E1: How We Became Swingers

Transcript

Hi, you beautiful people. If you're listening to this podcast, it's actually intended for adults, so if you're under 18, please change this channel. Or change the dial. Just change the dial. Don't even think about it. we are jr and d we've been in the lifestyle swinging for the past seven plus years and here to share with you our fun lifestyle stories experiences and lessons learned along the, we'll also explore sexy and amusing adventures of our many friends. Be sure to visit our website at lifestylelinks said I'm all about it, yeah, I'm all about it.

We're going to talk about different things. Our main content tonight is, what is our main content tonight? Why we're swingers. Why we're swingers. Or how we became swingers. How we became swingers. And there's some friends that we know. We have lots of friends. And some people know the story. It'll give us away. Yeah, don't give us away. Don't do that. And if we're talking about you, we're only going to use your initials. That's right. So we don't want to ruin anybody's identity. This podcast is also linked to our website.

Our website is called LifestyleLinks.comcom that's l-y-n-x l-y-n-x okay l-i-f-e s-t-y-l-e right l-y-n-x that's right that's correct dot com and uh we'll ask for feedback and there's a spot on our website where you can actually post comments so we're actually going to repeat your comments on air that's right during our next episode our main our main thrust for that website was to gather information about parties and events and things in your area so that if you have a babysitter for the night and you want to go out you can just go on to our site and see what's going on and pick and pick the best best thing for you that evening so you can have a good time we want you to have a good time you know so so every episode we'll start with what we've done lately then we'll have a topic and some interviews actually as well and then we'll wrap up with things coming up next that's right that's right things up.

And we'll invite you to share on our website lifestyle things that are going on in your area. Right. And also, you know, if you attach to the lifestyle links dot com and give us some ideas, some questions and things, we'll do them right here. You've got it answered for you. Right. Yeah. Yeah. So, okay. So let's get into it. Here we go. What have we done lately? What have we done lately? We were at a house party last Saturday night. We were at a house party last Saturday night. Woo-hoo. Thank you to V and E for inviting us. It was a very sexy group. Very interesting party.

So, it was like a last-minute thing, and they invited us, because we invited them many times, right? Right. And there was a good amount of people there. There was, and different people. Maybe 30 people? People we didn't know, which was very, we knew like two couples, three, maybe, well, the hosts. Right. One other couple. Right. And then our good friends, yeah, J and C. Yes. Yeah, they were there. Yeah, yeah. But it was just a sexy group.

Yeah, it really they had an indoor hot tub indoor hot tub it was like really cool super cool super cool and all the pool table and like people like making have sex on a pool it was like they're playing pool and then playing on the pool yeah that's right and what was nice also is that also is that all the ladies came to the party initially dressed in sexy outfits, but then at about midnight- Sort of sexy. They had a nice short dress and stuff, but all of a sudden- Everybody was in these really cool lingerie outfits. Oh my God, it's ridiculous. Yeah, it was awesome. It was crazy.

It was garters and things just strapped on. Yeah, really sexy outfits. Yeah, yeah. And we ran into a guy that has a lifestyle website too. We did. We'll be talking about him in the future. We will. We won't. He's created a new Monopoly game that's all lifestyle oriented. Yeah, I was talking to him for a while. Yeah, yeah.

I think I was talking to him more than i was having any any interaction with the women there she was talking to the guy instead of making out with the girls it was interesting you know you know it's all about sometimes the social stuff than than anything else right which everybody kind of knows so what's uh we're gonna start out our first episode we have so many topics we want talk about. We have been in the lifestyle together for, I guess, seven years? Seven, eight. Yeah, seven and a half. People often ask, you know, how did you guys meet? How did you get into the lifestyle?

And the fun story is that we met on Match. We met on Match.com. How vanilla is that so we meet on match and we haven't met in person yet so we're emailing each other we're talking to each other on the phone and it's like april back in what 2016 april of 2016 and we get. We were supposed to get together in person, but something, we set a date, but then something came up, and he calls me out of the blue. Yeah. So, booked a party, a big Share Nation, and we're big Share Nation people. We were sponsors and influencers and promoters of Share Nation. Share Nation is a hotel takeover group.

But I forgot something. Oh. Because it was about the second conversation, phone conversation in, when we met on Match. Oh, that, that, yeah. And he says to me, he says, I'm a swinger. I did? I said that? Yeah, he says, I'm a swinger. And I said, oh, what's that? So he goes on to explain what a swinger is, and I'm like, oh, that's kind of cool. I had my first threesome when I was 19, and my children were six years apart. I was separated. I had a boyfriend and a girlfriend, and we're all boyfriend and girlfriend, and we all lived together. And he's like, oh, that's called a triad. A triad.

