E13: Entry Points

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hello you beautiful people i am jr and i'm d we have been in the lifestyle for seven plus years and we're here to share our sexy stories and experiences if you're not 18 this podcast is not for you and if you are please go visit lifestyle links.com that's l-y-n-x hello you beautiful people and welcome to episode number 13 13 and what's the name of this This is the first time. Hello, you beautiful people, and welcome to episode number 13. Oh, 13. And what's the name of this? The 13th episode, we're going to name this, what was the name? I don't forget. I forget. Oh, Entry Points. Entry Points.

It's not the entry points you're thinking about, but that's okay. That's why we love you people. All right. So we always start with what have we done lately yeah but but let's just talk about episode 13 so on a like a cruise ship or elevators or you know you know there's no 13 there's no floor 13 deck 13 but we're okay with 13 we're okay with it yeah because it's not a Friday. It's not a Friday. Yeah, it's not Friday at 13. In any case, so we always start with what have we done lately? And what is that all about? So we haven't been real busy. No, we have not. Well, we've been busy.

We've been delinquent in our sexual assaults. I know. Across the parameters. I know. I mean, we've been busy, but we haven't gotten to have sex with a lot of people. I know. We haven't. Yeah, yeah. Okay. So, first of all, we went to a parade, St. Paddy's Day parade. We did. The weekend before St. Paddy's Day. So, in Morristown, there's a huge parade, St. Paddy's Day. And we have friends that have a law office that overlooks the parade. That overlooks the parade. It's actually fabulous. There's probably like 100 people stuffed into this. Into this office. Yeah. Well, there's multiple offices.

Yeah, it's like three big offices in a common area. And there's kids running around, which I don't like. Yeah, exactly. And food is crazy. And there's all sorts of crazy people. There is. I mean, there's police officers. But we're the craziest. Oh, no, you're the craziest. So the gentleman that JR is really good friends with is actually, he's very important in the legal system. Yes. In Morris. We're not going to mention. We're not going to mention any more about that. But in any case, so this is like a couple hours in. Party's going. Now the parade is over.

Like they have these windows that multiple – like a lot of windows that you can like, it was raining that day too. It was a little bit. So, but you know, we can all like overlook the parade and it's beautiful. It's like really cool. And it wasn't like raining hard. So the parade still happened. But in any case, this is several hours after the parade is done, but the party is still going. Going and going. Yeah.

And and there's a lot of like you know irish coffees and uh all sorts of like it's crazy drinking and there and there's food and there's food there too in any case so i see jr he's talking and he's got about four or five women kind of huddled around him, right? As per usual. Yes. Interestingly enough, I can kind of hear out of the corner, mind you, this is not a lifestyle thing. Oh, not at all. This is vanilla, right? Not even close. Right? And so he starts to talk about being a swinger.

i've been drinking to all these women and i come up from the back right because he's talking to like four or five women and the one woman turns around and she says oh my god he's talking about being a swinger i'm not sure i don't even know what to think of this and i look at her I'm like mm-hmm yeah I'm with him I said no no it's cool it's not it's not as dramatic as you really think yeah Yeah, but you can't go into a whole discussion. It's, you know, they're never going to get it. He's always trying to convert people. No, I'm not. Yes. I'm just trying to explain my position.

And our very good girlfriend, C. Again, position. Yeah, position. Yeah, exactly. Our very good girlfriend, C, of J&C, she does the same thing. We'll be out, right? And she'll be like, hmm, those people think, I think, maybe, yeah, those people, I'm going to tell them about the lifestyle. No, don't do it. This is me saying don't do it. I do it all the time. Exactly. No, but it turned out okay. It was all right. I don't know about okay. What did you find out? Well, then I met that young guy. Which guy? That I sent the picture to. What picture? He's like into horses and animals.

That should have flagged you right there into horses and animals. It wasn't that should have flagged you right there no no horses it wasn't for me it was for our very good girlfriend a of j a okay fine i'm like well and he he's looking for a girlfriend and you know i'm like hmm this might be a connection Does he like goats, too? No, no goats in that. I'm sorry.

Yeah, he's bad so then uh oh then the following weekend which was actually saint patty's day weekend that was fun yeah we went to atlantic city so i was there on thursday yeah with your guy guy buddies we do some gambling you were up for a while i was up up for a while. Yeah. It wasn't that bad, though. And you had a beautiful dinner. Yeah, the Gordon Ramsay guy. Gordon Ramsay. Yeah. Yeah, Gordon Ramsay restaurant. Which is cool. Steaks, beautiful steaks. Great. So in any case. But then you guys came down the next day. Right, because you rented us this penthouse Airbnb.

