Episode 15: May I Cut In?May/June 2024 ‘Main Topic’: How do you get in on the already started action? What is the best approach? Well, we explore this topic as a couple and with our single girlfriend from our combined experiences. We discuss real life situations that work and those to avoid. What Have We Done Lately : Covers a Kentucky Derby Party mixed with Lifestyle friends, a Friction event at ‘Saints Sinners’ Club in Philadelphia with a stop at a friend’s house party on the way, a trip to Tampa Florida that included an evening at the ‘Eyz Wide Shut’ Club, a sleepover for Dee at our friends’ house in Delaware and our own 60-person house party that inspired this episode s main topic. Where We Are Going Next : Highlights another Friction Party at ‘Saints Sinners’, a trip to Rome, Crete and Paris that will include European Swingers Clubs, the ShareNation Pool/White Party July 12-13, an upcoming stayover at Sunny Rest Resort in Pennsylvania, then finally a second house party of ours. Get ShareNation tickets and information on our website LifestyleLynx.comVisit us at https://www.LifestyleLynx.com for related Adult Events, Cruises, Resorts, Clubs, Parties, Meet Greets, Swinger Websites and more...
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hello you beautiful people i am jr and i'm d we have been in the lifestyle for seven plus years and we're here to share our sexy stories and experiences if you're not 18 this podcast is not for you and if you are please go visit lifestylinks.com that's l-y-n-x hello you beautiful people so this is our 15 episode 15th episode which is may i cut in yes that's the topic you will find out what that is all about soon yes but we also did it with a very special a very special guest yes yes so our single girlfriend, Jay, is here in the studio with us and she's helping to contribute to this topic.
But first, we start with what? What do we start with? No, but you have to realize that we normally talk about what we've done lately. Oh, sure. Yeah, but the reason why this episode is a little leet is because we've been doing a lot lately. A lot, and you're going to hear about all that right now. Yeah, yeah. So what have we done lately? Oh, my God. So much. We have to start out with our dear friends, J&A, had a Kentucky Derby party. That's right. At their house. Right.
They normally host they normally host like these raging twice a year they do a like a whole thing with summer solstice and winter solstice yes but they had a derby party because they're horse people they're horse and i'm a horse person so it starts out swirl it is starts out swirl which is you know vanilla and lifestyle right And then about 8.30, 9 o'clock, and it went a little longer this time. I know. Because the vanilla people. There were hangovers. They were hanging out. Get out of here. Get out of here. Right, right. So it was a great party.
Everybody, we have this pool where we gamble, and the food was beautiful. The food was great. Yeah, it was just a fabulous time. It was great. So then after that, we went to Saints and Sinners for a friction party. Friction party in Philly, in Philadelphia. Right, right. But on the way, we stopped at our friends. That's right. Yes. Where they live, they live in? They live in Yardley. Yardley. Yes.
Which is right over the border from from new jersey on the way to pa it was like on the way yeah it was beautiful fantastic so it was it was j and d they were having a party at their house and we're like oh we really want to come but we have to go to friction so we stopped there and we got there about an hour late so it was like it was like a grand entrance it was hey and there was always food and people we haven't seen it right which was really great and then we got to meet I I got to meet some new people you did yeah so there was this really quite the tube but yeah there was this really cool plastic surgeon there that we were like having not like nice long conversations with it was very interesting why were you doing that he was just really interesting well he was he was and then the guy that hosted the party and his girl yeah but he had a dear lifelong lifelong friend there that I got.
Like, they had been friends since kids. And you got a really good understanding of how. I learned more about our friends. That's what I'm talking about. Through his lifelong friends. Exactly. It was, like, really interesting. He was talking about, you know, when they were growing up. Right. So that was cool. So then we did go to Saints and Sinners. We did. Yes. And we did get a chance to hang out with Tom and Marcy.
did the owners we did yeah yeah we love them oh fantastic we spent a few minutes with them more than a few minutes more than a few minutes we talked about how we could help them with their with their sales and and doing things for them yeah and so we've connected with them and i've talked to tom before they're both like so kind so great they do so many good things he's involved in this thing called tom's retreat which is all about helping veterans veterans right and you know she's just a beautiful kind person as well fantastic so the nice thing is that're at Saints and Sinners.
