Connections Unleashed: Maximizing Your Online Swinger Network

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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell, broadcasting from the legendary Upside Down Pineapple Studios in the heart of Texas. So for over two decades, I've embraced the Swingin' Lifestyle as a single male, and on this show, I'm here to share my wildest tales and experiences and advice with you, the people. So grab some lube, gentlemen, get those tissues, And for those with spouses out there, get cozy. Have her sit on your face. Shave those cock and balls, gentlemen. And settle in for some uncensored, eye-opening stories on the Swinging Single Podcast.

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I can't lie, I'm trying to end up on his sideburns Bring his girl and I can't fuck her till her thighs hurt I am the one, they call me the divider Catch me with that D-I-F on like I'm insider I can't lie, I'm trying to end up on his sideburns Bring his girl and I can't fuck her till her thighs hurt I am the one, they call me the divider Catch me, A.C. Maxwell. Hope you're having a great holiday. I hope the Christmas holiday has passed.

We're on New Year's Eve, one of the big swingers nights, other than Halloween, I think the two biggest swinger nights are Halloween and New Year's Eve, where all the clubs charge an extra couple hundred bucks just to sit there and do the same thing you would do in March, April, May, June, July, August, and all that stuff, so you know, it's a little expensive tonight, so if you're headed it out enjoy be safe do not do anything stupid do not drink and drive make sure you're safe if you're having a party you know invite some friends over it's a little cheaper have a good time fuck suck be merry and all that stuff bang in the new year 2025 all righty so tonight we are going to talk about a little bit about enhancing your online swingers contacts because of the fact that last show was about designing an ad so how do you get people to answer your ad how do you do all kinds of stuff you know it's tough to say because a lot of times you know some people have just better luck than other people like i always think i'm very lucky because for some odd reason when i go to a club i'm always uh you know doing something i'm able to do something get get laid stuff like that a lot of guys you know they go there they can't get laid because they don't have personality or anything like that so you know it's just one of those things where you got you know to you know think about a little bit and sit there and you know and think about what's going on and all that stuff but you know it is what it is so i want to help you out get your little swinger contacts going in and make sure you have all that enjoy your time while you're online because being online is kind of tough very tough actually because you got a lot of fakes and flakes a lot of people out there decide that well they're gonna just fuck around with people you know and try to get nude pictures from people stuff like that i always say do not send my number one you know do one thing don't send nude nude pictures to strangers if you don't know them you never met them anything like that don't ever send anybody a nude picture or anything like that send them a nice pg movie uh video or whatever now if they are adamant about you sending them a nude picture then they're probably not people you want to be playing with because they are probably just pick collectors all right and you got a lot of those out there and stuff like that so you know it's just one of those things you got to be smart about so today we're going to talk about enhancing that online presence getting those people to answer your ads and all that stuff now if you're a gentleman with the eight inch plus cock you're probably getting a lot of ads if you just posted and all that uh so you're good they're couples if you're very good looking you're probably getting 10 000 people to email you and all that but you know some of us are not as blessed down below or blessed in the looks department so some of us have actually have to you know do the thing take time and get uh people to uh notice our ads so ask yourself have you experienced challenges in contacting swingers through forums or lifestyle membership sites i know i have i could tell you 100 i could send out 100 emails today i probably get one or two by the end of the week hey it is what it is i'm a single guy we're the creepy people we're not very well liked in the lifestyle because of for certain reasons and certain stigmas and all that and i get it so but it's very time consuming for a single meals encountering minimum responses of individuals promptly blocking you yeah i always i never understood i'll email someone to looking for single guys and i'll go in there we don't get a response i see that they read my my uh ad and all that because you sometimes some of these ads uh websites you can see and i noticed that they blocked me for some odd reasons like i just wrote them an email and they're blocking me now to me if you're a couple that does that because someone emails you don't like them and you block them you got small dick energy yes you heard it first here if you're one of those couples that's black people even though you don't know them they just sent you an email and it wasn't like hey want to see my dick or anything like that which i never do i always send out and i have proof i got receipts i can show you email me at swinging single podcast dotcom at gmail.com or you can email me at swinging single podcast at.com or stuff like that sorry and I can show you I never send out hey you just want to fuck or here's my dick pic stuff like that I send out a photo very well structure to their ad their person's ad and send it to them and blocked.

Now, like I said, if you are one of those couples that does that now, if a guy sends a dick pic or whatever, unsolicited and stuff like that, you block them, I am fine with that. Do that. I recommend doing that. Actually, to all couples. If a guy sends you his dick pic the very first time and you didn't ask for it, then don't. I would block him. I agree with you. You should block him.

But if he he doesn't you have no right to block anybody but you know it is what it is but like those couples you're out there you're one of those couples listening you're gonna be pissed off because i'm saying you got small dick energy all right just because they're not something you like or you just too bad damn lazy to say to type back no thank you then you know you gotta get you know get with the program so our private messages to other swingers met with silence hell yes if you are a guy you're gonna have a million of these you're gonna have a lot of nothing you're gonna have ghosts nothing zilts nada couples too a lot of couples experience this especially couples that are both straight we're the woman straight and the male straight because then you know the bisexuality for females is the the golden corral of all you know the unicorn was the single bi female that's the holy grail and if you're not that then you might not get as much uh uh you know answers to your ad or anything like that stuff like that so so if this scenario resonates with you, it is crucial to pay heed to the following advice.

