and we can we could do it if she doesn't need it then we just do what I got what God gave me what I got and I'm there so it's just one of those things where the humiliation part I don't really like I don't need that so I'm not a cock hold I would not consider myself cock holding I would not get into cock holding I would not put let a woman put my put a chastity cage on me either so it's just one of those things, so that's why I don't, you know, I don't get into the cock holders and all that stuff, or anything like that, because you know once in a while I would like to have a sex with another woman, you know, and cock holds don't have sex, they're just strictly they're strictly, what do they call it, strictly, just strictly, they stay with the same woman all the time in Houston.
All right. I'm posting live on SDC.com and all that. So one guy asked me where I'm from, how far I am from Austin. And he go, you probably could just look at my goddamn profile and see. But hey, what the hell would that be? Why would you even do that? That's kind of dumb, right? That'd be too smart. But anyways, let's see what else. Okay, so as a sex therapist, one of the more intriguing findings from this study involves the impact of cock-holding on relationships. Overall, our research found that the most part, cock-holding tends to be a positive fantasy and behavior, said Lee.
It doesn't appear to be evidence of disturbance or an unhealthy relationship or of disregarded for one's partner. But there's an important caveat added, Lee Miller. We found several personality factors that predict more positive experiences acting on cock-holding fantasies. For those who have a lot of relationship anxiety or debatement issues or lack intimacy in communication who aren't careful, detail-oriented planners acting on consensual, non-monogalic fantasies would very well be a negative experience. So you got to ask yourself.
For the most part, cock-holding will be great for you if you want to go that way and all that stuff. Great.
But if you have these type of personality traits, like relationship anxiety, my girl gonna leave me is she doing stuff behind my back probably not gonna work are we secure like i said it don't matter if you're cock holding or swinging you're stag vixen hot wifing it don't matter you're a gay you're in a gay relationship or you're in vanilla the most important thing in any relationship between two people is the foundation it's like when you go build a house when you're going to start you got to make sure that foundation is solid there's no cracks in it there's nothing wrong with it it's 100 perfect you got get that perfect.
And if you have cracks in that foundation or you get cracks in there, that's the anxiety. That's the depression. That's all the problems that come with relationship. Now, over time, will there be cracks in there? Yes, you're going to have cracks. You're going to have problems. It's what you do with those cracks. Do you fix it or do you let them linger and get bigger and bigger and bigger? You know, think about your house. You got, you, your guy comes over, says your house is leaning. This guy says you got foundation problems. What do you do?
You call up your insurance company and tell them you need to fix it right away. Right? You put cement, you do whatever, you jack it up and make it leveled. Well, whatever, you don't do any of that. You just keep sliding. It tilts more and more and more. It doesn't look right. It's bending. And eventually, hold on, right? The foundation will finally give way, will break. So, you know, you've got to have a swinger, you've got to have that foundation there, and you've got to repair it. Because, listen, everyone talks about how great the relationships are in swinging, but no one ever talks.
It's like no one talks about how they got to that part. They don't there and say oh this is how we did we had to do it this way we had to get it done that way it's like athletes it's like when you see athletes professional athletes on sunday today's just super bowl so you're gonna go watch the football game at 6 30 tonight you're gonna look at those guys go those guys are fucking amazing those guys are fucking amazing. How great are athletes? They're in great shape and all that. See, what you see in that TV, you see a finished product.
You don't see all the food they have to eat, the healthy food they have to eat. They can't eat the pizza every day. They can't go out for crawfish all the time, eat the Mexican food here in Houston all the time. They got to put the right food in there in a light amount. You know, you're looking at 10,000 to 20,000 calories a day for these athletes. You don't see the time they spend in the gym, the three, four hours a day they spend in the gym before practice. Then you don't see the couple hours of practice they do. You don't see the film they do all day and all night, you know.
Some of the best players, they watch film all day all day you know he they had tom brady on they were talking about how he knew what when they played the chiefs in the super bowl when it was at tampa bay he knew what the hell they were going to do because he watched a lot of game film but to you it looks like it's easy because he's just doing it right then and there but you don't see that and it's just like withinger couples. You don't see all the foundation. You don't see the foundation they laid out. You don't see all that.