Yeah, with our friends. Yeah, exactly. Well, we had… With GNC. GNC. Who we've talked about before. And then there was that other couple that we'd met there before. That's right, the black couple. Yeah, that, like, we had made out with before. They showed up. We made out with them. I know, right? And we did it again. Exactly. But we're hanging out, and we meet this other couple. And we're like, let's go check out the playroom, which is, if you haven't been there, it's really beautiful. It's all red leather, and it's huge. There's a huge playroom. Yeah. And it's a beautiful facility. Beautiful.
Really nice.
The crazy thing that drives JR crazy is that that i smoke so i'm always in the smoking section and i'm like every like you know like hour or something right but i meet the most amazing people and that's how we met the couple that we hooked up with and and she does and even on even on the bliss cruise and stuff she does the same thing and i complain about it but you know okay she meets people and we hook up there and you know we start to get talking we sit next to each other right and like things just develop because we get the chance to have a relationship and i come out and i sit down and we're hanging out and there's like oh here's your man yeah yeah here's your man she was pretty sexy one thing led to another yeah they were a little younger than us which was super cool.
I mean, you know, it was a good experience. It was a good experience. Yeah. So then after Saints and Sinners. Did you come? I came. Well, I'm hard to come. Oh, okay. I'm hard to come. But I'm always in it for the ride, so. All right, fine. Yeah, yeah. And the nice thing is that we meet people like that, and now, you know, we'll invite them to our house parties. We'll get, you know, we'll get them to come to ShareNation. And they'll meet other people. Exactly. And then their friends become our friends, and it's like, and so on, and so on. It's about the pollination. It is. It's about that.
We're like beekeepers. We're like beekeepers. So then after that, we went down to Florida. We did. Yeah, we were there for a family thing. We were for a family. Yeah. We said, you know, why are we here for a family thing? Let's check out this club. Let's kind of make, you know, let's make do. So we went, exactly.
Like, we were there for a family thing, but we're like we gotta make it happen some lifestyle in slip or slip it in slip it in baby all right so we went to this club in tampa i know baby you slip it into me all the time all right stop so we went to this club in tampa and it was called eyes Wide Shut. And we had never been there before. And it was, so first impressions, I dropped D off in the front, and I drive around the side, and I go park. And I'm like, oh my, this is, it's a freaking warehouse. Yeah. It was, it was like, it went on forever and ever, the building. Big place.
The building went on forever and ever. Yeah.
And we go in, place yeah we go in and it took you a while to park and then walk back by the time you got back in huge yeah and they have great security right so there's two doors the very interesting thing in florida is that they are able to sell alcohol and present it as a regular nightclub exactly so you walk up to the front door on the right hand side there's a door that goes into the nightclub right which is completely separate from all the playrooms right and so you walk in you go through security you pay your fee and then there's like these bars it's really nice high ceilings right it's beautiful tables All kinds of stuff.
And we had a bartender. His name was Jason. Hey, calling it out to you, baby. Look at you.
nice high ceilings right it's beautiful tables okay and we had a bartender his name was Jason hey super cool super nice and so but you could pay for your drinks so it wasn't BYOB you could not bring alcohol right it wasn't because it was a true nightclub because it was separate from the playrooms and really nice club oh yeah they had some cool stuff there very cool and that's in that section you didn't need to be lifestyle right it could be for anybody you're right exactly but there was no sex in there it wasn't absolutely no it was just a nightclub kind of atmosphere but everybody knew they were all swingers but next door right so the neat thing about the nightclub is not only was the bartender jason really cool very cool right yes yeah absolutely um but they had like this little museum area yeah where they had like sex kind of things on display their sex artwork they had these beautiful spots where you could take really cool photographs.
Really cool pictures, yeah. And then we went outside. Their outside area. Was spectacular. They had Jenga. They had cornhole. They had. But let me just interrupt for a second. Usually when we go to clubs and we go outside where there's a smoking section, it's usually. Puny.
It smoke and it smells this was like outdoors really big and huge yeah there was tables and spaces to really nice and actually the couple that we hooked up with we we were out there with them oh that's actually how we met them so sexy yeah like crazy you know outside because it was like really cool so there's no like smoke smell because it's it's like outdoor it's like a big tent exactly and it's a big area so if you're ever in tampa go to eyes wide shut yeah really it was cool so actuallyR., so we met this couple, and we met them outside in the smoking section. Of course we did.