Now, remember, this is only advice. This is not, this is not professional advice. It's just what I have done over the past 28 years. Yes. In 2025, it will be 28 years that in January, actually, January 2025, I'll be swinging for 28 years, more than some, a lot of you, you know, but you know what, you know, you see things, you learn things. So this is just advice that I've seen over the years and how, you know, the best I was able to as a single guy. Couples is a whole different ballgame. Like I said, this is a swinging single podcast. This is not the couple swinging podcast.

This is all about me swinging for the past 27 plus years as a single male. All right? So by refining your initial approach, you can significantly increase your chances of connecting with new swingers online. It is never impossible, guys. There is no such way as impossible in the swinging lifestyle. That reverse gangbang that I always wanted, it's not impossible. Will it happen? I doubt it, but it's not impossible. The issue often lies in the missteps taken by many, particularly single males. Yes, us, gentlemen, we do make a lot of stupid mistakes. But you know what?

I have seen a lot of couples do stupid mistakes, too. You know, like the small dick energy couples. They will have on their ad. When I been getting this i don't know about you guys gentlemen out there if you are there email me let me know if you're getting this stuff the swinging single podcast at gmail.com and remember to shave your cock and balls gentlemen have you been getting this where you will get like hey how you doing okay that's it that's their or hello wave. And that's their only response. Then I look in their ad and they say for single males, come up with something.

Don't say this, don't say that. You know, actually think and write a response to us. So I'm saying, I'm like, okay, you say, I got to bring some energy to my response to you, but your response to me is small dick.

And'm like what what's going on why you know you want respect from give you respect but you don't show me the same respect in return and that's why i have a problem a lot of these times a lot of these couples and stuff like that you know if you want respect you got to get that you got to earn that respect and when you tell me i got to respect you but yet you don't respect me even on an online ad response uh you still got to do it all right so don't sit there get angry at the miss the single men how we you know do things because you know what actually it's pretty much couples faults because guess what i can send out a hundred hey let's fuck emails and all it does is take one couple to say yes guess what now it's in my brain that if I just do another hundred more I get laid again a hundred more I'll get laid again a hundred more I get laid again so couples if you want single males to change you have to change your tactics and not just jump on any big cock out there remember as much as you ladies want to think that size matters size ain't gonna matter if you're if you got a 10 inch eight incher and you can't use it properly what's the point of having it or you can't get hard properly because you got you need so much blood in there what's the point of having it i'll take my average size cock that stays hard rock hard long after coming and busting my nut over an eight inch cock that after i bust the nut i go soft or i can't get hard again i'll i'll take my average over that so single guys remember be smart be respectful so by absorbing and implicating these strategies we are about to dive into with you can witness a notable improvement in your response rate.

Maybe. I cannot guarantee anything about your response rate because the fact that, you know, it's a couple's world out there. All right? So, before reaching out to new swingers, new swingers, I'm not talking about newbies, just new people to you.

It is essential to ensure that your form or swinger site member profile is thoroughly completed we talked about that last time make sure you have everything go into detail boys there ain't nothing wrong with anything like that so you know you gotta put i don't know i don't know if you could put overput a lot, if you can overestimate or over, I don't know what the hell, put a lot of information on there, I don't know, I'm having a brain fart right now.

so anyways so i don't know if you can do that you know it's one of those things like can you put too much information i'm guessing you probably could i guess but you got to be smart you know if you have a job where you got to worry about you know are these people going to know who i am stuff like that then that might be a problem all right but you know who knows i don't know like i said i don't know anymore anyway so let's go back to what we're talking about so make sure it's completed make sure your thing is complete make sure you have pictures on there good pictures don't put shitty pictures on there's couples and singles do not put bad pictures up there Thank you.

So make sure it's completed. Make sure your thing is complete. Make sure you have pictures on there. Good pictures. Don't put shitty pictures on there. There's couples and singles. Do not put bad pictures up there. Many individuals overlook this step to provide minimum information that fails to offer insights into their personality. You'll get ads where they have one sentence for each section. You're going to get those. Then you have ads where they write a book.

You just got to pick and choose which one you want so you know if they put one sentence on there they probably don't really care too much about your response or anything like that they're just looking for some action or something like that i don't like i said every couple's different there's no two couples the same it's like snowflakes so when finishing you know finishing up your profile envision yourself on a dating platform like you're on a real one, not Tinder, which is a hookup like Match.com or eHarmony. Remember eHarmony where it took you five weeks to fill out the questionnaire?

Do something like that. The key is to present a comprehensive snatch up of your interests, hobbies, entertainment preferences, dining choices and more like your interests. What are your interests outside of sex?

Some couples now, you know don't agree with it but i don't agree but you know they need a connection now just to do things with you now so you know you got to talk about your interests that you have you like sports you like playing sports you work out you like gambling stuff like that you know you like going to a bar getting a beer and smoking a cigar or whatever let's talk about your hobbies What do you do for fun? What are your entertainment? You like going to movies? You like taking hikes? You like going to theaters? Stuff like that. Dining choices, whatever. You like that?

Think of it like a dating site because that's what you really are now. Swinging has become dating in 2025 and stuff like that. Anything else you want to put on there?

