We re talkin UNICORNS...and the swingers who love them! In this episode, we explore the common misconceptions about single women who enjoy the swinger lifestyle. Are unicorns really flaky, clingy, or needy? We have a great conversation with our Suite-Talkers about their beliefs and how they were debunked. We even give you a few details about how a sexy unicorn schooled us...in the best way possible!As always, thanks so much for listening!Enjoy!Be sure to , RATE, REVIEW! We appreciate any and all feedback!How to stay in-touch with us:Email: thesuitelifepodcast@gmail.comOther podcasts mentioned in this episode:Front Porch SwingersFollow us here for info on upcoming LIVE episodes:Instagram: @thesuitelifepodcastTwitter: @suitelifepodFacebook: Livin the Suite Life (Tryst Loq Suitelife)Don t forget to to the Livin the Suite Life Podcast YouTube Channel!
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Speaker1: Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to help answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle, from newbies to longtime swingers unicorns and poly triads we hope to engage you all and encourage sex positive discussions now that we got that out of the way make yourself comfortable and this episode of living the sweet life. She is my beautiful, sexy co-host and wife, the lovely Trist. And he is my wonderful chocolate thunder husband, Locke. Ooh, add a little rumble to it, baby. I love it. So ladies and gentlemen, thank you so much for joining us in this episode of Living the Sweet life we are on episode 19 we're almost about to hit that big milestone of episode 20 we're real excited hopefully we'll come up with a great topic and have some fun for you with that uh big 20 yes i'm excited episode 19 yeah man so tonight we're going to be talking about unicorns all things unicorns man um we want to find out some of the common misconceptions that you guys have heard and felt or anything out there. Hey, real quick. Shout out to front porch swingers coming through, coming through. We're going to give you a little hand clap. Thank you for coming through. Appreciate you joining the Sweet Talker community, man. Really means a lot to us that you took some time out of your night uh so yeah we're gonna be talking some unicorn stuff we want to hear from everybody man feel free to throw in some questions throw in some comments if you heard some stuff yeah let's let's make this a great conversation uh because i think we got some good stuff to talk about right babe absolutely hey so real quick before we get into things folks let's let's go ahead and knock out some of this housekeeping stuff. Right. So for everybody listening to the sound of my voice, thank you again for joining. Feel free to send us an email if you have any questions or comments at the Suite Life podcast at Gmail dot com. Follow us on Instagram at the Suite Life podcast or follow us on Twitter at Suite Life Pod. And for everybody who couldn't join the Sweet Talker community tonight, always feel free to check out the podcast on iTunes, Stitcher, Spotify, Google Play, and on iHeartRadio. Ain't that right? You nailed it. Yeah. So we rolling. Yeah, man. So, yeah. Don't forget while you're there make sure you subscribe people subscribe give us a rating give us a review you know we're trying to make this thing better for y'all every time we get out on the mics you know absolutely make sure you guys subscribe to our youtube channel right and also give us reviews on our itunes account that's right people subscribe to that youtube so you know when these live uh chats come up so you can uh just jump in hit click on your phone or on your laptop or whatever it is and jump in and join the conversation that's the only way we move this thing forward so again thanks to everybody for joining us tonight uh we're gonna have a good show man we're gonna have some fun we're talking unicorns uh the magical mythical creatures that they are and we're gonna talk about you know your experiences with them uh but first y'all know how we get down man we always got to check in with my boo i always got to make sure she's doing great so baby how you feeling i am feeling good actually um so i have a couple of things to share with you guys. But one of our sweet talkers is saying, love the hair. Thank you. So that's one of the changes that we decided to do, which is kind of just let us be who we are. Because typically you guys meet us in person. And we are totally different from what we are on the show. So we decided to bring a little bit more personality to the show. So this is my hair and it changes, changes colors. It changes all the time. All the time. But it's like one of the best things about you, baby. I swear. It's like having sex with a different woman every time. I love it. You know, it's just, it's so fun. Like you're so fucking punk rock, man. You're awesome. Oh, great. So how am I feeling? So I got my hand slapped, what, a couple of weeks ago. Because you don't know how to behave. I don't know how to behave. I don't know how to behave. Apparently, I was helping our teenager with a paper. And I thought I did a good job. So she got her paper back. And the teacher had a remark to say that, oh, you need no not learn but you need to use proper english and i was like well what exactly does she mean she's like well mom she said you can't say boobs i was like you can't say the word boobs i can't say what does that mean she's like oh no you have to say breast i was like oh well she's lucky you didn't say tits right you didn't say tata's tits right wobbles i don't know but i used boobs and and kind of got my hand slapped oh that's all right though and the second thing about how i'm feeling is that um we had a girl's night out yes you did right left me home with the baby i did you were home with the baby i love we had a girl's night out and um some of the girls was talking about dress the way that they dress and they were like oh you know i just cover up more i cover my boobs up more and i'm sitting there quiet as a church mouse like because Trish ain't about that like Trish is like let my boobs up more. And I'm sitting there quiet as a church mouse. Like, because Trish ain't about that light. Trish is like, let my boobs, let it all hang out. Like, let's let it all be out. Like, I'm not about the whole let's cover up life. Not yet. So a little background on those girls, though, right? Like, this was a primarily lifestyle-oriented group of ladies, though, right? Like right like at some point they were all like party goers yes they're getting a little old on you or what what's happening i don't think so but chris is ready to let the party keep going apparently so i was like i'm just gonna sit here drink my wine and be quiet yeah but they they ready to retire they ready to hang yes i ain't ready to retire and hang it up yet. Yeah, no. And so, but how are you feeling? Yo, how I'm feeling. Man, listen. Okay, let's be 100% real out here, man. I am feeling cautiously optimistic. That's how I'm feeling right now. The cautiously optimistic part is, okay, everybody everybody within the sound of my voice if you're in the U.S. you guys know it's a crazy scare going on with this whole uh COVID-19 with this coronavirus right um let's just be real let's put it out there it's kind of scary but the news is kind of making us all terrified but I'm gonna tell you 100 like I actually got an email from our local lifestyle club before I got an email from