Of course we did. Yeah, but then J.R. was, like, playing pool. I was. You were. And I was winning. With the guy. I win all the time. With the guy. And I'm hanging. I've had a pool table since I was, like, five years old. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. We have a pool table in the basement. And now, too, yeah. Yeah. And we set up all the air matches around a pool table since I was like five years old. Exactly. Yeah. We have a pool table in the basement. And now too, yeah. Yeah. And we set up all the air matches around the pool table in the basement for like a sex room. Yeah, but I play pool. Yeah.
He's really, I don't even try. I'm like a shark.
So it was a good thing because, you know, I'm like hanging out with the girl and I'm like getting comfortable with her and like he's playing pool with the guy but i shouldn't tell people i'm a shark because they won't play with me now i shouldn't be telling people so i'm not a shark i'm not i'm not i'm really not i'm really not but you know what the crazy thing also about eyes wide shut that particular day was it was memorial day weekend it was and most of the the really sexy crazy that's right wealthy people were not there because because there's this island where it's like this island where you can only get to it by boat and it's like this place where you can be naked right and And so the club holds like 600.
And there was probably like 200. Maybe two. 200. Maybe two. 200. Which seemed okay. It seemed okay to us. But it was not that crowded. But people, the couple that we hooked up with, they were like, oh, no. It's normally way more crowded. So when you go to the other side. Right. Okay. So, yeah. you go so your fate as you approach the entry you have to go out the right side it goes into the left side right now the left side goes in to the playrooms and you have to check your cell phone and yeah you have to go through security that's fine no alcohol. You can't have a drink. No cell phones.
No drinks. Yeah. That kind of stuff. The playrooms were spectacular. Huge. Huge. So many of them. So many. So many themed rooms. Remember, this is like a huge warehouse. Yeah. And now we're- They converted into this crazy club. So the nice thing for us is that we went in with this other couple into an area that was for couples only. Couples only. And there's a guard at the door making sure it's only couples only. Right. Because even on – that was a Saturday night. And they allow single guys. Even on a Saturday night. But you got to be a couple. And it was affordable, babe.
I think it was only like 75 bucks for us. Yeah, it was a bit. For the couple, for both of us, yeah. Something like that. But single guys have to pay like 150 or something crazy. Yeah, that's crazy, yeah. When we first got there, you could tell the single guys were like, they're trying to hook up. Of course. They come over to me, and they're like, ah. So went, so we were sitting at a table and I had to go to the men's room and I said, okay, I'm going to the men's room. There was a single guy sitting across. He's going to be talking to you any second. Any second. No, it was a good conversation.
Of course, he's talking to her. So we go into this couples, a couples only area. Very nice.
nice they have like canopy beds yeah they had like if you wanted to you could kind of go around the corner and there was like this viewing area so it was a well from the other side right from the other side so that the single guys and any other couples it was like a two-way american i think right right so they could see you voyeur yeah but that was like super fun this couple was like just like perfect for us but then but then there was this guy next to us and he came in with a so he was he was sort of a single guy but he did come in with a girl he came with a girl so he got in the room and he was hanging on to us and so he he kind of mixed in with us too yeah yeah but we didn't have sex with him yes you did i didn't have sex with him i only had sex with the guy that was with the with the couple the real married couple that had like children and like real lives and like real jobs and like you know it's like it was comfortable and i could connect with them it was like that's how it goes like you end up being with people that you're comfortable with exactly yeah so after eyes wide shut what do we do next what do we do next oh okay wait i'm gonna i'm gonna interject here okay because i was traveling for work you were and we stayed with our dear friends not we i stayed you not me exactly i was freaking home doing the dishes exactly i was doing the man the man thing the man slave thing at home and i'm working and i'm working so we stay with our dear friends my My dear friends, V and I, they live down in Delaware in the beaches.
They do. Yes. And it was so much fun. And they're so much fun. And what was really cool about it is that I have been with him multiple times. So we are very good friends for very, very many years. Long time many many years and i love having sex with him because he's not a big guy like he's probably what five seven five eight yeah right right and it's great but sexy for me oh yeah for me it's just like you know we get to have some olympics you know we get to try all these different positions. Like wrestling moves. I know. I love it.