That you don't mind people knowing that are strangers now if like i said if you have a job then i would not put very specific things on there and i would definitely would not show my face don't show your face block it out there's programs where you can block out your face and all that stuff but you still show that you have a great body or stuff like that all right this holistic portrayal enables others to glean a sense of who you are all right especially the women women want to connections and all that so you got to give them what the ladies want most swingers seek individuals they can connect with on a personal level that is so true you get along with some people you know you never know what might happen like i said like i don't know how many times i've been turned down by couples then you know you get to talking and months pass maybe a year pass and they're like next thing you know You know what I mean?

said like i don't know how many times i've been turned down by couples then you know you get to talking and months pass maybe a year pass and they're like next thing you know you're knee deep up in their pussy fucking her now because you built that personal level connection and stuff like that so avoid kick-starting your profile with explicit sexual references or boasting about your prowess in bedroom now like i said don't have don't have your dick hanging out on your profile put that in for a private profile that you can show people that you can give people that information now if you do if you're not smart enough to do that then go put that like your dick pic your nude picture at the very back end of all your profile pictures because the first picture that's going to come up has to be the best one not nude but shows your face and stuff like that because remember you're not just fucking the dick you're fucking the face too so you want to do that don't talk about how great you are either because i have a news for you gentlemen and ladies those who say they're good in bed are usually the worst people in bed let me repeat those who say they're good in bed are usually the worst people in bed all right you know i've seen so many guys with big wieners big cocks and they last three minutes or they can't fuck at all they don't know how to fuck because you know what the girl lay there and she moans and she's having a great time and all that but you know she's not really having a great time she's just faking it because she just wants to get you out of her pussy because you don't know what you're doing in there all right because you can guys big dicks you guys can hurt those girls man you got to be smart got to put you know if you know this she's not that wet down there get some get a bottle of lube put some lube on your cock and go in there and you know let it get juiced up over there um ladies you know laying there a missionary is not sexy i know in gen z they had a gen z poll about sex and missionary was their favorite favorite position like missionary out of all the positions missionary is your favorite gen z you're messed up dude i don't understand it so don't talk about your sexual prowess don't talk about your conquest and stuff like that i in order to make sure that you're going to be able to make sure that you're going to make sure that you'rearies your favorite gen z you're messed up dude i don't understand it so don't talk about your sexual prowess don't talk about your conquest and stuff like that i know people where you can certify that they're real and all that stuff some people tell me don't certify us because we don't want people to know who we're with or we don't want people to know how many people are with and i go okay and i respect their wishes but to me it's like okay so you're a swinger i've been swinging for 20 almost 28 years now so i fucked a lot I'll see you next time.

Okay, and I respect their wishes, but to me, it's like, okay, so you're a swinger. I've been swinging for 20, almost 28 years now, so I fucked a lot, you know? And I think if I tell people that, I think they're going, no, I fuck a lot. So it ain't no big deal, but some people, it is a big deal. So, you know, you just don't want to boast about who you fucked and stuff like that. Refrain from fixating on sexual aspects.

Yeah, don't talk about, if you cannot talk about anything other than fucking with these couples you're not going to do well be able to talk about stuff politics money stuff like that works you know maybe the husband and you work in the same field things like that this is in texas this is oil and gas country so probably chances are you probably work in the same industry here focus on showcasingasing your personality authentically. You know, you don't want to be fake. So many people are fake in this lifestyle. I mean, I have one, there's one single guy I cannot stand.

I'd like to punch him in the fucking face here. He's one of those guys that will kiss the couple's ass, talk about how great he is. You know, he does whatever he's not supposed to be doing. The minute he fucks him, he puts his clothes on and leaves and tries to stick his dick in another person. There's a time where at Colette's, he fucks this single woman. They go in the room, they fuck. She lost her $500 glasses. Instead of being a gentleman, what does he do? He doesn't go out and help her find the glasses. He's on his way. He's talking to another couple, trying to fuck that girl.

So I lose a lot of respect for that dude.

I can't stand that stand that dude i don't like that guy but that's the type of dude you don't want to be you want to be authentic if you're just here you're a man whore like ac is be a man whore i'm a man whore i tell people that i don't sit there lie to couples say i'm gonna be your best friend no i go i'm gonna take care of your wife i'm gonna fucking do what i need to do to make her come have her a time i'm going to bring her back happy smiling and wanting more and that's it i'm not going to be your best friend but i'm going to make sure your wife is happy and that you're happy with my performance so be authentic don't be fake ass like a lot of people are even couples are fake on here in the swinging you know they just put off a vibe that they're this but then they're actually this you know you get a lot of couple you go on reddit you hear the threads you see the subreddits and all that and they talk about we were playing with this couple for three months and all of a sudden bam they're gone yeah because they were just fucking they got bored of you instead of saying to being the their true self they say hey we're just done we want to move on and fuck other people they just ghost you and all not real.

People are not just, you cannot, you take this lifestyle with a grain of salt, okay, people. You're not going to get everything that's going to be rosy. Subsequently, you can subtly allude to your sexual references without diving into explicit details, all right? Reserve such intimate discussions for later interactions. Initiate by the swingers you engage with, all right? Let them bring up how big your penis is or how good in bed you are. Let them bring up that stuff. You don't. Bragging is not good.

