[LOCKED]why do the admins block users from having a different opinion? stop the Gestopo tactics

You guys just do not understand. "EVERYONE" is just pleased as punch with all the changes. If you are not ,you may just be ungrateful for the wisdom of your betters or just plain ignorant. (smirk)

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it is pretty incredible to see the number of threads that get locked down by the "powers that be" who believe they know what's best for the membership.

we're constantly told, "this is what you've asked for and we delivered". And, "only a few complain, the rest have no issues." Crap like that. So wondering, does the Gestapo get a strong majority that report a thread and decide to put the black banner up or does one butt hurt individual make the decision?

Me thinks I know how much to wager on that question...

On any other dating site or social networking site, blocking means the person I block doesn't see anything by me and vice versa. It's absurd it does not function that way here.

Wayne, let me tell you why the block feature will not solve the hot date issue

I don't think people have clearly expressed why they don't want the hot date tab. It's about the social relationships. We, swingers, build them in our home town (or whatever base we choose), then we make close friends. Our close friends can now see that we are playing around when out of town, even though we told them that we were going to Grandpa's funeral, or busy and unable to meet them.

While not always as extreme as above, I bet there is some truth to what I am saying. Basically we want the ability to not show others we are screwing around. It's the friends we are worried about, not the mortal enemies, and blocking them is not practical.

We were referring to this site by its name actually and it was complimentary to the site and you. . Was the the dot com?

icmim:

am afraid that this group, that my wife and myself owe a great debt of gratitude to, will waste what it has built, rely on its laurels and go the way of Sears.

I am afraid of same thing.

I remember when we started using SLS, we stopped using another site.

At SLS direction we printed meeting cards with our profile ID that brought people we met at parties directly to our SLS profile.

Imagine our surprise and chagrin when we were told info was NOT going to our profile.

It turns out that without disclosure to members, SLS had turned off that feature for everyone.

We had even made cards for other members not too tech savvy.

We felt that we looked like fools

I would like to see all event attendees listed, even if I have blocked them. Sometimes I may not want to attend an event if a mortal enemy will be attending and avoid any drama. Just don't allow the profile be opened. Maybe not even say at that point they have been blocked, just loop back to the home page and assume a poorly designed web enhancement.

Wayne, this is not new news to you. I brought up this specific problem to you July 12, 2019. You acknowledged it that very same day. Nothing was done about it since.

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=62243252">garyam</a>y,</p>

<p>You must have tried using a word that is not allowed. That generally includes the names of competing websites and outside communication services. Try rephrasing.</p>

<p>The main function of the block feature is to keep someone from viewing your profile. I've checked and I see that some lists on the site still will show the profile name when a block is place. I see that the Hot Date listing is one of those places. I have now submitted a feature update request to the developers to change it so it suppresses the whole listing from places such as hot dates and the event attendee lists, etc... As customer service, I can only make suggestions. I do not know when or if that change will be made. </p>

It's a service that we paid for, and it's got loads of issues. Customers are right and valid in expecting some modicum of decent customer relations.

Wayne,

Thank you for your response. when attempting to respond to you I get the following: Sorry this post contains words that are not allowed please try again. apparently this is all I can respond with and it wasn't accusatory or anything

Flip and 2much you are of course right. They can do anything they want with it. My fear is what they are doing with it will eventually come back and destroy the site. SLS got to be what it is because it pleased its members who in turn recommended the site to other people.

I have been in business long enough to know that is the demanding clientele the makes a business successful. They provide lucrative contracts and referrals to other people. I have seen people go out of business because they ignored the demanding clientele and instead provided what they thought the customers wanted rather than asking the customers what it is they wanted.

SLS was once a valuable resource the swinger community both those just tiptoeing around the edge of the pond and those already immersed neck-deep in the lifestyle. Now it is just a hookup site like many many others.

