We zijn een langgehuwd paar die onze relatie versterken door middel van het swingen. Onze podcast wil resoneren bij mensen met vergelijkbare levenservaring en waarden die zich in of potentiële ingangers zijn van de lifestyle. Niet een 'how-to' bron, maar meer een 'what if' bron die authentieke gesprekken tussen paren genereren om hen te helpen hun plaats in de lifestyle te vinden. Wil je ons begeleiden?
In this episode, Kel from Expansive Connection discusses the pervasive issue of comparison, its roots in human evolution, and practical tools to manage it. The conversation explores how comparison imp…
Apr 15, 2026· 01:01:07
Episode 153: Je onzekerheid is jouw probleem
We've talked about jealousy, we've talked about body image. We've discussed learning to flirt and being corageous in the lifestyle. But beneath the surface we all have insecurities about ourselves at …
Mar 31, 2026· 53:54
Episode 152: Beheersen van angst in het levensstijl
There are no shortage of lifestyle sitiuations that will cause us some anxiety! Visiting a club for the first time, going on a first date, being rejected by others, wondering if our partner will 'find…
Mar 18, 2026· 01:00:13
Episode 151: Het Resort - Een poort naar ethisch non-monogamisme
In this episode we review our trip to 'The Resort' which was first introduced by George in episode 137. The Resort is a new opportunity to step into ethical non-monogamy in a new format and market. Th…
Mar 4, 2026· 01:12:41
Episode 150: Is het levensstijlverslaving?
Can the lifestyle become an addiction? Well, it can if we don't recognize what's going on in our brains. In this episode with Catherine from Expansive Connection, we break down the key components at p…
Feb 10, 2026· 01:10:05
Episode 149: Hoe te zijn een machtig koppel in het lifestyle
What does it take to be 'successful' as a couple in the world of non-monogamy? In this episode we discuss waht we believe to be the four most important characteristics of a power couple in the lifesty…
Jan 27, 2026· 01:24:57
Episodenum 148: Een nieuwe kijk op het christelijke geloof en het levensstijl
Do you struggle with your understanding of how non-monogamy reconciles with a life of faith? Join us for a thought provoking conversation with Dr Mitch G, the newest member of the Expansive Connection…
Jan 15, 2026· 01:29:45
Episode 147: Veilige seks met STD Held
One of the most common concerns for those in the lifestyle or considering non-monogamy is the risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection or disease. We invited Alan Brock, CEO, and Dr Willia…
Dec 29, 2025· 01:15:45
Episode 146: Hoe relaties over tijd veranderen
We all know that all relationships, monogamous and non-monogamous, will change over time. Many of those changes will lead to the relationship ending. But does it have to end? Why can't the dynamics of…
Dec 15, 2025· 01:23:11
Episode 145: Stel ons (en onze vrienden) iets voor
This 'ask us anything' episode was recorded live at our 9th annual group trip to Desire Pearl. Not only did we answer questions but our friends helped us out by contributing as well. Use Promo Code: W…
Nov 25, 2025· 01:05:00
Episode 144: Lifestyle Coaching in het Nadeel van Verlies
As a follow up to our episode 142, we hear from Catherine about how the ending of her marriage is affecting her coaching business at Expansive Connection. Will her clients still trust her as a coach? …
Nov 11, 2025· 01:29:39
Episode 143: Swingen & Polyamorie - Zijn we meer als elkaar dan we denken?
We are joined by Dedeker, Emily and Jase from the Multiamory* podcast to discuss the similarities and differences between the swinging lifestyle and polyamory! We also talk about what exactly New Rela…
Oct 27, 2025· 01:39:52
Episode 142: Catherine's Story - "Mijn huwelijk viel uit elkaar"
This episode gets very real and very personal. Catherine, from Expansive Connection Relationship Coaching, tells her story of how her marriage fell apart while engaged in a non-monogamous relationship…
Sep 24, 2025· 01:05:24
Episode 141: Wat Nieuwkomers moeten weten en Veteranen moeten herinneren
Join us and Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching as we discuss the six most important things those new to the lifestyle need to know and us veterans of the lifestyle need always to remember: Rad…
Sep 10, 2025· 01:02:55
Episode 140: Terug in de ritme van het leven
None of us are immune from having 'real life' issues disrupt our relationship or our current life plans and goals. Health issues, family responsibilities, career changes and relocations are just a few…
Aug 26, 2025· 01:16:12
Episode 139: Ons Enneagram Coaching Sessie
In episode 136 Kel, from Expansive Connection Coaching explained all nine Enneagram personality types and motivations. Listen in on this real-time coaching session as Kel reveals the Enneagram results…
Aug 13, 2025· 01:07:44
Episode 138: De beschrijving van het levensstijl - Respectvol, Pervy, Cool-Ass mensen
When we hear the word 'swinger' or 'lifestyle' the first time we may think of key parties, sleezy sex clubs, orgies with strangers and lots of perverted people who will have sex with anyone. With how …
Jul 30, 2025· 01:16:36
Episode 137: 'Het Resort' - Een Nieuw Concept voor Lifestyle vakantiegangers
Join us as we chat with the founder of a brand new lifestyle vacation spot in Jamaica- 'The Resort.' This upscale venue gives lifestyle travelers an additional and much needed option for a sexy vacati…
Jul 15, 2025· 01:25:44
Episode 136: Het Enneagram - Krijg je Nummer!