So approaching the initial contacts with the intent of fostering friendship, this intimate aspects will organically follow suit. That was true. When I would go online, the best way to do it was tailor my. Tailor my.

will organically follow suit you know that was that was true when i would go online the best way to do it was tailored my tailor my uh response to the couple based on what their needs and wants were and stuff like that and see if it works now like i said i didn't have great success i stopped with the you know i once in a while i'll email someone on a website but it's very hard and with five clubs in the area i can go to i would just go to a club and just do it so you know i don't really do this stuff but when i do i follow this guideline because it works the best you know for me at least it might not work for you like i said you might have a 10 inch pecker and every couple's emailing you trying to fuck his what i want you to fuck their wife so ah this feels good nothing so if you're not interested in interaction with single males utilize the block feature that restrict your ability to contact you Yes, I don know how many times this is they will put no single males please all right so block us and i always recommend it now you might say well ac is not going to be for this yes ac is for us i would say block it because it just because this is what guys are dumb let's face it guys and couples the couple the merry man is stupid single men are stupid we're all dumb you know when we start thinking about it we start thinking with our little brain and not a big brain and we see a couple that doesn't have anything filled out about single guys and guys will email them and you don't want that you want only couples and single females so you got to use that feature to block block single males all of them now remember this and this is one things i noticed that if you do block the single males and you want to set up a gangbang and you're looking for men unblock the single guys first of all because i when i'm on sdc.com i go there and this couple's looking for multiple men who have a gangbang with the wife and you click on their ad and you can't get to it because they blocked all single men so what you're going to have to do either you are going to have to do all the legwork which i don't recommend couples when you're doing a game bang don't do all the way look have someone else do it let the guys come to you uh excuse me i'm black those single the single guys so you can get them then once you got the five or ten or twenty guys you got one you block them again you just go back to blocking them after the event all right and it don't take that much so remember if your website has the ability to block single guys i will recommend it if you're not looking for single guys okay so while still able to reach out to single males if desired this feature serves as a buffer against misguided assumptions within the swinger community and there's a lot of misguided assumptions and stuff like that you'll know once you're once you become a veteran like myself and everybody else that's been doing it for a long time you'll understand there's a lot of misconceptions so it is common for swinger sites to attract uninformed single males who misinterpret the swinger lifestyle as a purely sexual pursuit and that's why i always call single males are not swinging single males i'm a swinging single male i live the lifestyle i'm into the threesomes and foursomes sharing and doing all that stuff i'm not into well i'm not i don't got a girlfriend right now and i need to get what laid and it's easy because i'm a turd and like i know i don't understand these guys can it's easier to get laid i'm going to tell you something it's easier for me to get laid off a tinder than it is for a swinger club or a swinger website and that's just how it is and i don't understand these guys that they're in between the relationships and they go to swinger clubs because it's an easy way for them to get laid and yet you know they just don't understand it's not about that it's about something else that's totally you're fucking up everything for the real single swinging single men so by setting this boundary you can navigate interactions more effectively so remember that while encountering the influx of single males on swinger platforms which we are a dime of dozens there's for every couple there's 10 guys you know on a swinger plat on a swinger website and stuff like that so you know you're gonna have to dig your way through these uh some of these dudes it is vital to this concern between genuine swingers and those solely seeking immediate gratification now i don't know about if you know i see some really good looking dudes at a club by themselves and i'm like why are they here they can go somewhere else they're not ugly but you know i don't know but you've got to make sure the fake ones and it's kind of hard to tell if you got a good guy a guy with game you ain't gonna be able to tell if he's fake.

Now, if he has no game, you can tell he's fake or not and stuff like that. I met some guy at Colette's a couple Fridays ago, Indian guy. And, you know, he was straight up asking me, he goes, hey, do you think I'm going to be able to get any in this lifestyle because of my color of my skin? And I go, listen, you know what? That's a great question. I'm going to be honest with you. In the 20-plus I've been swinging, dude, Indian guys have not been successful. I've seen, you know, I'm just going to be flat out straight with you. He's like, oh yeah, really? I go, yeah.

I go, have you done this type of thing before? He's like, no, I've never done. I go, so you say like a couple wants you and are you going to be able to get hard and stuff? He goes, oh, I don't know. So he was very honest with him.

So is he seriously about the lifestyle no he was not serious about the last he was just a guy checking it out he wasn't into it he'd never done anything like that or anything like that so you know you got to be very careful with those people because you just don't know what they bring to the table so quality individuals will stand out amidst a crowd of individuals solely driven by sexual motives. Like I said, when I take a girl, I look for the guys who are best dressed, not always the biggest penis, not, you know, the guys who are the youngest and look hot.

You know, in this day and age, when I started out, people would not touch me with a 10-foot pole because I was their kid's age. Nowadays, these guys will fuck, these women will fuck any age. They don't care. You know, they look at, oh, he's hot. I'm going to fuck him. Thank you.

their kids age nowadays these guys will fuck these women will fuck any age they don't care you know they look at oh he's hot i'm gonna fuck him and that's fine that's great but you need you want quality people you want to be able to fuck and have a good time you don't want to be you know get a third two pump chump you know there's a lot of guys like that in the lifestyle two pump chumps and stuff like that there was a guy at colette's when i met the indian guy he was a two pump chump and he was all the girls were after him because he was good looking young and you know he goes back to with this one couple and they were probably in there in less than 10 minutes and he pumped and blew his load and they were done and she looked dissatisfied he looked dissatisfied the guy was happy that he busted his nut but you know you just gotta remember you know who you're fucking you know you want quality so sometimes you know not every hot looking dude or hot looking couple is gonna be quality some of them gonna be shit so to engage the effectiveness and all that stuff so let's see that to gauge the effectiveness of your profile contemplate whether it would would pique your interest as a potential swinger.