I had no idea. I mean. Then I went on. I was talking about, you know, this, oh, yeah, we have, like, house parties and hotel takeovers and there's cruises. And you're like, really? I go, yeah, and there's a website that we all kind of link. And you go, yeah, you said what? I said, it's organized? Yeah, it's organized, yeah.

I just thought it was me was me like no you know i was the only one on yeah you're the only person in the planet that like this kind of happened to like yeah okay went through life like this in any case so he calls me and now it's june we met initially in april and now it's June. So the party's like in four days. Okay. Four days. And I'm like, who am I going to bring? I made some phone calls, and I can't find anybody. All the women I know are busy. They've got kids and this, whatever. So I said, you know what? He calls me and says, you want to go to a party?

And he goes, oh, it's one of those parties. I'm like, oh, you know lots of people somebody yeah i'll try so i let a couple days go by and i call it back it's like friday now and the party's like saturday and you're at where where are you at i was actually a polo polo she's a polo having a grand time on a grand time like hi how are you I'd like you to come to the party tomorrow. And she says, well, I said, so I put my best. My best. Sympathy. Sympathy voice on. Oh, I can't go if I don't have a date and I need you to come with me. And luckily she gave in. Right, right.

Now, mind you, we had never met in person. Never. So he invites me to a lifestyle hotel takeover party. And you know how matches. You don't know if the person really looks like their pictures. That's what's crazy. Worried. So, you know, I'm like, I'm not thinking about that until about 15 minutes when she's supposed to show up. Because she's like, well, I need to, well, you wanted to go to a pool. You had to get a tan.

i needed to work on my tan yes and we had to go to dinner so i'm like yeah i got a pool i got a pool come over i got a pool and we'll go to dinner and whatever so it's about 15 minutes from her eta at the front door with a you're knocking on the front door so i'm like damn you know, you know, it's match. Sometimes people don't look. They have like 20-year-old pictures. But thank God the door opened up and it was this beautiful woman. I really did look like my pictures. Thank goodness. It did. I don't know if he would have had a choice. I think he would have had to take me anyway.

Yeah, ugly or she was so uh we actually go to the pool we have a great time and we show up to the hotel lobby and uh they check in and there's you know just hundreds of people these hotel paid takeover parties can be like five six seven hundred people depending on you know right they're big they're big so i'm standing in the lobby and everybody's saying hello to him and all these women are coming up to him giving him a kiss giving him a hug and i'm like watching all these really attractive ladies like kiss him and i'm like hmm there must be something good going on here Why do all these ladies like him there is something don't worry wait a minute so it was great yeah and you met all our all the friends that we have now you've met them at night yes our very dearest friends i've known as long as I've known him.

So I was instantly felt at home and haven't looked back. Yeah. And just to make a point, she would not let me have sex with her that night. That's right. I don't have sex on the first date. Lifestyle or not. I made her come, though. I made her come. Yeah, I let him do that yeah okay hello good guy I am yeah it was by like the third or fourth date we had sex yeah right exactly all good though okay so anyway that's our explanation of how we got together and sort of stumbled head first, foot first, diving into the lifestyle. Right. On our first date.

And for us, lifestyle is not really a decision. There wasn't any moment in our lives where we said, oh, I think we'll try being swingers. It's kind of the way we've always been. So it's just like people that are gay don't say oh i decided to be gay you know they just are they just are it's just in their dna and that's the way they're wired and it's how lifestyle is for us i've just always been this way early on things just happen you just realize that um you know that's the way it is and And you hit a point in your life, you meet somebody, and it's like, okay, we're off and running with this.

And you just feel so natural, right? And for us, you know, and so many of our friends do a lifestyle different. There's so many different degrees of doing lifestyle. But for us, in our minds, we're actually monogamous.

But we just have sex with other people yeah well yeah exactly we're monogamous but we have friends that we have sex with right yeah so it's but we have friends that have open marriages we have friends that are soft whoppers you know we have friends all sorts of you know friends that are not even swingers they just like the parties and they come and and, you know, they're not even a swinger. They're not, you know, they don't full swap. Correct. They don't even soft swap sometimes. They just like the atmosphere. They like the dance party. They like what's going on. They like the whole vibe.

And then we have friends that swap so much that they actually keep a kitty every time they have sex with somebody else somebody knew they put ten dollars in the pot on some weekends you know they'll probably put what fifty a hundred dollars in the pot so we're going we'll go on cruises and we go on cruises the bliss cruises a few people know what that is i'm sure a know what that is. We, now that we've gone like eight, nine cruises. Yeah. I think we've gone to eight. We know a lot of people. So we go to a big group from, you know, our area. There's like 20, 20, 30 people and we hang out.

But other people attach people. People get absorbed into that. Into the crowd. Into the group. Which is great. Because then mean meet new people. You know? So we've never we don't really have one night stand. So it's just quick. We do once in a great while. Once. And the cruises you do because you know. We may not get to meet them again. Especially if they live really far away. Yeah. But the funny thing is we have people we know from Australia and like Wyoming and California and Canada and all over the place. And we'll visit each other. And they'll come here. Yeah. They'll come here.

