Episode 24: UntaintedApril 2025‘Main Topic’: A Facebook Post on our LifestyleLynx page prompted us to record this episodes’ Main Topic, ‘Untainted’. The post centered around the Lifestyle having become a ‘cesspool’ for this person. What we say?? We drive into how to forge your own destiny in finding what works best for you in the Lifestyle and surrounding yourself with like-minded people. Using our experiences with our 300+ drams free, fun, adult tribe, we debunk that notion and provide ways to improve your situation.‘What Have We Done Lately’: A very successful group outing to Atlantic City, NJ with eight couples that encompass two birthday celebrations plus more people joining in from a SLS ‘Hot Date’ posting for a crazy, insane time at “Boogie Nights” in the Tropicana Casino Resort! Then a week later, dinner with great friends that led into a club event with more friends to hear a cool band! ‘Where We Are Going Next’: Heading to a repeat house party in Pennsylvania with great friends and sexy people that we want more quality time with, in that way, well you know. It’s really close to our ‘Gynormous’ Group Trip to Temptation Resort Cancun, Mexico May 1-5, 2025. There is still time to join us on this amazing trip to Paradise! If you cannot attend there are two other options available on May 2-3; an ‘Intimate Parties Group’ event in Scranton PA and a ‘ShareNation’ event in Hampton, New Hampshire. Also, get ready for the new Grand Hotel for the ShareNation ‘White Party’ on July 11-12. Tickets will be available soon on our website plus… ‘TeddyLoveAdultToys’ will be onsite for this event. Go to our website to check out their fabulous products.Visit our Website, LifestyleLynx.com, Events Page 2, for Information and Booking Trips, Crusies and Parties.Visit us at https://www.LifestyleLynx.com for related Adult Events, Cruises, Resorts, Clubs, Parties, Meet Greets, Swinger Websites and more...
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hello you beautiful people i am jr and i'm d we have been in the lifestyle for seven plus years and we're here to share our sexy stories and experiences if you you're not 18, this podcast is not for you. And if you are, please go visit LifestyleLinks.com. That's L-Y-N-X. Hello, beautiful people. So this is episode 24 a significant milestone and the name of this episode is going to be untainted and that will be evident when we get into our main topic that's right but for now this is what this is this section we always do's that? What have we done lately? Lately. Right. Not a lot, but enough.
Enough, because the first thing was like really cool. Oh, crazy cool. Yeah, so we celebrated one of our dear friend's birthday in Atlantic City. Exactly. And I think there, what was there, like 16 of us? There was 16 of us, and we did a hot date on SLS. That's right. Well, 16 of us pre-planned. And like eight couples came. It was crazy. Extra. And it was so cool. In Atlantic City, we went out to dinner. We did. And then we went to Boogie Nights. We did. At Tropicana. At Tropicana, yeah. It was so cool. We had this VIP section. Oh, really?
With all kinds of liquor oh my bottle service so sexy all of us were dressed like in really cool disco disco stuff disco stuff and we probably were a little inappropriate uh at times a little risque but we didn't get kicked out we did not don't you worry but for the rest of the people there yeah they probably were looking oh they were like so there was like this bunch of single girls like you and they were like what the hell's going on over there right yeah because we were having such a great time we're all like kissing each other yeah and dancing with each other and like it was like just such a great celebration big shout out to rnl for including us in her big birthday party it was like drinks on him so much fun drinks on him yeah yeah i know it was great but we did buy them dinner i know I know yeah and we got this really cool Airbnb bunch of us stayed together with the Carmine's no but the night before we did ever want to go to the best restaurant in Atlantic City or New Jersey yes it's called chef vola chef vola v-o-l-a and not easy make a reservation well in advance you have to talk to them on the phone three six months oh my gosh it was the most amazing food it's a house yeah so you like sit in a living room i know yeah yeah chef vola but you know so that's what crazy food just and then and then we went to Carmine's.