Join us as Kel from Expansive Connection explains the Enneagram system which offers numerous benefits for personal and professional development by providing insights into motivations, behaviors, and r…
Jul 8, 2025· 01:04:35
Episode 135: Originele Verhaal - Dieper duiken met Kurt & Vicki
This 'Origin Story' format episode features our friends Kurt & Vicki and highlights another unique journey into and through non-monogamy. Perhaps their story of working through issues will resonate wi…
Jun 27, 2025· 01:18:51
Episode 134: Aangaan met de "Wat-willen-zij" Angsten van Non-monogamie
Are you considering trying non-monogamy or perhaps learning how to navigate the swinging lifestyle environment? Are you paralyzed by the 'what-ifs?' What if my partner falls in love with someone else?…
Jun 20, 2025· 01:03:58
Episode 133: 10 Eigenschappen van Succesvolle Swingeren
So you think you've got what it takes to be 'successful' in the swinging lifestyle? From our 11 years of experience, we share what we believe to be the most important attributes a person or couple mus…
May 28, 2025· 01:14:34
Episode 132: Ons verschil maakt ons beter
Why do we usually react to the word 'different' as something negative? Our differences can help us to learn more about ourselves which can lead to individual growth as well as strengthen our relations…
May 13, 2025· 01:32:19
Episode 131: Zoek je tribuut in de We Gotta Thing gemeenschap
What makes the WGT community unique? We are not a dating site. We are not like a Facebook group. Nor are we similar to a Discord server, a Slack channel, a Zoom meeting or a WhatsApp conversation. Wha…
Apr 23, 2025· 01:19:16
Episode 130: Alles over 'Swolly' relaties
Catherine from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us to help define that 'squishy' term that is a result of some combination of 'swinging' and 'polyamory.' She then discusses pro's and con's of what …
Mar 21, 2025· 01:18:49
Episode 129: Taming the Voices Inside My Head
You're awake again at 3:00am. You can't go back to sleep. You calculate how much sleep you'll have if you go back to sleep right now. Then, while staring at the ceiling, a voice inside your head decid…
Feb 17, 2025· 01:09:54
Episode 128: Genoeg met de Ananas! Hoe om Verbinding te Maak in die Wilde
We are contantly bombarded with lifestyle symbols and the promises they bring of attracting lifestyle couples to us in our day-to-day lives! From upside down pineapples in the grocery store, to black …
Jan 29, 2025· 01:09:38
Episode 127: Vertrouwen - Wat Het Niet Is
What is trust not? Trust is not a feeling that someone else creates in us with their actions. Some of us think we can trust people only when they are doing what we want them to do so we don't feel unc…
Dec 30, 2024· 01:19:12
Episode 126: De Veelheid van Jealousie-Varianten
Fearing or experiencing jealousy is one of the biggest reasons couples either don't try the lifestyle or don't last in the lifestyle. Why is that? It's more complex than we realize! Join us as Catheri…
Dec 10, 2024· 01:36:17
Episode 125: Een Live Feestviering van 10 Jaar Podcasten!
Please join us in celebrating 10 years recording the We Gotta Thing podcast! This is a very special episode recorded live with a group of our closest friends at the Desire Pearl resort. We thank all o…
Nov 30, 2024· 01:05:18
Episode 124: Handelen bij weigering in het levensstijl
Meshai from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us as we dive into the topic of being rejected in the lifestyle. We all experience the negative emotions when rejected by others and Meshai helps us to …
Nov 7, 2024· 01:25:19
Episode 123: De Veelzijdige Betekenissen van 'Verbinding' in het Levensstijl
Why do we want to connect with others? What are some ways we connect with others? What types of connections may we experience? How do we stay connected? What happens if we become disconnected with oth…
Oct 29, 2024· 01:20:57
Episode 122: Non-monogamie vereist werk - hoeveel zijn u bereid te investeren?
Jason from Expansive Connection Coaching joins us this month to discuss the 'non-quantifiable' work involved in exploring non-monogamy. Based on our WGT episode 100 in which we discuss the quantifiabl…
Oct 4, 2024· 01:38:54
Episode 121: Originele verhalen - Mark en Beth Canuck
Listen in as our friends Mark and Beth share their unique journey into and exploration of non-monogamy! We also review our Virgin Cruise out of Barcelona and discuss our first local lifestyle meet and…
Sep 16, 2024· 01:18:48
Episode 120: De voordelen en uitdagingen van non-monogamie met Expansieve Verbinding
Kel from Expansive Connection coaching joins us to discuss some of the benefits and challenges one may encounter when choosing to explore the non-monogamous lifestyle. Kel shares from her perspective …
Aug 20, 2024· 01:28:04
Episode 119: De waarde van counseling in de non-monogame wereld
Having experienced counseling ourselves over the past few months, we invite Catherine from Expansive Connection to talk with us about how those in non-monogamous relationships benefit from getting gui…
Jul 29, 2024· 01:17:29
Episode 118: Wens Riviera Maya en een Leven zonder Vanilla
Listen in as we review the brand new "The Eden" section of Desire Riviera Maya! We also enlist the help of many of our friends in a live recording from the resort to share how they challenged themselv…
Jun 20, 2024· 01:14:51
Episode 117: Non-monogamie is een volwassen activiteit
Most of us have mastered being 'adult-like' in all aspects of our lives. We are experienced at life. We are parents, spouses/partners, coaches, employees, teachers, leaders and friends. We've become a…
May 8, 2024· 01:06:28
Episode 116: Hoe kwetsbaarheid je levensstijlreis verrijkt
Being vulnerable is not easy and may not come natural for some, espcially when exploring the lifestyle. We tend to wall off our personal lives because we're worried about people knowing too much about…
Mar 26, 2024· 01:19:13
Episode 115: Ben je te vriendelijk?
