In this must-listen episode of the Swinging Single Podcast, your charismatic host AC Maxwell tackles a subject as sensitive as it is sensational—how to approach your spouse about entering the swinging lifestyle. This episode ventures into the complex and nuanced conversation about swinging, aiming to provide a comprehensive guide on how to broach the topic with care, respect, and clear communication.Join AC as he navigates the intricate dynamics of swinging persuasion, offering invaluable insights and advice for those considering this exhilarating yet challenging transition. Expect to hear real stories from couples who’ve successfully opened up their relationship, along with expert opinions on the do’s and don’ts of introducing your spouse to the idea of swinging.Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of the importance of consent, mutual respect, and open dialogue in ensuring both partners feel heard, valued, and excited about exploring new experiences together. This episode is crafted for those curious about swinging, individuals hoping to share this aspect of their desires with their partner, and couples eager to deepen their connection through new adventures.Tune in to this compelling episode of the Swinging Single Podcast with AC Maxwell, and discover how to embark on this intimate journey with your partner in a way that’s thoughtful, loving, and ultimately rewarding.[Show continues]
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hey everyone and welcome back to the swinging single podcast the show that throws open the doors to the most tantalizing and titillating conversations about the lifestyle as always i'm your host ac maxwell here to guide you through the maze of modern swinging so on today's plate we've got a hearty serving of truth and tales that might just hit close to home for some. We're delving into the delicate topic of partners and persuasion. The good, the bad, and the potentially awkward.
It's all about what happens when someone in a relationship wants to bring swinging into the mix, but needs to convince their partner to go for it now this is tricky business my friends we're talking about an intricate dance of communication desires boundaries and respect i share both stories of success that open up new dimensions of intimacy and tales of caution where folks learn that even not every relationship is ready or willing for that kind of venture so stick around because you're also going to get into how to approach the sensitive conversation the importance of consent and mutual enthusiasm and why pressure has no place in the swingers world this is an episode for everyone who's ever thought about introducing swing it to the significant other and for those who are just plain curious about what goes on behind closed or open doors so join me whether you're listening alone or with that special someone by your side get ready for the real raw respectful exploration of the swinging persuasion this is the swinging single podcast the swinging single podcast with host ac maxwell is intended for entertainment and Thank you.
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How else are you going to do it? You're just going to fucking not say anything ever and just one day hope that your wife comes home? Honey, I feel like I want to eat some pussy. You want to have a threesome? I doubt that, you know. Now, granted, these younger generation gals are very, very, what do you call it, very liberal with their sexual prowess. And they're told to spread their legs on any time. If it feels good, just do it. So maybe them, but if you're in my age, a Gen Xer and all that, it might have to be a little doubt.
You might have to talk to your, uh, lady about swinging and all that. If you want to get her into swinging. All right. You know, swing is not for everybody. I tell everybody just because it looks good in paper. It always looks good on paper. But, you know, swinging is not for everybody. Not everyone's made to be swinging and swapping partners. Some people are just made to be monogamous. And there's nothing wrong with that at all. You know, be proud that you're a monogamous, that you can be monogamous. But, you know, not everybody can.
But we have to respect everybody because swingers always talk about we want respect from other people, but yet swingers don't want to respect everybody else's decision. Oh, it's so stupid. If you ever go in the chat rooms and you hear, oh, it's so stupid to think that you're supposed to be monogamous for just one person. I go, yeah, some people do want to be monogamous for one person. They don't want to be fucking everything on the block. So, you know, it's one of those days where you go, okay, so, you's, it is what it is. So let's talk about it right now. So the question was, I composed.
And the second one, let's talk about the other one is how dangerous is it for swingers to be emotionally involved? If a couple gets with another couple, you know, a couple gets another guy, another girl.
