Ep. 36: Our First MFM (with co-host Eva)

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Hello, my friends, and welcome to Evan Swings, a podcast about the swinger lifestyle from the perspective of a guy in the lifestyle, usually. I am Evan, your humble host, but today, special guest, my wife, Eva. Hello, Eva. Hello, Evan. We have been in the lifestyle for three and a half awesome years. Returning listeners, welcome back happy as as always to have you. And if you're a new listener, welcome. Happy to have you here too. Just remember, I'm just an average guy who does this podcast and Eva is just an average woman. And we're just here to entertain and inform. We're not experts at all.

In fact fact after three and a half years uh there's still plenty that uh we haven't learned yet about the lifestyle but we have learned a lot and that's why we do this to share our experiences and again i'm using the word hour because Eva is with me today. And in today's episode, we want to talk about an amazing lifestyle experience we had recently. Our first MFM. A threesome involving Eva, myself, and another gentleman friend of ours. Now, for those of you who are avid Evan Swings listeners, you will know this gentleman that we're going to be talking about.

In previous episodes, I have referred to him as Tommy Lee. He is one of our longtime time maybe our longest lifestyle maybe he and his wife were in our famous sensitive nurses episode um they were the couple who we put off playing with at a hotel takeover because we had plans to meet up with the sensitive nurses who flaked out on us. Now, just some background. Eva has met this guy at a hotel twice before, before this situation on solo dates. One of those times was the subject of another episode that I recorded where I helped Eva fulfill a fantasy of hers.

I set up a play date for her at a hotel with Tommy Lee.

But the kicker was, she didn't know who was going to be waiting for her at the hotel she arrived he opened the door and until he did that she wasn't sure who who would be opening the door who would be waiting for her there now that was quite a wild night it was fun was i in the episode that you recorded about it no no no i was thinking about inviting you but for whatever reason didn't work out but yeah that was like four plus hours and a lot of uh a lot of sex and uh broken headboard resulted from that so that was fun kind of a good story there um so anyway that's that's the uh that's the gentleman who we're talking about in this episode Tommy Lee all right well Tommy Lee at the time was in an interesting situation his wife no longer played in the lifestyle they were at one point kind of semi-frequent playdates of ours they were at one point kind of semi-frequent playdates of ours they were you know they like i said they they became pretty good friends of ours um you know even outside the bedroom you know we we really enjoyed their company but no more okay they were not doing anything lifestyle related as a couple at that point um but at the time I'll see you next time.

Okay, they were not doing anything lifestyle-related as a couple at that point. But at the time, she allowed him to seek out solo opportunities. Kind of like a bull for hire. I think that's what it's called, a bull.

He went out, he had his fun with various couples or women, and then returned home and had sex with his wife well we assume so that's what we assume correct we don't know we don't know what he did when he left right that's what we assume and let me tell you i have to say even as a completely 100 percent heterosexual guy I completely understand why women like Eva here enjoy his company not only is he hot with a shredded body but he's also really nice has a great personality he's really funny really respectful and he's damn good in bed isn't he yeah he is and he is really funny and really respectful I have a lot of fun with him a lot of fun I know well um recently recently Eva brought to my attention brought brought up the subject of or the possibility of playing with him again it had been a while and um he and i or even all of us for that matter hadn't hadn't talked much so i decided to reach out to him and see if he had any interest and availability and i'm going to let you in a little secret here tommy lee is awesome in bed but eva is also awesome i feel like for sure that's not a secret surely you're awesome before i am i've definitely said that before many times that's what i mean that's i'm doing it for dramatic effect okay it's letting the listeners and there's some new listeners here hopefully so i'm letting them in that you are awesome in bed okay okay well you think i'm awesome i do but that's what i'm getting at he tommy lee has stated on multiple occasions that eva is his favorite lifestyle date now i've told you that before right that he said that oh he told me you didn't have to tell me well he's told me several times as well um so i knew before i even asked that that he would be interested in being with eva again i mean who wouldn't you know who wouldn't who exactly who wouldn't i'm funny i'm respectful that's the first thing you i have a great personality and and i'm enthusiastic and in bed you're hot as hell but that's in the eye of the beholder well plenty of beheld you and have agreed.

You're a nut. Anyway, all right. So before I reached out, I asked Eva which she preferred. I said, you know, did you want to meet with him solo or did you, you know, want me involved? You know, did you want to have an MFM, something we had yet to do at that point in the lifestyle? It was on my bucket list. But at that point, you couldn't decide, right? You just weren't sure.