Are you the type of person who puts the feelings of others above of your own? Do you want to have a stronger voice when someone suggests something you don't necessarily want to do? You are not alone! …
Jan 31, 2024· 01:04:11
Episode 114: Is een Kus gewoon een Kus?
We explore the perceptions and realities of what, exactly a kiss can mean to those in the lifestyle community. Does granting a kiss commit me to a sexual experience? Why do some couples have a 'no kis…
Jan 4, 2024· 01:25:42
Episode 113: De Realiteiten van Kleding Optionele Resorts
Listen in on our live recording from Desire Pearl where our guests discuss their unique perspectives, perceptions and realities of the term 'clothing optional.' Most of us struggle with self-confidenc…
Nov 8, 2023· 01:15:00
Episode 112: Een Originele Verhaal - Scott & Kelly
Join Mr & Mrs Jones and they interview "Scott & Kelly." This couple's journey into the lifestyle sounds like many other origin stories but then takes a bit of a turn when a family member shares some u…
Oct 11, 2023· 01:00:02
Episode 111: Zoeken naar wie je niet zocht
As newbies we started our lifestyle journey looking for people to connect with and then explore sexually. Back then it was all about the excitment, the taboo nature of the lifestyle and a boost to our…
Aug 28, 2023· 01:24:10
Episode 110: Een Originele Verhaal - Chris en Nancy
Chris and Nancy share their amazing and unique story of finding the lifestyle through a period of intense emotional exploration after being together for more than 20 years. We've learned that no relat…
Jun 30, 2023· 01:01:45
Episode 108: Navigeren van vakantie speeltijd
Many couples ask about how to 'successfully' navigate a clothing optional resort. How do we find couples like us? How do we socialize with others without them thinking it's an invitation to play? How …
May 22, 2023· 01:10:37
Episode 107: Ons Temptation Grand Miches-ervaring
In advance of our group trip to Temptation Grand Miches in the Dominican Republic we visited the resort to experience it ourselves. Through construction delays, supply chain disruptions, hurricanes an…
Mar 28, 2023· 01:04:36
Episode 106: Navigeren van cliques in het levensstijl
We hear story after story about the difficulties many (and mostly newer) couples in the lifestyle experience when encountering 'cliques' while attending events, visiting clubs or attending parties or …
Feb 26, 2023· 01:13:36
Episode 105: Originele verhalen - "J&B 2.0"
Listen in on our conversation with our friends "J&B 2.0" as they share their particular story of how they discovered and began exploring the lifestyle together! They are funny, smart and very real as …
Jan 29, 2023· 01:29:36
Episode 104: Kiezen voor een Lifestyle-Evenement met Cate van PCAP
Finding lifestely events and then choosing which event is the best fit for your approach to the lifestyle can be difficult and often confusing. Listen in as we chat with event host Cate from Libertine…
Dec 21, 2022· 01:27:06
Episode 103: Overwinnen van de vrees voor eerstebezoekers bij Desire Resorts
Listen in as our event guests discuss working through their individual fears, anxieties and challenges at a clothing optional resort during our week together at Desire Pearl Resort just south of Cancu…
Nov 7, 2022· 01:35:26
Episode 102: Je moet je eigen dingen eigenlijk hebben
We sit down with four of our lifestyle friends and share real stories about what it's like to experience hurt feelings during an event and how to dissect, debrief, discover and confront the root cause…
Oct 12, 2022· 01:24:33
Episode 101: Deal Breakers
We discuss four distinct behaviors we consider to be deal breakers to moving forward and possibly making new lifestyle friends and connecting with potential play partners. Sharing opinions on politic…
Aug 31, 2022· 01:01:22
Episode 100: Ben je bereid om de moeite te doen?
Finding your tribe, making lifelong friends, connecting for sexy playtime and growing your primary relationship are just a few ways to define 'success' in the lifestyle. Many may mistakenly believe yo…
Jul 31, 2022· 01:14:40
Episode 99: Verwerven van die nieuwe relatieenergie
New Relationship Energy (NRE) is that sexual buzz we feel when we first meet and connect with a couple or individual. We discuss navigating this heightened state of emotional and sexual feelings by pr…
Jun 21, 2022· 01:44:32
Episode 98: De Behoefte aan een Levensstijlgemeenschap
As the idea and exploration of consensual non-monogamy continues to grow we have noticed the need for organized community. The different flavors and diverse approaches means that one size does not fit…
May 25, 2022· 01:07:06
Episode 97: Ons ding mag niet jouw ding zijn
To quote Mrs Jones, "we should be an example and not a blueprint." It may seem natural to adapt our 'thing' into your lifestyle journey but that could be a mistake. Giving yourselves an opportunity to…
Apr 24, 2022· 01:59:37
Episode 96: Non-monogamie coaching door Expansieve Verbinding
Catherine (one of our favorite humans) and her team from Expansive Connection join us to discuss how they have created a unique method of coaching non-monogamous people! Not only do they offer a 'judg…
Mar 29, 2022· 01:10:36
Episode 95: Het Levenstijl IS Echt Leven
We often hear couples suggest they are taking a break from the lifestyle due to 'real life' issues. We also hear some say that 'real life' is getting in the way of their lifestyle activities. In thi…
Feb 16, 2022· 01:21:42
Episode 94: Is het jaloezie of wanhoop?