So that's a good point. Would you answer your own ad? And that's a hard thing to say, because I would say, yeah, hell, yeah, I would answer my own ad. But, you know, you got to think about that. Like the guy for Studio 54, he goes, I would never want to own a club that would let me in. So I think like that. So think like, would you answer my ad? So dedicate the necessary time to complete your profile thoroughly and thoroughly. A well-crafted profile can significantly shape the Swinger lifestyle experience. Examine your Swinger's profile for inspiration. Others, examine others.

Like I said, that's what I did when I first started. You know, you got AI now that can write your ad for you. You could put it, tell it wanted to say how do you want to say it stuff like that so there's no reason why there should be crappy ads out there anymore everything should be ai if you're not doing it i do mine for ai sometimes uh because i just don't know how to in words to put it you know things like this like when i do my show i want to talk about a certain topic i'll put some things in there and I'll talk about this is what I want to emphasize, stuff like that.

And it, bada boom, bada bing, a minute later, it pops up, and it tells me what to say. So look at other people's profiles. Go to forums and those websites. See what people say. Put your profile. Say, hey, can you please, can you people please help me? What is good about my profile? What's not good about it? Tell me and all that. So you never know. All right. So your main profile picture, your avatar is the first impression other swingers will have of you. All right. So it should be eye catching and stand out among others.

This photo needs to draw attention to exclude a positive image of you and you as a couple. So as a single guy, don't have your dick hanging out. Just don't. Have a nice picture of you if you want to show your face. If you freshly hair combed, beard, freshly shaven, stuff like that. Couples, same thing. You don't need to have your tits hanging out, your cock, you holding your husband's cock or anything like that.

Just have a nice picture that shows if you cannot have your face on there block out your face but show your body show that you're a bbw couple show that you're a mom and dad bod couple show you that you're those crossfit fuckers that are good at exercising that think that that's cool i never understood crossfit because all you are you're good at. You're good at working out. Anyways, so this photo needs to draw the attention to get people to look at you. As the saying goes, a picture is worth a thousand words. And your avatar, your picture should invite others to click and explore your profile.

Guess what? 99% of the swingers are not going to explore your profile. They're going to look at your picture.

And if they get a boner looking at it or they get wet down below ladies you're going to respond to that picture you're not going to look at their ad maybe after a while you know you might exchange a couple emails then you might check out their profile so avoid using default images provided by swinger websites never it's no excuse that you don't have a picture in this day and age there are things you ai can change your picture and all that stuff so you don't you know you don't have to be you can be incognito still so it's important to choose a current and appealing photo that represents you do not be those idiots that post their high school pictures because guess what you're 50 years old when you walk up and meet that couple for the first time you as the couple you might put your wedding photos when you got married in your 20s and now you're in the 50s We'll see you next time.

years old, when you walk up and meet that couple for the first time, you as the couple, you might put your wedding photos when you got married in your 20s and now you're in the 50s. We're going to know they were fake. And we're going to make fun of you and talk badly about you with other couples because you didn't really think this out. No one is, you're not going to fool anybody. All right. It's like guys and they lie about their penis size.

You're not going to fool anybody because we're going to figure, once you pull down your pants, we're going to figure out that you have a four-inch wiener. You don't got eight inches, you know? They were talking about inches. We use inches in this country. We don't use centimeters, gentlemen. So when selecting a photo, avoid covering your face completely, all right? I disagree.

You don't want to, if you can, let your face be young but i have change if you have a job you worry about it do not post it with you blur it out there are a lot of websites that you can do that now so you know you know blur it out it's crucial to keep an avatar current to avoid misunderstanding when meeting new swingers so block out your face just keep it current if you have a good picture change it there you go for couples location both individuals through close-up headshots or full-length photos is ideal i would do the full length because you know we're shallow people we judge people we're looking for certain types of people you know there are couples out there that want height weight portion it there's couples out there that want bbw there's couples out there that want this and that so you just gotta remember full length is better for everybody because then they see what you're getting okay and make it current so images of you both dancing or enjoying a swinger party can also be engaging all right yeah so if you've gone to a swinger club before you got a picture at the back you know a lot of these clubs now have areas where you can take pictures and all that you can see that and they can see that you're a real swinger you're not just snoobies or anything like that that you've been there and all that and they could you know maybe that engages them and says hey let's check them out ensure that any other individuals in the picture you get have given consent to be displayed so just have you two don't have a whole group of people in there like your girl's out if they're not swingers don't put their pitches on there it's just you two do not put anybody else pitches in there because you don't want that associated with them because guess what you will there are people you know that you don't know that are swingers will be on that website there people will find you and all that you know so you got to be very careful because sometimes you know what you're at a girl's night out your best friend over there her and her husband swing you have nothing to do with swinging and they post that picture the girl's night out in their profile guess what some guy sees it some couple sees it now they think you are a swinger too they start doing weird stuff so you know what you got to be very careful.

