Taking a break/not looking - Not Allowed by SLS?

Wane said:

Yes, in that case, the couple profile would need to either be made inactive or changed to a male profile. You cannot use a couple profile to meet people as a single.

That’s too presumptuous on SLS part. If one of us takes a break you shouldn’t be defaulting to a single profile. We’re still involved AS A COUPLE even if just one half might be playing at the time. That’s the whole point of updating a description. Maybe one is out of commish but still will participate by watching or whatever other dynamic is specified. It should be the members choice how to have their profile listed while on break.

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">We had a profile up and after two years decided that we needed to get the ages right. That is all we did..."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Either you did more than that or it was a coincidence. The ONLY thing that triggers a review is when you update the profile text in the "About You" section. No changes to the 'Password', 'Location' or 'Preferences' tab would cause a review. </span></p>

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">We changed our profile to the female taking a short medical break, we were then made inactive."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">Yes, in that case, the couple profile would need to either be made inactive or changed to a male profile. You cannot use a couple profile to meet people as a single. </span></p>

ItalianGinger said:

"Yea, we’ve learned that this is probably why people don’t update much."

I know that is the case here. We try and stay current, but every time there is a tension over whether there will be a problem.

We had a profile up and after two years decided that we needed to get the ages right. That is all we did and got a message that our profile suddenly was in violation and that we needed to fix it (unspecified infraction) before it would go back up.

Suggestions: Changes to age and weight just get processed and cleared. Install an automatic "Last updated tag on the profile"

Anything more complicated, like change of marital status,has ,I believe , something already in place. If not a simple form asking for clarification could be sent. Certain things like divorce, death or marriage would be check box items getting an automatic clearance.

Accurate and up to date profiles are important and anything in that direction is good. It is also good to move unnecessary tasks off of the staffs desks,

We changed our profile to the female taking a short medical break, we were then made inactive . Then back online as a single male.

A short medical break to me means not able to play, and being up front about it.

It does not mean that we can not meet and still make connections for the future.

A simple email to the PAID member is not to much to ask, and could save a lot of time on complaints and fixing the profile

Yea, we’ve learned that this is probably why people don’t update much. It seems to be an issue when you do. I just find it somewhat odd how only certain profiles and/of groups get flagged or messed with. I can cite dozens of examples where a profile has blatant TOS violations and nothing happens or groups that violate almost rule for club/group postings and skate by. It would just be nice to see some consistency is all.

Seems like it's better to keep your profile somewhat vague intentionally to avoid modifications to improve your experience.

The policy is that the "gender" of a profile must match the participation of the profile owner(s). We base that on the text written in the profile. When we see a profile where the text does not match the "gender", we will change it.

We do not ask you about it because 1) it is the policy of the company and 2) my 20 years experience working here tells me that I am 100% helping you by taking that action and I am making your experience here better because of it."

So by this standard, all the "hot wife" profiles need to be converted too? We'll wait to see how that goes. How about removing all the years old dead profiles to make our user experience better while at it? And the second half basically backs up my comment about being presumptuous. SLS is taking action based on what they think the user wants, not what is stated by them in their profile. Just because half a couple takes a short break for whatever reason (work, health, availability, etc) doesn't mean they aren't still involved. In this case, we are just deferring things to the more active partner at the time so others will know versus changing the entire scope of the profile which is misleading to them.

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:tahoma,verdana,arial,helvetica,sans-serif; font-size:14px">If you change profiles to reflect the correct gender per the profile why is it when we get a message from a single male it shows up as a couple."</span></p>

<p>I believe there is a glitch that sometimes a single male profile that has no default picture will show the couple "peeps" place-holder image. Maybe that is what you are talking about. </p>

<p>If you view the profile and it shows age/height/weight info for a male and a female, then that is someone who has listed their profile wrong and you can report it.</p>

Long visit to MOMS.. I would call cops she may be dead!

If you change profiles to reflect the correct gender per the profile why is it when we get a message from a single male it shows up as a couple .

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=49498672">ItalianGinger4u2</a>,</p>

<p>The policy is that the "gender" of a profile must match the participation of the profile owner(s). We base that on the text written in the profile. When we see a profile where the text does not match the "gender", we will change it.</p>

<p>We do not ask you about it because 1) it is the policy of the company and 2) my 20 years experience working here tells me that I am 100% helping you by taking that action and I am making your experience here better because of it.</p>

<p> I see that your profile has been updated since it was made a single female, so I have changed it back to a couple.</p>

<p>Another reason why we have this policy: I have seen profiles that say something like, "My wife is visiting her mother right now, so it is just the male half playing." The problem is that the profile had been saying that for 5 years!</p>

I guess they allow “taking a break” but if you do they will take liberties with your profile and change the relationship status without even as much as asking, so we removed the content about the half taking a break for a bit. I guess be aware if half takes a breather or has things going on and has to step away for a bit that SLS will make you a single!?! I can see if the couple requests it, but doing it just because seems a little presumptuous

To ro_ri54

I believe that if you change your interest level in single males to zero/none, you will not show up in their searches. Thus avoiding unsolicited messages.

People SLS is a private corporation, we are obligated to follow the rules. I hold the opinion most here are not in the lifestyle or swing...Most of the single males are married and their wives don't know about their fantasy...We get alot of unsolicited single males even though our profile says no single guys...almost universally when we say we will meet them at their place ...opps can't they all have roommates

On the other hand I must congratulate those who review new members. I see 8000+ new in the last week and only 1 profile that is pending.

I am just guessing that those affected will be joining the ranks of those no longer recommending SLS as a go to site.

It amazes me the extent that some go to alienate otherwise content subscribers.

We recently changed our "tagline" to not available for play till (a few weeks away) and SLS almost immediately suspended our account with the same bullshit reason. Personally we felt like being upfront about our hiatus (she had a surgery and was out of the game for 6 weeks) was much better than "wasting people's time" intentionally. However I see profiles that have been inactive for well over a month, that are still up. We were still using the chat function and perusing the forums, but the SLS police decided we weren't suitable to have an active account. Even though we pay for the damned service. We ended up changing our tagline to something stupid & have to constantly disappoint couples while the clock ticks by .

<p>We are doing this as a courtesy to you while you are away and not logging in and using the website. If you are here logging in and using the website, there must be a reason why you are doing that. Just make that clear in the profile. </p>

Pure and simple, it’s censorship. SLS shouldn’t decide who’s time is wasted. They love that control even though we’re paying members.

<p>People can put that in their profile. When they do that, we mark their profile as inactive as a courtesy to them while they are away and not participating. If someone else is currently not meeting people, there is no reason for their profile to show up in your search and waste your time.</p>

I recently chatted with someone that changed their profile recently saying they weren't meeting anyone right now and was told by SLS that it was a T&C violation to put that, so they had to change it back.
I rather have someone saying they aren't currently looking than to message them and find that out.