Have you experienced lifestyle play partners getting a little upset when you choose to spend time with others? How about hard feelings when one of you seems to be enjoying the lifestyle more than the …
Jan 17, 2022· 01:27:15
Episode 93: Wat als we uitgezet worden?
This is the most important topic that nobody wants to talk about! Chances are this won't happen to you (as it did us) but we still want to help prepare you just in case... We reflect back on our exper…
Nov 30, 2021· 01:28:21
Episode 92: Snapschoten uit Desire Pearl
Listen in as our guests share their Desire Pearl 2021 snapshots in a recorded-live conversation from the resort! Some are thoughtful and meaningful, some are sexy and others are downright hilarious! O…
Oct 31, 2021· 01:26:05
Episode 91: We zijn weer afgezweerd - Waarom houden ze ons niet in de gaten?
This month we discuss why other couples reject us when reaching out from a lifestyle dating site and how to improve our chances of success in the future. This episode complements our episode 62 "Putti…
Sep 23, 2021· 01:38:38
Episode 90: De Belangrijkheid van Vertrouwen in het Levensstijl
We discuss the importance of trust from four different angles: trusting your relationship, trusting each other, trusting other couples and trusting who you are becoming in the lifestyle. Also, I (Mr J…
Aug 29, 2021· 01:32:41
Episode 89: Genieten van groepsvermaak
Group play can be fun but also tricky! In this episode we explore the benefits and pitfalls and share our perspective on how we approach and navigate playing in larger groups. We also recap our very f…
Jul 25, 2021· 01:22:11
Episode 88: Het kunstwerk van het vermijden van fouten
No matter how long you've been in the lifestyle you are going to make mistakes. So we've come up with a few tips to help you minimize those mistakes and make your play experiences more meaningful and …
Jun 23, 2021· 01:19:32
Episode 87: Normalisatie door blootstelling
In this episode we discuss how our perceptions change to our reality the more we are exposed to actual events. All of us have pre-lifestyle perceptions, newbie lifestyle perceptions and even veteran l…
May 18, 2021· 01:32:10
Episode 86: Bi-something zijn in de Lifestyle
There are perceptions in the lifestyle that a woman must be 'bi-something' to attract and connect with other couples. On the men's side of things there is a double standard and a stigma attached to be…
Apr 26, 2021· 56:23
Episode 85: Voelt als de eerste keer
Perhaps you have not had your first play experience yet or haven't had one in a very long time due to the current pandemic. Preparing for that first play experience creates a lot of build up, anticipa…
Mar 29, 2021· 01:22:40
Episode 84: De teleurstelling - Kan we nog steeds vrienden zijn?
Do you struggle with if, when and how to tell other couples you're not interested in meeting? What about after you've played and you've lost interest? What if they ask you why you aren't interested? W…
Feb 21, 2021· 01:16:30
Episode 83: Het strijden is echt
Not only does real life often get in the way of engaging in the lifestyle, but simply staying sexually connected as a couple is a struggle. Add a global pandemic to the mix and you have the perfect st…
Jan 21, 2021· 01:20:01
Episode 82: Het Conversatie over Kompatibiliteit
We believe there are three important components of compatibility that we need to consider when trying to find connections with people in the lifestyle: General Compatibility, Safety & Health Compatibi…
Nov 29, 2020· 01:25:53
Episode 81: De taal van het lifestyle
In this episode we discuss the idea that there is a unique language spoken by those in the swinging lifestyle. We believe this language is comprised of four distinct elements: the language of speaking…
Oct 30, 2020· 01:21:09
Episode 80: Zoek je echte vrienden in het levensstijl
We talk a lot about all the special friendships we've made in the lifestyle and many of you express frustration over finding the type of connections we describe. In this episode we offer tips on what …
Sep 27, 2020· 01:09:08
Episode 79: Kan we ons levenstempo kunnen financieren?
It's not a secret that engaging in the lifestyle can be expensive! In this episode we discuss budgeting tips for your lifestyle adventures and why we prioritize spending money on us as an investment i…
Aug 30, 2020· 01:36:23
Episode 78: Hoe weet ik dat ze me interessant vindt?
Men are programmed through all aspects of life to avoid showing interest in other women. But now we are in this lifestyle where other women expect us to show some interest. This is so confusing! How a…
Jul 26, 2020· 01:34:57
Episode 77: Ik heb nooit gedacht dat ik ooit...
Before entering the lifestyle or becoming experienced in the lifestyle we never imagined doing some of the things we've actually done and things we've learned about the lifestyle. We share how our per…
Jun 28, 2020· 01:05:59
Episode 76: Wees Authentiek - Erken Alle Facetten van Jezelf
As we are mired in the current pandemic many of us are being pulled back away from our social and sexual mindsets. When we are concerned about our jobs, our children, our families and our health we ne…
May 25, 2020· 01:34:55
Episode 75: Confronting Mannenprestatieproblemen
Erectile Dysfunction and Performance Anxiety are often misunderstood by many in the lifestyle. Numerous couples experience this issue but don't take the time to acknowledge, openly discuss, research a…
Apr 22, 2020· 01:38:35
Episode 74: Gezondheid, welzijn, hormonen en het levensstijl
As we all focus on staying well during this pandemic we thought it a good time to talk about a few health related issues and how they impact our lifestyle journey. "Mr Night" is a certified Family Nur…
Mar 22, 2020· 01:29:06
Episode 73: Gegensassen trekken elkaar aan?