And then there was a bunch of us that got an Airbnb together. Yeah, it was great. Really nice Airbnb. Yeah. And there was. Big. That was really fun. Big Airbnb. Yeah, yeah. Really cool. Right close. Really close. We could walk to the Tropicana. It was right there. Yeah. It was awesome. It was fantastic. Yeah, yeah. So that was like just an amazing.
but the whole the whole disco boogie nights thing was crazy yeah insane awesome bottle service was the best service the music the dancing unbelievable and people came to meet us it was great it was just great it was fun yeah because we put the hot date out and then there's like a lot of people that showed up if you missed it Shame on you. We had another kind of really cool thing we did.
there's like a lot of people that showed up if you missed it shame on you we had another kind of uh really cool thing we did with two lifestyle couples we did our dear friends j and r oh true came we had dinner with them really cool restaurant yeah but our single girlfriend s yes invited us to see this band and she wanted to bring the guy because yeah because she met this guy on this cruise and she's gonna bring him to our wedding wedding the temptations uh lifestyle love fest exactly she's like oh you got to meet's like, oh, you got to meet him. You got to meet him.
So she mentioned this place and this band. This place and the band was great. Oh my gosh. The band was very good. The singer. Yeah. Michelle. Yeah. Fantastic. Beautiful, beautiful band. And he's actually really super cool. Super cool. Yeah. He's from Florida. He lives in Florida. He's cool. He's going to fit in. He's going to be fun. He's going to love our people. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Which was awesome. We have great people coming. I know. People out there in podcast land, if you're missing this, you are going to be gravely disappointed. Right. But we're going to do other events in the future.
We are. On this scale. Right. In the future. So we have, what, 56 of us? Yeah, almost 60 people coming. So we're going to do some more things like with this size group and kind of explore some other locations. And just to let you know. Nashville, New Orleans. It's mostly our tribe, but there's five other couples coming that we don't know. Exactly. Which will be fun. Yeah. So you can do this. It's not a problem. We're going to include you and we're going to give you all the opportunities to be part of the group. Exactly. Yeah. Exactly.
So those were the amazing, fun things that we've done lately. That's right. So hang on, because now in our next section, we're going to talk about... Is what? Untainted. Untainted. Yes. And you're going to know what that is in a few minutes. So hold on tight so welcome back to episode 24 untainted is that correct that's correct and where'd that come from you basically said to me that we got this really crazy post well yeah on our facebook page which is lifestyle links right it's a We have a Lifestyle Links Facebook page for basically couples and like-minded singles if your page is like that.
Right. So this person, this woman, talked about how the lifestyle has become a cesspool of people and young people and this and that and i responded what are you talking about we we have you know we don't experience that at all and then she wrote back to she responded to that as as what like I've been in the lifestyle 28 years, don't tell me, blah. And I said, you know, okay, whatever, but we have like 300 people that we associate with, all drama-free, people 40s to 60s that are gracious and— Happy to 60s that are gracious and happy, nonjudgmental. And I went on and on.
And I said, you know, I'm really sorry you're so tainted about this. She's had some bad experiences. You know, you need to give it the right tribe. Right. You're not with the right people. If you're talking about the right tribe right you're not with the right people if you're talking about this like that you're not with the right people and i think that part of the reason you know when jr responded i think she came back with um she started to talk about the young people in the lifestyle very young people and jr are looking at each other.
I'm like, okay, well, you've been in the lifestyle for 26 years. Like, why are you even hanging out? Yeah, why are you with them? You're with the wrong people. Yeah, you're with the wrong people. Why are you with young people? You should be with us. Exactly. Like, people that are age-appropriate. We talk about this all the time. age-appropriate. And you can't expect to have a good experience when you're trying to do this with people that are not on the same page as you. And it could be age. I mean, JR and I go to ShareNation parties all the time.
We meet young people that are fabulous, that are on the same page. But that doesn't always happen. You've got to pick your people. Right. And it seemed like she was holding on to really bad experiences. And not moving beyond. Not moving beyond that. Yeah. Find different people. Right. Go find different people. You know what?
When you talk about holding on to bad experiences, I mean, we've seen this in couples, too, where you'll have a couple, and something goes awry, and it's not really what they expected, and then they just hold on to it, and they lose their luster or their interest, and they lose their passion for the lifestyle because they got burnt. But you know what? You can't let one bad thing that has gone wrong ruin the whole experience for you. You've got to be open-minded. You've got to be forgiving. You've got to be moving forward.