And we'll drive to them or fly to them. They'll fly or drive to us. Yeah. Or we'll meet at a resort or something. That's why we don't have one night stands, babe. Once they hook up with us. We did once. Right. But they always want to come back. We have like one one-night, maybe one or two one-night stands. Right. Yeah. But the point is that. And the funny thing is we woke up in the morning. We're like, they were great. Really? What's their names? I don't know. I'm like, oh, my God. We don't know their names.

And i wouldn't have been able to recognize them the next day i just knew they were they were really a lot of fun yeah it was fabulous so that is our how we became swinger story exactly so what's coming up next um this weekend yeah this weekend we are let's take a little break right here and then we'll come back and talk about what we're doing this weekend. Yeah. This weekend we are, let's take a little break right here. And then we'll come back and talk about what we're doing this weekend. Yeah. All right. Here we go. Talk to you later.

So I wanted to talk about what's coming up next well that's a good idea so one of the things is the future topics that we'll be covering we've been talking to a lot of our lifestyle friends and we have about 40 topics some of those topics are house parties how to host one what to expect when you're attending one, and actually why they're so great. And then we'll talk about compersion, what it actually is, and why it's so important in the lifestyle. And how about another topic?

Yeah, so we're going to talk about something you're probably more interested in is unicorns, like what to do all about that. And so we'll get into that.

How that how to get them yeah how to keep them and how they kind of disappear or how to include them too yeah another big thing like on sls we'll talk about how to nicely say no a lot of you may be uncomfortable saying no when another couple uh send you a message can we get together so we'll talk about that yeah it's a really interesting topic it is and then how to find your tribe yeah so big topic how to find your tribe stay in your lane you know find you the right friends for your age group and what you kind of want to get out of the lifestyle so that's going to be a really interesting and big one plus the really fun thing is that we'll be interviewing many of our lifestyle friends since in reality the only friends we have really are lifestyle people yeah so we've mentioned our podcast to a few people right like oh us us us right they raise their hands right yeah it's gonna be fun what's coming up in the future for us for us yep as a couple we've got a fun hotel takeover party friday and saturday night the whole weekend share nation share nation yes it's a marty trois yes marty trois so in the Mardi Gras kind of theme.

And we're lucky enough that we are going to have a unicorn with us Saturday night. We are. Yes. But Friday night will do it just us. And she bought a new dress. Right. She did. Her and I have been sending pictures back and forth. What are you wearing? She's like, oh, I need to do this. And do you have an extra mask?

Because we all wear masks to this party but share nation is such a fun group it's actually a huge probably there'll be what 600 probably six 700 people yeah for saturday night the main party yes friday night um has gotten bigger over the years it used to be a lot smaller so now we have about a couple hundred people on friday night and there's a dance party going on it's half the ballroom on friday night we love friday night though because we get the chance when we see them we can stay seeing them and we don't lose people when you're at the really big party where there's 600 people you'll see somebody and you'll start to connect with them and then you'll lose them yeah it's a little difficult it's a little easier for us to hook up on friday night than it is saturday night and the other reason why it's easier for us to hook up on friday night versus saturday night is we work we actually usually host some sort of game or event game activity yes so we'll do a lifestyle family feud yes that's what that's what we have usually doing but this time we're premiering the wheel of fornication yeah so these are so like lifestyle family feud was really cool because we took the whole game.

We have this PowerPoint, a big screen, and he's the host, and I'm actually the one running the PowerPoint. But it has all the sound effects. The buzzers. The buzzers. Right. And we have the people come up, and they have the press, and all the questions are lifestyle-related, and people love it. And I embarrass people. It's great. Yeah.

And then this is our first time doing wheel of fornication so we'll do that from uh eight o'clock to 8 45 and then they'll have some comedians come in and then the dance party will start and yeah it's a big deal yeah and so even during the day they have like um seminars seminars on tantric and seminars on like sexy dance and people that are new to the lifestyle of speed dating right so you can meet new people and it's so great because it's a very diverse group all ages all races all you know so when you go there's 600 people you're gonna find other folks that you connect with.

It's really, it's really awesome. So that's what we have coming up next. And if you have any things in your area that you'd like to share with us, that's coming up next in your area, please email us on lifestyle links.com.

And we'll actually talk about it for you so that people in your area please email us on lifestyle links.com and we'll actually talk about it for you so that people in your area know about your fun lifestyle events as well and we'll post it on lifestyle links.com so that people in your area also know about it so it gets gets a chance for you to meet new people as well right yeah good talking to y talking to you all. Okay, we'll talk to you soon. Be sure to visit our website at lifestylelinks.com. That's Lifestyle L-Y-N-X. We'll see you next time.