Re did our profile

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. I know I'm late to the party. I'm going to be fairly critical, too, so I won't be surprised if you wonder why on earth I chimed in. Just remember that it's your profile that I'm criticizing, not you. I'm sure you're great.

So, first, your tagline is almost epically a red flag. It indicates that she is not on board with the whole swinging thing, which is going to bring nearly everyone to a full stop, regardless of how hot your default photo is. And it is hot. The corset one not so much (bad angle) and photo number nine is unflattering. Are you talking about the weather and not Mrs. DragonLovers? Then get rid of the pronoun.

In Looking For the second and fourth sentences don't belong there. They won't attract others, indicate you're rather a lot of work and are really things that are important to the two of you but not to others.

In Description, I'd remove the entire first sentence, which is again a red flag. Instead of the "the female" and "the male", use she and he. It's partly grammar - female and male are adjectives rather than nouns - and partly that the construction you've used is a little dehumanizing. So, all around not a good look.

Fantasies isn't super, but it has some charm right up to the last line. That one's a head scratcher.

Also a head scratcher is Additional comments. You either have experience, as indicated in Description, or you do not, as asking for someone to break the ice indicates.

Anyway, the combination of your tagline and Additional comments inclines me to think some drama might ensue from your direction.

Maybe see if making changes gets you some contacts. Good luck.

Fort Payne, AL, Us

Three times "break the ice with us" makes me think that you aren't confident enough to approach other couples. And your tag line sounds to me like she's not really on board - probably not the impression you are going for.

I'd like to see fewer risque pictures and more fully dressed pictures of you together and of him.

There is more that bothers me but I can't really put my finger on it. Hopefully others more insight will pop by.

Good luck!

~Phoebert's Wife

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

I think your profile pictures are pretty goog. All the same, I opened a private gallery for you.

I would pair down your pictures to no more than 10.

I also think you need to have more pictures of the guy dressed well. A pic in a sweatshirt is fine, but not every picture.

Also watch how many T&A pics you have. They aren't really a turn on for women.

mayhem8Veteran
Auburn, NH, Us

Agree with prior comments and in addition, Looking For says you are looking for "a" couple. This implies you're looking for something exclusive.

For us, we enjoy the variety so have no interest in being exclusive with anyone, so this would result in a No from us.

Hendersonville, TN, Us

Everything that's being said is meant to be helpful but may come across as hurtful. It's like medicine...it may not taste good but it's intended to make things better.

Love the waterfall pic. Make that your main profile pic. Velma will chime in with suggestions on pics, but that's my suggestion.

The tagline sounds reluctant. There's a way to express the same thought in a more inviting way, like "Each step we take brings a new and exciting adventure!" Now if WE lived in Bangor our tagline would absolutely have to be "Just because we live in Bangor doesn't mean you get to...aw, who are we kidding???"

The line "We have been in the lifestyle long enough to know that we have a happy marriage now." needs to be reworded. It's quite possible that would raise a red flag and folks (like us) would nope-the-fuck-out soleley because of that line. The feeling is you're trying to fix your marriage through the LS, and that doesn't work.

Lose the "The world is your playground..." and the Additional Info text. The first doesn't fit the paragraph, the second feeds the narrative that you're going to rely on others to make this happen for you.

South Haven, Michigan

We redid the profile, seems we are not getting any replies or messages yet. What are we wording wrong, and we are hiding faces at first. Is that the way to go? So many people on here do not show themselves. What is the best approach to attract those to our profile and initiate conversation?

Is there something that is said that is wrong?