my job warning us about, like, how to stay safe and everything. I felt that was kind of funny, man. It was, like, crazy. The lifestyle club was, like, front and center. Like, multiple emails. Yeah, you know, but I'm just saying, though. So, again, I'm cautiously optimistic because I know my lifestylers. Man, I know my swingers. I know my people. Our community is one that takes care of each other, and we're people that go out there, and we're going to do all the proper shit that we're supposed to do anyway. Everybody's going to be washing their hands. Everyone's going to be taking care of themselves, taking showers, making sure we're good, making sure we, you know, antibacterial. And if you're not, listen to my voice and say, you know, and understand,'s just take care of each other folks let's just take that minute to wash your hands do some antibacterial and if you're sick don't go to the club man let's just chill sit this one out you know let's it's okay to set it up yeah like you know because we all want to keep having fun we all want to keep doing our part and and enjoying everything so make sure you do your part in that. You know, take care of the community because the community is going to take care of you. And you know it's been good to you so far. Let's not front. And secondly, honey, man, I am feeling ridiculously optimistic about living the sweet life. We got a lot of good stuff coming up, people. If you have followed our YouTube at this point, you could tell there's a little bit of a visual difference right now we're going to keep on working on it it's going to get better and better y'all so we're having fun uh and we're trying to grow and we're just trying to change and we're trying to give you guys the show that you deserve um you all have stuck in there with us uh you keep logging in and you keep giving us chats and you know we appreciate it so we're gonna give it give it to y'all back man we're gonna have some fun and we're gonna stick in this thing together so like i said it's gonna be a sweet talk of community but when it's all said and done we love y'all yes we are so excited about the things to come all right baby you ready to start uh the topic tonight yes all right let's get it. Let's do it. All right, ladies and gentlemen, we back. We ready to start talking some unicorns. Everybody ready we we uh we all heard this we've all heard the term we've all heard about you know how rare and mythical these wonderful creatures these sexy uh women are or whatever but i'm kind of getting ahead of myself so babe let's go swinger 101 we don't worry uh front porch we know y'all know the game so we're going to just go swing a 101 real quick for those who have been uninitiated, first-time listeners.
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What is a unicorn, babe? Give me real quick. What's that? What is this all about? So a unicorn.
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A unicorn is basically like a rare creature.
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Not saying that the person is a creature.
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Right.
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Like we know they're a person, right? Like you're not a creature. But they they're a rarity like you don't get a lot of unicorns in the lifestyle so the term unicorn is meaning to me as being rare but to have a unicorn what is it it's a it's it's basically a single female that's in lifestyle that's right that is not in relationship with anyone i mean i guess i don't know if they can be a third but whatever that's different but yes a single female that's just doing their thing and living their life in a lifestyle right right which is rare single female living their life and what makes them so rare like why why do why are they so sought after what's what do you think is like uh sweet talkers listen always chime in like if you got an answer to the question hit us up so if i pose a question shoot some answers we got this we're gonna we're gonna pick them up we make sure we acknowledge everybody so so why are they why are they so rare what's so rare about them um i just think that it's just a thing that you don't get a lot of single females or maybe they don't know about the lifestyle for one or they just I don't know. Why? Why do you think unicorns or single females are so sought after? Like, why do people want single females so badly that they feel like they just can't find them or there's not enough? There's a shortage of single. Well, look, we were in that boat because that's how i felt facts no see the thing is about you you didn't think that there was anyone i thought it was a shortage up to par you know what i'm saying yes i was very very particular about a unicorn a i didn't even think they existed then when you meet them i was like no she's crazy oh no that's a lot of drama. And like I had all of these like checks to go through to say, hey, I don't know if I if this thing exists or I hear my friends talk about it, but I've not met one. Got you. Got you. Hey, well, real quick, a sweet talker chimed in and said that their definition of a unicorn is a single bisexual female now anybody disagree with that like do they have to be bisexual you know i'm saying like um maybe by playful by friendly or maybe just open to the idea or there may be some unicorns out there who only want dick maybe they're willing to just hang out at a you know hang out with a couple and uh just participate with the male you have true you know i'm saying true maybe maybe true dude let's see all right so the next sweet talker says would a single straight female be considered a unicorn i think so right and that's that's what back to your point not a dumb question at at all. By the way, sweet talker. No, absolutely not. I do think that a single straight female could be a unicorn. I think everything involving in the lifestyle is what you want. Right. That's that's what we've always been saying since day one. It's all about painting the picture that you want for your lifestyle. So if i'm a straight single female and all i want to do is jump into a situation um with a couple uh maybe i just want to participate with the male maybe she gets her rocks off just watching the husband and the wife dynamic and then she inserts herself with the husband yeah i think that's possible it's possible yeah i think it's possible yes it's possible i think that that is very possible i mean in the lifestyle anything is almost possible right hot shit to see by the way i would love to see that right you just gave him a new idea yeah you know i mean we talk about the rarest of rare unicorns somebody just come in exactly kick it with us and just watch us fuck exactly here he goes here he goes he's like oh big idea um so another sweet talker what makes them rare is it that that they're willing to come into a bedroom with a couple or the no strings attached oh see yeah that's gonna be a good one to get to when we get to the common misconceptions yes right right what was the next one so the next one is that absolutely love the perspective about what fits the primary couple's desire yeah cool cool love it yeah so yeah hey listen folks this is a great conversation man good things going we're gonna keep this thing rolling. um right uh we're talking about what makes them rare um and uh let's see what makes them so hard to find like where do you find unicorns like once you start looking for them um