And so you can't hold on to bad things that have happened in the past because life is life shit fucking happens and we see a lot of these young what she was talking about we see a lot of these young parties young people in these parties it's a lot of single guys who come on they're not really in the lifestyle they're there to get laid I'll see you next time.
people in these parties it's a lot of single guys who come on they're not really in the lifestyle they're there to get laid right right and you guys launch a single girls there who just they're pretty and they're young and they have cool bodies and they're and it's a show. So that's the cesspool she's talking about. I agree with that. But she can't be tainted by that. Don't be tainted by that. Yeah, because the thing is, is that there is someone for everyone. There is. In the lifestyle. It's like, you know, J.R.
and I continually look for new groups, whether they're hotel takeover parties, whether they're Facebook groups, whether they're vacation groups. You know, we're continually looking for people that are like us, where we will feel comfortable, accepted, welcome, appreciated. It's that. So if you just, if you just settle for what you've been given and just take what you see on the surface you're not doing it right right that's the point you know we see groups that are us and are great for us and then we then we will witness groups that are not but we stay away from those right. Right.
Stay away from them. But you know what? There's a lot of other people that would love those groups. Right. You know, so a lot of. Yeah, right. But if you want to be on an emotional rollercoaster, go right ahead. You know, you don't want to be on an emotional rollercoaster. Right. With these very, they're very young. You know, okay, young people out there, thank you very much, but you're sometimes really out of control with the lifestyle. It depends. I mean, again, I mean, we've been a chair nation and have been around young people that, you know, can handle it and do a great job. Right.
Not a lot. I think that. Not a lot. There's not a lot there.
Not a lot of people that age not a lot there i mean what's interesting is that i just did this whole thing for like my job and it's like i think we all have biases that we don't realize we have it's like this subconscious thing and i think for like jr and i you know lifestyle is expensive and for us typically naturally in our unconscious bias we're gonna relate and associate with people that are kind of on our same education level our same income level it makes us feel more comfortable and you know it's kind of like if you look at our tribe they're similar to us you know they work you know they've made money they've had lives they're accomplished yes yes yeah they've had accomplishments it's're accomplished.
They've made mistakes, they've corrected themselves. Yeah, they've had accomplishments. It's people with the same values, really. Yeah, and what's interesting too, we talk about that couple where she was kind of tainted because things went awry. And I think that part of that goes back to communication. So for women in the lifestyle that are true lifestyle women, we don't really worry about our man having sex with another wife. We worry about our man having an emotional relationship with another person.
And it's kind of weird like i don't know jr how you feel about it but it's the difference between being swingers and being open and or cheating exactly or cheating yeah remember remember the couple that they were dating for so long and she left him because not that he had sex with the other woman but because he was having an emotional relationship with another woman yeah there was no sex going on exactly and it was just like a text messaging thing going on right and it wasn't sex't sex related. No, not at all. Right. Yeah.
But yeah, so it's interesting, like, when you're in a situation and you see your partner going down some sort of emotional slide, it's time to then say, hey, where are we? Yeah, help each other. Exactly. Help each other getting back and being focused on what's important. Exactly. You know, what's important. Yeah. And I do think that that's hard initially for men to understand.
Like you think about when new couples are joining the lifestyle, it's usually the that's worried yeah we find that usually the the guy is more jealous of what's going on and the women like let's go right they're like more gung-ho yeah the women yeah yeah but it can switch and it can flip and so i think that for most swinger women i'm not talking open relationship women right i'm talking swinger women the thing that would worry me or any other swinger woman is that if all of a sudden jr was like on the phone with this woman or texting her all the time and that would be an issue you know fortunately that's not the way we do it no a lot of couples when they plan on meeting another couple for the first time and going on they will engage in engage in yes that sort of sexual banter banter you know texting and that's okay and that's cool yeah and i i absolutely think that but you know what the interesting thing about that is what's that is that the best thing to do is get the women together first because that's if the women like each other yeah it's mostly the women like each other you know and they're getting along and they're having a good time and i feel like i trust her she trusts me and then she sees my guy i see her guy that's when it's actually really gonna happen yeah we don't care as much you guys you don't care as much but i i do think that that's we do but you know to a certain extent yeah yeah if the women are cool we usually cool you know usually although jr can be picky at times hey hey watch us though i have had to twist his arm sometimes and then he's like oh i am so glad you told me to do that.