I rented this Airbnb penthouse. It was, the views were amazing. yeah two nights it was and it was it was um c's birthday yeah well celebration two totally separate bedrooms two bedrooms yeah really common area with you know living room and kitchenette it was really cool for a kitchen not a kitchenette but yeah kitchenette. Yeah, full kitchen, yeah. Yeah. Not that we ever cooked. It was good. It was fantastic. And we went out to dinner. Fantastic dinner at this place called... Knife and Fork? Knife and Fork on Friday. Yeah. And Saturday at Doc's. Right, the seafood place. With six of us.

Oh, yeah. Because we had another set of lifestyle. This was actually all lifestyle. It was all lifestyle. Yeah, yeah. So we had another set of Lifestyle. This was actually all Lifestyle. It was all Lifestyle. Yeah. So we were there with the one couple, and then the other couple came. Exactly. Yeah. And they saw this band. It was really good. It was fun. I didn't like some of it. I'm not going to get into it. That's why I didn't like it. Because you have to realize, J.R. has been a musician his entire life. So he's very picky. Yeah, I'm a musician who likes musicians. Yeah.

And this band had tracks running. Right. It was killing them. It was killing me. He was like, fakers. They might as well lip sync. And I was really looking forward to. Right. They were like a effinescence, a hailstorm. Right, the music. Yeah. Yeah, the music they were going to play. Which I loved, that kind of stuff. Yeah, exactly, yeah, yeah. In any case, we had a great time. We had a great time. Oh, my goodness. And then UNC took the, what's that, rickshaw? Is that what it is?

Oh, so we, so we're freaking nobody on the boardwalk so with like five sheets not three or four five sheets to the wind i'm going to boardwalk and there's guys on the boardwalk to have these little like baby that was the only one it was yeah yeah and so the four of us walk out it's like a little rickshaw and then you sit it, and he pushes it. Yeah, right? And Jay and I look at each other. That's C's husband, right? And we're like, yeah, we're not going to be able to take us all. So you got on with her. Right. The funny part, he was going fast. You guys were walking. I know.

He was like, we got them first. I know.

And he's pushing you pushing you oh my god and we were like trying to keep up but we this is normally the way it plays out with us because him and i are like um we're a little bit more hearty like we can actually oh you we don't need to be uh-huh uh-huh we don't need to be pampered you're a male friend yeah the husband to that couple and myself and the female we need to be here princesses we do this is so funny oh my god so it's great and we did shopping it was awesome yeah we did do shopping lots of shopping yeah yeah cool stuff so not a lot of really exciting crazy sexual stuff to talk about but but the point we're making here is that it doesn't have to have sex every time it just has to be fun yeah and camaraderie and just enjoying yourself yeah all right so so next is our main topic it is what is that you named it i did it's what i named what did i name it no no no the name of it is entry point right we'll be right back said i'm all about it yeah i'm.

And so what's all of this about? So it's about people that are just coming into the lifestyle or returning to the lifestyle. Yeah. We got a little bit of inspiration about that thought. Yeah, me too. And how do you go about that? Right. That's what we'll talk about. And it's because we meet so many couples and we interact with so many couples that we can see their story.

Just coming into the lifestyle you do how do you approach it and then there's people that leave the lifestyle and how much all the time yeah they leave for whatever reason for personal reasons personal reasons marriage reasons yeah and then they come back right and they're like they're re- like- And they're re-entering. And they're re-entering. Yes. And how do we do that? We don't want to do it the way we did it before. We want to do it a little differently. And because there are so many stages to lifestyle.

So JR and I kind of like, we actually have it down to this to this that's like five exactly there's five there there's social so social is first and what that is is people want to be social and lifestyle they want to come to the events and have a dance they want to be with us lifestyle people and hang out and have fun and they don't necessarily gonna mix right it's just the social aspect that they love. Exactly. And then the next step is soft. Source swap. Right.

Where they want to participate in some way but not fully engage in other couples right but they want to expose themselves and then so they have sex with each other in the same bed. Or they may play with other people without having penetration. Exactly. So it's the next level of, you know, hey, I was social and then I moved into soft. Right, exactly. And then the next level is? Well, it's kind of full swap. Full? Where you switch partners. And that has a lot of definitions, though. It does, whether it's the same room or different rooms or whatever.