We've all heard the term 'opposites attract' when talking about relationships. Does the same hold true when finding connections in the lifestyle? Do we search for people just like our partners or do w…
Feb 16, 2020· 01:37:24
Episode 72: Stemmen in mijn hoofd - Doe niet je eigen c***blokkering
We are all guilty of creating false narratives and making up those stories in our heads as we consider approaching another couple in the lifestyle. Sometimes we don't even give the other couple a chan…
Jan 14, 2020· 01:29:05
Episode 71: Het dilemma van het kus en vertellen
In this episode we discuss the issue of 'Kissing and Telling' in the lifestyle. How do you feel about couples sharing personal details about a private play experience? Do you share details with others…
Dec 15, 2019· 01:35:19
Episode 70: Wens 2019 - Reflexies van de Dames
Listen in on our conversation with a resort full of imperfect but beautiful ladies! The ladies of Desire discuss what they've had to realize and overcome in order to enjoy and grow into the lifestyle.…
Nov 11, 2019· 01:31:35
Episode 69: Toestemming - Meer dan woorden
We all agree consent is a bedrock principle in the lifestyle but most conversations around this topic focus on verbal consent. We'll talk about using our words but will also consider two additional d…
Oct 20, 2019· 01:35:43
Episode 68: Het 'Social Sexy' levensstijl
Topic- Some people are either put off by the term "swinger" or have misperceptions of what it really means today. We've decided to use the term 'Social Sexy' to describe how we view and engage with ot…
Sep 22, 2019· 01:26:49
Episode 67: Ogen Wijd Open - Leefstijl Rood Vlaggen
We discuss identifying red flags in other couples and how to respond when you see them. We also talk about red flags that pop up within your own relationship and how, if left unresolved can lead to yo…
Aug 18, 2019· 01:32:38
Episodie 66: Ontdekken van je Lifestyle-groep
When first considering reasons for entering the lifestyle making lifelong friends is not normally the goal. But after getting used to connecting with people and having some sexy playtimes we begin to …
Jul 21, 2019· 01:36:56
Episode 65: De Gouden Regels van het Levensstijl
Discussion topic: We often focus on rules and guidelines "inside the bedroom" but in this episode we discuss what we consider to be the golden rules of the lifestyle outside of the bedroom. The import…
Jun 16, 2019· 01:34:03
Episodie 64: Rassen in het levensstijl
Join our conversation with Bomber and The Belle from the Black & Kinky Podcast as we discuss the issue of race in the lifestyle today. As a black couple they share their perspective, experience, opini…
May 20, 2019· 01:23:15
Episode 63: Lifestyle Chemie 101
In this episode we discuss what "chemistry" in the lifestyle means to us and how it's different from attraction. Is chemistry between others instantaneous? Can chemistry with others fade over time? H…
Apr 21, 2019· 01:46:23
Episode 62: Zelf stellen - Lifestyle Profielen 2.0
In this episode we talk with the creators of the brand new lifestyle website Double Date Nation, Dave and Andi. The four of us discuss our ideas and share our opinions on how best to create and optim…
Mar 28, 2019· 01:17:28
Bonus Aflevering 61: Kennen Sie George?
George has been hosting elaborate and sexy lifestyle events all over the world for 15 years. Since we've attended several and get many questions about these 'mysterious' lifestyle gatherings we though…
Mar 10, 2019· 01:35:49
Episode 60: Wat heeft leeftijd te maken met het?
Discussion Topic: In Part 2 of our judgment series we are joined by our "much younger friends" to talk about how age factors in to meeting, connecting and even playing with couples who are much older …
Feb 17, 2019· 01:13:12
Episode 59: Rechtbank in het Levensstijl
Discussion Topic: We all have experienced being judged. However, we don't often reflect on how we judge others or why so many people in the lifestyle still tend to judge. We discuss how we are wired…
Jan 14, 2019· 01:37:03
Episode 58: Buiten je comfortzone en in Paradys
Discussion Topic: The swinging lifestyle is a place we go to grow our relationship. But to experience any kind of personal or relationship growth we must step out of and beyond our comfort zones. Lis…
Dec 11, 2018· 01:21:03
Episode 57: Lifestyledoelen - Wat is jouw waarom?
Discussion Topic: Does being in the lifestyle mean a race to full-swap? Will we find ourselves always wanting more? Why does trying the lifestyle seem like a risk to our relationship? Will we become a…
Nov 5, 2018· 01:13:49
Episodie 56: De zeven gewoonten van succesvolle swingers
Discussion Topic: Using Stephen Covey's Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, we align how those same habits can make you successful as a couple in the swinging lifestyle. Travel with us to Desire …
Oct 8, 2018· 01:28:47
Episodie 55: Zoeken naar ons gelukkige plekje in het levensstijl
Discussion topic: In this episode we catch you all up to date on what we've been going through since we were "outed" as lifestyle podcasters 18 months ago. Through all the turmoil we lost our "happy …
Sep 16, 2018· 01:45:15
Episode 54: Drama in het Lifestyle
Discussion topic: Most agree we'd like to avoid any drama in a lifestyle experience. But is this a realistic expectation? Is drama such a bad thing? Do we know what drama really is and is not? How s…
Aug 19, 2018· 01:21:13
Episode 53: Het dilemma van de discreetheid
Discussion topic: In this episode we discuss the tension between wanting to be discreet yet at the same time wanting to know as much as possible about others. Too much discretion and nobody knows you …
Jul 15, 2018· 01:28:54
Episode 52: Speelvoorkeuren - Nieuwkomers of Veteranen?