I haduchess of dick on here and we saw the warnings of what it could be when you get emotionally involved where it can break up a marriage all right so let's go over some of the things i saw so even the and this is i think this first one the first one i came up popped up in this one was a great uh way i thought trying to get your wife um trying to get your wife and husband into the swingers lifestyle so it says in our case we started to watch porn movies especially lifestyle swingers porn i said that from day one if you ever listen if you've been on my podcast you've been listening like loyalty and all that that's great and all that so from day one i always said if you really want to talk get you see gauge your partner's um response to being in the swinging lifestyle i said watch threesome porn watched uh orgy stuff like that and when you're watching that porn together talk about hey do you ever think about doing that or have you done it because you know what if she's gone to college gentlemen trust me she's probably ate a pussy so she's probably done some of this when she went to college you know most girls do not all most girls have done come on ladies let's be honest when you go to college you start a little let loose get away from mom and dad you start drinking alcohol pussy starts tasting better and all that then you all of a sudden become mother theresa when you get married and all that but i always said and i told one of my friends she wants to do a male female male threesome so she wants to take get two dicks she wants to get split roasted i always tell her go talk to the guy and see what he is oh i don't know how to do i go watch a porn next time you guys are together watch a porn and see how that goes in fact i'm gonna text her i'm gonna text her right now let's see how that thing went because she saw this man um she's a real good friend of mine she lives on the east coast she went out to flew out to see this man and she wants to he she thinks he's one of the guys that would do the male female a male threesome so did you talk about having a threesome with your buddy last weekend so i'm gonna ask and i'm gonna send it and let's see what miss d says no not dick not dutch is a dick either dutch is a dick's got a new man and she's happily and i'm happy for her and i'm i'm rooting for her hopefully it works out so going back to my thing she said i told her go watch porn and just gauge what is reaction if he's like oh that's fucking disgusting i don't want to do nothing then you probably are going not going to convince this dude to be a swinger with you or do a threesome with you especially another dude now if he's like okay i'm i wouldn't mind if you want to do it i'll do it then there you go you're off and running and you're in there all right so my husband asked me if i would ever be prepared to try it and i said that i would but would probably prefer the male male female threesome all right so there you go she wants two guys she doesn't want two girls she probably uh fucked a lot of girls in college so now she wants the dick she wants the d boys she wants the d we got to give her the d all right so let me see hold on one second and let's see we searched for suitable thirds online and by answering print ads unfortunately didn't find a suitable guy which is always the biggest bugaboo but biggest complaint with couples that they can't find what they're looking for online and all that and you know i i think it just depends uh how picky you're going to be if you got to have a certain type or anything, me, you just got to have a workable dick.
When I bring my girls to the club, my partners to the club, just have a workable dick. Making sure it can get hard. No limp dicks are allowed, you know, and all that shit. Like limp dick couple and TPC. So living in California, we often visit clothing optional. Beaches on the weekend. Good.
During one visit, we we chatted up a mature guy probably 30 plus years older than us whoa older damn 30 years a very nice easygoing guy very well endowed oh see now see gentlemen if you want to find other swingers you want to get involved in the lifestyle go to swing resort especially if you got a nice size cock get a ruler out get it hard. If you're fucking close to eight inches, seven, if you're over seven inches, dudes, go to these swingers, go to these nudistry beaches because a lot of swingers go there and they're looking for dick for their girl. It's an advertisement.
It's the easiest advertisement. You can go online. You could do an ad. You could put a fucking Coke can up against your cock.
But it't do it justice what we'll do it just is being in person at a nude beach at a nude place so the girls can see how big hung you are because you got let's face it every woman says oh it doesn't really matter about size and we know they're lying gentlemen they're lying i was uh listening to a podcast from a girl up north in canada and she's had four three of her girlfriends and they're having a round table dick size and all the girls were like no no no you know i don't really care about a big dick or anything like that and all that so you know in their chat i you know you know me you know ac i go i call them out on it go well then why is it every time i look at a swingers ad for a couple looking for a single dude they always want them to be well hung if size doesn't matter and they never answered that question they never talked about it but that's all right but i just i just want to think well if it was true that size doesn't matter then don't want to be no well hung in those ads it is so it is what it is so but if you guys if you're seven plus inches go to those nude resorts show off especially if you're a shower now you know what ladies and other couples out there there are guys who are growers not showers now there are showers that whatever you see there is what how big it's going to get when it's hard it doesn't grow any bigger so you got to look for that so my husband suggested that we go on to some dunes out in the public view within seconds i was on my knees giving head to this stranger with my husband looking on who was obviously aroused by what he was seeing i needed no encouragement when he told me to let the guy fuck me as soon as i was on my knees the guy is pounding me doggy style until i felt his warm comb squirted inside of me.
It wasn't pre-planned. Just happened spontaneously. And this is how I prefer to do these days to do spontaneous. All right. So there you go. There's one good answer. You know, there's not anything that's bad about it or anything like that. All right. And so, and all that. So, you know, it can happen.
Like I said, she did, I think they did a, the couple did a great thing thing they looked at internet porn they or whatever porn they had at the time they did lifestyle porn they talked about it and they decided it was okay and she was all right with it you know you're just not going to you know have it so it doesn't have to be about convincing anyone we had been married for over 20 years when while watching porn at home and we began asking each other how we felt see there you go see what i said the porn thing works guys i told him i'd be open to trying out a party without the pressure of me having to have sex with anyone beyond maybe having a giving a few blowjobs all right so let me let's break this down so she wanted to go to a party she's okay to go to a party she didn't want to do anything other than get blowjobs.
Now, to me, as a veteran swinger, that's just fucking weird. Because you know what? A lot of times people, like a newbie, would say, I don't want to do it. Let's just go to a club or go to a party and not do anything.