But the fun thing is that in that situation, I'm visiting them, and I didn't want to leave her out. So I didn't actually have sex with him. And I spent time with her, which I had never gotten to do. Yeah, right. Just hanging out and talking. So connective. And thank and thank you v and i for letting me stay with you and that's so important you know people think it's all about sex and orgies no absolutely not it's about connections and friendships yeah so finally of what we've done lately, is we had our house party. We did.
And this is how the inspiration of the topic that is our main topic comes from. So. It was a huge house party. 60 people. OMG. It was a huge house party. Huge house party. Huge. 60 people. Yeah. Outside, inside.
Mostly on a deck onr's big deck so jr is running around he's being a host i am and he didn't get to hook up i did but i did what are you talking about so so at our house parties i'm joking i know he he's just being funny i'm being mean so at our house parties the mean level in our home is normally people don't have sex there they do not so then if you want to have sex you go upstairs we have bedrooms upstairs or with no squirters no squirters upstairs because people sleep on those beds. They do. Or downstairs. Right. And so normally the basement really is where more of the public action.
I bought new sheets for that. You did. The waterproof sheets. I bought waterproof mattress. Fabulous. Fabulous. Yeah. So I come downstairs. I get like a few minutes where I'm not worried about the food or the pleats or the napkins. The food was, you did good, babe. In any case. See, you did. So I come down. The food was great. It was so good. And people bring things too. So it was cool. So I come down to the basement and I see this guy that I know. I've known this guy for years, but I've never hooked up with him. There you go. Now, he was brought by a girl. Correct. A single girl.
That's correct. A single girlfriend. That's correct. And so the funny thing is, is that I see our next speaker here that's going to join us just in a few minutes. Oh, yeah. Our girlfriend, Jay. Oh, yeah. And she's like kind of hovering on the side and I go to her. I'm like, Jay, Jay, come over here. Do you know this guy? And I'm trying to get her to hook up with him. And she's just, like, kind of, mm, okay, whatever. Because she has her own thing going on. Right. She's got her own thing going on. Yeah, she has her own thing.
So I approach him, and I, like, start making out with him but then i say to him i'm like well because he's a black guy and i'm like well you know i can't i don't really do big i don't like really big penises and so i say that to him i'm like you know i'd love to be with you but if your penis is too big it might might not happen. Was it? So I had to see, right? So you checked it out. So I'm kissing him. We're making out. And then I put my hand down there on his cock. I'm feeling it. Did you have a ruler? Did you have a ruler or anything? Honey, I can tell by my hand. I don't need a ruler.
Okay, no ruler. Sorry. Totally sorry. And I'm like, okay, this seems within average range, right? Average range.
What does that mean average range yeah within average range it's like you nobody wants to like a big ass big clock i mean it's like most women i don't want to be hurt so in any case i'm like um so he knows i'm checking it out for how big or small it is you know and then i say well here let me look at it closer so i start closer i start to give him a blowjob did you have a microscope i put it in my mouth you did i did i missed this i had to i totally missed like can i handle it in my mouth if it's if it's too big it won't fit so in any case so i start giving him a blowjob one thing leads to another oh of course it does of course it does So the next minute, I'm case, so I start giving him a blowjob.
One thing leads to another. Oh, of course it does. Of course it does. So, the next minute, I'm like, I have my hands on the bench. He's doing me from behind. It's going very well. And the funny thing is that I looked at him. I was like, obviously, he had a condom. Like, I made sure he had a condom. But I'm like, do you have any lube? He's like, no.
I said, okay, well, let's just see how it goes so he's we're having sex no lube i'm like okay then i must like it so he's very comfortable very comfortable and so we're having sex he's like giving it to me nice and good and nice and hard right and we're doing it right and he's giving it to me and a sudden, I, like, realize that, wait, something's changed. Something's changed? He's, like, he's not. Something changed. So I turn my head back. Of course you did. And I can now see he's somewhat distracted. Very distracted.
So the single girl that brought him is now making out with him yeah so i'm like okay and i give it a few more minutes and it's a nice ride i mean it's a good thing yeah but all this is positive but no there is no but no but you were distracted no he was distracted but you got you got like oh this is not not good anymore. Well, I just knew his full energy was not focused. Exactly. So in any case, I pull out, I turn around. You didn't abort. You aborted. I did. You didn't abort. But it was a nice ride, and I'm really hoping that I get to hook up with him again. Yeah, exactly.