Just post people. Just post your own pictures. Do not post anybody else's pictures that are in there. For single women, photos and sexy outfits or lingerie can be enticing, while single men should opt for well-dressed, full-body shots reflecting their personality. For single women, all you got to do is put a picture up there, and there's going to be 10,000 dicks trying to fuck it. So, girls, it's very less that you have to really do. So, like I said, couples don't want to hear it.

Women don't have to really do much of anything in this lifestyle it's all about them uh so single ladies icing single ways to put a crappy have no pictures in their ad and guess what they get 40 50 emails a day from guys try to avoid those explicit photos of nudity in your avatar like i said guys don't have your cock out couples don't have your full nude photos save that for later action shots or images that showcase your interest and style are encouraged so you know you have sdc has videos so you can post up you can post videos up with that because i look at that so when i go in there i see a couple looking for a single guy and they got videos i look at the videos i see who they're fucking in those videos, if they're fucking certain types of guys, and I know I'm not that type of guy, I won't email them, or anything like that, because I already know I'm not going to get picked, and I'm not going to waste my time emailing these people saying, hey, pick me, pick me, you know, so, you never know, so, I don't know, so, we got to go to Thank you.

So, I don't know. So, we got to go to how to make first contact. So, sending the first message to a swinger couple that you are interested in can be intimidating, rewarding, or disastrous. Like I said, if you can't not write more than a sentence, don't email people.

for you couples emailing single guys come on i appreciate a couple that you know that will take time to write to me when they do i had a couple now they i'm gonna be there like i said ac's honest they were they were not an attractive couple not very attractive he wrote me a paragraph it's i think it's almost 10 sentences long introducing himself and his wife now they're not that attractive she wasn't at least i don't really care what he looks like but she was not attractive but you know what i gave him a tie i gave him the time of day because they took the time out respecting respected me, and wrote me.

And later on, a month later, we hooked up. We had a great threesome. And we had a great threesome for a couple months and all that stuff. So, you know, like I said, you just never know because, you know, it could have turned out to be disastrous. It was a little intimidating. I was a little intimidating to do because I was much younger and very better looking than I was now and all that stuff. But it was rewarding for them because after a while, she got what she wanted. She was very happy. She wanted more. And we kept continuing the threesome until, you know, I moved away.

So, you know, sending that first message can make will make and break you like i said i don't respond to couples that just send me a hello or a wave emoji stuff like that i respond to couples that actually put time into writing a sentence or two it ain't that hard so this guide aims to help ensure your initial contacts are rewarding while managing the fear of rejection is on you remember that receiving a no thank you or no response is not the end of the world like i said i've been rejected so many times it just rolls off my back you know it's just like anything else in it and don't get upset i had this beautiful hot wife i met her a couple weeks ago we were vibing and i thought we were vibing at least all right we're at the bar we're vibing and all that stuff and we're talking for three hours so we go our separate ways to give a little kiss i want to be respectful we walk away you know and i email her my i text her my phone number on tinder never heard from her uh finally i emailed so i said fuck it i'll email her on tinder see what the fuck's going on and she told me well she didn't say anything at first and i said so when are we gonna get back together she goes i don't think so i don't see a connection i don't have a connection with you and to me i'm like we talked and talked for three half three and a half hours and stuff like that she didn't block me off at tender usually when they're not interested a woman will just you know delete your chat with her and you can't get a hold of her again she didn't do it she didn't do it for weeks so i just started talking to her just saying hey how you doing what's going on uh just keeping it open and she's like well yadda texted me and we text back and forth so you know i asked her go uh just a couple days ago hey you know do you want to go get a massage and anything because we're both you're both we're both stressed out so let's go get massages like well yeah okay i would but i don't want to lead you on and i go to her i go listen lady i've been rejected a hundred million times in my lifetime you rejecting me is not hurting me but you know what i do need some good friends outside of the lifestyle why can't we be just be friends stuff like that i'm not looking for anything you don't you already said you're not interested in me sexually or anything like that so let's just go out go get massages go get pedicures just hang out and stuff because we are the same she wants to get fucked by dudes and she wants she loves the hot life lifestyle her husband she don't like her husband which is sad but they're getting the force now and I'm sorry to hear about that I'm sorry to hear about that but you know you know we have a lot of things in common we can use each other you know help each other out but she's so worried because she rejected me that it wouldn't it would be awkward I go it's not awkward unless you make it awkward because like I said, I have been received a 10,000 millions more, no thank yous from couples and it's okay.

I have gotten used to it. It doesn't hurt you. So guys, if you get rejected, it's okay. There are other couples out there, couples. If you get rejected, there are other couples out there, guys. It's not the end of everything. I know a lot of people will go, oh, is it because we're fat, we're ugly, stuff like that. They go, you know what? I have seen it where some of the ugliest women have gotten more couples and more single dudes than anybody on the planet.