But she put in her response that she didn't want to do anything with anybody other than get blowjobs so she's not gonna have intercourse with anyone fine that's fine that's their thing that's you know mrs b's thing she wants to do that but it's just weird to me is like you go from i don't want to do porn i mean i don't want to do swinging all right let's check it out but when we check it out i'll just get blowjobs great so all right back to it i felt a little uneasy because i knew my husband was or is exceptionally well in doubt oh good for her and perfectly straight shaft cuss circumcised and i enjoy just watching tv next to him sucking on it without trying to make him come unlike so many storytellers my husband was a real eight in length measured on the top and usually six inches girth but sometimes it feels thicker the head is beautiful jesus christ so this is about how beautiful her husband's cock is instead of talking about how she got into it so this is probably where she's trying to get so what's happening right now it's not a woman typing this it's a man typing it and he's trying to up play it and he's going to get some girls because it works he'll get some couples email Oh, no, shaped and the biggest turn on for me is when he comes his orgasm starts to build and great feel great for him and the part is breathing hard and shaking going escalate 30 seconds of inflow and pumping in my to my mouth sometimes as well fuck what oh god i'm sure you're going on a video okay anyways when we decided to try going to a house party we were surprised to run into a people we knew and i worked with how the fucking now that's amazing because 20 plus years i've been doing this, I only ran into one person that I ever worked with or I ever known.
I never ran into anybody I knew. I never ran into any other people that I worked with. Just one. And that was back when I was living in Buffalo, New York. And that was, fuck, like 2002, 2003. So I wanted to take it slow and walk around and see what others were doing. It wasn't a bunch of body slapping and some people looking insecure as their spouse was totally into the activity. I felt my husband was nearly hard, so I stood in front of him with my hands behind me, massaging his really hard whatever.
Just then, a lady, much older than us, slid up to me and asked, So, is this your first time at a fuck party huh so this must be fuck how long ago was this like back in the 80s i never heard anyone say that to me oh welcome to this fuck party you've been to a fuck party i never 20 plus years never anyone mentioned the swinger party is a fuck party i tried to be funny asking her why is it that obvious she laughed and said no one was tell us what to do, but if my husband didn't mind, he should take off his pants and allow others to see his erection and react to it.
This is totally a dude writing this. It's not Miss B. This ain't a woman. Because no woman fucking writes like this about her husband's cock. Because what happened was, what would be, she found another guy with a big hard cock, and she's going to talk about that big fucking hard cock not her husband she suggested i sit down sit him down and just have fun sucking him she said wow his cock is a work of god definitely a girl dude writing this i i didn't know what to say about five minutes later she asked if i if i'd mind if She sucked on him for a bit.
I looked at him, and he said, it's all up to you, sweetheart. She liked it.
didn't know what to say about five minutes later she asked if i if i'd mind if she sucked on him for a bit i looked at him and he and he said it's all up to you sweetheart she liked what he kept himself shaved all the time she gently people gotta do english she gently took both his balls into her mouth and lightly see this is a fucking dude writing it this is not anything so i don't know what the fuck so i'm not jesus christ yeah because it goes on for actually this response is one two three four five six paragraphs wrong and no i'm sorry that wasn't a woman who wrote it she got too detailed and all that you know she just got too long and you know what her husband cock he doesn't have a cock he she loves the cock not and it's no let's see another one we weren't married but our relationship was strong okay we'll see about that the couple we made love to was her old boyfriend and her and my old girlfriend which is which we already had sex with it was cool i do feel like it made us closer all right how fucking weird is that hey honey you ever think about swapping yeah who do you want to swap with i don't know how about our exes who the fuck why the would you even go there?
You're an ex. This is what I always tell people. You're an ex for a reason. You know that? So, I never, you can't go fucking back. Let's see. Let's see. All right. All right.
When my pretty wife and I start swinging years back, okay, it doesn how he started when i answer the first question yes it brought us closer together to answer the next question i didn't convince her of anything my wife and i have great sex life it was one uh it was one of the reasons why i knew she was the one for me 12 years after we met things were still great but routine okay so i guess routines can be great we have always watched porn together mostly playboy tv and once in a while hardcore porn we talked about it for years without the tv show swingers uh on the pp on the playboy that swinger playboy shit was so fucking fake and we enjoyed watching it together after some time we would sometimes play that she was with more than one guy or another woman was joining us for sex i bet you it was the woman joining them for sex more and things led from there to a discussion discussing what our rules would be if there were if we were to try it from there it just became a side sexual joke for us and we would tease each other from doing it i had her put a profile on tinder see tinder you can use tinder from there we enjoyed seeing the guys who thought they had a chance or who just really embarrassed themselves with dick pics seriously don't send dick pics unless you're asked to her profile said she was married which didn't deter many men and over time she adjusted her profile indicate what right.
So, to me, Mr. P, you're kind of an asshole. Because we enjoyed seeing guys who thought they had a chance. Oh, so I know your wife. I understand your wife's the greatest fucking piece of ass. But let's face it.
