Reading isn't hard; try it sometime

We find it eye opening that SLS admin not only has the time, but sees nothing wrong with going in to the forums and commenting on threads with contributions that add nothing to the topic with no intention other than to insult it's paying members. If you truly learned anything from your members you wouldn't be putting so much effort into driving your base away. Totally unprofessional.

To the OP, we agree. Doesn't make much sense to us either. One thing we have learned though is that when people show they have no respect for your boundaries they likely won't show anything but more of the same down the line either.

People reading other's profiles has nothing to do with website changes, maybe that post was put in the wrong thread. It has to do with taking the time to read what is presented in the profile and a decision, albeit should be a respectful one in whether or not to contact is to be made. "The original post" about reading profiles, I am positive has been deleted in the great forum purge a couple years back, but the conclusion from the majority was pretty consistent with something like "If you read a profile and don't know if you are compatible enough to make contact, then it is best to err on the side of respectful and don't".

~Allen

And as I've said numerous times in the original topic on this, ALL of this could have been avoided with one simple feature tweak without deleting to original calendar and it's functionality:

All you had to do was add a simple check box to a hot date creation asking if the user wanted to limit visibility of the hot date to only those within their preferences. Voila. Done. User requirements satisfied for those that had hard age limits (and other limits) and those that viewed them as soft preferences with wiggle room for the right couple or single (as the vast majority of posters seem to be grouped).

Wouldn't have to change the calendar feature at all.

But no. Their solution is to make an assumption about the entire base of users and make a major feature change that likely only applied to small number of users yet affects everyone. You seriously need work on how to develop user requirements and design to them.

“ But why is it so hard for some to be considerate of others' wishes or preferences?”

Short answer, you won’t get that here and that clearly applies to all genders.

IMHO, Other than others having reading comprehension deficiencies or trying to dictate other’s hard preferences into soft, as some have clearly shown, Wayne has answered that question quite well and it is obvious these were other forum user’s answers put forth in the past threads as well.

~Allen

I turn off visibility to single males and I've not been contacted by them. Are they contacting you via another means whereby they view your profile?

Nice sarcasm Wayne. It's what I expect when changes are made, not based on user requests, but based on internal staff that think they know better than the users in what they wish to see. Why else would you be defending an overwhelming negative change to the website and still, have not explained the genesis of the feature changes?

the way to delete your post. you see the word "DEL POST" and click on it , It's below and to the left of 'report to moderator' tab, But anyway, sometime go into "tool" and block certain types for a week or two . That will cut down on messages and especially, "who viewed me" ... maybe not

I get people are on this site, and in this lifestyle, for their respective reasons. But why is it so hard for some to be considerate of others' wishes or preferences? If the profile says "we will contact single males", that means WE WILL CONTACT SINGLE MALES.