So in any case, I turn around, I give him a hug, I give her a hug and a kiss, and I'm really hoping that i get to hook up with him again yeah exactly so in any case i turn around i give him a hug i give her a hug and a kiss and i'm like thank you very much and you know it was a nice experience and you know plus the the girl that he's normally with like she's super she's like super hot and sexy oh my god so now i'm thinking okay hold the phone for that. Exactly. She's like a Spanish. Oh, beautiful. Oh, my God. So now I'm thinking, okay. Hold the phone for that. Exactly.
She's like this Spanish thing with a big butt and breast. She's like tits and ass. And the face and lips. So I'm hoping there's going to be another round. Hello? Can I have another round, please? Exactly. Can I have a round? Oh, my God. But it actually gave me the inspiration of May I Cut In. Exactly. And that's why the topic is what it is. This is actually why. Yeah. And it's why we're talking about it. What's next on your agenda there? Is that it? That's it. That's everything we've done lately. Oh, my God. Yeah. All right. So hang on.
We we're gonna have our guest here with us and you're gonna hear our topic and thank you and stay tuned okay here we are with our main topic of may i cut in may i cut in and we're going to talk about that and we have two different scenarios which is like house parties where you know people. Everybody's like friendly. And then at clubs or resorts or whatever. Right. So private versus public. Yeah, sort of public. Exactly. Or friends or strangers. And we have a special guest. We do. We do. And she's here with us now. And we've talked about her so many times. And without giving away.
Well, her first initial begins with a J. And you've talked about that, that you've let me be with her. Oh, yeah. She took care of you. She took care of you. She did. Exactly. In a great way, by the way. Exactly. So the reason why this episode was inspired is because, as you know, as I spoke just a little earlier about our house party and my experience, is we thought that let's explain to people the good way to be able to jump into the action. Or cut it. Right, exactly. Like ask permission or whatever. Thank you.
the good way to be able to jump into the action or cut it right exactly like ask permission or whatever exactly and sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't right yeah and it's good and bad right can go either way and the really cool thing also is with having jay here with us is that she's going to explain what it's like as a single unicorn female. Exactly. And it's different for her. It's totally different. Yeah, than it is for me or Jay-R. Exactly. Exactly. So where do you want to start? So I want to start with the familiar, the friends. Okay.
So let's go back to, we're having a house party, right? And everybody's here and there's an orgy in the basement. Which is typical. Right. Very. Right. Very. It's historical.
And the funny thing about the situation that I was talking about earlier is that I looked to Jayay and she's like she's in the corner i think she's kind of like been with some people maybe but i don't know that she has had sex yet and i'm like come here there's this guy come over here really appreciated the notice by the way exactly you know i was like come on let's be inclusive here but i think that for me when it's a house party or you know we're at a hotel takeover party but we've been invited to a room where it's all of our friends or in any of those situations where it's very familiar for me i, I can look at the situation, I can watch an orgy going on, and I know how to approach.
So, the best way for me to approach is to approach the female. Exactly. So, there are certain couples, J and M, you know, R and L, you know, if I see them having sex, I know that if I lay down next to them and I start to kiss and rub her, that most likely she's going to invite me in. But the reason why we're here is it doesn't always happen that way correct correct well well when it's your friends and you know because you've been received that way in the past right and and conversely i we have certain friends where the couples i would never interrupt. Right. Because you know.
The woman would not accept. You know the dynamics. Because I know them. The dynamics of the situation. That's right. Exactly. Right. So I think that it's a bit easier. I think when you know the people you know. Sure.
Let's let Jay talk about when she's in a familiar situation like the basement of our house and you know everybody right yeah so you know how do you decide like who you're going to cut in with and how are you going to do it yes a really good topic by the way good question because this is always going to start with the person how do they feel about themselves also to being able to read the room and what's the vibe how far along is this train did they just leave the station are they midway down the track are they about to arrive you mean a couple yeah well when you decide to when you enter a room great space you want to kind of read the situation read the room and that's about sensing how long has this been going on how intense is this right but always leaning into your own team member great leaning and if i'm gonna enter in it's like i'm gonna look to the lady first yeah respect is an action it's not just a word yeah and in lifestyle we talk a lot about respect and that's important because you also never know what people's boundaries are exactly right so don't assume and i do think that like in any situation public or private for me my most success it has been starting with the woman absolutely you know so whether it's public or private like that's where i start i'm not going to approach a couple and then all of a sudden like start to like try to have sex with a man without the woman he's already with a woman right and i'm trying to cut in no no no they're already engaged this is her allowing me to join absolutely absolutely they're engaged you don't want to disengage it right in a negative a negative context yeah no you don't want to mess up that energy but i do think the timing that jay just talked about is very very important it's critical it's like yeah think about it when you get started you know it's like okay i get on my bike and then all of a sudden i'm getting on my bike and now i'm blowing bubbles and now i'm going to ride my bike without my hands and i'm going to start to juggle too and then i'm going to spin a plate on top of my head exactly things get busy.