Women like to things and they can easily get laid you know and just because a guy wants to fuck your wife doesn't make you know isn't something where okay so your wife is uh hot your wife might fuck him how do you know she might tell you no but in the back of her head and inside her pussy trust me if there's a fucking eight inch cock in that side those trousers that they your your hot wife might be fucking some ugly dudes because you know what you see it on only fans you see it on twitter some of these girls these guys have some of the biggest cocks eight nine ten inches and they're fucking some of the hottest women now why are they fucking those hot women because they got a fucking dick this big all right so when you say we you enjoyed seeing the guys who thought they had a chance that just means you're an asshole you're probably a fucking asshole too so i'm i'll say i don't give a shit you're probably an asshole for saying that shit it's not cool that you would say something like that here's one guy he said I didn't convince her it just happened okay we went to a friend's house for dinner to watch a football game drinks were had we were a little bit tipsy but nobody was drunk so after the game ended we weren't in the mood we weren't in the mood for the evening to end we don't recall exactly how to start but Sarah our friend's wife uh asked Kim if she ever kissed a girl okay so that's what happened so they had it all planned out all right cool so it just happens and you know what that's that's a lot of times sometimes it does just happen you know um you know here's one alcohol again alcohol is bad all right so under the influence of heavy alcohol while the wife and i were on vacay in the caribbean islands i got blindly drunk at a clothing optional beach resort to the point where i asked a big tall muscular to have sex with my wife all of us were heavy under the influence and well they did it within an hour of me asking him they had sex in his room and he walked her back to our room both full of okay so i i'll call did it all right did you see anything nothing so they don't really talk about closer try communication first no matter how painful or difficult it may be okay he doesn't say anything about did it make him closer i hope it did make him closer because you know it kind of it would be fucking just shitty if you try swinging and it just fucking tears you apart i always hate having to hear those couples when they get uh all that stuff because of the fact that you know it's a great lifestyle really it is it's just that you gotta weed through the bullshit there and this is like it's just like swinging is just regular life when podcasters here spew their lies about oh it's a great lifestyle you'll meet some of the most wonderful people in the world yeah you might meet some of the most wonderful people but you're also going to meet some of the worst people in the world there are some horrible horrible people in this lifestyle and it's just like in the world it's like when you go to work you got good workers you got shitty workers in the swinging lifestyle you got good swingers you got bad swingers and it just hurts when one a couple who jumps into it not knowing fully the commitment that it takes and the and the communication that it takes and all that jump into it then later on you find out they're no longer together they're separated they're divorced or anything like that it's just it's heartbreaking because you know swingers you gotta stop being selfish these are these people have kids and families and that tears people up i know on tiktok you hear girls i'm so glad to be divorced i'm so happy okay great but you know what your fucking kids what about your kids man how do they feel so you know you always gotta remember for every swing or couple there's a family behind that couple you me all the other couples so we gotta be very careful when we you know when we get into this stuff all right convincing people to get into it it's not like i always said the reality the fantasy is always better than the reality the reality of it is there are consequences in the fantasies you think about your head your wife kissing other girls eating pussy like fuck the other girl in your head it's fucking great there's no consequences to it anything like that you know remember sometimes these fucking when threesomes go wrong someone gets pregnant explain that to your family when that baby comes out so you know there are problems and i have known couples that got pregnant by the third male or the third female got pregnant by the married man and that threesome couple so you know it's there's a lot of shit but anyways so going back to convincing um convincing your partner to do something i don't know so but here's a good one i thought this was a very good one that and it comes from a young cat and i'm very proud of this young guy young young man because i think how they did it was good so he said i recently approached my wife about joining a lifestyle approach is a better word convince is not a good word swingers don't like convince you shouldn't have to convince anybody approaches i think is a better word so he approached her my wife was not sure she even cried but she told me yesterday that she would give it a try if we do a couples now only thing i could say about this dude how they did it is when she cried that should have been an automatic fuck nope this ain't it's not worth it just have the fancy in your head bro because you don't know because right now if she's crying because you're talking about having another female and you being inside another female and another man being inside of her that is where the problem, you know, you're going to have a lot of problems.
And she's crying about that. Jesus, you know, just think of you at two years, three years, four or five. And the emotions start kicking in with another couple. You start hanging out with another couple and you know, you got to worry about that stuff. So I thought, I thought right there, right there, if. If I like when I talk to women about my as a potential partner in the swinging lifestyle, if they have that reaction, I just said, they say, no, we're not doing it. I don't care if you want even want to try it now. Go try it with someone else.
But it's not going to be with me because, you know, I know your heart's not into it. So I would have stopped there. So now how did I convince her? I never did. Everything i did was being honest with her and gave her time to choose for herself if we were we we want it or not i gave her the time to think about it and never ask back what she thinks about it it waited and waited until she came to me with an answer, which is fucking excellent. The porn and bringing it up. So many men will hound their wives about, are we going to do this?
Every time he fucking tries to stick his dick in it, are we going to fuck another person? Are we going to fuck another person? That's where that pisses her off. You let her, okay, you put, you, it's like a, think about it like you're planting a garden. You plant the garden, you plant the seed, you water it, and it grows. The seed is asking her about it. Watering it is the time, and with the time, she'll grow to answer your question. He did it perfectly.