Discussion Topic: We share sexy stories from our trip to Desire Pearl and discuss the benefits and drawbacks of sexual play with newbies and veteran couples in the swinging lifestyle. Spoiler alert: w…
Jun 18, 2018· 01:23:54
Episode 51: Awkward Lifestyle Encounters
Discussion Topic- Whether it's your very first play experience or you've been swinging for years awkward encounters will always be a part of your lifestyle journey. We share some awkward lifestyle mom…
May 21, 2018· 01:30:03
Episodie 50: Overwegen over onze reis door het levenstijlverleden
Discussion Topic: In this episode we celebrate the milestone of reaching 50 episodes by reflecting on our lifestyle journey thus far. We are learning a lot and having a loads of fun but it's the peopl…
Apr 25, 2018· 01:17:17
Bonus Aflevering 49: Mevrouw Jones & Cate - Wat Mannen moeten weten over het swingende levensstijl
Discussion Topic: Mrs Jones is joined live by "C" from the Swinging Downunder podcast to discuss what the two ladies believe men need to know and understand to be successful in the swinging lifestyle.…
Apr 11, 2018· 01:29:56
Episode 48: Welk komt eerst? Vertrouwen en moed in het levensstijl
Discussion Topic In this episode we discuss the difference between being courageous and being confident as you enter and navigate the swinging lifestyle. Many people say "just be confident" and you'll…
Mar 11, 2018· 01:32:06
Episode 47: Het echte leven kruist de swingende levensstijl
Discussion Topic- In this episode we discuss how we see the lifestyle bumping up against real life. Personally we are becoming more "out" as swingers, more and more mainstream media is reporting on s…
Feb 11, 2018· 01:18:12
Episode 46: Verbinden tijdens het spelen
Discussion Topic- Connecting with your play partner while trying to maintain a connection with your own partner is a balancing act many find difficult to achieve. This month we discuss the challenge …
Jan 9, 2018· 01:30:17
Episode 45: Afsluiten van de Deal - Overstappen naar Speeltijd
Discussion Topic- Navigating this lifestyle can be awkward at times, especially when trying to transition from conversation to playtime. We discuss our experience in this area and share some tips to …
Dec 10, 2017· 01:27:43
Episode 44: De Evolutie van het Levensstijl
Our New Online Lifestyle Course is Live!Our new online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey is now available! We've created 6 modules and over 40 lessons to help you move into the…
Nov 7, 2017· 01:01:59
Episode 43: Zeven sexy swinger sinnen
Announcing our special projectMrs Jones and I are developing an online lifestyle course called Navigating Your Lifestyle Journey to be released in December 2017! We've created 6 modules and over 30 le…
Oct 19, 2017· 01:02:18
Episode 42: (Niet zo) Grote Verwachtingen - Voorkomen van teleurstelling
Discussion Topic: Setting expectations is something we (and many couples) struggle with in the lifestyle. With expectations usually comes disappointment. Disappointment can lead to leaving the lifes…
Oct 1, 2017· 01:34:46
Episode 41: Een gecertificeerde therapeut (en swingster) breekt de jaloezie uit
Discussion Topic: Way back on WGT Episode 3 we discussed Mr Jones's struggle with jealousy when we entered the lifestyle. In this episode we welcome Catherine, a licensed professional counselor AND s…
Sep 11, 2017· 01:35:20
Episode 40: Mythen doorbreken over kledingoptionale resorts - Desire Pearl 2017
Discussion Topic- Many couples approaching the lifestyle consider clothing optional resorts as a first step on their journey. This episode we tackle some commonly held beliefs and fears regarding clo…
Aug 14, 2017· 01:15:33
Episode 39: Zoek je flirt in het lifestyle
Read our latest newsletter here and then Subscribe to our newsletter here! Keeping up with the Joneses We update you on our new business ventures and Mr Jones makes his request to Mrs Jones for his ho…
Jul 23, 2017· 01:27:04
Episode 38: Zoeken naar die onbereikbare vierkoppige verbinding
Read our latest newsletter here and then Subscribe to our newsletter here! Keeping up with the Joneses We recap the highlights of our experiences at Naughty in N'awlins 2017! Our WGT Meet & Greet and…
Jun 19, 2017· 01:21:40
Episode 37: Ons Wereldje botsen - Uitgelicht als Lifestyle-podcasters
Discussion topic: This month we stray from our regular format to talk about being "outed" as podcasters in the lifestyle. We discuss what happened, how it impacted our lives, how we managed the fallo…
Apr 11, 2017· 01:26:08
Episode 36: Vrienden met voordelen - De echte lifestyle unicorn?
