Re-assessment

Columbus, OH, Us

The profile is pretty milquetoast. Pretty much everyone here is trying to have fun, and likes friends, and could go out or stay in. The trick is to stand out, and the only detail about you I could glean is that you like sports.

Phoenix, AZ, Us

Hi. Welcome back. You had your warning/disclaimer the first time, so I'll just jump right to it.

The cargo shorts in that photo are wrinkled and you look about 20 pounds heavier in that t-shirt, so I'd toss that one. I'd also toss the tagline. First, "male" in this case is a grammatical error, second, it won't get you any interest. So, really, clever if you can. Feel free to peruse a thousand miles from home and steal one that amuses you if you can't think of anything.

In Looking For, you have all the ingredients, but there's something wrong with the way it sounds. Read it out loud and see if you can fix where it jangles unpleasantly. Some of it is a syntax error in the first sentence, but that's not the only problem.

Description is really good, but I am strongly opposed to either mentioning the state of one's own pubic hair or dictating that of others. This isn't Amazon and people don't belong on a shopping list. Plus, you're unlikely to run into anyone who isn't at the very least closely trimmed.

The rest is really good.

I'm still having trouble getting a sense of you, but you may just be that buttoned up that it takes time and a certain amount of contact before you unfold. That's not a bad thing, but it makes your photos and tagline even more important. Plus, it would definitely help to have a cert.

That's all I have. I hope you find exactly what you're looking for. Good luck!

Virginia Beach, VA, Us

The pool picture needs to go. If you can’t find someone else to take your picture, I’m going to assume you have no friends.

This may not be the case but it’s a huge red flag.

You never seem to have any trouble getting people to take our picture-we just ask and people do it.

Fort Payne, AL, Us

Biggest problem I see is the pool picture. Not sure who you've blocked out but it looks like a family picture and gives the impression that you might be married posing as single. If you want a pool picture you need to find a way to get a friend to take one of you alone (or with fewer people in it and then crop out the others rather than use black blocks). You also need a picture of you dressed up like you'd be meeting a couple - if you have to, go out to dinner alone nicely dressed and get a waitress to take your picture. And you want to be sure that all pictures are no older than a year old.

Your whole profile leans a bit toward "me-me-me" but I don't think you're that selfish - it's just unimaginative sentence structure. You especially need to reword things in Looking For so it's more about others.

And rather than male/female use men/women or gentlemen/ladies - male and female are primarily adjectives.

I'm out of time - hopefully the others will be around in a bit. Good luck!

~Phoebert's Wife

I asked for some help when I first started on this site to improve my profile and made the changes. Now that it's been a bit of time, I'd like some more feedback. Please take a look at my profile and let me know what you think. Don't worry about being too blunt - it won't hurt my feelings. Thanks!