where you find them and do you guys also well before we even talk about what we find them at right right, do you think that the term unicorn is a good term to use for single females? That's a good job. Like, how do you guys feel about that term unicorn? Like, for me, I don't think it's like I think that is a term to being used for them being rare. But do other people find it to be, you know, an offensive term or should it be called something else but yeah so let us know how you guys feel about that that's a great question like do people find it demeaning i think it was a couple of weeks ago maybe even a month ago i saw on twitter there was like a poll going around uh where the person was asking if that term is offensive to someone um i'm not sure of the actual results but i thought it was cool to just uh throw that out there to you guys what do y'all think like is this something derogatory because in my opinion like when it comes to the lifestyle we have a lot of nicknames for a bunch of shit right um we got you got bulls you got stags you got um you got your unicorns And you got, what, you got your tops and your bottoms. Bottoms, your flips. You got your unicorns and you got what you got your tops and your bottoms you got your switches you got i mean when you get into the bsm world the nicknames are everywhere right they're so plentiful yeah you got doms and subs and everything so you got all sorts of nicknames and But, I mean, I wonder if any single women maybe get a little offended by it. Who knows? The term unicorn. Yeah, by the term unicorn. So I don't think it's offensive, but I could be, you know, maybe. But, yeah, maybe you guys can school us. A married man explaining that shit away. I don't know. Absolutely. We're open to opinions about that. But back to your original comment like where where are they you meet them how do you meet the unicorns so i mean i guess when it comes to like the lifestyle you pretty much meet them the same way you meet everybody else what is that like uh at online or you meet them at the club you have you have we seen many unicorns like trotting around the clubs and shit no there's just no we haven't not at our local club like when we go to our local club we pretty much see um you know couples we see a lot of couples oh you gotta you gotta comment in there all right one of the sweet talkers says unicorn doesn't feel derogatory to us most single women we've met in the lifestyle call themselves unicorns yeah good point that's what's up good point yeah yeah if they call themselves that we can't we i'm not gonna argue with you i'm not and next uh sweet talker says that granted i am not a woman so i apologize right if i've been to anyone but i don't see why the term unicorn would be offensive. And I agree with that. So I'm just interested to see what other people think about it. But I also agree with that. I don't feel it to be derogatory or offensive, but just wanted to know your opinion on that. Appreciate the comments, man. But as far as where we've met him, I swear it're so rare that i've never even met him at a club so where have we been successful all of we've been in lifestyle for almost what this will be seven seven years i lose track almost seven years and i swear it took seven years to meet one now no no no no not to like meet one right one that you was ready one that would be like okay right all right we can talk right so um where was it a meeting a meeting great meeting so it was a lifestyle meet and greet but it wasn't at a club or anything like that and actually wasn't even looking um for i was having a good time that night i was just excited to be out the house yeah we was out there pretty much just hanging tight we weren't even wearing you know like the the whole podcaster situation we was just being ourselves just hanging out like you do at a meet and greet just you know finding couples finding people exchanging information and uh here comes this wonderful beautiful uh single lady um came trotting into our lives and she was really super cool yes um that was where we had success right and i and i'm saying this to say that you know you can have success in any of these avenues it's all about how you go out go about it and i'm actually learning that um you know all the uh apps are where people are kind of uh making this thing happen it's not necessarily even like the online situation but like the apps you know you're on your phone where you're swiping left swiping right and all that shit you know you can find somebody that's about your situation as long as you're completely up front about your situation let's be clear as long as you're up front about your situation then yes we've learned our unicorn is schooling us by the way um we've learned that yeah as long as you're up front you can meet unicorns yeah go ahead we got some chats happening let's see um so uh the sweet talkers says that which platform would be more successful in meeting the unicorn sls or swingers club or house party etc all of the above all of the above but more successful in our experience i'd probably go to say like out of those three options you gave i'd probably dare to say that the house party would be the best one yes um because there's house parties tend to be a little bit more relaxed in the beginning you know you you'll have like the the real chill area one is not a million people some house parties are you know are massive but i'm willing to gamble that a lot of the house parties that you're going to end up at is probably no more than like 20 people right like 10 couples maybe one or two uh singles maybe a single male single female and they're kind of just chilling but you'll have a great opportunity to pick their brain pick talk to them like on the side on the couch just chilling versus like at a club where there's an extreme amount of pressure um you know and house parties people are playing around and probably in a very designated area but i mean i think that the more relaxed situation to make it a little bit more easier what do you think tris i think so yeah i believe so so another sweet talker says that we like to think that the term unicorn embodies the right attitude we've had females with no drama in those in those that we wouldn't mess with again because they are messy see and that was one of my concerns right we met them in the military oh nice oh nice okay i didn't think about that right right so you travel you do their thing and then uh sorry we got orders later yeah yeah so you later. We're out of here. Yeah. Yeah, so I agree with that. Yep. Okay. So let's get some ideas on what do you think that the whole unicorn, where did they come from? Like, how does one find themselves in a unicorn situation? How does somebody find themselves and say, you know what, I'm going to do this thing solo? thing solo what do you think well I think that some of them may find themselves doing a solo like they were in a lifestyle and then they broke up okay yeah like someone yeah lifestyle couple where they break up and the female says you know what I'm not done partying and I'm just not in a relationship but I'm still going to party that remind me of somebody that would be me honestly that would be me i've always told him i said you know what if things don't work out right i'm still going to be in a lifestyle i'm just going to be a single female unicorn in a lifestyle so i'm still partying uh so in technical terms we call that that bullshit so yeah that that just