That's why I said this young man, he only says he's 28 at the time he wrote this that's fucking good for a young cat like that to be able to say i didn't convince her or anything i just let it happen he put the seed into her brain she he watered it with the time and it blossomed into a conversation great now they can have that fucking conversation that every couple should have i told her like this hey i need to talk with you i'm very happy with you our bonding is very strong and i think it is the best time to expand our sex life i'm thinking about swinging as my wife began to cry uncomfortable jesus christ she's a crier i comfort her and once she calmed down i asked her what made her cry and this is going to be what the number one word answer is going to be for every woman and even men she told me that she was afraid she is not good enough for me and why i want to have another partner in bed now this is where you have to be very smart, very integral.
Now, if you're not very smart and you know if you're smart or not, stop the conversation like they're okay and just say, hey, honey, you know what? Before we get too emotional, before we get into that and start getting in a fight, why don't we just hold off? Let's wait 24 hours before we come back to this topic. Now, the 24 hours gives you time to think of your right answer to say because if you Thank you.
hold off let's wait 24 hours before we come we'll come back to this topic now the 24 hours gives you time to think of your right answer to say because if you say the wrong thing you're fucked and not in a good way you're fucked in a very bad way because she might say no to swinging all right and you're trying to you know get her to do this you're getting or your male partner to this because you know what it's happened to men too i know men who like fucking like got angry their wife wants to do this and now the wife's doing it behind their back but you know it's fucked up anyways so i told her that i don't have the urge to try it immediately and if she doesn't want it that i we won't do it good answer because i'm more happy with her and don't want to force her into something against her will good answer I just wanted to her I just wanted her to know that I'm thinking about it great answer he didn't say she was not enough and that he was horny all the time he just said I'm happy with you I just thought maybe it was something to expand you know something I we don't have to do it immediately and like i said number one guy's mistake fucking when we're going to do this when we're going to do this hound your wife your hound your male partner into doing it and it just fucking ends everything and it sucks for everybody and you don't have that great relationship that you think you have so after the conversation i told her that she can take time to think about it.
Great. And let me know when she is ready to talk about it. Since then, I never asked for my side. There you go. You he's planted the seed. The time is the water and it's going to grow and she'll eventually talk. I had one time I did have a partner. I was actually going to get married to her. It's mid-20s, and I did the same thing. I told her, listen, honey, I did what this young cat did. I wanted to let you know that I'm a swinger. I participated in swinging activities. All right, I just wanted you to go, did threesomes, gang bangs, and all that.
So I i told her everything i go to club stuff now i'm not asking you to do it with me i'm not asking you to even swing with me i just want to let you know my past sexual history because you know i really i'm into you i'm willing to be monogamous with you we don't have to do anything but i just want to let you know that i was a swinger and i have gone to clubs swinger clubs and all that stuff and i go to swinger parties things like that i have gone and stuff like that uh and i just want to let you know i just want to let you know so you can make an informed decision should we get married or not and so you know never brung up swinging ever again because we were fucking like rabbits anyways and we're in our fucking mid-20s i'm hard as a rock every five minutes her pussy's wetter than the fucking niagara falls and we're fucking all over the place well i think she moves in she didn't say anything she ends up moving in with me a month later it's about mid-april she's like hey i want to go to a swingers club i'm like what he goes yeah i want to go see to a singers club i want to see what it's like i want to see what people do and all that i go are you sure i mean there's gonna be people having sex there's gonna be new people there's gonna be people 30 years older than us saggy titty saggy balls stuff like that you're not gonna you know it's people that you don't want to see naked you're gonna see them naked are you cool with that you're gonna see people fucking you're you cool so yeah i want to see it so okay all right i'll find a club for us to go now we're in michigan now there ain't a lot there's not there's one on-premise club at the time that i knew of all right a lot of the other clubs were what we call off-premises and that's where it would be like at a local bar or vfw you just meet our swingers and you go off to your hotel rooms and you fuck i said all right and so i found the club all the way on the west side i think it's the meeting place what's it called called?
It's in Pawpaw, Michigan. So me and her go, we're the youngest motherfuckers in the place. And we had a great time. She loved the attention because, you know, let's face it, ladies love attention. Ladies are attention whores, I call them.
She loved the attention that she got from everybody in the you know the building and all that so you know we go off and do our thing and we people are watching us i blow my load up because i didn't bring a towel i had to use my shirt to clean the jizz off her i'm blowing fucking gallons of cum and you know that was it and we started swinging that's how we started swinging i never bothered her with it i didn't discuss it with her or anything like this i just was open and honest one day one night a couple months later three within three months later she was like and i told her it's because we're moving in together.
She wanted to move in. I thought it was a great, her lease was up. I thought it was a great idea for us to save money. I just started accounting, making fucking, I think I was making like 20 grand a year. She's fucking working for a auto parts supplier. So we, you know, it was like a good thing. You know, okay. So we decided that. I don't know, like I said, I was going to really be monogamous. She's a beautiful woman. Still a beautiful woman today. And all that. I'm glad she's happy and everything. But, you know, I just never said anything about it. We'd watch porn together.