You just see it at the club on a Saturday night, Friday, Saturday night. You don't see them, all the arguments they might've had well before they started swinging. You didn't see all the makeup, all the work they had to do beforehand.
and i think a lot of people get that get that wrong when they look at the relationship let's start swinging let's start cuck holding hot wife and all that but they have that relationship anxiety and it's going to be negative it's not going to fix it's not going to be the cement that glue bonds you together if you have abandonment issues that's another thing jesus. If you have an abandonment issues, I would never suggest bringing another person into your bedroom. You don't have any intimacy. I know people who say, well, you know, I, we do this because, you know, I have a problem.
Uh, I can't get heart anymore. Some guys I met, uh, I met a great couple.
He had prostate surgery, so he he could he couldn't get it up anymore and and i felt i and i love this man this couple is a great couple i worked at caliente and they were they would go there all the time wonderful couple but he had prostate surgery he couldn't get it up anymore and he's been working to get it up back slowly but surely he's going to get it up he's going to be able to please his wife but in the meantime he's looking for substitute because he knows his wife needs that sexual energy the sexual connection with other uh with people to you know be happy and all that now you might say well that's lacking intimacy well no they still have the intimacy they still make out they still act like teenagers when they're at uh caliente and stuff like that it would be the opposite if he just totally he couldn't well my dick don't work anymore so i'm cutting it off i don't kiss you i don't hold hands you know things like that you know a little foreplay now he still eats her pussy he's man when i'm when i was fucking her he's there up there getting that pussy too you know just like with me we double teamed her and all that and she tried you know he could get hard a little bit for maybe a minute or two but it wouldn't last and so you know he still had intimacy but if you just drop off the face of the earth there's no intimacy there is it's going to be a negative the cock holding is not going to work for you swinging ain't going to work for you and the communication communication is the number one thing if you guys can't communicate your desires with people how are you going to expect to be able to communicate your desires with a bunch of other people you know you're going to look at these people and okay what do i want you know what do you want i would love for you to fuck my wife.
Well, if you can't communicate that to people, how do you know? It's like I saw a thing on the Reddit about single guys telling single guys, no, how do you be polite? I go, listen, you don't have to be polite. It would be nice if you were, but if a guy asks you if you want to play or anything like that, just say no, thank you. If he doesn't take that hint, tell him to go fuck off. And if you don't want to do it, you can tell me, I'll tell the guy to go fuck off.
I don't have no problem telling people when I bring my partners to the club and we go playing and a bunch of guys start jacking off and standing right over by us. I just tell them back the fuck off. And if we want you, we'll come and get you. So back off, go stand over there. You can jack off. You can do whatever you want. But right now it's not, it's not happening because we're trying to get, I'm trying to get her juiced up and get her ready. Maybe she wants you. So, you know, sit back and relax.
So if you can't communicate that, you can't tell your partner what you want and how you feel and stuff like that. Swinging ain't going to work for you. Now I know a lot of people say, oh, that could work. That could be fixed over time. No, it has to be fixed before because you're adding people into your room, your bedroom. You are letting your husband stick his penis into another woman or another man. You're letting your wife stick, have another man or another woman, another man stick his penis in you or a woman stick her strap on in her. That is very intimate.
That is not something that, you know, that you can get back. You're always going to know that. It's not like talking. Talking, you can get back. But if you're sitting there and you're talking and you have all this stuff going on and you can't communicate with your partner, I want to do this, cock holding ain't going to work. It's going to be a negative impact. So I don't know. So it's one of those days where you go, I just try to stress that communication is the most important thing.
If you don't have that communication and that foundation set right off the bat i would always recommend never do don't swing just wait till you get it listen ladies and gentlemen boys and girls out there swinging will always be there next week there is a this weekend super ball sunday there's parties going on next week guess what valentine's day there's a bunch party's going on. Next week, guess what? Valentine's Day. There's a bunch of parties going on. You can't hear? Oh, well. I thought I could, but, you know, maybe, I don't know. So, let's see. Can anybody hear now?
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But anyways, so you have all that going on, and it's just, you know, I just hope people take the, to take any of my advice, make sure you can, you know, make sure you have that foundation set, you're, you're and your partner on great ground and that you are also communicating your wants and needs, because if you don't communicate those wants and needs, it's going to be tough for you and really tough. I don't know what to, other than that, I don't know what to tell you. I can't help you out. So remember that sometimes just sharing a sexy thought can be arousing enough.