Keeping up with the Joneses "Friends" from out of town drop by for a few sexy encounters and we chat about the half-marathon that almost happened. Discussion topic We break down lifestyle friendships …
Mar 12, 2017· 01:33:33
Episode 35: Keepin' It Real - Ontwikkelen van een gezond aanpakken van het levensstijl
Keeping up with the Joneses This episode we share three explicit experiences, a weekend with some "tried and true" LS friends, an evening with our new Texas friends and (queue the trumpets) our first …
Feb 12, 2017· 01:19:55
Episode 34: Mr Jones en Ik - Een Manlijk Perspectief op het Levensstijl
Keeping up with the Joneses This month we catch you up on our date(s) with a "unicorn", an evening in our swinger pad with good friends, a somewhat vanilla work party at our house and a family event. …
Jan 10, 2017· 01:33:50
Episode 33: Hoe Diep Is Je Liefde? - Hoe Het Levensstijl Onze Relatie Sterker Maakt
Keeping up with the Joneses This month we catch you up on the sexy weekend we had with a very special couple as the four of us visited the Trapeze Club in Atlanta, Georgia. Oh, and you'll also want t…
Dec 12, 2016· 01:26:23
Episode 32: Swinger Fails - Leren van die onvermijdelijke fouten
Keeping up with the Joneses Our trip to Desire Pearl is set! Join us the week of November 11-18, 2017 as we bring T&A from The Curious Couple and C&D from the Swinging Downunder podcasts to meet you a…
Nov 16, 2016· 01:21:39
Episode 31: Je bent zo mooi...voor mij - Aantrekkelijkheid in het levensstijl
Keeping up with the JonesesOur new website is live! Come take a look at wegottathing.com and let us know what you think. We also share what sexy things we've been up to this month to include pushing …
Oct 31, 2016· 01:19:31
Bonus Aflevering 30: Prestatieangst in het Levensstijl - Ons gesprek met Jay en Kay
Discussion Topic In this bonus episode we discuss an issue that most couples will face, one way or another, during their journey through the lifestyle. Jay and Kay from "That Couple Next Door" podcas…
Oct 12, 2016· 01:39:42
Episode 29: Lifestyle Regels en Grenzen - Wanneer ze maken en wanneer ze breken
Keeping up with the Joneses A lifestyle "happy hour" with "sexy" lifestyle friends, an intimate conversation with "new" lifestyle friends and we share some playtime with "old" lifestyle friends, and a…
Sep 13, 2016· 01:31:23
Episode 28: Wensparel 2016 - Geen Uitleg is Mogelijk
Keeping up with the Joneses After a bit of a rant from Mr Jones, we chat about a local date with a new couple that didn't go as well as we would've liked. Topic We talk about our week in paradise! Aft…
Aug 29, 2016· 58:43
Bonus Aflevering 27: Diversiteit in het Levensstijl - Een Oorsprongsgeschiedenis om Te Herinneren
Discussion topic Listen in as we chat at Desire Pearl with Jay and Nathan, an Indian couple from Edmonton, Canada, who were brought together in an arranged marriage. If you think you know what an arr…
Aug 10, 2016· 01:24:10
Episode 26: Organiseren van een huisfeest
Keeping up with the Joneses We share our "creed": who we are, where we are coming from, why we share and the purpose of our podcast. We also share a sexy tale after a special visit from friends we me…
Jul 19, 2016· 01:33:42
Episode 25: Heet dagen en ondeugende nachten in N'awlins
Keeping up with the Joneses We discuss our evening with J and K from the That Couple Next Door podcast and we thank you, our listeners for voting for us and making We Gotta Thing a finalist in the Ann…
Jun 20, 2016· 01:27:06
Episode 24: De Nieuwkomer Whisperers
Keeping up with the Joneses Dinner with new friends, hosting new friends in the "Swinger Pad" and a night out with Jay and Kay from That Couple Next Door podcast. Discussion topic We recap our trip to…
Jun 9, 2016· 01:31:18
Bonus Aflevering 23: We Gotta Single Guy - Ons gesprek met "Tony"
Discussion topicIn this special episode we'd like to share our "single guy" with you all! We hope that listening to Tony will help couples navigate the single guy experience and help those aspiring s…
May 21, 2016· 01:32:03
Episode 22: Het stellen van de basis - Hoe je partner kunt vertellen over swinging
Keeping up with the Joneses Afternoon delight with good friends, Mr and Mrs Jones's reconnection time, Dan Savage's Humpfest and why you shouldn't drink beer all day before running a half-marathon. D…
Apr 20, 2016· 01:28:32
Episode 21: Leven de levensstijl!