But it didn't matter it it didn't matter because i contacted tommy lee told him that eva was interested in seeing him again but it could end up to be either one it could be you know it might be a solo date with her or possibly a threesome with me included and tommy lee was down with it either way you know he was a very agreeable dude especially with Let's do it. or possibly a threesome with me included. And Tommy Lee was down with it either way. You know, he was a very agreeable dude, especially when Eva is involved. It took Eva a long time to decide what she wanted to do.

And in the end, she couldn't decide. She wanted both. So I got both decide she wanted both so i got both she wanted uh she wanted the experience of him alone but also so much fun of course but she also i keep saying she when you're right next to me but you also wanted the experience of a threesome yep and. And that's exactly what we did. Yep. We did both. She decided, or I should say you decided, that you wanted to have some alone time with him first. Then, after a while. An hour and a half. An hour and a half, to be specific. That was your limitation, was an hour and a half.

Well, a half to be specific and that was your limitation was an hour and a half well we originally start off when we started talking about it we thought it was going to be an hour and then it kind of kind of blossomed to an hour and a half because there was a you can see where my my mind is um there was a hockey game that night that I really wanted to watch. So that's what it was. Usually I have to sit on the couch and play on my iPad or watch a Korean drama, which are delightful. If anyone has not watched those, they are a lot of fun, when he's watching a hockey game.

So this night was a far better deal for me. So. But when we first were, you know, planning this event, I have to admit, I wasn't completely thrilled with the idea at first. Because, you know, I kind of hoped that Eva would just choose one or the other. You know, either do a solo date or do an mfm just pick one or the other i didn't know that yeah i i just i just wanted to to know what i was doing that evening i was kind of in limbo but with this hockey game on that i wanted to watch and a raising canes restaurant nearby to this, you know what? I'm going to get myself some chicken tenders.

I'm going to plop myself in the hotel lobby, and I'm going to watch the hockey game on my laptop. That is sexy talk right there. Yeah, it is. Well, I have to say, I really enjoyed watching hockey, eating some really good food, and knowing that my wife was getting fucked upstairs by another guy. So that was pretty sexy. Yeah? That was very enjoyable. Was it sexy to watch me get ready? Oh, I forgot about that. I didn't even talk about that part. Yeah.

Yeah, so we got to the hotel a little bit early and you know just allowed eva time to to get prepared so she you know did her thing in her room and i just kind of enjoyed myself i think by that time i was watching the game the game had started and so yeah yeah that was that was fun you know she got her got all showered up got her makeup taken care of put on some sexy lingerie it's pretty nice uh let's see what else we took pictures beforehand because you were looking smoking hot thank you so we took some pictures and then when it was getting close to his time for arrival, I left.

And, you know, I think part of the fun was me not being there when he arrived. Yeah. So that's when I took off to get food because, I don't know, looking back, I think it would have been kind of weird if I opened the door for him. Oh, hi. Here you go. See you later. I don't think that would be weird.

I preferred the way we did it where you were you were there to greet him i found that that better well i mean i was there so the greeting was good yes and that and that's actually what i have in my notes here please explain to our listeners what happened when he arrived because i found i find this incredibly hot when you told me you do what happened yes okay so so maybe i don't remember everything okay well i'll i'll explain i'll tell and you kind of chime in then okay so from what you told me he walked in yeah saw what you were wearing yeah and was and just absolutely loved it Thank you.

Oh, he said I had the lights turned down too far. So he couldn't see, he couldn't see exactly what I was wearing. So he got to enjoy what he was seeing for 40 seconds. It wasn't very long.

I had my thigh high leather boots on that was fun my fuck me boots so it helped me take those off I just want to let you know that I warned Eva that we may have to stop while we're doing this episode because I've been looking forward to doing this episode for a long time but I knew it would rile me up so hearing about this so so i may have to pause the recording yeah because i look so good right now you do he was the type of woman who looks good no matter what she wears even if she doesn't have makeup on if she's just wearing her frumpy clothes that's exactly what i'm wearing and she still looks damn good so anyway back to our story and i'm having some allergy issues tonight so if i clear my throat once in a while i apologize uh so like i i'm joking here and i said it was 40 seconds but it was pretty quick right i mean you guys it was within five minutes i think you guys got down to business quick yeah and.

And we only had an hour and a half. I find that very hot. I find that very hot. What? Just the way you said it. I find that very hot. I find that very hot. I do. So is there anything? So now we have an hour and a half before I get up to the room. So do you want to share anything within that time frame before I jump into the fray?