You know, she talked about it. She liked the idea of two men. She liked that. That one night we went there, she sucked off a dude.
She gave a blowjob to job to some guy to a younger guy and all that so I thought that the younger guy would be a lot easier because she'd be happy and she had to work her way up to the older gentleman because like I said all these 20 year olds get in this lifestyle complain about there's too many old people well the problem is guess what 20 year olds in 20 years guess what you're gonna be those old people so you might as just get used to old people and just be open to playing with old people. So this cat has done it right. So he has three things. Now, three of them are very good.
He said, number one, don't try to convince your spouse. Well, you kind of got to convince your spouse a little bit. Like I said convincing is a bad word i think uh you just approach your wife or you approach your husband with this uh option in life and you do the way this young cat's done hey and this is on reddit too to have an honest communication about it yeah be honest with me like know, sometimes people get into swinging because their sex lives are horrible. I have fucked women. And after I fucked them, I go, I know why that's this couple fucking swings. Horrible. She's horrible in bed.
She doesn't fucking move. She's like a dead fucking fish. And I'm watching this guy pound this girl. And he's fucking all over the place.
He's's got a doggy style he's got her fucking bent upside down he's fucking around against the wall while the wife is just sitting there a missionary uh uh fuck me yeah come in me uh i'm like what the fuck so you know but the community could be honest communication no one's gonna like hearing that you want to swing at first because they're gonna have that reaction well i'm not am i not good enough and more it'll be more than women more but men too men will be like what i'm not good enough lover for you i'm not hung enough my dick isn't big enough listen all gentlemen all men have dick issues we all think our dick could be bigger like i said if there's any plastic surgeons out there who can make a dick bigger you will become a next billionaire because every fucking dude is going to flock to you make it cheap affordable though don't get fucking 100 grand we got to get it 10 grand under 20 grand get a new dick good you're good you'll make a lot of money you'll make billions buddy all right so get on that just be honest about why you want to swing what's the purpose of it is it to bring you closer uh i never really bought into that it brings you closer because shouldn't you be closer anyways you're fucking married you share kids you share families you share everything together you know you're supposed to be like your best friends and all that so i don't know about it brings you closer but you got to have that communication where this is why i want to do it i want to do it because i just you know i'm I don't know about it brings you closer but you got to have that communication where this is why I want to do it I want to do it because I just you know I'm I like the idea of watching with other people you know and sometimes you know try not to sound so selfish oh I want to have a threesome with another girl because it's always been a fantasy of mine okay we get it it's been a fantasy of yours but what does she get out of it so if you're going to communicate with her tell us what she's going to get out of the threesome with another girl because it's always been a fantasy of mine okay we get it it's been a fantasy of yours but what does she get out of it so if you're going to communicate with her tell us what she's going to get out of the threesome with another girl and number three wait for the answer and deal with it because i'm guaranteed there's a shit ton of guys whose wives told them fuck no i am never swinging and things like that so don't bother her, so say, like, today's June 26th, you talk to your wife, you have an honest conversation, make sure there's no distractions, you haven't been fighting earlier, or anything like that, make sure it's a, it's like a great day, you're sitting out there watching the sunset, you got a fire, you're on the front porch enjoying the weather and you just bring it up say hey you know can we have a real conversation uh i love our sex life but i think we can expand it a little bit and yada you go from there next day don't bug the shit out of her about it so what do you think what do you think day after that let her don't talk don't ever bring it up until she brings it up because she will bring it up i promise you gentlemen i promise you wives they will bring it up on their own and it will be better for you because if you hound a woman you will fucking put that no seed in her head you will kill it faster than a cold front in Texas with all the plants.
You will kill everything and you will never get what you want. Just allow her to marinate in that thinking. All right. And you'll be a lot happier, guys. I'm trying to tell you. Trust me on this one. Watch some porn. Feel the gauge how they are. Let me see if she, you know, I don't know. Maybe she texts back. I got to text with someone. Oh, she said no. Okay. Well, that sucks. Well, that sucks for Miss D. Miss D really wants it, so she's going to have to get it from the AC train over here. I'm going to have to take her out somewhere and have her get fucked by a bunch of dudes.
Anyways, so make sure you do all that stuff. Make sure you watch porn. Gauge how they react. If they react horribly to the porn, it's probably not going to happen.
But you never never know you never know if you plant the seed uh have open communication don't tell her don't tell him or her it's because you're bad in bed things like that you know what actually sometimes i've seen women got and men got better as they joined the lifestyle and were able to fuck i always ask my part the people the couples i'm with and all that how can i make eat your pussy out better how can i fuck you better Thank you.
as they joined the lifestyle and were able to fuck i always ask my part the people the couples i'm with and all that how can i make eat your pussy out better how can i fuck you better now i'll admit it i i ain't gonna be able to fuck anyone for over 30 minutes it ain't gonna happen unless i blew my load fucking 20 times before i ain't gonna come anymore because you know what i'm very aroused by women what pussy if my if i'm fucking a woman the arousal is so much that i'm gonna blow anyways so i don't have that fucking like i know some guys uh there's one dude that smoochies big fucking dick annoying as shit though because he'll hook up with a couple there they'll be in those those little rooms there.