But they've gotten to that place where they're okay with letting their partners play with another person alone or together. That's what we are. We are. And people stay here for a long time. Yeah. And that's where I think where most people are is in a full swap situation. Right. You know, you meet a couple, you have something in common, and you talk about it, and you go into a playroom. It's a house party. Yeah. House party. Right. And you have sex. There's lots of options. Right. Yeah.

I mean, staying at full swap is is a very good lifetime kind of position to be right there are other people that take it to the next level which is which is open we actually have friends that do open which open basically means that they're still together as a couple. But they have other people that they can go on vacations with, that they have separate relationships with. That are kind of known to each other. Right. Fully known to each other. And actually, they talk about it. Some of this open stuff is really sexy. Exactly. Right.

Which is empowering then they come together right you're right so yeah so then the final step in our minds basically is poly but it may not necessarily be the final step it's all all that i mean i lived in a poly situation but i wasn't married to either one of those people. So it's when you're all together, everybody lives together, and we all have sex together, we all have lives together, and poly's a lot. It is a lot, because it's many partners. Yeah, and poly can present itself in many ways. So we have all of these to overcome.

It depends on where you are in life like so for me probably was easy at that point in my life probably would be hard for me now so back to where we started right as an entry point right so when new couples come into the lifestyle they have parameters they have ideas or maybe not right. Right, they're like, they don't know. In any case, so typically what I find what happens is you often have a woman who is bi. Correct. Yes. That's the easiest entry point. It is.

So a lot of people come in, couples come into the lifestyle because the female in the couple is by and wants a female female kind of right relationship and she's good with that and she's missing that and her man will accept that and the way to get that is in the lifestyle right that's where you get that easy to happen easy to happen we were at a sharon asian party not too long ago and we met this beautiful couple she was this professional massage therapist really not one of those happy ending kind of no no no she's like a medical exactly and her guy was like super smart and it was their first party Of course course we met them yeah of course because they were sitting in the corner we went up and introduced ourselves and and they were like so cool yeah very cool and actually the funny thing is that her very dear uh girlfriend jay had an injury she did she came to the event on a friday on a friday with a back injury right and she thought maybe it would work out and it didn't no so she's stuck in her hotel room oh my goodness the whole lifestyle party right now and i'm just like looking at this new girl i'm like can you help her yeah can you help her yeah so we took her up and she took them up.

At some point. It relieves some of the pain. Exactly. In any case, their position is that they're new. So this is how they're starting. You know, like she's bi, and so he's okay with her being with other girls. Right. And that's fine. Yeah. And actually, I think at one point I might have said, hmm, will you be okay with him being with somebody? And she just looks at me and she just didn't have an answer. Right. Which men know. Which men know. We don't know. For now. Okay, men know. For now, it's no. No, right. Yeah, yeah. That's the whole progression of it.

We're going to keep in touch with them because they were very good people. Yeah. And they were new. And that's what we do. We bring people into lifestyle and introduce them. Super cool people. Yeah. But we also have these dear friends that were in the lifestyle very seriously. And then things with their relationship.

Yeah, awry and so and they're coming back in and we suggested some things trying to establish yourself again possibly be with your friends that you know and trust just come in that way and maybe even soft swap first soft swap first yeah like maybe do the progression again pick couples that you like that you're okay with and just be with them right don't go mad crazy with yeah lifestyle that's the thing blah so that's the thing just keep it contained right right so a safe environment comfortable environment but that's the thing like so it's always do you have sex with strangers or friends and that's a level right so for instance on sls there's a thing called hot dates in the past i've done that and it never works out good because either the couples don't look like themselves or they're not like married.

They're like cheating. Oh, yeah, yeah. That's what we don't really like. They're cheating on their spouses, but they're together. Figures and cheaters. Doing this hot date. So we do not do hot dates. We don't. We don't. But once in a while, people do get okay with that. But you have to spend the time and energy to do that. Like, you know, because it's a hit or miss kind of thing. So let's go back to- It's more miss. To me, it's more miss than hit. It is. It is. Let's go back because JR and I are going to be going next month to- Where? We're going to Brussels and Amsterdam. We are. Yes.