You don't have to follow through. If you're thinking about acting on a cock-holding fantasy, it's worth stepping back first and making sure your relationship is in a good place and that you have strong sexual communication skills. For the men and couples considering the issue of cock-holding, it's important there is honesty, integrity, communication, mutually, and shared values, advisedly. All right, so let's look over that. Let's go over that. Important to be honest, all right? Why do you want to be cock-holding? Why do you want to be cock-hold? You know, is it a turn-on?
You know, discuss it. Why? Remember, it ain't going to hurt. It ain't going to hurt no one. It ain't going to do anything to anybody. Stuff like that. So, you know, let's see, microphone. Do. Okay. So I don't know why it's not working. But anyways, so anybody, no one's, I don't think anyone can hear. Can you hear? No, I don't know. But anyways, screw it.
So make sure, you know, you be honest, communication and all all that i've seen men who try to trick their lives into cock holding them and this never ever ends up well i had uh back in the day when i first started swinging and the internet was just starting and all that i met a guy he told me he his fantasy was for his wife to sleep with other men. And I thought his wife was on board with this, so he invites me over. And there I go. There's a wife and a husband. And he introduces me to the wife, and I'm like, and she has this weird look. I'm like, who the hell is this guy and why is he here?
Well, comes comes to find out he never tells her that i'm over there to fuck her he just sits there and trying to get her drunk and stuff maybe she'll fuck or anything so she's like so she asked me why are you here he's like who are you and he's like why are you here i go well your husband you know is looking for a guy to come over and have a threesome with and she's like what and she? And she got upset a little bit, but she said, fuck it. All right, you want it done? So me and her started fucking and having a great time. We're playing around. And we were playing around all night.
And all her husband did was sit in the corner in the room watching us have sex. so it was one of those, like, funny things where, you know. So it was kind of funny that he wants to be cooked, doesn't tell his wife. His wife finally gets sick because I think this is like the, he's done this a couple times and she said no. So I must have been nice enough, nice looking enough, where she said, fuck it. I want to fuck this guy. And we did it and we did it in front of her.
And she was talking to him and she was humiliating him, talking about what a piece of shit he is and stuff like that to him when I'm fucking her. So this is my that was my very first.
That was my first and only real life cock holding experience, because the other times it's just been, you know, havereesome the guy joins in stuff like that has never been she humiliated him in front of me and all that stuff maybe when they leave when i leave she really humiliates him and all that but not during it so the reality of watching your spouse have sex with someone else or knowing they're doing it if you're not there is often very different than the fantasy it can dredge up powerful emotions so take baby steps and keep talking and communicating said savage yeah i i don't have the desire for my partner to go by herself and fuck some guy and come back home to me no i never had that i want to be there i want to like get all dressed up to go out go to the club pick her go out, go to the club, pick her outfit for her, drive to the club, find guys for her.
Like, I like going up to guys and say, hey, you know, see that girl over there? That's my partner. You know, she thinks you're good looking. Would you like to play around with her? Because, you know, honestly, I go, I don't even want to. We don't even need to talk. We don't need to talk to you. We don't even need to know your name, buddy. All we need to know is can your cock get hard and can you, you know, fuck my girl for me and in front of me. That's all we need to know. But like I said, you know, it can be very powerful emotions.
And for me, having my partner go by herself and do it without me is not one of those. I don't really like it.
I don't have no have no desire for it some guys do I had partners like I met a couple at the country home in Ohio a long time ago when I was living in Buffalo and we were you know he would ask later on he's like hey do you mind if you're my wife comes up and visits you and hangs out with you for a couple you know for the weekend and all that it's like yeah sure so you know he would send her send her over to my house in buffalo because they live in pennsylvania and she would spend the weekend with me now i found out that he had a girlfriend so it's a way for him to get along with his girlfriend and um vice versa so basically i was in a guess i was in a relationship with this couple with her and all that so you know i would have that but to I wouldn't want to do that.
I wouldn't want to send my partner to some guy's house. Even if I knew the guy, I wouldn't want to send her to a guy's house for a weekend, get away, a fucking, and all that. So that said, the rewards can be amazing according to couples who have successfully folded cock-hold play into their relationships.
