What’s wrong with our profile?

Thanks to all for the advice. Penny

You used 26 words to say you're frustrated in this thread but the whole body of your profile is 41 words. As for what you do have, as much as we'd all like to think racism doesn't exist, it does. Your one picture is multi-racial and it sounds like that could be more of a problem in your area than some.

The advice and observations so far are spot on, including the fact that you've been on here for 3 years and have put so little effort into your profile. It literally screams "fake".

So, what do you want to do with the "Fun, interesting, attractive people." when you find them? What exactly does, "Adventures in living." mean? I can see from your toggles that you aren't interested in other women but that still tells me nothing about what you do want.

BTW - I'd guess that nearly 80% of all couples here ARE looking for women, so that already puts you in a minority. We are in that same minority, but that's not what's really hurting you as much as your 1 pic and general lack of effort. It is also a little ambiguous because you indicate you're bi-curious but the toggles indicate zero lack of interest in females.

If you were a site newbie then people could cut you some slack, but 3 years later and only 1 pic and under 50 words total is going to tell most you're not interested in putting ANY effort into this if/when it comes time to actually meet, assuming they even believe that you are a real couple.

Your profile screams lazy. It's 3 years old and the fantasy section still says "later"

You've put no effort in. Why should anyone else?

I can't comment on your specific profile because you have single women blocked, but even your tagline lacks an inviting quality. Please listen to Velma and sorillo, though, because they know what they're talking about.

I don't know if this will help, but here's a quick overview:

Tagline - Short, punchy and funny or short and serviceable. You're trying to interest others, so it's more like an advertising slogan than a picture caption.

Looking For - One or two paragraphs about who you're looking for, whether you're looking for friends/nsa/whatever and something about the kind of people that interest you.

Description - Say some things about you as a couple, including your interests. Avoid talking about your bodies or your sexual skills, because as odd as it sounds, those aren't the things that will interest folks looking at your profile. Again, one or two paragraphs is really kind of a minimum effort required. I'm sure you're awesome people,

Fantasies - This isn't where you put your spank material. Instead, talk about some of the things you'd like to experience (mmfmm? Great!) and whether you've had any experiences. One paragraph is fine here.

Additional comments - This is where you put information that doesn't fit elsewhere (it really could be anything). You don't even need a full paragraph, but you do need something.

In general, everything you include should be positive or spun that way. Don't talk about what you don't like or aren't looking for. Think more about what you have to offer others than what you're looking for. Even though what you want is important, you can't have it if you aren't attracting others.

Good luck.

This is going to sound harsh, but the thing that's wrong with your profile is that you basically don't HAVE a profile. A couple of short sentences that say nothing about you isn't going to entice anyone to answer. In fact, there's nothing here for us to even critique.

You need to start over. First thing, read a bunch of the threads here in Better Profiles, look at a bunch of profiles both in your area and elsewhere to get an idea of what's needed. That's the easy part. Next is that you actually have to put some WORK into it. You need to actually compose something. As it is right now, it looks like you took about 30 seconds to throw up some placeholder text.

Also, big no-no is to have face photos of someone who isn't on the profile like your street vendor (did you get his permission to post his face on your swingers website profile?). Especially when you blot out your own face. Frankly, that's kind of rude.

Your biggest problem is that you have a very low-effort profile. You just kind of threw some words up on screen , uploaded a picture and you just kind of gave up.

You need at least 5 pictures- female face and body, male face and body and a picture of the two of you dressed nicely like you are going to a nice dinner or church. Currently, you only have one picture of the the female half and none of the guy. If there are no pictures of the guy, I'm going to assume that he's not a triathlete like my husband. So you are probably losing a lot of people because there's only one picture and the guy isn't in it. Then you want at 5 more pictures- preferably of you doing interesting things - going to a ball game, rock climbing, traveling, whatever. Just nothing involving a gun or a fish.

I did a little research on Loudon, Tennessee and the racial makeup is overwhelmingly white - 78.4%. I also took a look at the election results from 2016 and 75.28% of the precincts voted for President Trump.... so I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that when people look at your profile, they see a black man and a white woman. They think the black man is the male half, and they just click away.

I know this is hard to fathom, because if you aren't racist, it's a difficult concept to grasp, but my guess is that your main profile picture is the reason why people aren't contacting you. I hate to say it, because I love living in a multi ethnic world, but get rid of that profile picture.

My other suggestion is to really fill out your profile. If you don't put in any effort, people won't put any effort into you.

Tell me more about what you are looking for. Talk about your fantasies. "Later" is a cop-out and I'm not going to write you to ask. Write about your hobbies. There is a reason why I have text talking about all of my races and pictures of us cycling and at Wizards games. I want people to think "Hey, I like biking! We should talk to them!" I call them "hooks." Writing about your hobbies is a way to "hook" people with similar hobbies.

You also say that you don't give or receive certs. That's your business, but I won't engage with couples who don't have certs because certs are at least one way of proving that someone is real.

So rewrite, get some new pictures up, especially ones of you dressed well, and let us know. We will re-review.