And he'll fuck her for hours and hours. And they're like, dude, just blow your load. You're not marrying this woman. And I tell guys when they're fucking my partners. I'm like, you got a couple minutes to get in there and get out. Get the fuck out. You know, we're not here. She's doing a game bang. We're not here for you to fucking make love to her. She's not looking for a partner. She has me. But yeah, so I don't last that long. But I always ask, what can I do to be better?
How can I do to be better what how can i use my fingers when i eat you out better because you know sometimes the girl's g-spot is right there at the opening but then i notice that some their g-spot's a little deeper in so you gotta stick your finger deeper in uh and all that how do you lick your clit does she like it up and down side to side now a lot of women like it side to side you know and it does get tiring you can't go that fast doing side to side but now if you flip around her side guess what you're going faster up and down you're up and down on your tongue is going side to side on her clit so you can do that so i've learned that learned that stuff from a couple that I was playing with a long time ago too.
So, you know, I always want to, you know, I'm always learning new things. So I always ask, you know, the communication there. Now you got to have a communication with your husband and wife. Tell her why you want to get into swinging and stuff like that.
Maybe when you're done with that conversation don't bring it up ever again until they bring it up now is there a possibility they never bring it up again yep so that means that was uh their whole action about swinging was a no that's what they're telling you but if you're an asshole you're a good person about it you say hey you know you let that person marinate you let that you planted that seed you watered it and it grows it'll grow and it will come out i guarantee you that lastly you know just give it time respect their decision they say no they say no that ain't gonna hurt all right so that is trying to convince your woman so it should be how to approach your partner your spouse about swinging like i said convince your listen you got to convince them anyway it's just swingers don't i don't know why swingers swingers are very they talk about how know, they're very liberal and stuff like that.
They're not very that much liberal, you know, and all that. Very, they're very, uh, words get them upset and all that. And I always thought it's funny because, you know, we always talk about we're this, we're that, but in, in the reality of it, we're not, none of that shit. We're all different.
Like some people are very open open-minded about it they don't care if there's transsexuals or gay men at a party where some will fucking throw a fit shit fit because there's transsexual men you know all that me i don't give a fuck what happens i just want to have fun don't touch my dick men don't play my asshole men we're gonna have fun I'm not fucking a tranchexel or anything like that, but I'm going to have fun anyways. So, you know, it's just funny that words get it. And we're all supposed to be adults. And we act like little fucking, a lot of times these people act like little children.
So, we got a couple more minutes. We got about 10, 15 more minutes.
So, let's talk about talk about emotionally getting emotionally involved so how dangerous is it for a swinger couple to get emotionally involved it is a hundred percent emotionally a hundred percent dangerous you are kidding yourself if you think a couple getting emotionally involved with another couple or another single is a okay and this is why one of my rules i don't fucking want when a guy is done with my partner i want him to put his clothes on and get the fuck out of the room leave we don't need you anymore now that might be harsh but you know what people get emotionally involved aka the duchess of dick we all heard her fucking story great woman there ain't no doubt about it but her husband her ex-hubby got emotionally involved with another couple and fell in love with the other girl and ruined the marriage and all that ruined the family so i'm a totally against this this is why hey i don't understand i don't think about connections.
I'm just here for the sex. I said it once. I'll say it again. When I take my girl out, we're going to a club. Guess what? We're there for sex. We're not there for an emotional connection or anything like that. Couples want emotions. There are some couples out there they need. We need a connection.
We need an emotional connection need an emotional connection no hell no because guess what your woman might start fucking having feelings for me vice versa and the husband can have feelings another girl it happens yes this is the bad part so extremely dangerous my ex fell in love with my married bff her husband was ill and encouraged them. They would do things while I was at work. Sounds familiar. He would tell me if I didn't like it, that was just too bad. What a fucking asshole. That was going to end. This is shit's what happens when you get emotions involved.
When it's just sex, it's just purely sex. He was breaking the rules we established. He then started treating me badly and all he would do was talk about her. Honey, you're lucky. So I left him after 17 years. Her husband passed away two months ago, about five weeks after his passing. She was spending the night at his place already. I hate the two of them so much.
