Profile Review for a single guy

Just my $.02 worth...

The best single guy profiles I have seen are when they make it about pleasing the couple or wife. I have seen so many profiles that start sentences with "I am into" or "I like to..." which seem to point to this being only about pleasing the single male.

Something that we look for is when the single male makes it very clear in both profile and in real life that he is 100% respectful of the couple, wife and their marriage. Some husbands and couples are maybe curious about a single male, but could still be apprehensive about how he would treat his wife. I have seen some single male profiles that masterfully convey that they are only there for mutually respectful fun.

Your profile is off to a great start!

Stud4Wife - You should start your own thread so advice for you doesn't get confused with advice for the OP.

Go to the front page for Better Profiles and click "New Topic" on the right hand side near the top

New to the site and need some advice

Thank you for the honest review, ms molly. I appreciate it!

Hi. I didn't see the pre-opinions version of your profile, but I'd have to say that you didn't exactly follow the advice to put things in their proper places. Since I think you can do better, I have some specific suggestions.

First, in Looking For, could you make that first one a complete sentence? Between things like that and the exclamation marks that pepper your profile, you seem REALLY HIGH ENERGY, which isn't necessarily a compliment if it you can't harness it. As far as the second sentence, are you saying you want a committed relationship - a LTR - or that you'd prefer an on-going friends with benefits - FWB - deal? Also, I don't know what you mean by down to earth, but presumably others will.

In Description, which is meant to be about you, you've included some text about how you were introduced to the LS, which, hey, nice story, but it belongs in Fantasies/real experiences. Also, the third sentence - the one beginning "Over the last couple years" - can go, because it's a non sequitur here and you're already unbalanced, giving two short sentences to those you're looking for and being really expansive about yourself, when it's better to be a little closer to even everywhere, if you can.

This?: " Single male, hwp, active guy" and "I'm very laid back and very easy to talk to" are best combined into one sentence, leaving off 'hwp' which your photos either do or do not demonstrate. So: Single, active, laid back and easy to talk to."

In Fantasies, lead with your introduction story and then, very briefly, just say you're open to trying most things at least once. I'd leave out the parts about extreme kink (nobody accidentally falls onto a St. Andrews cross) and either leave out the exhortation to explore with you or move it to Additional comments.

Passively opening your pics is generally kind of weaksauce, but in this case, being a single guy, I think it can work for you. Just make sure the gallery you open does not include a dick pic.

That's all I have. Good luck.

I did a little tweaking a removed the warnings. Hopefully that's better than before.

Thanks so much

If you actually read the warnings and think about what they say - you won't wonder about them.

They are meaningless.

LMK and PW - thank you for taking the time to reply I appreciate the thoughts! I’ll definitely do some fine tuning and organization on my profile this week. I wasn’t sure about the warnings, I just had saw some on other profiles and wasn’t sure. But hearing you both wonder about them means it’s probably safe for me to remove those as well.

Once again, thank you-thank you for the kind words!

Bobby xo

Hello Bobby! Hope you've read some other profile reviews and realize that we're generally an opinionated bunch. We mean well even if we're a bit blunt.

You've got a great cert so you're obviously doing something right.

Let's get the easy stuff out of the way first: Get rid of the warnings. They are meaningless and make you look gullible. Don't use emoji - they aren't compatible with SLS and show up as ??. Add at least one full length, nicely dressed photo so we know what to expect for an initial meeting.

Fine tuning your text will only take a little more work. You have a great conversational style that allows your personality to shine but you need to do some rearranging so you're answering the question implied by each section header. Looking For should be about others; Description about the vanilla you; Experience/Fantasies about the sexy you. Specifics are better than undefined, wishy-washy generic phrases. LMK has suggested some great ideas.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi Bobby. I think the info is generally there, but it needs to be put in the right place.

Your “looking for” section should be about what you’re looking for in others. No one knows what “down to earth” actually means and it’s over used. Here’s your chance to be specific: “couples and single females who love to laugh, can enjoy a good martini in an upscale bar or a beer around a fire pit…” etc. paint a picture folks can actually see themselves in. With you.

Also move the second and third sentences where you talk about yourself to the fantasy section.

Description: “laid back” another over used cliche. So define what that means to you. “Easy to talk to” is great. A good listener? Also more about you. Professional male during the week, ready to hit the outdoors on the weekends? Tell us something about what you’re about. Remove the sentence about extreme kinky stuff. You’ll get to that in discussions with potential partners. Try to keep anything negative out of this.

You say you think you’re funny. Why? Wouldn’t it be better to say other people have said you’re funny… better to have outside endorsements, even if they’re anonymous.

And honestly I don’t know much about the Sydney University disclaimers. Is that still a thing? As someone who joined the site just 4 months ago, whenever I see that I think the poster is a long timer and has been doing this a while. Not necessarily a bad thing. But just wanted you to understand the perception of a relative newby.

Hope this helps.

~ LMK ~

Hey hey!

Any feedback on how I can clean up or better clarify anything on my profile would be appreciated.

Thanks so much!
Bobby