Because i'm going to just move on to the part no no i mean there was nothing new or no it was it was a lot of fun we did not break any headboards this time okay we fixed it that old that headboard we did fix it before we left we got it back up on the wall i think it would have been fun if you were there when he got there if we do this again maybe you can be there when he gets there and he can knock on the door and say hello i'm here to fuck your wife and you can let him in i don't know that just sounds funny to me it'd be even funnier if somebody was in the hallway walking past him or something well i kind of made a joke when i arrived too when i walked in i was like what have you guys been up to or something like that yeah something stupid but but let let's uh let's talk about that look when i arrived okay so about an hour and a half later the game ends and it might have been a little bit more than an hour and a half because because it was all based i was like you know what screw this i'm watching the rest of this game i'm sure they're having a good time they don't need me there yet yeah we kept ourselves entertained yeah so anyway well it's uh so let's just say about an hour and a half later i arrive i walk in i have my key so i was able to just enter and eva and tommy lee were just laying naked on the bed next to each other.

I think Eva was gently stroking his dick and he was kind of caressing her boobs. Well, I mean, you know, my hands have to have something to play with. I can't just ever ever just lay there. I know.

to stroke something so no i love he's not stupid i know he put it right in my hand i'm gonna stroke it i distinctly remember walking in and your hair was a little bit disheveled and i was thinking i'm sure it was more than a little disheveled yeah they sure had a lot of fun So I walk in and i almost immediately started taking off my clothes and started to get naked to get in bed and now you're probably not going to be too happy about me sharing this but that's okay this is i want to be real about what happened because you know if anybody else has experiences like this i want it to be relatable so uh there was a brief moment when i thought i'm not gonna like this it was it was just a brief moment because the second i got in bed and eva said she didn't realize she did this but i didn't realize you interpreted it the way i i realized i did it okay but i didn't realize you interpreted it the way you interpreted Thank you.

realize you interpreted it the way i i realized i did it okay but i didn't realize you interpreted it the way you interpreted it okay interpreted it well let me explain let me explain what happened so i um the second i get in bed all right so now i have not seen eva in an hour and a half and i know what they've been doing and i'm very excited to just get get to the bed the second I got in the bed and laid next to Eva and I do mean the second I got in bed she turned away from me she's turned her body away from me and started kissing Tommy Lee again and I was like what the hell I didn't say what the hell I was just what the hell.

I was like, you had just been kissing and fucking him for the last 90 minutes. I wanted to feel like she was happy to see me. So I figured I would get in bed and she would immediately start kissing me as like, hey, welcome back.

You know, I'm glad glad you're here so i was you know all turned on ready to go and she turned her back to me i thought oh crap this is bad you know i'm gonna get jealous because she's gonna be paying more attention to him than me and my feelings of jealousy would would take over but thankfully that did not happen at all after that it was it was smooth sailing i started kissing eva's back while they you know continue to make out do their thing and after a few minutes she rolled onto her back towards me and we both started like kissing sucking on her nipples and eva seemed to really enjoy that yeah that was nice yeah yeah okay so when you were getting undressed i was not sure exactly what i was supposed to do when you got in bed and I chose to turn towards him because he was our guest and I wanted to make sure he felt comfortable and part of the play and I just kind of assumed that you would just automatically start kissing the back of my neck like I really like.

Which is what I did. And, well, yeah, but apparently he didn't do it right away. I don't know. No, I did. I did it right away. Oh. Because you turned to face him and I was like, oh, well, I guess I'm kissing her back. Okay. And it worked out. Like I said, I'm telling – You thought I was going to stay on that side the whole time? No, not necessarily. I was more like, you know, I'm your husband. You were happy that I was there after, you know, an hour and a half with him.

I would at least get like a kiss on the lips like a welcome back we didn't kiss you at all no oh that i didn't realize he just turned over and like oh her back are you sure 100 and i didn't even get up out of bed to give you a kiss you did you laid there and that's why somebody was playing with my boobs and i had a dick in my And why would I get up So yeah so that's why But again, I'm going to say it again. But then you have to take over playing with my boobs.

It, you, it's it worked out because after that it was like uh i was gonna say like riding a bike but we've never done it before so it's not like riding a bike it was just no it was a little clumsy yeah at first but it was clumsy but not overpoweringly awkward we were all we all and i think that was part of it because we know him so well. We were all so comfortable. Yeah, he's very easygoing. And we're easygoing. So no one was out of place. And I'm easygoing and easy, so. Oh, my God. Well, it took off from there.