means you know uh whatever it takes i'm not going nowhere we're gonna work this shit out we're gonna work it out i don't feel the beat to to have to give up something that i like to do yeah man first of all i'm not going to split the club with you like i'm not going to be that couple like we go i'm going to the club every other saturday or some shit like that that's my club too those my friends right i'm like you do whatever we got to do to figure it out, I'm going to the club every other Saturday or some shit like that. That's my club, too. Those are my friends, too. Right. I'm like, you do whatever we got to do to figure it out. But I'm going. Yeah. So I'm just going to completely cock block you on that one, babe. Yes. Yeah, man. So, yeah. I mean, or you have, like, one of our really close unicorn friends. She just is a party goer. Party. She's like to party. She don't give a shit. She just wants to hang out and have a good time, man. We've trotted her out to parties with us and literally just she runs around, does her thing, and we see her at the end of the night. And she wouldn't have it any other way. I think there's something about being liberated and not having to answer to anyone and just kind of having fun absolutely having that sexy freedom all on her own man just kicking it and she comes back with some motherfucking stories i was like we were at the same place i didn't even see that happen she just comes back and she's like yeah yeah where were you at exactly we were in the same place but yeah she finds a party and she comes back with some stories so one of our sweet target says that i have a friend i have a friend that considered becoming a unicorn she was at vanilla party when she was approached by another couple yep and that was number three the other one was they get flipped yes and you said that but she's saying that she felt like it's those the couple was being messy oh right well i think that if it's done in the right way you can flip one that you can flip one i really i believe that could happen you know i was barking up that tree for a little he was trying And I was just like, no go, Ghost Rider. No go. He just won't let me have any fun what i mean sometimes you gotta not let him off the leash you say come here i literally begged to be off the leash he did he was like but if you just please just let me just do we got another comment go ahead all right one of sweet target says that our current single lady playmate is is one year oh removed from a divorce okay and has decided to decided that non-monogamy is the right thing for her being unicorn feels like a safe and fun way to explore the lifestyle for her i agree nice and that was from front porch swingers thanks a lot guys hope you don't mind us giving y'all shout outs so yes i agree with that yeah man yeah yeah uh she decided that's what's up for her so yeah man it's all about what you want to get out of this thing man listen man life is short you you rock out the way you want to you know after a divorce who knows what the hell she's been through at that point you know what i mean so? So she broke out. She wanted to have some fun. And, I mean, she picked a goddamn couple to party with. I'm telling you, y'all got to check out Frontsport Swingers. They are hot. They are fun. Their show is crazy. So, yeah, check them out. But go ahead, baby. What we got? Now, Sweet Tucker says that chemistry is very important. Right. I can definitely understand why profile emphasis is drama you know what that's true I forgot about that that some people do say in their profile like drama free we don't want you know all the nice I thought it was funny when I would read those like drama free what are you talking about right yeah okay yeah you can put drama free on your podcast. Not on your podcast. Check me out. On your podcast. We want drama free podcast, please. Nice. On your profile. But drama is subjective. Like one person's drama is another person's Tuesday. You know what I'm saying? Like, you know, I deal with stuff on Tuesday. So but yeah, but I get it. I understand like you don't want drama. You don't want messiness, whatever that looks like for you. You want it to be as easy and carefree as possible. So it seems like the conversation is pulling us the way that we need to go, baby. So let's get into it. Let's get into the misconceptions. Right. All right. What are some of the thoughts that come with unicorns that um that that typically follow like drama yeah that they bring drama and then that's the number one thing for me you think so for me would be they they have drama that they are they are dramatic like they bring like other bullshit or they cause drama in that relationship that they're a part of. Both. Damn. For me, both. I think that it could be drama and that they bring drama. Like they could create it during the situation or bring it with them. And I'm just not here for it. So did you have that kind of idea prior to us making friends, making a couple of unicorn friends? mean i just i you know i feel people out that's what i do with couples or whoever you are and i just try to see where you're coming from and it all goes on vibes you guys have learned in other episodes i say the same thing it's just how i feel about the vibe in that moment and then i just go from there okay so so part of the hang up for not getting a or having a threesome or having a unicorn involved in our relationship it had nothing to do with them being messy i'm just want to make sure i heard you correctly did it y'all see this face messiness was involved don't forget about the podcast listeners they can't see your face i know so so her face was twisted up meaning it was twisted and meaning yes so that was part of it did we get one we got a comment in there yep have seen y'all know i can't read oh no this is talking about like um the divorce about, like, the divorce, the divorced young lady. It says, yep, I've seen that. Definitely getting out of, basically, the divorce, the repressed urges. All right, cool. I agree with that, too. Y'all know I don't have my glasses on. I can't see. You know he blinds. I read for him. Right, you do. Thank you, man. Not because he can't read. He can't see guys. Right. OK, so I'm coming misconceptions. What about them being like vain or narcissistic or like kind of aloof, right? Like they come and go as they please. They just jump in a party. Maybe they want to hang for a little bit and then they roll out. Is there is there any truth to that? Anybody you guys have any experience with like uh unicorns maybe kind of being flaky a little flaky you know i'm saying like maybe they make a date with you and they don't show show up or they got to reschedule at the last minute and you've already gotten a sitter or whatever the case is like have you ever experienced like unicorns being flaky now i gotta tell you you know honey you know i'm an avid podcast listener and i've listened to a ton of podcasts that when people are more so trying to have uh a party with a uh a single male those guys are so flaky the single males single males right single males have been like the flakiest um that i've heard that I've heard. You know, we haven't incorporated them into our lifestyle plate. I don't think we would ever. Okay. All right. All right. Okay. But anyway. But from what I've heard, that they're like pretty flaky. Like I'm talking about like no call, no shows. Like, you know, they just, bail on on dates. There you go. One of our