Yeah. And sometimes people are so into what they're doing. Yeah. And I've been in that space, even though I might know two couples and they're saying, yeah, come on, hop on in. Right. Everybody's so, you know, preoccupied with all of their appendages. And you don't want to ruin it for them. Yeah. So I think in general, you know, a guy trying to break in, you're going to try to. Totally different. Yeah. But you're going to interface with the guy and say, where are you? Interface, baby. Interface. Yeah. So, no. So, I have watched J.R. do this. So, he doesn't. No. He just, like.
So, again, he approaches the man. Right. I do. Because it would be very disrespectful for him to just like try to devour the woman. So he approaches the man. Devour. Hold on. I like that. I like that term. Devour the woman. I really like that. But no. So what he does is like he looks at the guy. He makes like these eye movements. I do. Hand signals. I signal like down yes he does thumbs up amazing lines right it's like sos sos help me help me no no no he doesn't do that at all he like nasa said up and down or left and right and they'll either say yes So shake me off, and that's fine. Exactly.
There's actually three possible outcomes. Go ahead. One is, yeah, sure, come on, jump on in. Right. Two is, hold it, hold it. Wait. I'm ready to blow. And the other one is? The other one is, come back. Come back in an hour. Come back in an hour. Yeah. But it is a very tenuous situation like for for new couples approaching the lifestyle like how do they get in on the action but let me just say it's different for the guys and the girls when a guy tries to break in it's more of i'm'm taking over. Because there isn't any male play in that. Right, right.
For a woman breaking in, it's like, much easier, much easier. And maybe it's a woman, woman thing, plus the guy. Yeah, yeah. It's totally different. It is. It is different. It's totally different. You're right. You're right. Because there is a sense of loss, in a sense, because you're getting replaced for a moment. For the guy, you're getting replaced. Right. Yeah. But for women, it's like more of an ass. Yeah. Bring it on. Bring it on. Right. Yeah. Which is, yeah. You know, we don't really think about it that way.
For Jay and I, like, you know, her and I are just like, yeah, how do we make this happen but i think it's important for the couples to understand the perspective from the unicorns that are out there yeah what we look for i think it's a great attribute for a unicorn to understand that you can't assume that everyone is a swinger you can't assume that every couple is going to be the same so i'm always really feeling out the vibe. And if there's a lean in, if there's a sign, if there's that. The cues. Yeah, the cues. Thank you. Let's get back to those cues. Hold on.
That's a great point because a lot of times we come down to our playroom and a couple just want to be with themselves. Yeah. So that's a great, fantastic point where they don't want anybody breaking in because they just want to be with themselves. So that's a great, fantastic point where they don't want anybody breaking in because they just want to be by themselves. So what it is, when a couple goes out for the night, what may happen is they want to be together first, have that first half, to get that connection going, to really get warmed up into that love vibe.
And then after they've connected, then it's like okay you go play i go play let's go play yeah or sometimes yeah sometimes not maybe i prefer that but maybe they just want to play it themselves okay just be but you never know and so so jay and i actually had this conversation you know about if you're a couple that does really want to play with other people. Right. And so I'm going to kind of move it here now to the public, to the people that you don't know, and how to make it happen for you if you want to cut in. And so I have a couple words of advice on this.
So if you're at a club or in a public space and you actually do want to have sex with other people, the best thing for you to do is start with yourself. So for JR and I, what we normally do is we go to a club and we start to talk to a couple people we make some friends so i talked to you about the experience in brussels right i met two girls that i connected with and the one girl later had the train of guys like lining up, but I knew, but I became friends with her like hours before. Of course you did.