As I said, one of the cool things about our relationship with tommy lee is that our personalities mesh really well you know it wasn't just hardcore sex the whole time no that wouldn't be fun no we did a lot of some people would think it's fun right but that's that's not our style really and and thankfully not his style as well there was a lot of talking a lot of laughing just you know fun banter it was it was just a lot of fun uh we did a bunch of things including a spit roast did we yep and i just realized this this is something that you know when i was typing up these notes looking back on it i just realized i think we have done a spit roast twice in our lifestyle adventures and i've been on the i've never been on the the back end of that like i've always that's what i call it i don't know but i just horse costumes where, like, somebody has to be the ass and somebody's the front.

I don't know. Okay, well, I've never been— There were no costumes involved. Okay, so how can I reword that? So I have always been the one receiving oral in the spit roast. From me or from anyone you've done a spit roast? I don't think I've done a spit roast with anybody else. Maybe. Oh. Does anybody else want to do a spit roast with my husband? I don't know. Maybe. I just, I can't. After we're done with this, I can think about it and maybe. Okay. That'll be the next episode. He'll let you know. And someday, though, I would really like to try the other way around, just for fun. What?

What do you mean the other way around? Well, you'd be sucking the other guy's dick. Oh, I was sucking your dick on this one? I don't remember it. That's what I'm saying. You were giving me oral while he did you from behind. Okay.

so anyway um after eva had come several times she ended up riding me reverse cowgirl and finished me off while tommy watched and he even recorded it for us for posterity we'll put it in a time capsule and let our great great kids dig it yeah arts if anybody ever finds the thumb drives that i have that's gonna be that's gonna be a dark day but anyway that was a um kind of an interesting milestone because honestly until that point i had never seen us have sex yeah we've never recorded ourselves you know well we've recorded ourselves but we've never had both of our faces in it like that's what i mean you know we never I don't know.

seen us have sex yeah we've never recorded ourselves you know well we've recorded ourselves but we've never had both of our faces in it like that's what i mean you know we never you know i can hold my phone and record things but obviously i can't get both of us in it or you know we could set something off to the side but it doesn't you know in this situation he was actually recording it was doing multiple angles was like panning so he clearly had recorded people having sex before yeah he did a really good job i mean it wasn't it wasn't a long time though no no it was it was just interesting and of course eva looked absolutely amazing it was a lot of jiggling too much jiggling for me yeah and i've seen plenty of videos and obviously plenty of uh in-person experiences of you know watching eva have sex but never with me and so that's why this video was really interesting it was really nice you know not something i want to see all the time have, you know, I'm very self-critical when it comes to my appearance.

But it was still really nice to see. You weren't doing anything but laying there. Okay. And enjoying it. Okay. But it was different. Okay. Not something you want to see all the time. We've used that video many, many times since then many many times since then just for the two of us now is there anything else you want to share about anything we did during that evening i don't think so i don't know you i just i didn't know a podcast for swingers and you i don't wanted to... You felt like you had to write in the air, DP? Okay. I didn't know if Eva wanted me to share that.

What's the point of an MFM if I don't get DP? There's plenty of MFMs that don't involve DPs. Oh, boring. No, thank you. Well, I didn't know how much you want listeners to know about what you did. So now I know. So yes, that was also something we did and something we really enjoyed. Regular DP, not DVP. Right. That I'm not interested in. I don't think I could do it. So to be clear, because this kind of ties into something else I wanted to say, I was on my back.

Eva was riding me facing you facing me sorry and then tommy lee came up i'm sure they could fill in the blanks from behind so the the point i'm trying to make here is it was one of the sexiest things i've ever seen was seeing the look on eva's face when that was happening that's why i wanted you down there and not behind me because i knew you would like it oh my gosh very nice so i was that's one of the things i think about was is her face in fact the the time before that when you met him so yeah did that for you too eva was eva took video, recorded pretty much just her face while she was having sex with Tommy Lee.

Yeah, I was on my back, yeah, and I was just holding my arm out of my hand. And just recorded her face, her facial expressions as she was getting railed. I thought you would like that. Getting railed. We've used that video, too. Yes we have. We've viewed it together multiple times. It was nice. It was really a fun evening. I want to do it again. And that concluded the evening. Now I guess we could say we did get kind of a setback. We're not sure if we'll be able to do that again soon. We're hoping. We're hoping that things work out, but we'll see. And I think that's it.

He gave you a thank you card. Oh, yeah. He gave me a thank you card. That's how nice and respectful it is. Well, let's take a step back, though. He was doing it because he was continuing the joke that i started ah okay because when eva met him at the hotel previous time the surprise the surprise time right i included like i wanted the that evening to go perfectly so i you know i got drinks ready i got a baggie of drinks um i you know got i think i got do a hair tie I got all you know, I got drinks ready. I got a baggie of drinks. I, you know, I got, I think I got to a hair tie.