Yes. Anyway. But I do think it goes back to that whole Facebook comment. Yeah. It goes back to pick your right people. Yeah, it does. Yeah. It does. So we, this is interesting. And I don't know, I don't know how to relate this, but we love nature and nature can teach you a lot about how to act and how to be at certain times and we were outside on our deck the other night and it was it was still light out it was still was getting dark It was like twilight. And the birds are chirping. Then it's starting to get dark and the birds are really chirping loud. Loudly. Loudly. You know?
And I'm saying to Dee, hey, this is the birds saying goodnight to each other. Yeah, it's amazing. So what are you talking about? They're a group. They're a team. They're a tribe. Right. They know each other. They live in the same trees. They live in the same community. And they're saying good night to each other. And as the darkness is setting, the chirping is getting less and less. Yeah. Until it got dark and it was silent. Silent. And it was just amazing. We were amazed. Yeah. It was amazing. I mean, there's a community that talks to each other. Exactly. And knows each other. Yeah.
And in the morning, they're back up with the chirping. Right. As the dawn starts to begin, you can start to hear them. Oh, starts. It was just, it was really great communication is what that was. And that's what we need to do. Yeah. And I think that that's part of being untainted is communicating. Communication is so much a part of that. Yes.
So the only other thing I can think think of you know in in response to this woman that is tainted relative to the lifestyle is that you know you can't let other people's bad behavior affect you correct you know just because other people aren't doing it the right way doesn't mean that there isn't a good way to do it. Right. And you can leave. Exactly. You can go and find a group. Exactly. And that's what I was telling her. Like, we have this great group. Come join us. Exactly. Yeah. We're your age group. If she was 28 years older than young people, she's at least 48, 50. Exactly.
Or a little than young people. Right. She's at least 48, 50. Exactly. Or a little older than that. Right, right. So, you know, most people in lifestyle don't start at 20. They're starting in their late 20s, 30s. Well, I started at 19. Well, yeah, but, you know, you know what I'm saying? Yeah. She's not a teen. She's not. You know, 20s. Right. Exactly. So. Yeah, yeah.
But I do think, like, you have to be emotionally mature enough to step back analyze the situation you know and and you can't let again it's like you can't hold on to bad things you got to be untainted like you got to keep moving forward so that's our message yesainted. Find your tribe, which we've talked about so many times. Find the right people to be with. Don't set unrealistic expectations. Don't settle on people who are not going to be the same as you. Right. It'll make you happy. It'll make you happy. And you have to find that groove. I mean, you know, J.R. and I are not Ken and Barbie.
We're not Ken and Barbie. You know, we're normal. We think we're sexy, but we're normal people, you know, so you have to set the right expectations too. Otherwise, you're setting yourself up for disappointments. Right. You know, so find your groove. Exactly. Find your groove. Okay. Yes. This is great. Our next segment is... What's coming up next? Okay, so find your groove. Exactly, find your groove. Okay, this is great. Our next segment is... What's coming up next? Okay, so that's coming up next. Hold on. Thank you for listening.
Okay, we're back with our segment number three which is what's coming up next and what is that well well this weekend this weekend we're going to a house party we are Woo-hoo. Again. Not at our house. No. Somebody else's. Exactly. Not really dear friends. Exactamundo. Yeah. We're going to a house party. We are. Woo-hoo. Again. Not at our house. No. Somebody else's. Exactly. Really dear friends. Exactamundo. Yeah, really, really dear friends. It'll probably be like 50, 100 people, something between that. How many people? 50 to 100. No. Yeah, it's going to be pretty big. No, it's not 100. Okay.