sweet talker says that single males are the most flaky. Yeah, see. And that's what I heard. So what about the single ladies from our experience? No, not yet. Like we've seen that they're pretty reliable, that they just come through. Oh, we got another one. All right. So, Sweet Talker says, I'm not sure about the misconceptions, just fear. Apprehension. Apprehension is about. That she may try to play. Oh, that she may try to play another position when the one she is needed for. And that's one. That's another one, right? Like, another misconception is that in here to ruin this thing. Like they're going to take the man. They're going to take the woman. Or it's a concern of a lot of people that I've noticed, right? Was that a concern for you, honey? No. Yeah, that's right. You confident in your shit. No. I don't think I was concerned about, you know, another, you know, person coming in and trying to take what I have or anything. It was just mostly like, I just don't want unnecessary stress of drama. Okay. Okay. And that's what I'm saying. Like, what is drama, though? You know what I'm saying? I don't know. You didn't call me today. Oh. You didn't text me today. Or I haven't heard from you in a while. so no those things would just start to get on my nerves okay so we can i can't i'm gonna go ahead and narrow that down a little bit more so maybe you're saying that there might be a little bit needy needy they might be a little needy maybe a little clingy maybe and i'm not the clingy person like not at all even if if i was single in a relationship it's just like all right okay like i'm over this whole situation right now that's interesting yeah so you thought yeah you thought they were it might be a little bit more homework than we had than we signed up for yes and i'm not here to work i ain't here for that shit even though i got i got a wife you know yes i work enough yeah in this relationship i love you i have to say that like i love him thank you love you back babe all right so we have a few more sweet talker says that single ladies have flaked but we've only noticed that with younger ones well does age matter oh that's a good question so does age matter that's something we didn't consider is that uh you know the unicorns that have been in the game a while you know um maybe they're more reliable but i you could probably say that with um older people in general like we're not here for the games especially you know um our more seasoned uh women like women that just know what they want out of life they're not here for the bullshit they're not here for the games they like no eat the pussy this way you know like don't play you know get the toy twisted counterclockwise give me that uh flick of the tongue and then we good right give me what i need so maybe uh older unicorns there's something to that so we have a few more sweet talkers that says that shit women are super brave i think so yeah yeah yes But I'll see you next time. Maybe older unicorns or something to that. So we have a few more sweet talkers that says that women are super brave. I think so. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Okay. All right. So our next sweet talker says that any female that plays with us usually wants to play again. Confidence. You play with me, you're going to come back for more. But go ahead. Almost try and make oh okay uh-huh they almost try and make us their go-to couple couple so then it becomes a thing where you're trying to become my third right in my relationship right and that's that's something and that's crossing the boundary right that we didn't set up front that that's not that was not what we agreed to that's not what we do there are couples out there that do that you know they become triads or they become pop you know in a poly lifestyle and there's nothing wrong with that there's nothing wrong with that but that's just not what we do and it looks like from what that sweet talker said that's not what they're into either right um but i think that's something that probably should be discussed up front in your little circle of consent conversations you know what are you looking for are you looking for a third um no we're not if you're not then you keep the party going like you know let's either let's have fun or we're back to the drawing board yes and one of our sweet talkers also agrees with me and says that clingy is a no-go yeah yes clingy gets on my nerves so so you know right um what else we we got? We got them coming in. So basically, yeah, sweet talkers all agree that, well, not all, but we have a few comments that agree that they said that they have no time for the poly relationship. You come play, do your part, and leave. Right. But let's go into that, right? Yes, do your part. So I agree with that. uh but i also and i spoke to lock about this it just makes sure that the unicorn it still feels like a person right i don't want a like if you have a third that comes in or a situation yeah that you i don't want them to feel like they're not a person yeah yeah i still want to be like make sure you have that type of like you know respect not like wham bam thank you ma'am have a nice day yeah but you know but we know what it is up front but i still want to kind of have that basic like friendship like relationship if you say that yeah you know and i gotta say've grown in that. Right. Because in the beginning, our life's beginning of our lifestyle journey, we convinced ourselves that the lifestyle was more about like just using having fun with people, like trying to build these relationships, but keeping it in a compartmentalized view of this person is here for our enjoyment. Like they're here to supplement our sex life and then we keep it moving and keep it you know we treat you as a person but we're not treating you as a friend yes per se right yes and we've grown to build like really great great long-lasting relationships and it's like that's how we're going to carry it on now you know what i'm saying like yeah everybody that's kind of like our flow now yeah it did take some learning for that for us to like grow into that but and I made sure of that with our unicorn friend like you know we can hang out you know we can talk about other stuff and things like that it does not need to be like this whole like oh let me sing you a sexy selfie today you know like it doesn't have to be that just regular conversation like how's your day right but sexy selfies are fun sexy selfies are fun we're not saying that it's not fun i'm just saying that also kind of make it like a person you know like not a relationship but a friendship that it's okay to you know we party but we could still hang out and talk about life stuff yeah i think we got some words happening when they're just talking trash to each other but okay so the next one is how sweet talking says i think they are more sought after and therefore have options so they can't get get back to everyone. Single men are a dime or a dozen. Oh, but then why are they so damn flaky? You know, like if a lot of single men are in lifestyle, then why are they so flaky? Honestly, I think that I've met more single males in lifestyle than I've met females. They're just been my adventures between traveling and just being um in a DMV area local locally like area that was a very very DMV accent that just came out for some reason for real but no area I'm sorry um yes that uh yeah I've met a lot more single males yeah yeah they've been around and you, you