And, and you know what, if I wanted to, not that I did, but when she had that train going on, if I wanted in on that action, all I would have had to do is because I spent time with her, I talked to her, we like bonded. It was very warm. All I would have had to do is like lay down on the bed next to her. We got a line going out the door. Trust me. Line of what? A line of guys. There you go. Just being exact. And all I would have had to do was lay down next to her and start to kiss her and rub her and just simply say, hey, can I join in? Exactly.
And in a moment, I know that she would have accepted me because we had already spent time together. So when you're in a non-familiar place, anything that you can do to bond yourself with people and get to know them and feel what that acceptance level is going to be. So that's number one.
Number two is that if you're at a club or a resort or you're wherever where there's a bunch of strangers and you're trying to hook up, the only way that you're going to get other people to jump in and have sex with you is that you have to get naked and start to have sex first.'s like the first people that dance on the dance floor right and so get the party started exactly you gotta get the party started so we back up for a minute and the fact you say like the fact you say you just sit down and just lay down and with her and the line to girl. Right. So on the back end of what's happening.
First up, best dressed. Right. On the back end of what's happening, the husband or boyfriend of the women who were laid down. Yeah. They're looking at the guys. They're vetting the guys. Yeah. Like making sure. Making sure they're cool. Hopefully. Making sure they got condoms. Hopefully. Yeah, all that stuff.
All all that all that would be appropriate oh we've seen that yeah was that a byoc situation we'll talk about that later yeah trust me that's a different episode by the way what's b what what did you say byoc i i know you bring your own car it's okay all this is I mean, not that I've ever been in a train situation, but it's the comfort level. And I think that, as Jay would say, is that you play on your own team. What is that? Start with your own team and then see what happens from there.
And I think that what she means by that is that women in a lifestyle are so gracious and kind to each other. And this is how it all happens. Yeah. Also, too, go out and have a great time with yourself and your partner. Sure. And when you start having a great time, it's like a snowball effect. Exactly. People will start to gravitate you.
You start to warm warm up the vibe's feeling good before you know what the tribe's gathering and bam you're off collective effervescence coming right at you collective effervescence and byop bring your own pitch i'm gonna i'm gonna go back to and do a little summary here i'm gonna do a little summary of advice yeah number one with your friends establish relationships where you know that you can jump in you know and also, sure. Preserve that. Timing-wise. Respect the matrimony. Respect the couple. Without your friends? And respect the orgasm. Yeah. Do not interrupt.
They're just about to crack the code. And that shit happens. That stuff happens all the time. Yeah. That's what I'm saying. You have to really understand. Where are we at with this? And then if you really want action, you have to really understand where are we at with this and then if you really want action you have to do the action right yeah you can't expect it to come to you jr and i were in tampa at eyes wide shut and we met this guy yeah we you know i'm on top of him we're in like this playroom and I'm on top of him. I'm like riding him.
And this young, beautiful guy comes up and he sits down next to us and he starts to have a conversation with us. While things are going on. Like, really? Like, really? But no, but it was good. It was very respectful. Because he just wanted to see us. But it was very respectful. It's about thinking about other people, but also thinking about yourself. No, you have to, because at times things can be a lot of fun. But then you also realize, you know what, I really want to just concentrate on this over here.
And you begin to you know feel more confident and actually saying not only may i cut in but hey thanks a lot but i'm gonna tap you out it's time for you wait what is that i want to know about that so so a message here about like um how do i cut it yeah may i cut it yes Is be respectful. Like, just be responsive of what's going on. It's also same sex to same sex. Same sex. Don't assume. So if you're a woman trying to cut in to a couple, you approach the woman. Right. You kiss and caress. But don't assume that the woman wants to be kissed and caressed. Right.
Approach the woman with respect and lean in. And if she gives in, great, if not. Back off. Respect the boundary of the matrimony. Exactly. You don't know what their boundary. Because some people are like, you know what? We don't kiss anyone else but ourselves. Right. And there's also women that are not bi. I mean, we have very, very dear friends. We do. That are not, the women are not bi in any way. No.
And they would be so angry exactly yeah and for the guys same thing talk to the guy first like talk to him get eye contact and see what's going on you know be respectful and know what's going on you know like have some kind intuition of what's going on. I know some women in the lifestyle that do not have sex with other men, but they're in the lifestyle with their husband. So, again, you don't know people's boundaries. You never know what the rule is. You cannot assume. Exactly. You cannot assume. Exactly.