I am afraid that this group, that my wife and myself owe a great debt of gratitude to, will waste what it has built, rely on its laurels and go the way of Sears.

Like RK and a lot of other lifetime members our actual cost to be here is only about two dollars and some change per month. Even if we quit the site tomorrow we still have gotten good value for our money spent. We've met a lot of really great people since we found this place.

Things change and you have to adapt or move on.

You can be disgruntled members all you want but until you find a better site... you all still seem to be here every day.

We agree with Flip. It's their site, they can do what they choose.

You're the consumer, you can do what you choose.

its their site, they can run it any way they like. dont like it, leave. im not saying i disagree but it is what it is

Good one Wayne.. "email".. okay then correction mail vs IM.. and how funny!

When we joined CompuServe in 1981 we had "Compuserve Email". It did NOT have internet connectivity at that time and worked PLEASANTLY member-to-member just as "it" [whatever you want to call it] worked here.

May 2, 2020 Wikipedia says

"Electronic mail (email or e-mail) is a method of exchanging messages ("mail") between people using electronic devices"

Esperanza, exactly. Currently a blocked profile can still see your hot date. They can still see if you are signed up for a certain party or event. We’ve even seen one on random matches. This site does not take security or privacy seriously. What say you Wayne?

The real problem with Hot Date was/is that people you have blocked can still see it. THAT is the security and safety issue.

If someone blocks a profile, that SHOULD mean what it means on ANY other dating site, and that is blocking that person from anything from the user who blocked them. Blocking is a security and safety measure for many. Blocking a profile needs to mean that profile is blocked from whatever I post anywhere on this site.

Wayne I believe the original request was that a hot date be posted in the area that it would occur and not to the whole site . The feeling that there was no need to broadcast locally that people would be out of town.

There was I believe a second request that If one has a specific category blocked that they would not see the Hotdate.
This request applies to the wall and who actually views ones profile. on both the site and the app.

<p>RonKathy,</p>

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">As we have said refund our money on what we originally paid for, good web site, email interactions etc and we will go elsewhere."</span></p>

<p>I apologize in advance, as I am going to call you out a bit on this statement. I did a calculation and this site is currently costing you $2.34 per month. And every month that you stay here, that cost goes down. So I feel your request for a refund is a bit unrealalistic.</p>

<p>Also, I see a lot of people talking about "email". This website NEVER had email. Email is a specific standard for mail servers to use to relay messages across the net. This site had an internal message system and it was replaced with another internal message system. The new system uses a more modern "text" based format. I personally use it all the time to communicate with other people on this site, so I know for a fact that you can communicate with the new system, just as you could with the old system.</p>

<p>garyamy,</p>

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">1. lets discuss the decision about hot dates and the security issue that some of your users feel about it being listed on their profiles."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Hot Dates are public data. By public I mean that any member of this website potentially can view them. Therefore, there is no privacy or security issues with showing them on your profile. Those people in your local area could just as easily go search the Hot Date calendar for the location of your hot date and view it. When that change was made, I read your posts (listened to you) and relayed your information to my superiors and they told me that it was not any security or privacy issue. </span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">"</span><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">2. The constant if you disagree with a change the forum/ thread being locked or deleted, then people being placed on time out for disagreeing and not being able to post replies etc. ."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">You can look at the threads and posts in this section of the forum and easily see that your statement is not true. We lock or delete very few threads/posts compared to the number we allow. Some incorrect information has been posted from time to time and sometimes I (or other staff members) delete that so as not to cause confusion or have rumors being started. Overly critical content or personal attacks may be deleted, as there is no call for that. For example, calling me or the site stupid, comparing our developers to monkeys, saying we use 1990s technology, etc... is wrong, pointless and untrue personal attacks agaist either staff members or the site itself. </span></p>

So you want all your money back after being a lifetime member for years?

What has it cost you per year if you break it down?

Us old lifetime members have gotten our money's worth many times over.

It is their sandbox...