know, there have been, we've seen our fair share of creepies. Creepos. Creepos that sit like this. And you guys that are on just on the YouTube, you can see this. One guy literally sat over top of me and he did like this. He said. Just sipping. Sipping his drink and just watching him play. It was the most annoying thing I've ever met. I mean, they just got us out of our whole zone i was like what what are you doing yep fucked up my night but but then we had a single male recently do you remember yes i do when we were at uh secrets hideaway yes and that was one of the sexiest and that was hot he didn't even touch me he didn't touch either one of us we had a nice little play session just with us we had pretty much had the whole playroom to ourselves and we were just like having sex on the uh the s chair and tris was bossing me around and slapping me around and calling me susan it was fucking crazy but just like pushing and shoving and just a hot sexy moment but he was like off to the side kind of watching and he acts and yeah and just stroking himself and neither one of us mind and it was just hot knowing that we had an audience it was pretty and everybody you know got their their uh their rocks off yep it was super cool so let's get to these misconceptions and let's get to some sexy shit right all right how did uh how did we break these how did we find out otherwise about like maybe just like the clingy part or um you know that the unicorn is just messy or you know whatever we met a unicorn uh-huh that kind of set us down was like so hey yeah and i was in awe of her she said that was like because no and she was so confident in what she wanted who she was what she expected that I was sitting there like I didn't even have no questions I was like I have nothing so the thing was we kind of just we met her at a meet and greet and then we set up a little dinner we hooked up and we had um had a nice little dinner and i was so apprehensive about it being like an interview didn't want it to come off that way at all you know we just wanted to just be kicking it and having a good time and that's kind of what it turned out to be it was i wouldn't even say that she was interviewing us but it was kind of like you know but back and forth you know she had questions for us and we had questions for her but to be in her position as a single woman coming to meet this couple and just being able to rapid fire answer questions from her from me and back and forth just the confidence it takes to even put yourself in that room was sexy as shit yeah she was just to put yourself in that kind of situation is hot just that confidence was you know a one to me you know what i'm saying um and then for her to just be able to you know let go and say who she you know what she's expecting what she wants what she wants to do and the shit that she's into um it was it was pretty cool yes definitely was so what about like the uh about knowing what she wants how did she show us so day night one she not even day one night one of just having dinner with her we go through all this and you know we're talking this and that so um you guys trying to make this happen tonight or what yeah my face was in like yo literally in awe like what's going on like i said uh check check please yes lock is sitting over there he's like i'm down i'm ready i was like no not not yet we're not ready all right that's fine so we set up another date and um you know and like we said again another another misconception that was um debunked if you will was that they're flaky you know but no she showed up on time ready to party we got a nice little hotel room everybody wanted to do some hot tub action and just kind of find a way to unwind so that's what we did we got a nice beautiful hotel tris did thank you baby you're welcome in the city uh if you guys know anything about us we're in the dmv area so the washington dc area is our playground and it was just a beautiful hotel with a nice hot tub uh where we to just kick it. She came ready to chill. Ready. Right. She had her swimsuit on and, I mean, all black. We went down there and, what, fucking families. Somebody let their little kid jump in the hot tub. Who does that? Yeah, man. You see all these grown folks in here with their not that much clothes on you let your kid jump in the hot tub yeah they they had no idea what was going down but i mean it's all good so yeah we went back to the room and again just to to continue on like she knew what she wanted she wasn't here for games she knew what the what the play was like she knew what her mission was like she wanted to participate in this activity with us because it made her excited um you know and you know it was like okay so when when it was time to party she says what do you want how'd she say that and i was like oh my god i don't know i don't know it's like you can listen guys you watch all the porn in the world when you're like 13 until you die right and your mind just goes blank mind went blank i don't know i don't know okay uh maybe well can you please suck my dick? Please? Like, you know, you have no idea what to ask for, what to do, but she was willing to do it, you know, and just because she just felt free. And she made us feel free, right? She made us feel like we were in a nice, comfortable place to have some fun and to try some new things. And I got to say, she actually helped both of us figure out some nice, cool, sexy shit about ourselves that we're probably going to take into other play sessions and just explore, period. Like, she's kind of into, like, the BDSM kind of thing, right? That's kind of like her wheelhouse. So Tris, little naughty ass, brought out a flogger and started swinging that thing around, popping people. And then I get my hands on it and start flogging nipples and everything. But then the thing about it that was more exploratory for me was that our unicorn friend took the flogger and laid me down. And that was something new. I was like, okay, let's try this thing out, right? And she starts popping me on the chest. And Trish is kind of like playing around and watching the whole thing. And Trish, you started participating, maybe grabbing on me and feeling on my dick. Twisting your nipples. Twisting my nipples. And, yeah, I think you even grabbed my balls at some point. That was little uncomfortable but you know grabbed your balls yeah man but uh yeah some stroking ensued and i mean some shit talking telling me what to do and not to come and not to come that was i think it got mostly turned on with that it was like don't come so was it just me or was it you too i just thought i got turned on for the fact that you got turned on so i thought it was kind of funny come to the camera so you can people can see you blushing anyways that's not the case so i just got turned on by the fact that you were getting turned on that you know that you have you know two women telling you not to come yeah and you were like okay yeah man it was incredible and at this time like Thank you. that you have you know two women telling you not to come yeah and you were like okay yeah man it was incredible and at this time like we had already had sex i already had sex with you while you were feeling on her and touching on her and you were using the vibrate on her at some point and then i had already had sex with her and she was playing around with you but it was like at this point it was kind of more focused on me and telling me what to do and what not