I got all, you know, just kind of like a chapstick. Yeah. I don't know. You did. Yeah. What's that called? A care package. It was like a care package for the evening. A care package for fucking. Yep. Okay. And in that I put a card for Tommy Lee. And the reason I did that was because to maintain the secrecy of it, the surprise for you, he had to reserve the hotel. So I couldn't, you know, he was going to have to be there first. That means he had to reserve it, which means he had to pay. So I wanted to reimburse. And so I put the money in the thank you card.

But, yeah, he said he held on to that card. He held on to that card as, like, a memento, and he said he's a card. Well, you held on to his card. I did. I think I put something like, thank you so much for burying your dick deep in my life tonight. Something like that. And I remember that because I stupidly misspelled the word buried. Yes. Did you put two R's? I did. What? Yes. And it has bothered me.

And I even told him this night, the night of the MFM, I said, because when he handed me the card, I was like, just so so you know the card that i gave you has a grammatical error spelling error and it has bothered me ever since did you know what it was yeah he did did he he knew off the top of his head how could you do that and not realize until what you didn't realize and you realized later i realized after it was sealed after i sealed the envelope i, I'm like, wait a minute. I just, I misspelled that. And I was like, eh, he won't care. No. The sentiment was still good. So. All right.

Anything else from the evening? Because I think that's about it. I'm, yeah, I think it's good. Anything noteworthy? I don't think there's anything else noteworthy. It was very fun, enjoyable. Love to do it again with him or with someone else. That would be fine, too. Specific people. Not anyone else. Right. Not random people. Exactly. I don't. Eva doesn't do this random dick.

Eva only, Eva only fucks from a carefully curated selection of dicks oh my goodness ok well dicks that will play games with her and make her laugh card games, board games and dancing are the things that really get Eva's motor running yeah well if that's it then i think we're gonna start wrapping things up here i hope to have more adventures to share with you listeners um i mentioned a while back in the summer of 2024 we were kind of a little bit of a rut or a slump you know didn't have many lifestyle dates uh didn't really meet any a whole lot of new people and um then it kind of turned around and then uh i think it was like a little bit after august 2024 then it kind of we kind of fell back into a little bit of a rut and now only know that i i have no recollection of any of that i'm because of this podcast i'm able to oh well plus because you do all the yeah social networking but there hasn't show up right there wasn't a lot of recent or at that time a lot of connections being made but um lately there there's been a few but also a few misadventures which i hope to talk about in the near future so that's just a little bit of a uh a sneak preview or what's it called when you try to hook hook listeners for future episodes um yeah there we've we've had a couple stories since then so hopefully i'll talk about those soon uh just the way the lifestyle is i've already said it before many times it's cyclical you know there's good times and bad times down times and up times i guess and uh the date and area where we live just not a very high lifestyle population we don't think that's just what it it appears be I mean maybe not there might be a lot of people they just don't want to fuck us so they're not reaching out that's fine I mean well thankfully we need a line heading out the door and that's I mean actually I have that right in my notes next yeah thankfully we do have I'm very happy with what we have a few couples you know just a few couples that we really enjoy spending time with and see them semi-regularly uh but we'll no doubt have some new adventures at some point and um i'm not sure what is left on our fuck it bucket list but hopefully uh we'll have some stories about that too we'll see so we're gonna we're gonna sign off now until next time please please reach out i heard we have some new fans actually so Thank you.

about that too we'll see so we're gonna we're gonna sign off now until next time please please reach out i heard we have some new fans actually so for our new fans yes um oh you have new fans walter and brianna said that we have new fans um that they've passed on our podcast too so if you're friends of walter and brianna thank you very much for listening am i a friend of walter and brianna yeah that i i will tell you who those people are okay yeah i'm using fake names okay yes well i figured that but okay anyway um so thank you new listeners thank you please come back and listen again uh you can connect with me on instagram or kick at evan Deanson.

That's E-V-A-N-D-E-A-N-S-O-N. You can email me, evandeenson at gmail.com. Or you can find me at my new Blue Sky page. Just search for Evan Swings, and there's a Blue Sky Evan Swings page where you can reach out to me.

Look forward to hearing from you, if I you thank you very much eva for being here you're welcome did you notice the autocorrect there no it changed it to gmail.com i thought that was funny good call now i gotta go try on my outfit now yes we are actually hitting a uh club tomorrow going to visit a club with some friends and uh theme of the evening is uh playboy mansion something like that so eva's got a sexy outfit that she's gonna try on and i'm very anxious to see so everybody uh stay safe stay naughty we'll see you next time eva thanks again for being here i will be here anytime you ask me to that is awesome can't ask for anything more than that all right take care everyone bye bye