So how does this tie to entry points, you ask? Well, it's our entry into the European community and our entry into the sex clubs of Europe. So this is the whole argument. So here's me. I'm like, okay, why don't we go on SDC, put together like a little meet and greet thing. So at least we get one night to meet them in advance because I'm not real good with having sex with strangers. And what did I say? He's like, no, Europeans don't do it that way. They do not. But I, no, no, I still think, I still think. Oh my God. Right? All right. Okay, fine. All right. But you're, no. So we've had friends.

We have friends that have gone to Europe and gone to the sex clubs. It's like you go in, it's like, bam, bam, thank you, ma'am. Yeah, right. Yeah. It's like that. But in any case, I'm trying to give him the clue. So if we do a little meet and greet. What clue? Do a little meet and greet on Friday night. Okay, fine. Yeah, we'll find some expats. Expats? Yeah. You don't even know what that means. I absolutely know what that means. You do? Of course. Where are you going to find them? They'll be there. For you to find that is like a needle in a haystack. No, it's not. Every European country.

In any case, we are going to let you know how long this works out. I'm not real optimistic. Let's put it that way. Oh, God. Fuck him. I'm going to go on SDC. What did you say? I'm going to. You said the F word. I know. I'm going to hook us up. I'm going to hook us up. He never gives me control of the website. That's true. Yeah. Because he's scared. I'm not scared. Leary is the one. Not scared. Leary. Trust me. In any case, all that I know from all that are friends that have been to Europe is that you have to be dressed very stylish. You can't even get into the club. No.

You can't have jeans on. Pants. Men have to have shoes, like good shoes. Women have to have heels. You have to be dressed properly. Right, right. You have to be sexy. And one club that we looked at, when you in at 9 o'clock, whatever, to midnight, fine. Yeah, then you had to change. So at midnight You had to get scanty. No, the men had to have the shirts off at the bar. And the ladies had to have lingerie. Yeah. The men had to have shirts off. I'm in. I'm in. We'll be fine. Well, I'll have to see what this is. So I have spent the last week trying to find a bag. You have to pump up.

Yeah, no, I'll have to see what this is. So, I have spent the last week trying to find a bag. You've got to pump up. Yeah, no. I'm trying to find a bag where I can fit these high heels in. I know, right? And an alternate outfit. You drove me fucking crazy today at whatever we were. We're trying to look at bags, and she's driving me fucking crazy. Oh, we're finding the right bag to carry this shit in.

And the bags are, like, like uh well because they're expensive they're they're secured there's security tags on them that only go like three feet they're like little in any case here's what i will say about europe is that first impressions matter they do and and so this is what i have learned through lifestyle is that your first impression doesn't really matter regardless of whether you're first or re-entering this is a good point yeah it's so much about what do you wear how are you groomed exactly so jr and i are not like the perfect specimens of people yeah but we dress well and we take care of ourselves you know We'll see you next time.

are you groomed exactly so jr and i are not like the perfect specimens of people yeah but we dress well and we take care of ourselves you know so it's about how much manscaping do you do it's about a woman who let's let's back up so in these clubs and in europe and u.s not as much i. But in Europe, you got to show up at the front door dressed well. Forget the manscaper. That's under the clothes. You got to be dressed with a nice shirt, pants, shoes, women dressed nice with high heels.

You have to look good, you know, be like right like sexy so we are gonna see how all this plays out right let's see if we get in we'll get in trust me i'll kick you to the curb and grab one of those maybe one of those puppies puppies yeah ities? Yeah. It might be puppies. It might be. Yeah, yeah. What else you got? So in any case, so when you're new or you're re-entering the lifestyle, one of the best places, the most awesome places to start are with meet and greets. Probably. Yeah. Probably. Well, you knew. You got to take it slow. You got to take it slow.

gotta take it slow you gotta yeah you gotta ease in whatever yeah meet people that you can connect with you know it's it's all about like what's the name of this topic this topic is entry point find your entry point i'm surprised i remember shocked. I would have named it something else. I know. We just named it like two minutes ago. And we love actually naming these topics together. Yeah, we talk about it. Yeah, it's such a collaborative effort. Thank you so much for listening. Yeah. Anything else? What else you want to say? Oh, that's it. That's it?

now it's what's coming up next and we got a lot going on we have a lot going on we gotta catch up stay tuned you people okay people that was our entry points main topic Thank you. okay people that was our entry points main topic and now what are we doing next yes and what is that where are we going i don't know you tell me lots of stuff is that right yeah so hit me hit me yeah hit you okay i'm doing this all off the top of my head. No, mind you. He has notes, and I don't. PGC. Oh, yeah. PGC. We're going to Pleasure Garden. March 30th, the Saturday night before Easter.