How can she wonder why I do not want to be friends when i was betrayed by them both yeah i'm i agree with you sweetie you are the one you are the victim here fuck those two dudes all right girl that good dude and girl i guess time will heal me eventually fuck no fuck that shit she fucking did you wrong i mean i know families where a woman will sleep with all the brothers in the family not a fucking problem why when the parents die and the money is being divvied up that's when the shit hits the fan and the fucking brothers start arguing if that was my if i had a bunch of brothers and they fucked my girlfriend or my wife or anything like that and behind my back i would cut off all contact fuck that shit i ain't having that that's kind of weird that you know i don't think honey if you're listening yeah it doesn't say your name but time can heal all wounds but fuck those people you don't need those people never ever see them again now you probably might have kids with the dude so you're gonna have to see them but other than that dropping them off back and forth no contact with them i was seeing a man and told him about my past swinging i thought it would be i would be honest but it was the worst thing because all he wanted to do was get into the lifestyle and that's one of the things every dude wants to get in the lifestyle until they see their girl getting their back blown out by some dude and making sounds that she never made with him.
Then they all want to go, oh, let's not do this again. I would and will not ever get into the lifestyle ever again as it has ruined me. So it's needed to say, and you know what, she's right. My experience suggests it will happen. Sooner or later, one of you will begin to develop a love emotion for someone that you party with. So if you're partying with someone, he's saying over and over again, you might develop this. And it's probably sooner than later. When you are enjoying the post-collodial bliss, post-fucking bliss, that follows an orgasm. You may feel that the guy is really special.
The trick is remember that you have a no secrets pact with your spouse. Once you talk it over, you can decide what you need. Let the feelings develop and maybe pursue it. With some private dating or couples sharing. That's my one rule. There's no fucking way if I ever, you know, had a full time always partner. I ain't ever, ever doing this where they go off on dates with other people. This is a lifestyle that we share together, not separately. We share it together. All right. She's not going on dates with other dudes. We're not going to have emotions involved. We're going to go to a club.
All right. You like that guy? Hey, buddy, come over and fuck my girl. All right. You're done. Get out. See you later. Thank you, sir. All right. So I'm not in total agreeing with Ms. J here, or you might decide it's something you will want to squash for the sake of the other party. There are many options. Just remember that you must be open with your spouse about all the happens of these parties. All that.
Like I said, I had went to tpc about i think it was april or in the march and there's this couple there and beautiful woman very jealous of the dude and all that couple was in the back playing she was in the very end of the hallway of the two when you go downstairs when you go down those steps you got those two rooms you got the bed to the side so she and the bear sucking dick and she's sucking his dude's dick and he's over there and he's getting his dick sucked by this girl and he's like looking out over the sea like he's looking for something and i noticed that his girl's not with him so this fucking guy he's getting his dick suck without his girl being present there and i know because the way he was looking that was not part of the deal now if it was part of the deal he would not have been looking he would have been enjoying it but he's kept looking back he's the girl sucking on his dick and he's leaning back and he's looking for the his girl his wife so i go so i then i got tired of watching it.
So I'm going to end up walking back out to the club. And all of a sudden, I see his wife start walking back there. Now, I don't know what happened or anything like that. I don't know if he got caught or anything. I didn't hear any fussing. So I don't think anything happened. But I don't think he got caught.
But just his body language said was a no a no no and that's what he's talking about when she says just remember that to be open with your spouse about all happens at these parties i'm sure i can probably guarantee that he never said anything about his getting his dick sucked which i think it was probably fine i don't think that woman had any problem she's sucking his dick out on the dance floor i don't think she would have any problem with the mother woman so i don't know what the fuck he was trying to do so this one guy says that depends on the type of swinger couple you are for my wife and i we say do not bring emotion into it we are sharing our bodies our spouses also gets our hearts so in mind for some though they are comfortable with a polyamory relationship and given more than one lover we are the only lover that we need for the rest of their lives oh that's great now that's great but i'm not i'm not poly like how the fuck you find one woman to marry and be with let alone two let alone three or bring another dude in another two dudes in i don't know and you gotta remember the maturity the maturity on people is slowly going down you notice a lot of these millennia these younger people their maturity level is very low now even with these fucking people my age the gen xers their maturity level is very low if you don't agree with their their philosophies in life or anything like that they hate you they don't want they talk badly of you but they don't ever sit there say okay let's hear their side of the story like i said this podcast is about swinging single it's not swinging couple it's swinging single it's about my journey as a single male and all that i have experienced in this lifestyle and i get a lot of shit from it it's like so it's just like what how can you not be if you're 60 if you're a 50 year old man and you're not mature enough to listen and take it for what it's worth then i don't know i think you should not be definitely should not bring emotions in your swinging with your wife or partner because there's gonna be a lot of issues um all right it's one guy very dangerous it can bring a break break your marriage ground rule swinging is do it for fun with no strings attached like i said do it for fun that's what i would do and all that so you know there's a lot of things anyways so let's think about all right so you know what that's about it for today swinging single podcast is coming to a close and all that so i hope you enjoy this episode trying to convince your wife to swing gentlemen maybe remember to shave your cock and balls please go to doobie.gg order some energy drinks use the promo code swinging single for your 10 to 30 percent off for your first order and any orders after that and i hope you have a wonderful day remember communication is key in this lifestyle trust is key and also plant the seed and let it grow by time have a great day everybody have a great night love you all shave your cock and balls gentlemen We'll be right back.