to do kind of smacking me around hitting me with the flogger and then telling me not to come and telling me if I did not follow instructions that I'd be in trouble I had to face the consequences yes and that it was something about that that was so hot to me and that's what I'm saying the line is, is that this person was so confident to come into a situation with a married couple and instruct, not even instruct, educate. You know what I'm saying? She educated me. She taught me things about myself that, you know, maybe I'm down for this sub shit. Right. And I do love seeing Trist in a dominant position also also so this is some shit that we're definitely going to explore in phase two what do we act two act two of our uh swinging lifestyle man so this is some stuff we're gonna have to go down babe i like this rabbit hole and i'm sure it only gets deeper yeah man so that was a wonderful wonderful night man we had a great time um and again one of the misconceptions is that you know they can get clingy right have you seen that yet nope perfectly fine what have things been like since that episode normal like normal meaning that it's just like how are you you know what's going on that type of thing so it was it's just been great which is what i would have wanted it to be right so yes and you know one of the things we also learned was that you know unicorns need love too man unicorns need love too and we've learned that right because the thing is is that um we've learned about unicorns and even the one we recently met is that they want to be in a relationship. Now, maybe not all unicorns, but they want to be in a relationship and want to be able to share these things with someone. Is it is it easy? No. You know, and that's what we've learned, too, is that it's not easy and and i put myself in uh this unicorn shoes it's like how do you tell someone this out and you're just dating it about like hey i have this thing that i do right and i would like to continue to do that are you down right so what do you guys think what do you sweet talkers think out there like how has the how would this message come across what do you think if you're single and you're listening to us um if you're um if you're a significant other somebody you're dating comes and says you know what hey i got this secret i got this part of my life that i want to include you in um but it involves you know recreational um sex with other people yeah um and maybe even some tying up yes or some spankings every now and then you know um sweet talkers feel free to chime in but i can say for myself if i was to hear that you know it would be a little off-putting i'd wonder uh you know i wonder how to go about this thing you know especially if i've never been introduced to the lifestyle before right and I think that that is probably would be the problem but I you know what I commend our unicorn because she's up front she is like not just up front with the couples that you meet but up front like if I'm dating somebody I'm telling you now like this is what I like to do and that like i feel like i would want to be that way you know like that's the best way so you know that this is what i want and it takes nothing away from you that i love you yeah and we are in a relationship but i also like to do this thing are you okay with that yeah yeah and you know she's had some you know success she had some failures you know what i'm saying see some guys would say yo i would love it if my girl said she's in the threesomes and eating pussy and fucking in clubs and it sounds crazy right it sounds like until you get yourself in some kind of situation where you see your your girl sucking a dick right that's not your that could be some very jarring shit the first time you know what i'm saying and then you're like i don't know if this shit gonna work never mind right so you know i i am again like you're like you said tris i commend her for being that up front because you're running the risk but i think the more the riskier part is not telling somebody it's not telling somebody and them just or you suppressing that part of you right and you give it up because you're just trying to be in a relationship which is another thing that unicorns may run into like do you get to a point and this will be so awesome like if unicorns if you do listen to the episode because i really want feedback from this but um if you do um want to be in a relationship and let's say it gets to a certain point i don't know let's say 35 is your cutoff right and you want to be in a relationship do you give it up to be in a relationship right right do you give it up just to you know have that baby that you want you know what i'm saying get married have the baby live that life but then you put to you put aside that thing inside of you that you know you you kind of want to be a part of you know you want to explore those things or do you put that thing aside for a little while and then after you you after you kind of land the the prize your your husband or wife or whatever the situation is uh you you land that significant other and then you say well you know what there's this thing i used to do before we met right yes you kind of lay it on them later you kind of sell what do you guys think man we got some comments coming in yes so it sounds like the best situation would be for a single woman to meet a single guy who's already in a lifestyle yeah yeah it sounds yeah that sounds great but it doesn't sound like that they ever meet each other somehow you probably got to check the right pools though right i mean you probably got to check um you know uh in the right circles you got to check the right websites or to check you know the friends of friends you know because i'm sure just for every friends of friends yes i'm sure for every single woman out there there has to be like five or six i'm i i know i'm lowballing that thing you know uh single men out there that uh still want to party and maybe even you know party as a couple so i'm sure they out there yep and then the next sweet talker says that it might be a risk introducing that to a boyfriend who's not in the lifestyle yeah which is what we're learning yeah right um because our unicorn just says that a lot of if she says it to the guy like some of them are just like what like i don't i don't know like about that we we gotta uh let me call you tomorrow let me call you tomorrow we got a sweet talker say you see the way my trust level set up word up but you know the thing is is that you're right like okay because when you're first meeting somebody you know you're still trying to build that trust level and i get that so you would have to really meet someone who's kind of liberated and be on the same page as you i mean we've had a friend actually good friends of ours that you've heard us talk about like on the show um they met kind of the in that reverse but the male was in lifestyle and he ended up breaking up in that relationship and meeting who is now his wife his wife yep yep and she wasn't she had no idea what it was and we met them kind of at the beginning of that transition and they're fine they're married now they're fine yeah they're working on that whole lifestyle thing she's fringe but they're getting there as far as we know anyway right so they've they're doing a they're doing their thing it's a beautiful thing to see man um so i, what I'm saying is that it's possible to get a mate, like to say, hey, this is the thing I used to do.