Where I've seen good-looking couples who are freaking Brad and Angel Jolie good-looking in prime get no couples it's just all the way your personality is if you have a great personality it doesn't matter your looks I mean I seen like the lady that was really not very good looking her personality was off the charts man we mean her vibe and we had a great time we were able to do things and stuff like that and that's why we go that's why we had a good threesome relationship for all those months that I was in the in town So, let's take a look.

we had a great time we were able to do things and stuff like that and that's why we go that's why we had a good threesome relationship for all those months that i was in the in town because we just vied and we hit it off it was just like having the best friend and then that's when looks don't matter like i said i have met couples where they told me no a year later they're like hey man you know you know we're looking for a guy you want to party with my wife and i hell yeah you know i had to wait a year to do it but fuck it was worth it so it's just you got to be able to take those rejections with just a grain of salt okay they don't like me they might not like me today but guess what they might like me tomorrow they might like me two years from now they might like me two years from now.

They might like me 10 years from now. So you just never know. Be very, very polite when you get rejected. Don't worry about it. There is guys. There's trust me. There's a couple out there that will bang you couples. There's other people, couples that out there will bang you guys. So don't worry about it. One key to success is to connect with couples based on common interests just beyond sex. Like I said, when I got rejected, but they are still members of the club, we see them once in a while. You know, I'm dancing. I'm having a good time. You know, they might strike up a conversation with me.

You know, we might start talking about work. We might be in the same work field. We might be done the same stuff. We might be from the same state. You know, you go, when I was living in Florida, you get a lot of people that are from the north down there and you could talk about the stuff about being in the north compared to being in florida and stuff like that so you start building those connections and those slowly start building and building so that no that first rejection might later turn into a yes later so now let's explore how to make the first contact meaningful and respectful. Alright?

So, the do's and don'ts of connecting swingers with swingers for the very first time. Let's examine some examples of what not to send. Alright? The following examples should be avoided and often lead to being ignored by other swingers, which I do. The generic greeting like, hi, or how was your day?

That won't work in a lot of swingers you know experienced swingers will not take that all right they'll just say okay whatever delete another one direct sexual propositions hey i want to fuck your wife i hear a lot of this guys stop doing this to couples they don't want guys don't want to hear that they want to you know what do you bring to the table dude what do you bring to the table what do you bring that the husband don't because the husband can fuck her all right what do you bring what do you bring to the table that's why i look at when i'm dating what did that good lady bring to the table and all that so what do you bring to the table i want to fuck your wife doesn't bring anything tell me all right you know you're a good pussy eater you're very uh intimate you're very exotic you're very soft you're you can fuck hard you can follow directions stuff but just saying hey i want to fuck your wife is not going to work it's not going to cut it when i'm at the club it's different but this is online so if you want to meet people online you don't have those clubs around you but you got to meet people guys and couples don't just say hey we want to fuck your wife we want to fuck this this and that couples do it too listen everyone thinks guys do this no couples do this shit too couples will send hey we want to fuck all right great you want to fuck good job okay no problem all right that's it all right no explicit or unsolicited photos like i said guys don't send your dick pics married men when you're at a cup when you're at the couple i don't understand that they'll send me their dicks and the wife will be fully clothed you're gonna send me your dick pics and your wife's pussy pic you know you know what i'm saying don't just sit there going send me nothing send me both single men never ever send your dick pic to anybody i think i think it's against the law actually so just be smart send a nice picture of you in a suit looking good you can't smell but anyways just you know something that don't make you look like you're a slob or you're just a man whore.

You know, like I said, not everyone can be AC. I'm a man whore or whatever. I love sex. I can't help it. All right. Canned, impersonal messages that show little effort to read and understand the recipient's profile. Like I said, put in information in your profile, in your response about the person's profile.

Hey, I like that you like to go hiking you know you guys like going to cancun stuff like that i do that too stuff like that so it makes you hey they read my profile honey look at this guy read a profile hey honey this couple read a profile she's in the medical field too they're an oil and gas initiative they're engineers too stuff like that so you know you get that connection but you just put something like hey i just uh this my name is tim um five foot eight got an eight inch penis um disease free that's it that's not a very personal message that's a very impersonal message it sounds like you copy and paste and send it to 100 people you know and honestly i used to do that when i first started i would just copy and paste one ad i would just write one response to a couple and send it out to people and like i said i never got anything now when i started doing personal stuff where i put information from their ad and all that i started getting more now a lot of them what they do now because they admit it to they just look at the picture.

They'll get an email from me. They look at the pictures. The wife likes it. Yes. The wife don't like it. There's no response. So, you know, it is what it is. So now let's discuss what makes great first messages. Your initial context should include the following. A brief introduction about yourself. Your height, weight, whatever.

Your hair, salt and pepper pepper stuff like that um you know acknowledgement that you have read and reviewed the profile that'd be great so that brief so look at it the brief introduction about yourself is one paragraph something that talks about their other their their profile that you read and reviewed could be the second paragraph then the third paragraph can be common interests or connections beyond sexual attraction that could be be three paragraphs right there. So now, as a single guy, you're not that dude that just writes, I want to fuck your wife. Hello, how are you doing?

Stuff like that. Couples, same thing. You took time out to read our profile. You know, maybe you're not what we always seek out, but you know what? Because you did it, we might actually take time to get to know you. And maybe later on, we might play with you. You know, so couples, that can happen, work for couples too. Use polite, respectful, polite language with no pressure. Things like that. Just say, you know, with no pressure, if you don't want to meet or anything like that, just let me know, say thanks, but no thanks, anything like that.

