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Wow, lots of folks like to Kik. Between our jobs, the girl is in college, 2 boys in high school, and 4 dogs and the ranch we just don't have the time. The wife has no time on her job. I am not as important so I can set at my desk 1 or 2 times a day and take out the phone. But after work we are busy with life. She has told me to just check the site and show her when we get time.

Ah, ok EdandBritney, no harm done. Didn't want you to think we questioned your integrity.

EdandBritney wrote: “We take the conversation over to KIK shortly after initiating on here but only when both members of the couple have their own account.”
Guess we are fake LOL

You're going to have to help us understand how you got from A to C via what we said. We clearly said if both parties don't have KIK we won't move the conversation there, why we won't move the conversation there, and explained that we invite couples who don't both have KIK to hit us up in person at an event. No where did we even slightly make it look like both parts of a couple not having KIK made them fake.

We have been swinging for over 10 years. We play at home and make several trade show road trips all over the US each year..... so we have met and played with people, and been stood up by people in 38 states. It is the same everywhere when it comes to the fakes and flakes, lol. As others have already stated, rarely can the husband and wife be there at the same time to respond to emails and/or IMs. I do a lot of it on here and on AFF, and my hubby does some of it, and sometimes we do it together..... but we communicate with each other and know what each other is doing and saying to others. Are there flakes on these sites?... of course, but without them the membership stats would be in the hundreds and not the thousands. We all know the owners of these sites need big numbers to attract the real people to their site, lol. We don't waste our time with childish apps like KIK.... we prefer to enjoy life and not spend it staring at a cell phone all day like a teenager, lol. Phone calls???? There are also too many freaks and scammers to give out our phone number for a "chat". Spending time on apps and Skype takes the fun and mystery out of the "first meet". If we like what we see on a profile, and like what they say in the emails/IM, then we set up a meet. We set it up at a public place, restaurant, bar, club, etc. where we would like to hang out even if our scheduled meet turns out to be a no-show. If we get stood up..... oh well.... we can have fun anywhere we go just the 2 of us, so we have never been "bummed out" when a meet didn't work out....... we are already someplace fun and we have each other! Besides, there is no rule that says when the other couple or single person doesn't show up that you have to go home with your tail between your legs...... there has been a few times we ended up playing with people we met after the "no show" took place. Example: One time the "extra" guy did not show up for the meet at the restaurant we and another couple were at. When we got the text saying he wasn't coming .... my hubby looked at us ladies and said "pick out a cute sever and I will have him join us later". Well, we picked one, and my hubby asked our server to send him over for a "chat". Well...... the guy we picked showed after he got off work and enjoyed 3 hours of non-stop fun. SO, to all of you who get frustrated with the flakes, remember one thing: The fun doesn't have to stop if they don't show!

Thanks almost everyone for your wisdom and kindness !

For us, wife doesn't get on the site. Knowing my wife, I communicate with couples where I think there will be a match and then we try to meet in person. We don't have a lot of confirmations, but the few we do have should show we are a couple. We also look at the length and type of membership.

“We take the conversation over to KIK shortly after initiating on here but only when both members of the couple have their own account.”

Absolutely, they hand out one account for both, we stay on SLS email. We hand out two and if they only contact back with one and don’t set up a group, we block.

~Allen

“It has been our experience that as soon as we ask for some sort of proof that we are in fact communicating with a couple or woman the emails come to an abrupt halt.“

Maybe, just maybe, those people that stop responding are like us and don’t feel the need to prove anything and walk away from demands. If we feel we need proof someone is a couple, we’ve gone to far in it already.

~Allen

We take the conversation to Skype or Kik as soon as practical with minimal correspondence in email as is practical. We want to video chat with both him and her. If they are local enough we will arrange to meet at Starbucks or other such place.

It has been our experience that as soon as we ask for some sort of proof that we are in fact communicating with a couple or woman the emails come to an abrupt halt. We interpret that as a sign that it is a single male posing as a woman or couple. I would venture a guess that almost all of the couples and women profiles on SLS are single middle aged wankers in mom's basement. We have notice a significant increase in phonies after the closure of Craigslist personals.

We take the conversation over to KIK shortly after initiating on here but only when both members of the couple have their own account. It makes no sense to us to converse with only one half of the couple and we never get a feel of the others personality. They can chat and reply at their leisure. If they don't both have KIK then we don't continue much here and just tell them they can see us at an event and hit us up there so we can all talk.

Bitter? Really?? Pretty sure, Lisa, your post talked about "wasted time" over the grand total of 6 weeks of SLS experience. Like many, you were given several possibilities of why someone wouldn't respond or only one party answering, you chose to dismiss those options. Bitter? LOL!

We do understand because there are a lot of fakes on here. But in our case the wife is busy with her job and I have more free time on my job. So she wants me to man the site. And we never give out personal information such as our phone numbers. We try to meet only at LS events. Too many crazy people in this world, just can't be to safe. Couples have their on reasons for the way they communicate.

Thanks for positive feedback at least one of were nice enough to answer sorry I posted in wrong place I'm new to all !!!!!! Just finding our way !!!! Good luck to the other person that most needs bitter in life wish you loads of happiness in the future

you're "tired"? you've only been on the site 6 weeks. perhaps, just maybe, one or the other (male or female) are the ones who scan profiles and answer messages. perhaps they work different shifts. perhaps they have other priorities. perhaps they post in one of the Forums with the right topic. who knows?

Unfortunately you'll find a good number of fakes & pic pervs. If a "couple" can't both speak to us via a phone call with all 4 saying hello soon after an e-mail exchange expressing interest, we usually block them. We want to verify there actually is a female half & she doesn't appear to be having her arm twisted by the male half.

Tried of men talking wasting my time when wife hasn't even seen our profile ! How do u get couples not individuals to talk to feel like a alot of wasted time spent