Speaker2:
Would you be interested to do it? Right. You know, and you may have to start off very, very slow. Yeah. That's right. All right. So another sweet talker says that when we introduce another female to our relationship, the male half was comfortable at accepting that there has to be a reciprocation. What is it? Where are we at? Reciprocation. Yeah, reciprocation as far as a single male. Okay, got it. Okay, reciprocation as far as a single male. Got it. Yeah, man. Listen, this has been so much fun this was a lot of fun this was good man this was a good conversation man so i mean i guess just the bottom line at all you know i mean you know unicorns need love too man yes they do unicorns need love too and um by the way lock and trist are currently accepting applications so uh feel free to email us dm me with your picture at the uh sweet life podcast at gmail.com but no everybody hey look man um we are not going to do trist naughty uh sexy toy chest tonight Chess tonight, but we're going to do it probably in the next episode. We got some good stuff coming up, babe. So what we got going on coming up this year? What we got happening that's on the horizon?
Speaker1:
So coming up this year, we have a few more interviews, actually, we're going to be doing this month.
Speaker2:
We have a really big one coming up. I don't even want to tell you guys what it is yet. Yeah. But we have a really big one coming up i don't even want to tell you guys what it is yet yeah but we have a really big interview coming up make sure you stay tuned on twitter stay tuned on twitter i'm pretty sure this may be maybe a two episode it's a lot to cover so really big interview coming up super excited about that um and then we have a couple more uh joints yeah um like joint um interviews that we're gonna do yeah so it's a pretty exciting month we're busy what about travel what we got going on so travel wise that we're going to naughty going to naughty man we still for the first time yeah we can't wait we um we're looking up our swag so we can make sure we get some giveaways you know you gotta to make it look cute. So if you're listening to us, we will be naughty in New Orleans this summer, July 8th through the 12th, down in New Orleans. So, yeah, come through. Holler at us. Yes. Let us know you're digging us or whatever. We'd be glad to give you a high five and a handshake, back slap, dap, all that. All that. Yes. Yeah, we're looking forward to it. Yeah, we can't wait. We can't wait. We're going to have a good time with that. And I like to do costumes, so we're about to start figuring all of that out. All that stuff, man. So, yeah, it's going to be fun. It's going to be fun. We'll probably do some nude beach stuff this summer. Yes, we'll probably do some small trips here and there throughout, like, the summertime. Yeah. So, yeah ig follow us on twitter you guys gonna see all that good stuff man um i think that might wrap it up babe so yeah that's right um just the trish toy chest is gonna be once a month guys yes once a month we're gonna move it to once a month yeah we're gonna do that once a month um so uh in the next episode we will have that for you and don't worry it's gonna be some good shit because i got her some stuff ordered and she don't even know about it but it's gonna be hot it's gonna be good stuff and make sure you check out the youtube channel we're going to be revamping um a lot of things even the studio here we're going to do some new things in the studio we're going to be revamping our youtube channels we're going to have more um short videos on our youtube channel so make sure you check those out make sure you subscribe to our youtube channel if you haven't done so already um we're trying to build that up and check us out again for the latest details on our ig and twitter and feel free to to always DM us with any type of questions that you have.
Speaker1:
Yeah, all the time.
Speaker2:
So are you good, babe? Hey, again, shout out to Front Porch Swingers.
Speaker1:
Check out their podcast.
Speaker2:
Thank you so much for joining us. And thanks to everybody who kept this chat going tonight. Yo, we are nothing without y'all. We love y'all, sweet talkers. We love you guys.
Speaker1:
We are almost one year in. Yeah. All right, everybody. everybody thanks again y'all have a good one bye guys again we'd like to thank you for living the sweet life with us be sure to subscribe rate and review us on itunes spotify google play or wherever you listen to podcasts feel free to email us any questions questions, comments, or 90 thoughts at thesweetlifepodcast at gmail.com. That is thesweetlifepodcast at gmail.com. You can also follow us on Instagram at thes Life Podcast and on Twitter at Sweet Life Pod. So do you have anything else to say to our lovely guests? Until next time, keep living the sweet life. Bye. Thank you. We'll see you next time.