Keeping up with the JonesesA vanilla race weekend, a hot quickie with good friends before vacation, sexy fun with the Sapphic Swingers, a trip to Trapeze Club in Fort Lauderdale and a weekend double-h…
Mar 21, 2016· 01:20:24
Episode 20: Ogen Wijd Open: Levensstijl Risico's en Beloningen
Keeping up with the Joneses- another try at a house party, a visit from our Florida friends, single guy #2 and a "shake down" cruise of our new swinger pad. Discussion Topic- We discuss how we approac…
Feb 21, 2016· 01:35:53
Episode 19: Miami Heat: Levens(stijl) in de Snelle Lijn
Keeping up with the Joneses- a visit from mid-west friends, Mrs Jones joins the Vino Ladies and a house party with a communications issue (oops)! Discussion topic- Do You Know George? We do! We share …
Jan 17, 2016· 01:43:20
Episode 18: Zo wil je een Swinger zijn: Het fantasie maken werkelijkheid
Keeping up with the Joneses- We Gotta Thing-o, Naughty stockings, a birthday double blow job, a trip to Pittsburg, new play friends and your hairdresser said what? Discussion topic- we talk about the …
Dec 20, 2015· 01:14:23
Episode 17: Met deze ring, ik thee swing - Ons geloof ineenbrengen met ons levenstijl
Keeping up with The Joneses- Sexy times with special friends and a hot night for just us two!Discussion Topic- We talk about how we reconcile our Christian faith with our lifestyle journey.Snapshots- …
Nov 22, 2015· 01:33:13
Episode 16: Je behoort tot mij....Mister
Keeping up with the Joneses- Goodbye Paige and Penn, Halloween party, dinner dates (good and bad) and good friends Discussion Topic- Emotional monogamy and sexual non-monogamy Snapshots- Special guest…
Oct 24, 2015· 01:35:13
Episode 15: Als we toen maar wisten...
Keeping up with the Joneses- Another spectacular house party, a visit by our Florida friends, fun at a Meet & Greet and dinner with a special listener Discussion Topic- Here's what Mr & Mrs Jones from…
Sep 20, 2015· 01:37:22
Episode 14: Mrs. Jones op de Warme Stoel!
Keeping up with The Joneses- Changes to our music format; Email us!!; Playtime at home Discussion Topic- Mr Jones interviews Mrs Jones about the past year in the lifestyle Snapshots- We share ours and…
Aug 24, 2015· 53:09
Bonus Aflevering 13: We Gotta Swinger Diary - Deel 2
This bonus episode 13 part 2 was originally posted on the Swinger Diaries podcast in August 2015. Swinger Diaries is no longer podcasting so we are posting this episode to complete the story of our t…
Aug 22, 2015· 01:14:10
Bonus Aflevering 13: We Gotta Swinger Diary - Deel 1
Special Episode! In this episode we are joined by Paige and Penn from Swinger Diaries and we all discuss our hot, sexy and fun times together at Naughty in N'awlins! Catch part 2 of this episode on th…
Aug 9, 2015· 01:37:45
Episode 12: Heet, Stoomend, Seksig en Naaiig in N'awlins!
Keeping up with The Joneses- A dinner party, a house party and an apartment party Discussion Topic- Our Naughty in N'awlins experience Snsapshots- Side by side service and the ponytail holder Mentione…
Jul 11, 2015· 01:17:26
Episode 11: Wensparel 2015 - Seksforten en Krachtwassers
Keeping up with The Joneses- Desire Pearl: The Resort Discussion Topic- Desire Pearl: The Experience Snapshots- Sex fort orgasm and caught red-handed Mentioned in this episode Desire Pearl Naughty in …
Jun 13, 2015· 01:29:59
Episode 10: We zijn 'vol' gereden
Episode 10: We've Come "Full" Circle Keeping up with The Joneses- Hot (some not) Dates at the beach. Discussion Topic- Navigating back to full swap; handling uncomfortable advances. Snapshots- "…
May 17, 2015· 01:26:30
Episode 9: Wie ben je?
Keeping up with The Joneses- Why yes, we do know George! Discussion Topic- Who are you? Who are we? Our experience with swinger date site profiles. Snapshots- Mrs Jones- Dirty dancing in a vanilla dis…
Apr 25, 2015· 01:37:54
Episode 8: Sex is de nieuwe Vierpersoons!
Boy, do we have a lot to talk about this month....... Keeping up with The Joneses- A dinner and a "hot" hot tub date; a night out in Miami; the dreaded vanilla cruise; an awesome house party.. …
Mar 21, 2015· 01:23:57
Episode 7: Iedereen is 50 Schaduwen van iets
Keeping up with the Joneses This month we skip out of a marriage conference early to attend a swinger lifestyle meet and greet. Are we bad? We also talk about a local date for dinner. Discussion top…
Mar 5, 2015· 01:06:50
Bonus Aflevering 6: Ons gesprek met Cooper Beckett
In this bonus episode we veer from our normal format to chat with Cooper, host of the "Life on the Swingset" podcast, about his new book "My Life on the Swingset" and other sex-positive topics. As yo…
Feb 20, 2015· 01:14:59
Episode 5 - Zacht of Volledig? Dat...is De Vraag
Listen in to our conversation about whether or not it's the right time for us to move from soft swap to full!
Jan 21, 2015· 01:16:37
Episode 4 - Nieuwjaar -- Nieuwe Vrienden!
Join us as we discuss (in detail) our swinging experiences at the Sinn-ergy James Bond New Year's Eve hotel takeover and party!
Dec 26, 2014· 01:02:37
Episode 3 - Jealousie? Wat is er aan de hand met dat?
Join us as we discuss the topic of jealousy and other emotions from our own experience as we entered the lifestyle.
Nov 30, 2014· 01:00:36
Episode 2: Wensparel: We zijn gebedeld!
Join us as we discuss what we've been up to in the lifestyle. We share an experience with another couple after our first date, our hot experiences at Desire Pearl and our sexy snapshots of our swingi…
Nov 4, 2014· 01:11:52
Episode 1: Ik & Mrs Jones
Greetings! We are Mr and Mrs Jones and We Gotta Thing! This is the first episode of our podcast and we are so glad you've joined us. We are fairly new at this and want to share our adventures (the go…
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