So, yes, cock-holding can be very successful if you do it oh if you do it right if you do it wrong ah you know i don't know like you don't shave your cock and balls guys that might be in your cackholding experience i don't know but like i said if you do it right you're going to have a great relationship you're going to have a great time for however long remember you don't have to be hold your whole life. You could do it for a couple of years. You could do it one time and one time only because that's all you wanted. You only wanted to do it one time and all that. So who knows?
Like I said, I don't have a clue. I'm not a cock hold. I'm just taking my experience of what I've seen, and I've seen a lot of cock holds come and go in my days days, you know. I've seen a lot of cuckolds couples break up. And that's the worst part. The worst part about swinging is watching couples break up because you always hear the stories. Swinging, all swingers are happy. They're the happiest people. It's like fucking Disneyland. They're the happiest people on earth. And that's just far from the truth, you know. Swinging people have, you know, swingers have problems, too.
We all have problems, right?
Vanilla people have problems know swingers having problems do we all have problems right vanilla people have problems swingers have problems it's just how we deal with those problems do we have that foundation in our relationship with our partners do we have that communication skills you know and just because you're a swinger don't mean you're going to be an expert in communication you know it's hard just think about you're you're married 20 years and just one day how do you open up to your wife that you want to have sex with another couple you want to swap with another couple you want to do swinging and all that how do you how is that you know how do you bring that up you know it's hard to think about it and for couples out there sitting there thinking about doing swinging or are swinging think about how hard it was to bring up swinging to your partner initially you know especially because you don't know how they're going to act i always tell people you know what always watch a porn if you're watching a porn and a swinging scene comes up talk to you after the swinging scene is done and over watch it and uh ask your partner what do you think about that and see what they say you know maybe they'll be into it maybe they're maybe they sit maybe you'll find out your significant other was doing it in college all the time and i think that would piss me off you know i think if i met a girl we were hot and heavy we're dating we're in a relationship and she told me she was not into swinging but then i find out she was doing threesomes and foursomes and orgies in college with fucking guys she she quotes does not love and all that but then she says i i can't do it because you love me because i had a buddy like that well i had a friend when i was living in michigan his wife was a real i'm not gonna say it but she loved doing threesomes and tag teaming dudes with her girlfriend in college.
And her husband asked, why can't we do that with me? He's like, because I love you. And I'm like, and he never got mad about it. I'll be like, I'll be extremely pissed off if I got married.
I found out my wife was doing threesomes, orgies and all that that or whatever in college and her reason why she wanted to do it with me because she loves me i'll be pissed off i go you could do it for some fucking idiot in college that you don't love that you don't care less about but you i would love to have a threesome i never done it before it's just a one time we'll do it one time one night only and you can't do it with me I kind of I would be pissed now I know probably a lot of people goes no you should that's not you shouldn't be pissed off but I would be pissed like fuck you man I want to fucking have some fun and you not being able to do it with me is not fun at all so but you know it is what it is he I don't know what happened I like I said I lost contact with a lot of people as you get older you know you start losing contact with a lot of people in your life so you know uh like i said i don't know but but we will see all right so hopefully this will help you out you know if you just give you a little nudge into the cock holding world, if you want to be a cock hold, guys, you want to watch your wife at Big Dick Guys, white, black, Hispanic, Asian, maybe this will set you up and hopefully get you going.
And I hope, you know, you have a great time doing it. But you just don't know. You just got to be careful with everything. All right.
right so with that remember to shave your cock and balls gentlemen you want to always do all that stuff take care of it make your wife proud make your partners proud that they don't have to dig out pubic hair in their teeth when they're giving a blow job the rest of you keep on swinging go to swing and single podcast.com email me at swing and single podcast dot at gmail.com remember i'll be at crazy winter nights in kansas city missouri february 21st to the 23rd come check me out i'll be doing it live at the convention center i got a booth there also i don't know i forget what also also shave your cock and balls and you know what Just keep on swinging, everybody.
I forget what also. Also, shave your cock and balls. And you know what? Just keep on swinging, everybody. Have a great night and go whoever you care about in the Super Bowl. Because I could care to fuck less. It's the kind of kick, yeah, the love and the limit of pain. It's the cockle and the heart wide. Swing on, swing on. It's the cockle and the heart wide. Swing on, swing on. Let's be honest. Buying cannabis shouldn't be complicated, sketchy, or low quality. That's why I want to tell you about Mood.com. That's M-O-O-D dot com. Mood ships federally legal cannabis straight to your door.
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