Ens that many any pictures that included are pg rated and aligned with the recipient's preferences unless otherwise stayed in the profile never send a dick pic if they're unless they ask because sometimes they'll ask you must have a picture of the proof of size all right so uh you can do two things you can send the picture i don't recommend it or Or you can say, send me a text message so I can send you the picture of proving my size and all that. All right? Things like that. So just make sure, like I said, don't, you know, I don't know the laws and each state is different.

It's just better not to send a dick pic or a pussy pic or anything like that because you never know who's on the other side of that thing because there's crazy people out there and there's crazy people in the lifestyle you know i know a lot of people sit there say how great the lifestyle is but there's some shady ass people in the lifestyle so be careful here are some ideas for your first contact message ask a question about something in their profile or their pictures hey you went to hedonism hey uh you like going you like going mountain climbing and stuff like that?

You could do stuff like that. Mention the common interest, showing that you have taken time to read the profile. How you're a nurse too? I'm a nurse too. Yada. Things like that. Briefly introduce yourself and highlight a specific aspect of your profile that may interest them. Maybe they're looking for hung men. Maybe you're hung. Maybe they're looking for, uh, uh, couples. Maybe they're looking for a young couple or a mature couple. Maybe you're that young couple that wants to fuck a 50 or 60 year old couple. Like I fucked that 70 year old lady at Red Rooster in Las Vegas.

And that, that was a, that was a bucket list item. I always wanted to do that. Uh, invite them to a non-committal open-ended activity such as dinner, drinks, or a club event. A club event, I don't know because I guess that's kind of assuming that you're going to be playing because you go to a swinger club, but I don't know. I would just invite them out to a nice drink, you know, go to a dinner. And you know what? As a single guy, I always say I will pay. Like the rooms, I'll pay for the rooms and I'll pay for the dinner. All right? So that's just me as a single guy.

A lot of single guys will not pay. And a lot of couples will refuse to take the stuff like that as a gentleman and stuff like that. But maybe it's because of my old age. You know, being 48, you learn to do things that are very different now these days at age where people are, you know, couples are, I don't know, I don't know, where people are not just doing all the stuff that they're used to do. Couples are, you know, women are paying for a first date and stuff like that.

I never, ever had a woman pay first date so i don't know it's just weird but i always like i said i always end up paying for the dinners and the drinks or whatnot for couples when i meet them because you know it's it's just a gentleman thing to do but anyway she's just meeting at a club or venue you both frequent all right yeah that could be true now if you're newbie swingers, that probably ain't going to happen. But if you're veteran swingers, you've been doing it for a while, and you both go to the same club, tell them you're going to, hey, we're going to be there Saturday night.

You're going to be there? Yeah, okay, let's meet up. Let's have a talk. And that's the way you do it. Always be sure to address both members of the couple to avoid overly sexual compliments or pressure. All right? This is the one thing that guys fuck up, and i don't like it when i take a girl to a club if a guy does not talk to me it's a no if the guy talks to her when i go to the bathroom it's a no if you're a guy you should come up to both the husband introduce yourself first to the husband shake his hand shake his hand look him in the yourself to the woman.

Because ultimately, you know, it's going to be the guy who decides, it's going to say, hey, give you okay too. Because you've got to have both okays. The woman might be all down to fuck you and all that stuff, but the husband, like, no, this dude disrespected me, stuff like that. Because I see it as a sign of disrespect when you talk to the woman only.

Now, there'll be times, guys, gentlemen, I this in the in the 20 plus years there are times where you talk to you try to talk to the guy and the guy ain't having it he don't want to talk he's like pulling teeth for whatever reason then that's when you work on the wife because i had it where you know i but i had situations where you know i'd be talking to the wife and the husband and the husband don't have answers. He just sits there and is quiet and all that. And that's fine. But then I end up fucking his wife in the back for some odd reason because she's down to it.

Some guys are just there because they're just, they don't want to talk. They just want to relax and they let their wife do all the work. That's fine. If that's one of those couples, then good. You don't have to, you know, talk to the wife. Just make sure, acknowledge them once in a while and all that stuff. But if it's not like that where the husband is fully involved and he loves to talk and all that, make sure he's in the conversation. Talk to him more because, you know, he's going to be the one that's going to tell her, you know, maybe you should fuck this dude.

So take these guidelines and take considerations and make sure the first message reflects genuine interest and respect. And everybody else, good luck with your swinger interactions because you're going to need it. I mean, even for couples, it's hard out there for them to get a response into an ad and all that.

So you just don't know man like i said swinging is a weird lifestyle one minute it sounds great the next minute it sounds not too great and it's just a little tough sometimes and you know you just got to be very patient with this and all that so with that i hope you enjoyed this episode because you know i did i always enjoy hanging out with you and talking to you and sharing my experiences as a swinger remember this is the swinging single podcast this is me ac at maxwell talking about my years as a swinging single guy i'm not a couple uh anything like that so all my opinions are based off through the eyes of a single male not anybody not a couple you know you see these couples talk have their podcast which they're great most of them are great at least it's through their eyes and they have a different take like i said if you're a couple out there you're gonna have a different experience hopefully you have a better experience than i have as a single man So with that go to SwingingSinglePodcast.com To see all things AC Shave your cock and balls gentlemen Go to SwingingSinglePodcast At gmail.com Send me an email, party invite or whatever AC will be there But remember you know Swinging should be fun Have it, enjoy it, don't take it too serious It's not life And enjoy your 2025, don't drink and drive Okay.

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