Because we're going to be down there anyway. Yeah, we're going to see the kids. Yeah, we'll stay with my kids. Yeah, but PGC, Sunday night. It should be good. It should be good. Come and join us. So if you're anywhere in the New Jersey, Philadelphia, Delaware area, meet us at Pleasure Garden Club in Philadelphia on March 30th. Absolutely.

We would love to see you you have no idea so fun so fun exactly so then after that the very next weekend we got invited to some sort of hotel yeah yeah april 6th we got invited oh no it's a meet and greet it starts as a meet and greet that's what it said no no baby that's perfect for like new people yeah of course yeah like for new people that you go to a meet and greet right but then it's supposed to transgress transgress into a hotel which we'll see yeah exactly yeah so we're invited to that so check on sols april 6th yeah yeah it should be there okay what's next oh a trip yeah so we're invited to that.

So check on SLS, April 6th. Yeah, yeah. It should be there. Okay, what's next? Oh, our trip. Yeah, well, we're going to tell you all about Europe. Right, but so let me just preface this. So it's like Thursday morning. No, we're leaving Wednesday night. No. Let me just start. Let me just start start it's thursday morning leap year leap year and i'm i'm waking up this trip happens i'm waking up and i go on my phone i do this every morning i go see what's going on and i see this thing that says united airlines special event special whatever he's gonna tell you how this got booked.

50,000 miles to Europe. Right. For different cities. Right. He sends me a text message and he says, do you want to go to Europe in April? Yeah. Yeah, sure. Brussels was the best bet. Anyway. In any case, I am so excited to actually experience a European lifestyle club. And we're going to tell you all about them yeah yes but i still want to do a pre meet and greet in any case whatever we will tell you so after brussels is we really wanted to go to amsterdam but the flights weren't that great And the Airbnbs were very expensive. Yeah, yeah. Versus...

We really wanted to go to Amsterdam, but the flights weren't that great. And the Airbnbs were very expensive versus Brussels. Right. It's going to be beautiful. So we wound up going, you know, flying to Brussels, doing an Airbnb in Brussels. But, but. Taking the train. To Amsterdam. The really cool thing is that it's going to be all those Holland tulips. Have you ever seen all those pictures of all those tulips? Is that a lifestyle thing? I'm not sure if that's probably a problem. I think that all girls' vaginas look like those. Possibly.

So we're going to go to Brussels and take a side trip to Amsterdam one day. Right. And come back. Yeah.

We're going to go to a couple of lifestyle clubs yeah we're gonna tell you we're gonna tell you all about it so what i'm planning on i don't know about you what i'm planning on is our next episode is going to be about lifestyle clubs yeah like u.s versus yeah how different they are exactly yeah that might be so that's gonna be on end of april episode okay yes i agree i agree and that's gonna be you want to really cool it's gonna be really cool to that so then after brussels and amsterdam we get to go to our very dear friends jna we do um yeah they they're horse people and we get to go to their derby party so on may 4th is the kentucky derby derby party right so it's it starts out as swirl it starts out of swirl swirl what is that now what is swirl what is swirl we told them before yeah if you If you our last podcast you know what that is swirl is yeah vanilla and lifestyle mixed mixed right so at one point about nine ten o'clock maybe even earlier the vanilla people they leave yeah and now it's all lifestyle people so we're really looking forward to that.

So what else do we have? We have. Oh, yes. Hold on. We have. So this is a little far out, but we need to mention this. We are planning a group trip to Caliente. The weekend after Labor Day. Right. So September 5th through 9th, which is a Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, coming back on Monday. We're organizing a group rate kind of a thing, which everyone can take advantage of. Right. And we'll be having pool games. Lots of games. We may even do a podcast from there. Oh, that may be nice. Which there's another couple who does that. Yeah. Yeah, there is. So we may do that.

And so if you've never been to Caliente, it's a great, great. It's a beautiful, it's a beautiful place. It's totally enclosed. There's a pretty good restaurant. The pool is fabulous. Yeah, yeah. And there's like two bars that support the pool. Yeah, really nice place. It's very good. Yeah, yeah. It's very, very good. So we'll keep you updated on that. We will. And thank you so much for listening. Yeah. And once again, thank you. Email us at... Yeah, not email us at lifestyle links.com. That's L Y N X. And thank you. You beautiful people. We'll see you next time.