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Flinch - I am probably not your best source of advice on pics. The fact that you even have one AND it's a full face shot puts you ahead of so many others. I think the ideal would be a picture out and about somewhere that looks like someplace fun. If you can add a big natural looking smile, I'm not sure how it could get much better.

There are some things you can do with poses/lighting, but I think the essence of that is to accentuate what you believe to be your best feature/s and down play your worst. As an example, if you had a gut, you'd not want to wear clothes and/or be in poses that make that front and center.

Mayhem, thanks for the thoughtful response. Profiles here are simpler and just better when the sex component is removed and everything is reduced to what people want to know, BESIDES the obvious mutual interest.

When it comes to photos, what are some of the things that sell you on a person or couple, visually?

Took the weekend off, came back to great advice, confirmed suspicions. I’ll work on refining the profile, get some better pics together illustrating my interests, add some interests in the description and address some easy wardrobe fixes (no grandpa stuff!) and camera angles. Much thanks for the honesty, people!

Flinch.. did you get our last IM message.. never heard back so we dont know if you received it?

I would say the text of your profile has improved with the edits. I'm just wondering what the reluctance is to tell a little more about the things you like to do in the Description section.

To put this in perspective, you have decent text and so-so pictures. You are in competition with every other SM on here. Someone with OK text and better pictures is likely to win out over you. Unless someone is looking strictly for NSA sex, one thing that can tip the scales in your favor is if someone reads your profile and finds they have common interests besides just sex.

It could be a number of small things even, like "Enjoy Sci-Fi movies". That could open the door for a "What are your favorite movies?" conversation. Think about what your ideal fun day/s would be like outside of sex. If it's someone else's idea of a good time too, they will see you as fun and be more likely to engage you.

Even though this is from the male half, trust me when I say that if it comes across online that your only interest in women is sex, it will limit you. It doesn't matter how much you profess to be focused on her pleasure. I think that one of the biggest mistakes SMs make here is to assume this is a sex site and things need to be limited/focused to only that.

If you don't believe me, start taking note of the number of profiles here that are looking for "Friends" With Benefits. Also, having a FWB preference doesn't exclude you from NSA sex, but the other way around likely will.

Flinch, it is quite a bit better. Adding in the line about your time is important.

Looking at your photos, change the angle to start with and take Molly's advice on the clothes. That angle only make anything extra you may have amplified a bit. Get a tripod for your phone or ask a friend of help.

Thanks for the compliment... exercise, exercise, exercise.... Like RK said, you may want to "refine" yourself a bit to fit your target audience. I want to feel comfortable with guys mid 20's to early 30's.

OK - looks like you've shifted back to mostly what you had before.

The earlier advice still stands - give us a bit of insight into what makes you a fun guy that we'd enjoy spending time with. All of our conversation is not going to be about sex - so what else interests you?

Hi again. Yeah, not all advice is worth following. Actually, none of it is worth following without close examination. Including mine.

You must have clothes somewhere that fit without wrinkling. Jeans and a sweater would be great. Because your fashion sense is definitely on the grandpa end of the spectrum based on what you've got in pics now, so more photos like what you have aren't going to help your cause. And have someone else take those photos, lots and lots of them, so that you get a couple of good ones; just use different outfits or something.

To get line breaks between paragraphs, you need to hit the enter key a few times. That will help the look of your profile. But you still need to work on Description. I get that it's hard, but be the interesting person that you are if you'd like to make a favorable impression in a new community.

I will send you an IM.. LOL

I am going to guess that it has been updated again, because it didn't look condescending to me. It also didn't really have anything in the Description section that tells what you enjoy doing besides sex. It looked OK.

I'd suggest getting a couple more pictures. Perhaps an action shot of some kind might help your look/image?

RonKathy, Your pics had me whispering “Shem Creek?” Now, I’m certain.

Holly, your comments are dead-on. I’m going to use my own words and journey here. I read that revision and cringed at how it read. I value the age comments, since your photos don’t match your age, but in the best way. You have the body of someone half your age! Genetic lottery winner.

Oh Yes OP.. get out to the places in Mount Pleasant, just over the bridge that have live music and meet some fun folks.. you now live in a great town.. make it work we love C..SC

The photos with boats in background were taken at MP on walkway!

RonKathy, strong advice, and you clearly back it up with evidence. Love your profile! I recently moved, and maybe it’s the old place and circumstances still showing through. Well, that’s temporary. Maybe living at the beach will help with that?

OP.. so we too are Pops and Grannie.. but what do we do.. we dye our hair, dress for success when going out, hit the gym, play tennis, pickleball, kayaking, and always smile while having fun in life and what we do .. we go dancing and the first on the dance floor always, we date every month..

Our grandkids cannot believe how active we are in our life and push them to also be active and be their best.. it works and shows.. and YES both of US in our 60's.. !

The "other grandparents act and look old.. and are well BORING even they cant believe what we do!

12 photos in our profile are from Sept 2022!

We live life like its our last everyday and with fun friends.. thats what we do LOL!

I took some direction from a friend that I wasn’t comfy with, but I’m trying to be receptive to direction. Suspicions confirmed. More revision.

As for my apparent age, what can I do to look more my age? I’ don’t want to run the grandpa look until I AM a grandpa.

Still, THANK YOU for honest feedback. I’m committed to doing this right.