Okay, so that's our middle episode middle episode here yeah and we hope that this information we really hope that this information has been helpful exactly to make you successful in your lifestyle right and next we're going to talk about what's coming up next that's right and we'll talk to you in a little minute a little few. Talk to you in just a few seconds. All right, beautiful people, we're back. And we're talking about what we're going to do next. Yeah, what's next?
And we're doing and we're talking about what we're gonna do next yeah what's next and we're doing a philadelphia lifestyle club friction saints and sinners northeast and a molten metal is a theme which we've done before well we've done saints and sinners and metal is new and our favorite dj i know mo green mo green oh my god we love him hello mo hello so hey yeah it'll be a very cool time exactly and you know what we might get lucky again but wait we might don't you worry don't worry about that that, J.R. and I are going to do this Europe trip. We are going on a Europe? Yeah.
We're going to flying into Rome first. Right, Rome. Rome first for four days. And then Crete. So the Crete thing is a fabulous. Yeah. That's how I'm looking forward to it. I know, but there's no lifestyle there. So in Rome, we're going to hit two lifestyle clubs. We are, we are. And in Crete, it's the family wedding thing. Yeah, yeah. And then we're hitting Paris at the end. But to me, Crete, relax by the pool and hang out. I know, but there's no lifestyle there. And people are going to pamper me with drinks and food. Yeah, hell of a lot. And that's what I want. I love that. Okay.
Right, right. So that's going to be awesome. But then we'll go to Paris after that. Exactly. And we're going to hit two lifestyle clubs in Rome and then two lifestyle clubs in- No. One. Only one in Paris. Oh, no. We have two plans. We will let you know. How's that? Okay. So I don't mean to correct, but I won in Paris. Because the other one is very French-centric. Okay. And they don't like us. They don't like Americans. So then after Europe, we're going to be at July Share Nation. Share Nation!
Where JR is going to be in his happy place because he's hosting hosting the pool party pool party on july 13th exactly so if you're anywhere close to parsipony northern new jersey parsipony go to our website lifestyle links.com and you can book you can you can book a party it's going to be like super fun and and so jr is like hosting and there's going to be super fun. It's super fun. And so JR is hosting, and there's going to be all these games. And it's a Friday night pool party. And then- Well, hold on. Friday night under the stars. Right. Pool party. Which is first time ever. Right. Ever.
Right. That they're letting us do pool party at night. The Friday night party at the pool. Right. Exactly. Yeah. Then Saturday- Is the pool party during the day. Which we are hosting. Right, and then Saturday night. Hold on, stop, we have new games. We do have new games. But if there's any inclement weather, we are going to do a backup. Which is Wheel of Fornication.
But we hope that it doesn't rain and we can all do the the bull riding and the flamingo toss and how many sexual positions can you do in 30 seconds and we have all sorts of games it's fun it's fun so after that which is what we're going to sunny rest sunny rest august second third Now, where is that? It's kind of like in the Poconos. It is in the Poconos. Kind of. It's in the woods of Pennsylvania. If you're a swinger, you have to go. It's amazing. It's so amazing. The people, we've talked about Sunny Rest before. We have. M&D are like the king and queen there.
Oh, yeah it's like it's a beautiful place and so then after that after what august 17th house party again at our house where house party at our house here august 17th are you serious yeah so are you just giving you are giving you for like warning you a warning. Come on. We're giving you notification. That there's a house party at our house. Exactly. On August 17th. Exactly. So be there or be, I don't know, square. Yeah, exactly. I do want to, as we're talking about house party, I do want to shout this out. Our very good friends. Who? M and D. Okay. And I might do. Oh, okay, M and D. Okay.
They're fairly new friends. Yes. We met them at Jeff and Ann's. We did. And they're dear friends with one of our single girls. Her name begins with an M. That's correct.
And they are faithful and loyal and loyal listeners right so i just wanted to thank you for being faithful and loyal listeners exactly exactly so so in any case then there's lots more things coming there is visit our website exactly what is that lifestyle links.com yeah so it's l-i-f-e-s-t-y-l-e-l-y-n-x-l-y-n-x.com i do that all the time and thank you so much for listening yeah and we'll see you very very soon if you plan to be with us yes and you should yeah you really should all right bye bye you beautiful people We'll see you next time.