50, 60. Okay, fine. Okay, fine. Are you exaggerating? So, it doesn't matter. It it doesn't matter they're really dear friends of ours they are yeah yeah so we're gonna try go maybe we'll go friday i know we're trying over so maybe go friday we have we have a fabulous sushi restaurant right by them and we can help them set up yeah sure yeah so we'll see have to ask them. But there's a bunch of sexy people coming to that. Yeah. That's going to be. That we met. They had a party a few months ago. Yeah. And we met people that we really liked. Yeah. In fact, I was like swapping some stuff. You were.
You were getting it on. And she's coming again. Ooh. Yes. Oh, nice. Yeah. So I think I think that may be an event right there in and of itself. Yeah, you got it. Oh, so fun. Yeah. And then, of course, after that is our big Lifestyle Links Love Fest. What love fest? What are you talking about? At Temptations. Temptations.
I've made the name necklaces cancun mexico i've got the favors for everybody that attends the ceremony anyone who's not coming you are oh my gosh we've got the the boobs cruise books we've got the whole thing going night oh my goodness it's gonna be so much fun cabanas by the pool i know but ironically the Funny thing is for Oh my goodness. It's going to be so much fun. Cabanas by the pool. I know. But ironically, the funny thing is for all of you that are not coming to our May 1st through May 5th event. Yeah. What are you talking about? You have two other choices. Which is what?
Which they can go to Share Nation in New England. Like New Hampshire or something like that. Right. Right. Exactly. It's actually a St. Paddy's Day party, a late one. Yeah. Because the hotel wasn't ready and this and that. So they're doing St. Paddy's Day now. Right now, I think that's May 2nd, 3rd. 2nd, 3rd, same weekend as us. And then IPG. IPG. Is having an event in Scranton.
In Scrantnd 3rd same weekend as us and then ipg ipg is having an event in scranton in scranton that same weekend yeah and that's the main the main group for them party group right right it's their like regular with not all their specialty stuff so that's grin and then and then there's one nation up in new hampshire so right take each, can't come. Yeah, get a last minute flight. You can still get a last minute flight. Don't delay. Don't you worry. And then of course, right after that, Jay and A are doing their summer solstice party. In June. Yeah. Wait, hold on. Hold the phone.
First week of June. Exactly. We're doing a house party. For everybody that missed our wedding. And people that came too. They can come. Yeah, yeah. They can come again. Yeah. We have a whole photo thing set up online. And yeah. Post your photos. Yeah, yeah. It's going to be a cool slide show. Yeah. That'll be awesome. But then J&A are going to do their summer solstice in June. June. That's a great house party. Unbelievable. That's a hundred people. Orgy. That's a big fucking orgy. That's pretty much an orgy. Amazing. And then Share Nation has July White Party.
If you're familiar with Share Nation, usually they do the parties at the Holiday Inn Parsippany Fairfield in New Jersey. Well, we are changing hotels. Yeah. New location. Totally new location. The Hilton Parsippany on Route 10 in New Jersey. It's going to be beautiful. Like 350 rooms. It's going to be beautiful. There's huge ballrooms. There's an indoor-outdoor pool. Save the date. And there's a Ruth's Chris Steakhouse. Really nice. Attached. Yes. Oh, my God. One of the best steakhouses in the country. Go on to our website. Our website. And book your tickets. Right.
Now, the tickets are not available yet.
yet okay it's probably going to be after the new hampshire party okay when they'll be available but keep an eye out but we have so many details are there exactly so go to our website and you can check that out i think by the time we do our next podcast oh yeah it'll be should be there so we'll update everyone on that yeah and teddy love adult toys will be at the share nation event july 11th and 12th and also you can visit them on our website on the affiliate page there's a link right to their website you get 20 off with the discount code lifestyle links or one word.
But they will be at ShareNation for all your toys and lubes and sensual wear. So you'll be able to check them out in person at the ShareNation event. So thank you so much for listening. Unbelievable. And we will miss you if you're not able to join us in Cancun. I know. It's going to be so great. Yeah. You're going to miss out. It's going to be fun. Just grab a flight, go to a website, book some tickets, book the hotel. You're not going to be disappointed. I'm telling you right now it's all right guys again thanks for listening okay and bye bye you beautiful people