I hope you were going for humor but you've really missed the mark.

I'm with Holly - your profile went from "probably no" when I first read it to "NOPE" now that you revised it.

You are an easy, "N0."

Two things jump out: you are condescending toward hotwife couples or any couple where the wife could be surprised on her birthday or any reason for that matter. You come across as a jackass. Outside of that line it is pretty obvious that there some things you don't get about the lifestyle.

There is no way that we believe your age is accurate and we agree that your profile reads like someone in their early 60's. The pictures seem to confirm that as well.

Phoebert came home one time with shirts that looked like Omar the Tent Maker had been involved in their construction. The salesperson suggested the shirts based on color not fit - termination worthy offense in my opinion!

I found Lands' End Tailored Fit to be a more reasonable fit for him with a minimal price differential from their regular fit. It's been years since I've had to purchase any (we've been retired about seven years now) so no idea about the current pricing.

Thanks GGMM - I'll look into those. Up until now I have found "Athletic fit" in US shirts work, but they are like twice the price and ironially have less material than a standard cut shirt.

Once you have revisions posted, let us know, because most of us love tinkering. ;)

"With a 42-44" chest, the expectation is you're going to be in a size 38-40 pants, and I think many shirts are tailored for those dimensions. I have a 34" waist."

European cut shirts are your friend.

When I met my ex-husband I couldn't figure out why he always looked unkempt even though his suits were nice. Then I realized he was wearing the wrong shirts for his build - wide shoulders, thick neck, slim waist - and in my usual diplomatic way told him how to fix the issue.

This is all good! I’ll keep revising. Keep going!

P&W - "Is it just me or do dress shirts never fit well and always look wrinkled?"

I tend to have a hard time with dress shirts unless I can find a large tall shirt. With a 42-44" chest, the expectation is you're going to be in a size 38-40 pants, and I think many shirts are tailored for those dimensions. I have a 34" waist. When you go to tuck the shirts in they tend to look all wrinkly, especially around the waist.

Add to the fact that I have an 18" neck, and it makes for a difficult (but not impossible) task of finding a shirt that fits. Many of the shirts I have now I have taken in myself. Once a sewing machine is threaded and set up, I can sew, so I took in most of my dress shirts myself.

I'm pretty much in agreement with the advice you've received so far - so I'm just going to pile on. ;-)

Yes, we're here for sex - but it's not all about sex. Try to limit most of the overtly sexy talk to Experience/Fantasies section with a bit in Looking For. Use Description to tell us about your personality - let your stats and photos describe the physical. Your profile should entice others to contact you or reply when you contact them - there's no need to try to tell all. Paint the big picture in your profile and save details for messages and meetings.

So - add a bit of information, prune some unnecessary text and rearrange what remains. Work off-line, take your time and then copy to SLS when you're happy with the text (otherwise you have to wait for each update to be approved before making another change).

Photos with clothes that fit well and a smile are always a good idea. Is it just me or do dress shirts never fit well and always look wrinkled?

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

As mentioned, your Looking For section is a bit light and the content in some of the other sections would fit better in other places and help even things out. Generally speaking, if you are saying something about what you're looking for in others, or what you would like to do when you find them, that should go in that first section.

While it's unlikely that you'll need to worry about this, your toggles do indicate that you're interested in Females, so it wouldn't hurt to have a wish list of what you'd like in that first section regarding SFs.

The pictures should cover your physical description, so no need to mention that in the profile text. As already mentioned, the things you like to do besides just sex let people know if you have other common interests and also create conversation starting points.

The 2nd and 3rd paragraphs in the Description section probably fit better in the Additional Comments section. This will leave you more room to write about the fun things you enjoy doing that make you unique and interesting.

The text in the Fantasies/Experience section don't really address either of those things well, so I'd say take another whack at that and specify what your Fantasies/Experiences are, at least in a general sense. It could just be the way you wrote it. For example, "Have attended house parties" is more telling than "Enjoy house parties". The latter version can make it sound like you want to "Enjoy house parties", rather than talking about it being something you actually experienced.

You Public folder has an identical picture to one in your Default folder, so is redundant.

Overall your profile isn't bad, but there is always room for improvement.

Hi. Yeah, your profile isn't terrible, but I'd also not be interested in you based on it.

This is definitely a sex site, but sex is so common that it's the least compelling thing about anyone unless we're actually having sex. In other words, most of us are not going to make a connection based on the size of your dick (in the US, the average size of a penis is 6", so is your number upside down?). For me, it's whether you're interesting and funny. For others, it might be shared hobbies, even if you never do them together. So, person up in your profile and be the unique human that you are.

Your profile pic isn't doing you many favors. I was surprised to see your age, because the impression it gave me was of a man in his 60s. Can't really pin down why, but at the very least try for a photo that doesn't highlight the wrinkles in your shirt.

Try to get your sections a little more evenly sized. Your Looking For is the barest minimum and doesn't even include complete sentences, while Description is very long. Fantasies could be about real experiences or your bucket list, but what you have here is better edited some and woven into Looking For.

As far as your pics not showing up for your kid, make your profile unviewable by free members and otherwise you take your chances like the rest of us. Because it's a good idea to include your face when reaching out to someone, or at least increases the possibility of a response.

Good luck. I hope you find what you're looking for.